“Well, I’m going through a break up, so obviously I’m sad…” She just looked at me. (My coach at the time…) “Because break-ups are sad…” 💁🏼‍♀️ “Are they?” Now I just looked at her. “Well…What are we celebrating?”, she said. Although I initially didn’t like her tone (or her assumption), I didn’t skip a beat. “We are celebrating the end of “the way it was”. The end of my anxiety. The end of my wondering…” That’s all it took for my brain to switch gears. I went on a roll and I stayed in that gear going forward. “If it’s ever going to work out, it’s not like that… so at least that “way” is done.” Proof that right there that “Stress isn’t what happens to you. It’s what and how you THINK about what’s happened to you.” This didn’t mean that the good parts being over wasn’t sad… but it did help my brain shift me into healing and growth mode. It added an “and”. It can be sad AND necessary. It’s what your brain focuses on the most that is going to determine how you get through it. (6 essential, healing sessions in the Break Up Recovery program - I’ve done the work myself. I know 😉) Lessons you can’t unlearn and will carry with you going forward 💪🏻 ❤️‍🩹 #stressmanagement #perspectiveiseverything #mindsetshift #healingmode #breakuprecovery #mindsetiseverything #breakupshurt #breakupsaresad #newbeginnings #healyourselffirst #loveyourselffirst #selflove #selfrespect #empowered #empowher #relationshiptips #breakups101 #brokenheart #healingbrokenhearts #breakupcoach #breakups #breakupsarehard (at Bermuda) https://www.instagram.com/p/CilQKqTvQO5/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

I knew leaving a friendship behind could be tough. I just didn't expect how much my heart hurts to do so.

I still love you..

Five years I’ve known you. Four years it’s been since you broke up with me. I have tried to be friends with you so I can talk to you and be with you. So I can see you. It’s chipped my soul piece by piece. I have been so miserable since you left me emotionally. You asked me to change myself physically and killed me with all your demands.. just to be with you. You’ve made me feel like I’m not good enough for you or anyone. I’ve lost my sense of self. I feel so invisible. Now you’re with that whore. I swallowed my feelings and my emotions and watched you do her, be with her.. everything that I ever wanted you to do with me.. you did.. with her. She thinks you’re this perfect boyfriend.. but you’ve cheated on her since day one with me. I know it’s wrong of me for doing this to myself and her but I don’t care. I feel soulless. I don’t care because I still love you. I suppressed my feelings for you so much now.. but I can feel it creeping back up again.. when I saw you last week.. I was confused and couldn’t understand whether I still felt for you or not. But truth is I realised when I got home. I still want you. Despite how much you broke me and tortured me.. i don’t know why I still want you. I have prayed to god and begged for help. I have tried so hard to get over you. Nothing works. I am so afraid that I will never be able to love someone and be with them because every part of me wants you. It’s been 5 years and I am still this way. I wish when you left me you actually left my life. And if I could ask god to help me, I wish we never met. I wish I never knew you and I wish you never came into my life. I wish he could erase my memory of you. I don’t want to wake up feeling empty every morning and go to sleep feeling so alone. It’s fucked. I have no friends and no family. Even if I have a few friends it doesn’t feel like I am not alone because I am. I fucking miss talking to you. I fucking miss seeing you and hanging out with you. I miss being yours. I miss saying I love you. I feel really miserable. I am not happy. I haven’t been happy in such a long time. I don’t know what to do. I feel really sad. I need you, I really need you. You don’t need me and I know that. I can’t be here and watch you marry someone else. It will kill me. I don’t want to be around for when that time comes. And at the same time I can’t live without you. What do I do? Can anyone help me? I am laying here writing and crying. I feel so upset. Whenever I have any good or bad news, all I want to do is run to you and tell you everything. All I want to do is speak to you about my day. What is so wrong with me that I’m not good enough for you? What does she have that I don’t have? Is it because I’m too fat for you? You’re not attracted to me right? Even though you’ve said these things to me.. I don’t know why I can’t hate you. I’m slowly giving up. I feel like floating away in the ocean and just disappearing forever. It’s not like anyone will notice that I’m gone. No one ever talks to me or calls me. I’m a nobody. I really wish you knew how I truly felt. I really wish you loved me back. I really wish things had worked out between me and you. I really wish you still wanted me. Because I still love you.

🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️ . . One thing I really learned about closure is that you don’t need it. You don’t need an apology from someone who gave up on you. You don’t need to hear lies from someone who wasn’t invested enough to stay and work things out. You don’t need someone else measuring your worth and making you feel like you’ll never get it right. Trust me, you don’t need someone who isn’t strong enough to love you. You don’t need someone who can’t even face you and tell you why they had to walk away. You don’t need closure. You just need to close some doors without ever knocking back on them. . . #closesomedoors #breakupshurt #needtosmileandmove #lifeanditstears . . . #SeeYourselfEverywhere #Day4 #Bhujangasana . . . Thanking Hosts:⁣ @veroabresuyogi⁣ @barefoot.suzie⁣ @yogisivi⁣ lucia_means_light⁣ @life_chaperone⁣ ⁣ Thanking Sponsors:⁣ @gemstoneorganic⁣ @lamandinga⁣ @ecorightbags (India)⁣ @glassticbottle (US)⁣ @masusustainableliving (India)⁣ @rollgahealth (US)⁣ ⁣ ⁣ https://www.instagram.com/p/CDjGJ6nDlrC/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Quick thought on breakups and relationships. Being in love with someone doesn’t mean they are the right person for you. #breakupshurt #relationship #boyfriend #girlfriend #love https://www.instagram.com/p/B7TlGRaA8DB/?igshid=1oe43sy42m97n

God has a purpose for your pain, a reason for your struggle and a gift for your faithfulness. Don't give up!

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Idk if it's true that Calvin and Taylor broke up and I hope it's not because I saw light in their eyes while they looked at each other. But if it is then that's okay because not everything works out. What's not okay is when you start saying she's gonna write another album just because of it. Literally everyone does that calm tf down. She's the only person who gets attacked. Know why? Because she has nothing else you can attack her for. Her record is clean. She is a beautiful, I intelligent thoughtful young woman. She is brilliant in all ways and is one of the most successful women who has ever lived. That's a fact look how much she earned (awards, money, selling out concerts, etc.) before being 20 years old. Bottom line is it can be over. It can be still going strong. It's okay either way. As long as she's happy in the long run that is LITERALLY all that matters to me about this. And no matter how much y'all hate her or her music none of you would feel too swell if we all said we want you to suffer and cry till 4:00am or maybe not sleep or eat and feel eaten alive by emotion because guess what? Stable breakup or nah it's still a breakup and it's still painful for all parties and I'd never wish it upon you so don't wish it upon her.

And sometimes it takes going through the worst things in your life to meet the best version of yourself. Have faith, especially if you commit to GROWTH. #alwaysalesson #committogrowth #dailyquote #dailyquotes #healingquotes #breakupquotes #mistakes #mistakesarelessons #thetruthaboutmistakes #lifelessons #lifeslessons #lifeslessonslearned #lifeshardestlessons #lifeshard #lifecanbehard #alwayslearning #alwaysgrowing #personaldevelopmentquotes #breakupsarehard #selfdevelopmentjunkie #mindsetiseverything #mindsetmatters #breakupcoach #meaningfullife #oldhabitsdiehard #oldpatterns #problemsareopportunities #blindspot #heartbreak #breakupshurt https://www.instagram.com/p/Ccy8ZINMRWt/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Being at a party and having to listen to music you and your ex always listened too...

When you finally get over someone ... just another ordinary boy. #breakupshurt #getoversomeone #movingon #strongwoman #motivation

You make me want to write again. So thank you , because I lost myself , for too long. Thank you for disliking me more and loving me less. I'll have it all together soon and you'll want me back. This time I've found my dignity, it reminded me that you're not worth another "second" chance.

Day one.

It hurts but i have to be strong this time He didn't love me he didn't care he treated me bad and i deserve better I should never go back to him.

I'm trying to find the silver lining of being single again after 2 years...

I miss him so much, but he had changed into a man I didn't know anymore and treated me like absolute shit.  Anyway...could really use some kind words from my followers :c Kinda need you guys right now.