https://twitter.com/nverbrokemysoul/status/1685732717642530817?s=46&t=BRJY4ZQz89uxpR8KiGdarQ
I literally wouldn’t put it past him to get Tattoos for cats. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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what are your thoughts about Harry's new tattoo?
Hi darling.
I am not going to lie: I’ve been upset about it for three days now, swinging back and forth between being super angry and trying to be okay with it. I thought about not answering this, because I don’t want to open this Pandora’s box, but I decided to in the hopes that I can help someone else. I won’t be answering follow up questions/reactions, though. That’s my boundary.
Now, I think the important thing is to call this out for what it is and stop making excuses: it’s an Olivia tattoo, and whether it’s for a stunt, a cat, a house, the One Direction song, an unknown godchild, it doesn’t matter. He has it, he showed it off (rather purposefully), he knew what we would think and the kind of debate/restlessness it would spark.
Can I forgive him for that, point blank, without further reasoning or rationalizing? I’ve decided I can.
Why? Because I don’t think it negates all he’s given me these past thirteen years and especially this last leg of tour, and because I don’t think what he does for PR and/or to protect his closet is a statement about who he is as a human being. No one has to agree with me. It’s a decision I’ve made for myself and I’m happy with it. If this is your red line (and I fully encourage you to ask yourself this regularly) then that’s fine. Grieve the person you thought he was and take steps to distance yourself from what hurts you. I don’t mean to minimize this: walking away is hard as shit. But he will be okay, I promise. The person who needs to be okay the most is you.
Do I think they really dated/that he was in love with her? No.
Why? Because he looked miserable every time he was around her, because he took very clear steps to ensure she wasn’t tied to his music (which I’ve noticed he holds pretty sacred above all), and because at the end of the day he still broke up with her two days after his very public last contractual obligation was filled and kissed her friend extremely publicly.
Can you find ways to argue around that? Of course you can. You can find ways to argue around anything. But for me, that’s not how you treat someone you’re in love with even if they’ve pissed you off beyond belief and messed with your career. Nothing Harry has done outside of this stunt shows me he would treat people he cares about that way, even in his worst moments. It’s incongruous to everything I’ve seen and known of him and his character in the last thirteen years. I may not know him personally, and I may be wrong about him, but again, that’s my conclusion and I’m happy with it.
Do I think the tattoo means something’s in the works to rekindle the stunt? I truly don’t know.
But if it is, then it’s been planned for a long, long, long time (he had the tattoo during Daylight filming, which is May 2022; the BUA was Nov 2022), and there’s nothing I can do about it. It is what it is.
I’ve always preached being okay with not knowing, being okay with being uncomfortable, and this is certainly making me walk the talk.
The bottom line is: Am I okay with the things I have answers to? Yes.
Am I okay with the thing I don’t have answers to? I am working on it.
But that’s my responsibility, not Harry’s.
— FIN —
*thank you, Gina, for your contributions to clearing my head and for many of the phrases I used here to express myself.
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am i the only one who doesn't see olivia 😬 i definitely don't see "via" in the end it's more like "na" to me especially considering it's cursive so in that case the tattoo says "olina" and it's a city in italy and that option makes much more sense lol
I appreciate the effort of everyone trying to be rational about this bullshit, but the thing for me is that I clearly see Olivia there, it could be Olives, it could be Olina, it could be Gemma’s dead cat Olivia… but like, c’mon. It’s the same as saying Louis’ E tattoo is for Edward and not Eleanor. The tattoo is there with an intention, he’s not stupid, he wouldn’t *accidentally* write something that looks like Olivia. I have no idea if he was supposed to show the tattoo earlier or whatever just happened there, but like I said before, I really don’t give a fuck because she’s gone. And it’s annoying because he knows how messy it is and how that would upset a lot of us, because OF COURSE he’s displaying his new(ish) tattoo wearing bluegreen and his Louie shirt, so like. It’s the same as always for me, both of them have been playing this game with us for a while now… and they’re going to keep doing it because it’s convenient for everyone.
I understand people are super upset over it, but I’m so done with all this stunt shit coming from all sides, so I just decided that I can’t give a fuck anymore, I’m enjoying the good parts they’re giving us and ignoring the rest otherwise I’d have to step back 🤷♀️
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That tattoo does not say Olivia. Looks like olista or something
Whatever it is, I hate that I can’t enjoy leg content the way I used to. 😒
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I cropped out the rest of your ask because I didn’t know if it was okay to post the entire thing, I hope you don’t mind.
I also know I said I wouldn’t respond to anything more regarding this, but I really appreciated the tone you came with and the respect for my boundaries, and I also had some thoughts that were belated so I’m taking this opportunity to add them.
I, unfortunately, don't have any answers for you, except to say that the hurt you feel is valid, as are the questions you're asking yourself.
But, the simplest way I can put things, without going too much further into the discussion, is that there are:
- things that are objectively wrong,
- things we think are right because of the information we have, and
- things Harry thinks are right because of the information he has.
There's a very huge - possibility infinite - gap in the complexity and nuance between those last two things, and it's a gap that can only really be filled by two things: faith and trust.
And in times like these, we have to ask ourselves: is who he's shown himself to be over the course of his career worth our faith and trust?
Again, I don't have an answer for you, because that's something everyone has to decide for themselves. It's also something which is fluid and can change. But so far, it's been the best way for me to approach situations where I feel he's disappointed me — to ask myself, do I actually know, truthfully and holistically, what's best for him better than he does?
(Answer: No, I really don't, and I never will.)
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