Jumping off from that last post but a thought I have all the time is that men Bow Out of having long hair after growing it out for a hot minute bc it starts to look ratty... and they were just expecting it to be gorgeous. but they’re still using their Men’s Short Hair Care Methods on their long hair, and the thing that kept the short hair healthy was never any of the hair care, it was just the fact that the old hair kept getting cut off before it had a chance to be damaged. 

I hope this isnt a weird ask. But I know you said you don't use products in your hair but what shampoo or conditioners do you use to keep it fluffy??

i don't use a conditioner and I wash my hair with some hemp shampoo like 2-3 times a week (I scaled back and went natural in COVID so it doesn't get nearly as greasy as fast

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telling random people that they probably have to shampoo their hair less than they think is a thankless job that no one listens to me for but someone must be a prophet that walks the earth

Spending a lot of time and money to make a custom bright red leather jacket just to be the specialist man in the bakery section of the grocery store was such a great investment. I love my red jacket. Everyone should make their own special jacket

I keep loads of basic supplies in my car because there are so many homeless people in my city. I'm leaving the gym, and this dude stops and asks for a light. While I'm handing him my lighter, he asks if I have any water. I say I only have Gatorade right now, and move to my trunk and tell him he's welcome to anything he needs back there. He picks up some soap, sniffs it, and says, "This is all garbage. Nobody wants this," and left. And, like, I'm not sure if I need to rethink what I'm stocking my car with or if he was just an asshole.

So tired of queer discourse lmao

Basically from the moment people started banding together as othered/marginalized there were people in those groups going "but I'm not like those other people" who would gatekeep an identity. Regardless of whether it takes the form of "I'm actually marginalized unlike those *other* people who have experiences I'll never have" or just the most blatant bigotry, it's literally all the same.

So I'll say it again, if someone identifies as queer honestly and genuinely. Then that person is queer. I don't care of they appear straight to you or if they appear cis to you. You literally don't know what they're being othered for and why they've come to identify that way.

And if we ever actually get to a point where 'everyone is queer then', then good. The more people willing to identify as queer the less people are gonna be out there marginalizing queer people. Everyone being queer is literally an ideal end scenario.

The spirit of the lgbt community has not ever, and will never, be gatekeeping. Identities aren't clubhouses and being queer doesn't make you inherently cooler or more interesting than those who are not.

tumbleweed hair tuesday

why do i have frizz when my hair is wet?? it doesn't make any sense!! i am scrunching scrunching from bottom to top what am i doing wrong??? 😭😭😭😭

I AM GOING TO COMMIT ARSON

i know this is problematic to say but i kind of feel like if you have to put more than like two products on your hair and/or dry it with a diffuser for it to dry curly then it's. not naturally curly

How do you get your hair to look so luscious god DAYUM

I wash it???

We, in general, make fun of men a lot for using 2 in 1 shampoo/conditioner but I've yet to see anyone acknowledge that if you're buying your shower products at a regular grocery store your options for singular shampoo and conditioner are very limited

spent the summer prepping for and taking the worst exam of my life, riding out the lease at the worst place i've ever lived,* then being temporarily kinda homeless,** and getting dozens and dozens of job applications rejected. i had some fun in there, but my anxiety has been through the fucking roof on top of my regular summer depression.

then the last two weeks of august happened 😳

everything happens so much. somehow, i managed to find the perfect apartment for a reasonable rent, and now me and Books are living (together!) in a fantastic and charming new home- lots of space, big kitchen table, a balcony facing undeveloped woods, just off one of the major roads in the city that has my favorite grocery store and our favorite sandwich shop (where we were already regulars). plus, i've gotten not one, not two, but three (three!) job offers- and i can take them all!!! one is with a hospital where i did my favorite internship rotation, and i'm so excited that i get to go back there and get paid to do that job, it was a blast. another is right by my new place and it's similar to the other hospital, but it's slightly bigger and sees more complex cases, so i'll be comfortable and confident, but i'll still get some new, specific clinical experience in areas that i'm interested in.

and the third position is... literally my dream job. it's the job that's been the end goal since the moment i chose my field of study. grad school and the internship made me rethink all of my professional goals and push them back, thinking i wouldn't be able to get to them for so long because i'd need ~more experience~. but now i'm. uh. i did it. i did it??!

the two hospital jobs are just part time, but they both pay well. the other won't start for a few months bc my boss*** has to get insurance approval to add me to her private practice,**** but that's okay, because i have a lot of reading and learning i want to do in the meantime to prepare! and then it will start as part time working up to full time as i build up my case load, but i'll also get to decide my own hours and do some work from home. i'll get to work with my favorite kinds of patients! and i'll get fantastic professional development opportunities for specialization, if i want to. the other dietitians in the practice seem lovely, so i'm excited to work with them. and the pay is realllly good, gosh, for being fresh out of the internship, it's nuts.

so things will pick up as i go through orientation and onboarding for the two hospital jobs next month. but it'll get calmer again after that, so i'll have the time and energy to prepare for the more challenging work that starts later, which is really nice.

and in the meantime, i'll be tending the wee garden on my balcony and playing board games with the love of my life 💗

He hair is so slick back. What, did you obtain hair conditioner in between issues and slather it all over your head?

Disassociation culture is disassociating while washing your hair, coming back and going "so...did I put conditioner yet?", looking for signs of you using conditioner and if not finding any, using conditioner "just in case" (and hoping it never happens when you're washing someone else's hair 'cause you wouldn't know how to explain it)

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