[ID: A digital doodle of two figures. One figure, shaped like a human, has a hand on their hip and says, “haha well at least you’re not like THAT”. The other figure is a creature with two antennas. They have a smug expression on their face. The text underneath reads in parentheses, “(is exactly like that)” / END ID]

fic planning be like:

Draw badly. Write nonsensically. Embroider messily. Burn what you bake and cook. Get paint everywhere. Read half a book. Lose your mind for a bit. Plant things. Have faith in the process. Abandon 70 wood-carving projects. Get a kit and do some of it and never return to it. Get comfortable with sucking and losing motivation. Continue to create with reckless abandon.

I'm not a doctor. I am the Doctor. The original, you might say.

Peter Capaldi as Twelfth Doctor DOCTOR WHO - Series 10

The Originals || Klaus and Cami || 2x22 ||

I’ve never shipped two people so damn hard.

& this scene…

The feels that kill.

ANYWAY, because apparently there is a disconnect somewhere:

When we say that misogyny is a real form of oppression, that the patriarchy affects all women, and that women are oppressed by men, the point is not to say that every single man (no matter what marginalizations he experiences) is in The Most Absolute Super Unconditional Privileged Position Ever over every single woman (no matter how much privilege she might have in other ways).

The point is that for every single woman who exists, a man in a comparable position will have more power, social standing, opportunities, and rights than she does because he is a man. For every shitty kind of disenfranchisement black men experience, black women experience all of that and misogyny. A lower-class, gay, disabled woman will still be in overall lower "standing" (politically, socially, personally, etc.) than a lower-class, gay, disabled man, simply because she is a woman. And even if a woman has every available privilege (white, cishet, rich, abled, thin, and so forth), if a man also has those privileges, she is still "below" him (again: socially, politically, materially, you know the drill).

The outcry of a need for genuine feminism isn't done to say that no men experience disenfranchisement or that women cannot ever be privileged in some way. It is done because it does not matter what a woman does or who she is, she cannot ever escape misogynistic double-standards, nor the prejudice and subjugation that results from them.

I’m really not a fan of #NotAllMen 2.0

In the last month or so I have seen multiple self-identified “feminists” equate any acknowledgement of (or heaven forbid, criticism of) patriarchy with gender essentialism.

Gender essentialism means essentializing gendered traits - treating them as inborn, inherent, biological. For instance, “Men’s brains just aren’t built to handle tasks like cooking and daily cleaning” is gender essentialism. It locates the cause of social forces within the body and treats them as inherent and unchangeable. 

It does not mean generalizing about gender - “Men do not do their fair share of housework” is not gender essentialism. It is acknowledgement of a real phenomenon in which men statistically do way, way less housework than women regardless of employment status.

Do some men do their share, or more, of housework? Yes! There are always exceptions to broad patterns within society. But we’re generalizing, because to talk about societal issues it’s important to zoom out and look at a culture as a whole, not just individuals but the broad patterns of what is statistically common.

If you derail every conversation about patriarchy, and the statistically common behaviors of men as a class, with “not all men!” you are actively inhibiting feminist discussion.

Gender essentialism is bullshit. Gender is imposed on the body by social forces, a human being does not inherently have gender or gendered behaviors. Generalizing about gender and how it functions and is enforced, on the other hand, is absolutely essential for any kind of understanding of patriarchy.

Also, venting about a social class that oppresses you isn’t bioessentialist either. If I say “fuck straight people” – or even structure my life to limit exposure to homophobia, that’s not me thinking straight people are inherently (or all!) assholes, that’s me acknowledging that they have social power over me and I’m fucking tired of it being used against me.

A woman saying “I hate men” is not automatically some fucking gender essentialist idiot who thinks men are biologically wired to be misogynist. She might just be venting about an oppressor class and you’re a fucking asshole if you tell her it’s like, unprogressive of her to generalize.

Reverse oppression isn’t real and neither is misandry.

HI, FEMINISM IS NEEDED AND WOMEN EXPERIENCE OPPRESSION FOR BEING WOMEN, MISOGYNY IS NOT OVER.

AND I WILL NOT LET THE FUCKING T/RFS AND R/DFEMS GET A MONOPOLY ON THIS DISCUSSION

Having recently been spending so much time thinking/writing about River...yeah, I am. Very much starting to remember why I Imprinted™ on this character when I was 18 and why I felt so Seen™ by her psychological issues.

Very unfortunate thing about me is that I will cry over music that isn't even supposed to be sad or particularly emotional or even well-written if things like the singer's tone quality or use of vibrato or vowel placement happen to be well-done.

must i pursue a career? is it not enough to be passionate about tv shows and snack foods?

Yoooooo!!!!

I GOT 2/3 OF MY HAIR CHOPPED OFF 💜💜

Darling, you're the one I want In paper rings, in picture frames, in dirty dreams Oh, you're the one I want