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i know i’ve been inactive on this blog but i’m still here! just haven’t had anything in particular recently to post to this blog specifically
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This might get be shot in the foot but can someone explain the argument that alters can only have names that match the body's ethnicity/culture/country of origin to me like I'm 3? I just. Don't get it. One of our core values is to be a forever student, so we are more than willing to learn and adjust here if we're wrong, but with the information we have this argument doesn't make sense to us.
I just don't see how a name is cultural appropriation. I definitely agree that like claiming that an alter in a white body is literally another race is appropriative, disrespectful, and flat out racist. No matter how you appear in headspace or how many pseudo memories you have, you will never experience that actuality of being that race. Claiming the experiences of minorities is obviously shitty.
I don't see how simply having a name from another culture is the same though. Just having a name is not equal to claiming that you are actually X ethnicity when you're not. As long as alters acknowledge that they are not a different race than the body and don't claim to be, what is the harm in letting them have the names that they have?
I just saw someone who was told that it didn't matter that their anime alter with a Japanese name already acknowledged that they aren't and never will be Japanese and that it didn't matter that that alter was strongly attached to their name and distressed by being forced to change their name. They were told they had to force the alter to change their name and that the alter would just get used to it.
It just.... Seems cruel to forcibly take people's names from them to me.
Also. What about singlets who were given names that aren't from their race/culture/country/ethnicity. Are they culturally appropriating just by having those names they didn't choose to have? Would the argument be that they HAVE to change their names when they're old enough to?
I still come back to forcibly taking people's names just seems cruel to me.
Names are big parts of our identities, whether they're chosen, given, or inherited from a source. I just don't think people should be forced to part with such a big part of themselves unless it's their choice to find a name they love for themselves more.
So. What am I missing from the other side of the argument? What makes having names from other cultures appropriation? How is someone having a name causing harm? I would genuinely love if someone could break it down for me, because I just don't understand and if I'm lacking perspective, I'd love to gain it.
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SOURCE (sorry I can't find a free version, I don't remember how I got the full PDF lol)
I just wanted to share this because I've always thought it was a neat chart and I figured sharing might resonate with other people/help them realize stuff/whatever :P
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Why can’t people with other forms of OSDD besides OSDD 1 follow you? Your pinned post indicates, as far as I saw (maybe I missed more info), you’re okay with singlets following you unless they support endos or have the other forms of osdd?
People with other forms of OSDD are free to follow. Those who believe they have an OSDD-2 (or 3 or 4) SYSTEM are not. As I say in the pinned post, of the four, only OSDD-1 comes with alters. Hope this clears things up!
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Ok, I feel kinda confident in sharing it officially.
So, I started working on a website a while ago that is meant to be a compartmentalised journalling service. The goal is to increase communication between alters in a system.
The main feature is how each alter gets their own space to write, and then there's a "Communal Journal" that's open to everyone in the system to use. Users can use it as a bulletin board, as a diary that everyone contributes to, whatever suits you and your system. Lighthouse also supports multiple systems for one user.
There's also pages to log about your inner world, post system rules/internal boundaries, and any wishes or goals alters may want to achieve. You can even set what terms are used in place of "alter" and "system".
At some point, there will also be interactive worksheets that are usually used for DID or C-PTSD to also use if one so chooses.
My system leaves updates on @lighthouse-app (also posted on the info section)! But feel free to send an ask either there or here if you need help or have a question!
*Lighthouse was not developed by a medical professional, and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition.
Also-- We do not want to gatekeep who can and cannot use this. If this method of journalling is effective for you, than by all means use it! There will be no public sharing of profiles, alters, or messaging between users, so everything is private.
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'who are you as a person' first of all babygirl im multiple people. it takes a village to be me
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On my way to tell my followers some silly jokes about my silly trauma disorder
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DID Awareness Day
Last week Dee asked, “What’s the point in an awareness day?”
I had no idea but said confidently, “DUHHHH, you know, it’s about sharing things that people with DID should be more aware of!”
At some point recently, she made this! I googled what awareness days are for and feel a bit silly, ahem. Thing is, maybe we missed the point a bit, but I wish I’d known all of this years ago so I’m posting it anyway :D
<3 Nick
General Things You Should Know
DID/OSDD Casually Explained, by our friends @clever-and-unique-name
Dissociated States in DID, in pictures
Grounding Basics, from did-toolbox.com (shameless plug!)
Dear Little Ones by Jade Miller, a video readthrough of the book that explains DID to little parts
“Was my childhood bad enough?”
Age and dissociative parts, Kay’s perspective
Havening, a tool to make things less triggering
How you’re DOING vs how you’re FEELING, and why it matters
Phase-Oriented Treatment - Phase 1 Goals, Skills & Resources
The dangers of investment in DID as a lifestyle
Imitative DID, what the textbooks have to say
Excessive Behavior Scale discussion, and then actual handout you can use, aka the mirror nobody likes to look into
Dissociative Experiences Log, a handout from our therapist that helps with tracking dissociation
Things Fictional Introjects are and are not from friends @dissociatingdingo
How to make real apologies
Mindfulness! You CAN do Mindfulness if you have a dissociative disorder, but it’s not about drifting off and watching your thoughts.
The 5 Building Blocks of Present Moment Experience
Building a Good Experience
Directed Mindfulness is actually pretty helpful!
Integration
Dissociation & Integration by @multiplicityandme #EducaDID
Our first “planned activity” aka integration practice
3 benefits of our integration work, similar to sharing our “super-powers”,
Integration with Ana, our experience
Healthy integration vs. “forced” integration
Our most recent system map
Book Club: Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation
I threw the coping book across the room twice trying to read the first chapter. I mentioned it to a friend and it turned out I wasn’t alone! This book is easier to handle if you read it with friends, and that’s the idea of book club. As you read each chapter, feel free to comment or reblog, adding your experiences. Did you do the homework? How did it go? What kind of emotional reaction are you having to the material? How much of the content do you remember? Are the techniques helping? Write anything you like, really.
Some of the chapters:
Understanding Dissociation
Symptoms of Dissociation
Understanding Dissociative Parts of the Personality
Symptoms of PTSD in Complex Dissociative Disorders
Overcoming the Phobia of Inner Experience
Learning to Reflect
Beginning Work with Parts, Continued, now with pictures
Developing an Inner Sense of Safety
Improving Sleep
Healthy Daily Structure
Understanding Emotions
Our favorite books, in recommended reading order:
CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving - Pete Walker
Coping with Trauma Related Dissociation - Boon, Steele and van der Hart
Sensorimotor Psychology - Ogden & Fisher
The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel van der Kolk
The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization - van der Hart, Nijenhuis and Steele
Treating Trauma Related Dissociation - Boon, Steele and van der Hart
Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors - Fisher
Bonus: Finding Your Best Self: Recovery from Addiction, Trauma or Both - Najavits. Read it 1st if you’re struggling with a dual diagnosis and don’t have much in the way of support.
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Curious. How is intersystem dating like for you and your headmates? I see so many systems with intersystem dating.
i'm not sure if you mean intersystem dating, between multiple people who are systems, or intrasystem dating, dating within the system.
if you mean intrasystem dating, it's kinda interesting. we have two alters who have been dating each other for a while, and they compliment each other well, and both appreciate what each other does for our system. they blush when talking about each other and want to get or make things for each other. i briefly had a thing with another one of our alters, and it was kind of like, getting to see urself from the perspective of someone who has a crush on or is falling in love with u. it's a pretty cool connection, and we like seeing intrasystem dating as a form of self-love.
as for intersystem dating, when we were in a qpr with another system, it wasn't much different from regular dating, except for having a better understanding of what each of us have been through and our common dissociation, amnesia, and identity confusion. it's cool to see different alters in each system get to know each other, but it's honestly just like opening up to reveal another part of yourself.
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QUESTION.
Is this a DID thing: most of the headmates (in our system) were kind of born with magic. Umm, like for instance, we call some 'gods' (rain god/storm god/dark god etcetera), and others prefer the softer term of 'spirit' or even 'sorcerer'.
Is that something you or systems you know have ??
Sorry I haven't gotten to this. It's been A Week. Anyways, no, this is not a DID thing. Also, just as a reminder, if you as a person/your body does not have certain abilities, other alters cannot have those abilities. DID is not a superpower.
Now I, as a witch, do believe in magic. You could have magic, but before determining that certain circumstances are supernatural, you should try to look for mundane or other explanations first. For example, I have psychosis, and when I see a 'spirit', I have to take multiple factors into consideration to determine whether it's a hallucination or an actual ghost or if there's a CO2 leak in my house. This is imperative for my mental and physical health.
So it might be good to look into some other potential possibilities of what this magic might be or where it came from. If it *is* connected to having DID, then it most likely resembles substitute beliefs, which can result in alters that are demons, or ghosts, or supernatural beings (for example, a traumatized child may think 'if only i were a god, i could stop this. i could prevent myself from getting hurt, and i wouldn't feel so helpless', and then they split a god-like alter). Here's a link to traumadissociation.com that has a list of alter types, where it talks a bit more about how these types of alters come about.
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thank you for the tag! i’m gonna do what’s been in my brain recently since my music tastes change so often
mr. brightside by the killers
all too well (10 minute version) by taylor swift
burnt out by leanna firestone
father by the front bottoms
people ii 2: still peoplin’ by ajj
tagging (system blogs since this is my system side blog) @dissociativediscourse @constellationofus @fageles @mosaic-system @linguisticssystem @ultrabright-flashlight
🎶share 5 songs you actually listen to and then tag some followers you want to know better 🎶
I was tagged by @jovienna !!
I wish I was a riot grrrl by destructo disk
Religion by ZAND and shurk
Good old-fashioned lover boy by queen
All the dying by mother mother
Smooth by Santana and rob smith
I'm tagging @futurewife @selfshippinglover @lovebards-lovebugs @mermaid-trash @ratkinnq @campfire-collective and anyone else who wants to join in!!
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Sent this to ur other blog the first time sorry dkdhskdj so um anyways so like is there a difference between a fictive and an introject? And is it valid to have an alter thats from an animated show that doesn’t necessarily look like their character (like in the show their like an animal but in headspace theyre like a human version of that?)
Introjects can be fictional or factual, while fictive tends to refer specifically to introjects of fictional characters.
This is not an official thing, but some people will call alters/fragments who have introjected or borrowed traits from a certain character but are not actually an introject of that character fictives. So that’s up to individual preference whether you choose to use the term in that way as well or not.
And yeah introjects don’t have to look exactly like who they introjected from. Actually, in the process of healing/recovery, some alters (like non-human and introjects) may start to change appearances in innerworld.
Hope this helps!
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me: *wincing and holding myself very weird*
my therapist: are u ok?
me: yeah, it’s the pain lol. just gotta push through it u know!
my therapist:
my therapist: no
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oh shit oh fuck i’m faking aren’t i i’ve made this up i don’t have did (<- is literally diagnosed by a dissociative specialist)
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in december, my therapist started with giving me a parts roster. it includes parts names, ages, gender/pronouns, how long they’ve existed since and how long they’ve been known since, along with personality descriptors, primary feelings, positive and negative triggers, role(s), which parts they often work with, interests, safety concerns, and main coping skills. we set a goal of trying to fill out the roster for one part each week. at this point we’ve filled it out for winter, for our work part, for 🎒, zach, luke, and the new part we met in november.
in therapy we’ve also recently been using my list of questions to figure out which alter i am to help identify ourselves. it’s definitely been useful.
our goal with the parts roster wasn’t often met, and we discussed possible avoidance of filling it out. i found it easier to do on paper than online, but we still often procrastinate on it or forget about it during the week.
i went to visit some friends in another state during this month, and the trip went great. it can be difficult for me going on trips or to new places alone sometimes, so it was great to be calm and happy while i was away for once. when i returned, during the holidays, i got some of that weird negative familiarity feeling again, and my therapist and i started working on coping skills (like repeated affirmations) to help me calm down. we discussed how much the feeling annoys me because i don’t know where it comes from. when i know where my anxiety is coming from it’s easier to convince myself things will be ok, and i will be fine. but when it’s just full panic, my usual coping skills don’t work.
juniper came out at some point as well, and talked about needing to grieve for who we used to be. we’re not the same person we once were, host changes often do that, and it’s tough to follow a life path we just think we still want, but don’t know for sure. our old host had such a passion for veterinary medicine, and while i, winter, still like it, i don’t get that same joy and excitement i used to get doing it that she did. but i follow this path because i’ve wanted to all my life, and i don’t have anything else i really want to do.
we considered wanting to be a vet a big part of who we are, and losing that, especially when so much else about us has changed, makes our identity even more confusing and complicated.
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