I also want to add on that I think it's a good thing that there's a word/idea that helps women say "no" to sexual experiences they don't want. That's good even if it's semantically incorrect. I'm just pointing out that if we do use the correct words, we'll see that feminist discussion lies underneath for both actually-asexual women, and for women who DO experience sexual desire and deserve to talk about the many different reasons they choose not to have sex.

I'll repeat my last line, "IT'S OKAY TO HAVE STANDARDS THAT NO ONE IS MEETING."

When I am skeptical of a woman/girl labeling herself as asexual, I'm doing it from a feminist perspective.

How many times have we read of women saying some brainwashed bullshit along the lines of "Orgasming during sex isn't important to me, the special part is feeling close to my partner!" Or the whole conservative woman thing about "wifely duties" where sex is seen as maintenance of the relationship instead of something you enjoy together.

Women are taught by society that our pleasure and autonomy isn't a part of the bigger picture. The increased usage of the asexual label is an attempt to cope with that flawed sentiment instead of fighting it, in addition to women just plain not being attracted to people who don't enhance their lives.

Many of the women who call themselves asexual actually mean celibate (or wish they could be celibate), but that word carries baggage that they understandably don't want. If we want the word "asexual" to have meaning, it's important to focus on telling women that their pleasure DOES matter and it's okay to have standards that no one is meeting.

Going to get a haircut and I see this - okay. ✔️

Going to pick up my Wednesday floppies from a comic book shop or browsing a retro video game selection - I am EXTREMELY skeptical. ❌

It's not that I don't think women can and should own those things, but statistically we're pushed out of alt comix and tech spaces. 10 years ago I'd walk into there and be ogled and talked down to by greasy nerds. Now I walk in and am ogled and talked down to by the same exact nerds but they're calling themselves girls, wearing grandma sweaters, and putting on an Agent Pleakley voice.

I don't understand how trans stuff isn't sexist.

Y’all love talking about supporting and listening to black women until black African women talk about genital mutilation,rape, and breast ironing and y’all call them terfs

If I had a nickel for every time a friend suddenly showed me the physical folder they'd filled with my doodles and silly notes, I'd have three nickels. And that's fantastic, I love these nickels! What a good life I have!

What an awful, sexist thing to say. How are women into men, then? Can someone explain the inherent difference between how a woman would be attracted to a man and how a man would be attracted to a man?

Saw this on Twitter and I obligatory need to share it

not wanting to be a girl is usually a symptom of not being a girl...

actually, not wanting to be a girl is a symptom of being a girl in a patriarchal society. it is entirely normal to want to be seen as fully human in a world where you will never get that as a woman. the idea that not embracing my oppression somehow makes me less of a woman is deeply offensive and i’m going to politely ask you to fuck off.

Adding onto this, but I've had people reply to me with similar sentiments of "Do you think women don't know this [basic feminist thing]? Are you calling women stupid?? Not very feminist of you!"

No, we're not calling women stupid. If something feminists have said seems like common sense to you, great! But, as stated above, there are plenty of women who have never heard that they don't exist for other people, or who HAVE heard it but have never gotten the chance to apply it.

Ask yourself if you're one of those people who weaken valid points by nitpicking and playing devil's advocate when you could just move along.

people on here act like women all already know they don't need a man and its an old tired message. i fucking wish. tradwife stay at home girlfriend propaganda is picking up speed in front of our eyes and we're supposed to pretend this isn't necessary news for women?

women are groomed by society to believe they need a man. many women don't know they don't have to be with a man. many women don't know they're being abused by the man their with. they think its their job to put up with unwanted sex and kinks (rape). that is the cultural message women and girls are being fucking bombarded with right now.

most women are not raised in the small pools of culture where women already know they don't have to be with a man. that they can live a whole fulfilling life without picking up his dirty laundry or sex as a chore. maybe that message is old for you. but for most women, its the first time they've heard it.

and women don't always believe it even if they hear it a lot because the messages they get from the culture is overwhelmingly that they do need a man and they are less of a woman if they don't have one. its only very recently that little girls and grown women have started to get a few movies where she doesn't end up with a guy. moana. barbie. brave. that's all i could think of off the top of my head lol.

and that's not accounting for the media that's not in english. in some places their is actually a serious effort to create more of this romance propaganda to try and convince women to marry men and have kids. and don't get me started on the influence of the holy books.

if "you don't need a man" is a tired message for you, then maybe you're not the target audience.

No matter how progressive or well-read you are, there are always going to be moments in your life where somebody pushes back against something that's so culturally ingrained you never even considered it before. And you'll say "Huh, it never occurred to me to challenge this but you're right" and that doesn't mean you were "morally toxic" before, it means you're a non-omniscient human capable of growth.

radfems have like, uterus and ovary pins and stickers but the concept of pregnancy makes them vomit

PSA for boardshorts

Most women's and girls' swimsuits are largely decorative and that's a load of horseshit. They're skimpy and tight and not only restrict movement in the water, but also make you feel self conscious. We should be wearing board shorts and swim trunks.

The right ones are comfy and let you enjoy your swim without feeling objectified. You can get tighter ones too if you want to do more than lounge.

With the way the weather has been going it'll probably be swim season next month, in between hailstorms and tornadoes. Make sure you've got something comfortable for it! Your discomfort with typical women's swimwear is totally normal and you shouldn't have to settle!

I don’t know how to explain it but as an incredibly GNC woman I hate being described masculine sometimes. Or like I’m emulating male behavior. Men don’t own short hair, comfortable clothes, natural body hair, not wearing makeup. This is womanly because I’m a woman doing these things. Existing comfortably in my natural body is not masculine or feminine

i won’t lie. i AM relieved when i see another masculine or gnc woman just existing and not covering it up with other shit.

i found out recently that the guy who invented love languages was a sexist conservative who basically did it so he could tell his wife "see, your love language is acts of service so you can keep doing all the dishes, and my love language is physical touch so i just show love by having sex with you" men are lame as fuck!!!

Laios is great, I relate to him a lot and he's a fun character. But I have a teensy problem with fans using the word "autistic" for him, usually in the same breath they playfully call him a freak or deranged.

He has a very specific passion, loves to infodump about it, and his social skills don't come naturally to him. I think he's missing the sensory issues for a clear autism/asperger's diagnosis though. There's no point in the manga where he eats something and says "The flavor is really good, but I can't stand the texture." He's not susceptible to extreme temperatures or loud noises or the feeling of his heavy armor always touching him. Doesn't even get overwhelmed in crowd scenes. And he wouldn't, because Kui has a lot of characters to address and the theme of this manga is cooking and bonding with other people.

But I think it says something to how loose the popular definition of autism even is. Where's the line between a quirk and a disorder? Seems like people are eager to label someone on the spectrum whenever they exhibit any kind of academic passion.

"Melissa Connelly watched as a nurse coaxed her wife, Kim, awake following her colonoscopy on November 4, 2020. Drowsy from the anesthesia, Kim couldn’t hold a can of ginger ale to her lips, so Melissa did it for her.

The nurse explained to Melissa that the procedure had gone well, but Kim would feel a bit woozy. Before heading home, Kim, who’s an ICU nurse, was able to ask about the drugs she’d been given. The nurse told her they had administered 5 milligrams of the sedative Versed and 100 micrograms of the narcotic painkiller Fentanyl.

Nearly one month later, on December 2, 2020, Melissa, who’s Black, was admitted to the same major Midwest hospital, this time for her own colonoscopy. She had the same doctor and support staff as Kim, who’s white and Asian.

Once the anesthesia was administered, Melissa says she was still conscious, though “slightly loopy.” And for a while, she watched her procedure play out on the monitor. She knew it wasn’t unusual to remain slightly alert and experience some sensation following sedation, so she wasn’t worried at first. “However, at some point, it hurt to the point that I audibly cried out, ‘Ow, that hurts. I can feel that.’” In response, Melissa was advised to “breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.” She was shocked. “I remember thinking, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me. That’s the best advice you have?’”

When the procedure was over and Kim came to meet Melissa, Kim remarked, “You’re so awake!” And when Kim noticed Melissa was able to hold her own apple juice, Kim asked the nurses, “How much [sedation and pain relief] did she get?” The nurse replied, 3 milligrams of Versed and 50 micrograms of Fentanyl. Neither woman had a certified registered nurse anesthetist on their surgical teams, meaning it was the doctor himself who decided what their respective doses of anesthesia would be.

At the time, Melissa, who’s 37, outweighed a then-34-year-old Kim by 20 pounds. She’s also 2 1/2 inches taller, and, like Kim, has no underlying health conditions. Still, Melissa received only a half of the drugs her wife did. And when she felt pain, Melissa was expected to manage it on her own...

Black children are also significantly less likely to receive pain medication for appendicitis compared to white children, according to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association Pediatrics in 2015. Only 12.2 percent of Black children were offered opioids, compared to 33.9 percent of white children. And when they described their pain as moderate, Black children were less likely to receive any pain medication at all."

Your daily gnc reminders that...

🌸 Clothes don't have gender

🌸 Haircuts have no gender

🌸 Your sexual orientation doesn't make you more or less of a woman. It's just your sexual orientation.

🌸 There are no woman-hobbies, -interests, -personality or -way-of-thinking

🌸 You are perfect just the way you are! Don't let ridiculous myths, gender roles or gender stereotypes teach you shame or make you believe that there's something wrong with you!

🌸 Every woman is her own unique person. Be your own woman! Be you!