hello hullo hallo i'm eclaire, you've met me || it/it but he/they's okay || mentally ill swagge. || really attractive trust || i post whatever i feel like || autistic, npder, bpder, psychotic, aroace, & VERY annoying about all of the above
You cannot opt out of capitalism to destroy it. At best you can save yourself from capitalism that way. If someone's plan to fight capitalism is to create a new community somewhere in the woods, they don't want to fight capitalism, they want to start a high control group nine times out of ten, the other one time out of ten they just want a few middle-class people to escape it.
Our mutual aid networks, our community organizations, our unions, must exist within the towns and cities of our nation, and must be things every worker has access to. That is what threatens capitalism. It's what scares them. They aren't scared by a commune in the woods, because that commune can never serve as an alternative to their system for most people, it will never be bigger than the capitalist world, at least without being forced to join it, if anything they'd be happy that socialists built their own gulag. What they're scared of is a network that any worker can draw support from, unions that their workers use to collectively bargain, within the towns and cities that their workers live, that's what an actual threat to their power looks like.
A commune that's separate from capitalist society isn't resistance it's surrender.
npd & have had very intense homicidal ideation for about as long as i remember regardless of experiencing anger. i wouldn't say it's caused by npd in my case, but there's definitely a correlation between having a Narc Flare-Up™ and having more (in frequency, intensity, and detail) HI than usual
HI doesn't make people bad people, but obviously we still wanna manage it in healthy ways
hey, this is a genuine question about me personally- please don't take this as an assumption that all narcissists are evil terrible people- but, is it common (or at least heard of) for people with NPD to have, like, fantasies about physically harming someone (especially from a young age)? or, is that associated with anger issues (related to NPD or not)? or, am I just a little screwed up in the head? lol
i don't know how common or related it is to npd specifically, but i can say from personal experience i've frequently had thoughts about physically harming other people, even having homicidal thoughts for years and i'm close with pwnpd who experience the same thing, and i'd say we all have varying experiences with anger issues
i know this might be a weird way of thinking about it, but ever just watch/read something from a narc abuse believer and like ??? "pov narcissistic parent" and it's not even like ,,, narc-coded?
like are y'all even Trying to make "narc abuse" and physical/mental/sexual/etc abuse sound like completely different necessary distinguishable categories?
like.
clearly they're depicting abuse.
i think it's pretty obvious to ✨Us The Hivemind✨ that abuse from a pw/npd isn't really gonna look different from abuse from an egotypical.
however i think about it from what i'd imagine an egotypicals lens might be, and it still doesn't seem like "narc abuse"? like it's literally just abuse, but they don't depict the abuser necessarily showing "uniquely narcissistic traits," i guess. does that make sense ????
anyways more serious time bcs i cannot mention literally anything without talking more at length abt it. just writing now, very disorganised
please stop describing traits any abuser can have as specifically a narc thing. it's demonising us. this is a pretty tired point but it still applies. and stop calling people who point out "enablers." i have hardly seen anyone here actually enable abusive behaviour, ✨Probably Because Most Of Us Have Gone Through It Too✨, only explain that although your trauma may be valid, you can't just use it to hurt others. same applies to us pw/npd
and yes i've seen pw/npd say really harsh things to narc abuse believers, but this seems to be a minority? and i'm not saying that's okay, it really isn't, but there's also definitely a 100% causal relationship between further demonising a whole group of people who are already demonised, and the hostility in which they're going to react with
nobody owes you being civil when you're actively enabling a system that makes it even more difficult for pw/pds to be diagnosed and helped.
even going with the logic that most narcs are/will inevitably turn out to be abusers, you're inadvertently creating more situations where more victims are made, because the ooo scary narcs won't have an opportunity to be encouraged to work on themselves before they hurt anyone. it just doesn't check.
& believe me as a Disordered™ person i know that reactions to trauma are hardly ever rational, but it's. Certainly unfair that we need to put in much more constant self reflection only for people to despise us for who we are still. how's that going to encourage anyone, even an egotypical? egotypicals may not need supply like we do but they're still generally social creatures !
nobody's saying you have to accept a narc into your life. you don't have to associate with us at all. however the bare minimum you can do is change your language Just A Little Bit, there's not really an excuse for not doing that. i assure you, random narcs on the internet are not trying to collectively lower your guard so you can be Narc Abused™ again by some random person we don't even know. and if you don't wanna accommodate, fine, but at least own up to it when people call you out
hot take: there is no way that empathy is actually a real thing. you're telling me that when you see someone crying, your immediate reaction is to... feel the pain they're experiencing??? what kind of made up concept is this??? you don't only do 'good' things so people see you as a good person? you just. want to help??? this isn't a persona you put on?? you're just like this??? I am being 100% honest when I say that I thought empathy was a made up concept, and people just used it as a term for some made up mystical ability where you can feel others emotions and genuinely want to help, because it just sounds so fake to me
can't believe i cut a whole chunk of my hair off just Randomly right before therapy to prove i'd be more well-groomed and look better than her, just to not even be able to stand looking at her because i feel she's not worth my time, and have her end the session 40 minutes early & be reminded of how futile therapy is for me
oh jee i have therapy today !! i sure hope my new therapist won't say my diagnosed psychosis is anxiety again (i have taken two assessments for anxiety disorders now and scored low on every anxiety disorder except for ocd) !!!!!!!!
oh jee i have therapy today !! i sure hope my new therapist won't say my diagnosed psychosis is anxiety again (i have taken two assessments for anxiety disorders now and scored low on every anxiety disorder except for ocd) !!!!!!!!
how did me and your local shitty guy grow up on the same cartoons with the same morals wtf .... like stoooop you're embarrassing me i'm a better family rated cartoon character than you .............