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xx-slug-xx · 13 hours

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They're going crazy on LinkedIn

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You suddenly switch bodies with your icon. On a scale of 1 to 10, (10 being the highest value) how well are you coping with that change?

#10/10 #becoming frog is my dream #I yearn to be moist

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"oh itd be illegal in real life though!!" yeah. a lot of shows have moments like that too. and theyre not always shown to be explicitly negative, are seen as funny, or are even seen as attractive. but people are yknow. expected to know that certain things aren't okay irl. because they expect them to be adults with critical thinking skills.

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"oh itd be illegal in real life though!!" yeah. a lot of shows have moments like that too. and theyre not always shown to be explicitly negative, are seen as funny, or are even seen as attractive. but people are yknow. expected to know that certain things aren't okay irl. because they expect them to be adults with critical thinking skills.

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i need to look like a man so i can dress like a woman

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antis just call about everything pedophilia now, including an 18 yo dating a 17 yo.

Oh no, the horror!!! The one year age gap!!! /s

and then someone went ahead and said "as long as there is no sex involved it's fine" but the characters this was about are fictional and even irl this isn't such a big thing to worry about

Ugh

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xx-slug-xx · 17 hours

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sorry to ramble in your inbox but its kinda fucking me up how "trans man with a cishet boyfriend who misgenders him behind his back" is like seen to be a person to make fun of in the general queer tumblr space instead of a person who is in a vulnerable situation. i know that there is trans men who are also women and there are trans men who are genuinely okay with dating a cis man who considers himself straight but people talking about these hypothetical couples arent talking about these situations but rather about "haha stupid trans man doesnt realize hes dating a bigot"

theres this attitude that the hypothetical cishet boyfriend is actually a conservative so it should be obvious to trans man that he doesnt respect his identity but i feel like its less "oh its obvious that this specific man is a bigot" and more "obviously cishet white men are bigots" and its weird how people laugh at this person instead of acknowledging that even if you are dating a bigot its usually not a big win for you personally. like the bigot cishet boyfriend isnt going to be okay with his trans man boyfriend starting testosterone. like we can sympathize with emotional abuse happening towards other groups but when its gay and mspec trans men its like "oh he should have known that would happen" or "its his fault for dating a bigot"?

of course people have the same making fun of the victim narrative with afab nonbinary people who date cishet men who misgender them [and im sure this bleeds over to affecting all nonbinary people if people arbitrarily decide theyre afab if the nonbinary person refuses to tell them personal information about themselves but the larger narrative always specifies that this is an afab person] and its almost like a "this is what you get for being attracted to men" sort of thing.

and also i theres something to be said about warning people for signs their partner or potential partner doesnt respect their identity but considering i imagine its a common anxiety among trans and nonbinary people who are into that sorta thing to wonder "am i ever going to find someone who loves me and is also accepting of me for being [insert gender here]?" its sort of fucked up for it to be common to basically claim "yea if youre dating a cis man who said he was straight before he started dating you but says he respects your identity hes probably just straight up lying to your face" and then laugh at the person getting misgendered for not knowing they were being misgendered.

anyway sorry for this big ramble i cant even remember specific instances of this to reference so i might seem like im making up a guy to be mad at but i swear this is like a general attitude and almost running joke i see around. anyway. have a good day.

I absolutely see that too, and I think it's a mixture of straight up victim blaming, because oh noo how dare you WANT to date *gasp* cis men

but it come with an intense transandrophobia and exorsexism because there's a lot more sympathy when it comes to cis women dating cishet men "poor things uwu" but when it's trans men or in this case non binary people assumed to be women, it's always "see I told you so" smug superiority. (cis women get this too, because of misogyny obviously, but it's different and worse for trans men) People are just waiting for a chance to be misogynistic and trans men are an acceptable target. This is honestly extra fucked up when we remember that trans men experience some of the highest rates of domestic violence and rape in the community though.

being trans is such a vulnerable place to be in, and a lot of people, trans or not are insecure or just want to be loved, that's normal. A lot of people are willing to accept certain behaviors from their partners that are bad, because of those reasons as well, victim blaming, and ESPECIALLy telling trans men to toughen up or "what did you expect" is apart of the toxic expectations that get placed of trans men as well. I could honestly go on for hours about this. good ask,anon

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to reiterate: an autistic fan headcanoning a character they like and relate to as being autistic is not armchair diagnosing anyone and is not harming anyone. it is not an insult for a character to be headcanoned as autistic, it is not the fan claiming their experience as being the only autistic experience, it is not claiming that there cannot be other interpretations.

an autistic person seeing a character's traits as similar to their own and finding comfort in that is not an insult to that character or to other fans.

an autistic fan headcanoning their favorite character as autistic is not a personal attack against you and your experiences and preferences

it feels incredibly ableist and dismissive to tell autistic fans that headcanoning a character as autistic is Problematic. Autism is not an insult.

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this is a genuine question…

are people just like…not taught that everything they say and post on the internet is going to on their digital footprint and can be traced back to them? Or do people just not care anymore?

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idk it is sad to me how “twink death” means growing old, which often means getting fat and becoming disabled and going gray and whatever, is equivalent to basically dying for some people. the implication is that thesee things everyone will go through to some extent make you no longer sexy, ergo loveable and worthy of life. can you imagine being a young gay man who hears and internalizes this? the levels of self hatred one had to live with? ive never been more aware of the little circle i live within.

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I feel like an outlier in the trans community tbh. It’s so hard to explain to people, especially cis allies who are trying to understand my experience and are curious. But even in the trans community, I feel like I have a very different way of going about gender expression and how I feel about my gender all together. I don’t really see to many other trans folks describing their gender in the same way that I would. Even my boundaries with my gender and such feels like a sort of “taboo”. And with all the infighting I’ve been seeing going on I the community, who can use at labels, who’s valid and who’s not, and all the other horrible things I’ve seen, it’s given me time to reflect on myself. I haven’t really disconcerted myself or anything like that, and it only confirms my gender more for me tbh. But it’s given me some time to know how to describe my gender in a way that works for me.

I’m trans masc

I’m nonbinary

I use he/they pronouns

I am a boy but I am not a man

I want a deeper voice and a more masculine body structure, but I don’t want facial hair or look too masculine.

I am not a woman, a girl, or a lady

I don’t use the lesbian label at all, but the lesbian community gives me a sense of comfort that cis men can never give me

Honestly, I’d rather be in a room full of lesbians than a room full of gay men.

I recognize that I am female, but I’m no woman

I am comfortable with being born female

I have a chosen name and a first name

But I don’t have a dead name, for it is still in use

It’s gross if anyone who isn’t a friend calls me by my chosen name

I love that my family has the honor of calling me by the name they gave me

For clarification, my family is concerned but supportive of me being trans

I want testosterone, but I don’t want any sort of surgeries

I don’t feel that I was born in the wrong body, it’s the world around me that sees me wrong

I have dysphoria, but not for my body in a traditional transgender way

It’s a dysphoria based on other people’s perceptions of me, otherwise I’m comfortable in my own skin

My dysphoria is purely social in nature

It amazes me that gender can be so complicated and how contradictory it may sound to others. But to me it makes perfect sense. I simply am myself. I am me. Nobody can change that and I don’t need validation from anyone else. I love being who I am in this body. I don’t need to prove anything about my gender, my personal experiences, to anyone. I know who I am, and that’s enough for me.

#queer #lgbtq #transmasc #transgender #gender euphoria

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my biggest pet peeve wiht the english language is that you don’t have sin/sina

in swedish if u have two people who use the same pronoun u can always tell whos doing what bc its like ‘han tog sin väska’ (he took his[own] bag) and ‘han tog hans väska’ would be that he took the other persons bag

but in english its like if u have 2 ppl w/ the same pronoun:

“she took her bag” whose bag????WHose BAG was it her OWN bag or the other her’s bag??????????????

“he ate his donuts” were the donuts his own???? did he fucking eat someone elses donuts??? YIU DONT KNOW bc english is a bullshit language

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I’m so tired of antis thinking they speak for EVERYONE when it comes to disabilities. Like, everyone has different life experiences and personal experiences with their disabilities. No two people will feel the exact same way about them, or even feel comfortable with the same ways to cope. It’s an experience that’s different for everyone. But they cannot use their personal experiences to justify devaluing other people’s experiences. That’s internalized ableism.

I have POCD. I CANNOT look at anything lolisho related because I get horrible intrusive thoughts relating to it. I steer clear because it actively makes my intrusive thoughts worse. But I know a fuck ton of people who have a completely neutral perspective towards that sort of fiction and some who say it makes it better for them. It’s all about someone’s personal experience and feelings. No two people are exactly the same, there is no one size fits all when it comes to any disability.

There is no way to “be a better disabled person” in the sense that so many antis want to say there is. That’s wrong to think about it that way. Mental illness sucks for people, but so long as people aren’t acting on their intrusive thoughts, who fucking cares? It’s such a non-issue. It’s only another way for antis to enact purity culture and so they can virtue signal just so they can feel like they are good people without putting in any actual effort to make a positive difference in fandom or our society as a whole.

Ur disgusting LOL leave those of us w ocd/pocd and other disorders out of your nasty shit, you are not protecting us, you do not speak for us. One of the things we're taught abt our intrusive thoughts is NOT to give into them, educate yourself on this shit before opening your fucking mouth.

You've come to the wrong guy and I will use your ridiculously stupid take to educate my followers on POCD and OCD overall.

I have severe OCD & in a relationship with someone who has POCD. Anti rhetoric and anti spaces nearly made my partner kill themselves. So, how about you shut the fuck up?

Anti rhetoric = thought police rhetoric. It will always harm people with OCD. You are not protecting anyone.

The first thing that you should be taught about intrusive thoughts is that they are just thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are not reflections of yourself, your identity, personality, and self. They are not reality, they are thoughts that harm no one but the person who has them. Intrusive thoughts are not urges. Intrusive thoughts are not pleasant and not something you need to be scared of having. If someone taught you that your intrusive thoughts need to be policed and you are a bad person for having them - they wish you ill.

Educate yourself and reflect on the community you surround yourself with before you talk to me.

#tw suicide mention #anti anti #anti harassment #anti fandom police #anti censorship #proship #profic #profiction #comship

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xx-slug-xx · 2 days

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"ship responsibly" ??? what are you the fucking fujOSHA+

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xx-slug-xx · 8 days

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My thoughts exactly!

Also! Intrusive thoughts were what I was alluding to when I mentioned that this thought process can be ableist!

“Your fantasies equal your real life desires”

I’m fucking asexual? I have no desire to do anything I fantasize about irl. Same with a shit ton of other people who are aspec?

Tbh, I think it’s just queerphobic, specifically aphobic but other shit too, to say “your fantasies are what you want irl.

It’s not just aspecs either. I know a fuck ton of lesbians who fantasize about fictional men. They are not any less lesbians because of their fantasies though.

I could go on with more about how it’s a stupid argument, and even how it’s ableist in certain contexts, but I’ll save that for other posts lmao

#aspec #proship #profic #anti anti #profiction #anti censorship #anti harassment #kink positive #pro kink

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xx-slug-xx · 9 days

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So uh….some dude apparently recreated Adobe Photoshop feature-for-feature, for FREE, and it runs in your browser.

Anyway, fuck Adobe, and enjoy!

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xx-slug-xx · 10 days

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the terfs are once again getting upset at a trans boy on testosterone being forced to compete against cis girls as if they’re not the ones who’ve been pushing for trans athletes to only be able to compete with people of their assigned sex. they complain about “performance-enhancing drugs” and “cheating” as if they’re not the ones against letting him compete with people who would have the same testosterone levels. they made their bed and, surprising absolutely no one, they’re really mad about having to lie in it.

because this was never actually about sports or who has an advantage over who. (if it was about that, they would recognize that the trans boy in question here was very clearly beaten by two cis girls.) they make it clear enough in the replies — the solution isn’t finding a place for trans athletes that they think is fair, the ‘solution’ is getting rid of trans people altogether. they’re just mad that we exist where they have to see us and interact with us and, god forbid, face the fact that we might be better than them at some things.

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