Addicted to Design: Part II

Addicted to Design: Part II

Photo by cottonbro: https://www.pexels.com/photo/group-of-people-in-white-shirts-8088443/ Guess what? A few days after writing Part 1 of Addicted by Design, I lost my Samsung Phone. It was as though the heavens were testing my addiction level. I am happy to say that I passed the test with flying colours. I was without a phone for several days and your girl did not have a panic attack or FOMO or…

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Addicted By Design

Stress reliever?……………………….                       I don’t think so. Time Monopolizer? …………………………..           Absolutely. Sleep-deprivation device? ………………….. Ocassionally. People group having addicted fun together using smartphones – Detail of hands sharing content on social network with mobile smart phones – Technology concept with millennials online with cellphones The 21st century has seen…

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King of the Jungle

King of the Jungle

He is not the strongest… Elephants are stronger.   He is not the fastest… Cheetahs are faster. He is not the tallest… Giraffes are taller. He is not the biggest… Antarctic blue whales are bigger. He’s not the smartest… Chimpanzees are smarter. (more…)

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THE FOUR HORSEMEN: STONEWALLING

THE FOUR HORSEMEN: STONEWALLING

Stonewalling in Relationships : Image Credit: Freepik Whenever there is a conflict, you choose to engage in a dialogue or ignore the other person altogether. Stonewalling (commonly known as Silent Treatment), according to John Gottman, is one of the most damaging of the Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse. Stonewalling occurs when one partner in a relationship decides the dialogue is…

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DEFENSIVENESS: THE OMNIPRESENT HORSEMAN

DEFENSIVENESS: THE OMNIPRESENT HORSEMAN

Defensiveness is an omnipresent communication style- it is universal armor that we use reactively, instinctively, and impulsively in response to a threat.  As a member of the four horsemen of the apocalypse, it is “defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack.” Defensiveness can happen in response to criticism,…

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THE FOUR HORSE MEN: CONTEMPT

THE FOUR HORSE MEN: CONTEMPT

Nothing is more demeaning than having someone treat you with contempt. While criticism attacks a person’s character and personality, contempt is when you get on your high horse and turn your nose up at someone.  This second horseman of the apocalypse goes beyond criticism. With contempt, you purposely set out to attack the other person based on your unfavorable impressions about them. This is…

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THE FOUR HORSEMEN: CRITICISM

THE FOUR HORSEMEN: CRITICISM

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse traditionally depict the end of times. They represent conquest, war, famine, and death respectively. It really does not bode well with anything named 4 horsemen of the apocalypse. This metaphor is used in the context of relationships, accredited to the research work of John Gottman (Ph.D., a world-renowned marriage, and relationship psychologist),  to describe…

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