is mr bonzo at all based on mr blobby

I think something that bothers me about how the writers handled Rebecca’s actions was that,,, not only were there no mentions of it afterwards save for like two jokes…but nobody was upset with her after she apologized. everyone moved on? The people who knew, anyways. There weren’t any consequences for her, really. higgins, julie, ted, keeley, they all moved on and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. whereas Jamie’s entire three season arc is consumed by his s1 actions. he had to fight tooth and nail to get back into the team’s good graces, to prove himself to the coaches and keeley and everyone. Even in s3, the coaches are shown to not value his growth and keep thinking of jamie “prick” tartt instead of seeing him as someone capable of being better and different. idk. It just bothers me that in a show about forgiveness and being better, rebecca only had to apologize and everything was forgiven, while Jamie literally could not Not be defined by how he was

I haven't read all the meta yet, BUT

One thing I find really interesting is the relationship Ted has — and has had for the duration of the show — to anger, namely his notion that it's always a bad thing that should be suppressed or at least ignored at all costs.

We've only seen him show anger a handful of times (off the top of my head I can think of the shouting he does at Jamie in season 1 when Jamie's being a shit; then — tellingly — his anger at Rebecca when she sends Jamie back to Man City, even though at the time he thought it was an innocent mistake rather than deliberate sabotage; and of course his very confrontational second session with Sharon in season 2) and he hasn't yet admitted to feeling angry about anything. Not at Michelle for divorcing him, not at Rebecca for hiring him under false pretenses, not at Trent for writing and publishing the article about his mental health, not even at Nate for betraying his trust in such a shockingly awful way by telling Trent about said mental health.

And in episode 3.1 we see Ted resist the temptation of anger, of "fighting," several different times — instead he sinks into depression, or makes jokes at his own expense, or quietly ignores it. In part it's because he genuinely is someone who wants to be positive, but I think there's also some deeply fucked-up notions he has about anger as both an emotion and a behavior — notions that I suspect he got from his father (haha, bad fathers continuing to be the theme of this show!).

I think anger frightens Ted, in a way: he sees anger as a loss of control in and of itself, which it certainly can be! But no more than any other emotion, I don't think; and given the way Ted has seen anger turn to violence (not just from his father's suicide, but from his past as an American football coach, a sport where anger is often used as a weapon rather than a tool) I think his reticence to show so much as mild annoyance has a lot of fascinating implications.

TL;DR — I think at some point Ted is going to actually figure out how to be angry, and it's gonna be amazing.

Me when i see posts hating on Nate

season one begins and ends on a close-up of rebecca because she’s the one who changes the most and goes through the biggest emotional arc of that season. she receives love and kindness and wisdom, from ted, from keeley, from sassy, and she gets better.

season two begins and ends on a close-up of nate because he’s the one who changes the most and goes through the biggest emotional arc of that season. he gets catapulted to a position of power without working out his issues with the team and with himself, and he gets worse.

season three just began with a close-up of ted. where the fuck are we gonna go from here.

this is such a controversial opinion but Colin trying to silently rebrand from Side Prick #2 to Unjustly Persecuted Victim of Jamie Tartt actually pissed me off. sorry

BRETT GOLDSTEIN as CASPER 'Last Place Hero' from Uncle (2014-2017) 2.03

I'm sorry. I'm so sorry.

TED LASSO | 3.12 So Long, Farewell.

Nate Shelley I'm sorry that even though you had a whole season's worth of character development that people are still writing fics making you be the worst person ever to a guy you canonically only bullied once and apologized to especially when he canonically bullied you for ages and never was shown apologizing.

funny audio but also she really sounds like Mrs Godfrey doesnt she SOB

i hope nate-antis are having a horrible horrible day

I must say. The way they handle mental health, parental abuse, trauma, sexuality, toxic masculinity (and overcoming it) in Ted Lasso is like nothing I’ve ever seen in a popular piece of media. They really understand what they’re doing there.

It makes me sad, then, that a lot of the narrative surrounding Nate (and to some extent Shandy as well, since her arc was cut short) is so. Colorblind. I mean, yes, Jade isn’t even exceptionally rude by European standards when it comes to customer service, but she sure is rude enough that it stands out to me, a German. And we’re not known to be the most bubbly people. (Really, we can be rude af. Don’t go to some parts of Eastern Germany, resting bitch-faces everywhere here, it’s draining.) And, well. I’ve never been stared at as if the server was a dead fish, ya know. As if I was invisible.

So when people of color in the fandom tell us that they see racist behavior here in Jade, and in Jack’s and Barbara’s treatment of Shandy? We better believe them. Because if even my white-bread nose can smell this against the wind, something is off.

And the thing is, I was ready to give Jade the benefit of the doubt! I even commented somewhere that she seems like someone who sees through people, like she just knows when they act a part, when they try to turn up their nose at her.

Cue Anastasia. And Jade treating her with dignity, something she denied Nate from the beginning, and he’s been coming to this place for years!

The whole framing of Nate’s interactions with her have a taste of “finally the white woman takes pity on the brown man now that he praised her restaurant’s cuisine in her proximity”, and that taste truly is bitter, especially compared to everything this show does well!

It stings. And now imagine you’re a fan from the same minority group (in England) as Nate and Shandy. And you see this treatment of their arcs. The disrespect. How it’s played as a joke. And then you see how well they execute queer narratives and how tenderly they approach mental health.

Man. The framing of Nate’s narrative is such a perfect mirror for reality. And people HATE him for lashing out after years of this disrespect? I think we can be glad he didn’t strangle someone. Why do you think Ted isn’t angry at him? (Hint: It’s not because he avoids negative feelings. Not in this case.)

i think im gonna scrap this for now, it ended up being too far out of my skill level and im just getting discouraged. but maybe ill return to it in the future!

a scene directly out of @collegetennisoriginstory with the incredible rayyan

Just finished dp&c split second. Jesus fucking christ they're so divorced, sooo divorced, they're like divorced in every universe possible divorced, I can't fucking believe this.

thinking of how a & n’s preferred drinks are wine & whiskey, respectively. and how their drink of choice actually reflect their dynamics in the love triangle- for alex, adam & nate.

so alex’s favorite drinks also happen to be wine & whiskey, but the one she’ll choose all depends.

she drinks wine when she wants to unwide a little, relax. contrary to both their very uptight personalities, once they get to know each other and are comfortable around one another (book3 era & onwards) — they just feel very relaxed and at ease around each other. they’re very similar as individuals, their outlooks on life & the way they operate. they’re both leaders in their own right, but around each other once that mutual respect and trust is established they begin to rely on each other and for once in their lives, unwind.

whereas with nate, he’s like a warm glass of whiskey. alex drinks whiskey when she needs something stronger, when she wants to feel that certain level of extra….. oomf. and that’s what nate is to her. whereas adam and her start off being very tense around one another, as their relationship develops they slowly begin to relax into one another. where as with nate, when she first met him he put her at ease (as much ease as alex can be put at anyways).

but she was also curious about him from the get. something flickered her curiosity— similar to how curious new ideas would flicker into her head after a glass of whiskey if she was stuck on a case. and then the more she got to know him, the more….. unsettled he made her feel, but like in the best ways possible.

he’s so different from her (and subsequently adam), something and someone she’ll never be. and she admires and respects him so much— like in a way she’s almost always in awe that someone like him, that HE, exists. like whiskey, it’s something stronger. something warm and bright and amber and ever-encompassing.

can't wait for all the pain beard's not sharing with jane/other people to Poison Him <3