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the-blue-sandglass · 9 months

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You know folks-

Condemning Ben's behaviour, particularly towards Charlie, and not seeing his personal issues as an excuse to literally ab//e and attempt s/a on his partner while ALSO wanting him to get better as a person and accept himself (including his sexuality) in a healthy way aren't mutually exclusive, and probably shouldn't be treated as mutually exclusive-

In the same vein-

You can fully hope that Ben was trying to be sincere and that he'll be a better person one day while ALSO acknowledging that Charlie does not owe him anything, is not obligated to forgive him and is not responsible for his absolution-

#tw: mention of sa #tw: mention of abuse #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper #ben hope #is this because i've seen some RIDICULOUS hot takes about ben since s2 came out??#yes #yes it is #but like #seriously #you can sympathise with him struggling to accept himself while also acknowledging that it does NOT excuse him ab//ing his partners #especially charlie #but imogen too #remember he's just as much of an ass to her #and that's a relationship he would supposedly be comfortable being open about #you can hate all of that and still feel sad when he doesn't take that step on that rainbow tide #because i am certain that he'd be a happier healthier person if he did that #the mental gymnastics some people pull off to defend ben though while ignoring a good majority of the rest of the casts' portrayal is absur #especially at charlie's expense #like i've seen people try to say charlie not forgiving him is unfair to people who relate to ben #but what about people who relate to charlie??#specifically those who were ab//ed??#how would it be fair to them to tell them they're obligated to forgive the people who hurt them?? solely for the absolution of the ab//er

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