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pansyfemme · 2 years

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height of my night is my dad talking abt the gay bars in town and being like ‘oh that ones a straight meat market!! naked guys dancing on tables and all that!’ and then i was like. isnt the one you used to go to. and he was like. yeah

#before my dad met my mom he was deeply in love with this trans woman who did drag shows at this local gay bar #and he would go every night. she died of aids but he still speaks abt her so fondly its sweet #but this particular club is what he calls ‘full of old fashioned queers’#the windows were still painted so no one could see inside type old fashioned.#and he talks abt it so fondly but also he’s like. a bit more open abt why he visited so often #now my brother and i are older and also gay #men lmaooo…#my dad straight up told me the best cruising spots one time. that was fun #i think a lot of time when ppl think of older bi men they think of guys who identified as straight or gay then settled down and #figured out when they were older but my dad’s known he’s bisexual since he was #15. and like. he was rlly in gay culture at the time #and its tbh nice hearing abt it. its not like.#super graphic what he says but i acknowledge that my dad had other partners before my mom. some of them men.#and its just like kinda cool to have that elder queer prescense in my family #of course my moms the same way. she talks abt her life working on all #women farms. and living in san francisco and .#being in this lesbian scene in the 80’s and its so cool..#i will admit. i didnt know my parents were queer until i had already come out #but they never. hid it from us it just never came up.#but once it did it was rlly nice to have that perspective.#bc my parents are from a different era of queer ppl it was hard to get them to understand transition at first #bc my dad didnt really know the difference between trans people and ‘crossdressers’ bc a lot of ppl considered themselves as both #when he was in the scene.#but they learned and its just nice to have multiple generations of queer ppl in the family #its comforting.#knowing that my brother and i are educating them as much as they are to us.

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