Ishq mein kar ke, rab se yaari

Dil hai bhula wahi duniya daari

Jannat se bhi pyaara yaara ka chaukh chaubara

Par maane na mane man man ke

Dum dum dum mast hai

Kaisi ye jast hai oye 👯‍♀️

Bhai yeh movie kiti funny thi yaarrr i remember watching it with my cousins

Ranveer and Anushka were so good together, i wish they make a sequel...

Dum Dum Dum Mast Hai,

Kaisi Yeh Jast Hai,

Kaahe Chanda Mere Yaara,

Main Tanha Ek Taara,

Dum Dum Mast Hai,

Kaisi Yeh Jast Hai,

Teri Dhun Mein Dil Hai Banjaara...

🕺💃

RULES: answer the following questions! you can only use each movie once (yeah I just realised I broke the rule lmao but I swear every time I look at the questions the same 5 movies show up in my mind)

I was tagged by @jonathanstrange <3000

favorite movie: paddington cinematic universe babey!

movie that makes you remember your childhood: the first three harry potter movies, the raimi spiderman trilogy, home alone, rock on (2008)

favorite tom hanks movie: that thing you do!

movie that makes you cry: never let me go, atonement, paddington 2, endg*me, harry potter and the philosopher’s stone and loads many that i can’t remember but yes i am one of those idiots who cries in movies easily

favorite 80’s movie: back to the future, star wars: empire strikes back, die hard, the lost boys, do the right thing, ferris bueller’s day off and a few that i can’t remember at the moment dfhsdklhgfkdj

favorite comedy: in bruges, the lobster (fav romcom :D), welcome (2007), shrek, to wong foo, thanks for everything! julie newmar, little miss sunshine, thor ragnarok, ANT MAN, horrible bosses, knives out (i laughed at a few scenes okay), vicky donor and a bunch of other movies i can’t remember

favorite sports movie: jannat (2008), creed and the goal movies

favorite courtroom movie: my cousin vinny, the judge, pink, legally blonde

favorite war movie: 1917, dunkirk, jojo rabbit, enemy at the gates

favorite animated movie: paddington cinematic universe, finding nemo, ferdinand, up

favorite horror movie: avengers: endgame hereditary, get out, midsommar, us, stree, krampus, train to busan, ek thi daayan, froght night (2011), it (2017)

most overrated movie: an endless list but yeah joker (2019) and avengers: endgame (2019) are the ones that come to mind immediately.

favorite gangster movie: gangster (2006) lmao but also state of grace, the godfather trilogy, eastern promises

movie you can watch over and over: pride (2014), paddington cinematic universe, the iron man trilogy, in bruges, pacific rim, about time, knives out, idk man loads of them

movie with the best soundtrack: theory of everything, iron man, pride and prejudice (2005), atonement, twilight saga, high fidelity, the emraan hashmi cinematic universe except raaz reboot

most embarrassing movie you love: the emraan hashmi cinematic universe :)

favorite christmas movie: iron man 3, home alone 1&2, murder 2 (yes it is a christmas movie it is set during christmas), love actually, in bruges, kiss kiss bang bang, die hard

favorite sequel: murder 2,,,, but also captain america: the winter soldier. and thor ragnarok.

tagging (if you want): tagging whoever wants to do it!

31. Most dangerous thing you've ever done?

@jannat-noor1643 i climbed into my cousin's house through balcony and opened a few doors from outside with a viper to get house keys because his wife forgot house keys inside :P and the whole house was locked :P it was a stealth mission back in 2016 :P

How would you feel if you had no friends, like a close friend you can talk to when you are sad or happy, I have cousins that has a lot of friends and she would talk about how they come over to her house and they go out and do things together. I don’t even have any close friend in my own family, most of the time it doesn’t bother me but sometimes I just think I’m worthless and no one likes me.I used to think I would be happy after my engagement but that space is still empty and sadness is there😔

Asalamu Alaykum Sis/Brother.

Your question really touched me because it’s exactly how I feel about my life too.In my case my cousin has always had men fall in love with her left and right. She also had a healthy amount of friends throughout life. (Might I add, she bragged heavily about both - May Allah (swt) forgive her).  I have had neither. The one and only man I loved decided he could never marry me because he was Palestinian and I am Bengali. I’ve never had a man show interest in me since. And as for friends… I’ve been bullied a lot throughout my life. I didn’t have the chance to make friends because I was generally always being picked on. When in grade 12 I finally did make friends, it was already time to graduate and they all forgot me. I’m in University now but the scene hasn’t changed much. Everyone already has a friend group and it seems no one really wants me as a friend. I’ve tried again and again, but it just seems to be a door that won’t open for me. [May Allah grant all those who are seeking friendships, pious friends, Aameen].

I’m not telling you all this in order to compare; that’s not the intention. I just want to show you that I know where you are coming from.I’m so happy for your engagement, I pray it brings you a prosperous marriage and happiness. I would personally trade all the friends in the world to be able to find true love and get married. I’m kind of crying as I type this part because my dream in life is to find someone that loves me. Being engaged would really be my dream come true. But I digress. I think what we both need to do is start being grateful to Allah (swt) for what we DO have. And not what we are missing, if that is the case. A large part of worship and having true faith is thanking our Lord for the things he has given us. It could always be worse.

Recall this Hadith: On the authority of Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه) who said: the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “Look at those who are beneath you and do not look at those who are above you, for it is more suitable that you should not consider as less the blessing of Allah.” [Bukhari 6490].

For example, you and I may not have friends. But Alhamdulilah we have families. You have a man/woman you are engaged to. Alhamdulilah. We don’t have friends but we have eyes to see the world with, ears to hear the beautiful voices and sounds of the earth, and a heart that is beating by the permission of Allah (swt). 

Only look up at those who are more pious than you; not those who have more friends/more material items etc. Don’t feel bad for not having friends. Who said having friends would lead people into paradise? Who said you needed friends in order to perfect your worship of Allah? Who said you needed friends in order to succeed in your deen? 

Watch this beautiful video on the subject by my favourite Sheikh [May Allah grant him Jannat al Firdous]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tT3sWZGD2VMNobody’s life is perfect. We all have our trials, and in our case it might just be struggling in life without friendships. I encourage you to try and make friends, I really do. Make du’a, sincere du’a and put yourself out there. But know that if your efforts fail, it’s by the Will of Allah.“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you” [2:216]. And if all you have is Allah (swt) then you have everything you need in life.

I could write a lot more, but inshaAllah I hope you got the gist of the message. I pray you find happiness and Allah pulls away your emptiness, and fills it with love for him and happiness. Aameen.Remember: no friends or spouse can fill the hole. Only the love and true devotion to Almighty God can fill this emptiness. 

hi there. someone really close to my heart commit suicide three weeks ago. I just... I pray he goes to jannat every time i pray but it feels futile. i need strength and i wish someone could tell me that he’ll be ok and in a better place not in a worse place than he already was. its just so hard i dont know what to do.. he was such a good person i wish he could get.. another chance? I just want him to be in a better place sorry im not sure where im going with it. thank you brother

You need to pray for him.

For some reason, Muslims believe that you cannot pray for someone who committed suicide, which honestly I don’t understand.

Imam Nawawi, a giant of the Shafi’i school wrote in Minhaj al-Talibin:

“The one who kills himself is like others in being washed and being prayed over.”

Imam Tumurtashi, a Hanafi Imam, wrote in his Tanwir al-Absar:

“The one who kills himself intentionally is washed and prayed over.”

Imam Ibn Abi Zayd, a master of Maliki Fiqh, writes in his treatise Al-Risala:

“If someone kills himself, the prayer is done for him. This is whether it is suicide or an accident. His wrong action is his."

Imam Ibn Hazm, from the Zahiri school, wrote:

"prayer may also be said for one who commits suicide or kills some one else.”

Finally, it is Sheikh Muhammad Al-Munajjid, a modern Hanbali jurist (who is also the most ‘conservative’ Sheikh here), who writes the best answer to your question:

“[even] if it is proven that your cousin did commit suicide – that [does not mean] you should not pray for mercy and forgiveness for her, rather you must do that because she needs that. Suicide is not kufr that puts a person beyond the pale of Islam as some people think, rather it is a major sin that is subject to the will of Allaah on the Day of Resurrection: if He wills, He will forgive it, and if He wills He will punish for it.So do not neglect to make du’aa’ for her and be sincere in doing so; perhaps that may be the means of Allaah forgiving her.”

So praying is the best thing you can do, and it is what we must do.

Grief I feel like is something we do for ourselves, and it is important, and talking to an counselor is extremely important for you. So please go talk to one, even if it is just to get like a “check-up.”

But for them? Praying is what we can do and what we should do, insha Allah.

Loss my cousin today, passed away from COVID. may God grant her high place in Jannat ul Firdous

New Post has been published on https://toldnews.com/world/kashmir-attack-tracing-the-path-that-led-to-pulwama/

Kashmir attack: Tracing the path that led to Pulwama

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Image caption Ghulam Hassan Dar’s son, Adil, carried out the devastating 14 February suicide bombing

The suicide attack that killed more than 40 Indian soldiers in February was carried out by a young Kashmiri from Pulwama. Ahead of voting in the region in India’s general election, Sameer Yasir reports on the rise in youth militancy over the past two years.

Around 15:15 local time (09:45 GMT) on 14 February, Adil Ahmad Dar drove a vehicle packed with explosives into a convoy of 78 buses carrying Indian paramilitary police in Pulwama, on the heavily guarded Srinagar-Jammu highway.

It was a devastating attack – the worst carried out against Indian forces in decades.

It shocked the country, as newspapers and TV screens were filled with stories of soldiers and their shattered families. Some had just returned from a visit home; others had called a family member hours before the attack; a few were speaking to them on the phone when the explosives went off.

Adil Ahmad Dar was identified hours later, when the Pakistan-based militant group, Jaish-e-Mohammad, released a video online saying it had carried out the attack. In the video, Dar appears to show no remorse for what he is going to do. He said he joined the group in 2018 and was eventually “assigned” the task of carrying out the attack in Pulwama.

He said that by the time the video was released he would be in jannat (heaven).

As tensions between nuclear-armed India and Pakistan rose in the aftermath of the attack and Kashmir remained on edge, more details about Dar emerged. His story was disturbingly familiar.

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Image caption The 14 February attack was the deadliest against Indian security forces in decades

He grew up in Indian-administered Kashmir in Pulwama district where the attack occurred. Pulwama is part of the Anantnag constituency – the only seat in the Indian election that is voting over three different phases for security reasons, the last being on 6 May.

Dar was a high school dropout and had been doing odd jobs as a mason when his parents reported him missing in March last year.

He was 22, and, by all accounts, shy and quiet. His family say his anger against the Indian state grew after he was injured while participating in a protest against the killing of a popular militant in 2016.

Dar was one of thousands of Kashmiris who were born, and later died, in the shadow of the gun.

There has been an armed rebellion against Indian rule in Muslim-majority Kashmir since 1989. India blames Pakistan for fomenting violence in the region by supporting militancy – a charge Pakistan denies. Since 1989, Kashmir has been convulsed by regular episodes of violence that have killed more than 70,000 people, including many Kashmiri Hindus targeted by militants in the early 1990s.

Critics say India’s heavy-handed tactics have alienated local youths. A UN report on violence in the region between June 2016 and April 2018 pointed to excessive force used by Indian security personnel, including the firing of pellet guns that have blinded hundreds. India rejected the report and its findings.

“Kashmiris who were born after the 1990s have never seen peace,” says Abdul Ahad Bhat, 68, a resident of Pulwama. “They were born amid curfews and died before they ended.”

Mr Bhat says the Kashmir he remembers from before 1989 is a “dream” this generation has been denied.

Militancy in the valley had declined by the 2000s but grew again after the killing of young militant leader, Burhan Wani, in 2016. And it has been on the rise since – 2016 saw the deaths of 150 suspected militants and more than 230 died in 2018, according to official figures.

Wani was extremely active on social media. India considered him a terrorist but for many locals he represented a new Kashmiri generation. When he was killed in a gun battle with Indian security forces, protests engulfed the valley.

Dozens were killed and hundreds injured as security forces fired live rounds and tear gas at protesters. Many were also blinded by pellets. Adil Ahmad Dar, who took part in the protests, was shot in the leg and bedridden for 11 months.

“That day changed him,” says his father, Ghulam Hassan Dar, 62. “A shy boy transformed into a volcano of anger but he rarely expressed it.”

He, like other locals, believes many of the boys and men who protested at Wani’s killing joined the insurgency.

Adil Ahmad Dar spent more time praying and reading on the internet while recovering than mingling with his friends. He ran away from home to join the militants in March 2018.

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Image caption Burhan Wani’s killing in 2016 drew sympathy in the Kashmir valley

The family found out about his involvement in the attack when his uncle, Abdul Rashid Dar, received a call from police. He says he was horrified to learn that his nephew – under the alias Waqas Commando – was behind the attack.

Some in the family’s village, Gundibagh, react similarly.

One said Dar had hardly talked to anyone after his cousin, Manzoor, a suspected militant, was killed in June 2016.

Read more on Kashmir by Sameer Yasir

Others speak of his frustration with the political situation in Kashmir. “He was saddened by militants ‘dying like chickens’, without putting up a fight or inflicting casualties on the other side,” said Altaf, another relative, who arrived with hundreds of villagers to attend Dar’s funeral the day after the attack.

The support extended to the family is unsurprising given that many Kashmiris resent Indian security forces and accuse them of human rights violations. In the past few years, funerals of militants in south Kashmir have drawn large crowds.

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Image caption Relatives and neighbours in Dar’s house in Gundibagh

Jibran Ahmad, a Pulwama resident, says: “You become a militant in a police station or an army camp, not inside the four corners of your house.

“Many of those arrested by police in 2016 joined the militancy. Perhaps they thought it was better than being humiliated every day.”

Some of the men joining the militants recently have been highly educated and come from financially stable families. A federal minister told India’s parliament in December that at least 26 of these new militants in 2018 were graduates and he referred to them as “misguided youth”.

Why the death of militant Burhan Wani has Kashmiris up in arms

Why did 2018 see more violence in Indian-administered Kashmir?

Sushant Sareen, a senior fellow at the Observer Research Foundation, an independent think tank, says part of the problem is that violence is “glorified”.

“In most societies there is no social sanction given to people who indulge in violence. In Kashmir, however, there is social sanction – a certain amount of ‘coolness’,” he says.

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Image caption Kashmir has been racked by protests that often turn violent

He adds: “When stone pelting is happening, should the government hunker down and do nothing? When people pick up arms, should they do nothing?”

No army ever wants to fire on unarmed civilians, he says.

One policeman based in Kashmir who wished to remain anonymous says India’s approach has not worked. He said he did not want to be identified because he feared being rebuked by his superiors for speaking publicly about such a sensitive issue.

“When you kill one militant, two more are ready to join. Political outreach is important but in recent years we have focused on killing militants,” he says.

Author and counter-terrorism expert Ajai Sahni says India’s ruling Bharatiya Janata Party has demonised the valley and “created an enemy for the entire country” which may be a “successful election strategy but is disastrous for national security”.

In the days after Pulwama, sporadic incidents of harassment and violence were reported against Kashmiris in some north Indian cities.

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Image caption Funerals of suspected militants have drawn huge crowds in recent years

Tariq Hameed’s son returned home after being beaten up by a mob in Dehradun.

“My fear is, what now? My son has started hating India and Indians. He was not like that earlier,” he says.

Ghulam Hassan Dar says he does not want any child to follow his son’s path.

“I always knew him as my docile son,” Mr Dar says. “I wish I could explain how he turned into a human bomb.”

Divorce and anger

One of the biggest issues I have is dealing with my anger. I have anger at my Ex, anger at his family, anger at my parents, anger at my friends, anger at the justice system, anger at the Muslim community at large, anger towards my children when they can't stand up to their abusive father. I'm just so angry all the time. I keep it bottled up and sometimes it pops up at inappropriate times. Then I feel shame and guilt. I get angry with myself for not being stronger and getting "over it." Some examples of my anger: 1.) My Ex loved playing the victim. He'd whine about how broke he was (he kept his whole salary and mine) or how much he had to do (he'd write lists on tiny peices of paper and spend the entire weekend driving around while the kids and I sat at home). Even as we get to the end of our divorce...he likes to play the victim with the kids. I asked my older son how he felt about his father. He said, "I feel sorry for him. I know that's wrong, but I can't help it." I was shocked. After all the shit he put me and the kids through...my older son still had pity for him. While I was angry, I also had to understand that the Ex is still their father. My children have to go through life knowing that they have a deadbeat for a father. There's a lot to pity. Ex currently lives in his cousin's basement. He's almost 43 and has lost most of his retirement savings due to the divorce and lawyers. Although he does like to find ways to scam me out of my right. Example: He had his lawyer put in the rough draft of the divorce decree that we would split the proceeds from our home sale after he paid his lawyer. Uhhh...no. Nipped that in the bud right away. 2.) One of the things I noticed about my Ex was his odd and toxic relationship with his own family. In an earlier post, I mentioned how he and his brother, as children, watched pornography with their father. His mother would dig through our trash looking for used condoms. She also enjoyed bursting into our bedroom when she thought he and I were about to get intimate. On multiple occasions she stole mine and my children's underwear (after Ex moved out, I found our underwear in a side table. When Inwas at work, she would go though my personal items i y drawers and closet. She stole receipts (grocery and clothing, anything) and would taunt my Ex with money I spent on food and our children. Some of these receipts were several years old. Deep down he knew his mother was disgusting. This past Mothers' Day he put her on the MegaBus to Chicago with a bottle of water and a banana at 7:30 am. He wanted to play cricket and needed to dump her as early as possible. My Ex also had a very skewed understanding of sex and intimacy. My brother once remarked on how all these guys from the Middle East seemed to behave in very perverted ways due to being surpressed. My anger stems from being disgusted by his mother, but also anger from me not standing up for myself. His mother loved to play the victim. She would first deny she had done anything wrong, then start crying. Most of the time she would pull him into a room, close the door, and tell him about all the "crimes" I had committed throughout the day. This made him more angry and he'd come after me, verbally attacking me and sometimes throwing things at me. I visualize beating his mother to death. Torturing her. Forcing her to repent for her sins publicly. I know these are just fantasies. In the divorce decree, the Ex asked for 1/2 my wedding jewlery and everything he gave to me. State law is clear. He is not entitled to anything my parents gave me or any gifts (the few he gave me over 12 years ago) I received over our 15 year marriage. I can hear his greedy mother asking for things that don't belong to her. 3.) I have a lot of anger towards my parents. I was 22 and they pushed me to marry him. He needed a Green Card, they needed their daughter married. I feel like I was sold off to protect their reputations and enhance their social status. Early in our marriage, I was an intern at a local TV station. He would constantly accuse me of cheating on him. He accused of cheating on him when I was stuck in our apartment all day (I didn't get a car until a year later). So I left him. I moved back home and told my parents I couldn't live this way. I was being suffocated. He called 10-15 times a day. He called ny parents, begging and whining. They drove me back two weeks later. I got pregnant a short time later. I am angry when my mother nags me about getting married again. I'm not even divorced. Constantly asking me if I know any men. I was never allowed to date. How the Hell am I supposed to just start chatting up random men? I am angry when my mother tells me to be careful with money, but charges up my credit card with expensive groceries. I'm trapped because my father is paying most of my lawyers bills. I'm being suffocated by my own parents. I am angry when my father tells me to be strong and brave, but is too chickenshit to stand next to my kids during Eid prayers because he's afraid of the Ex. I'm also angry at myself for wanting this divorce to be over as soon as possible so I can get them out of my house. They chose bastard for me and that makes me so angry. 4.) All of my friends have been understanding. Surprisingly, my non-Muslim friends have been a wonderful source of support and comfort. These are people that are not related to me, but call/text me regularly to see if I'm ok. Some babysat my kids when I had meetings. One showed up to court for support. Her presence scared the shit out of the Ex and resulted in me getting a much better financial and child custody result. There is truly a place in Jannat for these wonderful people. My Muslim friends, while understanding, have taken a different approach. Most never reach out to me to ask if the boys and I are ok. One said that I should have stayed and just complied for the sake of my children. Several said I should just get over it, including one woman who went through a horrific divorce herself. One makes plans and cancels at the last minute. She happened to marry the Ex's best friend. He turned out to be abusive and thankfully she is now divorced. She doesn't have any kids so her process was much quicker. Not all my Muslim friends are like this. There is one that is absolutely wonderful and has been picking and dropping my kids from school for a year. She provides a shoulder to cry on and and her ear. She doesn't judge or give unsolicited advice. She's one of the good ones. But Muslim friend like her are far and few between. A silver lining is I'm a lot more selective about who I let into my life. I have to protect myself and my kids. More on anger in later posts.