This one time an anti joined our sleepy but still active server for a specific ship, quietly removed "proshippers dni" from their bio after looking our intros (we're mostly over 30 and openly SALS), demanded to be made a mod, completely refurbished the entire layout of the server (and did a great job!), ghosted the fandom for several months, added "proshippers dni" back into their profile, made a dramatic post on tumblr saying much the same thing, and then quietly left the server before deleting their blog entirely and rebuilding it with the exact same handle.

It's like someone broke into our home, demanded to be hired as housekeeper, cleaned our house, organised our paperwork, went outside, yelled at us to go away, and stomped off never to be seen again. The whole while we're just sitting in front of the sofa watching our stories, absolutely baffled by the whole thing but too polite and/or tired to say anything.

Definitely my peak JATs moment. 10/10 will huh??? again.

This is so fucking funny actually

Hey. You call all hate c.ai but I am using it the Right Way… by asking my beloved to tuck me into bed and read me a story…..

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I regret to inform the masses that the logic behind the "interracial relationships are problematic" boils down to "because a power dynamic is present, the more privileged person is OBVIOUSLY taking advantage of their partner and/or fetishistizing them", which I will grant does happen on an individual level occasionally irl (snowbunnies and asian fetish types), but like. where do I begin with this?

Let's start with: deciding you can't date someone based on race is racist at the very core

Also, there is nothing wrong with having a preference (liking Asian women, for example) so long as you understand that they are human beings who are just as deserving of respect as you are. Liking trans men doesn't automatically make someone a chaser but if the only reason that they like someone is they are trans and anything else is irrelevant to the attraction so long as the person is trans then yea thats a chaser. Just liking trans people and having that be the initial spark of interest isn't bad so long as you get to know them as a person other than their transness and then deciding from there if you want to be together with them is normal behavior.

Also, having fetishes isn't bad either. You can have a fetish for Hispanic chicks and only watch porn of Hispanic women, but so long as you treat the real life Hispanic women you meet with respect then why would it matter what fetishes you have. Stuff like this is only a problem when you treat people like sex objects and not living breathing human beings.

The thing that matters most is how you treat real people you interact with.

People on Twitter are complaining that Miguel from the spiderverse is being fetishized because he has a lot of porn drawn of him

While they also complained about how fandom never does this to white male characters which I’m sorry did they miss the once-ler craze?

Popular White male characters also get loads of porn drawn of them, such as Peter B in the last friggin spider verse movie

Something I've noticed a lot is that bkdk antis hate Bakugou for what he did as a child, which is already odd to me but understandable. However, (spoilers for MHA) Bakugou has sacrificed his life for Izuku multiple times, once even dying and needed to be resurrected. He also apologized which is something Antis used to point out he hasn't done yet.

Idk, it just makes me sad that he's clearly doing his best to atone and be better but they still judge him on his childhood mistakes.

Also, antis don't really have a leg to stand on. The thing they hate him for is telling Izuku to kill himself. Ya know the thing antis do to people they disagree with all the time. If Bakugo is irredeemable, so are they.

just “””””anti anti””””” things: “I’m proship, but loli/Shotacons are pedophiles!!”

ah! So you’re not proship

Yea, you see that a lot in pro yandere spaces, too, unfortunately.

Hey this is @blackheartbiohazards our blog has been termed. 😭 Just wanted to give you a heads up since I figured somebody in the community might ask your blog about where we vanished to.

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the age discourse has gotten so bad on tiktok I saw someone say they hate when autistic people sexualize themselves in any way because they “technically have the minds of children”

No. Just no. The clock app was a mistake

Literally shaking rn. My girlfriend just outed me as ethically non monogamous to my wife.

Wife refusing to talk to me. I can't imagine how she must feel.

To have the joyous news that we are free from monogamy tainted by my secondary's internalized polyphobia...

My heart hurts.

Someone asked how it's ethical if wife didn't already know:

because monogmany is unethical, two people in a loving relationship should assume each other is non monagous as it is our natural ethical state.

Other poly folk are tearing them to pieces in the replies but like. The fuck.

That's not ethical non monogamy. That's cheating.

Unfortunately there genuinely are toxic fujoshis who make all look bad by being genuinely misogynistic about female characters for "getting in the way" or simply existing

Shitty people exist in every circle. Like I'm not trying to dismiss but if you made a list of "there are toxic people in x group" the list would never fucking end. There are toxic people in lesbian circles, which doesn't mean I'm going to point fingers at all lesbians. There are toxic people in the trans community, that's not an excuse to be transphobic.

The fact that misogynistic fujoshis exist just mean that there are misogynist who enjoy BL that's the extent of it. If we want to solve the problem of bigotry in fandom we need to solve it in our everyday lives. Misogyny in fandom will not go away if we do not fight it in our real life circles and communities.

We shouldn't point fingers at whole groups over a few bad eggs. Generalizing, stereotyping, and strawmanning helps no one.

Mod Gatito. Can I just say that I adore your banner <3 - Ryou

Thank you. I change it every season, and I never use the same one twice. Here's all my past ones

Antis are so terminaly online they think a relationship between 19 and 17 yo is creepy. 2 YEARS AGE GAP. THEY MAY STILL BE LITERAL SCHOOLMATES! I beg you to go outside. But instead of touching grass take up some activities that involve meeting other people.

Yea, lmao, their heads would explode knowing in Korea a 4 year age gap with the male partner being older is considered lucky. As an older men enjoyer I love my husband who is 4 years older than me too. 2 years is nothing. Once you get to a certain age even 10 years doesn't feel all that significant. Life experience is vastly more important than age. Dating people my own age feels weird because they are more immature than I am since most of them left their parents houses later than I did so I ended up feeling like a parent every time I dated people my age. It's honestly funny how tone deaf age gap conversations become when it's people who meet at work/school/or hobby activities. Like clearly they have enough common ground to consider the relationship could work why would their age matter.

The ao3 discourse is still going on and 2 antis were so angry that we aren’t staying on our “weirdo lane” and think they get sued for copying the source code for ao3

Is this satire??? Because ao3 was MADE BY the “weirdos” who were sick of censorship under arbitrary rules and we stay in our “weirdo lane” and our spaces. Antis force themselves into our spaces!

they wouldn’t get sued for copying the source code, it’s open source after all 😭 they might get sued for copyright eventually but that’s not what they meant

seriously I don’t get it. They even used that “our space” meme in the wrong way, thinking we are intruding their space on a website made by and for “weirdos”

Ao3 is the weirdo lane lmao maybe they should build their own. Antis really are exhausting.

Mod Gatito, how did you tell that the white supremacy books anon was baiting? Because I couldn't and I'd like to know what signs to look for.

Signs to look out for? Hmmmm. So I wish I could explain this better but but books they listed are like fundamental white supremacist literature. Like they are books that if you read them are the stuff that their dog whistles are built from. The books themselves are dog whistles. They don't have signs they are and air horn.

you can be antiship and anti harassment

If you aren't actively campaigning to stop the harrasment, doxxing, suicide baiting, and the missuse of terms, you aren't anti harrasment you're complicit in it. And not once have I seen an anti speak out against the harrasment their own side perpetuates. Are you actually anti harrasment or are you just ignoring the harrasment you side commits while not "participating" in it yourself? I have no respect for cowards who try and pretend they have the moral high ground.