“If I respond to bad behaviour with love, doesn’t that reward the behaviour I don’t want?” Society has taught us that love is conditional; a reward for palatable behaviour. With Responsive Parenting we work to change this perspective so our children can experience unconditional love. Rather we see punishment as having risks of consequences, especially when expressions of love are revoked as punishment. It’s about no longer seeing love as a reward, but rather the oldest and most natural emotional regulation tool on earth. J. Milburn So how do you do this with a toddler whose primary goal is to seek autonomy? It can be challenging. Get our Toddler Workshop Series through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting to learn everything you need to know about the practice of Responsive Parenting with toddlers. This workshop series is done in your own time ❤️ #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #toddlers #toddlerlife #unconditionallove #empathymatters #tantrums #toddlertantrums #holdingspace #timein #lovewillconquerall #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #respondwithlove https://www.instagram.com/p/CVy1eYmrHYu/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Building a #sandman ⛄️ at the beach was our favorite holiday activity this season! What was yours? We love spending time together and play all day long! Cozy outfit & lounge set👇 http://liketk.it/34EIl Shop my daily looks by following me on the LIKEtoKNOW.it shopping app @liketoknow.it #liketkit #LTKNewYear #LTKfamily #StayHomeWithLTK #qualitytimematters #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #keepgoingevenwhenyouwanttoquit #love #play #bepositive #holidayseason #beachtime #playtime #loungeset #mamasboy💙 #mommyandherboy #momlife #momsofinstagram #anayanj #adventuremom #notboringmoms (at The Island Ft. Walton Destin by Hotel RL) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJTRy1Bglaq/?igshid=e50g6xhckr02

#parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Boston, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7V2TRklFrA/?igshid=1mdq5mv5qieay

Very few people....very few. But so grateful they are in my life. #rare #grateful #lovewithoutjudgement #unconditionallove #loveyourchildrenunconditionally (at Oakville, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7Lc2x2nPtmYvvz6b7uoCjZhAnxbJTxcLwNcIM0/?igshid=15af07wwf5z8t

So True ... I had a Horrendously Traumatic Childhood... #survivor #metoo ... Childhood Sexual Abuse, Gang Rape & An Severe Eating Disorder since Age 11... but I went on to not only Complete a Masters Degree in Registered Nursing and Health Sciences.... but I graduated with Honours. Unfortunately due to My Anorexia Nervosa I only worked for 4 years & Casual Work here and there but at least I have achieved something in my life . And in light of what happened a week ago today, something do horrific that I’m severely depressed, sad, Mad at the World 🌍... hopefully I will get there. I’m at the My Psychiatrists right now waiting . Because I have lapsed back into that Anorexic Vortex Again!! I will wait and see what he has to say, and what he recommends 💯. #18weekspregnant #latetermmiscarriage #beyonddevastated #protectchildren #kidsdeserveachance #anorexia #anorexiafighter #anorexiafight #edrecovery #eatingdisordersurvivor #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #loveyourchildrennomatterwhat 💯🥺🇦🇺❤️ (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwGBWp_n4TDB1L6ldlabSOoBAwsJ0_fQBdk0uU0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=q59fhv3343of

#nofilter I love you! I’m glad you picked me to be your mother out of all the millions...what an honor #daughters #ilovemydaughter #lovequotes #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #love #fashion #entrepreneur #mentorship #mentorshipmatters #africanamericandesigner #newdesigners #kentstateuniversity #fashionblogger #fashionweek #fashionweek2018 #actorswithdayjobs https://www.instagram.com/p/BqVLxdCFE-K/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1th9u0ttm9lrc

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Yes and relinquish the thoughts of the ego that desires to control and manipulate every aspect of their lives. Give them the space and freedom to make whatever decisions they need to make to discover who they are and what they are supposed to become. There is already one of us in this world so we have to let our children be who they want to be. Or did we create them to satisfy some of our own unmet needs? #parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Plymouth, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7RsdKSFsSI/?igshid=1lywnz9r0n1e7

Great question to see how our children view others and what they value. #parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Złocieniecki Ośrodek Kultury - ZOK - Kino MEWA) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6iswRZlFAw/?igshid=1w2pwfk4fviu4

When our children express anger we shouldn’t deny them the freedom to unleash their emotions. That is what they are feeling and they need to let it out. Our job as parents is to allow them to have that moment then regroup after they have cooled off and offer our support in any way we can. We can coach them or control them but we can’t do both.🤘#parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Boston, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6EtwwsFSCN/?igshid=11izrz7sg19mk

#parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Revere, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6EC4dqFKEm/?igshid=fxjsdwmt6c0n

#parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Boston, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6BrVNlFB5k/?igshid=514rodhl3fxb

#parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Plymouth, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B5G289LlTp5/?igshid=1luq9yotzsguv

Join Barbara and I this Friday for an hour of fun and discussions about life, parenting and relationships. We took a break last week to remember our son Richie’s birthday on Sunday. All our love to our angel. This weeks episode is dedicated to your two beautiful boys Matthew and Richie. So join us and bring your challenges and let us help you on your journey in life. 😇 #parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Starbucks) https://www.instagram.com/p/B5GE6gkF0Vn/?igshid=15p3f00ym6p51

Sometimes as parents we need to step back and allow our children to fulfill their own journey in this world. Let them take control of their destiny. Allow them to make mistakes and learn life lessons, curtail the need to burden their world with our fears. Take a chilax pill and exhale and let some things go and stop rewarding so much for expected behavior. Can we identify any of these things being done to us by our parents? Now we are projecting them onto our own children? They are here to live their own life and we are just a passenger on their trip to love, guide, Mentor and support them. We are not supposed to have our hands on their wheel. That would make anyone angry and frustrated. So let go of the wheel now and again and see them begin to live their lives. You can love them or control them but you can’t do both. ❤️ #parentingteens #loveyourgirls #loveyourchildrenunconditionally #growingupwithstrictparents #stressedparents #sadparents #parentingteensishard #parentingtips #momstruggles #dadstruggles #mommystress #lovemykidsforever #teenagerstruggles #trueparents #parentingcoach #parentwithoutfear #parentwithpurpose #parentsupport #singleparents #divorcedparents #stepmumlife #stepmomadvice #parenteducation #presentparent #stepmama #singlemomjourney #momofboysandgirls #nonstopmama #positiveparentingsolutions #respectfulparenting (at Boston, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/B42zsvtFrTQ/?igshid=1fboaiw3hnwmi