When I’m in a hair pulling and choking competition and my opponent is Michael Kaiser:
In all seriously what’s going on with him
Ah yes Choking yourself while thinking about your enemy .. who’s only your enemy and nothing else… there’s no any other type of tension between you both except for hate .. totally totally
Get my Boy Ness out of there ( … knowing Ness … he probably likes it)
This is the second time someone has ever pulled Isagi’s hair ( if I’m remembering correctly) idk why people keep manhandling him
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OKAY so the only thing I want to say about yesterday's spoilers (Ness backstory) is that borderliner* Ness is canon now lol
✅ explosive anger
✅ feeling neglected, alone, misunderstood most of the time
✅ low self-esteem and the resulting self-hatred
✅ strong, overwhelming emotions
(feelings that can't be explained == too high (for average person) bursts of them. Inability to handle them)
✅ black and white thinking
(Isagi's either good (tosses to Kaiser) or bad (doesn't toss to Kaiser) lol)
✅ fear of abandonment + self-harm
✅ very intense, frequent, extreme emotional swings
(difference of one second)
(difference of one second pt.2)
✅ maladaptive daydreaming
✅ determining one's value through relationships with others
✅ unstable relationships
I'm really disappointed that chapter haven't shown Ness' attempts to gain his parents and siblings love but, eh, okay. I can work with that
*
A little background on who people with borderline personality disorder are and where do they come from.
(Of course, each case is unique. I'm talking about the average manifestation of the disorder here.)
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a type of personality disorder in which a person is unstable, hypersensitive, highly anxious, and has no sense of self (no feeling of identity). One in ten patients end up committing suicide.
In fact, borderliners are people with no emotional skin. What for a stable person is a small domestic nuisance - for a borderliner is boundless terror, fear, a complete sense of helplessness and overwhelming self-loathing. Are you sick? It's your fault, you're worthless. You forgot your pass and had to buy an underground ticket? You're disgusting, step under a train right now. You forgot the food in the fridge and it spoilt? Don't you dare eat for another three days, punish yourself, cut yourself because you're nothing. That's not an exaggeration, it's true. And then you see an advert with a doggy and you laugh until you cry and all is fine.
It's like that dozens of times in one day.
Why do borderliners work this way? Heredity plays a role (which in Ness's case can be seen, for example, by the fact that he reacted acutely to some things even as a child), but to a greater extent, of course, the family, because when BPD is treated in the early stages, it is more easily reduced to remission (but does not disappear completely - it is like the core of the personality). Speaking of family types, typically borderliners come out of families with a narcissistic parent or the same borderline. Why exactly is that the case?
Because life with a narcissist/borderliner parent is an endless battlefield in which the child is forced to survive. Any emotion you have, if it doesn't fall under the parent's incomprehensible ideas, is repulsive. Any request you make and attempt to speak your mind is a violation of all laws and the worst offence. Today you're the golden child, tomorrow you're trash. Today your mom says she loves you, and tomorrow she blames you for divorcing your dad. Today dad likes the tea you made him, tomorrow he'll throw it in your face. It's a constant violation of personal space, an inability to have privacy, an impossibility to defend your interests - and yet a staggering neglect, a removal of the child from your life. Parents in such families usually divide their children into "golden" and "outcast" children, emphasising in every possible way how terrible the lousy sheep of the family (the outcast child) is, and encouraging bullying by their siblings.
Sounds similar to Ness's story, doesn't it?
In such families, the child by the age of 6 or 7 already knows that he is disgusting, horrible, and must do anything to avoid being abandoned - because the parents emphasise in every possible way that he is horrible, but they (for now) keep him out of mercy. A child learns by the slightest movement of the eyebrows and corner of the mouth to know when mom loves you and when she hates you, when dad is good and when he's bad.
The childhood of such children is a battlefield, and they come out of it emotionally disabled. For example, a very common consequence of living in such a family, in addition to BPD, is PTSD. Yeah, like war veterans.
(and by the way, borderliners VERY often end up paired with… Narcissists. Because it's a familiar love-hate game. And on top of that, also a beautiful (non-existent) personality to take a bite out of for your non-existent self))
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(if it seems like I'm somehow writing about borderline disorder a bit too unkindly - I love Ness and sympathise with him. It's me whom I don't love lol)
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Pairs in Blue Lock that are practically canon
BachiSagi = Bachira looking fondly at Isagi in that one panel and him saying “I love you/aishiteru” to Isagi in his head
NagiReo = these two have their own shoujo manga
RyuSae = the whole u-20 arc is them flirting with each other
And the latest pair to the list, KaiNess = Ness being the one who did Kaiser’s hair and calling the dye a beautiful blue (similar to how “The moon is beautiful, isn’t it?/Tsuki ga kirei desu ne?” is a poetic way of saying “I love you” in Japanese)
Blue Lock’s acronym is literally BL. This should be a shounen ai
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Ness growing up in a home devoid entirely of art or magic or belief in anything other than rationality and fact VS Bachira growing up in a home where that was ALL that surrounded him every waking moment really puts Kaiser and Ness' relationship into a different perspective than just "They're a parallel to Bachira and Isagi". And while I do think that is true whole heartedly, I also think that Kaiser and Ness together are supposed to tell a different story than Bachira and Isagi's friendship.
Bachira wanted to join Blue Lock because he wants to find someone else on his level who will finally be able to play perfectly with him, a second half who knows all the plays he wants to pull off and vice versa. And Ness wanted to stick beside Kaiser because he's desperately looking for someone else who understands his love of soccer, even though it's grounded in the irrational. He wants someone else to hold the same level of passion for this game that he does, because he's grown up surrounded by family that hate anything that's not scientific.
Their reasons for playing soccer are so different, but so similar at the same time because at their core both of them just want someone to understand them better. But where they differ is that Bachira doesn't have the same level of obsession and need to hold onto just one person forever, where as Ness has never had the chance to even make a friend like Kaiser before so he's willing to do anything to get him to stay, and put up with any kind of behavior.
And Kaiser himself is like Isagi in so many ways that he doesn't even realize it. The way Isagi plays most of the game in his head is similar to Kaiser who's always thinking about the game constantly and how to best win, but where THEY differ is that Kaiser is focused on trying to make himself shine more compared to the other players, and Isagi wants to score. And rather than keep his thoughts to himself he uses Ness as a springboard for those ideas, where as Isagi is just alone and has to piece that puzzle together himself with his mind.
Not to mention that Kaiser is a bit of a showman when it comes to his plays, that he not only is focusing on scoring but just how to do that in the most critical moments is a lot different from Isagi who sets up every goal from the jump. (this was insane of him btw)
Kaiser and Ness are not only a parallel to Bachira and Isagi, but a warning of what they could've been had things been different. A different perspective of seeing the same story of "friendship" but with a new level of obsession than the one Bachisagi have. They both depend on one another.
Ness needs Kaiser to reassure him constantly that they can do the impossible in soccer (and he goes out of his way to make that magic happen however he can) and Kaiser needs Ness to reassure his own ego that the magic he's making is even worth looking at.
They're two messed up codependent weirdos and I want to put them in a blender (affectionate) In a sense, their relationship shows the "downsides" to the Mutual Obsession that Bachira and Isagi have for each other.
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