gunwook ➜ tomboy

help idk how to communicate my needs and desires through anything but vague smoke signals and occasional passive aggressiveness !!!!!

Hi I hope this isn't random but I need to vent and you seem like a good person to vent to. I'm a gay guy but I personally identify as non-binary and even tho my mom is open minded (to an extent) she says the whole "there's only 2 genders" & "kids these days are just trying to be edgy and different". She gets mad when I get upset over the things she says. Yes I am impressionable but when it comes to gender it's always been a confusing topic to me and I'm just trying to find my way.

hi love !! this ended up gettin super long lol srry  !! under a rm so i dont clutter every1s dash w/this thesis essay lmaoo

 i def kno how u feel abt her being open minded but only to an extent :( its rlly hard when ur parents dont understand or accept a big part of ur identity and it can be really painful ik :( what ive learned is that honestly there r some things that ppl will just refuse 2 understand or accept and thats their fault and not at all yours. i kno its hard but my advice is to try not having those conversations w her !! if the topic starts turning 2smth u kno may start an argument- try2 redirect the convo and talk abt something else because in the end if someone is unwilling to have their opinion changed, u wont be able to change it !! &it only hurts you!!! trust me im speaking from experience here i would get itno (and tbh i still!! slip up smtimes!!) screaming matches w my dad abt my mental health or his behaviour and his opinion never changed!! and i honestly just have to accept that and just bite my tongue as much as it hurts and may bleed because i know that no matter what i say we just end up running in circles !! ive found that if the topic doesnt come up then it doesnt happen and it may feel like shit like u have 2 hide a huge part of u from some1 u care abt and u kno cares abt u but it saves u sosososososo much pain i promise. ur gender experience is /yours/ and no one elses!!! YOU are the person who knows u best and if u found a label that works for you, then your own approval is really all u need !!!!! i really hope this helps, even just a little bit!!! trust me when i say i know almost exactly how u feel and i rlly hope thinngs get better 4 u !!!!! sending u alllllllllllllll my love💞💞💞❣️