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#i rb’d a post about it earlier today lol
journen · 2 years
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how did you get into art/get so good! i feel like every time i try it's a huge flop and i despair that i will never be able to draw anything original
Hey anon! Thank you for the question! This is gonna be a long post but i’ll trap some of it under a read more lol. So sorry for the essay in advance!! And i also wanted to say, when i saw your message i immediately thought of this post. Its v accurate and true.
So anyhow… got into art mostly when I was 11… I really liked the game Zelda Skyward Sword lol, and started trying to come up with and illustrate my own original zelda stories, etc… (not that they were any good i was a kid haha🤣) and then I ended up doing this for other fandoms i got into in the future! And so i just kept drawing? I always have a million story ideas in my head, and drawing is my way to get them out of my head and see it as an illustration lol. I didn’t actually start taking it seriously until 2019 tho. It took a long time, and theres still a million more things i can learn and improve at, progress can be slow but my main advice is to…
Draw what inspires you, especially when you are starting off! And especially if it’s just a hobby! Because the key to improving, is to just keep drawing. You will not improve in any other way. And having fun with it is so important! And you mentioned being concerned your work has to be super original…if you think originality will get you success - you are kinda drawing for the wrong reasons I think. Try to have fun with it first, and you will find your original style as you go and improve.
Anyhow, improvement can take a long time, and if you’re like me, you’re always going to think your stuff isn’t good enough and you should be better, but you can’t let that get you down because otherwise you will give up, and we are better than that right?
More under the cut!
And you mentioned your work “flopping” - don’t judge your worth / skill over how many notes something you did gets! 🥺 This is the social media curse lol. The amount of attention your work gets is not an absolute measure of your skill whatsoever. Try to learn to draw for your own enjoyment, and not compare yourself to others because we all have different levels of experience and different things we are good at. I understand the despair feeling tho lol, but if you get bogged down by the negatives you will never improve. 💛
Oh! And as you go, the more you improve, then you can start doing more fine tuned studies(like environment/anatomy/lighting studies) but using reference is always good too when you are drawing! I never draw without ref lol, but maybe that’s the concept artist in me. Drawing is hard work tho and you end up having to put the work in if you really want to improve eventually, but if you draw what inspires you then it doesn’t feel like as much work as it is. 😉
Anyhow, sorry for the essay! I just have a lot of passionate thoughts on this topic. Thank you for the question anon! Idk if this helped at all, or was interesting, but yeah!! 💛💛 Please keep drawing and don’t give up! And feel free to reach out if you have any questions in the future!
Heres one of my fav memes as a treat for reading this whole post
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lesbiankermit-moved · 6 years
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yknow what ive been trying to utilize and i wanna like. try harder with too? is saying Thank You instead of I’m Sorry. like i’ll just see my father doing the dishes and immediately feel guilty and jump to say “i’m so sorry i should have done those earlier” and lead myself to a mental spiral of “i’m too adhd/depressed to even do basic tasks > i’m not productive > i’m worthless” when its not even slightly a big deal
and instead it’s like you can just. say thank you. even “thank you so much for doing the dishes, i totally meant to get to those today” is better
especially bc i have mental health related issues but also blended with like. being a Woman issues with apologizing. yknow the thing of women often capping what we say with “i’m sorry”, “if that makes sense”, etc, and feeling like we’re always talking too much. too loud, taking up more space than a woman should. all that bullshit we internalize.
and like i’ll talk about my current ADHD driven hyperfocus and be very estatic and into it and talk w/o breathing for a minute... u know how adhd be. and then i feel, who knows if its even true lol, but i feel like the person must be annoyed or bored or begrudgingly Dealing with me.
and thats not something to apologize for either. like i Don’t need to be saying “sorry i talk too much, sorry i’m weird, sorry if x special interest is boring or annoying”, and i don’t need to say “thank you for dealing with me” bc i used to do that and it’s like not any better, it’s still putting yrself down for being excited n saying you’re something to Deal with.
it’s better to just say “thank you for listening, i love talking to you, etc.” - and then maybe yknow, also asking what they’ve been up to, because i’m too used to only having other autistic/adhd friends where we all just take turns infodumping to each other lmao
idk i’m mostly talking to myself here but! it’s a good behavior i think and i wanna work on it, and including more positive behaviors in my every day life in general. because every time i try to be self deprecating in a kinda humorous way to cope or anything, it inevitably circles back to just. being self deprecating and putting myself down for literally every single thing i do.
and then the other thing is like, when i do that i’m hurting other people too i think not just me. like if i were to do the dishes for someone as a nice thing and they reacted by apologizing and getting overwhelmed and upset and whatever, i’d probably be like well fuck i feel bad for helping them now since it made them feel bad.
idk if that makes sense but like ?? u know what i mean. i’m just worried it’s a negative behavior that’s negatively impacting Everyone i interact with, not just me. and i wanna apologize genuinely when i hurt people obviously, but like tht post i rb’d a bit ago said, self deprecation does not a good apology make.
so idk i just wanna. be more conscious of myself and others!!!! i wanna take care of the people in my life and let them know they mean a lot to me, i don’t wanna apologize for everything as a weird self victimization thing, and if/when i do upset the people i love i wanna say sorry and not have it feel meaningless bc it’s the 80th time i’ve said it that day yknow?
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