#gender shit is so hard to work out even when you arent an internation fucking icon so like idk lets let him have his space
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I'm vagueposting a lil bit but I'm feeling just a little uncomfy seeing some folks in the fandom explicitly calling Gerard she/her, girl, a woman, etc. Like believe me I get it!!! I see it too!! They CLEARLY have a LOT of gender going on. And YEA, he said that thing about not identifying with masculinity and feeling closer to a female gender at one point. I love that for them!! They've always been a gnc icon and their lyrics are dripping with gender!! But idk, so far he's said his pronouns are he/they so I'm gonna use that.
Like don't get me wrong. They got VIBES. I would not be surprised at all if they were trans. I would lose my absolute shit. I would go bananas. I would wake my neighbors screaming. I would get that tattoo I've had in my head.
But all that said, I dunno, using pronouns he hasn't claimed and calling them a girl, like. I get it. Not tryna stop you. But until they say something about their gender that clarifies one thing or another, it's like a headcanon about a real person. I just feel weird about it.
#honestly if i missed something let me know#i love Gerard's work and their vibes and they're VERY gender#like if theyve said some more gender shit than i know about id love to read about it#but i guess my point is it feels rude to speculate beyond what theyve said publicly#gender shit is so hard to work out even when you arent an internation fucking icon so like idk lets let him have his space#or honestly maybe I'm overreacting I'm not tryna piss in anyone's cornflakes here#just like. makes me a little uncomfy. thats my statement. not gonna distance myself from anyone over it#mcr
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i am literally begging people to stop putting sexism and transphobia on my dashboard please fucking think critically abt ur internal biases for 5 secconds and please accept even an ounce of critisism without assuming that someone is attacking you unfairly
alot of you have extremely sexist beliefs that you dont recognize because within social media as a whole these are incredibly normalized, covering blatent homophobia and misandry in tumblr buzzwords doesnt make you not sexist it just lets you be sexist and homophobic and transphobic in a way that is socially acceptable and incouraged within a queer centric space
i keep seeing posts talking abt how people actively like artwork (writing, photography, drawings) more when they find out its of a butch lesbian and not just a dude, and like, if your opinion on a peice of media can change solely based on the gender of the person being depicted by it, with zero change to the character, then that implies an inharent bias against men like, just because its men doesnt mean it isnt sexism
same thing where people think that media depicting gay men is better when it explicitly isnt written by a gay man, like that implies a fundimental disrespect of the work based on the sexuality and gender of the author. if you like an artwork but then you find out its written by a trans women, and all of a sudden you think its garbage, you are transphobic, but when people try to point this same bias out for the works of queer men this is largely written off.
i know ppl will argue abt punching up and whatnot, and while i do in some ways agree with that overall sentiment, i think that we should be striving to uh, not be sexist at all, rather then just being misandrists instead of mysogenists, like, if you only care about sexism when it hurts women/women ajacent people then you dont actually hate sexism you just want it to harm a different group of people, you dont hate the system you just want to be ontop of it and benifit from it
misandry and mysogeny present in different ways, they arent a directly comparable thing, different people have things worse in different ways so its rlly hard to take a group and say "this group has it worse", like yes generalizations like that can help in an extremely broad sense, but the world is not black and white and this kind of shit is mindnumbingly complex, trying to act like there is some kind of objective scoreing system for who is more oppressed then who is just unproductive and harmful
and moreover, someone having it worse then you doesnt make you less deserving of trying to make your situation better, i dont experience racism and in many many many ways i have it easier then poc people, that does not make me undeserving of support and that doesnt make me complaining or trying to better my situation unreasonable
we can care abt the lives and want to better the situation of different groups simoltaniously, we dont have to stop caring about racism because we want to better transphobia
i get that transwomen have it rlly bad and i do not experience the exact same struggles as them, and therefore cant comment on alot of them, but so often i see erasure of queer men in order to give more focus to transwomen, and just because trans girls go through alot of shit doesnt make that ok
one thing that people have to recognize about misandry and specifically transmisandry that you dont really have to see as much with its mysogeny counterparts is that they have far more attention and people care far more about activism for queer women/women in general, queer mens experience and specifically the transmasc experience is very very very often erased and written off even by supposedly trans friendly and queer sorces, people care more about butch lesbians then they do trans men dispite the insane ammount of overlap between the two groups, when researching about historical butch lesbians alot of them are just, trans guys that people are misgendering and mislabeling as butch lesbians because ooooo woemennnnn
being transmasc myself i can say that like, the erasure of trans men is an extremely large issue, for large swaths of history the experiences of trans people arent paid attention to at all, and even looking at media coverage today, if people are going to talk abt transgenderism they are talking about it specifically under the lens of trans women
this is largely because misandry (specifically, people thinking that having cock and ball makese u somehow predatory) makes trans women an easier punching bag, trans women get more attention because they are easier for radfems (misandrists) to be bigoted against in a more violent way, if you assume all men and amab people are violent and predatory by nature then this makes justifying violence against trans women easier
and yea being a punching bag for the media is fucking hard but it does mean that activism for that group is much much much louder, more people are complaining about trans women so more people know abt the specific issues they face
but dispite trans men yaknow, also existing and recieving a shit ton of transphobia and erasure over history they dont get talked about as much, people hate us and are violent twards us but we dont nessasarily get the same outrage for our treatment
trans men are just as often get the dismissal for being women, and the outrage for being men as trans women do we just dont get as much support and thats really difficult! often people seek to treat transmasculinism as some kind of new thing like, i get the comment often that "usually its boys that wanna be girls" and its like, no. its not. its simply that people care less about us
i think that its really easy to misenterpret me here so im gonna just get this out of the way, i dont think that women have it easier then men in a broad socital sense, but also, i dont nessasarily believe that means that my complaints are invalid, being a queer woman is not a walk in the park, and neither is being a queer man, and both groups experience homophobia transphobia and sexism in different ways, so acting as if saying one is objectively worse then the other is unfair and reductive
i think that if we want to get anywhere in regards to making it easier to be trans then we need to talk about all queer experiences, you cant just, only care about trans women you have to care about all trans people, and moreover queer people in general, this means you HAVE to be vigilant about people wrapping up sexism in a tumblr buzzword packadge, you need to consume things critically and you are not immune to pipelines, people dont just wake up and become radfems you get continually fed more and more extreme idologies, being fed things that you 90% agree with untill you eventually become completely removed from the groups you were supposed to stand with
you can care about the oppression of multiple groups at once, and if you think activism in any way involves the erasure of a certain group then you have fundimentally misunderstood what youre supposed to be doing, queer men exist and they deserve support and respect and you need to be able to support and respect them without being like "ohh she is soooooo trransfemme coded" like. men can be queer and still be men, they can be queer and still deserve your love and support, i am begging.
also yes i am aware that outside of my specific experience of tumblr people fuckin hate trans girls and women in general and they dont feel the need to do this shit. but that doesnt mean what im talking about is not an issue and is not something that people need to change and address. if you find urself doing this shit you have got to reflect on yourself, you arent immune to transphobia or homophobia or sexism ESPECIALLY if you think that you somehow are magically immune. nobody is. no identity is. everybody is suseptible to this shit and it takes active critical thinking in order to combat it
#the beast speaks#i keep seeing this shit on my dash crying screaming throwing up i am begging people to get even a single ounce of reading comprehension#i get this is the piss on the poor webbed site but i try to have hope in humanity and every day i am disapointed further#retchid opinions
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Plesse tell me about queerness in the get down!!
okay okay queerness in the get down let's fuckn goooo
disclaimer: I havent watched this show in full for like 5 months at least, probably gonna get something wrong and/or forget some more important bits. also this wasnt proof read I just word vomited
tws: period typical homophobia, abuse mention, f slur use, bury your gays trope, overdose mention, mention of a creepy possible age gap (the age gap hasnt been confirmed so that's why its possible), cops
going from least to most prominent queer characters, let's start with mylene cruz!
so, from the beginning of this show she has an established romantic relationship with ezekiel (although the status of their actual relationship changes frequently throughout the show) and though this was a relationship she was hesitant to pursue, it is clear that she does have romantic feelings for him and if not for them both having growing careers in very different music genres (zeke specifically working in a genre that she repeatedly labels as bad because she thinks they're ruining records + that it isnt real music because they're using someone elses piece and rapping over it, that's not really important here tho lol) they probably wouldve had a much healthier, smooth sailing romance. that being said theres a few things that happen in the show that, while not explicitly clear, or even really good coding at that—to the point where you wont catch if you really arent looking for it (and trust me, I always look for coding, hers was just so little that it flew over my head until I saw someone else mention it)—are still cool to think about!
so, for starters, I wanna mention the toy box performance, which was performed by mylene and regina, who are best friends. that's all cool and shit, and you dont really think much about it...until you hear about the fact that the show runners purposely colored a lot of the scenes in that performance with the bi colors. like. the writers after the show ended basically said "oh yeah there was plans to make her coding more explicit, but our shit got cancelled soooo" and then dropped the fact that she was gonna be bi (or at least implies bi) in the series, which puts a new twist on a few things.
now, besides the bi coloring in the background of the toy box performance (which was mostly on scenes with her and regina, which involved a lot of uh,, lowkey lewd dancing. with each other. in very revealing outfits. wooooo), there's her music! I dont tend to read too much into this one bc, like I said before, her coding is fucking light and the writers themselves said they didnt really get to do much with it, but I think some stuff with her music is interesting. specifically how her, yolanda and regina's song set me free blew up because dizzee, resident (lowkey enby coded) bicon, got their song played in a queer club. also that the song was majorly important to dizzee and started playing literally right as he kissed a boy for the first time and realized "oh shit I like boys that's bonkers". also that the song can be taken in a gay way since literally the entire thing is about becoming your true self, fully and unapologetically, which is what both dizzee and mylene's entire character arcs are about. dizzee (and a lot of other queer people, apparently), heard this song about being set free and it resonated with them so much that they got that shit most of its popularity.
speaking of dizzee and mylene, they parallel each other a lot in the way that their arcs are about them realizing who they are, coming into themselves and no longer just letting people treat them like shit in a sense (dizzee starting to tell people essentially that they can call him weird all they want, they can make fun of how he acts, what he likes, how he dresses, etc. but he likes how he is and quite literally saying "it's okay to be an alien" as he has consistently compared himself to one throughout the show vs mylene learning that if she wants to be a disco singer she needs to put her foot down, not let anyone, not even the love of her life, not even her abusive father, stop her from achieving her dreams, etc. and continuing to pursue her career with or without their support). one more little parallel that I think is interesting is during I think s2 towards the end of the show is when dizzee and thor are shown together having fun with each other, painting all over the building and each other and are basically just being happy and in love together and then they have these clips of them being interspersed with clips of mylene at a party where she is starting to realize that if she wants to get anywhere she needs to be her own main priority and that she needs to put her career and her dream, which is what makes her the happiest, above all else if she wants to succeed. idk I just think how the show made these two into a weird parallel, accidental or not, is neat. maybe not an explicitly queer parallel, but I think at least how her music and whatnot helped dizzee, the main queer character in this show, blossom, is important.
moving on we got shaolin fantastic also known as "oh no your internalized homophobia is showing-"
so, heres a quick list of...interesting shao facts:
Consistently referred to as fag/faggot (shaolin fanfaggot is my personal favorite); he gets really defensive about this despite nobody actually thinking he's queer, it's just people being assholes to be assholes, and he is the only character consistently referred to using a slur, especially a homophobic one, especially for a "straight" character. dizzee, a canonically queer character, is called a fag less than shaolin is even though dizzee actively goes to gay clubs, has a not so secret dude he "hangs out with" and wont let anyone properly meet, paints his nails, wears less than straight clothes even by the 70s standards and is just all around the definition of fucking queer (and I mean like in the weird way, not the gay way). in fact theres only like once I can remember him being called a fag and it had nothing to do with him actually being gay it was literally just like thrown out there the same way you would call someone a bitch.
Has only shown sexual interest in women, yet refuses to have deeper relationships with women in general (possibly because of trauma but who knows) but takes his relationships with his "brothers", specifically zeke, very seriously
Tells zeke and zeke ONLY his real name when zeke was planning to stop being his friend bc shao more or less got boo boo, a like 14 year old black kid, arrested for selling hard drugs; he was clearly scared and trying to do anything to keep zeke around, literally chasing him down the street and hounding him until he got zeke to stop and argue with him
Kept threatening to beat up zeke in the end but couldn't actually bring himself to do so, instead saying that zeke is "fucking lucky" before walking away
Let's zeke get away with things that nobody else can, in general just has a weird soft spot for ezekiel that he shows with nobody else
when shao found dizzee with thor in a vaguely compromising situation (like they were just shirtless covered in paint sleeping next to each other but shao had also seen everything they painted on the walls ((which some of it was sus)), it was clear they had painted on each others bodies and dizzee had been routinely disappearing with this guy for weeks now yet not producing nearly as much art, at least, as far as we audience members know) he didnt judge him but instead, waited for him to get cleaned up and then told him something along the lines of "theres a reason why im so secretive blah blah blah [not everyone needs to know everything about me]", which, in context, kinda implies that he might be a lil. a lil homiesexual. jus a lil.
whenever even the possibility of zeke leaving him comes up he absolutely loses it. he has literally cost ezekiel life changing opportunities because he thought zeke would just up and leave him for them. this could be abandonment issues bc he's a severely traumatized character, and that probably does contribute to it, but it also is just not a reaction he has to any of their other friends just randomly dipping in and out of his life soooooo
generally speaking, this mfer has got either bisexual with a big hard on for zeke coding or homosexual with terrible internalized homophobia and still a hard on for zeke coding. either fucking way, that nigga gay. he gay as hell. gay as fuck man. there wasn't really much to analyze here tbh bc the coding is just so fucking obvious if you look for it or you are/have been a gay person who's dealt with at least a little bit of internalized homophobia.
also, just a sidenote, idk how fucking old shao, but I'm praying hes like at max 19 bc I'm pretty sure zeke is a minor in this show and shao definetly is not so the whole him being heavily implied to have a crush on ezekiel thing is kinda. oof. not oof if zeke is like 17 but any younger than that? OOF.
edit: apparently the characters are only supposed to be a year apart in age but i had no clue about that before writing this post and since shaos age was never actually stated in the show i naturally assumed he was an adult since his actor Looks Like An Adult. this is definetly on me to a certain extent, but i also never saw anything about this when trying to find our their ages so 🤷♀️ maybe i just didnt look deep enough, sorry!
now moving on to the main event...marcus dizzee kipling :]
so, first things first, let's talk enby coding bc him being bisexual was already confirmed!
um, to start off, I just wanna say I dont think this enby coding was intentional or even really coding, it's just moreso me being a dizzee kin on main and knowing as a transmasc enby he has very transmasc enby vibes. for example:
cool, gender neutral nickname that everyone calls him
paints nails various different colors
the whole wardrobe is just a transmasc enby heaven...fishnet shirts, jean overalls, jackets and cuffed pants galore, the big colorful pins, etc
gender neutral hairstyle (when I had my fro it was very sexy and made it easy to transition between hyper masc and vaguely fem, which is pog)
comparing himself to/representing himself consistently with an alien character (though this is meant to represent his sexuality, it could also double as a gender thing too, not neccesarily bc of the whole nonbinary alien trope but bc an enby who likes aliens might heavily identify or compare themselves to whatever their idea of an alien is, whether that just be a genderless entity or a motherfucker with fly style and no need to be perceived as anything other Wacky As Hell)
moving on from there, let's talk about how his queerness is presented to us and how, while it may be a really good piece of representation, especially coming from netflix, it still lacks in A Lot of places.
so, let's start with good things!
i personally really like the get down's queer rep with dizzee bc it's (for the most part) nonsexualized and very very soft, about dizzee figuring himself out and realizing there is a place where he fits in, and about two teenagers in the 70s falling in love over their shared passion for street art. it also features an interracial couple where both boys challenge stereotypes both about queer men and men of color, which is epic poggers and very sexy. this piece of rep specifically is very important to me bc I am a queer black person and even tho interracial relationships are mostly normalized now, I've still had people give me shit for primarily dating white people in a town that is...primarily white lol
mm anyways, I can also appreciate how in the get down, dizzee being represented by rumi the alien is not a thing specifically related to gender (as it often is) and instead is about his sexuality and just in general weirdness and how it has led to him being alienated amongst his peers, poc or otherwise. him seeing himself as an alien is not about just his queerness, which is important, it is about him being a queer black man who talks different, acts different, dresses different and is "soft"—he isnt a walking black male stereotype and he wouldnt have been seen as masculine back in the 70s by any stretch of the imagination. this can be relatable to a wide spectrum of queer poc, from queer black men currently who still have to deal with this shit or to people like myself who are afab neurodivergent mixed race enbies that have always been signaled out as weird and alienated for it. dizzee is god rep bc while he has a small part in this show, his parts are very impactful, hard hitting and show queer poc of all ages that they arent alone and that it's okay to "weird", you just need to embrace it because somebody will love you for you, as thor did for dizzee.
that being said theres um. some minor problemas here,,,
namely:
dizzee and thors first kiss
the lack of development this pairing got
the way dizzee was confirmed bisexual off screen, he never said the words himself, just showed interest in both genders
the way dizzee and thor were never even confirmed boyfriends or just fwb so most of the fandom just calls them boyfriends bc Why Not
dizzee was implied fucking DEAD??? AT THE END OF THE SERIES?????? AND THOR WAS IMPLIED ARRESTED?????????????
now, these might have been things that wouldve been fine had the show been given it's full run but it wasnt which is why we are now left with probelms.
so, from the top, let's go over these: dizzee and thor's first (and only "on screen") kiss was one that was shown in a montage of other queer people making over and doing other vaguely romantic/sexual things, one of those things being a whole ass naked titty being mouthed at, but the actual kiss...was just not shown? like they really did just say "yes they kissed <3 you know this from the context clues of it being in a montage with kissing, hickey giving and titty sucking <3 but no we will not show it <3" LIKE HELLO? I SAW A NAKED BOOBIE BUT NOT TWO MEN KISS??? HUH????????
also, dizzee and thor were both fucking high as hell during this bit like this isnt a terrible thing but it's also like sometimes you do shit when you're high that you wouldnt do sober and they just never kissed again on screen so like?? like idk that's not that bad but it does kinda irk me since they deadass got no other on screen intimacy after that unless you including painting on eacher other or sleeping next to each other on a shitty mattress but not touching at all during it bc they were both at opposite ends of the mattress like half way off it
so yeah, that was trash. then we got lack of development, which kinda goes with the "dizzee being a bisexual but he never says it in canon" thing cause like...okay dizzee was already sort of a side character from the get go like he wasnt the mc by any means, but he became way more of a background character as things continued until we basically only saw him for performances or when he was with thor, yet they got no fucking development as a pairing other than "dizzee realize he gay, he like thor, he and thor spend time together and ig probably do some gay stuff but we dont really know bc we only ever see them do graffiti together now" like?? tf am I supposed to do with that shit. answer. quickly. and then theres dizzee not being confirmed bisexual, which is just a running problem with shows literally doing everything to say a character is bi except for having the character just...say they're bi? which would be so easy? like a good way dizzee and thor couldve had some development is by thor teaching dizzee things about the queer community that he didnt even know existed, thor couldve helped him understand what being bi meant and helped him label himself and whatnot but instead we got an off screen confirmation that the writers had bisexual in mind when writing him. which is garbagé.
the whole thor and dizzee never having a confirmed relationship status is also a development problem cause like literally nobody knows if they were just friends who made out, maybe fucked, who knows, or if they were dating bc dizzee does give a love confession but a love confession doesn't mean there is a relationship, especially since thor didn't say he was in love either (as far as I remember, I could be wrong, plus whether or not that really happened or was apart of dizzee literally overdosing during a performance is unclear so 🤪)
and now for the biggest issue...bury your gays trope.
during the season 2 finale, dizzee and thor are chased by cops after they are found doing graffiti, one of the cops is able to catch thor while the other chases dizzee into a train tunnel and there is a train seen headed straight for him before the show cuts to black on a train horn. the show writers claim that if they had gotten another season, dizzee wouldve been alive but since they didnt and since that's essentially super fan trivia knowledge, most people dont fucking know that and instead had to watch a black queer teenager chose death over being fucking arrested by a white cop. on top of that, thor didnt see any of that shit because he was caught and the cop started hauling him off while dizzee was still being chased so thor literally has no clue where his friend/possible boyfriend fucking is or that he's likely dead in a goddamn tunnel all alone, unless you count the fucking pig that chased him in there who wouldve died too. this shows rep was so fucking good as far as most shows go on not having major fucking problems, on not being toxic and over sexualized, etc, etc. and then they just. killed a black queer teenager for no fucking reason. like it was literally the last episode ever, it would add nothing to the plot, it would just devastate fans and devastate it fucking did. I dont cry easy but seeing a character I identified with, who I had hyperfixated on, die because he'd rather that than be arrested is terrible. it fucking sucked.
so yeah. that's my all too extensive thoughts/analysis on the get down's queerness. theres definitely stuff I missed, or misinterpreted, or looked too much into, etc, etc., but this was a fun thing to spend time writing sooo yeah!! thanks for the ask anon, sorry this was just a big rambley info dump, but hopefully you get some enjoyment out of it since it took like 3 hours at least 😭😭 feel free to ask clarifying questions lol
#shit self#asks#the get down#mylene cruz#shaolin fantastic#dizzee kipling#long post#analysis#info dump#idk if anon has seen tgd or is just being nice so i tried givinh background to things#kinz#bangerz#discourse
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youre not even reading the asks are you? i literally said the WHY youre so hung up about.
the WHY is BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO. simple as that.
that's like saying "sure, a woman CAN wear trousers all the time but she shouldnt because it'll hurt all the women and girls who only wear skirts and dresses. shes" coping" with her obvious internalised misogyny by choosing to only wear trousers instead of skirts. maybe she thinks people will take her more seriously if ahe only wears trousers or she'll be exempt from misogyny because she only wears trousers. think of the women she's harming by not wearing a skirt and being a woman like them."
the same arguement can be made for women with tattoos or piercings or are masc in anyway. and in all ways, especially if at the same time youre claiming women can be women however they like, your argument is bs.
im sorry you feel the need to project your own insecurity by deciding you can speak for every woman on the planet, saying "other women and girls will be hurt if you be yourself and do what you individually want and find joy in for the betterment of your own life" but its really not that big a deal.
you cannot speak for all women because you are not all women. you are yourself and youre projecting that to make yourself feel better.
but no, people arent allowed to live their lives the way they want in a way that makes them happiest, right? they must have internalised misogyny like you did, right? a woman can be whatever she likes but only if she fits the societal standard by only calling herself one thing, right? jesus christ-
live how you want but don't tell anyone they have to live in a way that isnt true to them just because that way didn't work for you . what works for some in fulfillment wont work for others. transitioning or at the least using different signifiers for yourself didn't work for you, but it will and does work for others. so dont ever think you know anyone enough to dictate why they can't be themself in the way they choose.
i hope you learn to have some empathy and understanding for people who are not like you.
i read them and respond to them.
i am quite obviously not all women; i am incapable of disallowing women from doing what they want; criticism and analysis is not prohibition.
i’m not sure you understand what “hurt other women” means; i don’t mean hurt their feelings lmao. i don’t mean it makes them feel bad! i mean, as a class, when one women debases other women, women as a class (a sex class—the female sex being the only universal experience of all women) are harmed. it does damage to how people/society/even women ourselves think about women. the possibilities we imagine for ourselves, the expectations that are forced upon us and that we ourselves reinforce. when one woman transitions and pretends she’s a man, all the other women in her life lose an example of masculine womanhood and have in reaffirmed that masculine = man and that a woman couldn’t ever be so masculine or hate the gender roles imposed upon her so much, as that would make her a man. this harms women (as a class) and it harms the individual women around her and it harms the woman who transitions.
also, do you know what desire means? it means, basely, to want. so when i say “WHY does she want it?” “because she wants it.” isn’t a good fucking answer.
we ALL have internalized misogyny you absolute clown, because we all grow up steeped in external misogyny. you know how microplastics are found in all animals and tissues and shit because microplastics are everywhere in the environment? misogyny is the microplastics in this analogy.
your argument about women and pants and tattoos is totally disingenuous, btw. pronouns have one function: communicate accurately about an individual, and they are NECESSARILY tied to that individual’s sex because that’s part of what’s being described. so pants or tattoos would need to be inextricable from sex, they would need to be sex-reflexive, they would need to be meaningfully tied to signifying sex (not just culturally imbued with gender roles) in order to have the same “hurt other women” factor that eschewing female pronouns does.
when a female uses male pronouns she says, “i don’t want to be associated with women, i want people to think of me as a man”
when a female wears pants she says, “i’m wearing clothes.”
don’t be so willfully obtuse. this is not hard and i’m drawing it out for you in crayon.
i have deep empathy for other women and especially other women with dysphoria, that’s why i’m here engaging with people like you.
#people acting like i’m restricting women’s freedom by looking critically at their choices#incredibly dumb#detrans#detransition#just talkin#radfem#radical feminism#transgender#gender critical#ftm#asked#answered#anon#anonymous
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1. Name
justdyingslowly obviously come on
2. Nationality
Australian
3. Age
22
4. Birthday
nnnah dont feel like it
5. Zodiac sign (or your primal zodiac sign)
Libra/Scorpio cusp
6. Gender
wamon
7. Sexuality
very very hetero
8. Your looks (add a picture or describe yourself)
androgenous
9. What do you/did you study?
Psychology (focus on sexology) and art.
10. What’s your current job like?/What job would you like to have?
I am disabled you think I can work ha
sexologist would be awesome. When I was a kid I wanted to be a fireman but Australias always burning
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11. Your birth order
head first
12. How many siblings do you have?
1
13. Do you have good relations with your family?
yeah
dads finally out of his abusive relationship, nearing age 70 and his emotions and his sexuality are finally opening up for the first time and that makes me SO happy.
14. How many friends do you have?
what kind of fucked up question is this.
15. Your relationship status
relationshipped. Fiance? got the marriage papers in a drawer somewhere with the car rego but can’t be fucked filling them?
16. What do you look for in a SO?
empathetic, mature, calm. Always open to discussion. Prefers to be blunt rather than secretive. Emotional age over 14 (incredibly fucking rare apparently).
Puts an importance on context and understanding other views above all else.
17. Do you have a crush?
Hellll yeah
Crush on my partner and got a crush on a mutual friend of ours who don’t even know hes cute af hehe
one day partners gonna accidentally spill the beans and embarrass me coz hes shit with secrets RIP me.
18. When did you have your first kiss?
You think I can remember this bullshit? Its not that big a deal
19. Do you prefer serious and meaningful relationships or casual dating/one night stands?
One night stand sex almost exclusively sucks. Just. SUCKS. Because neither of you know what the other likes and it ends up being an awkward mix of trying to please yourself while trying to also be considerate.
20. What are your deal breakers?
Plugging your ears to anything that feels gross, uncomfortable or disagrees with you. How can you grow as a person without introspection? How can you mold what you think and believe without taking in other arguments and comparing them to your beliefs to see how they stack up?
Its pathetic.
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21. How was your day?
cute mutual friend had a fall this morning and were both worried about him. His back is bad and he’s getting a little older, he can’t be getting dizzy and having falls like that.
other than that im anxious about seeing my gastro. He’s lovely but... specialists are specialists. Good at knowing what they know but not always great at listening.
22. Favourite food & drink
you think im allowed to eat or drink?
water and... foods a touchy subject.
23. What position do you sleep in?
Usually on my side with a body pillow to grip so I don’t end up choking my partner in his sleep.
24. What was your last dream about?
uuhhh...going to italy and being unable to get into this tiny basket boat properly.
25. Your fears
does PTSD to medical shit count haha
26. Your dreams
... going to italy and being unable to get into a tiny basket boat thingy?
27. Your goals
- get some sort of diagnosis eventually. Its been 3 years of trying and im tired.
- get back to studying art part time for my bachelors.
- pass JLPT N3.
- go back to university for psychology.
- do the dishes when I get home.
28. Any pets?
two budgies. we also take care of any orphaned or injured birds.
29. What are your hobbies?
feeling nauseous
drawing
writing a little bit
im making a little gameboy game in C atm too
30. Any cool places in your area?
i live next to a national park with waterfalls and koalas and emus and stuff
31. What was your last awkward situation?
mutual friend made a comment on his chest
i playfully smacked it (related to the comment)
it was surprisingly hard
“O-oh wow, thats... I didnt expect that”
my partner laughed at me.
it was awful.
32. What is your last regret?
getting embarrassed at friends pecs stop making me think about it
33. Language/s you can speak
english. N4 Japanese.
34. Do you believe in astrological stuff? (Zodiac, tarot, etc.)
of course not what the fuck
35. Have any quirks?
Quirkless.
I do wiggle when im happy though apparently.
36. Your pet peeves
open doors.
37. Ideal vacation
spend a months chilling in an old japanese house in autumn hokkaido oooooof that sounds nice
38. Any scars?
internal? yes
39. What does your last text message say?
peepee poopoo ustinky
40. Last 5 things from your search history
how do i find this
41. What’s your [device] background?
Sam Porter Bridges walkin around
Sam Porter Bridges cuddling BB-28 Louise while he sleeps
my chicken
42. What do you daydream about?
all might
43. Describe your dream home
an old japanese house in autumn hokkaido oooooof that sounds nice
44. What’s your religion/Your thought about religion
its a comforting thought having a parent-figure who cares about you and looks after all the big things you can’t manage yourself, but institutionalizing it runs a severe risk of becoming harmful cults. And it often does.
45. Your personality type
me
46. The most dangerous thing you’ve done
i saw the lost bunny that was on all the posters in the neighbourhood
looked thin and patchy
so i grabbed him to take him home.
im allergic. sent me to hospital and I almost died.
47. Are you happy with your current life?
feeling sick sucks and partners having a depressive episode but things are pretty good
48. Some things you’ve tried in your life
living
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49. What does your wardrobe consist of?
blacks, reds, whites and pinks
50. Favourite colour to wear?
at the moment pink. Red is always comforting though.
51. How would you describe your style?
mix between lazy alternative punk, teenager with band shirts and harajuku peach kawaii uwu
52. Are you happy with your current looks?
kinda wish i was a bit shorter but what can you do
53. If you could change/add something to your appearance - impossible or not - what would it be?
bit shorter
54. Any tattoos or piercings?
lol no PTSD
55. Do you get complimented often?
by who? partner constantly, family haha are you kidding
im australian so a friend’s version of showing affection is calling you a cunt and slapping your ass in public
56. Favourite aesthetic?
all might
57. A popular trend that you dislike
blocking because you disagree or find them distasteful.
Ignoring all context to opposing thoughts and arguments.
taking a personal feeling of disgust to mean something is evil.
Blocking your ears to anything that isn’t a circlejerk of what you already think - and trying to isolate anyone who even just listens to something other then the noise of your sloppy dicks to have a thought of their own.
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58. Songs you’re currently obsessed with?
The Machine by Low Roar
59. Song you normally wouldn’t admit you like.
why wouldnt i admit i like a song
60. Favourite genre?
probably enka haha
61. Favourite artist/band/genre?
probably enka haha
oh and tatsuro yamashita
62. Hated popular songs/artists?
why the hell would I hate something like a song? I hate aspects of the music industry as a whole I guess?
63. Put your music on shuffle and list first 5
which playlist they aren’t all together in one place
64. Can you sing or play any instruments?
piano, saxophone... uh... partners good at making music and playing shakuhachi
65. Do you like karaoke?
no.
66. Own any albums?
yes? many?
67. Do you listen to radio? What stations?
no.
but triple J, ABC Jazz and Classical. sometimes they even play final fantasy and JRPG music on classical which is pretty neat.
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68. Favourite movie/series?
can i make this about games because then the answer is Metal Gear Solid
69. Favourite genre of movies/books/etc
...shounen?
70. Your fictional crush/es
if they’re over 40yrs old, male and happy and bubbily or grumpy and sad then there’s a big ol fat chance I wanna bone.
Solid Snake from MGS4, All Might and pretty much anyone drawn by Tarou Madoromi.
71. Which fictional character is you?
uh
72. Are you a shipper? List your otps, if so
what does this even mean what language is this
73. Favourite greek god?
idk
hades seems chill
74. A legend from where you live that you like
the story of Tjilbruke is funny and good. all Kaurna stories are good.
75. Do you like art? What’s your favourite work or artist?
im in a big egon schiele mood atm.
76. Can you share your other social media?
no i am incapable
77. Favourite youtubers?
many
78. Favourite platform?
not too high up. actually i like being a little lower than ground level in corners.
79. How much time do you spend on the internet?
too much
80. What video games have you played? Which one’s your favourite?
look i just want to say that MGS4 is the best one in the series
and Death Stranding is phenomenally engaging.
81. Your favourite books (manga also counts)
these are all so goddamn definitive how can I pick?
Oh wait the answer is One Piece
82. Do you play board/card games?
I play DnD atm
and know 15 yr old rules to Yugioh
83. Have you ever been to a night marathon in cinema?
that shit dosn’t happen here
84. Favourite holiday
golden week
coz its a week
also easter because thats when all the glucose based sweets come back
85. Are you into dramas?
what kind
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86. Would you use death note, if you had one?
no. thats called being a murderer.
87. What changes would you make in the world, no matter how impossible, if you had the power to?
chill people out a bit. when people feel unsafe they get really depenfive and territorial and block their ears to everything, making in-and-out groups for themsevles that end up putting them in more harm.
88. Could you survive a zombie apocalypse?
im disabled with a disabled partner. we arent funny sure we can survive normal everyday life when society is angled so sharply against us.
89. If you had to be turned into a paranormal being, what would it be?
id like to be a mimi spirit
90. What would you want to happen to you after your death?
spooky time
91. If you had to change your name, what would be your pick?
toshinori yagi
92. Who would you switch your life with for a week?
anyone healthy
93. Pick an emoji to be your tattoo
that cursed one with the intense eyes and the hand
94. Write 3 things about yourself - only one of them must be true
im me
im not me
im pee
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95. Cold or hot?
cold.
96. Be a hero or be a villain?
both are distasteful ideas in reality
97. Sing everything you want to say or rhyme?
i can’t do either
partner speak sin bad puns and its hell, these both sound about equal
98. Shapeshifting or controlling time?
shapeshifting. controlling time is eithe rmanipulative or lonely. shapeshifing is every other superpower at once.
99. Be immortal or be immune to everything aside from natural death?
both are deeply upsetting ideas
100. ….. or …..?
jiji or ossan?
generally Jiji, but ossans can be lovely too.
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