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faesystem · 7 months

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If you want someone to respect your DNI, do not make it a scavenger hunt to locate it.

I see this so often in syscourse. Syscourse as a tag that has pro-endogenics, anti-endogenics, and everyone else. There are all sorts of different sides in here, and we all co-exist here. When you post in the syscourse tag, you are creating a post for everyone here.

What you will find is that the syscourse community has a lot of etiquette in it. Respecting DNIs is a part of it. Those who do not are very quickly told off and blocked. (Same goes with posting in the main tags. Keep syscourse to the syscourse tag, people can find your syscourse if they want to.)

The thing is, people cannot respect your DNI if they do not know it exists. Putting it in the tags is bad enough. Not everyone checks those and it is very easy to miss, especially if it is surrounded by a bunch of other tags. Having it just somewhere on your blog and not referenced at all in the post you made in the syscourse tag? You seriously cannot expect people to search to see if you have a DNI they would be breaking prior to engaging with you. Not when you are posting in the syscourse tag, a tag for the community you are asking to DNI.

DNIs are for your own benefit. If you want to not have these people interact with you, make it clear to them that that is the case. I will show an example of how to right here at the bottom of the post.

(Also, friendly reminder that anything you put in the tags appears when someone searches for those words. Syscourse DNI appears when syscourse is searched for, anti-endos DNI appears when someone searches for anti-endos, pro-endos DNI appears when someone searches for pro-endos. Please do yourself a favour and do not tag your posts in a way that shows it to the people you want to avoid.)

DNI if you think penguins should have won the 2023 Minecraft mob vote. (Joke, for the record.)

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candyland-toybox · 2 years

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gonna rant about trauma and how badly i wanna get rid of DID as a whole

tw for lots of deep topics and syscourse below also it’s very long so just know you’re in for a ton of reading

also about the syscourse part: endos i know i talked about you in this but if you interact i am going to block you. i don’t fucking care. this post is directed at you but not tagged for you. if you see it it’s because you’re not in your safe space anymore. gtfo of my post.

nobody should have to endure trauma. no matter how bad it is to them or anyone else. also can we not debate what trauma is? trauma is trauma and trauma is also subjective. your trauma may be seen as “less” than someone else’s, but if it has affected you to the point where youre stuck living with the affects and you feel like it’s beyond repair, it is trauma and it is valid. you can’t let someone dictate what your trauma is.

however, for the record, some things aren’t trauma. someone being mean to you once is not trauma. someone being mean to you for ages to the point where you had to struggle with thoughts of depression and s/h before you turned 10 is trauma. yes i did use my own as an example shut up /lh

some people have childhood trauma that is not the same as someone else’s, or they may have experienced it and it’s not as bad to them as it is to someone else. but it is subjective all the same. just because you experienced something and it wasn’t bad to you doesn’t mean the same for someone else.

so if you have childhood trauma that hurt you this bad, you have childhood trauma.

now onto how this affects DID/OSDD. if you have childhood trauma and don’t have DID/OSDD? good. you’re lucky not to have that. if you have childhood trauma and DID/OSDD? cool. hope things get better for you. as i said, childhood trauma is subjective. if you have DID/OSDD and childhood trauma, but people say your trauma wasn’t “that bad”, you still have DID/OSDD. your trauma caused this and there wasn’t anything you could do, even if others say it wasn’t bad enough for it. no one should judge your trauma. if it caused it it caused it.

now in comes the non-traumagenics. heres a bite of info: if you support non-traumagenics/are non-traumagenic, why are you? why do you think a disorder which has caused people to suffer and shouldn’t even exist is just a quirky and fun identity? it’s not a MOGAI gender/xenogender. its a serious mental illness that has and will hurt everyone who has it.

as stated, it’s caused by childhood trauma. you don’t have childhood trauma? cool. you’re a singlet and will stay one. you want to be endogenic? ok. just stop invading our spaces, harassing people who disagree, and if you don’t like us, respectfully block and move on.

if you’re endo just to spread misinfo and/or invade the spaces of traumatized people, you’re a shitty person. if you’re endo but are in denial/unaware of your trauma and still experience the actual symptoms, you’re traumagenic and the disorder is doing it’s job. if you’re endo to cope, i’m not going to judge your coping mechanism but please state it’s for coping reasons and be respectful of actual traumagenics.

if you’re a singlet and you’re speaking on these issues: stop. fucking stop. you don’t know what it’s like for us and this is not your space to speak on our issues. i saw a post that said something like “if you wouldn’t speak on POC issues if you’re white… why would you speak on syscource if you’re a singlet?” and they’re right. don’t speak on issues in a community you’re not a part of. it’s not your space to comment on our problems and it never will be so just stop.

anyways if you made it this far thank you for listening to me. sorry about my text walls i just feel very strongly about this.

and as i’ve said, endos dni. i don’t support endos, as i’ve said, but if you do it to cope as i’ve said please tell us. i will block you regardless but i will at least respect that you’re coping with your own things.

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