did dead to me really just pull a “kill your gays”? it’s 2022 and this show, created by a queer woman just killed the gay character and jen got her happy ending with a man who no one even cares about, and judy doesn’t get anything? doesn’t even get to be by her best friend’s side anymore. a story about a beautiful, messy friendship and it ended with one of the friends dying alone?
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*wakes up in a cold sweat*
THEY DIDN’T EVEN GIVE JUDY A FUNERAL
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okay i can understand why people are mad about the dead to me ending but like...to me it was full circle about a show about grief and the circle of grief? the show was always about death and the rippling aftermath of death?
i mean, sure, it was also about women doing crimes and cop dodging, but the main plot is not always the theme, the theme was always death and grief and the circle of life and death and how everything is a circle
and knowing a queer woman wrote it makes me a lot more okay with the bury your gays trope because it's written by a queer woman? it sucks, sure, to watch another queer character die, but queer people are allowed to kill queer characters to tell the story they want to tell.
i think this was always where the story was going; full circle back to the beginning, where jen just lost a partner, and has to find her way in a new life. except now she has... more. she was lost before, but judy brought into her life the tools to deal with this next cycle of death and grief. she helped her become a better mother, a better person, a better friend. she helped her family through grief. she equipped her for the path forward. that's the message. you can't run from death, you can't escape it, you cant will it away through anger and determination, sometimes you have to accept it and instead ask, "What did the life bring me?"
jen went full circle because that's the story, and as much as i wanted those two women to fall in love, raise a baby together, and live happily ever after, that was never what the show was about. as ted dies, a new life (judy's partnership) begins. as judy dies, a new life (joey) begins. as the story ends, a new one begins (will ben forgive her).
as devastating as judy's death is, it isn't a surprise.
the show is called dead to me, after all.
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