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#so my mom's wake thing was today and that was a lot. not in an emotional sense but in a im standing here talking for 3hrs#to ppl i dont kno or barely kno. ya kno? but it was good bc so many ppl showed up to talk abt her#so many people. my mom made a huge impact on the school system. so many ppl relied on her. she encouraged at least 2 ppl to get their#master. for one person to specilize in helping the dyslexic after her experience advocating for 3 dyslexic daughters. she wrote and was#awarded a 10000 dollar grant for special needs and intervention curriculum. which will affect so many lives.#everyone loved her. she's gonna get a track meet named after her and a scholarship created in her honor.#she was an amazing person and she affected a lot of lives and im glad she was my mom. and she raised at least one jem in my littlest#sister who is so sweet and is a great teacher. god but there was some weird stuff too. were pretty sure her old boss was in love with her.#and there were some weird comments abt her being a strong woman or this woman doing so much and its like hm y do i detect a note of sexism#y not say she was an amazing person? y the surprise? weird comments about how pretty i looked. which yes i looked great lol. my funeral fit#was cute. we did bright colors bc it was a celebration not a dower event. and im sure it was ment well but it was a lil weird. and then#everyone was telling my grandma what a great job she did raising my mom and like god fuck off she didn't do jack. my mom was great despite#her terrible mother. ugh. but altogether it was good that everyone was able to express their love for her. it was def a day that was for#them mostly. i mean partly for us but mostly for them. none of us even cried. ay but we have 2 more parties in her honor#bc everyone loved her so much we have to do one in her hometown too. plus a personal friends get together. ugh. im so tired#i wish i wasnt the most awkward. eye contact avoidant person in the room but like ya kno. what can ya do?#unrelated
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very often ill see bears following my nsfw account and ill end up looking thru their profiles as i check for ppls ages in bio and theyre 99.9% bear4bear. That one anon lied to me.
#talkys#this is like a half joke/not that deep bc i dont actually care#and like. hm. how do i word dis.#there ARE people that have messaged me very very excessively over how much theyre into al on there#and i would NOT want that directed at me.#and i myself am‚ of course‚ an al enjoyer#and like. this is also not that deep im not saying its actually affecting me on a very personal level#especially since me and skunker are boring little guy things#but seeing everyone going into that account only being there for my guy is just reminding me of#being friends with like the prettiest girl in high school#where like at lunch she'd leave to get something and all the guys tailing her would be like#so whats the name of your hot friend lol :)#LIKE GAH. of course you're here for him but damnnnn cmonnnn#idk how to describe it bc again id also feel strange if ppl were being weird about skunker instead. idk! idk what it is#and i myself wouldnt lust after skunker adjacent beasts etc so i get it but theres Something about it i cant place#I THINK its bc skunker is an expression of identity and self#and skunker and cow al are like. copium. so some part of me feels really alienated by feeling like my audience straight up doesnt want#''me'' there...ykwim...i think thats it. bc ive been asked for more solo als or al with literally anyone else#or al with other big guys bc itd be hotter#and while im open to dis if im paid to draw it it really feels like the simpsons sheep bit LOL
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This is probably my favourite panel in the last few chapters of Rebirth tbh (yes, including the time/mirror aesthetics) just because of the impact.
You know that comic with the crows where one asks the other if they think they're friends in another universe and then you zoom out and see all these other timelines where they're always a part of each other's life? It's the complete opposite of that. So many different timelines and not a single one where his mother loved him.
#rebirth#rebirth webtoon#idk how to tag this tbh#but the way that noah and parish's relationship taints everything else. bc of these external pressures they stayed in an unhappy marriage#and it affected both noah and parish obviously (and neither of them were ready to be parents) but they both let it affect abel + neo too.#the whole apocalypse + looping in some way freed ppl from the shackles of the og social expectations but parish is still clinging to them#as everyone else adapts. + obv I can't say if she'd grow better if she had the same opportunities of those who remember looping#but even in the current timeline she's had so many chances that she's thrown away in order to try and get herself in a secure position.#she wants to survive but she'll do it over the bodies of those she should care for. even abel when she's backed into enough of a corner.#but also it's interesting how neo is so angry at noah for much of the series but at this point he's just... sad? about parish's consistency
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as a certified Aromantic Asexual (I should make myself a certificate) I genuinely don't Believe there is systemic oppression that specifically targets Aromantic or Asexual people.
I do however believe that people Cannot be normal about ppl who don't have sex or romantic relationships, and that can Really Impact Aromantic And Asexual People.
Also like. Aros n aces are still. Experiences Other forms of oppression that can interact with the aro and/or ace-ness
#Like. Woman doesn't get married. Maybe aro maybe illegal for her to marry who she wants maybe no fuckin reason. She's probably gonna get#Some shit for it but that's primarily misogyny. While it does affect aro ppl disproportionately bc. Yeah. It's not based on them being#Aro it's a conicindental intersection. Also can y'all be normal about sex and virgins#Anyway slightly related dreaming of a world in which it was better acknowledged that sex repulsion while common for ace ppl#Was not synonymous w being ace so we avoided the ace discord phenomenon that a bunch of gay/lesbian/bi ppl mis identified as ace#Bc they couldn't deal w the idea of having sex w a person of the same gender#With the idea of actually having sex bc it was treated as gross (sex repulsion as a result of society) or that trauma survivors#Misidentified as ace bc they had issues w sex bc trauma. Also that sex repulsion wasnt like an identity but rather a Symptom that could be#Either a problem or neutral. Who else's brain was boiled by ace and also inclus/exclus discord and came out thinking everyone was fucking#Stupid. Like both sides had Points but it was mostly just bullshit and no one fucking talking. Also ppl kept talking about ace ppl#''stealing resources'' and multiple ppl joked Abt that which is a problem bc that means. A BUNCH OF LGBT PPL DIDNT UNDERSTAND WHAT RESOURCE#THEY HAD (anyway looking back on it. Idk if ace ppl were even taking up resources or anything like the common example was LGBT shelters#Bc like if u were gay u might be kicked out of a normal shelter but if u were ace u would probably not get kicked out so if an ace person#Went to an LGBT shelter then they might've taken a bed from someone who needed it more which. I guess is theoretically possible but also id#If that ever fucking. Was something to actually give a shit Abt. Correct me if I'm wrong)#ALSO the idea of ''all gay ppl should go to hell'' ''oh do bi ppl only half go to hell?'' sure thats probably a problem but also. A LOT OF#THOSE WERE EVERYONE DOING IT INCLUDING GAY PPL? LIKE THE FUCKING ''ALL GAY PPL SHOULD BE ON AN ISLAND AND THE POPULATION AUFNFJNSAJ''#like does anyone else remember that. Everyone was making those stupid fucking jokes. This is just a rant Abt me being on Tumblr without an#Account for years and the psychic damage I've accrued. Anyway fuck AO3 goodbye
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also. speaking of andvir. been considering what i want to do with that mfs gender. i think they're technically transmasc bc they were labeled female at birth. but they're intersex and ended up with a lot of 'masculine' physical traits without medical/magical treatments pretty much as soon as they hit puberty. they're fine with being seen as a man but have kind of a weird relationship to their gender bc it gave them a lot of grief growing up. they aren't that worried about it these days on account of being more focused on killing and maiming tho
#kris.txt#oc: andvir#man that reminds me#i don't talk about it a lot but im technically intersex#not in a very obvious or medically problematic way so it hasn't rly affected my life#but when i started T i had to do like some tests to see what dose i would need and if there were any issues#and turns out i am in fact intersex#a lot more ppl than we think probably are#bc like if id never gotten those tests done i likely wouldn't know i was#anyways what was i talking about. ocs or some shit right
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anyway everyday i’m like “everyone play trauma center now” but like i also don’t want that. deep down i do want to gatekeep bc sometimes i still see takes that are bad about characters
#maru.txt#not about angie most ppl now have valid criticisms of her character#but back in the day it was just like. misogyny#and maybe it’s a side effect of how much i interact with and pour over every discoverable crumb of content#but like i don’t think it’s a bad thing that some beats like ages aren’t the most well communicated#anyway someone complaining abt the trauma team voice work and i took violent offense#‘emotionless’ that’s the point is it not. like the point is (a kind of sloppy and overdone) autism parallel#like erhards parents literally were like ‘ohhhhh evil demon child’ bc of having a flat affect
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it is weird being an aromantic asexual who is incidentally attractive. like. i just came back from a concert with my friends who have known me for years and know that about me. some of the very few real-life friends who know that about me actually and i only told them relatively recently. regardless. the only reason i had bothered to bring it up w them is that they had seen me in SO many situations that telling them “i’m asexual” was if anything just clarification. just confirmation, like, don’t worry. it’s not an inability to attach to others or whatever. if you can’t tell. like they’d seen me be pursued by quite a few people in our time as friends and at some point it seems like a curious thing if i only ever seem to feel negatively about anyone who’s attracted to me, ever, no matter who it is. and they were understanding and i knew they’d be. yeah.
we were talking on the way back about bucket list concerts we’d still like to see. we saw stromae which was a really big one of mine (my fucking boy btw, i had an amazing time). i mentioned that i don’t have very many, as i’m rarely the person to be like “yeah, let’s go to a concert” unless i have people i know i wanna go with. like i’ve been meaning to see the jonas brothers w my sister and sisters-in-law ever since they came back because it’d be a fun thing for us since we always listen to them together.
but i would genuinely love to see super junior someday, like just for myself, wherever whenever if i was just able to get transportation (i don’t drive). i’ve loved suju for years but i got really back into them in 2020 in the pandemic as a sort of nostalgia comfort thing (but also the music they’ve put out in recent years is like, literally the best in their discography, they just keep getting better w age). and i had to go on this tangent to explain it, right?
in the first months of the pandemic, there was something weird happening to people psychologically. some kind of end-of-the-world loneliness. i mentioned that i had like 5 or 6 different people in my DMs at the time interested in me. not all of them men. and the friend who was driving said “you know, diana, if this were literally anyone else talking, i would think that this is some enormous humblebrag—”
and i like. didn’t even think about it that way. i was just trying to make my point that i had a serious thought in 2020 of like, when the world opened back up, just doing one (1) seriously manipulative thing in my life and convince one of those men who was thirsting for me to buy me tickets to super junior and go with me. it was hypothetical. this hasn’t happened and all but certainly will not. i would not feel good taking advantage of someone’s feelings like that.
but i had to go on a tangent even before that because i was like. oh my goodness. i didn’t even realize that was a humblebrag. i’m sorry. i’m just telling a story.
#the politics of being a pretty young woman#tales from diana#i also wouldn't have felt comfortable telling anyone that anecdote about myself if they had known less about me than my friends i was with#so i guess i wouldn't be in danger of humblebragging. but sometimes i think i do? by mistake.#like when i talk about my social life in the past i always mention no one openly liked me in high school. not one person.#it very much affected how i saw myself. bc bullshit. young girls. male approval. y'know.#but in retrospect now i'm better able to tell when a boy had some kind of crush on me so i might mention it like 'he thought i was cute'#and one time a different friend i had. but one who i have also told im asexual (im trying to do that more) said to me#'you know for how unpopular you say you were in high school it seemed like a lot of ppl liked you'#i mean. yes? it's complicated. i was most certainly not popular i can tell you that.#i was more of a 'hey goob nice binder' 'hey goob wanna hang out at my house after school?' [narration: they all hated me...] kinda kid.#i probably kept myself from making friends wo realizing it but also lots of cliques i would've liked to be part of very much ignored me.#i was hot on the margins. a truly underrepresented social archetype... except that's literally every teen movie so maybe not.#i didn't have a big win in the final act that's the difference.#also before the concert we were talking about one of our other friends who is just. so fuckin funny.#like we were all talking about how much we love him. and they said they had been talking about who in the group chat we're in#has the most 'pull' and im like. pull?#like who could pick up the most ppl successfully. hypothetically.#both of them ranked me high :^) i was like. thank you.#they asked me to ponder on the topic myself and try to come back to it but i think im just confused by the concept of 'pull' itself#stromae has pull. that is all.
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Ah yes I love opening tumblr and seeing body weight discourse on a stock photo blog, very nice /s
#fuck me some of these people are something else#i silently agreed w the main post then someone commented w 'manifesting more fatness in people'#or whatever and then said 'people would be better off if they were fat'#'having lil fat deposits is good nobody should be rail thin'#i'm screaming like OFC FAT DEPOSITS ARE GOOD KAREN#BUT THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAVING HEALTHY DEPOSITS#AND DOZENS IF NOT HUNDREDS OF LBS OF FAT THAT AINT HEALTHY#I HATE HOW PPL CONFLATE THE LATTER WITH THE FORMER#I'M CHUBBY AND ITS TOXIC AND OFFENSIVE AS FUCK TO SAY THAT JUST STOP IT#I LITERALLY HAVE HEART ISSUES. BEING FAT STRESSES IT. YOU DONT 'WANT' TO BE FAT#AND BY FAT I ACTUALLY MEAN THE DEFINITION OF FAT NOT JUST 'LIL DEPOSITS'#big difference between not harassing fat people and going nuclear with the toxic positivity of 'let's make everyone fat bc it's better' bs#it hurts your joints it hurts your heart maybe it doesn't affect your cholesterol or some shit but there's ALWAYS damage#the 'healthy at every size' movement was NEVER supposed to mean 'you're still healthy at 400 lbs'#people are stupid fuck em#body shaming cw#negative cw#rant cw#tbd
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ppl r so weird abt the chaeyoung situation "oh she didn't know bcs she's korean" "ppl who r mad should go out and stop caring abt what other ppl do" like are u hearing yourselves
#first of all korea was directly affected by world war II for different reasons#second of all. what happened in the world war II is like. common knowledge. i'd even say basic worldwide culture#not to say that but the fact that there have been MULTIPLE movies done abt it. the documentaries. some shows. books written. museums to#remember those killed. like there is NO WAY for ppl to not know#and those saying 'i didnt know it was a swastika either' like you're not defending her u're showing urself as stupid#yeah yeah there is a symbol that looks like a swastika but is the other way around. now look at me in the eye and tell me#would have sid vicious know abt that one symbol and used being aware that it didnt cause as much controversy. be honest#c'mon. does that symbol have the same impact as a KNOWN nazi symbol. explain it to me#and not only that but ppl are allowed to be mad!!!! normal ppl are rightfully upset abt it!!!!!!!!! like i think most of us know the danger#of that ideology and i think most of us were taught what that ideology meant for millions of ppl!!!!!!!!!!#mostly jewish ppl!!!!!!! they are rightfully upset bcs they were the most affected ppl by that!!!!!!!!!!!!!#jo.txt
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i always feel so alienated when i see ppl talk abt the overrepresentation of tragedies within queer media and stuff bc while i do understand where ppl are coming from, i just enjoy consuming sad media in general lol so i cant truly relate to the frustration of not getting to see happy things.
and this isnt even me being critical of that argument bc i 100000% understand where it comes from, i 1000000% think its valid, studies have shown that queer people need positive representation to not feel so hopeless for their futures and stuff so like. i get it. i just like sad shit man! and i dont think we should stop having popular sad gay narratives altogether just bc of oversaturation.
i think its a hard convo to have bc we realize how rare the opportunity for mainstream gay media comes about and so i get that people don't want the "uber mainstream gay media" that happens twice a decade to be a tragic sad fest like they all are but i think maybe the answer is. we either need to change hollywood which is basically impossible OR we just like, stop looking to big hollywood studios for representation and start giving our money to independent studios who are making a lot of stories w queer ppl at the helm and stuff. because if we have a lot of different shows and films that involve queer people, then it wont matter if some of them are tragedies, and maybe then we can finally stop throwing groundbreaking queer media of our past under the bus and/or advocating for the death of queer tragedies when there are very much queers out there who love tragedies <- like me.
#the brokeback brainworms led me down some rabbitholes and im like grrrrrrr#me on the outside: youre allowed not to like the media i love bc we all have different tastes#me on the inside: *killing u with my mind*#i also just think the crit can be a little insensitive to the people who do see themselves represented by queer tragedies#like you guys do not know the depth of how much brokeback mountain affected ppl. like you probably have an idea but it runs fucking DEEP#and also i think that seeing young generations shit on queer tragedies of the past is kind of like a man yells at brick wall sit bc#the media already exists and you cant change it and they came out at times that were very different in terms of social acceptance of gays#so like idk. also in general im just a big advocate for trying to meet a piece of media halfway and judge its success based on what it was#trying to do within the context it was created in and like this goes for all movies not just gay movies and i think taking that approach#can make ppl better critics#but also i mean youre allowed to just not wanna get involved w sad media. esp sad gay media. i know a lot of ppl who are rly sensitive to#sad shit and thats totally fine. theres just ppl out there who are sensitive to sad shit in the opposite way in that we love it and it#consumes us and drives us to make changes in our lives for the better and so i would hate to see sad gays go away#in the end the true villain was the hayes code all along#like if they didnt make it a mandatory thing that gay people needed to fucking die in order to be represented at all we wouldnt#be having these conversations and youd let me fuck off to my mountain to get my back broken in a really sad way
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Rift made instant hazelnut coffee... it tasted very good..
#we are starting to wonder if we actually are not affected by caffeine?????#like we thought we were like allergic or sth bc felt v fast heart rate n puffy eyes#but that may have been stress then#+ Rift was having an issue w trauma trigger that time bc of an f/o imagined scenario#-Firelight#I just rlly like sweet food..#and Rift's cooking.. tho in this case it was instant coffee I mean like other times..#personal#if this looks confusing Rift is my headmate but they front a lot so I assume most ppl know who they r..#they were goinf to make that coffee for the bodys brother next so will leave front to them now#oh god I think I feel the arteries supplying the brain doing something like dilating or xonstricting bc of caffeine#Rift found out last yr that it does sth to arteries in the head and like why it can help headaches#in fact it is also a part of some migraine medication#benefits of having shared memories means I know this stuff even tho Rift's the one who learned it. .#Rift says it was like it reduces blood flow to brain like migraines bc like arteries throbbing bc too much blood flow so thatz why caffeine#used in one migraine med#and yeah they say its probably constricting wll look that up#hell yeah theyre right!! they're cool...#ok Ive said enough..#apparently Rifts younger brother drank a bit of coffee as a toddler(like trying it from the bodys moms cup or sth)??#caffeine small talk wait out the plastic weather mm hmm uh huh discussing CURRENT AFFAIRS blah blah green eyes Im not the forward thinker#/lyr
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zlsR 4~! aa even tho the outcome was obvious, getting to it was a very fulfilling trip! Im happy~ have a bunch of Junko close ups bc thats what they gave and IM LIVIN FOR IT!! SHES SOOO DAMN PRETTY TTTT <3 i mean they all are and the char design/art(?both?) in this show, for me, is TOP NOTCH but!!
context isnt included but Neesan ILYSM!! TT <3
ooc zls ily www ITS SO FUNNY! theyve done the policeman joke numerous times now but gklask each time is rly good??? Kotaro thoughts fr...
“Ganbare~!” ^ her expression TT
whys his grin here giving me lowkey Kaito Kid vibes(as he throws down the light-grenade) 😂
ok but i rly!! liked this scene tbh...!
Yuugiri’s smile is EVERYTHING!!
s1 flashbacks .... i love it tho!! Junko-chan so cool!!! <3
“‘Cuz we’re zombies!” fr tho, i was crying screaming couldnt stop smiling irl here THE ENDING SCENE IS EVERYTHING!!
Junko; does smt all you good kids at home should NOT copy and sends the magic power of ... glowing :D srsly how DID they get away with this
“how are they getting such special effects” NO RLY GLKASK
“Ne~e!” <3
#kanna watches zls#zombieland saga#zombie land saga#only putting these tags- like i said in prev post ... idk what im doing anyway just sharing cute zombie girls ig <3 w#pls watch zombie land saga <3#its a very good show!#oh and fyi im neutral on ships! i def do think the JunAi scenes here were cute tho~ if its romantic or not is up to you#idm ig? i dont get romance enough to have an opinion ... ik some ppl find it ... off bc the age gap and others love it regardless#theyre zombies so im not 100% sure how the age would affect/not anyway tbh... all of them likely different ages but more or less same averag#(~15-16 i think... give or take some years)
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can’t sleep. keep making myself mad about shit
#it’s like three things rn#someone from my old college had it out for me and i genuinely have no idea why#like they were always rude as fuck to me and in the first few weeks we knew each other i was being interrogated ab slur and pronoundiscourse#asked how i felt ab he/him lesbians and i was like i’m not a lesbian so…who fucking cares#and we got into slurs somehow and i wish i could’ve been more articulate bc i was like yeah. i think some trans men can say the d slur#and they were like why aren’t you saying it and my response was cuz i don’t feel like it#but the point i wish i had thought well enough to make is like first of all slur discourse is stupid#and the word dyke is central to so many people’s identities not just currently but in the past too#when i was still fem-presenting and pre-any sort of transition i was a dyke. that’s the best word for how i felt then and now looking back#AND you don’t know the intricacies of someone’s identity. are you gonna police this shit? leave me tf alone#also pissing me off lol#is the fact that i dated someone who hated the parts of me that i like#shit spanned from like him saying it about tank tops and sweatpants immediately after i said they’re gender affirming for me#to not being able to deal with me being loud to the point that i re-triggered a depressive episode as soon as i got out of one#when im doing well im loud and excitable but they couldn’t handle that so i just shoved it down#and last thing. did anyone else deal with the predatory gay stereotype bc i never see ppl talk ab it but i was a huge target for it#it’s affected my ability to just. function as person like i can’t compliment people without making myself panic#the few times i’ve seen it talked ab is specifically the predatory lesbian stereotype#which does make me wonder how much of my experience was fueled by that and how much was just generic homophobia
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how can some people be so heartless lol
#rant cw#death tw#dl#some ppl on twt/tt saying my state deserves what's happening rn bc SOME people from here are the scum of the earth#and have said rlly racist stuff about ppl from other states#girlie i can guarantee you most of the people who say that kinda shit are not being affected as much as the rest of us rn#bc most of them are RICH and either live in safer areas or have the money to evacuate to a much better place#you're gonna watch a video of a dude that was rescuing children and he was crying while talking about how one of the kids he rescued#asked him to pick up a doll she saw floating on the water and when he looked at it he realized it was actually the body a dead baby#and you're gonna be like yeah. that BABY deserved to drown bc some rich entitled right-winged piece of shit was racist on the internet??#i know a lot of people from here are horrible and trust me we're the ones who hate them the most#but to get to the point where people are having to post PROOF that most of us are not right-winged racists that flirt with nazism#just to convince people to have some damn empathy.......#literally 90% of my town is underwater. there are some areas where you couldn't even see the roofs of the houses anymore#i most likely lost everything i owned except for the things i could pack up and bring with me#and there are people who are in much worse situations than me bc at least i have where to stay#some people don't even have that bc their families were also affected#i've been crying literally every night bc of everything that's been going on despite knowing how privileged i am just for being safe rn#last night i spent a whole hour just crying bc i'm pretty sure our dogs died#and then i open twitter/tiktok and see some asshole going ''yeah. they deserve it''??? fuck you i hope you go to hell
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dawg im so sick of weirdos on the internet defending really problematic shit and saying "it's fiction" cause like, while i do get where they're coming from, shutting down an argument with it sucks. sure, fiction can be used to explore problematic things, its just that i have an overall issue with how these people expect it to be consumed without any thought at all??
it also doesnt even address the nuance when it comes to this kinda shit (which is why i dont like the pro/anti labels bc wtf do those labels even fucking mean. i hate it)
#i dont wanna go full rant on the post so ill put the rest of my thoughts here#basically i dont care about what you consume in fiction. but i also want you to be critical of whatever youre consuming#for example i recently watched a vid about isekai harems and ppl were talkin about how it was escapist fantasy for lonely men in japan#but it just makes me feel a bit icked out bc i feel like this kinda media CAN affect how men view women#the same applies to shit like. rape fantasy and stuff#im not sayin that EVERY person who enjoys this would do this irl#but its problematic anime like this that makes me lowkey worried about how men view women yknow??#and the same applies to loli/shota stuff#these guys act like bc theyre fiction it doesnt reflect on their actions irl and i do agree to an extent#but i feel like it only applies to some select individuals#some of them can draw a hard line with fiction when it comes to this shit. but there are others who look at problematic anime and go#'oh well bc the guy in this anime does this it MUST be ok!!'#obvs tho im not sayin problematic shit shouldnt be in media. a lot of ppl also lack media literacy#and that shit annoys me too#overpolicing of what people should enjoy is annoying#ive rambled a lot but my conclusion is this: if you enjoy smth problematic just keep in mind if it affects the way you think towards others#also goes without saying but keep your space away from minors as well#and if someone expresses they dont like the thing you like then just respect that???#skypeaks
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What if I said you don’t need to be physically affectionate with your partner. What if I said you don’t have to ever kiss them on the lips. Or hold their hands. Or cuddle. What if I said that expecting physical touch out of a partner without talking about those things first is weird, because you shouldn’t expect those to be default givens to you. The same way you wouldn’t expect (or I’d hope you wouldn’t expect) those to be default givens in a friendship.
Sure, a lotta people may be fine with physical affection with their romantic partner, but have you ever considered that not everyone does. Would you assume that someone’s romantic relationship is “probably doing poorly” if you learned they don’t engage in physical affection like that. Would you pity the person who respects the boundaries of their partner that feels uncomfortable with physical touch. Would you villainize the person who set that boundary.
#I was pondering about the fact that lip kisses are dubbed as strictly romantic#& I already made a post abt how I think that’s ridiculous and how some ppl may express platonic affection through lip kisses#& I was thinking about how this personally applies to me and like#I realized that……. I don’t need lip kisses at all??????#if I never kiss a romantic partner while in a relationship that wouldn’t bother me#it also wouldn’t bother me if they DID want lip kisses#same applies to friendships#I wouldn’t be bothered if a friend said they like expressing platonic love through lip kisses#& I’m obviously not bothered if they don’t want that#idk I’m finding that a lotta rules for romance & platonic love is very arbitrary and ridiculous#mainly been thinking abt this bc I’ve been remembering this one TikTok of two girls showing a montage of photos of their friendship#& in one of the photos they were kissing each other on the lips#& they clarified that they were doing it in a platonic way#however ppl made a meme abt it & would draw their character ships to it#and I remember that leaving a sour taste in my mouth bc like… bro why are you implying that lip kissing can only be romantic????#I have so many thoughts abt this stuff tho#I think I might make one of my OC ships have a thing where they’re like… NOT super physically affectionate#bc one of the characters HATES physical touch#idk it’s just been on my mind a lot these past couple days#& unfortunately who I’d go to for bc fellow aro-specs be camping rn so no texting#anyway rambling in the post AND in the tags#relationship anarchist#relationship anarchy
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syoneru
just another shitty rarepair artblog
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art block goes brrrr