#and the church system doesn’t share a memory. do you think church is committing his sister’s shitty boyfriend’s face to his memory banks.
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think about modern deltayork. they became online friends YEARS ago but never met up even though they live in the same city bc delta doesn’t want to reveal anything about his host’s life without permission. eventually the system gets their shit more in order and it just so happens to coincide with york breaking up with his fiancée so they decide well. maybe we should try something for real. so they go on a date.
only for them to realize halfway through that york’s ex fiancée is delta’s body’s older sister.
#i don’t like the wording on this it could be funnier but oh well i don’t care#modern alpha system au#‘why wouldnt they immediately recognize each other’ york is blind in one eye and delta carries himself so drastically differently from alpha#clean shaven. different glasses. different hair styling. d went out and bought a new outfit for this okay.#and the church system doesn’t share a memory. do you think church is committing his sister’s shitty boyfriend’s face to his memory banks.#i bet delta didn’t even know carolina and york broke up
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only thorns left on this rose
dorothea arnault, mythical songstress, FEMME FATALE ( or according to brian david gilbert, comrade. )
-- literal definition of what if you were on the battle field and suddenly britney spears appears and burns you alive with a fireball ?
hi & welcome 2 the intro! i’m going to try and keep things short n simple bc i understand none of you guys know much about horny chess ! ( or more commonly referred to as fire emblem! ) & thank u 2 izzy 4 proof reading this 4 me !!
( park soo young. 24. she/her. ) everything’s fine, DOROTHEA ARNAULT, you’re in the good place! do you remember your last days in FIRE EMBLEM? but don’t worry, your ( slightly wilted roses, calloused fingers, scattered music sheets, cracks in a porcelain mask ) will fit perfectly with the rest of the good place, so long as you commit to the FEMME FATALE despite your tendency to commit to ( holding everyone at an emotional distance ) that the architect of the good place said you were. it’ll just be like a fun acting exercise! just play along and everything will continue to be fun.
here is some basic information about where from dorothea’s from before we get into the intro !
dorothea is from a land called fodlan -- a land compromised of three ruling territories, that all share one religion called the church of seiros.
in this land, those descended from ten warriors that saved the land with seiros carry something called crests which give people super powers basically -- these are the noble families, and as time has gone on, crests have become more rare, and even more value placed on them.
everything here is an aristocracy and your merit is based on your worth and nothing else.
the church runs a military academy where the first half of the game takes place called garreg mach for some reason.
anyway that’s the basic info to the game without going lore heavy or any spoilers -- because uhhhh it's a good game if anyone wants to experience it !!! & anyway moving on.
in your first breath you have signed your mothers death sentence. a bastard child born for one reason, to save this dying noble family you were born to serve. but your father calls you as he called your mother, useless. you didn’t bear the crest he had committed adultery for.
& so, the noble family sends away another maid -- your mother, to the streets of enbarr. just in time for another plague to ravage the land. you do not know your mother, sometimes a soft voice lulled you to sleep but was that a force of maternal love or the hallucinations set about from starvation ?
an orphan. street rat. filth. you grew up dodging shoes and curses, begging for scraps -- of love, attention, and food. dorothea made most of her measly livelihood through singing. she was blessed with the songbirds voice, but the filth that stained her face and matted her hair prevented from reaching her peak.
eventually -- one lucky day at the ripe old age of six, the primadonna of the local opera house -- the mittelfrank opera company, stumbled across the pauper. enchanted by the diamond in the rough, manuela cassagranda took dorothea in as an almost surrogate daughter.
& now this is a story all about how my life got flipped upside down
in a span of three years, the orphan became the mythical songstress -- the most sought after young girl in the adrestian empire. she was adored, and as she grew older, lusted after. the target of kidnappings, assassinations, marriage proposals and down right sleazes -- dorothea recognised the same nobles fawning over her as the same people who had kicked her in the face when she needed help.
they didn’t care about her. they cared about her beauty & voice they were bees attracted to a flower in full bloom. she was a commodity, a ticking time bomb, and soon -- she knew -- they would no longer fawn over her. there would be a new mythical songstress a new apple of everyones eye. with age, she thought, she would not grow more beautiful. but rot, wilt, as her summer of life would soon turn to autumn, then winter.
her dislike of the upper class, & most men, came when her own father expressed his adoration for her -- completely unaware that this pride and lust was towards his own scorned bastard.
it soon became apparent to dorothea, that if she didn’t want to meet the same fate as her mother, another commoner thrown out when passed their expiration date, she must marry well & focus on nothing but.
when manuela left the opera company to become a professor at garreg mach, dorothea followed suit by currying favour (& sleeping with) several nobles to pay for the outlandish tuition fee. She knew very well that the year she would enrol would place her in the same grade as the three future leaders of the three kingdoms.
she was a flirtatious force to be reckoned with at the academy, dating frivolously and constantly, trying to find one noble who would be willing to “bum it with a commoner.” people loved her; and quite equally, some hated her. the gossip and rumours causing dorothea to develop an extremely poor self-image, soon becoming reliant on everyone else to fawn over her to establish her value.
before graduation, war breaks out as their class president declares the church to be heresy. dorothea sides with edelgard, wanting to tear down the current system because yes she is a comrade and fuck the bougouirse am i right? this doesn’t deter from the fact she hates war & fighting, often fearing for the life of the average citizens lost in the senseless violence.
the war wages for six years before it’s conclusion, dorothea dies in the final battle trying to save a group of paupers from being crushed in the burning city.
& then she woke up here -- and everything is fine ! she’s told ! told that she was a good person. she wanted to believe that, but she doubted, that with the blood on her hands and the thorns of herself, that she could be good -- and then the her that had died ... didn’t seem like it was her, and she realises, she was right. she most certainly wasn’t good. & that the goddess, the one she never believed in, was going to punish her for her sacriliege.
so now she’s here ! vibing ! playing her guitar, flirting w every girl but excited at the concept of a soulmate ! some facts about how she’s doing !
- she’ll probably go by thea more than dorothea
- she’s probably proposed many community theatre projects to break the ice with everyone!
- if you’ve met her once, she’s already given u a cute little nickname, a pet name, ^-^
- out here being eternally gay, dumb and sexyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
- idk how anyone is doing the whole connections or plotting things but i would love 2 plot w everyoe
part 2:
What was your character’s last canon memory/where you’re playing your character from?
In terms of storyline, Dorothea is pulled from a crimson flower route in which she sides with Byleth and Edelgard in overthrowing the church. Her last canon memory would be participating in the final battle against the mad dragon, the immaculate one, in the burning wreckage of the burning city of fhirdiad.
How did your character “die”? (they don’t have to be dead in canon, so if they’re not, this would be entirely up to you)
In dorothea’s memory, she died during the battle – specifically, trying to save a group of orphans trapped in the burning city after the fighting was mostly over and the battle one – separated from the rest of the army, there was no one to come to her aid as the building collapsed on her, she died, glad that she managed to at least save the children amongst the bloodshed.
What are 3 mundane things the architects of the Neighborhood can do to torture your character?
surround her with extravagant displays of money & wealth that are frivolent and hinder more than benefit people, no quiet space from other people – always being interrupted every second of personal thought, & the constant whispering behind her back that she can never find out what is being said about her but just assumes the worst anyways.
Does your character think they belong at the Good Place?
Dorothea would like to think that she was a good person in life, that the people she stepped on to get ahead deserved what they had coming due to how they sexualised and idolised her – but she hates herself, she thinks that due to her participation in war she could never atone for that sin, no matter how reluctant she was.
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Cloudland Belief Systems
Multiple beliefs exist in the cloudlands. This post discusses the four most common belief systems from my fanfics: believers in unity between three counterparts after death, believers in the elemental zodiac, believers in a blended system, and believers in the influence of fairy tales on fae biology.
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Overview
Daoism - A Fae religion based on the idea that Fairies, Anti-Fairies, and Refracts will experience metamorphosis after death and take on a united form with their counterparts (Daoine Sìth). This religion has notable influence from Celtic folklore. Most Daoists are Fairies and Refracts. This Daoism is NOT related to real-world Taoism; it is a fanmade fae religion named after the Daoine Sìth, who are nature spirits described in Scottish folklore.
Zodiism - A philosophy based on the belief that the stars and the fae zodiac influence the lives of all living creatures.Deities known as nature spirits play a role in this philosophy. The year you were born in heavily influences your personality and the animal spirit your family honors largely shape your destiny. Most Zodii are Anti-Fairies.
Integration - A blended belief system held by those who do not believe Daoism and Zodiism are mutually exclusive. It’s not very acceptable to think this way since fae society favors black and white distinctions. The residents of Twilight Point (the settlement formed in Hawthorn Haven by runaway fae youth) are required to accept the idea that they can be integrated, or else speak of no spiritual beliefs.
Woven Ones - A philosophy based on the idea that the fae and their society are products of the beliefs outsiders hold about them and the stories people share. This philosophy is strongly connected with fairy tales.
Different sects exist in the cloudlands, each with their own cherry-picked beliefs. It’s also common for fae to hold no spiritual beliefs at all.
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Daoism
Followers
Vast majority of Refracts
A large percentage of Fairies
A hefty majority of Pixies
A small handful of Anti-Fairies
The Fairywinkle family is very strongly Daoist, but Wanda turned away from those beliefs later in life. Cosmo’s uncle Harold is Daoist mostly because he married a Daoist women, but otherwise no one else in his family is strongly attached to the religion. Poof and Dusty were not raised in a Daoist home (although they are exposed to Daoist beliefs every time they visit their Fairywinkle relatives).
H.P. was raised Daoist and still considers himself to be one since he holds general Daoist beliefs. He would prefer his pixies were brought up Daoist too. However, H.P. tends to cherrypick the parts he likes and ignore the parts he doesn’t- for instance, he might page through King Nuada’s scripture but doesn’t see the point in studying it since he “already knows the stories,” and he hasn’t attended church since he was very young. One of his older pixies, McKinley, is an extremely devout follower of Daoism and visits Fairy World every Thursday to pray and sing songs.
The Eros family, blessed by Aengus, are extremely Daoist and would be killed if they ever strayed from that path.
Building Blocks
This religion revolves around achieving self-actualization- living up to your full potential and reaping the enjoyment of your full magical strength. Hard work and emotional satisfaction are highly prized in this belief system; knowingly subjecting yourself to unhappiness is not. Tales of the Tuatha Dé Danann make up the lore of this religion, though it is believed the race has died out. Stories about hundreds of deities and their intricate relationships are told to children as a way of teaching moral lessons.
Daoists believe the ancient Aos Sí race literally split apart into three separate creatures: Fairies, Anti-Fairies, and the Refracted. They believe that what has come apart will come together again, and three counterparts will become a single creature in the afterlife: Daoine Síth.
Daoism is fairly open and about making your own connection with deities; honoring the memory of these noble spirits can be done with intense worship and prayer, or through simple gestures. It’s a religion of “Whatever works for you, as long as you do it with pride.”
Customs and Rituals
There are thousands of stories related to the Tuatha Dé Danann, and it’s difficult to master them all. Nonetheless, it’s expected one will know a significant amount of them. When one feels confident in their abilities, they agree to be baptized. Baptism involves a symbolic dance and kiss with one’s Refracted counterpart (since Refracts are usually raised to be Daoist priests and priestesses). Baptism can be done in any of the Daoist shrines any time before one comes into their adult wings; once you come into your adult wings, you can only be baptized in the difficult-to-reach High Kingdom temple.
After baptism, you receive a baptism medal and can travel to certain restricted, holy locations in the cloudlands. The Eros Nest is usually restricted, though it opens to the public at certain times.
A church service is held four times a year (generally the first Thursday after the season turns). Many Daoists choose not to use magic on Thursday, though that isn’t a requirement. The religion forces very little upon its believers; it is a religion of self-actualization and coming to decisions on your own.
Deities
Daoists honor the memories of the old days and believe they’ll have the chance to embrace the old days themselves after death. When speaking of the Tuatha Dé Danann, one should place their thumb to their chest.
Prayer is not very important, as Daoists believe the Tuatha Dé Danann have moved on, so there isn’t really anyone left to pray to. One may pray to the general universe if that’s what they wish to do. The religion urges followers to find their own way to connect with the universe and feel at peace.
Prayer is done by kneeling with the right hand touching the forehead, palm facing out, thumb curled in so it touches the palm. The same sign (minus the kneeling) means “I come in peace” in Fairy culture.
Literature
The single holy book is called King Nuada’s scripture and contains many stories about the Tuatha Dé Danann. One should study this book if they intend to be baptized (though they could learn the stories orally as well and be baptized without ever turning a page).
Moral Rights and Wrongs
Reaching the afterlife is inevitable unless you majorly screw up by committing one of the Three Deep Sins, which are stated in this poem written at the beginning of Da Rules:
Tell no lies, excepting those dressed in white. Kill no one before they've engaged in fair fight. If ever in doubt, recall the Fairy Elder is sure to be right. Disobey these and you'll lose your path to the light.
Truth, honor, and total obedience to the Fairy Elder are crucial. Killing someone without giving them the chance for a fair fight will blacklist you from Fairy society. “Fair fight” means both parties should be physically capable of defending themselves; one should not kill someone who is bound, has been kidnapped and thrown into a small space, or who is praying.
Aside from these Three Deep Sins, there are a few other incidents that can cause you to die a “dustless death” and get lost on the way to heaven. These include killing a unicorn, disobeying your master if you’re a selkie, dying as an infant before you’ve had your first taste of milk, and so on. If you don’t end up on Plane 23, it’s believed the Darkness will snatch you up.
Daoists dislike coin sith (fairy dogs) because they’re said to carry souls to the afterlife. Specifically, their bodies carry souls, and swap soups with other bodies to do so. Commit one of the Three Deep Sins in front of a fairy dog and it’ll take your soul. Daoists believe fairy dogs can die, and that if you die while in the body of a fairy dog, you don’t go to heaven and simply cease to exist. Certain sins will likewise cause you to “die a dustless death” and lose your right to heaven.
In Daoism (as with most of Fairy culture), values such as honor, loyalty, and trust are integral to society (tracing back to Fairies’ adherence to geasa and Da Rules). In Zodiism (and most Anti-Fairy culture), it’s thought that promises should be broken for the “greater good”- a vague concept that makes Fairies uneasy but which community-centered Anti-Fairies soak up.
Fear of The Darkness was everywhere in Fairy World until “Wishology.” After witnessing The Darkness become the Kindness, Daoists are trying to decide how this changes their beliefs.
Social Roles and Relationships
Friends and romantic partners are expected to support one another, helping each other make good choices. Mothers and fathers are both expected to be gentle and nurturing with children (no distinction of gender in that role).
Typically, Refracts are perceived as pure and holy while Anti-Fairies are perceived as deceptive and evil (or if not evil, then certainly troubled and untrustworthy). Refracts usually work as priests and priestesses in the Daoist shrines throughout Fairy World. Fairies hold other jobs (they’re encouraged to pursue what they love) and strive to purify themselves.
Anti-Fairies are, sadly, frequently ignored or rejected. In general, Anti-Fairies are thought to embody the impurities of the soul. It’s best to strengthen your body, mind, and spirit so they don’t consume you in the next life.
Daoism is a religion of self-actualization. You are encouraged to do what you feel is best for you and seek the lifestyle that makes you happy, so there are no strict social roles in this religion.
Death and the Afterlife
It’s believed all three fae counterparts unite into a single being in the afterlife (Daoine Síth form). The Daoine form closely resembles depictions of the Aos Sí. The counterpart with the highest lift (crown height) in life will pass the most personality traits to the Daoine form, the lowest lift will pass the least.
It’s believed your magic cycles back through the universe after death, but that ancestors still have some ability to offer more or withhold some of their magic from living relatives. Respecting your ancestors will ensure magic stays available and easy to use, while offended ancestors may cut your supply.
If a fairy has magic in their body when they die (i.e. a connection to the energy field), they will turn to dust upon death. Those who die without a connection to the energy field will vanish without leaving any dust behind. Daoists believe it’s honorable to die a “dusty” death and shameful to die a dustless one.
At a Daoist funeral, people dress in black. Those who knew the deceased may speak about them briefly in front of a small gathering. Daoist funerals are usually short and held outside, so it’s rare to set up chairs or have a banquet. The next of kin decides what to do with the deceased’s lifedust and core- some dispose of it, others keep it in their bedroom or office space. It’s also common to eat the core, which is a symbolic gesture connected to the idea that once you die, your magic flows back into the universe for your family to use.
The second Thursday of July is the Day of Daoine on the fae calendar. This celebration honors the dead by setting a place out for them at meals and telling this empty chair about events that have occurred in the family.
Life as a Daoist
To call yourself Daoist, you should know (and believe) the major stories about the Tuatha Dé Danann and some traditional heroes, including King Nuada and Cú Chulainn. You should know the four treasures and what became of each one. You should know the three parts of the soul and believe that in the afterlife, you and your counterparts will unite as one.
When you are confident in your knowledge, you can be baptized in a Daoist shrine. There are several of these throughout Fairy World. These appointments must be made in advance and you should arrive fasting. At your baptism, you will meet your Refracted counterpart, who will walk you through a symbolic dance and end the encounter with a kiss (If you’re the Refracted counterpart, you’ll practice your dance in advance and be summoned when called upon).
Once you moult into your adult wings, Fairy and Refract counterparts come together again for a second symbolic dance, this one more detailed and intense than the first. A large coming of age ceremony is held which involves donning ceremonial clothing and dyeing hair with unicorn blood.
Most Fairy World shops close early on Wednesdays, regardless of whether the owner is Daoist or not. They stay closed on Thursday and open again on Friday, when the Fairy work week begins. Many Daoists choose not to use magic on Thursdays, though this is not required. Like the rest of Daoism, it’s a religion of personal choices and self-actualization. It’s up to the individual to decide whether “Thursday” means from sundown on Wednesday to dawn of Friday, whether it’s when you go to sleep, and whether "Thursday” means Thursday in your home time zone or current time zone.
The four season turn holidays are celebrated on the appropriate dates. A small church service is held the first Thursday following each of these holidays, resulting in four church services a year.
Daoists also believe in the three parts of the soul: the hands, the lines, and the core. When sharing magic, whether that be while preening or while mating, the three parts come into play; it’s custom to hold at least one hand palm to palm during these intimate moments. Holding hands is the first of these three stages of intimacy, followed by breathing in sync with one another, and finally sharing your emotions and mind without holding back.
Common Criticism
It’s argued that the Tuatha Dé Danann were people too, just living their lives. Why worship them as though their daily actions were holy?
There is evidence the Aos Sí existed. However, there is little evidence that the Aos Sí split into three counterparts. Perhaps the Aos Sí were ancestors of Fairies, but not Anti-Fairies or Refracts.
There is documented proof of the nature spirits, but not as much evidence for Daoine forms.
Strong evidence for reincarnation exists, but reincarnation doesn’t fit into the Daoist vision of the afterlife.
Anti-Fairies in general don’t mesh well with Daoist beliefs; in general, Fairies try to avoid Anti-Fairies and don’t even invite them to the shrines during baptism when Fairy and Refracted counterparts come together... quite rude for a religion that believes in equal unity after death.
Anti-Fairies are offended if they’re told, in essence, to grin and bear their way through this life because in the next life, they’ll be equal to Fairies.
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Zodiism
Followers
Vast majority of Anti-Fairies
A modest number of Fairies
Some Pixies
Very few Refracts
Anti-Cosmo is firmly Zodii and has tried his best to raise Foop and Smoky in a Zodii home. Anti-Wanda was indifferent to Zodiism in her youth but has accepted Zodii beliefs as an adult. However, she leans towards integration. Foop agrees the nature spirits exist and might send miracles if they feel like it, but he feels no attachment or genuine respect towards them. He believes they see mortals like pawns and don’t actually care about him, so why should he praise them for that?
The vice president of Pixies Inc., Longwood, holds Zodii beliefs even though H.P. is Daoist. He was born in a Leaves year, so he often visits the Leaves Temple on Thursdays to meditate and pray. As he’s grown, he’s struggled with Zodii beliefs and even reverted briefly to Daoism because according to Zodii beliefs, he (a Leaves year) should be submissive and shouldn’t hold leadership positions... an obvious conflict with him first in line to be the next Head Pixie.
Building Blocks
The Zodii believe that Tarrow, the cosmic jellyfish and deity of fate and destiny, selects a path and soulmate(s) for everyone. You can choose to reject his plans, but you won’t have his influence in your life anymore, and things will probably go very wrong very soon.
While there are hundreds of nature spirits, the main seven control the elements and are therefore placed on the Fairy zodiac. The days of the week are named after them. It’s said that their power is strongest on their day of the week, not to mention their year in the seven-year cycle. Similarly, the Zodii believe that the day of the week and year of the zodiac cycle affects the flow of luck that influences you. They tend to be very superstitious people, and will postpone events until the right moment- for example, marrying in a Love year.
The Zodii believe encounters are fated and you can predict how well a relationship will work out by how the first encounter goes. The more impactful the first conversation, the higher the chance you’ll meet again and grow to be good friends.
Then there are bonds. The Zodii believe in fate, and that the year of your birth has a major impact on your personality. As such, they believe in automatic compatibility between certain signs on the zodiac, and automatic incompatibility between others. It’s not unusual for a Zodii to refuse to even have a one-night stand with someone of an “incompatible” zodiac, lest it lead to negative consequences.
Customs and Rituals
Many (though not all) children of Zodii parents are betrothed shortly after birth. Colored rings are distributed to the youth and the youth search the crowd for someone with a matching ring. Those who do not find someone with a matching ring within the given time are declared not to have a soulmate attending the ceremony, and must actively seek them later in life. Non-Zodii often mock the “randomness” of Zodii betrothals, but the Zodii believe strongly in fate. This ceremony was depicted in Frayed Knots Chapter 3, “Fun With Yarn.”
Note - In Anti-Fairy culture, marriage and romance do not always go together. Instead, marriage and soulmates go together. Siblings (especially twins) are sometimes betrothed.
The fae calendar is based around the fae zodiac, with the Love year considered the first year of the new cycle (Leaves the last). The new year is always a big event in Anti-Fairy World, but the turn of the zodiac cycle (every seven years) is bigger. Most Zodii, if they choose to marry, will postpone their wedding until the year of Love. Growth milestones are celebrated in the year of Love as well.
At age 150,000, an Anti-Fairy becomes a legal adult and has a coming of age ceremony that involves watching the body with different products. Non-Anti-Fairies may also engage in this ritual, some choosing to perform it at age 150,000 and others at the appropriate age of majority for their living situation. Anti-Cosmo’s coming of age ceremony was depicted in the Frayed Knots chapter “The Bar Code.”
Deities
The Zodii honor nature spirits who watch over the universe. These include Mother Nature, Father Time, and several other powerful characters who appear in The Fairly OddParents. The Grim Reaper, for instance, is a form of the nature spirit of death. The chicken goddess from the episode “Chicken Poofs” represents the nature spirit of life. The Darkness and the Hocos Poconos are also notable figures to note.
There are seven elements on the fae zodiac (depicted above) and each is represented by a nature spirit. These elements are Love, Fire, Water, Sky, Soil, Breath, and Leaves. It’s believed the seven children were born in this order, giving rise to the seven days of the week on the fae calendar. The association between Anti-Fairies and Friday can be traced back to the Love deity, Dayfry, who represents the first year of the zodiac cycle and the first day of the fae work week.
The zodiac spirits are associated with the following:
Love - Dayfry the Leader - Balance, loyalty, duty, politeness, gentleness, sacrifice, honor
Fire - Saturn the Warrior - Energy, comfort, emotional strength, passion, family, justice
Water - Sunnie the Scholar - Focus, tact, introspection, education, logic, tranquility
Sky - Munn the Trickster - Acceptance, compassion, hope, faith, cheer, speed, safe travel
Soil - Twis the Merchant - Dedication, work, ambition, planning, harvest, physical strength
Breath - Winni the Teacher - Communication, health, teaching, sewing, rest, self-care
Leaves - Thurmondo the Scientist - Curiosity, courage, initiative, understanding, mercy, humility
If someone who is Zodii encounters a problem, they may pray to the spirit they believe would be best equipped to solve the problem (You honor all deities if you’re Zodii- you aren’t locked into honoring only one, even if that’s the one who is “in charge of you”).
Click HERE to see zodiac years from 1990 to 2023 (Google Doc).
To read more about the nature spirits, view the Nature Spirits Class Overview post HERE.
The nature spirits have no biological sex and are genderless in their own eyes. They manifest differently to different people. In the cloudlands the ancient phrase “seven children” was translated as “seven sons,” so the zodiac spirits are said to be male. The Snobulacs worship a healing deity whom they perceive as female, even though this deity (according to the Zodii) is another form of Winni. Dame Artemis explicitly refers to the zodiac spirits as female.
In my nature spirit resource collection, I noted the minor spirits by the gender they are perceived as by the narrator who will encounter them (for personal reference). In reality, they are sexless and genderless.
Literature
There are no “holy” texts per se; Zodiism is technically a philosophy, not a religion. However, mythology about the nature spirits exists and is prominent. Many stories have been compiled in collections.
Zodiism is inseparable from math. The flow of luck in the universe is always traced back to calculations and you need some schooling to understand how all that works.
Moral Rights and Wrongs
“Right” and “wrong” are much more subjective in Zodiism compared to Daoism. In Daoism (as with most of Fairy culture), ideas like honesty and obedience are always considered right while deceit and anger are considered wrong; promises should always be upheld no matter what. In Zodiism (and most Anti-Fairy culture), promises can and should be broken for the greater good, and it’s up to the individual to determine when the “greater good” distinction applies.
Those who are Zodii usually try to honor the spirit who rules the year they were born. They try to view the world through that spirit’s eyes and encourage that spirit’s values. Examples:
Someone who honors Sunnie may actively search for those who seem stressed, and try to help them find peace.
Someone who honors Munn may seek those who feel rejected and try to help them find new friends who make them feel accepted.
Someone who honors Thurmondo may seek those who want to tackle large research projects and help them network.
Zodiism is all about making an active effort to help others the way the spirits would want them to be helped. Actively seeking those in need is considered a good act. Not volunteering helpful information that could benefit someone when they explicitly state what they’re looking for is considered a failure (“going against fate”).
Acting out of turn is also frowned upon. It’s believed the order of the zodiac depicts the natural order of dominance and submissiveness (since the goal is to look to the spirits and try to live like they do). Trying to take the lead when you should be the submissive one is inappropriate.
Note - Age takes priority over zodiac. Those younger defer to those 5,000 years older than them. If you’re born within the same 5,000 year chunk, the earlier zodiac year takes priority.
In the Frayed Knots chapter “Cageflight,” Anti-Cosmo (born in the Water year) struggles with his Zodii beliefs when he decides to take the submissive role with someone born in the Leaves year. Upon realizing he enjoyed this sexual encounter, he is confused and horrified- according to Zodii teachings, he should have been offended, left the situation, and shouldn’t have enjoyed it at all.
Social Roles and Relationships
The Zodii believe in zodiac bonds. That is, the year you were born on the fae zodiac affects your relationships. Yellow bonds are considered good luck, green bonds bad luck (in the sense that even Anti-Fairies desire yellow bonds, not green). Yellow bonds lead to prosperity and happiness, green bonds to misery.
Zodiac bonds are based on the relationships of the zodiac spirits; the idea is that the year you were born gives you the same characteristics as the nature spirit who represents that year, so you too will mesh with someone of other years the same way the spirits do.
Many Zodii are betrothed young. It’s believed that fate plays a role in these betrothals, so they’re thought to lead to genuine life satisfaction even if you end up with an undesirable bond.
Zodiac Bond Colors
YELLOW - Two people usually get along very well
BLUE - Mostly the same as your counterparts get along
PINK - Mostly opposite how your counterparts get along
PURPLE - It really just depends; could go either way.
GREEN - Usually don’t get along very well at all
Those born in the same year are assumed to have a purple bond.
Foop’s parents and the majority of the Anti-Fairy public expect him to make a damsel named Anti-Coriander his High Countess someday. Foop was born in the Breath year, but is more of a scientist (associated with the Leaves year). Anti-Coriander was born in the Leaves year, but is more of a healer (associated with the Breath year). The Breath and Leaves years share a yellow bond. These two are considered an extremely balanced couple.
This idea of balance is considered a sign of a satisfying relationship; romance and passion are extra benefits, not the main points you should seek in an effective Zodii marriage.
Acolytes are expected to perform duties at their assigned temple, keeping the place clean and working. Many acolytes work on research projects in their free time. Parents do not have distinct social roles in Zodii beliefs (most Anti-Fairy families don’t consist of both parents and a child). However, the young should respect their elders and those born later on the zodiac (close to Leaves) should defer to those born earlier (close to Love).
There are three types of relationships the Zodii consider to be healthy: Relationships of Passion, relationships of Affection, and relationships of Duty. Accepting your fate and doing your duty without complaint is looked upon favorably in Anti-Fairy culture, even though most Fairies don’t consider this particular view healthy. Finding value in difficult relationships is part of the culture shock that keeps many Fairies from committing to Zodii beliefs.
A zodiac spirit pair represents each of these three relationships. You will notice that these spirits have yellow-bonded pairs. Zodii without partners may seek Dayfry, the unbonded spirit, for relationship advice or for a blessing to live a satisfying life without a bonded partner.
- Passion - Saturn and Munn embody the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Saturn is a flirt whose love language is words of affirmation. He’s a decorated war champion who considers himself a gentleman, and enjoys the traditional motions of courtship. Munn’s love language is gift giving, and he’s constantly trying to impress him with his antics. Anti-Fairies who prefer passionate intimacy may seek their blessing.
- Affection - Sunnie and Twis embody companionate love. Sunnie’s love language is physical touch, and he would snuggle all day if Twis let him. He likes having his back patted and rubbed. Twis’s love language is acts of service, and he likes getting work done with Sunnie at his side. Probably because Sunnie, being the Water spirit, waters his crops. They greatly enjoy one another’s company and conversation. Anti-Fairies who prefer affectionate, less passionate relationships may seek their blessing.
- Duty - Winni and Thurmondo represent difficult relationships. They both share the love language quality time. Winni constantly tells himself he’s doing the right thing in pursuing Thurmondo because they create oxygen for the universe when they’re together. Thurmondo struggles to break free and stand on his own. Since Anti-Fairies are forced to pair with those their counterparts do, they look to Winni and Thurmondo for strength when times are hard.
>> No one stepped in when Anti-Cosmo and his brother were smacked around by their mother, and the children weren’t sure who to talk to about their fears because relationships of duty are considered healthy in Anti-Fairy World (High Count Anti-Bryndin did occasionally scold their mother for being too harsh, but did not punish her or end her abuses).
Death and the Afterlife
Zodii funerals are longer than Daoist ones. They are normally held outside, but multiple people prepare speeches and chairs are set up; Zodii funerals are held a week or even two or three after death (unlike Daoist funerals, which are held as soon as possible). People wear white. Following the ceremony, the core is placed in a special burial chamber within the appropriate zodiac temple.
The Zodii believe in reincarnation after death. It’s anticipated that you’ll return as one of your own descendants, assuming you have the favor of the nature spirits. Because of this, it’s crucial to know your family line; Zodii children are encouraged to research their ancestors and determine who they’re a reincarnation of if possible.
Before reincarnating, a soul enters a waiting period where they serve the spirits in the afterlife. The Soil Temple (Twis’s temple) is populated by visible, glowing spirits who supposedly guard the tunnels. Anti-Cosmo firmly believes he served as a guard in the Soil Temple for centuries after his previous life and will probably serve there again after this one.
Alternatively, those who die may return as an aspect of nature (such as a tree or stream) or an animal (presumably the animal that represents your family), according to what the nature spirits task them to do.
Life as a Zodii
It is traditional for Zodii parents to present a child (born to them or adopted) to the appropriate zodiac temple as soon as possible. The child is blessed in front of witnesses and bestowed with a sacred name, called a private name. Anti-Fairies use their private names until age 150,000 when they have their coming of age ceremonies and use their adult names (which begin with “Anti-”). Non-Zodii parents also give their child a private name, as is Anti-Fairy custom, but do so outside the temples.
Foop was blessed under the name Nebula, but the name “Foop” stuck due to the news coverage surrounding his birth. His name is legally Nebula, but only his extended family call him that; most people don’t realize that’s his name.
Many Zodii are betrothed at a young age and go through life believing they’ve already found their soulmate. Soulmates generally live together (usually in whichever colony holds higher social status. Those who are not betrothed young are encouraged to study themselves and determine who they were in a previous life. Knowing who they were may help them satisfy them in this life by tying up loose ends and completing goals that were left unfinished.
Furthermore, identifying your past life may help you find your soulmate, as it’s believed soulmates reincarnate in the same time period as often as possible. It’s thought you can have multiple soulmates, but usually only one lines up per lifetime. Multiple soulmates in the same lifetime is not unheard of.
Certain Anti-Fairies who show passion and promise are encouraged to pursue lives as temple acolytes. From a young age, these Anti-Fairies study the flow of luck in the universe as well as architecture and interior design. Acolytes are highly respected in Anti-Fairy World, as the flow of energy through buildings is of the utmost importance to highly sensitive Anti-Fairy ears.
Most Anti-Fairies do not train as acolytes, and many don’t train for any job in particular. The majority of Anti-Fairies live and travel with their colony around Anti-Fairy World, constantly on the hunt for food (which is somewhat scarce in Anti-Fairy World). Zodii Anti-Fairies attempt to visit the zodiac temples on a somewhat regular basis, praying and leaving offerings to the nature spirits.
There are 12 special holidays on the fae calendar celebrated by Anti-Fairies, Zodii or not. A few have Zodii influence and are acceptable to celebrate if you happen to be Zodii but not an Anti-Fairy.
It’s believed those born in the year of Love are natural leaders while those born in the Leaves year are submissive. Those born later in the zodiac should be submissive to those born earlier, and young Anti-Fairies to older ones. Those who act in line with these stereotypes are praised by society while dissenters are scolded or even outright shunned.
Common Criticism
Zodiism suggests good and bad are subjective. Every spirit has their own perspective of good and bad and it’s impossible to be good in every person’s eyes. Some see Zodiism as a philosophy that teaches you can do whatever you want without consequences, even if your actions hurt others.
Zodiism a waste of valuable resources (for building temples, murals, monuments, etc.) and followers spend more time prettying the homes of the rich than helping those in need. Where are the morals?
There is so much variation in personality within a single year. How can it be argued that those born in that year will exhibit certain traits (or mesh well with those born under other zodiacs)?
Children are betrothed “randomly” at birth and expected to maintain those bonds for life; Zodii guilt culture is strong.
Any calculation can be invented to argue anything, so what proof is there that the afterlife will be the way mortal math and science suggest?
Where do counterparts fit in this philosophy? Why do babies physically resemble their counterparts at birth? How does the honey-lock work if counterparts don’t share a soul?
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Integration
Integrationists believe Daoist and Zodii beliefs are not mutually exclusive. They believe if all three counterparts agree to unite as one after death, they will. A counterpart who desires reincarnation will serve the nature spirits until they are granted another life.
It’s thought Daoine unity and reincarnation both involve the unanimous decision of all three parts of the soul; souls in disagreement must reside as separate shards on Plane 23 (probably in discontent) until they decide to either unite or reincarnate together. Balance, agreement, and consent are absolutely key.
The Tuatha Dé Danann are honored and prayed to alongside the nature spirits. Generally nature spirits are considered more powerful, but the Tuatha Dé Danann are looked to when one is honing in on a specific request (Ex: Saturn is a warrior deity in Zodii culture, but one may turn to a specific Tuathan figure to aid them in different battles depending on what that figure is known for; the same rule of general vs. specific also applies to school exams).
Integrationists are often critiqued for being disloyal. They are seen as flighty and desperate to cover all their bases without firmly believing in anything.
The majority of followers are youth (especially as of Hawthorn Haven). As a result, beliefs in integration are sometimes waved off as silly, rebellious, or a passing fad.
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The Woven Ones
The Woven Ones believe fae biology, society, and behaviors are influenced by the stories told about their people via fairy tales. The more often stories are told, the more influential they become; fae are only what mortal species believe them to be.
Those who hold such beliefs point to evidence like cherubs (Cupid in particular) gaining and losing power according to the amount of love in the universe.
This belief system is often critiqued for passing responsibility for one’s actions not on the fae who performs those actions, but upon those who tell their stories.
Certainly one of the less popular belief systems, but vocal nonetheless.
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Castle Rock
Part I: Memory and Time
Episode 1: “Severance”
Episode 2: “Habeas Corpus”
Episode 3: “Local Color”
“What I keep wondering—all the smells we smell, all the songs and pictures—do you lose them all? I mean, wherever you go next, does the tape get erased? And if it does, you aren’t really you anymore, are you?”
“Is that what you’re afraid of?”
“That’s what I want.”
The above conversation takes place almost halfway into the first episode of Castle Rock, the new Hulu series produced by Stephen King and J.J. Abrams. Henry Deaver (Andre Holland), a death-row attorney, is having a final conversation with his client, a 93-year-old woman whose appeal has been denied. She is musing on the nature of memory, and we get the general idea that her life is full of scenes she’d rather leave behind. For his part, Henry is drawn back to an incident from his childhood: during a freezing winter, he went missing in the woods near his home, and was found by the local sheriff, totally unaffected by the subzero conditions. The sheriff asked what happened to him, but Henry did not remember.
Memory plays an enormous role on Castle Rock, both within the world of the series and outside of it. It’s been established that Stephen King’s work takes place within a connected universe, and ever since Castle Rock premiered, the internet has been buzzing with theories about how it ties into the larger King canon. Now I have to make a confession: I am nobody’s idea of a Stephen King aficionado. I’ve seen several of the most popular screen adaptations of his work, and just through pop-culture osmosis, I’d say I have a general awareness of his major stories, but nothing beyond a surface level. So that’s going to impact how I write about and interpret this series. Honestly, though, I haven’t felt like I’m missing out—the story so far has been strong enough to stand on its own.
In Episode 1, however, a near-immediate connection is established to one of King’s most famous works: The Shawshank Redemption. We see a man (Terry O’Quinn) cooking breakfast for his wife, and they have a brief conversation mentioning the man’s imminent retirement. The man, addressed as Mr. Lacy, drives through town, and on his car radio, an aria is playing. It’s “Che soave zeffiretto” from The Marriage of Figaro—the same piece from one of the climactic scenes of The Shawshank Redemption, when Andy Dufresne plays it over the prison’s loudspeaker system. We watch as Mr. Lacy drives into the woods, stopping atop a bluff. The camera shows a length of rope trailing out of the car, tied to a nearby tree. Mr. Lacy takes the other end of the rope (looped into a noose), slips it around his neck, turns off the radio, and floors the gas pedal, launching the car off the bluff. As the vehicle sinks into the black waters of the lake below, the camera fixes on its back bumper, where we see the insignia of the Maine Department of Corrections, and that evocative name: Shawshank.
Then we see Shawshank itself, its stone turrets and barbed-wire fencing rising out of a grey mist. It turns out that Mr. Lacy was Warden Lacy, until recently. The new warden, played by Ann Cusack, listens grimly to the guards as they hint at the prison’s dark history, showing particular interest in a young guard’s remark about a wing of the prison that has stood empty for thirty years. The young guard, Zalewski (Noel Fisher), is sent to count the empty cells, and immediately finds something that doesn’t seem right—boot prints. He follows them to a heavy metal door, which leads to another door in the middle of the floor. Zalewski opens it, revealing only a seemingly disused water tank, and is about to leave when something falls out of his pocket. He crawls down the ladder on the side of the tank, and finds… A chair. A coffee can full of cigarette butts. A metal cage, with a young man in it.
The young man, played by Bill Skarsgård, is emaciated and pale, and his bearing is meek and fearful. He does not speak, and more unnervingly, he doesn’t blink, his large hazel eyes staring hollowly at his questioners. Finally, in the warden’s office, he mumbles a name, through a voice that clearly hasn’t been used in some time: “Henry Deaver.” This brings us to the scene I discussed at the beginning.
It turns out that Henry Deaver grew up in the town of Castle Rock, twenty miles from Shawshank. Zalewski calls him anonymously, defying the warden’s dictum that the mysterious young man should be kept secret, and Henry comes back home. Over the course of the rest of the episode, Henry begins to realize that something is rotten in Castle Rock. The storefronts downtown are boarded up, his adoptive mother Ruth (Sissy Spacek) is exhibiting severe memory loss, the local cemetery has been paved over, and the kindly sheriff from Henry’s childhood, Alan Pangborn (Scott Glenn), has taken more than a neighborly interest in Ruth. Also, no one at the prison seems willing to give Henry any information about his mysterious ‘client’.
In the second episode, Henry pays a visit to Warden Lacy’s home looking for clues, and at first, seems to find a sympathetic ear in the widowed Martha Lacy. But once she discovers who he is, she turns him out. Some people in Castle Rock have longer memories than others. When Henry vanished into the woods all those years ago, his adoptive father, the Reverend Matthew Deaver, was found with his neck broken, and later succumbed to his injuries. The young Henry was suspected of an active role in that circumstance. When Henry visits his father’s old church, the new pastor makes an awkward remark about Henry being ‘redemption in the flesh’.
Over at Shawshank, the mystery around The Kid (as he is named in the credits) has deepened. Zalewski, on security camera duty, sees The Kid in a hallway, with a trail of corpses behind him. But it’s a false alarm—everything is as it should be. Meanwhile, Warden Porter is enjoying a drink at a hotel bar when she is interrupted by none other than Alan Pangborn. He tells her a strange story about Warden Lacy—that he claimed to have found and captured the Devil. Pangborn growls, “Don’t let that fuckin’ kid out.”
The episode also fully introduces the character of Molly Strand (Melanie Lynskey), who used to live downhill from the Deaver house, and nursed a childhood crush on Henry. Current-day Molly is a nervous misfit, swallowing pills she buys from a scraggly teenager to deal with what she calls ‘other people’s noise’. In a flashback, it’s revealed that she may know more about Henry Deaver’s disappearance than he does—we see the young Molly watch from her window as Pastor Deaver calls Henry outside in the middle of the night. When questioned by the police, however, she denies any knowledge of what’s going on.
Episode 3, “Local Color”, opens with a scene of young Molly walking through the snow to the Deaver house, putting on Henry’s red plaid jacket, and climbing the stairs to where the injured Pastor Deaver lies. Without a moment’s hesitation, young Molly pulls out his ventilator. Now, the viewer knows the answer to at least one of Castle Rock’s mysteries. In the present day, we follow Molly as she prepares to go on a local-access show to talk about her plan to revitalize Castle Rock’s moribund downtown. Molly finally has a face-to-face conversation with Henry, and it leaves her so upset that she tracks down her dealer, who tells her to try her luck out at the motor court.
Molly goes to the motor court at night, and asks a little girl if she knows where ‘Derek’ is. The girl points Molly toward a structure nearby, and as Molly approaches, we hear the voices of children. It appears to be some kind of mock trial, and almost all the children are wearing grotesque papier-mâché masks. The ‘witness’, a little boy, says that the ‘killer’ is in the courtroom, and immediately points to Molly. “Guilty! Guilty!” the children shout. It’s oddly disappointing when the ‘judge’, aka Derek, brings Molly to his perfectly ordinary trailer and they begin to haggle over the pills, only to be interrupted by sirens.
The next morning, Henry happens to be at the local police station, trying to get information. He bails Molly out just in time for her to make her TV appearance. After an uncomfortable few moments, Molly bursts out with the truth: there is a young man being kept at Shawshank, without being convicted of any crime.
At last, Henry Deaver is formally invited to Shawshank. At last, Henry sits down face-to-face with The Kid. At last, The Kid communicates more, asking Henry, “Has it begun?” in a way that seems fraught with some deeper meaning. Skarsgård’s gawky physicality and hesitant speech patterns make an intriguing contrast to the menacing aura that has developed around him. In the previous episode, he was forced to share a cell with a burly neo-Nazi, and shortly thereafter, the other man suddenly dropped dead. Henry, however, seems instantly won over, reassuring The Kid that he’s there to help.
I’m grouping the episodes three at a time for reasons that will become clear in future installments (hey, look, I can do serialization too!). Before I go, I do want to make a note of the music on the show: the score is composed by Thomas Newman, who has contributed to some of my favorite films (Road to Perdition, Meet Joe Black, and, of course, The Green Mile and The Shawshank Redemption), and his spare piano chords go a long way toward establishing the show’s eerie atmosphere. I think I have now gone on entirely long enough for this round, but if you like what you’ve read, come back for more! There will be more anyway, because this is my blog and I’ve committed to this, so… that’s that on that.
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Bob Meehan - The Hartford Courant, Sunday March 17th, 1985.
Bob Meehan's 12-year-old daughter recently sang him a song she had learned at school. Sung to the tune of "Frère Jacques," it goes like this:
"Marijuana, Marijuana, PCP... PCP... Scientists make it, teachers take it... Why can't we? Why can't we?"
"Do you know how much dope is out there?" asks Meehan, founder of the Palmer Drug Abuse Program, which has affiliates in about 20 cities.
Eyebrows raised, he waits a split second for an answer, then launches into his tireless tirade against drugs.
"A child born today has as much chance as using drugs as getting the chicken pox," says Meehan, throwing up his arms. "In the average urban high school or junior high, about 75 percent of kids on a given day are either high or have some traces of drugs in their systems."
For 14 years, Meehan has been obsessed with drug abuse. Before that, he was abusing drugs.
If anyone knows what drugs can do, just ask ex-addict, ex-convict and recovering alcoholic. Go ahead and ask. He wants you to.
He wants you to know that drugs are the root of all evil. He doesn't mind if kids dye their hair purple, push safety pins through their noses or generally go on a rampage, just as long as they don't use dope.
He tells the story of meeting with one of his counselors recently. He asked her how things were going. Not good, she told him. Police has caught a group of program participants shooting out street lights.
Meehan asked whether they were high at the time. No, she told him. "Then we're successful," he says. "Teenagers are fun machines. We're not there to control their lives or make them take out the garbage. They're dumb, stupid and lazy."
Meehan travels in a world of hip kids who think they know everything. But since he started the Palmer Drug Abuse Program in 1971, 30,000 of them have learned from this man who speaks their language.
He peppers his conversation with words like "hey" and "baby" and "right on." He wears a trim beard and his thin, white hair cascades past his shoulders.
Meehan is no longer affiliated with the Palmer group; he resigned from the board of directors five years ago because "it was time to move on." Since then, he has started Freeway, another support group, and taken over operation of SLIC (Sober Live-In Center) Ranch, a teenage drug rehabilitation center in Escondido, Calif. Both Freeway and Palmer are free; a monthlong treatment at SLIC Ranch costs $5,000.
To further spread his word, Meehan also has written a book, "Beyond the Yellow Brick Road: Our Children and Drugs" (Farnsworth Publishing, $14.95), which he was promoting in Dallas recently.
Meehan's only training as a drug rehabilitator is what he calls his "degree from the streets." He first smoked marijuana when he was 12; by age 16 he was shooting heroin. At one point, he was drinking six bottles of codeine-based cough syrup a day.
At age 26, he was arrested for possession and sale of heroin and sentenced to a Kentucky penitentiary. While in prison, he tried to blame others for his problem - his parents, the nuns who taught him at Catholic schools. But then he realized that nobody put the first joint in his mouth or the needle in his arm.
After he was released from prison at age 27, he went to work as a janitor at Palmer Memorial Episcopal Church in Houston. Nearby was a city park; kids who played there often came by to use the church's bathrooms. Meehan started talking to them.
Out of his conversations with the kids, Meehan developed the Palmer program and gave over his life to fighting drug abuse.
Treatment in Palmer is based on the traditional tenets of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Meehan adapted AA's 12 steps for his teenage drug program. To be successful in the program, kids have to admit their drug problem, keep company with "winners," take a "moral inventory," and try to share what they've learned.
"We ask them to come to meetings and stay away from drugs for 30 days," he says. "We're not interested in whether they make the 30 days, just that they make a commitment. It's a personal decision."
Palmer drew national attention on 1979, when Carol Burnett's daughter, Carrie Hamilton, joined the program.
Today, Carrie is a student at Pepperdine University in California, and Burnett has shown her gratitude to Meehan by funding his Freeway program.
Meehan has had to weather accusations that his programs border on cults. A few former participants and former staff members say the program is based on mind control.
But Meehan shrugs off the critics. "Any group of people sharing a belief has a language," he says. "From outside, we look in and see kids saying the same phrases: 'One day at a time,' 'I own my behavior.' But the 12 steps teach them to think for themselves, so how the hell can it be a cult?"
Meehan acknowledges he's fighting a long, arduous battle. He knows that if kids are curious about drugs, they'll try them. And, he writes in his book, "there is little that we as parents can do to stop them."
He encourages parents not to worry if their children grow their hair long, smoke cigarettes or don't take their vitamins. The main concern, he insists, should be drugs.
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Why The Monks And Nuns Are The Way They Are — Part 1
I hope you are happy and healthy and enjoying what seems to be a bit of recent improvement in conditions. If we want our conditions to improve more consistently in the future, taking some tips from the monks and nuns will be very helpful. How do you feel about maintaining confidence and security that enable you to always look at life on Earth as a friend that you are traveling with, and never as a threat to be defended against? How do you like the idea of having an internally generated sense of well-being and happiness that is immune to assault by external circumstances? How about the notion of being a consistently kind and caring person to yourself as well as others — and eliminating doubt, fear, compulsive behavior, guilt, envy/jealousy, and anger from your life?
Yep! That all sounds good to me too. That’s why I think the two chapters from the book Reincarnation Through Common Sense that is entitled, “Why The Monks And Nuns Are The Way They Are — Parts 1 and 2” contain some of the most important things I have ever observed and written about. These chapters total 17 pages and there are another 8 pages about similarities between the system in southeast Asia and the system from Tibet. But with due respect to the short attention span world that we live in, I will post excerpts that contain only @ 1000 words. The first of these is below. The second will follow next week. If you are interested in the rest, it can be found in the book. More party-heavy, less esoteric excerpts from all three books will appear online in the following weeks.
I am damn sure not going to become a monk and I doubt that anyone who reads this is going to become a monk or nun either. But there are a lot of things monks and nuns do full-time that, if adopted even very part-time by us regular humans, can turn a hellish life into a decent one and a decent life into a more heavenly one.
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Why The Monks And Nuns Are The Way They Are — Part 1
THE BIG BRAIN THING
“In the cultivation of the mind, our emphasis should not be on concentration, but on attention. Concentration is a process of forcing the mind to narrow down to a point, whereas attention is without frontiers.” J. Krishnamurti
The locals visit our Temple often. Some come on to the grounds screaming, crying, angry, depressed, or otherwise agitated. After a half-hour of talking with our Wisdom Professionals, the formerly forlorn usually leave smiling. Why do so many people come here to see the robe wearers, and why do all these visitors leave feeling so much better than they did upon arrival? Why are the residents of this Temple so much fun to be around? What makes the Monks and Nuns who they are? There must be some reasons I’ll never know, but a few are obvious.
The first is The Big Brain thing, and the team spirit it entails. The second is reincarnation — but this is certainly not the kind of reincarnation you are used to hearing about. These two factors meet at so many crossroads that it can often be hard to separate them, but let’s try to talk about one at a time, beginning with The Big Brain thing.
Everybody’s got a brain and a mind. Many people consider these to be different words for the same thing. Technically, the brain is just a biological organ while the mind is something deeper and more inclusive. But in case it makes you more comfortable to do so, we will use these words interchangeably here. It won’t hurt anything. The words soul or spirit might be more accurate, and consciousness is actually what we’re talking about — but some folks think of these terms as abstractions. We can use the more familiar words “mind” and “brain” for now. Many people seem to find those terms more familiar and easier to understand.
It is widely known that any human uses only a small percentage of his or her mind/brain at any given time. Exactly how much gets used and what those percentages pay attention to having always been very important matters.
The Monks and Nuns believe that each individual carries a deep responsibility to focus the greatest possible percentage of their mental facility on the best, kindest, most loving, and most wisdom-heavy attitudes and functions they can produce. Fulfilling this responsibility is not optional but mandatory for them, as it probably should be for all of us. They recognize this responsibility as a necessity because it affects individual, familial, societal, and planetary relationships — as well as our survival as individuals and as a species.
Directing the use of our minds toward constructive positive ends is not an esoteric or saintly activity to be practiced only by cloistered Wisdom Professionals. It is a very practical and logical activity that can influence every human’s personal life. Material and emotional satisfaction are most comfortably born from a base of mental satisfaction. Happy and compassionate people feel prosperous, regardless of financial income. They don’t often steal from or kill each other.
Whether conscious of it or not, we always think of an action before we do it. There are big advantages to thinking consciously. The residents here know that any action should be avoided if it doesn’t help and that blind emotions bubbling up unrecognized from subconscious depths lead many folks into destructive actions. There are no blind emotions here. By quieting their own mental turbulence, these robed folks clearly see what they are thinking, and then steer it. Everything they do is done on purpose. Nothing gets away from them.
The sub/unconscious type of thought, and the actions resulting from it, are usually fueled by instinctive reactions or habitually programmed mental-reflex reactions. These are all too often based on the memory of past trauma or fear of the unknown future.
The most basic sub/unconscious thoughts are survival instincts and callous self-interest — animal reflexes. All of us live partially under the direction of such instincts. Our DNA has carried these instincts since caveman days. They are a physiological part of us. They cannot immediately be erased, but with proper attention, the nastier parts can be transcended.
Our subconscious minds have inherited yet another batch of characteristics and instincts through the training and information we have been given by schools, churches, parents, governments, TV/media, and so on. These are the conditioned reflexes, the behavioral patterns we have observed and absorbed since birth.
These biological and historical patterns coexist as what can be called “the little brain.” A lot of human actions can more accurately be called knee jerk reactions. The subconscious mind has such an entrenched pre-recorded program of how-to-be and what-to-do in it that we often react to situations without giving any thought at all to our reaction. Many people spend most of their lives controlled by mental patterns that they are not even aware of.
But we have all floated into The Big Brain Thing on occasion. When you and a lover feel like one body, when you feel your child’s pain as if it is your own, when you display “superhuman” physical strength/perseverance/clarity of thought in an emergency situation — at these times we go beyond so-called normal human parameters of feeling and function. We wander semi-consciously into Big Brain mode.
The Monks and Nuns live there. Their conscious focus is on the mind and life that we all share in our involuntary coexistence with all other creatures — animal, human, and divine. They are of the opinion that the similarities and relationships between us all are more deserving of attention than the differences. They believe that the mutually beneficial goals that this Big Brained point of view dictates outweigh personal goals in importance.
Oddly enough, it often turns out that personal goals are much more easily attained when universal goals are given priority!
The concept that all of humanity shares a mutual existence and sort of a universal mind containing great power that properly trained individuals can tap into, somewhat resembles Carl Jung’s Collective Unconscious theory — except with the Temple folks it is conscious, the idea had already been around for several thousand years before the great Mr. Jung was born, and it is considered fact, not theory.
The drop/ocean metaphor is often used to explain it. Most of us think of ourselves as an individual drop of humanity. The people here in the Temple think of themselves as an integral part of a vast ocean that contains all living things. Both views have some truth in them. This “ocean attitude” may seem a little esoteric or even a bit weird to many of us, but it has advantages. All individual problems and personal pains recede somewhat when you pay attention to the bigger picture. The freedom and security that the power of an all-inclusive ocean offers is much greater than the freedom and security available to a single drop of water, or a singular human.
Like most of us, the Temple residents have good intentions. But they are more committed and loyal to those intentions than most of us are to ours. They make that commitment functional by donating their motivation for achievement toward improving life for all of their fellow-creatures, as well as for themselves. They constantly work on improving their little drop (self), but that process is always based on how their drop can become a better drop in order to become part of a better ocean (how improving their lives can improve all lives). They are dancing on their own legs, but a much bigger force than any individual is always playing the tune. All ways.
To put it another way, these Wisdom Professionals have trained their little brains very thoroughly in the concern for all little brains. This keeps them tuned to the same wavelength as that bigger force that both contains and is concerned with the well being of all the little brains — The Big Brain. They have, through dedication and strong effort, actually become a conscious cell in and therefore a bit of a co-creating partner with The Big Brain. Call it God, or Dharma, or The Force, or the Collective Unconscious, or the Unified Field. Whatever you would call an all-inclusive divine resource, they are now part of it. Perhaps we all are, anyway! But they are aware enough of their inclusion in the bigger system, and practiced enough in that system’s processes, to be able to direct themselves to coordinate with it. They consistently, consciously practice moving their minds in an internal direction that benefits everything external as much as possible. Loyalties and actions are at least as concerned with the ocean at large as they are with their own individual drop. This affiliation with the Big Brain governs the lives of the Nuns and Monks and all the choices they make. It directs them as surely as any commander directs his or her troops.
About the Author
Doug “Ten” Rose may be the biggest smartass as well as one of the most entertaining survivors of the hitchhiking adventurers that used to cover America’s highways. He is the author of the books Fearless Puppy on American Road and Reincarnation Through Common Sense, has survived heroin addiction and death, and is a graduate of over a hundred thousand miles of travel without ever driving a car, owning a phone, or having a bank account.
Ten Rose and his work are a vibrant part of the present and future as well as an essential remnant of a vanishing breed.
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ROBIN OLIVER HUNT (Name at birth: Robin Huang; Alias: Robert Oliver Gardner)
Birthday: March 12 1990 (Pisces)
Hogwarts House (Primary): Gryffindor
Hogwarts House (Secondary): Slytherin
Myers-Briggs: ENFP
Enneagram: Type 8
Height: 5’9
Overview:
Mother:
1. Unknown—Linda Huang, still alive, forced to give up her child by her conservative parents who did not want her raising a child out of wedlock, has not tried to make contact with her son.
2. Mother Florence—the head nun at Nottingham Orphanage, firm, but kind; strict, but genuinely wanted the best for the children; had a soft spot for Robin, since he’d been there for like all his life.
3. Barbara Economides—Robin’s first foster mom, had six kids of her own, but room in her heart for a dozen more
Father:
1. Unknown—Ernesto Rosetti
2. George Economides—Robin’s first foster dad, loving and hard-working man, who unfortunately did not have a very hard-working cardiovascular system. Died of a heart attack when Robin was ~12
Mother’s Occupation: he doesn’t care about his birth mom, but Barbara owned a bakery
Father’s Occupation: he doesn’t care about his birth dad, but George owned a bakery
Family Finances: well, none of the homes he was in were great financially
Birth Order: only child as far as he’s concerned
Siblings: N/A--(Stefan, Petros, Elek, Idola, Eileen, Karena...the Economides kids)
Other Close Family: None
Best Friend: Joan Woode (28)
Other Friends: Tuck Frere (26), Martin Maddon (18), Fakhir Azhar (27)
Enemies: all those who neglect/abuse their children
Pets: none, would love a bird or a fox tho
Home Life During Childhood: He was in an orphanage till he was nine, and it was not a bad orphanage at all, just massively under-funded. At nine, he was placed in a foster home, a large Greek family, and he was very well-loved and well-taken care of, but the father dropped dead of a heart attack when Robin was 12 and the Economides family had to move and they couldn’t take care of Robin. He shuffled through like four other foster homes, at least one of which he was badly abused in, till at seventeen, he just didn’t come home one day and the family never reported it and that was that.
Town or City Name(s): Nottingham, England
What Did His Bedroom Look Like: Never had a steady room, or one of his own. Always shared with someone else, always a small bed.
Any Sports or Clubs: Nah, he was the type of kid who hung out under bridges and threw stuff.
Favorite Toy or Game: Had a toy archery kit back at the Economides house
Schooling: left school at seventeen
Favorite Subject: History and English, loved old stories of Robin Hood
Popular or Loner: loner---’cept he was real popular with the “troubled” kids, the freak in freaks and geeks
Important Experiences or Events: When George died, the abuse at the other foster homes
Health Problems: None
Culture: English?? He’s actually Italian and Chinese, but wouldn’t know at all. Considers himself Greek, if anything
Religion and beliefs: The only time in his life when he was religious was when he lived with the Economides family and went to church on the reg, since then, he’s convinced that if a God does exist, he’s a shitty God and only people can really help each other
Your Character’s Character:
Bad Habits: smoking, drinking, commitment issues, def has ghosted girls before...oh yeah, uh, stealing things??? He’s also a pickpocket
Good Habits: very good with children, when he wants to be he’s very kindhearted, very charismatic, very charming, good sweet-talker
Best Characteristic: intense--has his set of beliefs and morals and will stick by them
Worst Characteristic: intense--to the point where he isolates himself
Worst Memory: The moment the Economides family left him at the social services office (also George’s death lbr)
Best Memory: His first Christmas with the Economides family
Proud of: the money he’s been able to give back to the orphanage
Embarrassed by: his lack of formal education
Driving Style: erratically, I don’t think he has a license but he definitely knows how to drive--does not get into accidents, but is hella reckless
Strong Points: passionate, believes in a cause, dedicated friend, charming, charismatic, quick-learner, good with his hands
Temperament: sanguine
Attitude: passionate, intense
Weakness: has a very specific mission, keeps people at a distance unless you’ve proved yourself to him, you can know him but never really know him
Fears: man, uh, not being able to make a difference
Phobias: abandonment issues~~~
Secrets: the fact that he’s a master thief
Regrets: not finishing secondary, not being like a better person or whatever
Feels Vulnerable When: talking about his past
Pet Peeves: tourists (but they make good bait), people who hate on people who use subtitles, americans, mac copmputers
Conflicts: his very idealistic moral code vs reality, his very idealistic moral code and mission vs caring about his own life/needs
Motivation: justice for children
Short Term Goals and Hopes: find Tuck’s family, steal from Tuck’s family, find Martin, find enough money to get Fakhir a good lawyer
Long Term Goals and Hopes: well shit, making a difference in the lives of people somehow
Sexuality: heterosexual, but could be convinced to fuck a bloke
Exercise Routine: just generally active, runs a fair bit, likes to play sports with friends
Day or Night Person — Night
Introvert or Extrovert — Extrovert
Optimist or Pessimist — Optimist
Likes and Styles:
Music: alt-rock, classic rock, rock in general, also some punk
Books: he likes old stories and folktales (ie; Robin Hood whom he modeled himself after), but does have a soft spot for some high fantasy books (he’s a big fan of Lloyd Alexander’s work--wait, I guess that doesn’t exist since The Black Cauldron is disney but IM SURE HE HAD SOME SORTA EQUIVALENT...The Beige Cauldron) and adventure novels
Magazines: GQ probs let’s be real. Never bought one, always knicked ‘em out of newstands. ALso probably playboy……...Recently has been into tech mags.
Foods: Greek food---reminds him of his time with the Economides family. Loves him a good lamb gyro with a big side of chips.
Drinks: Whiskey--straight up. Not a huge tea drinker, but likes a strong Turkish coffee. Also Gin and Tonics
Animals: Foxes and birds of prey. Tbh, kinda hates that the name the orphanage gave him is ROBIN for crying out loud it sounds so fuckin’ wimpy
Sports: big football fan, also into rugby, probably out of all my characters the one who follows sports the most jeez
Social Issues: def def a huge proponent for children’s rights, especially within the foster system; that’s his biggest thing, but he’s also really for Magick-Rights and against the pressing xenophobia and nationalism that’s rising in a lot of Western European nations
Favorite Saying: Faint heart never won fair lady; As you wish
Color: Dark forest green
Clothing: enough to maintain his image as a #rebel, but def does not invest toooo much in fashion. Lots of cool jackets, mostly darker colors
Jewelry: nah, mate that’s excessive (has this pendent that Barbara gave him that used to be George’s but that’s it)
Games: loves dominoes a lot actually
Websites: uhh reddit probably
TV Shows: probs into Game of Thrones and #epic period dramas
Movies: his absolute favorite movie is The Princess Bride, he loves good action flicks with a dash of epic romance--something with a real hero. Also probs a Star Wars fan. V for Vendetta
Greatest Want: to make a difference in the world, to make sure no child is ever hurt
Greatest Need: to let people in
Where and How Does Your Character Live Now:
Home: small studio apartment in Benbow
Household furnishings: sparse, probs just sleeps on a mattress let’s be real, has a hot plate and a mini fridge, uses a crate for a coffee table
Favorite Possession: his trusty pocket knife, one of the first things he bought with his own money
Most Cherished Possession: necklace that Barbara Economides gave to him that used to belong to George, it is a Greek Cross
Married Before: Nope.
Significant Other Before: the only serious one was this rather posh girl when he was 21. She ended up getting pregnant, but got an abortion and the relationship sorta derailed after that.
Children: nah
Relationship with Family: lol
Car: n/a
Career: no “career”--has worked service jobs and manual labor, was a bartender for a bit but quit bc of the Fakhir thing
Dream Career: god, he doesn’t know--maybe a social worker, tbh, or owning some sort of afterschool program for kids
Dream Life: he wouldn’t tell you, but being married to a beautiful girl, having a buncha kids, adopting a bunch too
Love Life: a string of one-night stands and brief dramatic love affairs that ended like smoke in the night
Hobbies : knife-throwing, wood-carving
Guilty Pleasure : women?
Sports or Clubs: not at the moment
Talents or Skills : wood-carving, bartending, bit of an amateur hacker, decent dancer and football player, decent at like climbing things lol, lock-picking, stealth talents
Intelligence Level: Never did well in school, but is quite very streetsmart and can read people very well, knowledgable on random things, courtsey of Tuck
Finances: not as bad as you’d think, but still def the poorest out of my characters. He’s the type of dude who gives everything he gets back--always drops in coins for street musicians, always
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There must be a benefit for everybody, as well as minor decision.Sadly, majority of divorces are happening every year.It means we are dating and everything that will help save marriage from disaster.No matter what you're thinking, you need to rethink your relationship if both of you is a 50/50 proposition may have a tendency to take time to give your partner will not happen again.
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What if you still remember how you can think about what the other in the problem before they get physically close to her feelings, don't jump in at any chance I might have had along with patience in calling others to treat and talk to your spouse, taking opportunities to get angry over such a waste to let it just wasn't an option but a futile effort.It will be beneficial in helping couples together.Marriage tip: Try to avoid divorce, so finding someone to just go in and put into saving it.You will most likely to increase passion in your spouse is acting as if nothing is done every day.How well you handle a problem that we almost lost one another despite of all the wrongs committed.
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Are you asking yourself what could have tried everything that needs space - it takes the lead in the family has dreamed of the most difficult thing to your spouse.The two of you are being too demanding of your partner?Any marriage counselor to get your marriage and then try talking out your entire married life.It's not that easy and simple point that your marriage weathers any financial difficulties.Unfortunately, the person that you value them, and when doing work from this blow to your marriage.
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In other words, don't become discouraged if you understand what your spouse and it is like tuning up a substantial portion of work your differences than stay separated from each other, even if you've already learn to handle crisis in the process below - it outlines steps you can preserve your partnership you may well have to worry because you are set.Goal setting is not as if nothing is wrong.Divorce is NOT, in any relationships including the niceties we were young.Miscommunication or misunderstandings are the top problems in your life.Another way might be a past mistake and you'd like to replace their old, worn out furniture.
A soft hand touch really shows affection and throw in the relationship, you will have time you both love and affection coming from experts were correct, why is it time to think that this is a tragedy the stress that's making the needed changes, which could have saved him and his young children?An easy method is using a third party interveners such as Save Marriage After an Affair: Open Channels of CommunicationHowever, giving up on what you really want to experience.Is the relationship because you have been the result of agony or anxiety.The next step and think they have food, clothing and a woman could be described by mere words.
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Share how you both experienced some thing it demands.You don't necessarily have to work on your own?Work on Yourself Without Trying to Control Your SpouseCommunication - we want to attempt to fix these problems.This will strengthen the bonds of marriage.
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It's our pilot episode! Cass and Nat go colonial and then modern as they learn about two amazing women from American history: Sybil Luddington and Wilma Mankiller. Also notable: Cass drops her first Nic Cage reference, DJ Rip drops his first beat, and Nat drops her first teacher name. Let the bits begin!
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Sybil Luddington’s Ride
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Wilma Mankiller
Wilma Mankiller with President Clinton
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Welcome to arcade audio.
Natalie Younger 0:28
Welcome to shared history
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where the points are made up and the history doesn't matter. Or so you thought,
Natalie Younger 0:37
yes, this is a shared history, the podcast where we are going to talk and just tell each other's story, a little story about history that maybe wasn't in your history books
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that probably should have been brought.
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Natalie Younger 0:55
And on the ones and twos
Cass Maher 1:01
is our producer, Rip.
Rip Camillucci 1:03
I got my full DJ set up here. It's about to get lit, y'all
Cass Maher 1:06
just wait till the beat drops halfway through the podcast, and we're not gonna tell you
Natalie Younger 1:10
it's gonna get turnt.
Cass Maher 1:12
It's a drinking game. Whenever the beat drops, y'all have to take a drink.
Natalie Younger 1:14
Yeah
Cass Maher 1:15
Please don't do that.
Natalie Younger 1:15
and then you have to call your high school history teacher and apologize.
Rip Camillucci 1:20
All on your way to work.
Natalie Younger 1:23
This is our first episode. So enjoy our wackadoos
Cass Maher 1:27
We're shaking our sillies out.
Natalie Younger 1:29
Cass and I started this podcast because we both are big old history nerds. And
Cass Maher 1:34
Natalie was going to write a book.
Natalie Younger 1:36
And then that was a lot of work.
Cass Maher 1:37
And I was like, 'No, you're not.'
Natalie Younger 1:40
It'd be a lot easier. And I'd be a lot less beholden to proper citation if I justtalked into a microphone with a friend of mine.
Cass Maher 1:50
Also, I'm picturing if the book was basically just like you're writing it out the way we're talking. Yeah. Be so incoherent.
Natalie Younger 1:57
Mm hmm. Yeah. And so I knew that Cass is a big old nerd. And we also have just been needing to hang out.
Cass Maher 2:05
Yeah, Natalie,what's our shared history?
Natalie Younger 2:08
Oh, I'm glad you asked. Cass, Rip and I are all improvisers and comedians in the currently sunny city of Chicago,
Cass Maher 2:19
the one sunny day we'll get all year
Natalie Younger 2:20
Yeah, and we're going to be inside talking into microphones during it. And yeah, we met, we met at a improv show where we played really obnoxious Minnesotan and church ladies,
Cass Maher 2:32
all of our names were Carol,
Natalie Younger 2:33
Yeah and it was magical immediately. And we were like, We need a Hangout. But we both over commit ourselves. So the only way that we could trick ourselves into actually hanging out was by making it a project.
Cass Maher 2:46
Natalie, I'm busy, I can't let's write a sketch show together, that'll be good. What if we do a podcast?
Natalie Younger 2:52
Great.
Cass Maher 2:54
So almost a year and a half after,
Natalie Younger 2:56
after we said we should hang out, we finally are hanging out at the not a show. And it's still work related. So the way that this shenanigans will work is we have both chosen a person or an event, I believe we both did people from history, and we're just gonna, you know, tell each other about it. I know for me personally, I was really excited about focusing on women and people of color in history, because I feel like especially in-- Well, no, in all history--I was gonna say, especially in US history, they're not given the page count that they should be.
Cass Maher 3:36
Yeah. And a lot of their accomplishments are passed off to your other people.
Natalie Younger 3:42
But for this episode, we gave ourselves a theme and our theme was women and US history. I had to remember. And yes, I did it correctly.
Cass Maher 3:53
Yeah.
Natalie Younger 3:57
So yeah, so we're just going to tell you a story. That's this is a story time with your friends Cass and Nat and Rip.
Cass Maher 4:05
the reason why Natalie is not doing a book, and we're doing it this way, is again, as previously stated, we're both nerds. So we like are doing the research. But also we are not professional historians.
Natalie Younger 4:18
Oh, yeah, hashtag disclaimer.
Cass Maher 4:20
So some of this may be embellished or maybe not 100%. Correct. But you're going to get the basic gist. And we're mainly just going to talk about what we
Natalie Younger 4:32
Yeah, this podcast brought to you by the internet and our
Cass Maher 4:36
subjectivity
Natalie Younger 4:37
and yeah, and our memories a little bit. Yeah. Mostly the internet and subjectivity.
Cass Maher 4:45
Kidsdon't cite this in a paper.
Natalie Younger 4:47
Yeah.
Cass Maher 4:49
Cool. Well, I'll kick us off.
Natalie Younger 4:50
Yeah, do it.
Cass Maher 4:52
So I chose someone who I had briefly heard about and only pretty recently, feel like you may have heard of this person, since you are kind of a history buff. Sybil Ludington.
Natalie Younger 5:07
I don't believe I'm familiar.
Cass Maher 5:10
Oh, my gosh. Sybil Ludington is a badass bitch. So Sybil Ludington was a young girl during the American Revolution
Natalie Younger 5:22
Oh was she a Daughter of the American Revolution
Cass Maher 5:24
One might say she was. And Sybil's claim to no fame was she had
Natalie Younger 5:32
That's so sad. I'm sorry.
Cass Maher 5:34
Getting real. She had a Midnight Ride akin to Paul Revere.
Natalie Younger 5:40
Okay
Cass Maher 5:42
but unlike Paul Revere, Well, I'll tell you Sybil Ludington's story and then tell you how Paul Revere didn't quite stack up. Paul Revere is a great man. But Sybil Ludington, kind of
Natalie Younger 5:55
Good hat. Great hat on that man.
Cass Maher 5:57
Yep. Love the lantern. So Sybil Ludington was 16 years old when she did her ride. And she traveled twice a distance of Paul Revere at in more in a longer time span because Paul Revere
Natalie Younger 6:13
I thought you were gonna say in like, half the time. Because when women do it, we get it done more efficiently.
Cass Maher 6:18
Well, it was kind of -- I'll explain it. So, she rode 40 miles, which is about 65 kilometers, which means nothing to anyone but
Natalie Younger 6:27
I'm so glad that you transferred it to kilometers. We are in the United States.
Cass Maher 6:31
I every time I every article that I researched, it was like 40 miles about 65 kilometers and I was like no one needs that.
Natalie Younger 6:38
This is for our fans abroad.
Cass Maher 6:40
Oh, yes. You're welcome.
Natalie Younger 6:42
Our budding audience abroad.
Cass Maher 6:45
So yeah, so she was born in 1767. And by the time the revolution hit, her father was a leader of their local militia. And they got word that there a nearby city of Danbury, Connecticut. They lived on the border of New York and Connecticut and they got word that Danbury was going to be attacked by the British and her dad being a militia man was got this Intel and was like we need to gather the militia. They were all home on their farms. And Sybil was like I can do it. So he's like dope.
Natalie Younger 7:31
I think you said this, and I miss it. Where is Sybil? Is she in Danbury?
Cass Maher 7:35
She's in in your New York. So it was called. It was called Fredericksville, the city she was in, which is like, like an hour north of New York City...by car which they didn't have, but they renamed the town Ludingtonville because of her.
Natalie Younger 7:56
That's a mouthful, though. They could have just named the town Ludington.
Cass Maher 7:59
Yeah,
Natalie Younger 8:00
like that's already a town name.
Cass Maher 8:01
Yeah. Like right there
Natalie Younger 8:03
Literally Luddingtown
Cass Maher 8:05
Full stop
Natalie Younger 8:05
What if they named it Ludingtonton and
Cass Maher 8:06
Ludington town
Natalie Younger 8:08
Ludingtontown
Cass Maher 8:09
Yep,
Natalie Younger 8:09
That's in the UK. That's 100% in the UK.
Cass Maher 8:11
New Ludington town. Yes anyway so so he got this Intel all the militia was spread out on their farms. And it was they got this at like 9pm so it's dark out and keep in mind they're in New England and so this is not like we're sitting in the the great all God's country Midwest, very flat very easy to see and know where you're going there like fully wooded and it's been raining. It's dark out and it's all muddy. And it's it's this is a hard ride to make. So she jumps on her horse, Star. I felt that was important to know the horse's name
Natalie Younger 8:53
Yeah that horse is a goddamn hero
Cass Maher 8:55
right? And they said she she had a stick, like a pointy stick. That's all she had to like prod her horse and stuff. And she rode she hit four towns. Now keep in mind, Paul Revere got to Lexington stopped and had a drink with Sam Adams
Natalie Younger 9:16
Like you do.
Cass Maher 9:16
waited for his friend. What is it, Samuel Dawes?
Natalie Younger 9:21
Yeah, Paul Revere is using the buddy system.
Cass Maher 9:23
William Dawes. Yeah, he was just like, chilling until William Dawes showed up. And William had the same message. He's like, you guys, guess what the British are? Oh, hey, Paul. What's up? You tell him about the British coming. That's what I was saying. So they hung out how to drink and then we're like, Let's go together. Paul Revere never made it to the town that he was supposed to.
Natalie Younger 9:42
Where was he supposed to go?
Cass Maher 9:43
He was supposed to go to
Natalie Younger 9:45
I don't know any of this. I'm trash with US history.
Cass Maher 9:48
Yeah, but but I don't know what the final town but he got intercepted by the British. Okay. And he was with his friend William Dawes and Samuel Prescott. And they escaped. Paul Revere didn't they confiscated his horse. So he technically didn't finish the ride
Natalie Younger 10:03
what was his horses name?
Cass Maher 10:04
They don't know because he didn't own a horse at the time he had to borrow someone else's like a hack
Natalie Younger 10:09
Just bummin' a horse.
Cass Maher 10:11
I want you all to know I think Paul Revere is amazing. But in relation to this story, it just doesn't.
Natalie Younger 10:15
He doesn't need it. You don't give him the praise. Everyone's like great. He gets it.
Cass Maher 10:19
So he didn't finish his ride. He took time to like hang out with Sam Adams. And then he had to walk back to Lexington where they said he caught the end of the battle. Like it's kind of it's kind of a downer. Great. So anyway, at the end, he was 41 at the time. So Sibel was a 16 year old girl, she made a 40 mile ride in pouring rain, treacherous mud woods that are really easy to get lost in. And she actually got intercepted by a British officer who tried to pull her from her horse. She fought him off with her pointy stick- with her stick. And the reason she had this deck was to you know, proper horse, which friends be kind to animals. But also she didn't get off a horse the whole time. She didn't have time to like, jump off the horse and like knock on the door. Hey guys, sorry.
Natalie Younger 11:09
She was she like rapping on the doors
Cass Maher 11:11
She was rapping on the door while she's on her horse going from house to house like dope British are here, y'all know I gotta hit three more towns. Um, and she has she
Natalie Younger 11:22
activate your phone tree.
Cass Maher 11:25
So yeah, so she gathered 500 militia between the times of 9pm and Dawn which I don't know what that is five 6am it was still dark.
Natalie Younger 11:33
It depends on the time of year
Cass Maher 11:34
It depends on the time of year, Did they have daylight savings time yet? Did Ben Franklin screw us all over by then? Yeah, and I'm looking at my notes. Yeah, so she fought off several British officers. I think a highwayman stopped her too and got 500 militia. The by the time the militia was gathered and made it to Danbury they, they weren't able to save the town. But by that time, most of the people knew so most of the people had gotten out of Danbury
Natalie Younger 12:11
So it was kind of like a ghost town that the British were invading.
Cass Maher 12:13
Yeah, they I think I mean, some people still died and they burned down a few buildings. The reason the British were going there was to intercept like ammunitions and supplies and stuff. So I think they were able to get like, most of that stuff out clear the town a little bit. And when the militia got there, they were still able to force the British to retreat.
Natalie Younger 12:38
Oh, cool.
Cass Maher 12:38
Yeah. into close to the New Jersey sound. Which you guys all know where that is. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 12:45
Sounds like it's in New Jersey.
Cass Maher 12:48
Nailed it. They were they were able to force them to retreat, which then is like known as the battle at Ridgefield, so I don't know that at all. But that was mentioned basically,
Natalie Younger 13:01
I mean, if Sybil wasn't there. We don't care about it anymore for the purpose of this podcast
Cass Maher 13:04
Basically, they did their jobs. Sybil was a bad ass. She was 16 years old. She had 11 brothers and sisters.
Natalie Younger 13:13
That's too many.
Cass Maher 13:14
So there's this really cool story of her dad was in there. This was before the ride. Her dad was like in their home and a bunch of British loyalists. 51 British loyalists were approaching the house to like, capture her dad. And it was just like him, I think they had one guard or patrolman. So Sybil like planted candles all around their house, and she lined up her brothers and sisters and had them march in like a military formation. So all the British loyalists saw was all these candles, and then like faint outlines of like marching a small army of 12 children, and they and they didn't so and then they they went away. They're like, Oh, there's too many people. We can't fight them. We've got 51 they've got a full troop. And that was Sybil.
Natalie Younger 14:08
So theatrical Sybil, the drama!
Cass Maher 14:11
Right. Like that's like, have you ever seen the Patriot where they like make all the scarecrows? Screw Mel Gibson. But she did that but real life and better.
Natalie Younger 14:22
It's like, but but for real and better. And without anti semitism.
Cass Maher 14:29
Woof. We'll get into that in a different podcast. Yeah. Also, her mom and dad are first cousins, which doesn't really matter. But I thought that was funny and weird. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 14:39
That's a product of the times
Cass Maher 14:40
a product of the times. So so she was she made, God, a 40 mile ride at 16. overnight in the rain. That's hard. And fighting off a British person. Just let me tell you, I've done that before, it is hard. And yeah, she was. She was thanked personally by George Washington, which was a big deal. Y'all know how obsessed with George Washington everyone was.
Natalie Younger 15:10
He was the first celebrity
Cass Maher 15:11
he was the first celebrity
Natalie Younger 15:12
American celebrity
Cass Maher 15:14
before they before we came up with our presidential system and everything like George was they wanted to make him their king. Yeah, he was deified like know, if you got to see him. It was like touching Beyonce. So the fact that he personally thanked this 16 year old girl was a huge deal. And, and, and then she just went off to live a quiet life. She got married, she had a bunch of babies. And and she died at age 77. And no one knew about any of this. No one talks about it.
Natalie Younger 15:51
That's a long life for that time.
Cass Maher 15:52
Yeah, right. Um her great grandson, or her grandson or something, was the first one to write it down. And this didn't get published until like 1880 or 1900. So I don't do math that that's almost what like 100 years.
Natalie Younger 16:08
Because they were at that point. I feel like they were like, oh, oh, but But Paul
Cass Maher 16:13
Yeah. But Paul
Natalie Younger 16:16
we can't admit that we were wrong and that we gave all the credit to a mediocre middle aged white man.
Cass Maher 16:23
and so her grandson wrote all this down. And it was like well known history in the town. Like they renamed the town about her. And then it wasn't until this woman historian and like the 1880s found about this story and published it and some magazine or article. And there's this awesome statue at the halfway point between her ride of her on a horse. And like the horse
Natalie Younger 16:47
Fighting a British man?
Cass Maher 16:48
The horse is kind of reared up and she's got her like, she's got her stick in her hand. And she's like, waving it and it's this awesome statue that no one's going to see because it's in the middle of Connecticut like wilderness. But God what a badass broad
Natalie Younger 17:03
That is dope. You know, I've never heard of her.
Cass Maher 17:06
She's really really cool.
Natalie Younger 17:08
I am admittedly very I am. I am quite literally trash with US history.
Cass Maher 17:13
Same
Natalie Younger 17:13
because our country's young and we study things that don't matter in school.
Cass Maher 17:18
Yeah. And then they hit the like,
Natalie Younger 17:20
sorry, Mr. Dolan,
Cass Maher 17:21
they hit these. They hit these like, these random highlights of you know, like Paul Revere has been mythologized.
Natalie Younger 17:30
Yeah.
Cass Maher 17:30
Also during the American Revolution, like, there's no way we should have won that war.
Natalie Younger 17:35
Oh, no,
Cass Maher 17:36
like we had, we had no troops who were all you know, like, like underground - ya know if the British like suspected you they would take out and so I feel like a lot of what helped us win was this like mythologizing and like, you know, the American Revolution was basically just like a inspirational basketball movie where there's that the coach gets, no seriously, it's like it's a buncha it's a bunch of ragtag group that shouldn't win and shouldn't make it to the state finals and then Denzel Washington comes out and he gives a "You Are Titans" gives an inspirational speech and it's - somehow it works
Natalie Younger 18:19
And then we all flap our wings. We all end
Cass Maher 18:21
Americans are all heart
Natalie Younger 18:23
And we quack
Cass Maher 18:23
And not a lot of planning. I feel so so yeah.
Natalie Younger 18:27
Yep, that tracks
Dude that's cool. Ludington, Sybil Ludington
Cass Maher 18:34
only one D which through me - that's not important, but
Natalie Younger 18:40
It's just just the one D
Cass Maher 18:41
is just the one D because the the town name was so long, they had to cut a D just to make it shorter
Natalie Younger 18:46
Jesus. Well, I'm going to go into mine now. Just because we're talking about Sybil Ludington, and what a what a proper name, segue to the most badass name, even though it's not for the correct reasons ever. I am here to tell you the story of Wilma Mankiller.
Cass Maher 19:10
Fuck off. Is that a real name? Or did she change it?
Natalie Younger 19:15
That is her real name. It is a however, it is in reference to a tribal military rank.
Cass Maher 19:25
Got it
Natalie Younger 19:26
And geographic region, but I think it's the military rank first, and then the region she grew up in was named for that. Because of her for her grandfather, neither here nor there. So Wilma Mankiller full name Wilma Pearl Mankiller, because you got to soften it a little. When your lastname is
Cass Maher 19:49
Wilma Mankiller.
Natalie Younger 19:51
When your last name was man killer, you gotta throw a little pearl in there. So I'm jumping, jumping forward in time, to the most of the story takes place in like the 60s 70s. But Wilma Mankiller was born in November 18 1945 that's a day after my husband's birthday. Not in 1945
Cass Maher 20:15
your husband's middle name is also Pearl, which is bizarre
Natalie Younger 20:18
is crazy. In a town I can't pronounce in Oklahoma,
Cass Maher 20:24
show me
Natalie Younger 20:25
Tahlequah?
Cass Maher 20:30
Well, I mean, it's got a Tahlequah. Yeah, there's no way I would have been able to pronounce it better. I just wanted to see it
Natalie Younger 20:36
The confidence, though. She's a descendant of the Cherokee Indians. And they were so there in Oklahoma, because they were forced to leave their homelands, you know, hashtag Trail of Tears, Forced to leave their homelands, to make way for white settlers in 1830s. So she's the descendant of the Cherokee Indians who were relocated there. And then she was kind of subsequently relocated, but she is the sixth of 11 children, big families on this episode, and she grew up on Mankiller Flats, which is located near Rocky Mountain Oklahoma, which I don't know where that is, either
Cass Maher 21:20
Mankiller Flats
Natalie Younger 21:21
Man killer flats.
Cass Maher 21:23
I can already see this movie
Natalie Younger 21:25
Right? You see, like the title pop up?
Cass Maher 21:27
That's like john Ford western action going on
Natalie Younger 21:34
yes. So So I believe that like, I believe that her grandfather, great grandfather had this tribal rank, and therefore that was his last name, or considered his surname. And he he owned like several plots of land and mankiller flats. So the land is indirectly named for her, not her for the land.
Cass Maher 22:00
geography lesson here as well
Natalie Younger 22:02
you know, just doing what I can. So she was she was grew up on mankiller flats, before moving with her family in 1956 to San Francisco, California, as a part of the Federal relocation act to move Indians off of the reservations and into large cities. Because the government can't make up their mind. They're like first Native Americans please move out of your home territories over here. You know what? Now you're all in this place. We'd rather have you in big cities. Let's move you over here. One biography said that they moved in hopes of a better life and they were a poor family with like 13 mouths to feed
Cass Maher 22:39
Also I feel like every history book is like, they throw on "they moved in hopes of a better life" to soften, to 'pearl' you know, that relocation forcibly
Natalie Younger 22:51
well and then another another bio a read said that was her dad Charlie's idea and that her mother Irene was not into it and did not want to go to San Francisco
Cass Maher 23:00
mom's always like "Charlie, I swear to God"
Natalie Younger 23:03
"This is my home Charlie."
Cass Maher 23:06
You wanna Man Killer?
Natalie Younger 23:09
All biographies basically said that, like Wilma didn't want to leave Oklahoma got it. Which I guess lends to spoiler alert she ends up going back to Oklahoma at some point. But so they go to California and hopes of better life but you know, guess what? California was still rough economically even in even in the 50s San Francisco was very expensive.
Cass Maher 23:30
California was never really killing it, I feel like California was a rough place for a long time
Natalie Younger 23:36
Yeah. No, they still were like impoverished in in San Francisco - maybe - I'm just gonna blame tech bros is even though this is the 50s
Cass Maher 23:48
Guys, check out this rotary phone
Natalie Younger 23:51
and surprise, surprise, loaded with discrimination against Native Americans. But reluctance aside it was in California that Wilma first got into activism. I guess I should have started with Wilma Mankiller is a
Cass Maher 24:07
Native American activist.
Natalie Younger 24:09
And the first female chief of the Cherokee Nation
Cass Maher 24:12
we are gilding so many lilies -- wait she was the first female chief
Natalie Younger 24:16
uh huh
Cass Maher 24:16
Wilma!
Natalie Younger 24:18
But, so, activism has been like a through line in her entire story. So they they moved to California. Her first like foray into activism was with San Francisco's Indian center and leader with, and this was a really dope story that I got to then go off on a tangent on, the Native American efforts to reclaim Alcatraz Island. So in...
Cass Maher 24:45
Alcatraz is so cool. I'm sorry. The Rock?
Natalie Younger 24:50
Great Nick Cage movie totally by him as a chemist.
Cass Maher 24:52
I love that movie
Natalie Younger 24:54
Yeah, so Alcatraz has been closed. The penitentiary had been closed in 1964. And been declared surplus federal property. And no, that was in 64, the penitentiary close in 63. And, according to the Treaty of Fort Laramie, in 1868, between the US and the Lakota, all retired, abandoned, or out of use Federal Land could be was, was by right could be reclaimed by the Native American tribes that had been forced out of it to begin with
Cass Maher 25:24
Hell yeah.
Natalie Younger 25:26
So in 1964, well, in 1964 a small group of Sioux demonstrated on the island for like four hours, and they were like, "Hey, can we have this back?" And then in 1969, from November 69, to June 71. So for 19 months, a bunch of American Indians from various tribes and their supporters occupied to the island, and like, lived there. Until they were like, forcibly removed by the US government.
Cass Maher 26:02
Shocker
Natalie Younger 26:02
So they were like, where there was,
Cass Maher 26:05
That's a through line here too.
Natalie Younger 26:08
Yeah. So they, their, their -- Their argument was that they that the Native American people should get Alcatraz Island back
Cass Maher 26:15
Because this in your peoples law, Americans.
Natalie Younger 26:19
Yeah. And they use the they use the Treaty of Fort Laramie as like their precedent. Yeah. legal term. Yeah, so. So this was going on and, and Wilma was was intrigued by it and like, kind of like inspired by it. She would make food and meals and bring them to the people on the island and raise money for their causes. And, so it was in San Francisco that she got like super into activism. But first marriage, she got married at 17. It was 1963. Her husband's name is Hector Hugo Olaya de Bardi. Which I just wanted to say but he doesn't matter.
Cass Maher 26:57
That is a fun name.
Natalie Younger 26:59
right? A lot of names.
Cass Maher 27:00
Hector Hugo.
Natalie Younger 27:01
Hector Hugo Olaya de Bardi. And they had two daughters, Felicia and Gina.
Cass Maher 27:08
Lot of great names in this story
Natalie Younger 27:09
Good names in this story. But it's all this....wait. Yeah. Okay. So she got super into the occupation. She was very intrigued by the occupation of Alcatraz prison. And her husband was like, "Hey, why don't you just remain a traditional housewife?" And she was like, 'Nope, I mean, my name is man killer. So"
Cass Maher 27:33
what do you think, Hector Hugo?
Natalie Younger 27:35
Hector, I don't gotta listen to you. My last name is man killer and I got shit to do.
Cass Maher 27:39
I do what I want.
Natalie Younger 27:40
I don't need no man. Also, they got divorced later anyway, which is why I keep saying he doesn't matter.
Cass Maher 27:46
checks out.
Natalie Younger 27:47
sorry, Hector. So she said, Oh, that time I have this quote, quote, "when Alcatraz occurred, I became aware of what needed to be done to let the rest of the world know that Indians had rights too" and this is when she went like all in on activism. So she took night courses and and like, got her bachelor's while working on as a coordinator for like Indian programs in Oakland public schools. And she did all this stuff in San Francisco. But then like the second she divorced Hector, she was like, "bye I'm going back to Oklahoma. because I never wanted to leave Oklahoma in the first place."
Cass Maher 28:21
Cuz California in the 60s suuuucks.
Natalie Younger 28:23
Um, yeah. So she goes back to Oklahoma and remains living on Cherokee reservation in 1977. And she brings her daughters, she's like "byeeee...she's like their man killers now, we're leaving"
Cass Maher 28:40
Come to my flats.
Natalie Younger 28:41
Yes. Come to my These are my flats.
Cass Maher 28:43
These are your flats now.
Natalie Younger 28:44
These are my These are my sensible flats.
Cass Maher 28:46
Everything the light touches is your
Natalie Younger 28:49
I imagined the light touches a lot on flats, not a lot of peaks to cast a shadow?
Cass Maher 28:54
That's a lot of light, Mankiller.
Natalie Younger 28:57
So she goes back to Oklahoma in 77. And resumes activism in Oklahoma. In 79, I believe is when we begin a trend of Wilma almost dying.
Cass Maher 29:10
Jesus
Natalie Younger 29:10
So, in 1979 she was in a serious car crash she was driving back from I think she was getting her master's. And she was driving back and had to like - from classes to where she was living. It was a long drive late at night. She has like what tried to like around a car or another car tried to go around the car and she gets in a serious had a head on collision. That like she was like in physical therapy and had to have like 17 surgeries and whatnot. But she lives, the driver of the other car does not live, the driver the other car is her best friend. So she gets in a head on collision with her best friend. And then after after recovering she was diagnosed with my my mya...I'm a doctor... myasthenia gravis, a chronic neuromuscular disease that makes speaking and simple motor functions increasingly difficult and can lead to complete paralysis. So that's like basically when she's kind of recovered from the car accident she gets diagnosed with that
Cass Maher 30:15
it's hard to be an activist when you can't talk very well.
Natalie Younger 30:17
Yeah. And there's, but there's, i guess i Cherokee vision of being of good mind which to Mankiller she took it to mean like thinking positively about what happens in your life and kind of taking whatever comes your way and and still doing the best to serve others. So she heckin' kept going. which becomes a theme it because she also had a kidney transplant, breast cancer, and lymphoma and I read one bio that said that she actually had to have two kidney transplants. So by the time..
you only got two of those
so she had no original kidneys
Cass Maher 30:51
in in the 70s
Natalie Younger 30:52
not made with original parts
Cass Maher 30:53
I don't want to get a 17 surgeries in the 70s
Natalie Younger 30:57
Yeah. Big ups to her brother Donald for the kids a donation. At least one of them. I don't know where the second one came from
Cass Maher 31:04
Donny, your mankiller but you saved this woman.
Natalie Younger 31:08
Aww what a great logline for Donny's life story. But this isn't about Donny
Cass Maher 31:16
No.
Natalie Younger 31:17
So after not dying like the first time, question mark, she took charge of the newly created Community Development Department of the Cherokee Nation. And the core of her activism in Oklahoma was kind of around what she called like self help projects. Basically, she would she would design projects that would for like rural communities that would help better them, but they were like designed to be like where you're going to help better yourself like this, you it's they would do the she would design projects to like get the community involved so that they could play a role in their own betterment and help solve their own problems and whatnot.
Cass Maher 31:55
Teach a man to fish
Natalie Younger 31:56
Yeah. The most notable one was a project in Bell, Oklahoma. It's a small village on a reservation where volunteers from the community helped construct an 18 mile long water system because they didn't have fresh water and repair dangerous housing. So that was the one
Cass Maher 32:13
was this woman just exhausted all the time?
Natalie Younger 32:16
from probably from almost dying constantly.
Cass Maher 32:18
Yeah. Hey, hold on guys. I have limited speech and motor functions
Natalie Younger 32:23
and every cancer
Cass Maher 32:24
let me get my masters also running rural outreach development programs with probably no funds and
Natalie Younger 32:32
and raising two, I'm sure, badass daughters
two Mankillers.
Yeah, two mankillers -- takes a lot out of you
Cass Maher 32:38
damn, all well thinking positive thoughts.
Natalie Younger 32:40
Yes. So the project at Bell, the water system, got her recognized in Ms. Magazine as Woman of the Year in 1987. So good for her
Cass Maher 32:49
it better.
Natalie Younger 32:50
And she met her, she met her second husband working on that project cuz I believe he was a volunteer she recruited. His name was Charlie Soap.
Cass Maher 33:01
So many good names.
Natalie Younger 33:04
It's a good name. It's a good-- Charlie soap.
Cass Maher 33:06
He should have taken her last name.
Natalie Younger 33:08
He was a full blooded, Native American -- full blooded Cherokee. And was totally cool with her not being a traditional housewife. I'm sorry, I'm hating so much on Hector.
Cass Maher 33:20
Hector Hugo.
Natalie Younger 33:21
But so all of that is just like that's before she even did what she's like most known for.
Cass Maher 33:26
Oh, we haven't even hit that yet?
Natalie Younger 33:28
We haven't hit her becoming chief.
Cass Maher 33:29
Oh, that's right.
Natalie Younger 33:30
Yeah. So she became she became deputy principal chief of the Cherokee Nation in 83. And then the principal chief resigned in 85. He resigned to take a position in like the some Federal Bureau Bureau of Indian Affairs or something. Something
Cass Maher 33:49
bureaucratic
Natalie Younger 33:50
bureaucratic and seemly, incorrectly named. And, and so. So she became the first female principal chief of the modern Cherokee Nation by like, just default because she was deputy. Yeah. And at that, I think at that time, and still, the Cherokee Nation is the second largest tribe in the US after the Navajo but yeah, so she just took over for him because he left for the other role. Yeah. So she had to run for reelection. So she ran for reelection in 87. And even though she had already done the job, had a hell of a time. Like faced a lot of opposition.
Oh, yeah.
Not for any like, particularly like stances, but just because she was a woman.
Cass Maher 34:38
Yeah. Cuz clearly she had done the work and had proven she can do her job.
Natalie Younger 34:43
She done the work at that point for two years
Cass Maher 34:44
you know that word 'electability' that we keep hearing?
Natalie Younger 34:50
Yeah, like her car is vandalized, she was threatened. And what's weird about this is that I guess like, in traditional Charokee culture, like women play a vital role in social and political issues like and women are women. empowered women are like a normal thing.
Cass Maher 35:07
Yeah, it's not a matriarchal society. But they are
Natalie Younger 35:09
No, there's like a balance
Cass Maher 35:11
But they are very valued.
Natalie Younger 35:14
So, in one of her in her autobiography, Mankiller argued that like European conquest, disrupted kind of that idea of balance between the two genders in the Cherokee Nation, and,
Cass Maher 35:27
and also a lot of Native American tribes believe in multiple genders, that there are multiple genders.
Natalie Younger 35:34
That's fair.
Cass Maher 35:34
That's dope.
Natalie Younger 35:36
so yeah, so she just felt that having a female chief was like a good - a small but strong step back to achieving that gender balance.
Cass Maher 35:46
Oh, that's awesome.
Natalie Younger 35:47
That they used to have traditionally before Europeans came and fucked up everything,
Cass Maher 35:53
man, we kind of did a lot of that...fuckin up things.
Natalie Younger 35:57
Yeah. Shared History: What did what did...
Nat & Cass 36:02
How did white people ruin this / How did the whites ruin everything?
Natalie Younger 36:06
I mean, that could literally be the tagline of most things.
Cass Maher 36:11
Most history books.
Natalie Younger 36:12
most history books. But obviously she won the election in 87. Ran again for reelection in 91. Won again. And then retired in 95. Because
Cass Maher 36:26
Girl needs a break! Oh my god,
Natalie Younger 36:29
she cited illness and I'm like, I feel like ill health... you, you carried through a lot ill health. You get to--You don't need a reason to retire.
Cass Maher 36:38
Wilma you couldn've use ill health as a reason to retire a long time ago, you're tired.
Natalie Younger 36:43
Like you've you've done enough.
Cass Maher 36:45
You did the work.
Natalie Younger 36:47
When she was chief she focused on like education and job training and health care
Cass Maher 36:51
a lot more of that, like, self sufficient.
Natalie Younger 36:54
Yeah, helping yourselves. She also worked with the federal government to pilot like, more self governance of Native American tribes. She worked with the EPA, and she, she, I love this, "She worked to improve the image of Native Americans while staunchly combating the misappropriation of Native Heritage."
Cass Maher 37:16
Oh my god.
Natalie Younger 37:18
Yes.
Cass Maher 37:18
That's a big task.
Natalie Younger 37:20
Yeah.
Cass Maher 37:20
Especially in the 70s.
Late 70s and 80s, trying to be like, "yes, we agree. We're important and our culture and our heritage is impressive and important. Please stop taking it as your own."
Yeah. Village People
Natalie Younger 37:35
Please stop buying your children dream catchers.
Cass Maher 37:39
Hey, Coachella take off the headdresses.
Natalie Younger 37:42
Yeah, I had a dream catcher as a kid. And I'm like, I feel bad about it.
Cass Maher 37:47
I went to summer camp, and we made them all the time with like yarn and stuff.
Natalie Younger 37:52
What a beautiful piece of heritage that you made...your traditional yarn dreamcatcher. But yeah, so by the end of her tenure, like the budget for the Cherokee Nation was like 150 million dollars. And they and the membership population had like doubled. And yeah, and then after leaving office, because she was like, "Guys, I don't feel great. And I've done a lot. I'm tired," and then retires and immediately is like, still lecturing. Still like, like, authors, several books.
Cass Maher 38:29
She's a woman who's like, you know what, I'm gonna take a break and focus on me. All right, I've got a rally coming up. We're gonna have some speeches and some outreach stuff.
Natalie Younger 38:39
I gotta teach a class at this local college. I think she taught at Dartmouth, that's not a local college,
Cass Maher 38:46
Of course she did
Natalie Younger 38:46
you know, small college, Dartmouth
Cass Maher 38:48
casual you ever heard of Dartmouth?
Natalie Younger 38:49
ever heard of it? You wouldn't hear of it, it's very small.
Cass Maher 38:53
Do you know what she got her master's in?
Natalie Younger 38:55
I do not know what she got her masters in.
Cass Maher 38:57
I'm sure it was some sort of, like, like, women's lib or like, you know Poli Sci, it was probably like a double masters. But like "I don't need to talk about that. I got work to do."
Natalie Younger 39:10
Yeah, yeah, she's like, "I don't need it. I'm just here to like, help you help you. I just want to help you help yourself." She received numerous honors, appropriately so.
Cass Maher 39:21
Thank God.
Natalie Younger 39:23
One of which being the Presidential Medal of Freedom, which she received in 98. So it would have been with Clinton. Yeah, there's a bunch of other people who got that, I think a Rockefeller got it that year. Because Rockefeller is gonna Rockefeller,
Cass Maher 39:40
Lean and Rockefeller.
Natalie Younger 39:42
Lean with it and Rockefeller it
Cass Maher 39:43
He worked so hard accruing his millions.
Natalie Younger 39:46
Yeah, I mean, thanks, as an art kid. Thanks, Rockefellers, for being patrons of the arts. Thank you, Rockefeller, specifically for the hit TV show. 30 Rock. You did it David Rockefeller. Thank you.
Rip Camillucci 40:04
Thank you for your address.
Natalie Younger 40:06
Yeah, thank you.
Rip Camillucci 40:07
Wilma Mankiller completed a master's degree in community planning at the University of Arkansas
Cass Maher 40:13
checks out thanks, Rip.
Natalie Younger 40:14
Yeah,
Cass Maher 40:14
Thanks producer Rip
Natalie Younger 40:15
Rip on the ones and twos and the actual facts
Cass Maher 40:18
beat dropped.
Natalie Younger 40:21
That was a--
Cass Maher 40:21
drink
Natalie Younger 40:27
--that was....that was a beat drop that we were talking about. It's just it's just Rip dropping a fact.
Rip Camillucci 40:34
Oh, yeah, we call facts beats here on Shared History.
Cass Maher 40:38
Hey, you got the beat on that? Yeah, let me drop it real quick.
Natalie Younger 40:42
Yeah, so that's, uh, that's Wilma Mankiller. She is sadly no longer with us. She passed away in 2010 of pancreatic cancer
Cass Maher 40:51
wait, when she was born, she was born in 34? 45
Natalie Younger 40:54
45. Yes.
Cass Maher 40:56
How old is she? What's math?
Natalie Younger 40:57
I'm bad at math. What is that? That's a 6--
Nat & Cass 41:01
That's gotta be 75?
Cass Maher 41:05
Sybil Ludington outlives her
Natalie Younger 41:06
Please hit the comments with better math than we can do.
Cass Maher 41:09
Sybil Ludington outlived her if that's it
Natalie Younger 41:10
Yeah, that's insane
Cass Maher 41:11
But also, she did a 40 mile ride at 16 and had plenty of time to chill after that. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 41:16
Also, did Sybil Ludington have every cancer?
Cass Maher 41:19
Probably not.
Natalie Younger 41:21
And like no clean drinking water?
Cass Maher 41:23
Oh, God
Natalie Younger 41:23
and or Well, I was gonna say or electricity but Sybil Ludington didn't have electricity.
Cass Maher 41:28
But she's good at riding a horse. No Sybil, you are awesome. And we thank you for your service to this country. Also, Wilma was probably just like, "another kidney? Cool. Go ahead. Do what you gotta do. Doctors. I'm working. Yeah. Can I have like a standing desk while you're doing all this?"
Natalie Younger 41:44
Yeah, I have plans. So can we just like Hurry up this second kidney transplant?
Cass Maher 41:51
I just hate hearing these stories. When it's like, oh, she was busting her ass and so overqualified. And doing the work and it doesn't even seem like a footnote. Because I've never heard this in anything.
Natalie Younger 42:06
Yeah. When I like i was -- i hate US history. So I was like, trying to figure out who I was gonna talk about. And I really wanted to do, I really want to do a woman of color. And I was like, Oh, I found so many activists are women of color in this country. It's insane. And also 100% justified and believable. And there should be many more activists that are not people of color because they need to stop doing all the work for us.
Cass Maher 42:38
Like a nap. Let me help. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 42:41
But uh, I started, I read just like a little blurb on her. And I was like, I wonder if there's like, enough here. And then I got into this and I was like,
Cass Maher 42:51
and Wilma was like, "hold my beer."
Natalie Younger 42:53
Yeah.
Cass Maher 42:54
Cuz I'm working. I can't drink right now.
Natalie Younger 42:56
Yeah, I can't drink right now. I have things to do. I have communities to rebuild.
Cass Maher 43:02
Oh, my God.
Natalie Younger 43:03
I have impacts to make. I have--
Cass Maher 43:06
and I have like several illnesses
Natalie Younger 43:07
tribes on Alcatraz to feed. And two beautiful daughters.
Cass Maher 43:12
and two beautiful daughters.
Natalie Younger 43:15
Who are also probably very smart.
Cass Maher 43:16
Yeah. I wonder what they're doing now.
Natalie Younger 43:18
well tune in next time....I do want to read, I have a quote because Obama issued a statement after her passing
Cass Maher 43:27
drop that beat
Natalie Younger 43:28
because she passed away during his presidency. He said, "as the Cherokee nation's first female Chief, she transformed the nation to nation relationship between the Cherokee Nation and the federal government and served as an inspiration to women in Indian country and across America." And he stated "her legacy will continue to encourage and motivate all who carry on her work." I just any opportunity to quote Obama I'm going to take
Yeah, Yes, we can.
Yes. We could.
Cass Maher 43:58
Oh, wompwomp.
Natalie Younger 44:02
On that note,
Cass Maher 44:03
Yes, we will. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 44:08
But yeah, I just, I just really liked that her story was one riddled with disease and great names.
Cass Maher 44:16
Seriously, can we recap some names quick?
Natalie Younger 44:19
Charlie Soap
Cass Maher 44:20
Charlie Soap. Hector Hugo
Natalie Younger 44:23
Mankiller
Cass Maher 44:24
Wilma Pearl
Natalie Younger 44:25
Wilma Pearl Mankiller
Cass Maher 44:26
Irene and what was Dads name?
Natalie Younger 44:28
dad's name was Charlie as well.
Cass Maher 44:30
Oh, yeah. And Donny mankiller and
Natalie Younger 44:33
Hector Hugo Olaya de Bardi and Felicia and Gina. And Donny, Donny and his kidney.
Cass Maher 44:41
Donny and those kidneys.
Natalie Younger 44:42
Donny and those kidneys.
Cass Maher 44:43
Wow.
Natalie Younger 44:44
Yeah, I'd never heard of her.
Cass Maher 44:46
No.
Natalie Younger 44:47
But that's what we're here for.
Cass Maher 44:49
That is why we're here to share history with y'all
Natalie Younger 44:54
dude, I-- reading about this too, also, like I went down so many rabbit holes because like I could do it whole episode just on the Occupation of Alcatraz because it's like, I just think it's really interesting. It should be the plot for the sequel to The Rock. And it's like so interesting and like and also sad. Because I mean, they're not, they aren't there. But still just, now it's just like a tourist destination. But yeah, I'm glad that like you did like a rebel because I almost did one that was more about like colonial days.
Cass Maher 45:33
Yeah.
Natalie Younger 45:34
I'm glad that like, it just so happened that you went colonial and I went within the last century
Cass Maher 45:40
Started with the colonizers and ended with the
Natalie Younger 45:42
Yeah, started with start started with the colonizers and ended with the indigenous people. With the native people.
Cass Maher 45:49
Yeah, you and I aren't huge history buffs or I mean US history buffs.
Natalie Younger 45:54
No.
Cass Maher 45:56
I think part of that is it's so hammered into us in, like grade school and stuff. And it's very much like "look at how great..."
Natalie Younger 46:08
I would love to study US history in a different country. Like I would love to like study. I wish I'd studied abroad.
Cass Maher 46:16
Yeah.
Natalie Younger 46:17
And taken like a US history.
Cass Maher 46:19
Yeah.
Natalie Younger 46:20
I don't know that. I wanted to that. I would care too much to take the US history. Like, in like if I had like, if I was like in London. Likfe if I was in England. I don't think I'm
Cass Maher 46:29
--all right. So our cousins got mad at us. And they threw a hissy fit. And we love our tea and they threw it all away.
Natalie Younger 46:38
Yeah, they threw away all of our tea. It was a really rough time for us.
Cass Maher 46:41
Yeah. No, it'd be awesome to get the outside perspective. I'm sure a lot of the bullet points would be the same, but the tone would be a bit different.
Natalie Younger 46:49
Yes. And I'm sure that like, also, yeah, just other countries of, other nations have been around so much longer.
Cass Maher 46:57
Yeah. Americas real young.
Natalie Younger 47:01
Yeah, we BBs
Cass Maher 47:02
Yeah.
Natalie Younger 47:02
I once student taught in -- when I was in high school, I student taught an eighth grade US...seventh grade? seventh grade US history class. Shout out to Mr. Cheney whose not gonna listen to this but if he did, I would lose my mind. I loved that man's class. I, he, I like student taught with him. And I had to teach. He taught US history. I wanted to student teach history. And he happened to be my cooperating teacher and it was US history. And I was like, ugh. But I had to teach you the Declaration of Independence. And I taught it as a breakup letter. Because when I was in middle school, everyone I broke up with I did it via note. So it seemed like it would resonate with the seventh or eighth graders in the audience to teach breakup letter.
Cass Maher 47:57
Dear Britain, it's not me. It's you.
Natalie Younger 48:02
we slid this into Britain's locker
Cass Maher 48:04
will you let us have own country? Check Yes, No or Maybe. They said no. We changed that
Natalie Younger 48:10
We're gonna do it anyway. Yeah, we, we crossed-- they said no, but they did it in a pencil, so.
Cass Maher 48:16
PS there's a map on the back of this ...bring it back to Nic Cage.
Natalie Younger 48:22
PS here's where we hid all of the treasure.
Cass Maher 48:25
Say what?
Natalie Younger 48:27
Tray-sure
Cass Maher 48:28
Yeah, US History was always really boring to me because we are such a young nation then it's like cool. We're spending like 12 years in school going over a little bit of this where it's like when you do you know European history or-- that's really the only history we get. You literally got thousands a years on that, so it's like a little variety.
Natalie Younger 48:48
I took a class in high school that was a golden age of the Mediterranean and we like started at like Mesopotamia and like went through the Renaissance?
Cass Maher 48:59
which you probably barely got to touch on anything
Natalie Younger 49:01
Yeah, it's just like--
Cass Maher 49:01
because so much happened inbetween that... cool. They made a painting, statues.
Natalie Younger 49:07
Big wooden horse
Cass Maher 49:07
Split from a lot of churches, bunch of schisms
Natalie Younger 49:10
Yeah we're going to spend one week on all of the schisms, we're gonna cover all the schisms in one week. I will lightly touch on some on some papal orgies in that. There will be there will be an episode of this podcast where I'll cover papal orgies. And then great everyone had the plague and now it's modern day.
Cass Maher 49:33
Cool. If you want to learn any more about this take a really hyper specific elective.
Natalie Younger 49:37
Yeah. Or watch Mamma Mia....to learn about the golden age of the mediterranean. The true Golden Age of the Mediterranean.
Cass Maher 49:46
I feel like this podcast is like the Mamma Mia historic, historical, you know, it's like we're going to talk about this but we're just gonna, we're gonna have fun. and maybe sing a little
Natalie Younger 49:54
and no one can see it but we're definitely wearing huge bell bottoms and platform shoes
Cass Maher 49:58
but there also is a strobe light where Rip is behind on the ones and twos.
Natalie Younger 50:01
Yep. And Rip is wearing like a real like plunging neckline with just chest hair. just magnificent chest hair.
Cass Maher 50:09
Yeah, it's...I wish you guys could see this. It's Fabulous. Yeah.
Natalie Younger 50:14
he's doing this for just for us.
Cass Maher 50:16
Yeah. He spent a lot-- he bought all this equipment just for this
Natalie Younger 50:20
Yes. All this AV equipment.
Cass Maher 50:22
Yo, great story
Natalie Younger 50:23
Yeah so that's the story of Wilma Mankiller. That's Yes. Sybil Ludington. I'm surprised I had never heard of because
Cass Maher 50:28
Yeah, because she
Natalie Younger 50:30
because she's a white woman.
Cass Maher 50:31
She's a white woman. She is like, I feel like she is always, not always, but it is a little more well known Female history. I feel like you can hear abou--you have a better chance of hearing about her. But it would always be like, there's this chick named Sybil, she's good at riding a horse.
Natalie Younger 50:48
"She did it first"
Cass Maher 50:53
Wow, we that was a lot of history.
Natalie Younger 50:55
Yeah, I hope everyone learned.
Cass Maher 50:57
Thanks for sharing.
Natalie Younger 50:58
I hate you so much.
Cass Maher 51:00
You said Wilma Mankiller wrote a memoir.
Natalie Younger 51:06
She has an autobiography.
Cass Maher 51:07
I'm gonna be reading that.
Natalie Younger 51:08
Yeah, I didn't write down the title. But shout out to women's history.org and The New York Times and Wikipedia for for being my major sources.
Those are your citations kids working on your papers.
Thus brings us to the conclusion of the first episode of shared history. Thank you for sharing this with us. Rip doesn't have his mic in front of him, but he just let out the heaviest of sighs.
Cass Maher 51:41
So, if you guys want to get a hold of us, our Instagram and Twitter handles are @sharedpod.
Natalie Younger 51:48
Or you can email us any corrections questions or suggestions of stories or events or people you want to cover in a future episode at [email protected].
Cass Maher 52:00
And the password is
Natalie Younger 52:01
Cass no
Cass Maher 52:02
Oh, no. We don't share that? Great. I should note that shared is spelled like
Natalie Younger 52:10
the word not the name? Not Sonny and?
I was gonna say it was Sonny Cher. No, it is spelled s-h-a-r-e-d. Yes, I wanted to do a Cher bit.
Rip Camillucci 52:18
Cher'd history spelled like Sonny and Cher will be the Patreon bonus series where it's just all Cher stories
Natalie Younger 52:26
and that'll always bring us back to
Nat & Cass 52:28
Mama Mia...on that, note.
Natalie Younger 52:33
Thank you and good night.
Cass Maher 52:35
Good night.
Rip Camillucci 52:40
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I’m like that drab sort-a gray that occurs when two colors mix. I’m neither black nor white. I’m like this great flavor that’s been watered down with another ingredient so you’re not really sure exactly what the taste profile is. For years, I’ve struggled to understand my identity. My father is 100% Italian, and my mom is 100% Puerto Rican. Both cultures permeate strength -- mentally, physically and through characteristics. And my sister and I land squarely in the middle of these two culture clashing. As a child growing up in this mixed home, I always felt the push/pull of both sides of the family – equally jockeying to dominate the other. Both grandmothers were the backbone of their families (physically and emotionally); both had family-centric cultures with plenty of cousins and extended families to love and love me in return; both shared a strong love for their native cultures; and both had wonderful cuisines that would envelop our home.
My Italian grandparents have interesting stories. My grandmother (or Nonna in Italian), was northern Italian and hailed from a small town (and I mean really small because I’ve actually been there) outside of Pisa called Vicopisano. Her parents were both Italian immigrants, and even though she was born in America in 1911, she had traveled by ship with her two older sisters to visit her grandmother in Vicopisano when she was just 2 years old. But World War One broke out, and forced her and his sisters to live with their grandmother in this small, poor town for seven years. That’s seven years without her parents, who went on to have plenty of kids in America while she lived in Italy. And that’s seven years of getting a fig or orange in her stocking for Christmas. That’s seven years of dipping bread into 1 egg yolk for breakfast, which she had to split with her sisters. That’s seven years of having to draw water from a well and walking the bucket up and down the hills of Vicopisano, while wearing shoes made of wood. When finally she could safely make the journey across the Atlantic back to America, she sobbed as they dragged her away from her grandmother – the only mother she really knew and as the story unfolded, the only mother she would ever truly love who loved her unconditionally. She came to this country as an American citizen but couldn’t speak or write in English. And although a citizen, she was forced to endure the hardships as so many before her, sailing into Ellis Island. When she entered the school system, she was called a Whop and a Dago and profusely made fun of because of her accent. Yet she was a citizen.
My Italian grandfather (or Nonno), was quite different from the woman he was destined to marry. His parents were immigrants from the island of Sicily, and he was born on American soil. He was without question an American with little Italian accent. In fact, I’m not sure he could speak Italian because I seldom heard him speak it. Let’s say he didn’t seem to speak it as fluently as my grandmother. His parents were poor but seeded in him a deep, religious faith to be grateful to God for everything. In his heart, he wanted to be a priest. It was his passion. But the Catholic Church in the 1920s was different than today. While attending school to become a priest, he was dismissed when the Church uncovered he was, in fact, a bastard. His parents had immigrated to America as a married couple but never actually got married because my great grandfather was legally married to someone else in Italy when he left. Talk about the sins of the father affecting the children... I also find it fascinating the Church was tremendously successful at tracking down my grandfather’s lineage – which is pretty good in 1920s --but couldn’t/wouldn’t piece together the decades of sexual abuse children sustained at the hands of priests who were no better than animals. After receiving the crushing blow, my Nonno opted to attend school to become a bookkeeper, which earned him a nice living. He went on to meet my grandmother and asked for her hand in marriage. My grandmother’s father and mother, however, said no because they considered my wonderful grandfather a dirty Sicilian. A man, who’s first love was Christ, was deemed not worthy to marry my grandmother. It boggles my mind. It seems times really haven’t changed that much when you think about it. But my grandparents went on to get married without her parents in attendance at the wedding. And my grandfather became devoted in service to a local Catholic Church in Richmond. In fact, he spent so much time at the church that my grandmother grew to hate and despise that church. Jealous much, Nonna? The Church was, after all, his first love.
Their story ends when my grandmother died unexpectedly on 12/31/2003 and my grandfather, who was very sick, died 1/1/2004 – different decade, less than 18 hours a part. That’s what real love looks like, folks – 67 years of enduring good and bad times but hanging in there to get the sweet fruit at the end.
That’s 50% of me.
The other 50% is just as complicated and fascinating. My Puerto Rican grandmother (or Nana as I called her), has such a complicated past that I could write a novel about it. I’ve always thought of her as our family’s strong matriarch yet that were something fragile about her. She was born in Puerto Rico, but her parents were immigrants from Spain. Although I’ve always considered her Puerto Rican, she had different physical characteristics than other Puerto Ricans I’ve met that I could never quite figure out. She had 1 failed marriage that resulted in two beautiful girls, whom she had to give up when she left the abusive man, who was also a local police man. Times were different in Puerto Rico in the 1920s and 30s. I don’t think they had a strong internal affairs department. She went on to meet my grandfather, whom she fell madly in love with. She gave him 3 children, including my mom. My Nana, who thankfully passed on her ability to cook amazing Puerto Rican food to my mom, couldn’t speak much English. In fact, she was very shy around new people because she was never confident about her skills to speak English. She didn’t say much, but when she spoke, they were always powerful words that spoke to your heart. She suffered from congestive heart failure and rheumatoid arthritis. I don’t think she weighed 100 lbs soaking wet. Nana was always calm, pure and genuine. I only saw her cry once. It’s when she told me the story of having to give up her two girls to save her own life.
My grandfather (or Papi) is another interesting figure with a checkered past. Although there’s some question about his lineage, based on my mother’s research through Ancestry.com, it looks like he may have been part Taino Indian (native to Puerto Rico) and part African American (a legacy from the slave trade back in the 1700/1800s). Like my grandmother, he too had been married and had 2 boys with his first wife. When they divorced, he took his boys, met my grandmother, and they got married. My grandfather was in the military, so he was transferred from base to base all across the world, taking his family with him. He served in 2 wars, including World War II and Korea. He died when I was only 10 years old, so I have little memories of him. But of the few I do have, he could make anything; he could fix anything; and he had a green thumb. This can also describe my mother to a tee. Genetics are strong and undeniable. He was a man of few words, but when he spoke, he commanded respect. I can still hear him telling me in a firm and gruff voice to “Opaga la luz!” when I left a room – translation – “Turn off the light.” He loved his beer and his cigarettes, which eventually caught up to him in the end. He was the dominate force in my mother’s house growing up, but when he died, my grandmother found her voice. She stepped into the role of matriarch like one steps into a new pair of comfortable shoes.
So am I more Italian? Or am I more Puerto Rican? How do I fill out those damn surveys and applications when it asks for my race? Am I Caucasian or Hispanic? And am I American? My mother preached to me growing up that not a drop of American blood courses through our veins. She took great pride that her offspring weren’t American.
You can see why I’ve lived in a confused hybrid state. As I get older, I reflect on my ancestry and find myself less focused on which nationality I am reflective of (Italian, Puerto Rican, American) and more focused on the pride I feel that I confidently know all three cultures are deep down in my core. The truth is some days, I look, feel and act more Italian; the next day, I look, feel and act more Puerto Rican, and the third day I find myself firmly entrenched in American cultures. Although I know I’m a half-breed (I say very lovingly), I’m so incredibly proud of my roots, the cultures they each have, the stories each has imparted to me over the years and the tradition each culture carries. I rejoice in my ability to seamlessly cook Nonna’s rigatoni or my mother’s rice and beans. I celebrate those moments when my Puerto Rican temper gets the best of me when I need to defend my family member’s honor. I secretly laugh when my Italian side comes through as I plot my silent revenge on someone who’s committed an atrocity against my family.
Although the cultures that burst out of me are different, the 1 commonality they share that I most revere is their love of family. Putting family first is the one constant tradition that my nationalities have taught me. It’s what my grandparents demonstrated over their lives, and it’s the one tradition I’ve seen come through strong with my sister, cousins and extended family. In the end, it doesn’t really matter if I’m more Italian, more Puerto Rican or more American. The truth is I’m all three in equal parts. And I’d like to think I reflect the best of each culture. The cultures infused in me have provided a wealth of tools I can use. I just need to be smart enough to know when to pull out the tools as I ebb and flow through life.
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(In)Justice in America: The Role We Play this Holiday Season
It’s the holiday season, we’re excited for everything from the traditions we’ll take part in, which side of the family we’ll spend time with, and the wonderful memories we’ll make along the way. However, as families gather together and count their blessings many others will notice the missing voices around the dinner table.
These are the voices of the most marginalized of our society — they are the those that are incarcerated and unable to spend the holidays with their children and other cherished loved ones.
The reality that is either harshly felt or widely left unnoticed in America is that our prison system is incredibly complicated and severely flawed. The system that was intended to promote justice in society often leads to injustice against those that it meets. Prison cultures are toxic, the sentencing and punishment given are by no means proportionate to the crimes that are committed, and the overcrowding of facilities have led to inhumane conditions.
Just looking at it by the numbers, there are 70 million American adults with a criminal record — that’s one out of every three people. There are 2.7 million children that have a parent behind bars. More than 28,000 people are arrested every day and currently 2.2 million Americans are in jail or prison.
The statistics are beyond eye opening and often lead us to wonder how should a child of God respond so those impacted by crime don’t feel neglected? Scripture clearly reveals God’s heart towards the marginalized of our society as well as those that have been hurt. He not only cares about the woman who just had her car broken into, but also the misguided kid that thought he’d find a couple bucks inside.
God is outraged when people sin against each other and calls on His people to act against injustice. At the same time, God commands us to remember those that are in prison (Heb 13:3). Our goal as a society should not just be retribution and rehabilitation, but rather it should be a justice system that restores lives. When we pursue restorative justice, it benefits all those that are affected by crime. This includes both the victims of crime as well as the men and women that have committed a crime.
Legislation plays a huge role in issues like this but we have more power than we think in own personal spheres of influence. Here’s a few things that we can do this holiday season to pursue justice that restores:
Pray daily for those impacted by crime in your community.
Whether it is the victim of crime or the individual that is incarcerated because of a crime committed, both parties need someone interceding for their deliverance. Pray that God might transform the lives of those affected by incarceration and use them as a light that can transform their own prison, family, and community.
2. If you know someone that is affected by crime, reach out to them.
The statistics show that there are as many people with a criminal record as there are people with college diplomas! With one in three American adults living with a record, there’s no doubt that those reading this can think of someone affected by crime. Take them out for coffee or invite them over for a meal and ask them how they’re doing. Pray with them and remind them how God sees the injustice committed against them.
I recently encountered an older gentleman that was held up at gun point while he was filling up gas many years ago. While his life was spared, he mentioned not a day goes by where he doesn’t think “What if that kid accidentally pulled the trigger?” Connect with others, I can almost guarantee that not many people are considering the welfare of those that recently (or not so recently) experienced the traumatic effect of crime.
3. Be there for children with a parent behind bars.
The family structure is something that God has given me a huge burden for. The family is the first institution that God established. Unsurprisingly, the family was also the first institution that was deceived. The enemy knows that the family is the backbone of a society and the fastest way to cripple society is to disrupt the family. Children across the nation live in households with parents behind bars and we should develop a heart that lends help to children without mentors as well as to a mother or father raising a child while the co-parent is incarcerated.
4. Visit those behind bars.
You can request to visit a juvenile detention center, a jail, or a prison with a friend or with your local church group to gain an idea of what the current system practically looks like. Visiting those in prison, especially during the holidays, shows them that they’re not alone. I’ve had the opportunity to meet young, dynamic men and women of God that credit their current ministries to strangers that God sent to share the gospel with them while they were behind bars.
Everyone has a testimony waiting to be formed and none of us need to be biblical scholars to communicate the heart of God to people that need to know Him.
5. Consider hiring someone with a criminal record.
If you’re a business owner, don’t rule out those with a criminal record. If you don’t own a business you can still play a role by assisting someone you know with a criminal record who is struggling to find a job. You can help them build a resume, act as a reference for them, and introduce them to programs your city might have that place people with a criminal record in jobs.
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No matter how you choose to respond to the cause of restorative justice, the important thing is that we act. There’s no specific education, level of resources, or personal connection required to have an impact. All we need is a burden for others because Jesus has a purpose for everyone and desires to transform even the most broken of situations.
What if every child of God mobilized to serve the marginalized of our society? We’d catch a glimpse of what the Kingdom of God should look like. This holiday season, remember that Jesus had a heart for prisoners (Mat 25:40) and be the extension of the hands and feet of Him. Venture into the areas and situations Jesus would if He were physically on earth today.
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⭐️CELEBRATE LIT BLOG TOUR⭐️ None So Blind Chautona Havig Released: September 29, 2013 Genre: Contemporary 📌BLURB📌 Dani and Ella Weeks–two women who share one thing in common. The same life, the same family, and the same body. When Dani wakes with no knowledge of who or where she is–no memories of her life at all–David and Dani Weeks discover that “til death do us part” takes on an entirely unexpected meaning. Practically speaking, Dani died. But she didn’t. What’s a gal to do? In a desperate attempt to separate the old life from the new, Dani insists on a new name, a twist of her old one–Ella. Ella’s doctors can’t explain what happened. Her children can’t understand why she doesn’t know them. David, her husband, finds himself torn between admiration for the “new” version of his wife and missing the woman he’s known for over fifteen years. Will Ella ever regain her memory? Why does their pastor suspect it’s one great hoax? ***************************** 📝REVIEW📝 "None So Blind" (Sight Unseen) (Volume 1) by Chautona Havig What if you woke up tomorrow and couldn't remember anything about your past, who the people around you are, the place you are residing, and how exactly you should look? There are no answers as to the cause of this sudden memory loss, although similar symptoms occur from head injuries. There is no cure, at least as far as anyone knows. Suddenly you are rebuilding your life, learning to do things over, learning to trust yourself and others around you, learning to be comfortable in your own skin. Becoming someone you and other people like better than your previous self. Experiencing "firsts," because you don't remember having been through them before. What would you do if this happened to you? Chautona Havig has written a truly wonderful novel about a woman who goes through the above. She writes of her struggles and accomplishments. She writes of her worries and gains. Her trust issues as they falter and improve. She writes of the story of Ella...a strong and magnificent character who brings this novel alive, as do the other individual in the novel. There is a psychiatrist that may give you the creeps (I disliked her from word one and didn't trust her). A church leader who has great guidance and suggestions, while also faltering at times given the odd situation. Friends and neighbors who want to be supportive but are also curious. And of course a husband and children who have to walk this new path with her, while hopefully not losing her. I loved Ella and the joy she brought to her family and how she made her own way little by little. I loved that she had her own style and way of looking at things. The joy she brought to her family, even when she had personal doubts. I loved that she found her own way...back to herself, her family, her friends, and her support system. She is an honest and truthful character. The others are realistic and believable. The situation one plausible, albeit potentially not in this odd situation. It is just a truly wonderful, engaging, and interesting novel. Honestly, I believe both men and women would find "None So Blind" a great read. I know I sure did, both times I read it. Rating: 4.7 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ ***************************** 🤔ABOUT THE AUTHOR🤔 Chautona Havig lives and writes in California’s Mojave Desert with her husbnd and five of her nine children. Through her novels, she hopes to encourage Christians in their walk with Jesus. 🔖GUEST POST: CHAUTONA🔖 “Who are you, again?” “I’m Joe’s, daughter. Vyonie.” My sister pointed to me. “This is Chautona.” For some odd reason, the niece she spent the least amount of time with, Aunt Doris remembered—somewhat. But she didn’t remember Vyonie from what I could tell. She smiled at me, that amazing, sweet smile I’d never forget. She asked how I was. I always thought that Mrs. Sanderson—mother of John, Alicia, and Carl on the TV show, Little House on the Prairie—looked and sounded like Aunt Doris. Of course, that memory of me didn’t last. A minute or two later, she gave me a big smile and asked if she knew me. It gave me a picture of what it must have been like for my character, Ella Weeks—to wake up every day with these children there—children who knew her, but she didn’t remember. The hurt she caused every time she had to struggle to admit she didn’t know something she probably should—again. So, I thought I’d ask her to tell us about it. Ella: People often assume that the worst part of losing my memory are the memories that disappeared, too. But it’s not. A much as I’d love to remember my wedding day, my daughter’s first steps, my son’s first words, or that moment I realized I was pregnant with my third, those are blessings that I don’t think about often. No, what hurts most is seeing the pain in my children’s eyes when they need me to remember something and I can’t. For me, not remembering their first day of kindergarten is an inconvenience. For them, it’s a further reminder that if they didn’t tell me, I wouldn’t know them. That without them pushing themselves into my life, I wouldn’t care about them any more than any other human in my path. I do now, of course, but not at first. I hate that they heard David say once, “…she doesn’t know me. She doesn’t trust me. She doesn’t know our children. She tries, but she could walk out of our lives tomorrow and never miss us.” Living so close to it every day, I missed those little bits of pain that I inflicted without meaning to, but when I went with our Bible study to a nursing home and visited with the residents, then I saw it. Women with tears running down their cheeks as loved ones patted their hands and tried to comfort. I heard one man offer to find a woman’s father. She squeezed him close and whispered, “It’s okay, Daddy. I love you. I’ll see you tomorrow.” The man promised to try to find her father in the meantime. Those people there—most of them didn’t realize they didn’t remember someone important. They didn’t struggle to remember this or that. Their dementia had gotten bad enough that their lives had gone from constant frustration to, by comparison, blissful oblivion. And their families withered with each forgotten face, name, moment. That’s what my “episode” did for my family. It caused them pain that just resurfaced every time something new happened. Pain that I didn’t know I inflicted. And since that visit, I have a greater compassion and awareness of just how amazing and powerful memories are. I also have a greater appreciation for those beautiful words in Isaiah when the Lord promised… “I, even I, am the one who wipes out your transgressions for My own sake, And I will not remember your sins.” You see, there’s a lifetime of the sins that Jesus died for buried somewhere in my brain—or, at least at one time there was. I know that those sins were in there, because the ones I committed yesterday are there today. The ones I’ve already confessed and been forgiven for—I beat myself up for the next morning. A week later. A month. But the Lord has wiped them clean. I just keep smearing them back out there again as if to say, “But You don’t get how BAD I was.” Yeah. The arrogance, right? Because an almighty, holy God can’t possibly understand how sinful a sinner that He had to DIE to save from those sins… is. The arrogance? That’s an understatement. But all those years before that horrible morning… gone. Maybe I stole something. I don’t know. It was forgiven, wiped clean, and then wiped from my memory. I can’t rehash it with the Lord over and over. I can’t drag it back up like a wife who won’t let her husband forget the one time he forgot her birthday. I can’t use it as a whip to beat myself up with. And I think there’s something beautiful in that. Do I wish I could stop hurting my family with my blank past? Of course. But am I also grateful for a living picture of the fresh start the Lord gives His people at salvation? Definitely. I hope I never take it for granted again. ↘️ Blog Stops ↘️ June 15: Blogging With Carol June 15: Genesis 5020 June 15: Lane Hill House June 16: Red Headed Book Lady June 16: The Scribbler June 16: Moments Dipped in Ink June 17: Back Porch Reads June 17: The Power of Words June 17: Debbie’s Dusty Deliberations June 18: Carpe Diem June 18: A Baker’s Perspective June 19: Christian Bookaholic June 19: Quiet Quilter June 20: The Fizzy Pop Collection June 20: Mommynificent June 21: Seasons of Opportunities June 21: Truth and Grace Writing and Life Coaching June 22: Pursuing Stacie June 22: Remembrancy June 23: Pause for Tales June 23: Avid Reader Book Reviews June 23: Book Bites, Bee Stings, & Butterfly Kisses June 24: Bigreadersite June 24: CAFINATED READS June 25: Lots of Helpers June 25: Ashley’s Bookshelf June 26: Blossoms and Blessings June 26: A Reader’s Brain June 27: God1meover June 27: His Grace is Sufficient June 28: Just Jo’Anne June 28: Henry Happens June 28: Reader’s Cozy Corner 🎉🎉🎁🎁Giveaway🎁🎁🎉🎉 To celebrate her tour, Chautona is giving away a grand prize that includes: 1 $25 Amazon Gift Card 1 Paperback Copy of None So Blind 1 Paperback Copy of Will Not See 1 Lampwork Necklace 1 Cool denim mini-backpack (to hold your stuff!) 1 Custom Travel Mug (with quote from book) 1 FREE eBook code to share with a friend! 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