I'm going to start this post off by saying that I write fic, and I know the pain of putting something out there and not getting a response. It sucks and it hurts and it puts a dent in my self-confidence. If I have the choice between posting a work on AO3 and getting only comments or posting a work on AO3 and getting only kudos, I'll probably choose comments let's say 8 times out of 10.
But with that in mind, posts that attempt to shame or guilt readers into commenting don't actually work.
Negative reinforcement (in the form of shame, guilt, or other worse emotions) doesn't make anyone want to do the thing. It just makes them want to avoid the guilt, etc. Rather than encouraging someone to talk to you about your writing, you're making that person want to avoid you so that they don't have to feel bad. That's just human nature.
I've said before that I think a lot of writers are looking for community rather than comments, and I still think that's true. The reason I love both writing and receiving comments is because it makes me feel like I've made a connection with someone. I may never know their real name or what they look like or where they live or anything else but what fandom we have in common, but we've reached out to each other in this text-based medium and we've shared words that made each other feel something.
I know that these posts are written out of frustration or loneliness or needing support or a hundred other reasons I could list off the top of my head. But when I read "you should be grateful for the things I give you and show me proper appreciation" it just reminds me of my parents telling me to clean my room or to follow the rules while I live under their roof.
It's so much more vulnerable to admit, "I don't know if this story is any good and I really wish someone would reassure me right now."
It's much harder to say, "I feel so alone in this fandom, and I want to make friends with someone."
It's difficult to admit, "I worked so hard on this for so long and I'm so tired, but if someone out there likes it then all of that effort will be worthwhile - and if no one says anything, then I'll feel like my effort was wasted."
I'm not trying to shame the people who made those posts, and if that's how this comes across then I'm sorry. I'm just trying to explain why I think those posts will harm more than they help.
I also hope that any readers who see this post will understand that those writers are just people who are feeling a lot of different ways, and they're venting their frustrations. I've been there. I've reblogged those posts before when I was feeling frustrated like that too.
If you're able to comment, those comments are appreciated. If you're not able to comment (for whatever reason), that's okay too. ❤️
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the rose-xiao long family doesn't seem to be made out of money—in after the fall ruby outright says she made her outfit herself and implies that she shops in thrift shops otherwise—so i'd really like to know how yang got her bike bc that thing does not look cheap.
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O Board of DirectBitches,
In a few months I’ll be up for a promotion in which I will likely move from hourly to salaried. Do you have any info on the pros and cons of either?
Pros of salaried:
You don't have to track your hours!
You can predict your earnings for the entire year.
If you complete your work, you don't have to just keep at it to fill an hourly quota.
Salaried employees usually get other benefits that can include PTO, health insurance, a retirement fund, etc.
With the exception of some specialized fields, salaried workers generally make more money than hourly workers.
Cons of salaried:
Overtime pay is... not a thing. So if you need to work longer to get your work done, you don't necessarily get compensated more.
Pros of hourly:
Overtime pay! The more you work, the more you get paid.
Cons of hourly:
It's hard to predict what your income will be.
There's no law that says hourly workers are entitled to a consistent schedule. So good luck trying to squeeze together multiple part-time hourly jobs if you have no idea when you'll be needed at work.
Hourly workers typically do not receive additional benefits besides pay.
You might be required to file taxes quarterly instead of annually.
With the exception of some specialized fields, hourly workers generally make less money than salaried workers.
I've done both and personally, I have preferred being a salaried worker. Here's more on the benefits that typically come with a salary:
Workplace Benefits and Other Cool Side Effects of Employment
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Our Flag Means Death behind the scenes shots of the firing squad and blindfold removal in Episode 9!
Thanks to crewmember Cody Recker (codyrecker on iG) for these!
Another surreal moment that little high school me would have never believed: working with @rhysiedarby!!! One day on set, I shared with him how I had been a fan ever since seeing him in "Flight of The Conchords" back in 2008. And then I tied this blindfold on him. #OurFlagMeansDeath
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