friendly reminder that tumblr savior and other blacklisting extensions exist. also the block button exists. its a shame that the dashboard is in an upstart tonight over something really stupid.

You know what it boils down to? CONSENT.

Here’s the thing my guys-- YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MAKE AN EXCUSE FOR A SINGLE THING YOU WRITE. JUST TAG YOUR SHIT ACCORDINGLY.

This gives everyone else the chance to give informed consent as to whether or not they want to read the shit you write. Because again that’s what all this drama boils down to: CONSENT.

And here’s the thing about fictional characters my loves. THEY CANNOT GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT REAL. 

YOU THE READER ARE REAL. YOU HOLD ALL THE CONSENT TO READ OR NOT TO READ. IF YOU DO NOT CONSENT THEN DON’T READ IT AND MOVE THE FUCK ON. the block button is there for a reason. Blacklisting tools to block those tags exist for a reason.

the whole purity thing and policing what people should and should not write is pretty 2008 and no one likes a pearl clutcher. This pearl clutching and purity policing really comes down to readers denying or disguising (and sometimes even both) their own agency and consent to promote their own agenda.

“writing smut or sex with underage characters and aging them up is wrong because they can’t give consent” THEY CAN’T GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY AREN’T REAL. THEY ARE FICTIONAL. Even if they are 18+ ( a consenting adult across the US federal law) THEY CANNOT CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE FICTIONAL. they do not exist. They are not real.

an ant’s left butt cheek can give more consent than a fictional character because IT EXISTS.

the ongoing argument that stemmed tonight’s drama isn’t about defending the rights and consent of the fictional characters mentioned, its about “ this sort of writing shouldn’t be allowed”.

And this argument is shit. Take away the camouflage and the coverup and the victim blaming and what you really have is a real living person behind a computer screen saying “ I do not consent to this and i am not comfortable with my own personal agency”.

a person who has the critical  and comprehensive thinking skills can look at writing or an rp blog and say “ huh, this is something that i do not consent to. This makes me uncomfortable. this doesn’t seem like my kind of thing” and can just keep on scrolling.

A person who is not comfortable  or confident with their own personal agency goes through this in-depth thought process in response to what they have read:

-I do not consent to read this. - I do not feel that I am in a safe enough space to withhold my consent. - i feel unsafe. - i need to be protected. - i can’t make it about my feelings, because i am not allowed to. - a sense of displacement takes place --> Others need to be protected. --This should not be allowed.

Take for example, someone walking into a movie theater and saying “ i don’t like horror movies.” and walks into a showing of a horror movie and says “ This is so harmful to viewers why are they showing this!”

There’s a rating system for a reason. You don’t have to go into that movie. Just keep walking.

Lastly my guys... PEOPLE ARE INTO WEIRD SHIT. In real life, with real people, consent is a super huge deal. and guess what, that’s why people have active and open conversations about consent, boundaries, empathy, and an understanding  towards power differentials. Its in the news. its in school. We are in an era where these kinds of conversations are socially expectable. Pearl clutching recedes this.

In fiction you can do whatever the hell you want. Some people actually like how it makes them feel because it is not real. it can be experienced within the safety of fiction.

going back to the horror movie analogy who am i to tell Stephen King to not write horror because it could make me uncomfortable? Lots of people like it. He’s won awards for is writing.

 and people still pearl clutch saying things about  weird fiction in general  like “ but it will normalize rape and pedophilia!! people will think its okay!”

do you think seeing a sewer clown murdering children is going to make a fan go out and do that? unless there’s some severe mental health issue, i think not.

Now for the pearl clutcher who decided to start all this shit...

YOU’RE CONSENT DOES MATTER. YOU ARE ALLOW TO NOT LIKE WHAT PEOPLE WRITE. JUST DON’T MAKE IT ABOUT SOME GRAND MORAL JUSTICE OF THE UNIVERSE. YOU CAN SAY “ UM YEAH NO THANKS NOT FOR ME” AND KEEP ON SCROLLING. Worry about your own shit my guy.

That’s why Rpers stress to tag their shit. and I can say hands down that the things you clutch your pearls about were 100% tagged. just keep moving. use tumblr savior. use that block button.

but don’t start shit. it ain’t fun. it ain’t nice.  There’s that one quote by oscar wilde “ give a man a mask and he’ll show you his true self.” the internet is one hell of a mask and you are exposing yourself.

and I’m gonna scroll on by. i do not consent to participating any further in your mess. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.

So, i don't normally do this kind of thing. I really hate doing this kind of thing. But I honestly can't ignore it any longer. 

This is not a call out. I mean, it is, but it isn't. It's....more a PSA than anything else. You can take this information and do what you will with it, and if you need more information please feel free to contact me personally.

So yeah. A PSA.

The tumblr rper nurturing-starlight should be avoided. I have  learned from quite a few of my rp partners (I will not reveal who they are, so do not ask) that this person's behavior is extremely questionable and toxic. Multiple people have come forward with evidence of manipulation (most commonly using self-harm and suicide), abuse, vague-blogging, rallying others to attack various people, intimidation towards others into silence, and many other issues.....however, the reason why I'm actually taking action and calling a PSA is because of one major issue that I have seen in the evidence.

This rper is a Force-shipper. Almost everyone who has brought me information has had this rper force them into a ship, and abuse them when they did not wish to do so.

Please understand, I am not trying to encite a riot, I do not wish people to go attack this person. I just want everyone to be safe, and for their mental health to possibly avoid interacting with this person.

Also, I do not care if allies of this rper come at me. All of it will be deleted. You can attack me all you wish, but I am doing what I can to protect those I care about, and make sure that others aren't hurt the same way my good friends have been. Again, I would not even be saying anything if it was one or two people. It's not. It's more than that. So please, be safe, friends.

Guys we shouldn’t have to have this conversation.  TW; Drama 

In concerns to my DNI list. I woke up to very nasty messages to me from another user today.  I will not post them or show their URL - that’s not the point here.  

I had to go digging through a blog I blocked to try to understand what was going on and I found out this message was sent “in my name” I am not giving context to a response because again I’m not naming names here. 

So if you sent this.  Unfollow me right now.   DO NOT white knight for me. In fact, don’t get involved.  

I have explained in very vague detail to exactly 1 of you why my DNI exists and I also expressed to you very clearly. 

Firstly I hate the usage of the word cunt, so how dare you. Secondly just fucking don’t.  I don’t need to be drug into this petty high school bullshit. I don’t need anyone to defend me.  White Knighting pisses me off anyway. 

I am trying to move past this and just exist on my side of the internet and respect their space but I can’t do that if you guys do bullshit like this.  

I will continue to not give information onto this situation as it is personal and no one’s business. Let’s move on, shall we?  

@eternitycyber​ asked, “💖 — what was one of the greatest/happiest moments you’ve had in the rpc?🖤 — what was one of the worst/most depressing moments you’ve had in the rpc?

munday asks! || Status: Accepting

💖 — what was one of the greatest/happiest moments

Omigod, I was going to say something sweet and sentimental but basically instead I have to say that my best memory was basically doing a halloween thing with a group of friends of mine all changing our main icon to Sesame street characters.

So basically a group of friends were using Sesame Street icons to replace our usual main icons as a joke for Halloween and I was kermit with my muses name written in the corner. But for anyone familiar with MHA I used to write Dabi so think of a blog for that lunatic and but instead of an icon of him it was Kermit. Truly you can tell quality is a consistent trait on all my current and former blogs.

One mun I didn’t even follow at the time even noticed and made a nice post about it and one of my friends that was mutuals with that person saw it and literally sent me the post and I died laughing about it. It was so freaking fun not even going to lie.

And apparently 

🖤 — what was one of the worst/most depressing moments you’ve had in the rpc?

Oh boy howdy, I’m sure to the surprise of literally no one most of my worst memory revolves around drama! If I had to pick one thing it would basically be one of my long time partners at the time basically being kicked out of the fandom because as I remember it everyone more or less replaced her with another mun that wrote the same muse and for whatever reason hated her guts.

I never got involved in the drama myself because I don’t live for the drama and I would much rather mind my own business but basically I left not to long after her because I wasn’t about to interact with people that just throw someone away the second a seemingly better person came along.

Also some of the fandom were also apparently captain of the fun police because we for whatever reason pissed off some of the fandom (by what I was told) for writing a menage trios relationship with a third mun between our muses and because of who our muses were that wasn’t allowed. Apparently it made some people so angry that a group literally banned menage relationships unless you fit in a very specific criteria.

tiffany is a hater

How happy is the blameless vestal's lot The world forgetting, by the world forgot Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind Each pray'r accepted, and each wish resign'd

ETERNAL SUNSHINE OF THE SPOTLESS MIND 2004 - dir. Michel Gondry, Ellen Kuras dop.

Is there any fandom you regret exploring?

oooooh this is gonna sound so cringe :'D

undertale/deltarune. i still have a few friends from there, but... idfk if i was just in a horrible corner of it or what, but people were so cliquey and petty. the main server i was in completely fell apart after the one big person everyone put on a pedestal was revealed to be an asshole. which, i mean... i don't know how no one saw that coming? other people were literally excluded if they weren't involved in that one person's clique.

but yeah, that server and the clique-iness/pettiness just... sucked pretty much all joy for writing for that fandom out of me. friends? cool. me? i don't ever want to touch writing a character from there with a ten foot pole ever again

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some zombie apocalypse au stuff

the opening scene in my private au is everyone helping cut off izzys arm :)

My opinion about the Illymation versus Think before you sleep drama

I think this drama is stupid as fuck. Like I feel so bad for illymation. Like imagine this from her perspective like 1 day you Make a video about how kids shouldn't be going into drastic diets because of how they feel about their body. And then some random ass Conservative Youtuber makes a whole ass video about how your indoctrinating children and that you're trying to make people fat. And because of that random ass conservative Youtuber, you're getting harassed by his fans. you get so much harassment That you have to turn off your comments on that video you made. And then After a while of this, you decide to respond Like an adult By making a post on Tumblr Telling your fans not to watch the video and to just report it. And then Out of nowhere. Conservative Youtuber decides to make a 32 minute video Pissing and shitting himself over the fact you dare to make a tumblr Comment Telling people not to watch the video. And in that video he directly tells his fans that you're cyber bullying him And you're trying to censor him and you're trying to censor people with disagreeing opinions. Which makes the harassment much worse. And you're just stuck in limbo not being able to do much about it because if you try to say anything again he's gonna make another video about you which will create more harassment. I want to become an alcoholic cuz of hearing this whole situation. I cannot imagine what it would be like being her in this situation. if By any chance illymation is reading this I just have to say I am so sorry that a Whiny conservative Manchild Is doing this to you. I don't know how to end this sooooooo um byeeeee

psa: DO NO SEND ME DMS ABOUT THIS POST GUYS I THOUGHT THAT WAS OBVIOUS, if you do it anyway then you WILL be blocked

Proshipper = you're against censorship and harassment over fiction & curate your experience on the internet to have a healthy distance from things that make you uncomfortable

Antishipper = you're okay and even encourage harassment towards "freaks" and "weirdos" society deems acceptable to hurt

been thinking about assistant!noah using malicious compliance to get out of singing.

The Kie is a very angry bean.

I'll be putting this under a readmore, but just a tldr; I can follow who I want, I can like what the fuck I want. 

I'm going to be honest, I didn't think I would have to make another post about this. I had been told, been asked to just make a post and be done with it. It's what I'd planned on doing. Make a psa, move on. This is what I WANTED to happen. It's what should have happened. This did not happen. And I feel like it's not going too. 

I stayed in my lane after my last post on Star/Usa. I posted it almost a week ago, and since then, I haven't even thought about her. Let me be clear here: I have not said a peep since my last post on her. I respected the request to stay quiet. I respected it when someone said that the drama needed to stop and that everyone wanted to chill. 

Star did not respect this, despite being the one, as I was told, wishing to stop drama. 

Once again, I want to be clear in what I'm saying. I would not know ANY of the following had it not been shared with me. Again. I WOULD NOT KNOW IF SOMEONE HAD NOT TOLD ME.

I got to work today, it was a good day. And then I got a message to inform me that I'd been put on a dni list by Usa, for stalking her. I was...confused. I hadn't spoken about her, I hadn't even gone to her blog. (Which, for reference, I've never been too. I legitimately have never stepped my virtual foot onto her blog and if she says I have, then that is a lie. Let me repeat: I've never actually been to her blog.) I struggled to figure out what was going on, while trying to do my job....and I realized what had happened. I had done two things.

First; I liked a post. I liked a post that someone made to let them know that I support them for whatever choice they make. Maybe I don't agree with it, but they're their own person, and have their own likes and dislikes. 

Secondly; I followed a person. I followed someone I didn't even know was friends with Usa. I'm not about to scour someone's blog to make sure they're not interacting with someone. That's not right, and this person had a lot of muses I was interested in rping with. I followed them because I wanted to rp with them. 

These are the two things I did. These two things, to Usa, lable me as a stalker. These are the two things that make me a horrible evil person enough to make a call out on. These two things are, In her own words, enough to "put someone else on my dni list since they feel the need to stalk me."  and that I need to "Stop with my fucking lies and smear campaigns". 

Why do I know this is what she said? Because this was shared with me by a friend who came to me, very worried and confused. I'll reiterate that I've never been to her blog. I would not even know if this friend hadn't come to me. 

I'm upset. I'm very upset. I should not have to make this kind of post. I shouldn't! Yes, I made a psa about this user and toyed with the idea of making a dni list because of her, but I hadn't actually done so yet. Because I was told that everyone wanted to stop the drama, and back off from each other. I thought, maybe, things would be quiet, and everyone would go their separate ways. But if liking a post and following a person is considered stalking.....what next? 

Legitimately, what next? 

And if i am considered a stalker, then what is she? The post I liked was by someone she apparently has blocked? According to my activity tracker, she's been on my blog multiple times? When I've never been to her's once?! Exactly who here is the stalker?!

I tried to respect things. I did. I stayed quiet. But if you're going to drag someone into drama after saying you want no part in it, especially someone who's been quiet and staying in their lane, you are a liar. 

I can like what I wish to like. That has nothing to do with Usa. I can follow whoever the fuck I wish. That has NOTHING to do with Usa. I can rp with whoever I wish. I can like what I like. I can do what I wish. This is MY corner of the internet. My blog is my corner. You want to stop drama? Stay off my fucking blog and don't URLDROP me for no reason. Have a valid reason, if I was, for some reason, actually doing something worthy of it. Which I have not. 

Once again, with feeling: I can like whatever the fuck I want. I can follow whoever the fuck I want. It has NOTHING to do with anyone other than myself and my want to rp and support those I follow. If you think differently? You sweet summer child, stay off my blog. 

Usa, as I know you will likely either visit my blog, or someone of yours will and tell you about this, this is my last warning to you. Leave me be, let me follow who I wish to follow, and interact with who I want too. I'm not going to follow your sweet little narrative, and next time, I won't let you get away with it quite as easily as you have this time. This is me going easy on you.

The B In blue stands for ‘Berry Clingy’

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did you hear about that batshit Susan Meachen fake suicide?

.......the what.

No fucking way. I remember when that happened. Good god, there were gofundmes and everything. People worked on her "final" book for free, so it could be published, not to mention the pitty-buy sales drives so her kids would have "something to live off of." Like people grieved. What an awful thing to do. I hope she gets the proper help she needs to realize why what she did was terrible.

And yet it seems like people are buying her stuff expecting it to be unhinged and wild, and yet if I recall, her work was just kind of... fine. Things I never bothered to leave reviews on because I didn't want to be mean.

Good Grief.

Can I ask you something? Why do you hate me? Because you're selfish. You don't trust anyone do you? That's because your not trustworthy.