trans women who can not have bottom surgery due to complications are still women. trans women who can not afford or attain bottom surgery are still women. trans women who don’t want bottom surgery are still women.

Hell yeah that would be great

Hi, everyone I have a YouTube channel that I'm not doing much with at the moment and was wondering how many peeps would be interested in seeing me answer questions on camera. That does mean that it will be a longer wait for answers but I'll discuss things at length instead of it being written where it can be easily misconstrued.

Any interaction with this post or message or ask letting me know what you think about this idea will help, thank you.

Well I'm never coming out now.

so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

My gender ran off with my ex wife and i've been happier ever since.

I lost my gender in…the accident.

I’m a cis-gender man which basically means that, when I was born, the doctor went “It’s a boy!” and when I was old enough to understand I agreed with him.

The thing is, I don’t know why I feel like a man.  I was teased and bullied for it a lot when I was little.  I’ve never had stereotypically American male interests.  I never cared about sports or cars or guns.  I was more interested in music and cooking and the arts.  I’ve always been emotionally in tune and sensitive, even when I did my best to suppress my emotions to survive a childhood of abuse from other children.

It’s not physical either.  I don’t feel like a man because I have a penis or a beard.  If you put my brain in a robot body or any other body, my essence would still feel male (I assume).  I literally can’t imagine what being any other gender would feel like, since I feel so acutely male.

I think that’s why the concept of being transgender always made sense to me.  I’m a man.  I don’t have any bloody clue why I feel like a man, but I don’t feel that it’s tied to my body or my interests or the way that I’ve been treated.  I feel like a man because of something beyond that.  Something ephemeral.  So, why couldn’t others feel the same?  Why couldn’t a person who’s been misidentified as a girl feel like a boy for the exact same nebulous reasons that I do?

And, since gender really doesn’t make any sense to me anyway, why couldn’t there also be people who feel as if they don’t have one?  Or who flow across genders like a ship on a map?

Are there people out there whose sense of their own gender is inseparable from their physical form?  If you put those people into robot bodies or, simply, other physically different bodies, would their gender identity also swap?  If so, why?  Are they actually more lost in their gender identity than I am and they need to hone in on the physical in order to anchor themselves?

Why do people feel like they are the gender that they are?

My Own Internalized Toxic Masculinity

Toxic Masculinity effects me in ways I didn't even realize until I also realized I was trans. It effects the people around me in turn because of my obliviousness towards it, and I'm working on becoming more aware in noticing it so I can stop.

I've noticed myself becoming angrier in moments where I know when I was a female I would've stopped myself from being angry because nobody likes an angry woman. But since then I've been unnecessarily angry and upset for longer like I had the right to be mad about anything and everything in an explosive, sometimes physical manner because of that lack of expression I had before.

I've noticed I've already told myself to not show weakness or emotion and to Stop Crying because Real Men Don't Cry and that's false. Men cry, and holding that shit in didn't fix any problems nor did it make me feel like a man either. I wouldn't say that to anyone else but somehow I internalized it I guess because of society and now I have to work to stop it.

In very simple ways I even noticed how different I was being and not in a good way. Deleting songs that I loved because if I sang them out loud that would make people think I was girly and trans men or men in general shouldn't be girly. What the fuck is that? Liking Delicate by Taylor Swift is Okay so why did I suddenly start thinking this and no, actually, I've always secretly thought these things but it was fine cause I thought I was a girl. So now I know for sure I'm not it's different? Starting to change who I am and what I love that had nothing to do with being trans but for the sake of how scared I would be to be called out for liking a girly thing is shitty. Toxic Masculinity and Double Standards are shitty and I need to actively work to make sure I'm not contributing to them.

Tl/dr; Females can contribute to toxic masculinity and it doesn't take a gender transition to realize it. Please, just be aware of your own thoughts and actions.

When you're trans and your fam gets you socks like these. (They don't know, this is just a happy coincidence.)

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Merry Christmas y'all, I know it gets tough around the holidays.