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oatmealpeople · 7 months

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asexuality is not an inconvenience. it isn't a burden to change your conversation topics to avoid making a sex repulsed asexual feel uncomfortable or unsafe. it isn't about you if an asexual romantic or life partner does not want to have sex. it's none of your business if an asexual person has frequent sex, or makes money off of their body or sexuality. it's not an attempt to manipulate you when an asexual/aceflux person has fluctuating levels of sex favorability, neutrality and/or repulsion.

someone else's asexuality isn't about you, it is not inherently overstepping your boundaries. forcing the asexual person to cope or deal with things that make them uncomfortable or go against the way they want to live their lives is overstepping their boundaries, and people need to accept this.

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oatmealpeople · 7 months

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I would trust allo people more with shipping Aromantic characters if they actually treated it as an aromantic relationship instead of an allo relationship. You can't honestly think I'll believe when you say "They're still aro when i ship them!" and then show no signs of understanding or exploring how their aro identity affects their relationship outside of "I like dating and kissing" You can't honestly expect me to trust you actually support aromantic people when the only time you throw out support for aros is when you're saying "Aros can still date and enjoy romance!" because you want to ship an aro character.

I would trust Allo people more with aro characters if they stopped treating them like allo characters the moment they wanted them to kiss someone.

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oatmealpeople · 7 months

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aphobia is so funny to me. like. you’re mad just bc i refuse to have some bitches and just wanna do my thing?

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oatmealpeople · 8 months

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if i see you demonizing neurological disorders in my notes you're getting blocked. yes even the so-called "bad" or "scary" ones

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oatmealpeople · 8 months

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The magic of a scorching summer evening

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oatmealpeople · 9 months

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I’m all for going about queerness with the goal of not being able to be understood by outsiders but like. you’ve GOT to be normal about aro & ace people if you do. you can’t go on about being confusing to cishets for fun and then complain about ace & aro people who go about sex and romance and attraction in ways that don’t make sense to you.

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oatmealpeople · 1 year

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SO I HEARD SOMEOME RECENTLY CAME OUT AS AROACE !!!!

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oatmealpeople · 1 year

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Here we are, six weeks later...

HEY!

So, in case you haven’t heard, our six week run on Love Unlimited following Gwenpool wrapped up today and…

and as much as I did write all of this and it is extremely important to me, I feel I really need to make sure you all know that this didn’t start with me.

To be completely accurate, it started with Chris Hastings and crew for creating such an amazing and nuanced character out of what could have only ever been a high concept and a cover gag. Not that the cover gag wasn’t good, but the statue that is revealed from that piece of marble over the course of The Unbelievable Gwenpool is truly astonishing.

Then, of course, there’s you. An audience of fans with an incredible love and passion for a character who also saw a lot of the quirks and experiences that we as people on the asexual spectrum experience and talked about it online.

Which is where the incredible @alannawrites, my editor, comes in. Alanna had been looking for an opportunity to tell a story about being ace in Marvel comics. We had kind of skimmed around the edges during Unstoppable Wasp, but ultimately being a character who owed so much to a movie franchise, there were a lot of nerves there. Gwen was not only a great opportunity to tell a story of a person hyper aware that they are in a story struggling with the tropes that affect their actual life, it was a chance to bring about this story for a character a lot of the fandom already saw as ace. Obviously, not everybody, but still a lot.

So when editorial game to okay to tell this story, Alanna reached out to me - somebody she’d worked with but also specifically had just had their own little coming out as demisexual a little while back. I was thrilled by the idea and before long we brought on @bailiesartblog and Kelly and had a full creative team of people on the ace spectrum. This is easily the first time that’s ever been a thought.

For me it was important that it not just be a story of coming out, but that it be a Gwenpool story. A story of knowing how stories work, what tropes you can play with, trying to direct the story where you think it should go, and ultimately finding that the story just won’t comply. And for people who have experienced being on the ace spectrum or a lot of other marginalized genders and sexualities - that’s a very familiar problem.

Ultimately, it’s different from a lot of other Gwenpool stories because it’s not the world around her. She has 2-3 real working possibilities for romantic relationships in this story and one that is about to become a fully adult sexual relationship with a woman whom she really loves before it skips the tracks. Ultimately, it’s not a thing from the 616 that’s holding her back, it’s a thing she brought with her from the real world - her sexuality - and no matter how worthy you are, you can’t beat that with a hammer.

There’ll be lots of time to talk about this later, but along with her actually saying the words and waving the flags above, one of the sequences that’s most important to me is the opening sequence of issue 6

This is the problem sometimes with being story tellers. When you think you know the story, realizing you’re not who you thought you are can feel like maybe you’re a villain. Maybe you’re a monster. Maybe you don’t belong here.

Some people on the internet seem to have decided to misinterpret this sequence as us comparing being asexual to being a monster, when very clearly that’s Gwen doing it. I’m just going to assume they’ve never had the experience of struggling to understand themselves and where they fit. Sounds fake, but whatever.

I love this FF story. I love Ben Grimm. I love this cover and that was why I gave my art team the truly unenviable task of recreating it. Like, I don’t know if you’ve been there, but I certainly have and I’d wager that most of us have at some point.

But perhaps the most important image in this scene is the next one:

Julie sees her friend, her girlfriend, the person that she cares about spiraling and literally yoinks her right out of the frame.

And sits her down and talks to her about it. And listens to her about it. And when she starts asking questions that Julie can’t answer, she finds Gwen somebody who can.

And that is an incredible gift to give to someone. And yeah, maybe we should all do that for each other, but man is it hard. Julie for one is in a multi-month relationship with this girl that just told her that not only was she lying about being ready to have sex with her, but that she didn’t actually like kissing her and has been faking enjoying some aspects of their relationship. You wanna think you would still be there for this person, but that’s a lot to handle and it takes a lot to be the person Julie is in this moment. But, personally, I love Julie Power and I think she’s the kinda person to stick with it.

And ultimately I think this scene is so important to me because I hope this book is our opportunity to be Julie Power to somebody reading this story. I hope someone who is going through a hard time or struggling with how to define themselves will find this story and it can be the hands that pull them out of the cover of Fantastic Four 51 when they need it. Maybe that’s a lot to hope for a comic, but it’s really the ambition I think the team went into this comic with. We want to tell a story about an aroace character coming to terms with who they are and learning to accept and be comfortable with it, but ultimately we hope this story gets to someone out there when they need it and makes the difference.

Well, this has gone really long and I’m sure there will be other things I wanna say about it later, but until then take care of yourselves and hopefully you’ll get the chance to be someone’s Julie Power.

P.S. - Julie, you’re amazing and I’m sure we will find a romance for you that works out eventually. Sorry that we’ve collectively now put you through three breakups.

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oatmealpeople · 1 year

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The final Gwenpool Love Unlimited is out today. It’s been such a journey and I am so thankful to have worked alongside such an amazing team on such a deeply personal story. I hope it means as much to y’all as it does to us 🖤🤍💜🖤🤍💚

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oatmealpeople · 1 year

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