I really don't know how to explain to people that supporting gender liberation (liberation for trans people, liberation for gnc people, liberation from all oppressive gender roles) means you have to be able to see someone you think is cis "crossdressing" and be cool about it. You have to be able to see someone presenting in a way that doesn't make sense to you and not interrogate them about their identity. You have to be able to hear someone express a gender identity you don't understand and go "Huh! Neat," and go about your business. If you truly want gender liberation for all then you have to stop trying to exert control over other people's genders, period.
I was thinking of how every time I see Cal with a blue lightsaber I'm confused (even if thats his canon colour) bc I mostly play with yellow/orange and see people thag play with those colours
SO imagine Cal in TL4J just showing up one day with like a pink lightsaber or some thing and everyone else is like wot