You've stumbled upon my personal blog, which has long been private, the sole purpose of which is to empower, inspire and soothe me via images and quotes that offer an alternative to lifelong beauty standards that have been forced upon us. Please be respectful.
This user believes that being fat is not shameful, being fat is okay, being fat is good. You have no need to explain, apologize for or justify your size. Size, and yes, even health, are not moral values. Let fat people be fat and focus on yourself. 💜
Have cellulite? You are worthy of love!
Have a big stomach? You are worthy of love!
Have stretch marks? You are worthy of love!
Fat? You are worthy of love!
It has taken me years to realize that the way you look, the body you have, has absolutely nothing to do with your worth or the ability for others to love you.
I didn’t begin to even consider dating until I was in my thirties. You see, I had been fat pretty much my entire life, and believed that no man could even consider being with me until I lost some serious weight. As I got older, I started to feel more pressure from friends and family asking if I had any plans to start dating. While I told them I had literally no interest in being in a relationship, much preferring to me on my own, in truth, I was scared no man would find me worthy of love because of my size.
It wasn’t until I had lost close to 40 pounds that I even entertained the ideas of a relationship. Feeling slightly more confident because of my smaller size (sadly, not because of my kindness, my empathy, my sense of humour, my creativity, and everything else I had to offer in a
relationship), I decided to try dating, and met my, now fiance, Brandon.
While I tried my best to maintain my 40 pound weight loss, the weight slowly started to creep back on and eventually I gained not only the 40 pounds I had initially lost, but another 60 pounds on top of that. Guess what? Brandon still loved me. Not inspire of all the stretch marks that popped up because of my weight gain. Not in spite of my now much larger stomach. Not in spite of the cellulite spreading on my thighs and bum. He loved me, and continues to love me, for everything that I am, including being fat.
What I have learned and so desperately want to share with you is that your worth as a person is not determined when you step on the scale. Your worth as a person is not determined when you grab a piece of clothing off the plus sized rack. Your worth as a person is not determined by a thigh gap or a flat stomach or a lower percentage of body fat.
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE EXACTLY AS YOU ARE RIGHT NOW!
fat people shouldnt have to walk on eggshells around people with eating disorders and take their fatphobia without response especially when we have eating disorders ourselves
"But being fat is so unhealthy!"
"You're going to d*e early!"
"You're glorifying o*****y!"
"You're disgusting and lazy!"
"You're costing this country so much money!"
"How can you even stand to look at yourself in the mirror?"
"If you lost weight, your quality for life would improve!"
"You're ki****g yourself!"
"You're kidding yourself!"
"You smell!"
"You can't really be happy."
"You're destroying your heart!"
"You're damaging your body!"
"Who could EVER love or be attracted to YOU?!"
"I'm just trying to help you."
"Have you ever considered surgery?"
"You have such a pretty face; you'd be so beautiful if you were smaller"
"I'm just losing weight for my health"
"My 'before and after' photos aren't about weight loss."
"Just get up. You've got this."
"O*****y IS an epidemic, but in the meantime and until they lose the weight, they still need access."
You get it. I can go on and on. It's insidious and insulting. You think I don't know what it feels like to be fat? You don't think i haven't tried everything to alleviate your pressure?
I don't celebrate fatness for fatness' sake. I celebrate fatness because I'm fat and I am to be celebrated, loved, and respected like EVERY OTHER HUMAN BEING is. I celebrate fatness DELIBERATELY because the other nonsense is so loud.
If you know me and were in community, it's likely that I've celebrated you, no matter the size of your body.
Celebrate your body today. Celebrate your fat body today, ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE INFINIFAT!! IT'S OUR DAY!!!
All day. Every day.
[ID: Infinifat Black woman with glasses and an afro wears a purple shirt that says, "Celebrate Fatness" with shiny blue heart balloon. ]