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Feeling Suicidal? A guide to stopping suicidal thoughts, an article by Author Tarun V Kapoor

When you were born were you handed over a contract in your hands that life is gonna be a bed of roses, things will remain super fine.

If not then how could you decide the parameters on your own and consider tough times as bad and ok times as good.

First of all if problems were not there in your way to trouble you like hell then you were not supposed to be born.

The purpose of you being born on this Earth is to accomplish just two things:

1. Sufferings

2. Prayers

The Almighty before sending humans to earth already created everything that humans will need, but he made us for himself so that we can pray to him.

We have a strong connection with sufferings because they help to expiate negative Karma.

If we go by law of Karma then what ever negative Karma been done by you in the past knowingly or unknowingly, in this life or any past life, by you directly or by someone else on your instigation, how will all that be expiated, it is by only two ways, through prayers and through sufferings.

Maybe you pray 90% and suffer 10% , maybe you suffer 90% and pray 10%. Both of these work in the same direction of expiating your negative Karma to make you reach ground zero if you were at minus level of karma.

Once you have touched the ground level then again it is in your hands to rise above by doing good Karma.

Supposedly the suffering is too much and you succumb to the pressure and commit suicide then what happens; nothing.

You have just delayed your suffering by few years and added another black spot to it by ending your life, Now you will be re born and start suffering from where you had left.

Nothing is certain but I have presumed that you believe in reincarnation and rebirth because if you who had been believing in only one life then that one life would have been so precious that you wouldn’t have thought to end it.

Surprisingly People think of ending life on those levels which are dream come true for someone else.

Suppose you are thrown out of your rented house and had to live in the tents, it is no grounds to end your life. This is a temporary situation and shall be turned back sooner or later.

If you don’t know what to thank about then don’t remain ignorant anymore.

If you are able to get a cup of tea along with the loaf of bread in the morning and something to eat at night then you are thousand times blessed than the millions of people on this Earth.

Anything above this bread and tea is a bonus.

We should be thankful for each single breath that we take.

You can feel gratitude and be thankful to the almighty. You can’t say I am breathing because of my merits.

In rest of all the things I see and hear people claiming their achievements due to their merits. This is the root cause of people ending their lives.

Their thought process is like I am more talented and capable than him yet he got to grab that house or job or life partner or something and I am not able to.

I worked so hard, I waited so patiently, I am so capable still out of the whole world I am the one dumped by everyone. This is self pity.

Going in self pity is like going into a black hole from where nobody ever comes out.

Self-pity is a matter of choice. It’s up to you to think that in spite of being the God’s greatest creation that is a human being you are the one to be had pity upon then the software of your thought process is corrupted and you need to press the refresh button.

People have lost fortunes, some lost billions of dollars that means thousand times more than you.

Still they stand up and start moving because they finally understood that it is a bundle of journeys and this small journey is a part of a big journey. And remember what is the purpose of this small journey, correct — sufferings and prayers.

Do not think of what has happened and where you stand now. Just tell your mind to think of what worse could have happened and where you could have been instead of this place, Then you will realize how lucky you are.

Ok now what happens when you are dead and gone.

People who were ruthless to you will melt down and remember you with Grace, people who loved you will have tears in their eyes and will miss you very badly.

This is only in romantic novels or family movies. Nothing of this shit is gonna happen, no one gives a damn about whether you are alive or dead and gone.

If you think you will be mourned for ages or years or months or weeks then let me put it very straight. Those who loved you and were your closest will miss you for three days, rest of them for few hours that’s it. Next day onwards the whole world will be back to normal sipping their wine, watching TV, discussing news and moving ahead . You will not be even worth discussing among their other amusing things.

If you can’t believe this then go to any funeral or cremation ground and see people at little distance from the funeral pyre are answering their mobiles and saying this is winding up in few minutes then I am reaching you, exactly which Mall are you in.

So you think that they come to the funeral pyre for you or they just wanted to be seen around, just ticking a column.

Who will love you if you will not love yourself.

Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

If they call you self-obsessed let it be, if they call you narcissist let it be , if they call you proud and arrogant let it be, in any case they have to call you something.

Sometime the remorse play a pivotal role where you get a feeling that these were the mistakes you made in last few years that’s why you landed up in this situation.

You feel you could have done it in this way or you shouldn’t have done it in that way and things would have been better. Let me tell you if the time rewinds and you are given a chance you will do it in exactly the same way as you did it in the past. There is no other way that you could have done it.

We are like spectators watching the movie in the hall. The very little control that we have with us is the reaction.

What is happening in the movie let it happen and keep watching sitting relaxed in your chair do not overreact.

If you over react then after you are gone people are going to say he was bipolar, the term specially coined for such people who are on extremes whether in happiness or depressed. Had you been bipolar then why not remember the good times and be extra happy.

This blog written by Author Tarun V Kapoor and who has also written a self help book called “How to Never Lose Your Money”

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