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your-bigender-big-brother · 4 hours

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Could you make space themed multigender flags for nonbinary girl & nonbinary boy?

I decided to go with eclipses for this one!

I flipped the expectations around so that the solar eclipse (left) is for nonbinary girl and the lunar eclipse (right) is for nonbinary boy, instead of making solar = boy and lunar = girl.

I hope you like them! - 💙💚

#bbb.flags #bbb.ask #anon #nonbinary girl #nonbinary boy #nonbinary #multigender #spaced themed multigender flags #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 6 hours

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Xenity and Gender in the Abstract

(An essay under the cut.)

Can you imagine a gender experience that is not feminine, masculine, neutral, epicene, outherine, or even genderless? What if, instead of any of those categories, you used far more unconventional ways to explain your gender? The concept of atrinary identities was explained in a previous essay, but I also briefly mentioned the experience of being xenine - that is, any gender quality outside of the human scope of genderedness. Instead of using human concepts to explain gender, xenity exists in the realm of the abstract and the other. Xenine identities may also be called xenic.

Xenity can be experienced in a number of ways - through concepts based on emotions, colors, textures, plants, animals, media, sensations, and so much more. Some xenine identities might feel like a cool early morning while some might be related to a specific character from a TV show or movie. Others might be more like the deep dark ocean. And others might be best described as something eldritch and unknowable. Like any other gender experience, it really depends on the individual who uses the label. Genders that are inherently xenine are typically called xenogenders.

While these experiences don’t use human categorizations of gender, they do not inherently indicate a nonhuman experience such as otherkinity or therianthropy either. However, that may actually be the experience for some members of those communities. If someone is more animalistic, they may view their own gender as something an animal might experience - or, at least, an animal in a human’s body. It gets even more complex when that person isn’t human or animal, or even anything of this world. If they’re some sort of mythical creature, a spirit, an alien, or even the embodiment of an abstract concept, their xenine experience might be more suited to that form of nonhumanity.

Other folks - not otherkin or therian - may feel a connection to music or other forms of media, which means their xenic experience will reflect that. Xenogenders based on specific songs or albums, on video game characters, on physical pieces of technology, or even the nostalgic feeling of interacting with these types of media exist to fit this type of gendered experience.

Another way someone may experience xenity is through -coric identities, which are based on specific core aesthetics. Goblincore, cottagecore, horrorcore, and fairycore can all be xenogenders - goblincoric, cottagecoric, horrorcoric, and fairycoric respectively. While an aesthetic-based identity sounds like it may play into one’s gender expression more than anything, these are actually more often literal genders. Xenogenders may also be based on other types of aesthetics, anywhere from lolita to gothic to pastel to neon. Aesthetics can be just as flexible as genders.

Xenity doesn't just have to relate to xenogenders. Since it's a gender quality, it can be applied to any other existing gender or lack thereof. You can be a xenic man, a xeno-aligned agender person, or someone who is demixenogender with a connection to other genders. Your presentation or expression can also be xenic. What does that look like? Like any other type of gender expression, it is variable and individualistic - it depends on how that person chooses to express themselves! There are no rules for gender expression or how a gender quality might affect our gendered experiences.

Gender is incredibly personal and since we experience the world through a vast and varied number of sensory inputs, it makes sense that those inputs might intersect with our gender identity. Our sense of self, after all, is often shaped by the many ways we experience the world. The way something looks, feels, sounds, or is experienced through memories can all influence our genders in some way. This might very well be one of the most diverse and flexible gender concepts that exist!

#bbb.txt #queer essays #xenogender #xenity #xenic #xenine #xeno-aligned #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 19 hours

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Master list of all the "our __ experience" lgbtq+ blogs

These are all the active and inclusive/friendly queer blogs I could find. If I listed any that are exclusionist or otherwise bad or are just inactive, please let me know so I can remove them. This list is intended to help queer people find active and inviting communities to participate in and feel safe in. If you know more feel free to add them in the reblogs and/or tell me them so I can add them. Please spread this around, I worked very hard on compiling this list, and this may help people find the community for them here on Tumblr.

🏳️‍🌈 Overall community

@our-queer-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Aromantic and/or asexual

@our-arospec-experience

@our-asexual-experience

@our-oriented-aroace-experience

@our-aroace-experience

@unionize-aromantically

@our-demiromantic-experience

@our-demian-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Gay/lesbian

@our-lesbian-experience

@our-gay-experience

@our-lesboy-experience

@our-gaybian-experience

@our-mlm-experience

@our-sapphic-experience

@our-achillean-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Transgender

@our-transgender-experiences

@transsexual-experiences

@our-transfeminine-experience

@our-transmasculine-experience

@our-trans-youth-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Genderfluid (and related)

@our-genderfluid-experience

@the-genderflux-experience

@our-boyflux-experience

@our-genderfawn-experience

@our-genderfae-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Demigender

@our-demigirl-experience

@our-demiboy-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Agender

@our-agender-experience

🏳️‍🌈Multigender

@our-multigender-experience

@your-bigender-big-brother

#bbb.reblog #your bigender big brother #our experience blogs

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your-bigender-big-brother · 2 days

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Spent half an hour creating a page for the YB3 Wiki and then accidentally deleted the whole page. Backspaced and it did not recover a single thing for me. So that's my day. How's yours?

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your-bigender-big-brother · 4 days

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Hi! I have a question. The biggest problem I encountered with people who use no pronouns is that, well, many languages just don't allow that. I can use the name instead of pronouns but all the verbs and adjectives still have to be gendered. What should I do then, especially in a situation when I can't quickly and directly ask mentioned person? E.g. I want to share a cool blog with my friend and talk a bit about the artist. The artist uses no pronouns and I'm talking with a friend in a gendered language, the friend doesn't speak English. How should I talk about the artist?

That's a tough one! I know in Spanish, there have been ways to use terms in a non-gendered way (by adding an -e to the end of words, typically.) I believe Japanese has a way to say "that person" instead of a pronoun if the pronouns are unknown. I'm not sure if other languages have features like those, but I'd love to see what followers have to say about it.

What language is it, by the way? Someone might be able to give some suggestions or provide resources, I'm sure.

Also, followers (especially apronomial ones), what should anon do? When speaking about someone and the lack of pronouns is not understood by the recipient, should they try to explain how no pronouns work? I imagine defaulting to they/them is still misgendering unless the person has specifically stated otherwise. - 💙💚

#bbb.ask #anon #no pronouns #apronomial #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 4 days

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HII this is the person who asked a while back (like at least a few months to a year or so) what my gender feels like, I used the phrase “mostly girl but not all girl” if that jogs ur memory

WELL GOOD NEWS!!! I figured it out! I’m a girlthing. 1st definition on the gender wiki. I saw that and thought oh my god that’s legit me,, anyways I use the name Sean sometimes now as an alternative to my birth name, and I use she/her !! Thought you’d like to know the good news :)

Girlthing! I like that! I remember seeing the terms boything and girlthing floating around. I love terms that are like... It's girl, but it's a little something extra.

I'm glad you found something that works for you! - 💙💚

#bbb.ask #batclawsss #girlthing #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 4 days

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k, z, r and x are very gender. does that make sense?

You know, I can get behind that! For me, it's usually an affinity for pronouns starting with E and gender-affirming names starting with A. But I can see a gender connection to K, Z, R, and definitely X!

- 💙💚

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your-bigender-big-brother · 5 days

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Someone once asked me to explain how using no pronouns works and I explained it with some sentences the best way I could, as someone who actually uses pronouns. It really helps to see someone talk about the experience from a personal perspective. This was very infomative and I hope my followers find it useful!

- 💙💚

I made this quick info post about using no pronouns bc there’s not a lot of resources on it! Reblogs appreciated :D

[Image ID: Simple blue and white graphic. First slide is titled “Guide to Using No Pronouns” and has a figure waving with a speech bubble that says “Hi, I’m Bee! I prefer using my name in place of pronouns.” The second slide is titled “Reasons to use No Pronouns” and the bullet points read “When no pronouns seem to fit. Sometimes you just don’t vibe with any of them! Avoids misgendering someone who’s not out yet. For fun!” An additional bubble reads “you don’t have to have a reason!” The third slide is titled “Introductions” and reads “Introducing yourself: “Hello, my name is ____. I use my name instead of pronouns.” or “My name is ____. I don’t use pronouns.” Introducing someone else: “This is ____. ____ doesn’t use pronouns.” or “This is ____. You can use ____’s name in place of pronouns.” I find that stating that you use your name in place of pronouns makes your introduction more clear. I would also include a quick example of how to use your name: “So instead of using they/them/their, you can say “Bee is calling Bee’s parents.”““ The fourth slide is titled “Examples” and reads “Here’s some examples using my name! Instead of: “Bee is working by themself.” Do: “Bee is working alone.” Instead of: “They are proud of their work.” Do: “Bee is proud of Bee’s work.” Instead of “I went with them and they were amazing!” Do: “I went with Bee and Bee was amazing!”“ The fifth slide reads “Thank you for reading! Have a good day!”]

Quick FAQ/additional notes under cut:

Keep reading

#bbb.reblog #pronouns #no pronouns #apronomial #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 7 days

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A zine all about gender neutrality! 💙💚

#yb3.zine #niaspec #neutrality #gender neutral #ningender #neutrois #bigender #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 8 days

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Would neomale include AMAB?

Sure!

- 💙💚

#bbb.ask #anon #neomale #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 8 days

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Sometimes I get to witness people's firsts. Their first coming out. Their first binder. Their first appointment. If you're experiencing a first, I'm so happy for you! I wish you many more wonderful firsts.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

#bbb.txt #bigender #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 10 days

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antiboy boy flag?

Here you are! 💙💚

#bbb.flags #bbb.ask #antiboy #antigender #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 10 days

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Engirl and boyby flag

Is this supposed to be a combination flag? Flags already exist for these two identities which is why I ask. Let me know so I can get started! - 💙💚

#bbb.ask #anon #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 11 days

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These are all stickers from my shop if you're interested! The Gender is Canceled one and the No Gender one are both available as a pin as well! 💛

I'm making some fun graphics that I would like to make into stickers someday. What do you think? 💙💚

#your bigender big brother #genderfluid #nonbinary #agender #genderpunk #pangender #omnigender #multigender #bbb.icons #ko-fi #yb3.merch

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your-bigender-big-brother · 12 days

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Go check out @the-otherspace. I'm making system- and otherkin-related art over there. The queue is packed with fun doodles! 💛

#bbb.update #plurality #otherkin #dragonkin #your bigender big brother

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your-bigender-big-brother · 12 days

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If you buy more than one pin or sticker, you get some cool freebies with them! 💛

Hey, if you want to buy some pride flag pins or pronoun stickers (as well as @gender-buddies stickers), check out my shop below!

(Also, one purchase equals one cute cat pic posted in our Discord server!)

#bbb.update #yb3.merch #your bigender big brother #ko-fi

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your-bigender-big-brother · 12 days

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What may be my final space-themed multigender flag unless someone requests one: Ambonec!

This flag is based on starlight. It represents stars that have warm light, stars that have cool light, and stars that have neither (in this case, when they become blackholes and no longer give off light.)

Find more flags from this series here. - 💙💚

#bbb.flags #ambonec #multigender #space themed multigender flags #your bigender big brother

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