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is it gay to boop your spouse

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I think one thing we need to address in the US if we want to de-stigmatize multi-generational households that include ADULTS from multiple generations, is that parents need to learn how to have adult relationships with their offspring.

Should my daughter deign to live with me when she's an adult she will not be my some vassal that has to obey my household rules. She graduates into being a peer in setting and managing the boundaries, cleanliness and appearance of our home.

Too many parents want to have relationships with grown ass adults in which the parents maintain control and authority, and in which they leverage money and history to get their way from an adult who, very reasonably, wants to be able to make choices and have influence. And then those parents wonder why their kids keep their distance!

But then people act like I've lost it because I let my 5 year old pick the color of paint in her room- a room I seldom spend time in except to take care of her, and a room in which I want her to be comfortable and happy.

I'm not gonna let her choose a paint color for the kitchen right now, because she's capricious and bad at negotiating so we can pick a color we all like. But when she's an adult, if she's still living here? Why shouldn't she get to influence her environment?

People like to have agency. We limit the agency of children because they make choices without the full ability to understand the results (sorry baby, you are gonna get vaccinated for pollio even if you don't like it. You don't understand pollio).

But limiting an adults choices in their own home, just because you don't think that home should be a real home for them because it's just for you, is kind of an asshole move, to me.

No need to argue with me if you disagree. You can have your own opinion.

But I couldn't treat my kid that way, and I have seen enough to know that not every parent treats their adult children like permanently incompetent interlopers.

I didn't just buy this house for ME. I bought it for MY FAMILY. My baby is my family, and she will be no matter how old she gets.

I Hate that my attention span is nonexistent and that I essentially live inside my phone (I looked at my screen time app which I typically avoid doing and uhhh my average is 13 hours a day).

I'm thinking about how that habit started forming when I was 10 and given unrestricted access to a computer and how by 12 I was regularly staying up all night on the internet. Back then I Needed to disassociate from my home life & my health situation and I have so much empathy for tiny me who was just doing their best to cope but it's fucked adult me over so much. Behavioral addiction really sucks. I WANT to be present in my life I WANT to not instinctively refresh twitter ever 5 minutes for dopamine I WANT to think & create & use my brain but instead I spend hours unable to stop scrolling/playing mindless phone games.

Trying really hard to take small steps forward and give myself grace. I can't undo 15 years of internet dependence in a snap & I wanna guard myself against giving up the moment it starts feeling hopeless. Gonna start gradually cutting back on time I spend on my phone & build better habits & remember healing isn't linear

not cluttering up the reblogs on that one post but people on tumblr/twitter are so fucking weird about post covid syndrome.

namely there seems to be an assumption that if you get long covid, it's because you are an able bodied person who just "wasn't careful enough" and "went back to normal" and "hates disabled people." lots of posts celebrating that the assumed able bodied long covid patient "knows what it's. like now" and "woman who voted for the leopards eating people's faces party now has the leopards eating her face"

i shouldn't have to tell people that i was already immunocompromised or that i caught covid from a family member who went to a party. i shouldn't have to have my own behavior interrogated for like. times i took off my mask to take a sip of water, or times i hugged a friend. for people to determine whether i deserved multisystem inflammatory syndrome, to suffer lifelong multisystem organ and nerve damage, to lose the ability to walk unaided, to lose the career i'd spent years training for, to be 27 and have no idea what my future is going to look like or even how long of a future i have given everything. and you know what? even if a person who believed the CDC when they said that covid was over experienced this? they'd still deserve access to medical care and disability supports.

Watching doctor who will give you first and second hand embarrassment but it will also cure your apathy and it will make you love the world and it will make you want to be a better person and it will inspire you to travel and be curious about the world around you which i think is a tradeoff that I can live with.

they should make it easier

few terms have come to piss me off more than "traumadumping" does like having a sincere conversation with someone about personal issues in your life is not "traumadumping" shut the fuck up

the experience of animal in your house never gets old. fuck yes dude there's an animal in here. did you guys know about the animal

the thing about rhode island is that the locals are so absolutely out of their minds that these slogans from two well known and culturally significant restaurants dont register as something aliens would come up with

got my new boyfriend from Ikea. Unfortunately he's made of particle board and with a single thrust of my hips I broke him into five pieces

Are any of y’all making mistakes too or is it just me

hello i've decided i am going to post on tumblr again

one of my favourite things about autism is that we have such high rates of transness and especially nonbinarity not because of some genetic whatever but simply because we look at society’s gender rules and go “that’s stupid”