many thoughts about shams being able to sympathize with her mother but still being angry at her father (and having this one part of her that isn't able to forgive him) despite the fact that she is much closer to her father

Saying that non-conforming female characters don't face as much misogyny as their "feminine" counterparts is so funny cause literally the misogyny in their treatment is more overt because they aren't staying "in their place" like men think they should. The disdain for women + misogynistic societal ideals are so much more blatant in male characters interacting with these women. Countless times they are, in essence, told they need to sit down, shut up, and know their place but somehow that translates into them having "masculine privilege". I can only assume that people with this take haven't actually read the books and only get their information from second-hand sources.

mmm essay about sally and kid gort in the tags (cw for child abuse, mentions of suicide, animal cruelty and a murder attempt. i always hope i don’t have to say this but just in case: i don’t excuse or condone any of her or gort’s behaviour at all.) this is literally not even touching upon everything i have to say because i hit the fucking tag limit lmao. NOBODY READ IT’S BAD BRAINSTORMING I JUST NEEDED TO GET IT OUT SOMEHOW

"ur repressed" okay well have u even considered that emotions r purposeless and only serve to cause harm to those around u and I have achieved a unique transcendent state beyond them. have u considered that

Miles seeing Spider-Man swinging around pre-bite: wow haha! that guy is sooo cool! i wish i was as great as him 😊

Miles a year and a half post-bite seeing Peter: maybe if i pee myself during this fight he’ll think i’m too pathetic to kill?

I went into the boys tag for the first time (a big mistake lmfaooo) and I just have to say that white people fall for propaganda so easily especially when wrapped in a thin veil of that same whiteness that they value more than anything else in the world, even when a series like the boys is sort of an obvious social commentary on that kinda stuff 😭……. They’re calling Homelander their girl…. Their BABYGIRL, nigga, he is a fascist sksjsjaja.

Proshippers be funny af. GoT opening sequence is nothing like hotd so that comparison they pulled up is false and desperate.

me: i want helaegon to be the deconstruction of targaryen incest that examines the psychological horror of a forced marriage to one's own sibling in which the full family is already hanging by a thread in a treacherous situation since there is no other targ couple in the entirety of canon perfectly situated to explore and dissect this horrific aspect of targaryen culture

#them: i want an incestuous love triangle (that is not canon) because incestuous love triangles is interesting writing or something

The funny thing about being diagnosed as autistic as an adult is now you're aware that all those things that are an issue for you aren't universal, and you deserve compassion and accommodation for them. The problem is if you voice that you're feeling overstimulated, close to a melt down, etc. and need to be left alone and given space, people will say you're faking it because you "never did this before diagnosis".

Actually yes, I did. I just didn't know what it was and thought everyone had to deal with the same shit, so I sucked it up until I exploded. I'm trying to avoid the exploding part now, and that requires addressing the problem.

Now I'm curious about something 🤔 Reblog this and put in the tags or comments what ideas or concepts did you scrap for your OC's lore/backstory.

I know an OC's background isn't always going to be consistent or concrete and that's fine! But do you ever have ideas that you either A) didn't have time to work on, B) found too complex to incorporate into their lore, or C) feel like it just didn't fit in based on the standards of whatever universe (canon or original) your OC is in? Or perhaps a secret fourth option, I dunno!

Get yourself some soup and blankets girl!

a) any soap thats got a thick consistency actually hates me personally and b) i have another fever lmfaooooo

aaaaaaand it's starting. mom's bestie just texted me asking to come over this weekend cause it's Bad and it's probably the last chance to talk and maybe say goodbye to my mom's husband and i need to take care of her. god. i wont get through this weekend unless im high or drunk istg.

Kim Kardashian is not, never was, and never will be a victim.

If you're going to be a mother act like a fucking mother

Your child does not owe you for taking care of them. That is LITERALLY your fucking job, you chose to have them, they didn't ask to be born

If they need your support you support them

They're your child! "I don't care" Well congrats on being the biggest piece of shit! Color me not even remotely surprised

do u ever see a character drawn with the same hair length as you and suddenly very painfully remember why you hate it so much

Empathy is a Faith vs Good Works Argument of Psychology

So what I think is going on with Empathy Discourse is this...

Everyone is working with a different definition of empathy and in some cases even redefining what empathy means, and nobody wants to be accused of lacking empathy. 

But what I think is going on is this, affective vs cognitive empathy are essentially talking past each other.

The thing is - what some people who describe themselves as empaths mean by “empathy” is NOT “acting with empathy.” It is not what some clinicians mean when they refer to autists as lacking empathy. It is not what you refer to as “empathy” when you feel you are being ill-treated by a person who is said to lack empathy. 

What some people who describe themselves as empaths, mean by empathy, is having strong somatic reactions to other people’s emotions, or the “mood” of a room, possibly to the point of being overwhelmed by them. This isn’t just common with some autists, it seems common with people who have abuse histories or other trauma based hypervigilance, who had to learn to react and dive for cover at the slightest shift in other people’s feelings, before shit went bad. It can be about learning to recognize the slightest shift in mood around you so that you can take cover.

This has nothing to do with looking out after other people’s feelings; it’s about protecting yourself. And it can be a necessary survival skill if your primary caregivers are erratic or abusive.

The thing is - this set of feelings doesn’t mean that a person is acting with empathy, or possessing any kind of empathy that would be recognizable to the other person. It’s sometimes an expression of frustration on the part of people who are accused of feeling nothing in reaction to something, when in fact they feel deeply.

You can completely, absolutely be an “empath” and yet lack anything anyone would recognize as empathy from the outside, because you don’t act or speak with empathy when interacting with other people. I know some grade-A assholes who claim to be empaths. 

Also, you can never feel anyone else’s feelings even once, while being very conscious that you need to work at not being a dick.