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najatheangel · 3 years

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Hello! I saw some of the ships youre doing, and thought they were fantastic. I was wondering if I could request a date with BTS ship? I'm quiet until I get to know someone, but then I open up, and can be very funny and sarcastic. Im usually the mom friend, and I've been told I have a very calming presence, as well as give great advice, but I also love to joke around, and be playful. My ideal type is usually someone good at communication, but who knows when to let loose, and when to be serious. Someone I can have a conversation with, but also tease. I also need someone who I can trust, and can help me calm down, as I have an anxiety disorder. I'm sorry this is getting so long, I tend to ramble. I'm very cuddly, and like affection but understand when people don't. Ideally for a date, id honestly be fine with anything, but I love being outside, or watching movies, or listening to music. Id honestly just want something where we could have fun, but can still talk and get to know each other. If possible could it end with some slight smut/ fluff? I hope you're having an absolutely amazing day, and are doing well!

Hello my dear, thanks so much for telling me about yourself, I think I know exactly who I’m going to ship you you with. Your so patient, here’s your ship...

The member your going on a date with is...Taehyung

His outfit for the date:

Your outfit for the date:

How it all started: You’ve just bought your record player for you and your roommate to share for her 21st birthday and you were on a trip to buy some new songs to play on the record player. Your roommate was out with her boyfriend as usual which really annoys you sometimes when she has him over 3x a day having their boom boom sessions in her room every night.

You just needed a break and you preferred to spend some quality time alone shopping or walking around the beautiful city of Hong Kong admiring the scenery. Another part of you wanted to meet a special someone sometime soon. After finishing school, moving to a different country and have a small friend circle, but one thing was missing, a love interest to keep you company.

You’ve entered the local record store that was five minutes away from your apartment and the smile on your face creeped immediately when you saw that they still had your favorite artist records still in stock. You’ve ended up noticing one of your neighbors that have recently moved in walking around the store tapping his feet along the music in the store, which made you pause and stare at him with heart eyes. The neighbor’s name, you guessed it...Kim Taehyung.

He first moved in next door with his 6 other roommates to focus on his music career in South Korea with his band Bts. Your crush on him didn’t blossom until your roommate invited him over one time (since she’s dating Jeon Jungkook) to pick up her boyfriend since he was too drunk off his ass to leave. He noticed you and smiled while carrying his tired friend next door saying “I’m so sorry about him. He partied a little too hard huh?” Ever since he noticed you that day, you both would only exchange smiles and “hello” and “good nights” to each other.

After keeping your head in the clouds daydreaming about that memory, you’ve snapped out of it immediately once you noticed his hand touching yours holding the same record you were going to purchase.

Y/N: Oh my god, I’m sorry about that, you can have it. Smiles blushing handing the record to him.

Taehyung: smirks. Oh that’s alright, I was just looking anyway. I didn’t know you listen to Labrinth? His new album was amazing wasn’t it? Looks at you speechless and then looks to the side coughing. Well it was nice bumping into you here, see you around y/n...

“He’s so gorgeous, it’s now or never girl”. Those were your friends words whispering in your head. You were nervous shaking in your boots, but you knew it was time to make moves. All of a sudden your body moved on it’s own holding on to the sleeve of his jacket and he turned around immediately with wide eyes.

Taehyung: What’s wrong y/n? You can have the cd if you want, I know how much you love him..

Y/N: No no, that’s alright. Actually clears throat. I was wondering if you wanted to share that cd with me at my place and we can listen to it together?

Taehyung: Oh, actually that sounds like fun. While we’re at it, let’s eat something before we head there. Offers you to link your arm with him. Oh and don’t worry about buying that, my treat.

Y/N: Giggles linking arms with him walking towards the register. Wow if I knew this was this easy, I would’ve done this a long time ago.

The date spots: Street Food Market/Apartment

Street Food Market: After a long day of browsing in the music store, what a way to start the night with walking around trying new foods at the street food market.

Taehyung was holding your hand like it felt natural. You weren’t the best with crowds so he allowed you to cling close to him as much as possible. He preferred it that way, because little did you know, he formed a little crush on you too.

For the main course you guys taste tested different Korean BBQ and tebokki from different food stands. A lot of people were giving packs of meat out for free, because ya know He’s V from Bts.

Market Lady 1: Here my dear just take it. I appreciate all the music you’ve made it changed my life.

Market Lady Husband: Share with the special lady too, she deserves it. Here’s some veggie wraps too and cook a good meal together.

You and Taehyung look at each other flustered, but you just decided to take their offer and take some free food home.

You guys even shared some donuts together couple feeding each other. A lot of people around the market admired you two together and were hyping you up in the background.

Y/N: Taehyung, say ahh. Attempts to feed him, but teases him by biting it. Mmmm.

Taehyung: Ohh so it’s like that. Crossing his arms fake pouting. Tears the big piece of the other end of the donut eating the whole thing with cheeks stuffed. Laughs uncontrollably.

After chasing him for almost an hour around the street for that donut, you both decide to do your shopping at one more store to get matching glasses. You decide to take some mirror couple like pictures with Tae on to send to your roommate messing around.

First few pictures were cute and friendly, but the last few got flirty really fast. You and Taehyung started looking at each other completely forgetting what’s around you and starts leaning in sharing a short, but sweet kiss.

Y/N: I can’t believe you kissed me! Holding your cheeks together looking at the mirror, but Taehyung of all a sudden turns you around to face him with a serious look on your face.

Taehyung: I have to tell you something, but it has to be back at the dorm. Starts winking at you and walks out the store holding your hand all cool.

Your Apartment: Taehyung on way home has been quiet, but very cuddly against you. You didn’t exactly know what to say either after he left you speechless in the store.

You unlocked the door and immediately set down your bags putting the food in the fridge and playing the new Labrinth album on the record player.

He was leaning on the couch looking at you just in awe as you do your little dance dance to the music. He licks his lips as the tension gets thicker.

Y/N: Didn’t you have something to tell me? Your getting a little off track... Sits next to him on the couch putting your hand on his thigh.

Taehyung: chuckles Oh yeah that’s right. Instead of telling you, why don’t I just show you.

He stands up all of a sudden switching the cd on the record player to a song that he has been working on and playing it off the record player singing it to you.

He lifts your body off the couch slow dancing with you as the song almost ends. The last lyrics hit you and you start shedding tears.

You learned that all along Taehyung has had a crush on you too and have been waiting for the right moment to spend time with you. His says last words before you give him your answer.

Taehyung: Y/N, will you be my girlfriend?

Y/N: Stands on your tippy toes kissing him romantically. Yes yes 1000x yes.

The kisses slowly turn from soft to sexy real fast. He pushes you against the wall in your room sliding his hands under your shirt.

Y/N: W-wait. Let’s close the door just in case.

Taehyung: continues multitasking by kissing you and kickstart the door closed by blocking out all the noises.

Aftermath: As expected you and Taehyung tied the knot last night and he ended up laying next to you holding you on his arms. All of a sudden you hear a knock at the door and two voices of your roommate and Jungkook saying...

Roomate Jamie: Heyy y/n it’s time to get up, it’s Saturday let’s go out to eat.

She knocked two times, three times, but still no answer.

Jungkook: Jamie let’s just open the door and wake her up.

Jamie opens the door and slides the cover off your body and has the most shock look on her face when she sees Taehyung playing with your hair.

Jamie: When in the hell did this happen? Baby come in here and look at these two.

After hours of explaining how you and Taehyung ended up together, both Jamie and Jungkook screams “Finallyyy” and giggles looking at the both of you so proud.

Jungkook: So now that you both finally made it official, why don’t we start our double date today? Pats Taehyung’s back.

Taehyung: Only if my sweetheart is okay with it. Looks at you holding your hand caressing it.

Everyone looks at you anc you nod smiling. Your friends squeal all excited and hugs each other.

Jamie: Ummm, and put some clothes on you freaky little lambs. Sticks her tongue out at you.

You throw the pillow at her as she walks out the room with Jungkook leaning her head on his shoulder.

Taehyung looks at you lovingly smiling like a precious angel. All of a sudden he tickles you and gives you one last soft kiss on the lips.

Taehyung: We seriously gotta get up, they’ll get made if we’re late. Let’s take a shower together to make this faster. Wiggled his eyebrows jokingly and you hit his chest laughing.

Y/N: Fine, but you better not try to pull anything while we’re in there. Five minutes...

You both get up chasing each other in your room as he grabs your clothes and you both played with each other until it was time to go.

@kim-jias-den Thanks so much for requesting my dear. I think I’m going to go rest my hands now lol, but I hope you enjoyed this ship. ✨✨💖💖

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lala-baby · 4 years

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just to keep track of this

verbal

insulting things she knew I liked or was insecure about as a “joke”, especially my body

constantly insulting my intelligence and saying that she’s never met anyone as stupid as me, including saying that nobody else did things I did (e.g choking on spit occasionally)

speaking to me in a demeaning way (“go be a good little bitch and do X” “you can give me £xx for that since you’re using it” “know your place, bitch”)

Angrily criticizing me for things that weren’t my fault (and in a lot of cases were actually her fault)

telling me she doesn’t want control of me despite her actions completely contradicting that

calling me a nympho if i showed any kind of sexual interest, and occasionally telling other people that i was to try to embarrass me (like veda/stacey)

yelling at me for petty things like if I got water on the worktop after washing up

calling me a man or saying I was manly to me/others, or referring to me as a troll or a hog

saying i was too sensitive if i said i didnt like her shouting at me/calling me names etc and she was just being “brutally honest” because i wouldnt listen to her otherwise

calling me a narcissist

calling me arrogant if i didnt listen/disagreed with her

saying i had selective hearing when i genuinely didnt hear her say something (she may not even have said it and just been fucking with me)

bringing up ancient grievances at every opportunity (e.g when i gently tried to suggest that she might be a hypochondriac because its not normal to constantly want to go to the hospital)

making threats about hitting me if i did something she didnt like

shouting at me for crying if she’d upset me

deliberately saying nonsensical shit to win arguments since it cant be argued with (word salad)

having to win at absolutely everything and generally being adversarial

telling me that i can do things/that she wont stop me but then getting jealous and angry making it too difficult to continue

calling me arrogant and saying i was deliberately ignoring her if i didnt hear her because i was concentrating on something on my phone, usually followed by threatening to smash it

Telling me I was a cunt

Being deliberately transphobic to try and upset me

Saying my haircut made me look like I had downes syndrome

physical

hitting me for fun and then telling me it didn’t hurt and I was a pussy, even if bruises formed afterwards and were pointed out to her (she just continued to deny doing it or laughed at me)

holding me down and forcing medication into my mouth, giving me a panic attack so severe she thought i was having an anaphalactic reaction and called 999

Forcing me to drink herbal cough medicine that tasted vile because she said it was the only one that worked for me, even when I didn't really have a cough

using her security training to restrain me for no good reason other than to demonstrate her strength, while telling me I was weak

not allowing me to, or making it too difficult for me to make my own food choices leading to me putting on a huge amount of weight

controlling my medication/using it as an excuse to gaslight me (“these meds are making you act like a cunt, im taking you to get them changed” if I said no or disagreed with her, dictating when i took them/what dose i took, telling me certain medications wouldnt work for me because they didnt work for her and that the prescriber didnt know what they were talking about)

picking her stank-ass belly button and holding me down and forcing her fingers up my nose (what the fuck)

biting me hard enough to leave marks

controlling when i was allowed to sleep and getting angry and calling me lazy if i was tired, but also often waking me up throughout the night insisting that i was snoring and had to turn over /go sleep on the couch

forcing me to sleep under a duvet even though i sleep badly with them and making a big fuss if i refused

“jokingly” burning me with a lighter (though not inflicting actual burns)

Sitting on me to the point of restricting my airways

Pulling my hair

sexual

holding me down and sucking/biting my neck painfully hard even when I was yelling at her to get off of me and had warned her beforehand not to do that because i hated it and it hurt me (and insisting that it wasn’t hurting me, then mocking me/being angry afterwards)

deliberately giving me love bites against my will in places i couldn’t hide them, especially if i was due to see my family to try to embarrass me

telling me that it was my own fault for not being relaxed enough if I wanted to stop penetration because it was hurting and continuing despite my discomfort; getting angry/frustrated if I continued to say no/still didnt enjoy it to the point where i had to wait until I couldn't take it any more to get her to stop

saying that the reason I couldn’t orgasm from sex with her was because I masturbated too much and “banning” me from it for months at a time, then accusing me of not following orders and lying to her if i still couldnt orgasm

putting me on a “sex ban” if I didn’t do what she wanted in day to day life

saying inappropriate things to others, including my parents, alluding to our sex life

having inappropriate conversations about my body with the elderly man we were caring for in front of me, despite knowing that he had sexually assaulted me in the past

angrily insisting that she knew what she was doing and I didn’t have to tell her if I tried to communicate about how things felt

insisting that she had brought me to orgasm when she hadn’t, and that she knew because she could “taste the difference” and I must just not have felt it because my body didn’t work right, to the point that I believed her and thought there was just something wrong with me

insisting that “all /none of the other girls I’ve been with were like that” to try and guilt me about things I had no control over (genital appearance etc)

financial

making me spend the weekends (friday to monday) with her but complaining that I used all her electric/water/etc. when challenged about how much it was actually costing she said i didn’t know anything about how much things cost because “mummy and daddy had always paid everything for me”, and wouldn’t stop being nasty/aggressive until I gave in

making me buy her food shopping with my savings /using my savings as a free resource to be dipped in to at any time when she had spent her own money

making me buy her things or contribute towards buying things for her flat (hundreds regularly) through guilt /empty promises of repayment/getting me stuff when i moved out

telling me that I only give a shit about money and that I’m obsessed with it if I tried to say no to any financial demands

pressuring me to pay for holidays for us on the understanding that she would provide the spending money, but using her benefits payment instead of saving up for it so I ended up having to give her more money after the holiday so she could still eat/pay bills

not bothering to pay her bills/debts, knowing that it would worry me and that i would end up paying them off for her

buying me presents I didn’t want or need as a way to control me (either through guilt or just buying me things like tracksuits that she knew i didnt want to wear but would feel obligated to because she wanted to control how i dressed), but then getting the money off of me for them to pay for her bills etc as she had run out

becoming angry if I tried to donate anything she had bought for me, including things like children’s toys that she insisted I needed for my “autism”

pressuring me to buy ostentatious gifts (e.g nintendo switch, televisions) for her niece and nephew, usually in the range of hundred of pounds, and then taking credit for it as if she had spent her own money (her justification for this was that she had already spent all of her own money on presents /food /etc for me)

refusing to save/claiming she couldnt save and was “happy as long as she had a fiver in her pocket” because money didnt matter to her, to the point that she had no savings and my family and i had to help her buy furniture etc for her flat

psychological/emotional

being nasty about aspects of my appearance until I gave in and changed it (e.g piercings, hair)

pretending that she had no control over her temper, to the point that she claimed to have “blackouts” of rage where she would come round having seriously injured someone but have no memory of it

telling me it was creepy that I kept my pets ashes and threatening to get rid of them/saying i wasnt bringing them with me when i moved in with her

accusing me off loving my pets more than I loved her, despite causing me to be unable to bond with them properly due to the constant stress I was under

telling other people embarrassing /personal things about me that she found funny, usually in front of me, to try and embarrass me

smugly telling me “I know you better than you know yourself” at every opportunity and generally eroding my sense of self

belittling my likes /interests and replacing them with what she wanted me to like /be interested in - everything from clothes to food to shower gel to music to who I was friends with

trying to convince me to use sperm donated from a fucking facebook page like some kind of insane person

planning to use me to have a child and then send me off to work so she could stay at home on her arse for the rest of her life but framing it as “you can go have a career and ill take care of the baby :)”

accusing me of cheating on her constantly with anyone she perceived as a threat to my obedience (e.g regan, sophie), despite her being the one constantly texting her exes (which i never had a problem with because i trusted her for some goddamn reason)

not allowing me to make friends with anyone she didn’t like and lying to me about them/their motivations to turn me off of them (she claimed to be a good judge of character) - again, regan and sophie

lying constantly in general but making it so that disagreeing with her or calling bullshit would make my life hell and it would get brought up weeks or months down the line

constantly telling me my breath stank (nobody else has ever said that and my dentist literally said my teeth are perfect last time i went), claiming it was because i only drank water and that wouldnt hydrate me (????) and constantly forcing me to drink tea or lucozade (neither of which i would drink given the choice) in large quantities

constantly talking about her work history and forensic history with a sense of pride(assault with intent, gbh, abh, criminal damage, etc etc) and about how badly she’d hurt people in the past, I think to leave me in no doubt as to her capabilities

warping my perception of reality by aggressively denying that things had/hadn’t happened, to the point that I didn’t know what was real and became dependent on her to tell me

using love as a means of control (“you’re meant to love me, I’m your girlfriend” if I tried to assert boundaries/did anything she perceived as insubordinate etc)

bagging up any belongings (except the stuff she wanted to keep for herself) I had at her flat and saying we were over and to come get my shit if I wasn’t obeying her enough

getting suspicious/irritated if I tried to take a bath or use the toilet with the door closed

constantly accusing me of hiding things from her

forcing me to strip naked to allow her to check my body for evidence of self harm

making me use her dirty bath water if I needed one, to “save water” (despite already taking money from me for the water bill)

trying to make me suspicious of the mental health professionals in charge of my care and make them seem untrustworthy or that their opinion was worthless (e.g saying they were wrong about my Dx, therapy won’t work for me, “you don’t have to do every little thing your care coordinator tell you to do it’s just SUGGESTIONS, they’re just trying to control you” etc)

insisting on coming to all my appointments with me so i didnt get to speak to anyone on my own

trying to control my family relationships, e.g making me phone my parents but ensuring that she was there to witness whatever was said, to the point that my family were afraid to voice their concerns about the relationship in case i cut contact with them

constantly posting cringey “romantic” bullshit on Facebook, including buying flowers etc for the sole purpose of showing off what a great girlfriend she was, and becoming angry if I didn’t respond in exactly the right way (not enough kisses etc) for “making her look a cunt ”

getting her niece and nephew to call me auntie lauren and constantly referring to me as her wife from only a few months into the relationship so that i would feel more committed than i was and less able to leave

blaming me and getting angry if the flowers she bought me died too early

getting angry if I didn’t sleep with the multitude of teddies she’d brought me/have them on display at all times and angrily demanding to know why she had wasted her money

constantly telling me that I was doing the things she had to me to do like an idiot, e. g hanging up washing, and taking it down and redoing it in a way that was not discernibly different

always threatening to break up with me if I didn’t toe the line, saying there was no point in us being together and that she didnt need me and wouldnt miss me, and that shed finally have less stress and a tidy flat

saying i was hard work and belittling my intelligence if i asked her how she wanted me to do one of the really specific chores she would make me do

badly neglecting her fish by not performing water changes or removing dead fish to the point that they would literally all die before going out and getting a load more, but not letting me care for them instead despite me pleading her and buying things to make it easier for her to do (e.g an expensive water testing kit that would have lasted her years); getting angry at me if i went behind her back to try to care for them by waking up early to do a water change etc and accusing me of being a smartarse for thinking i knew more about fish than she did when i literally studied animal management at college and actually did know more than her

using me like a slave to clean up her flat/do her washing up/take her mountains of rubbish out by angrily telling me that I had made the mess the previous weekend so she had left it waiting for me (this eventually lead to her having nearly 30 bags of months old rain soaked waste on her balcony one winter that she made me take down myself because “the rubbish is YOUR job and it’s your rubbish too, Ive only ever asked you to do one thing for me and you’re so lazy you won’t even do that blah blah blah”)

telling me to do important things “later” in a way that was framed as her being nice but was actually just more convenient for her /she knew would result in the thing not getting done because she didnt want me doing it

repeatedly breaking my toilet in Nelson House by insisting on flushing her tampons down sand saying that thats what you’re supposed to do, to the point that the toilet was eventually removed, then telling everyone I broke it by having a big shit. as sharing toilets was a mental health difficulty for me I had to suffer for months before being able to move rooms because of this

washing one of my outfits in with her own washing, acting all nice and then later saying that because she had done that for me I had to do a mountain of housework for her

making me go to a&e with her constantly (multiple times a week sometimes) and getting very angry at me if I tried to point out that she didn’t need to go; expecting me to go along with whatever lies she told people about what happened (e.g saying her blood pressure was extremely high and dangerous when it had come back completely normal)

forcing me to spend the weekends at her flat whether I wanted to or not, to the extent that my housing benefit and tenancy at nelson house was put at risk

alternately praising and demeaning my support worker depending on what she had advised me about our relationship (she was leas friend/flying monkey and would switch between saying lea was abusing me and that she was good for me)

making false accusations to the police and sanctuary about me “watching videos of babies being raped” on the darkweb in an attempt to get me to kill myself because i was starting to break away from her control

breaking up with me because i sent someone she didnt like a text after being banned from talking to her all weekend

banning me from talking to people and constantly checking to see if i was or not

taking an “overdose” (it was 25mg of diazepam lol) to try and get me to go crawling back to her

saying that I snored and forcing me to use all kinds of expensive and extremely uncomfortable anti snoring medication /devices, and then usually waking me up in the middle of the night and kicking me out anyway (but getting offended if i suggested sleeping separately from the start)

acting indifferent to my presence and alternating between saying she loved me and that she didn’t need me and wouldn’t miss me if i was gone

forcing me to disclose traumatic things even if I said i wasn’t comfortable speaking to her about it (guilt trips), and then using those things against me/miraculously having the same thing happen to her but ten times worse

gossiping about me with one of my support workers and using that support workers opinion to give legitimacy to her attempts to control my decisions

making me sleep next to the open bedroom door (in her usual spot) when i was unwell despite knowing it terrified me

blaming my behavior on diagnosis she had given me herself (“it’s your autism/bipolar” etc) and insisting i didnt have bpd because “thats just what they diagnose you with when they dont know what to do with you”

making me give her massages/wash her hair and body/squeeze her back spots/shave her legs /cut her toenails for her more or less every night and getting aggressive/sulking if i didnt want to

blaming physical ailments (that she demonstrably didn’t have and who’s severity /presentation changed on a very convenient basis) as an excuse to make me do things for her

putting me under huge amounts of pressure to perform “correctly” for her at all times or be harshly berated, ultimately driving me to attempt suicide several times because there was no escape from her nastiness

telling me that her family didn’t like me /disapproved of our relationship if she couldn’t get her own way and saying they wanted her to leave me because I was x y or z

Repeatedly telling a story about her dad (who has a violent history and had been in prison for attempted murder) threatening to burn down an ex girlfriends workplace and finding it hilarious that her ex was too scared to go to work for weeks

dismissing my concerns about anything as not a big deal or getting angry about me bringing them up, even serious things (e.g a sexual assault)

deliberately provoking me when I had told her to stop because my mental health was bad and i didnt feel able to control my reactions, because she enjoyed the drama /going to the hospital /getting attention from playing the long suffering loyal girlfriend role

only ever treating me with kindness if I had made a suicide attempt/done something dangerous to myself, and then using that against me later (”you put me through hell and im still always there for you so why cant you x y or z”)

blaming her being “in crisis” on me/my poor mental health (and not even being in crisis to begin with)

never saying sorry for hurting me, ever, even when proven “wrong” about something in front of impartial third party who insisted she should apologize for it

getting angry at me for googling any of the ridiculous things she said if I wasn’t sure it was accurate

making me go to a&e/doctors /mental health team when I didn’t want or need to be there because she enjoyed the attention she received as my partner

being angry at me for bring “constantly” on my phone and accusing me of texting other people instead of paying attention to her/whatever was on tv

getting angry if I didn’t want to watch whatever she was watching on tv (she would still be watching it but would get angry if I didn’t pay enough attention)

constantly trying to one-up me with her mental health/dismiss my concerns about how i was feeling and calling me self-centered because she had everything so much worse but was still “getting on with it”

demanding that i always answer the phone to her, and calling multiple times a day to keep tabs on me, usually keeping me talking for 2-3 hours daily whenever i wasnt staying at hers. it got to the point that it was pointless for me to try to do anything because i would start and then she would interrupt. if i didnt answer she would continually call the office claiming to be worried about me

trying to stop me from drinking, going to the extent of telling my parents she thought i had a drinking problem (i objectively didnt) because she didnt want me to spend time with a housemate she was jealous of because we actually had fun

expecting me to drop everything even when I was unwell to help care for an elderly man (who at one point sexually assaulted me), including regularly cleaning up urine/feces from the walls/floor because she didnt want to do that part, despite me saying that we werent trained and didnt have the correct ppe, and if we kept going above and beyond for him social services werent going to put a proper care plan in place for him. includes countless hours at hospital etc

buying me a shirt with a a swear word printed prominently on it and getting angry when I said it would be inappropriate to wear to a care home in case they kicked me out, and forcing me to do it anyway because she wanted brian (old man) to see it

lying about the value of gifts she’d brought me as a means of control/guilt (e.g earrings that she’d told me were £60, getting angry when i accidentally damaged one but when i went to get one fixed the guy said they weren’t worth more than £10 and would cost more to repair than replace)

insisting she couldn’t wait to rehome our cats (and taking the money for them despite the fact that i paid for them and their stuff) and giving them to a stranger despite knowing it would be a matter of weeks before i would be in a position to take them myself, because she couldn’t be bothered to look after them

deciding that we were getting guinea pigs (i wanted something else) and saying that caring for them would be split equally with one belonging to her and one to me, and that she would take them with her when she moved out, but only ever cleaning them once and then leaving me to care for them exclusively

complaining and calling me needy whenever i tried to show any kind of affection

accusing me of not trusting her when i did implicitly like an idiot

blaming all the problems in the relationship on me and whenever i brought up something that was upsetting me telling me that i did it to her too but worse

taking credit for me “getting gobby”/becoming less introverted and saying she was a good influence on me, despite having nothing to do with it (and that not being true, I was just settling in to the house)

having to sit in darkness because she wouldn’t let me open the blinds because she said having them open would damage her tv

if i was ever angry/irritated saying i was “hangry” and taking the piss, encouraging me to comfort eat and then acting smug when it calmed me down

saying that she hopes my friend dies and that she deserves to die when she was in a coma

trying to turn a mutual friend against me after she broke up with me, to the point that the friend refused to repeat what she'd said but told me she was dangerous and to stay away from her

expecting me to drop everything and make her cups of tea whenever she wanted, and making me remake them if they weren’t perfect /getting angry if I said i was busy

particularly saying i had to remake tea because it tasted like soap because i hadnt washed her cup up properly (she would use the same mugs continually until they were absolutely filthy and then leave me to wash them when i was there), often after I definitely had washed them properly but she just wanted to keep me in my place

playing on my fears (of guilt, abandonment etc)

convincing me to change my mind about what i wanted through compliments etc (e.g saying i looked much better wearing whatever she wanted me to wear)

expecting me to know what she wanted at all times without being asked and generally to be able to read her mind, and getting angry and claiming that i should know what she wanted because i was her girlfriend and that she always knew what i wanted and did everything for me blah blah blah

getting angry when i suggested couples therapy and saying it would be pointless because i would just blame everything on her

accusing me of “thundering around” and having heavy footsteps when i was just walking normally so I got so paranoid i had to tiptoe everywhere

refusing to clean up to the point that she got cockroaches, then refusing to acknowledge that it was because she kept leaving dirty dishes etc out and blaming it on her neighbours or on me, and then refusing to do anything about it so i had to pay for the poison and put it out repeatedly etc and make sure I cleaned up after her every time I came over so they wouldn't keep coming back

getting extremely frustrated when trying to accomplish simple tasks (usually diy related) but getting really angry and me when i offered help and accusing me of thinking she was an idiot (she was being an idiot a lot of the time, not reading instructions/using powertools in dangerous ways etc). it was scary and she would sometimes break things that i had bought out of frustration if she couldnt get them to work right (the cat cage & ball track toy for example)

refusing to prepare at all for when she moved out of nelson house so i had to do it, and then refusing to unpack her stuff at the other end in the hope that i would do that too

refusing to let me report an incidence of child abuse that happened in a neighbouring flat to hers because she was friends with the father and said the child deserved it

refusing to let me take the bus at times (she did pay for taxis for me but given the amount of money she took from me i might as well have been paying for them) even when i wanted to and acting like by not giving me a choice she was doing me a favour. in retrospect i think she wanted to know that i was going straight home

always asking me where i was, who i was with and sometimes accusing me of lying about it, either way trying to make my life hell

trying to encourage me to stay on my own and ignore my housemates but phrasing it in a cutesy way (just make a cup of tea and shut your door and have a nice night to yourself without any drama) so it sounded less like she was trying to be controlling

ringing me every night to confirm that i was in bed when i said i would be and making me video call her if she didnt believe me

telling me gossip about mutual friends that wasnt even true because she loved the drama (e.g saying venetias children had died because they had been born deformed)

constantly slagging off her exes and telling fantastical stories about how they broke up/stalked her/abandoned her/abused her and about the triumphant ways she got back at them

generally always telling incredibly unbelievable stories that made her look either “good” (e.g “taking down a squaddie in front of his mates”, sleeping with a nurse while both on duty) or made her out to be the illest (claiming to have had a psychotic break, coughing up a kidney stone)

virtue signalling with brian while also being controlling towards him/explaining things to him in a way that he would do what she wanted/saying “oh he won’t mind, he’d tell us to do it if he were here” when she used his card to buy us lunch etc (yeah he probably would have but that isnt the point)

getting angry if i ever discussed our relationship with anyone else, saying it was none of their business/i was trying to make her look like a cunt; telling me not to tell anyone after she did horrible things

promising things about the future and then never delivering any of it

saying that she wouldnt be the one carrying our children, trying to tell me that getting sperm from facebook was safe and generally treating me like a walking uterus

ending lies/false promises with “you know i will/do/am” to try and enforce to me that she was telling the truth

telling me to cancel holidays id paid for/not come over/generally throwing her toys out of the pram when she couldnt get her own way

forcing me to watch murder documentaries, usually about women being murdered by their partners, and getting way too in to it in a way that was a bit creepy

telling me my menstrual cup was disgusting and trying to force me to use tampons instead

making a big fuss about how she used to ~be an alcoholic~ and that she cant drink because it makes her a nasty person, and then buying a load of beer and vodka when the relationship wasnt going well and saying shed fallen off of the wagon because of me

constantly telling me i had BO to the point i was really paranoid (nobody else has ever said anything about it)

bullying me into letting her smoke in my room

throwing her rubbish on to my floor constantly because she was too lazy to pick it up, so i had to

constantly talking about how against domestic violence she was, saying she'd never hit a woman and how she had been a victim of it to make me think what she was doing wasnt abuse

doing small things for me that I found difficult because of my mental health (e. g phone calls) and then holding it over my head

telling me that i was incapable of love, and that the only person i loved was myself because of how selfish i am

deliberately killing two bees that I was enjoying watching by stomping them into the pavement then laughing at me when I was upset about it

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1: 6 of the songs you listen to most?XO - John Mayer Cabaret - Justin Timberlake Lights On - Shawn Mendes Bad Habit - The KooksHow Would You Feel - Ed Sheeran You’re Gonna Llive Forever in Me - John Mayer

2: If you could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?literally John Mayer so I can ask him why the FUCK he played XO in Chicago and why that was only the 10th time ever and first and only time of TSFE tour he played it

3: Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 23, give me line 17.“Mom’s stumped us. We had absolutely no idea who she’d dredge” (I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson)

4: What do you think about most?how terrible life is and then how much i wanna die tbh

5: What does your latest text message from someone else say?“Jena should i get dropped off at your house then we can go get joe & julie?” IOWA TOMORROW FOR ED :DDDD

6: Do you sleep with or without clothes on?always w shirt but no pants lol

7: What’s your strangest talent?hating life as much as i do idk i have no talent

8: Girls… (finish the sentence); Boys… (finish the sentence)girls r hot n nice boys r hot n mean

9: Ever had a poem or song written about you?yeah bc we were in love lol :(

10: When is the last time you played the air guitar? idk i usually dont

11: Do you have any strange phobias?feet, being alone but also being in large crowds, idk theyre not very weird

12: Ever stuck a foreign object up your nose?no?

13: What’s your religion?idk man none atm prob

14: If you are outside, what are you most likely doing?looking forward to going inside. but working and therefore reading.

15: Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?behind bc i am ugly lol

16: Simple but extremely complex. Favorite band?um probably panic at the disco but then also the killers

17: What was the last lie you told?“its fine” bc no it is not fine i wanna fight

18: Do you believe in karma?ya i think so. maybe

19: What does your URL mean?i like Justin Timberlake and also swearing

20: What is your greatest weakness; your greatest strength?weakness is probably just who i am as a person and strength is idk i dont have any

21: Who is your celebrity crush?lmao. you say this like i have one. i have many. like thousands.

22: Have you ever gone skinny dipping?nope

23: How do you vent your anger?talk to someone usually

24: Do you have a collection of anything?movie/concert/sporting event tickets and also empty gatorade bottles on my floor

25: Do you prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?phone bc im ugly

26: Are you happy with the person you’ve become?eh. better than what i was but could be better

27: What’s a sound you hate; sound you love?hate is my sisters voice lol love is john mayers voice bc he sounds like a fuckin angel

28: What’s your biggest “what if”?what if i was someone else but not really someone else just like what if i was me with a better life or a differnt life in which things didnt always go so terribly for me ya know

29: Do you believe in ghosts? How about aliens?ghosts maybe but aliens def

30: Stick your right arm out; what do you touch first? Do the same with your left arm.right arm some paper hanging off my nightstand and left nothing

31: Smell the air. What do you smell?the faint scent of clean laundry and lotion

32: What’s the worst place you have ever been to?hm.. great question. i feel like ive been to some pretty bad places but i cant recall any???

33: Choose: East Coast or West Coast?ive never been to either but east coast i think

34: Most attractive singer of your opposite gender?justin timberlake bc hes one of the most attractive men in the entire world

35: To you, what is the meaning of life?bein happy, doin what you want, livin

36: Define Art.something someone creates

37: Do you believe in luck?yes i do

38: What’s the weather like right now?humid i think

39: What time is it?9:41 pm

40: Do you drive? If so, have you ever crashed?nope to both

41: What was the last book you read?i recently finished “The Upside of Unrequited” and now im workin on “More Than This”

42: Do you like the smell of gasoline?no i hate it it makes me nauseous

43: Do you have any nicknames?jules

44: What was the last film you saw?o fuck um fist fight maybe?

45: What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?the sunburn i got in florida was terrible bc i couldnt walk for a day so im gonnna say that

46: Have you ever caught a butterfly?no :(

47: Do you have any obsessions right now?brandon saad being a chicago blackhawk again, tommy la stella, john mayer, reading gay books

48: What’s your sexual orientation?bi

49: Ever had a rumour spread about you?uuuuum possibly ??? idk

50: Do you believe in magic?nah but also maybe

51: Do you tend to hold grudges against people who have done you wrong?in my mind yes but most of the times my actions dont reflect that especially if its been a while

52: What is your astrological sign?sagittarius

53: Do you save money or spend it?both. i allow myself to spend it as long as i still have a decent amount saved

54: What’s the last thing you purchased?lunch at panera lol

55: Love or lust?neither bc they both suck when ur alone

56: In a relationship?no lol

57: How many relationships have you had?zero

58: Can you touch your nose with your tongue?nope i am not talented like that

59: Where were you yesterday?yesterday. i think i stayed home all day then me mary and joe hung out and went to get milkshakes at steak n shake

60: Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?the inside of the bra bra sitting waiting to be put away lol

61: Are you wearing socks right now?indeed

62: What’s your favourite animal?sloths my fav

63: What is your secret weapon to get someone to like you?i dont have one bc if i did ppl would like me, tf

64: Where is your best friend?at home id assume

65: Give me your top 5 favourite blogs on Tumblr.whats tumblr

66: What is your heritage?im italian but i was born here and so were my parents

67: What were you doing last night at 12AM?watching an episode of Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia before i showered

68: What do you think is Satan’s last name?satan satan

69: Be honest. Ever gotten yourself off?yeah lmao who hasnt tho

70: Are you the kind of friend you would want to have as a friend?i think so sometimes but other times im the worst person ever idk how i have friends

71: You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late one more time you get fired. What do you do?fuck u boss i love dogs and if u hate dogs that much as to not understand the situation i dont wanna work for a dog hater. asshole.

72: You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. a) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b) What do you do with your remaining days? c) Would you be afraid?a. maybe probably b. everything ive never done but wanted to c. probably

73: You can only have one of these things; trust or love.fuck. um. shit. id say love but then u cant trust the person you love so like… but at the same time i love love so much i feel like id die w/o it n ya know i dont trust anyone anyways so im gonna say love

74: What’s a song that always makes you happy when you hear it?srsly…..Bye Bye Bye by *NSYNC bc i cant be sad listening to that song lolol

75: What are the last four digits in your cell phone number?9077

76: In your opinion, what makes a great relationship?communication n openness

77: How can I win your heart?just be nice to me lol i have low standards

78: Can insanity bring on more creativity?yes i do believe so

79: What is the single best decision you have made in your life so far?buying tickets to see john mayer lol that changed my life so drastically. my life is now pre john mayer and post john mayer. he literally fucking sang xo i will never get over it that will always be the happiest moment of my life im crying while typing this

80: What size shoes do you wear?8 - 9 ½ depending on the shoe

81: What would you want to be written on your tombstone?‘probably died because she said she wanted to die so often that death got sick of hearing it and killed her.“

82: What is your favourite word?fuck

83: Give me the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word; heart.justin timberlake. god im so fucked lol

84: What is a saying you say a lot?'i hate my life’ 'i want to die’ 'u should fight’

85: What’s the last song you listened to?Fools Gold by One Direction lmao

86: Basic question; what’s your favourite colour/colours?turquoise

87: What is your current desktop picture?justin timberlake leaning on a car lookin all hot n shit

88: If you could press a button and make anyone in the world instantaneously explode, who would it be?myself tbh

89: What would be a question you’d be afraid to tell the truth on?uuuum idk it depends whos askin ya know. id answer certain questions if asked by one peson but not another

90: One night you wake up because you heard a noise. You turn on the light to find that you are surrounded by MUMMIES. The mummies aren’t really doing anything, they’re just standing around your bed. What do you do?probably cry and attempt but ultimately fail to go back to sleep

91: You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What is that power?flying or teleportation

92: You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again?when john mayer played XO at my concert obviously

93: You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?losing all the pictures on my computer bc i keep saying im over it but im really not that was the entire past 4 years of my life in pictures and videos and theyre just gone its bullshit

94: You have the opportunity to sleep with the music-celebrity of your choice. Who would it be?oh man. so many. but if i had to choose one justin timberlake. wow bet no one saw that comin

95: You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go?literally fuckin no where im seeing ed sheeran in a matter of hours im not leaving. but if it were a different day lol id say amsterdam or boston

96: Do you have any relatives in jail?not that im aware of

97: Have you ever thrown up in the car?when i was a smol child yea h but not recently

98: Ever been on a plane?when i was a child yes

99: If the whole world were listening to you right now, what would you say?um lol idk probably nothing tbh i dont wanna be held responsible for whatever happens afterwards

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Worth It - Star Trek

BOTE series request- jim kirk x reader pranks!

AN: Part of my “Bored on the Enterprise” series which you can read more of here. Also, I know this is farfetched but this shit makes me happy.

“Bones. In your medical opinion, how unhealthy is the tension on this ship.” Captain Kirk was sitting on the edge of a bed in the medbay, playing with a portable X-Ray, watching his bones wiggle as he moved his fingers under the screen. Doctor McCoy looked up from what he had been working on, or rather had been attempting to work on despite Jim’s pestering.

“I don’t know Jim. Critical.” Jim raised an amused eyebrow at the sarcasm as McCoy continued staring at the console on his desk. The Enterprise had been docked at this refit station for two weeks, and Starfleet expected them to sit here for two more with absolutely nothing to do. Jim dropped the scanner he was playing with on the bed beside him and hoisted himself onto his feet.

“You need to loosen up. So I have your permission to remedy the situation?” Jim patted the Doctors shoulder, who responded by waving a hand, shooing him away.

“Yeah yeah whatever.”

The captain smiled and started to walk out just as McCoy looked up suddenly.

“Wait. Where the hell are you going?” He spun and looked at the door.

“To find my partner in crime.” Jim called, out of sight.

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You sprinted down the hallway and dove around a corner, skidding on your knees to a halt beside the Captain who was already crouched there.

“Did you do it?”

“Barely.” You gasped, out of breath. “And you’ll never believe who was walking in as I was leaving.”

Jim didn’t have time to guess when a shout echoed down the hallway. You both scrambled to peek around the corner.

“WHAT ZE HELL!?” Chekov was walking down the hallway, one hand clutching a towel around his waist. He was staring at the other hand, turning it over and over in front of his face. A few people in the hallway gave him a wide berth as he began to run toward the medbay.

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Ten minutes later it was Jims turn to skid into hiding as he sprinted out of the turbolift and into an access conduit behind you. You both got on your knees to peek out the only vent into the hallway. You watched for a while until your victims walked by. You had to bite your lip to keep from giggling as Jim began tapping your arm in excited anticipation.

Spock and Uhura stepped into the turbolift and the doors slid closed behind them. You gave them a count of three and Jim pressed a button on a remote he had been holding. Behind the door a muffled whoomp sounded followed seconds later by a

“OH. MY. GOD.”

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“You sure you can handle this?” Jim whispered.

“Oh please Captain. I’m the one who taught you the art of pranks.” You slid the vials up your sleeve.

“Yeah but I perfected it.”

“Perfected getting caught. You almost got my ass kicked out of the academy.”

“Come on, the look on the Ambassadors face was worth it.”

“Jim, the Andorians still wont allow either one of us on their planet.”

“Worth it.” Jim grinned and you shook your head.

“Just wait here.” You made sure the vials were secure and winked at Jim before slipping into the mess hall.

Several minutes later shouting began spilling out of the mess hall, Jim peeked in and couldn’t control his laughter this time as he scanned the room.

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Half an hour later, you and Jim were kicked back in his quarters. Nursing a bottle of Andorian Ale (for ironic reasons) and waiting for the communicator on the table to buzz with the inevitable call. Which it did.

“Jim. Medbay. Now.” Was all that came through.

“I bet you another bottle of that stuff that he knocks you out.” You grinned and stood, swaying a little with the ale.

“Nah. Bones has a sense of humor.” Jim took your hand and began pulling you toward the medbay.

“Hey why do I have to go?”

“Because just in case he doesn’t, Im not taking the heat alone.”

You walked into the medbay to quite an image. Where this morning it had been empty, the medbay was filled with a couple dozen people now. Sitting on beds, standing in front of nurses. And in front of it all, Dr McCoy stood with his arms folded, clenched jaw, starting directly at Jim as he walked in.

“What the hell did you two do?” He walked over and dragged you both into a corner.

“Who says we did anything Bones?” Jim folded his arms, copying the Doctors stance.

“Chekov and a dozen other crew members are stained neon yellow after an incident in the showers this morning. Eight people, including Spock and Uhura, are stuck to each other after something went off in the turbolifts they were using. And to top it off I have at least thirteen people with bubbles coming out of every bodily orifice after eating in the mess hall. Every orifice Jim.”

“Please don’t say the word orifice Bones. It makes me uncomfortable.” Jim faked a grimace. Behind him, you couldn’t contain your giggles and sank to the floor wheezing.

“Jim.”

“What. You said you were bored.”

“I said I WAS BUSY. NOT BORED” The Doctors voice rose.

“Busy with what? You needed a distraction.” Jim was fighting back the giggles hard, the Andorian ale in his system was not aiding in this battle.

“So you attacked your crew!? To send them to me?” The doctors hands flew up.

“The yellow will wear off in a day, water will take care of the stuck people, and the bubble people just need to drink some orange juice.” You called from the floor, calming your giggles.

“You have to admit Bones, the crew won’t be bored now they have something to talk about. They’ll forgive me.” Jim cupped his hands to his mouth. “CHEKOV. YOU FORGIVE ME?”

“Aye Sir!” Chekov called back, quite content talking with the very attractive nurse in front of him. Jim raised an eyebrow at McCoy.

“I hate you.” The doctor mumbled and stormed off. Jim reached for your hand and hauled you off the floor.

“You’re not going to live this one down Captain.” You hiccupped.

“Eh. Worth it.”

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military failed me

Training itself wasn't bad. Typical f*ck-f*ck games, rucking everywhere, only having to pee after DS (Drill Sergeant) gave last call. Made it through with very little issues. Honor graduate with meritorious promotion.

AIT was a blast. As a medic we practiced most of ou training on each other. Some things intubating a patient, amputations, IO (huge needle through the sternum). Fake blood and guts everywhere, ruined uniforms, and just fun. No real issues here either. I was totally pumped to get to my first unit. Especially when my orders came down for Germany.

First day to my new unit, I am a 19 y/o single female. it became quite obvious real quick who the other single soldiers were. Being a tomboy/ one of the guys growing up I brushed their advances off. We would get together for barracks movie nights, go bowling, random adventures throughout Europe. Overall a good time. After two weeks of being in my unit, roughly Christmas time, I began to receive text messages from a single guy in my unit. Told him I wasn't interested, and just wanted to be friends. ( Let me note here that not only had I never had a boyfriend at this point, I was also a virgin) The idea of dating wasn't really on my radar. He apparently had other ideas. The text message became more frequent and even some explicit. He had discovered that I was virgin and this made him want me more (I do not understand the appeal of being with someone scared and nervous). I go to our mutual friends and ask them to talk to him, tell him im not interested and to leave me alone. Yet I continued to get messages and unwanted advances. So I take it to my squad leader, lowest form of authority, to see if he will talk to the guy. Squad leader writes up small report as documentation and shows it to the acting section sergeant. This pisses the guy off, however I don't know this yet. He has stopped all communication and I believe he has finally understood. a couple of weeks later I get a text from the guys in the barracks about another movie night. They apologize for the way their friend had been acting and want to get back to being friends and hanging out. No big deal. I ask whose room the movie will be watched in and who will be there. get the standard reply: single soldiers and whatever we find on Netflix. that night I get there and the location has been "changed" to creepy guys room. I'm starting to feel uneasy about this, nobody is there except for him and I. I grab a coke and text the others asking them where they are at. The first message says they will be there in a few minutes, next message says they can't make it. I'm leaving at this point. I tell him if they aren't coming then I'm not staying. That's the last thing I remember......

I wake up to a loud bang. I feel groggy and I don't know where I am. There's a movie on that I did not put on. I try to turn over and creepy guy has his arms around me and a raging boner. I begin to freak out, my sense are all over the place and I can't walk. I'm stumbling out his room, where all the doors are closed and lights are off. I make it back to my bed and I feel gross. Like I want to peel my skin off. I jump into the shower and scrub my body, but I cant get this nasty feeling off. I sit down in the shower and begin to cry. I have no memory and no clue what happened but it doesn't feel right. I look down and see blood. I notice my vagina is sore. even more confused I remember that I had started my period a few days ago but why am I so sore. that's not normal for my period. Sudden exhaustion hits me so I get out of the shower and go to bed. usually I sleep in gym shorts and a t-shirt, but tonight it doesn't feel right. I grab a hoodie and sweatpants, tie the string, pull my bed out form the wall and lay down on the frame between the mattress and the wall. Takes me forever to doze off, but eventually sleep came. the next morning im still very groggy and confused. my memory from the previous night is still spotty and I feel gross. I jump into the shower, but again I can't wash away this feeling. as time to get to formation quickly approaches, I get out, dry off, and head to formation. for the next two-ish weeks my memory begins to come back but its spotty. my roommate is best friends with creepy guy and he comes by every now and then. I get this scared creeped out feeling every time he is in my room. in the past he would walk past me and try to feel me up. this doesn't change. im sitting on an exercise ball reading a book, when he stops by my bed and tries to rub his hands up my inner thigh. I freak out and ask my roommate not to let him back into our room. she gets pissed, tells me im a baby, and ignores my request. (back track a little. this same roommate would come home form the bar at 2am with random dudes and have sex with them in the bed next to mine, and leave the door unlocked. she was also married to a man who was deployed).

as im sitting in my room one night, the realization hits me. I call my cousin/best friend in tears and tell her what I can remember. she confirms my suspicions and puts me on speaker phone. she is at a party with her husband a few friends who are all ncos in the army. they walk me through with what to do and how to report it. SHARP briefings go out the window when you need the info. the next morning I talk to the platoon sergeant about the situation and he immediately informs the commander. the commander deems it a sexual assault and sends the information to CID. in the mean time my detachment sgt, who is also the sharp representative, pulls me into his office and asks me what I was wearing, why was I there, etc. basically everything that you don't ask. while CID is investigating I ask to be moved rooms being that I live literally next door to this guy. My command teams denies my request and tells me it's no big deal. my roommate, who is still friends with creepy guy. allows him to continue to come into our room whenever she feels like it and is still leaving the door unlocked throughout the night. I start to get pissed off. I go back to my command team and ask to be moved rooms. again they tell me no but also that I have a communication problem and need to work it out with my roommate. they pull my roommate in separately and tell her the same thing. she gets pissed off and posts a status on Facebook about me and how she wants to harm me. some mutual friends that she doesn't know are mutual friends tell me about it and show it to me not long before she deletes it. I go back to my command team for the third time and ask to be moved. they still deny my request telling that there is nowhere to move me. so I start living out of my car. its safer, I have the only keys, and the back of the building is near the mp station.

fast forward to about five months living in my car. I go over to a friend's house, and she can tell that I look very tired. she jokes about it and I break down. I tell her everything that has been happening and that I have been sleeping in my car. she immediately calls her husband who is an nco for another unit, which means he is a mandatory reporter. he tells his command and they immediately find a way to get me into not only a new room. but also a completely different building. took them two days to get it sorted out, just hadto wait two weeks for the current occupant to move out. but im still living in my car. one day at lunch one of my ncos notice im sleeping and see the sleeping bag and non perishables in my car. he asks whats up and I blow him off. he pulls me aside and makes me sit in the room until I agree to start talking. again I break down and tell him why im sleeping in my car. he gets pissed and walks into the detachment sgts office who tells him the same thing, they will not move me. he calls me about three hours later and tells me that if I want to that I can come stay with him and his family until I can get a new room.

finally I feel heard and I agree to it. he has a spare bedroom across the hall from his kid with a door that locks form the inside. better than sleeping in my backseat in the summer and I can still lock the door. things perk up and everything is going great. 4th of July rolls around and everybody has taken 4 day passes to go out of town. fearing that I would go back to seeping in my car while they were gone, my nco drags me along his family another family to a water park. first day is great. absolute blast, and the kids thing im the coolest person ever because I'm an adult but not their parents. typical kid though process. that night we decide to have a bond fire. the kids and mother run out to grab some food while my nco and I stay back to tend the fire. one of us stays with the fire and the other goes to search for more wood. great plan. until he starts drinking. he gets wasted fast, drinking straight out of the whiskey bottle. gets to the point where he throws half of a bottle of whiskey on the fire, scaring the kids who wanted to make smores so bad they screamed and ran away. I tell him he needs to stop drinking. he refuses. again I tell him and ask him to hand me the whisky bottle. he gets this creepy grin on his face and throws it at me. if his coordination wasn't so off it would have hit me in the head. at this point I'm pissed and tell him im done. he thinks this is funny and tries to fight me. his tactic was to try to remove my clothes. as he was beginning to succeed the kids came back around to the fire. I was going to run, but felt I couldn't leave the kids with him in this state. I would feel horrible if something happened to them. as I try to avoid him I end up circling around the fire. he sees this as a game and starts to chase me. in an attempt to curve his thought process, I sit down on a bench. this immediately turns against me as now he is trying to force me to sit in his lap. when I again refuse his advances, he gets angry and throws a punch. barely hits me but at this point I am done. I take off running through the campground. as he follows I try to wind my way back to the tent to get my keys. I was going to leave his dumbass there. before I could get my keys, he stumbled around the corner and grabbed my arm.

I startled me when he grabbed my arm, wasn't expecting it and thought he was too drunk to figure out my plan. obviously I was wrong. he tightens his grip on my arm and starts to pull me towards a tent. I scream at him to let me go, but he just smiles and says he wants me in the tent. being he is practically double my size and strength he is winning this tug of war in my arm. im starting to freak out. I tell him that I don't want to go back to the tent with him. he says he doesn't care and wants to feel my beautiful body. now im scared. if I can't get away from this jerk, he's going to rape me. I change tactics and plow into him knowing him off-balance and onto the ground. my short stint of jiu jitsu comes into play and im able to get him into an ankle lock and then take off running. as I round the corner, his wife is walking up. she asks me what's wrong and I tell her to take her stupid drunk husband to bed. she sighs, as if this isn't the first time she's heard that, and drags him to bed. being my keys were in the tent I slept by the fire and hung out with a family from Denmark that showed up later. they help me put the fire out by running to grab some buckets of water while I watch the fire. the next morning he comes out and asks why the fire is still smoking. I ignore him and head toward the showers. he grabs my arm to stop me and I wince. he looks at me with concern in his face but is met with my angry glare. he asks me whats wrong, but apparently doesn't remember the previous night. this angers me more so I just walk away. in the showers I realize my arm is tender, red, and a little swollen. it had popped when he pulled on it earlier and I realize it must have been partially dislocated or something along those lines.

when we got back to base, I grabbed my stuff from his house and left. the nco from the other unit had let me know that they had found a room in a new building with the MPs. when I get there I realize they have moved the first guy who assaulted me into the building next door.he didn't have a car and mine was broke. so we had to walk along a road with one street light, one sidewalk, and surrounded by trees to first formation in the dark. I complained about this and how I didn't feel safe. My ncos solved this by picking up creepy guy and making me walk by myself along that path. for a few weeks the mps I now lived with would give me a ride when they could. but then staff duty popped up. in our unit staff duty was going to the clinic every 6 hours to check temperatures for medications and that the building was still secure. so now im walking this route by myself at midnight on a weekend. this was also the only path to the bar. now I'm pissed. its September and starting to get cold, I'm walking this path alone when I encounter a group of drunk Romanian soldiers. they are making unwanted advances and im stuck. My ncos don't care, my command team doesn't care, and depressed. as im standing there not one, but two ncos drive past me and don't bother to offer me a ride. that's when I hit rock bottom. I went home and tried to sleep but I couldn't. so went for a walk. approaching 3am I decide that its no longer worth it and decide to kill myself. planned it on my walk and was headed home to go through with it. on my home a guy from jiu jitsu club stops and asks if I want a ride. I hesitate but then agree, im going to kill myself anyway, he can't do any worse. I get in the car and he drives me home. I look at him in awe and he seems confused. I kind of jokingly mention something about him being a creeper. he looks at me and says that im a good friend and he enjoys seeing me in jiu jitsu class. I break down (yes, again) and give him synopsis of what's going on. he outranks all the NCOs in my unit. he tells me he will be there to pick me up for first formation and he will see me later. I don't believe he will come back but he made me feel wanted. so I halt my suicide plans. but then he shows up at 435am. I couldn't believe it. he then shows up after pt formation to drive me home (it was roughly a mile one way) he continued to do this for four weeks and helped me get a new car because he was leaving for Texas soon. this small act changed my mind on suicide.

i eventually reported the second sexual assault from the encouragement of my jiu jitsu friend. that same nco had been insisting on a section camping trip that would leave me alone with him in the woods, but also the only female. my friend called foul and said it was a red flag. not long after, I got an expedited transfer to where i was put up for med board. i was medically retired 6 months later. since the happenings in Germany i have been diagnosed with ptsd, had to have surgery to fix my arm leaving me with a 5 inch scar, and was diagnosed with early onset cervical cancer from the hpv creepy guy gave me. although its been rough, i do have a service dog now that helps me out in a bout, with nightmares, and brings me my medication if i forget. many times people will ask me how i liked my time in the army, or will thank me for my service. and its awkward because how do you respond to a random stranger. the army really screwed me over, and although i loved my job as a medic, working conditions almost killed me. i have been able to partially move on. i still have a general fear of men, but my dog helps me read people and has my 6. and now im studying social work to be able to be a counselor for sexual assault victims. thereis always someone out there who cares, and i hope i can be that for at least one person.

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