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averykedavra · 3 years

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Alright from the top (I accidently sent before I was ready earlier, apparently)

I was worried about you, ya dipshit (affectionate).

I was afraid you were getting in over your head. Your long reply did help soothe my concerns by showing that you do have a commitment to this. I was afraid you were painting a target on your back, especially as a singlet.

My headmates we're less concerned, but I just. Had to ask.

What you're doing? Is great, and there's this hope that what you've done here will spread and make the fandom a more comfortable space, and my headmates? Love that.

But I'm worried about you. Because bringing this conversation to your door isn't without risk to you. And you're brave for doing it.

I never meant to imply this conversation shouldn't be had, in fact my headmates are kinda really happy about it?

But when I asked what the fuck posessed you, I was asking why the fuck would you take this upon yourself.

And your answer was. Good.

I'm still worried because system discourse has a way of biting friendly hands, (like I unintentionally did apparently, oops) and you're a good person. I just didn't want you getting bit over something you got into unknowingly.

But your reply shows you do know.

So yeah. I was. Concerned.

And I wish you luck.

-Missy, the anon who asked what the fuck posessed you

And that's that -Missy

Thank you -Missy

Hi! Thank you so so much for sending this! It took me a bit to figure out some words, but here I am, armed with probably the sappiest words imaginable.

I’ll admit I was a bit stressed after your first anon ask, since it seems there was an accidental tone mishap djhsgfshsj it can happen, and I get it! My apologies for the long rambling answer, since I did automatically assume the worst, just because I’ve heard similar things before about other issues. ‘Why stir up trouble’ and all that, you know the drill.

But--thank you. In context, this was very sweet of you. I appreciate you looking out for me, for sending me this explanation, for being brave enough to do so, and I appreciate your headmates for giving you the go-ahead! (Say hi to them for me, by the way <3) This was a lovely thing to read this evening, and it’s honestly so sweet that you cared enough to send this.

And...yeah. Yeah, I see where you’re coming from. There are topics that often lead to getting negative attention, and DID can definitely be one of them. I’ve seen second-hand nastiness surrounding this, and other, topics. I’ve been lucky enough to never face any of it myself (probably partly because I am in a position of privilege, and therefore less likely to be harassed) but it does still put me in a bit of a risky situation, I guess.

I’d love to say that I didn’t even consider any backlash, but that’s a bit of a lie. I always consider backlash, it’s one of the perks of overthinking things djhgfssghj and yes, it did feel a bit nerve-wracking to post. Still, my main fear was, and remains, that I would accidentally or ignorantly hurt someone. I’ve always tried to focus on helping and supporting people. Backlash feels less terrifying when it’s measured against helping people!

Systems get put through too much shit in this fandom. In general, actually. The stigma around dissociative disorders is absolutely terrible, and really hurts systems, so it’s important for people to talk about it! That’s what I always try to focus on, in any situation. I’ve found that you get a lot farther in life when you’re focused on making the fandom a better place, instead of making yourself feel safer <3

But it is a double-edged sword. I get that. I really appreciate your concern. I’m in a better position than many people, which means I do get less heat for, say, posts about racism than actual POC do. You know how it is. And yet people probably will get upset about it. Maybe I will get a target on my back, like you said (although I have a good amount of faith in my followers right now, so I’m hopeful dhsgfshjs). Either way, like you said, I do know what I’m getting into.

I do try to be a good person. I’m still working on that. Thank you for the compliment, though, and thank you for the support. Kinda ironically, you’re the reason I’m actually doing this. There are such wonderful people in this fandom, and so many of them--systems, POC, black people, trans people--get put through shit that they don’t deserve. I love this fandom. I want other people to have a chance to love it, too.

And...yeah, not to get all sappy on you, but systems as an issue are pretty close to my heart. I’ve got acquaintances and discord friends who are systems. I’ve got mutuals. And one of my best friends is the host of a system, and I care about them a ton. I would never want to contribute to a space where they feel unwelcome, unsafe, or unheard. I would never want to do that to you, Missy, or your headmates. None of you ever deserve that.

Like I said, I love this fandom. And I’ve seen people harassed, attacked, and forced to leave it. That’s not fair. That’s not something I want to be a part of. If I get to stay in this fandom and love it, so does everyone else.

I’m not saying all this to make myself out as a hero, or a victim, I’m just incapable of saying anything in like ten words. And also I’m really sappy right now. And I’m happy that I could help you in any way, shape, or form. You seem very lovely and very kind. People like you are, really, the reason I love this fandom in the first place.

So thank you. Thank you, this message meant a lot. It’s great to hear, and kind of awe-inspiring, that I could actually make somewhat of an impact with this? Your compliments are very sweet, and thank you. But honestly, I don’t think I’d call myself brave. Just a bit of a sap, doing what should probably be the norm.

And your concern is appreciated, too. But I think I can handle this, if I’ve got people like you in my corner.

I wish you and your headmates the best of luck as well, thank you <3

#aaanddd it's another long post #rip here i go again #longpost #sanders sides #asks and answers #anon #tw ableism #fandom problems #this #yeah this may have made me almost cry what of it #i'm just soft okay #and time to update the masterlist!#thanks again <3333

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arofili · 4 years

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🏳️‍🌈 Finarfin, Thorin, Fingolfin, Arwen

(so disclaimer for all of these, i’m pretty flexible with my queer headcanons especially wrt shipping!)

Finarfin: Mostly straight, very faithful to Earwen. Had a hard time adjusting to Earwen and Anaire’s relationship after the Flight of the Noldor, but he loves his wife so much that in the end he can’t really be anything other than supportive. Especially since he hurt Earwen by leaving, even if he did end up coming back.

So yeah, he’s mostly just really in love with his wife, but. BUT. i am also fond of Finarfin/Eonwe, so- I think he and Eonwe became very close during the War of Wrath, and Ara kind of started crushing on him, except like, is it really a crush? this is just bros being bros right? and he’s not gay, nah, so like...but what if it is tho?? and Eonwe is completely oblivious, not just to Ara’s feelings but to his own too, until like. after things settle down and Ara confesses to Earwen and she’s like “oooh, exciting” and romcom hijinks ensue, except things are awkward because Eonwe is the herald of Manwe (I have some particular hcs about Valarin sexuality, esp Manwe) and in the end Ara and Eonwe are like, not really sure what’s up between them and are mostly just bros...but also a little bit not. that’s a long and complicated way of me saying that they’re queerplatonic, lmao

Thorin: ooohhh boy. I was put off bagginshield for a long time because of the intensity of the fandom around them, and now I’m kind of on board, but like, Only Aspec Bagginshield Please. so i think Thorin is demi, attraction is like, literally the last thing on his mind; I have a soft spot for Dworin so in some verses I think they’ve got a thing going on? They’re definitely extremely close. But what I’m trying to get at, I guess, is that Bilbo is the first/only person Thorin’s like, actually confused and worried about possibly being in love with?? And my brain hurts if I try to think about Bilbo not being in the Shire to raise Frodo, even in the sappiest Bagginshield Everyone Lives AUs, so I think that Bagginshield is more of a ship doomed to pine than anything else, and them both being aspec makes that...easier, I guess? Like Thorin has feelings for Bilbo, but never planned his life around including someone like that, his devotion to Erebor and his people is much more important- if he and Bilbo do get their shit together it would have to be long-distance, because Bilbo loves the Shire and especially loves Frodo after he adopts him, and LOTR is practically impossible if Bilbo remained in Erebor. So yeah. Also, Thorin is trans, I don’t make the rules

Fingolfin: Lol, both Ara and Nolo are characters I’ve had some Thoughts about this ever since writing ATATYA, but since that fic is about the Feanorians I didn’t really get to explore his side of things. Anyway: Nolo is bisexual, but he kind of repressed himself until arriving in Middle-earth. He and Anaire had a good relationship for the most part, but when he started going overboard (in her eyes) with his attempts to make things right with Feanaro, they started to fight. Anaire and Earwen kind of always had mutual feelings for each other that they never acted on because they both loved their respective husbands, but when both the bros left during the Flight of the Noldor they went “fuck it” and got together. (As I mentioned above, Ara coming back complicated things, but after that it was very much “it’s us against the world”)

But back to Nolo: he and Anaire had a pretty terrible breakup right before he left, and when he didn’t come back but Ara did, he kind of assumed that Anaire would never want anything to do with him again, their marriage bond was pretty fucked up and while he was definitely still in love with her he kind of considered their relationship over. So he was basically single in Beleriand, and in a place like that, without the kind of rules he was used to in Valinor, he was freer to experiment, and that’s when he figured out he liked dudes too. I think he was with a couple mortal men (like Hador!) and while that was mostly good for him, he still was in love with Anaire and never settled down with anyone else (like another elf) because of that. He spent a lot of his time in Mandos being melodramatic about his marriage (and I’m teasing, but like, shit does suck, rip Nolo)- but by the time he was released, Anaire had had a long time to mull over what he’d done, and she decided she’d give him another chance. So I think they’re back together, but with a similar sort of thing Ara and Earwen have going on, because Earwen and Anaire are not letting each other go, and Nolo kind of has to prove himself to his wife. Which he is absolutely willing to do.

Also, mostly unrelated headcanon: post-reembodiment Nolofinwe is a funky grandpa who just loves spending time with his kids and takes them camping all the time. Arakano and Irisse love this; Findekano is just happy his family’s back together; Turukano is not a fan but goes along because he knows he should, and it’s a good excuse to try and reconnect with Maeglin who also hates the camping trips (but loves being included)

Arwen: i don’t have any set headcanons for her, I do like Aragorn/Arwen, I also enjoy Arwen/Tauriel, I’m down for whatever wrt to her. she’s probably bi? and I think she’s demiromantic, because she was by herself for a very long time before Aragorn came along, so it was probably a surprise to her that she had feelings for anyone at all, and she went 100% in on that relationship. until death do ye part, and all that...

#silm #ask games #aro tolkien #thank you anon!!!!#i WILL ramble on about my headcanons forever if you let me sdfhkdjh #finarfin #thorin #fingolfin #arwen #atatya #holiness by the sea #(those are the fics i linked)#anon #answers

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