Have you ever noticed that men do not do “manly” tasks well? Moving furniture, carpentry, mechanics, even leading corporate meetings, they do a shit job. Then they project the poor quality onto women doing the same tasks.

Examples: I was asked to help move a couch because no other men were around. I don't like doing this job as its heavy and I'm small in stature. But I helped. He didn't measure which door it would fit through first so I had to move it around the house twice. Then when I mentioned how heavy and awkward it was to handle, he couldn't think of an idea to help, just told me to push through. I suggested grabbing the big moving device in the shed to put one side of the couch on and he could hold the other while I pushed it. It worked marvellously. This is a man who does physical labour often and “meek” old me thought of a better way in half an hour.

Another example: I was asked to help move some carpentry walls into position to screw them into place for the same reason, no other men were around. I watched him as he realized he put up the wall frame the wrong way and would have to redo it. It was easy awareness to measure properly in the first place. He didn't.

Last example: I watched a man put garbage bins into the same truck that we needed to pick up a desk in, drive down the road, and then turn back when he realized both wouldn't fit. We were bringing the garbage to the dump. I suggested taking the bags out of the bin so there would be space for the desk after we left the dump.

Three issues, three ways I could see the problem right away while he huffed and puffed because of the extra work he had to do.

I'm shaking my head and rolling my eyes.

Ladies, even when men boast about these “manly” tasks they do so well, watch them. I bet you will encounter many, many instances where they do a shit job at what they proclaim they're good at.

As always, men love to boast and then fail to succeed.

Any stories you want to share?

As we head into the holiday season and cultural traditions arise, take a look at who does the labour to uphold them. Who makes the holidays feel special and who gets to sit around and enjoy them?

I think it is time to review our traditions and create new ones for women only, where we get to build and enjoy customs that celebrate the natural cycle of harvest, solstice, rest, and connecting with the community.

Why do the work for men and their traditions while we run ourselves into exhaustion? Can you find ways to return to her, matriarchal traditions, even in small doses?

What can you do to celebrate her, not him?

- Laura Rose

Returning to Her

www.healingfromharm.com

The quickest practice in returning to matriarchy - speak when it calls you.

A one-minute short by Laura Rose.

Returning to Her

www.healingfromharm.com

I will be doing a reading from this book on my next matriarchal sermon. It has me thinking a lot about trauma, women, and the deep wound of a harmful mother. The chapter I will be reading talks about that. I find it so complex that I'm re-reading it now. This book deserves a conversation.

Should I attempt a live reading? Anyone interested in attending?

I think men know on a deep, subconscious level that they are not supposed to exist, that only a few men are needed for a society to flourish, and the rest are to die in the hunt or battle or removal from the community. Because patriarchy has ensured their survival, they cannot exist without the shame of it, and they are not allowed to get rid of themselves in the name of honour anymore. So they project it towards others. Their shame will eat them alive unless they do so, but the patriarchy also tells them that their problem is women instead of the truth, so they violate women.

If this is the case, perhaps the most feminist act and the one that honours men is to return to their shame of existence and correct it not by sympathizing with them but by fixing their existence. Return their projection with our action.

#NaturalSelection

Or maybe, I just hate men for what they did to us. 🤷‍♀️

There will be a lot of anger rising in our world over the next few years. Most people will not know how to use it properly or choose not to. They will project it onto innocent parties with different opinions instead of the people in charge, manipulating us all. It will be messy.

How do you use anger properly? By healing your wounds from being harmed that caused the anger in the first place. Then, you can rationally use your anger instead of unconsciously reacting to triggers and projecting it onto others.

Rational use of anger involves the conscious practice of emotions, logic, and behaviours. This world does not know how to do this. Find someone who can help you heal so you can.

- Laura Rose

Returning to Her

The tide is turning on the patriarchy as women are breathing fire to men’s corruption. Let's make this year our year to batter up and play ball.

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#BatterUp2024

My second sermon of the Return to Matriarchy Series - Don't talk about men.

I read from a book I bought about female evolution and the patriarchal desire to discuss men in women’s discussions. I long for a return to where women are centred in our own experience like we were in matriarchal days.

Join me for another round of matriarchal sermons.

- Laura Rose

The quickest practice in returning to matriarchy - speak when you want to speak.

A one-minute short by Laura Rose.

Returning to Her

www.healingfromharm.com