i think its always worth thinking about how women are portrayed in certain stories, from fictional narratives to reddit posts presenting themselves as true stories. is every woman in the narrative either antagonistic or shallow? are most or all of the men portrayed as sympathetic and competent, moreso than the women, even if they commit the same crimes?

hearing more abt aventurine's inspiration and im muttering a prayer. hoyo please dont be racist hoyo please dont be racist please please please

This man definitely knows how to be normal about women.

all the shit i read on reddit about people living with roommates makes me so relieved that me and bf dont have any roommates because if i had to share my living space with someone who isnt my partner id actually die

fuck off, blocked, get this truther shit off my dash and stop calling trans women terfs. killing myself wednesday mood

i guess i'm in the minority here, but i don't understand this huge housewarming party on here for redditors. of all people.

also.. thankfully, i think im over the worst of it for now. it was a week of extremely deep misery, mostly bc they took me from an extremely high dosage of anti depressants to zero in 5 days, a timeframe i SAID would NOT do me well and they were like ‘well you’re in here you’re fine’ yeah that’s how i wound up crushing a lightbulb in my hands at 2am, fuck. i’m still debating whether to tell them about that or not. i don’t want to lose any of my freedom or trust, but also i’m gonna leave soon whether they like it or not so i can’t lose *that* much. idk. talking to psych tomorrow, i’ll ask her what she thinks i should do. (she will tell me to tell them. sigh)

urges have gone down significantly. it’s so so dumb but part of me wants to sh anyway because like, i’ve done it now, i’m gonna have to stop again after i tell them, why not do it while i can lol... obviously that’s duuuumb as hell and im not gonna listen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i hope that at least my psychiatrist listens to me more after i tell him what happened :/ i like him, he just... has a kind of disconnect with his patients, i think. didnt really think this one through. i *told* him im extremely sensitive to withdrawal, and he pulls this shit. apparently ur meant to decrease it by 10% every month or so, not by 100% over 5 fuckn days. christ

and now i’m on a new one that’s an antidepressant and adhd medication. apparently works within a few days. so hopefully that’ll work!!!

(In regards to reddit) "you'll never find a more wretched hive of scum and villainy"

My brother in christ you're on tumblr.

me: im gonna join the subreddit about being an asian guy

subreddit:

me: i will be leaving this subreddit

There's this website with an old forum (still active) but threads have comments from over a decade ago. It's such a breath of fresh air, ye olde internet where people are just being silly and fun and helpful

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i just feel really gross about this whole thing

hot take but i think a lot of the trans guys on the top surgery subreddits really need to chill the fuck out on their expectation of having a perfectly flawless scar-free top surgery result in the short or even long term. I think people really aren't fully aware of the enormity of what their scars reflect.

"double incision" top surgery isn't referred to as such because there are two lines on either side of the chest, but rather because two incisions are made into each breast, one above the bulk of the breast tissue, one below all of it, which allows for a huge slice of skin, fat, and breast buds to be removed like a piece of a layer cake. the remaining flaps of skin on the body are then joined together and must be fused into one piece through the growing of completely new flesh, hence the thickness of the scar.

this isn't a superficial cut. this isn't a gash or even a single surgical line. it's two completely different skin flaps that were never attached before having to join to one another. of course there will be a scar! of course the body will throw as much tissue as it fucking can at this huge opening on your body.

like damn dog. let your body scar. it looks bad ass anyway. the reddit bros are so fixated on having a perfectly cis-passing chest and are so mired in their dysphoria that they broadcast some of the most unrealistic, unhelpful of expectations to eachother. your body had to grow an attachment between two disparate skin flaps. like. give it some fucking grace for not having a completely invisible attachment line. isnt the miracle of having a de-titted chest a blessing enough??

AITA for yelling at my husband for spending "my" money for a part?

My husband stalks the actual AITA reddit so I am using my friend's account here as she has shown me these.

I (25m) have a husband, Liam (25m), and we have a daughter (just turned 2). When I first married Liam, I truly loved him, but I'm not sure now. We have ups and downs and I suffered from postpartum depression and I know Liam has said i was a handful then.

We are almost at five years of marriage. When we got married I had a job, which I left when me and Liam moved for his promotion across the country. Liam encouraged me to stay home and watch our dogs, which then translated to watching our daughter after we had her. I have tried to get a job multiple times, for example I had an interview and missed it because our car wouldn't start (Liam worked on it when he got home thst night and fixed it, but they wouldn't let me interview again). One time we all came down with covid. Just normal life things that occur.

Liam has discouraged me from getting a job, saying he makes enough to support us and wants me to be with our daughter. I do love being with her, but I feel unfulfilled and want to work. I tried to sell stuff online, but we decided it was too expensive to continue. Liam finally agreed for me to get a job, I got an interview and they offered me the job, but I just found out I am pregnant. The job is very labor intensive and my first pregnancy was not easy, Liam doesn't want me to accept and I am inclined not to, but I want to earn my own money.

Well, our heater unexpectedly went out and we had to pay for the part to fix it. Except, instead of using the joint account he used my account. Liam told me that it is his money and he can spend it how he pleases. I yelled at him that I would have money if I was able to get a job, and he told me I was being too hormonal because of the baby and needed to look at things logically. I told him to fuck off. I said some other things in anger, and I'll be honest i don't remember exactly what I said but i didnt think it was that bad, but Liam won't tell me. He says it was absolutely terrible and i must not love him to say what I did and that my brain fog is just me blaming the pregnancy. He has since slept in the guest room while I sleep in our room. I apologized for yelling but told him I still wanted a job, he says that isnt a real apology. AITA?

My friend says to add this here for context:

We have three accounts, they all are joint accounts. The first is a checking which is what we take our rent, bills, etc out of and what the part should have come out of. Then we have the first saving account which is his account. Then there is the second checking account which is considered mine. He puts money in it weekly for me to spend on groceries and our daughter. Anything extra I don't spend I get to keep.

What are these acronyms?

i hate walter as much as the next guy. but man he is such an interesting character. like he really isnt that machiavellian, i feel like thats mostly the fanbase talking. he is pretty much only really really good at cooking meth. gus is the machiavellian one, the one who is willing to put in his dues, to wait, to bide his time, to manipulate. walts solution to LITERALLY EVERYTHING is to either kill it or blow it up. (or both). Like every time he "makes a move" it is just him ordering other people to kill people or him blowing stuff up. he sucks at manipulating, he couldnt do it w. skyler she saw through his bullshit sooo early in the series, bc he is SO BAD at lying, and when she does work with him its not because she suddenly loves him again or whatever, its more pragmatic for her. he failed so hard at manipulating mike/gus/etc. the only person he actually successfully manipulated was his 24 year old junkie former student. not exactly the most difficult catch. also because he isn't machiavellian hes way more fun to watch -- he doesnt just do things because they're the best move, like gus. gus would more more boring a protagonist bc his moves are predictable, always optimal. but walts moves are also driven by his family and keeping up his lie and stuff. and sometimes he just does shit because he is a human being who cares about things. like when he ran over the dealers who were gonna kill jesse with his car. that move did not benefit him at all, like why did he do it?? I mean i know why he did it, hes obsessed w jesse and expresses "love" (devotion? loyalty?) through violence, but i think theres a lot of reddit bros who would be genuinely at a loss to explain his motivations in that scene. professionally walts a failure. for most of the series in the criminal underground he is also a failure. he can only get off on killing people and chemistry. he lives in the suburbs. his wife is 12 years younger than him. hes psychosexually obsessed w his former high school student. he drives a 2004 Pontiac Aztek. if he didnt get lung cancer he probably would just continue to be a shitty person in secret until his death. hes having a baby. albuquerque new mexico is a fantasy world and he is the chosen one. he gave a speech about how there were so many worse plane crashes to a building of people mourning a plane crash. hes a retail worker. the first thing he does as a criminal is come up with a cool fake name to sell drugs with. his solution to being missing is to get naked in a grocery store and it works for, like, a significant amount of time. he kills the big boss by blowing half his face off. when his making-meth assistant acts too cheerful he gets him fired and brings back the junkie former high school student instead. crazy guy!!