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elvisabutler · 1 year

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can i request #5 and #17 angst prompts for professor presley universe? i dont mind if you do it in one all together all i ask is that you end it in fluff 😊

your love was unmoved

fandom: elvis presley | elvis ( 2022 ) rating: t for some implications pairing: elvis presley ( professor big daddy ) x female reader ( nicknamed belle ) word count: 1998 warnings: no use of y/n. student/professor relationship ( former ). talk of babies. talk of pregnancy and complications. minor sexual implications. talk of death. arguing. author’s note: thank you for this anon! i had a completely different version of this written before i got talked out of it for good reasons. i think this one is better in any case. hope you enjoy! this is done for my 1k gala, based on angst lines “i’m not going with you." and "please, answer me!" y'all know the drill, real elvis or austin elvis works fine for this despite the moodboard. also part of the professor presley universe that keeps growing by the day.

Elvis is the love of your life, this is a fact you've known since before you had your twins. Since before you got married. Since before your third child and now the fourth that has given you so many problems and health issues that Elvis had been worried enough that you had made a joke telling him you'd carry this stubborn little baby to term even if killed you. The look on his face and his reaction was one you weren't soon to forget. His reaction of holding your face in hands and nuzzling at your nose whispering that if he can't joke about dyin' neither could you. His reaction later on while you you were in and out of sleep with him talking to your belly.

"Ya gotta treat ya mama a lil nicer. She's- she's gotta stay here for your siblings and- and I don't think I'd take losin' her all that well."

Somehow little Judy had taken those words to heart. Oh sure she had been a bit of a hellion still, making you stay on an extended leave of absence that Elvis had fought tooth and nail for just so you could keep your job and he wouldn't be forced to hire someone else- someone else he knows wouldn't be as good in his department. And sure, you had been forced to have a c section on account of her being feet first but was fine. You were fine and she was fine and your family was complete and happy. It takes you longer than you'd like to get back to normal, a product of your age and of what you had gone through to bring your daughter into the world but eventually eventually you found yourself back teaching, admonishing your students who didn't do homework and who would like to treat your class as a nap time among other things.

There's something different about Elvis- something that has the hairs on the back of your neck standing at attention in concern and worry. Maybe it's from everything you've gone through with your other partners or maybe it's because you know Elvis well enough but something is bothering you. Something feels off and you can't put an exact finger on what it is. You can't put an exact finger on what it is until you have to grab something out of his desk.

He's trapped under the pile of your oldest children while little Judy is sleeping in her crib. The idea had been for both of you to get some work done while the children played around you but the older ones seemed to have a different plan as per their usual. Your own papers you have to deal with are safely sitting on the table and Elvis's- well you end up asking him where his arm between shouts and squeals.

"I'll wrestle them back t' normal, jus', can ya go grab my things from my desk, darlin'? Should be in the middle drawer." Elvis asks before his hands become preoccupied with trying to keep Wes from pulling at his hair- or perhaps it was Wendy, you couldn't quite tell. It didn't matter though, after all, you knew better than anyone that once they had their fun that he'd make sure they were all acting exactly as they needed to. You can't help the way a smile stays on your face as you walk into the office, settling down in the chair as you pulled open the middle drawer. The papers are in a folder, easy enough to grab but your eyes drift to one of the side drawers with the drawer partially open and what looks like a set pages not bound with a staple or paperclip or anything. You know better than to look, know that there are some things even now after being married that you and Elvis keep from each other. Keep private, because they don't concern the other person, nor are they important. Yet there's that feeling, there's that feeling again- the raised hair on your neck and the sickening feeling of dread as you stare at it. You shouldn't look and yet you do. You want to throw up after you do.

Your body cycles through hot and cold, hot and cold and hot and cold before it settles into a bone aching chill as you read. This is a contract for another school, a school in California of all places. It's a contract he's already signed and hasn't bothered to tell you about. It's a contract that pays better than the one he has in Memphis but- Memphis is your home, Memphis is where your job is- Memphis- it's supposed to be where you stay, after all, taking this would mean selling Graceland and Elvis has always told you he bought it for his mother. He would never sell the property. It's then that it hits you like a ton of bricks and you shoot up out of the chair, his folder of papers in one hand and the signed contract in the other.

The living room is quiet but you can hear your children outside whooping and hollering so you know Elvis has shooed them outside to try and burn off their energy. What great timing, he shooed them away so you can have a discussion with him about this- this whatever it is. His folder is tossed onto the table carelessly before you toss the contract in his lap.

"I'm not going with you, am I?" Your words are spat out as Elvis pales looking over his glasses at you- realizing what you tossed at him. It's written all over his face that you're right, he has no intention of taking you with him, instead forcing you to be a single mother here in Graceland with your four kids. "Were you just going to pack everything in a bag one day? Pull a 'cilla and leave me without warning? Oh wait, did you plan on taking the twins too?"

"Belle, honey, darlin', Y/N, I-" He states before you cut him off.

"No, no, no nicknames today Professor Presley. Please, just answer me, have the decency to do that for your wife." You move to sit right in front of him on the coffee table, eyes blazing. You want to kick and scream and hit him and for a brief moment you're taken back to when you first got together, your anger and embarrassment and depression all coming to a head.

His body recoils back at the use of a title he hasn't heard come from your lips in a non-playful way in nearing a decade now. This- This isn't how this was supposed to go, you weren't supposed to find out this way, he was supposed to ease you into the idea, butter you up for a move to California while he arranged for the Mafia to take care of Graceland. It was only a temporary assignment.

He moves to cup your face only to have you grasp at his wrists. "Stop trying to be sweet and tell me what that's about. Tell me I'm wrong, Elvis."

There's a part of him, the part of him that knows you well enough that in a good mood you're liable to smack him gently upside the head if he told you that know, you're not wrong, that yes, he's that horrible person you think he is who planned on doing what your brain thinks he's doing. He knows you're liable to smack him gently upside the head if he told you that you're being silly and he'll be sweet to his wife if he wants. He knows these things because he knows you so he settles on looking at least a bit admonished before he speaks.

"You are wrong. I- I meant t'tell ya sooner, or at least, meant to tell ya soon. Jus' couldn't really figure out how." Elvis can feel his leg bounce a little in spite of everything before he continues. "I-I got offered a temporary job in California. University basically wants to let them borrow me. Sort've a guest lecturing thing. I don't- I don't know the exact details cause I haven't been to the university there but- you'd be comin' wit' me. Leave the boys to handle Graceland, while take the kids to California for a year. Give 'em a change of pace."

"A change of pace." Your tone is deadpan as you still continue to glare at Elvis. "Memphis is our home and you want to go to California just because they offered. You're joking, you have to be because I know my husband isn't someone who decides this and signs the paper before talking to me about it."

He starts to open up his mouth to defend himself before you both hear the backdoor open and hear the yelling of your three older children followed by the piercing cry of your youngest. You shake your head and wave Elvis off. "I have to go help her, feed her. Just-"

"I got 'em, Belle."

Those are the last words he says to you until your nightly shower. Everyone is in bed but you and him and you found yourself entering the shower before him, not waiting up as you usually do. After a few minutes you feel the door open and feel your husband against you nuzzling your neck. "I hadn't sent them back. I didn't- Everything's gotten a lil' complicated here in Memphis, thought, thought we could see how it is. See if it can be like Hawaii for us, ya know? We've jus' both been busy. Shoulda talked 'bout it fore I signed 'em but can ya trust me on this? Trust me on us goin' there? Jus' for a year."

Your shoulders relax as you lean against Elvis, allowing the water to fall on your joined bodies. There's tears falling you think, but you can't quite tell as you speak. "My tenure, though. I'll lose my job."

"I'll get it back if ya do. Pull some strings nearby. Darlin'- I think we need this. Think it'll do some good and-"

You cut him off with a sigh. "If you can convince them that I get my job back when we come back, I will go. We'll go together and they can enjoy California."

Elvis grabs your waist and turns you around to face him in the shower before he cups your cheeks. "Ya promise, ya ain't jus' sayin' this t'make me happy? Ain't jus' agreein-"

A snort leaves your nose before you laugh, sniffling slightly. "Elvis- When- I've never been that sort of woman and you know that. I'm- I'm trusting you because you haven't led me wrong lately."

He pulls you in for a kiss and bites at your lip before pulling away. "Lately, she says. Try ever, Mrs. Presley. I'll see what I can do, a'right? Ya- ya wanna finish the shower and go to sleep? Catch an hour before Judy wakes up?"

You nod, nuzzling at his chest, relishing in the feel of his chest hair against your cheek. "Shower and sleep- that- yeah. I'm- sorry about earlier."

Another kiss to your lips before he kisses your forehead and pulls away. "Don't be, kinda blindsided ya. Now, pass me the soap?"

Your hand reaches to grab the soap, but you don't hand it to him instead choosing to keep it in your hand and smirk. "I think you're gonna have to come and get it from me."

"Careful what ya wish for, darlin'."

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natsmagi · 19 days

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man as someone who also draws yet tries to be critical with the media and art i follow yeah i agree that artists could learn to draw diverse designs (not targeted to you just a general opinion) and such yet people forget that in the end we don't really own diversity neither representation and the way anons keep harassing you is ridiculous and tiring it makes me sad and i hope it doesn't discourage you.

i love your art, i really love scrolling through your page and see you rant about natsumugi it makes me get even more invested in them plus you draw them so pretty. i'm not even strongly into femstars but the way you draw natsume specifically influenced a bit in my hcs about him because idk it just fits him and perhaps because original natsume is already a bit androgynous this last remark is just a little side note i hope it's not too random lol and the way you draw both natsume and tsumugi makes my little sapphic heart go yippee

WAHHH it doesnt discourage me at all anon dont worry!! i have incredibly lovely friends, mutuals and followers who bring me immense joy and drives me to create even more! these anons are moreso just annoying, but harmless in the end!

and i agree that no artist should be forced to draw X Y Z, specifically if theyre just a hobbyist, but i do wanna say i think more diverse stuff should be greatly encouraged! and by this i mean, if you see someone try their hands at something more diverse that theyre not used to, dont be a dick about how their portrayal isnt good enough, thats just gonna make them want to stop and never exit their comfort zone again. what you should instead do is appreciate that theyre trying! and if perhaps the portrayal is offensive or REALLY misunderstands something, you can give criticisms on how to improve. the reason im still kind of trying to figure out the best way i can depict the tsumugi of my dreams is because many times when ive had people notice shes a bit softer, they get really happy about it! and seeing people be happy makes me happy and makes me wanna learn more! alot of my art is trial and error, i sometimes go back to old habits or stick to what im used to, but in the back of my head i still have a drive to learn and to improve, because people have been so kind to me. and i really wish people would realize its this kindness and uplifting that makes people want to continue learning, to continue improving, to experiment and see what sticks. shaming people for trying wont get you the results you want

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slut4thebroken · 6 months

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Hey same anon that was talking abt your speech👋

Im not saying its your fault that people pick on you, its definitely not your fault that they're assholes. However you said your tone was the main issue for this and I still think that that is something that's controllable. Again not saying this like it excuses them cuz it doesn't but im saying while adhd isn't something you can control, things like tone can be controlled.

And I wasn't saying all this so that you could accommodate for people, I was coming from the perspective that you could accommodate for yourself. Like this whole situation with the mean classmates, im a firm believer in saying something so they dont feel like they can continue to display their bad behaviors. (Side note: I understand masking is telling you to basically copy these people but the people you're copying are rude so im not blaming you)

But my advice wasn't that you mask. I have a husband who suffers the same as you and he used to mask with me and pretty much everyone in his life. I understand masking isn't ideal and I understand that you guys think about every little social interaction. My advice was to be comfortable with yourself but also look more inward and think that maybe you are rude during those interactions. Obviously I don't follow you around everywhere so idk how these things go. But from what I've seen from my husband is being comfortable with yourself and communicating things thru does wonders for both parties to understand each other and being comfortable with yourself id say limits the masking.

Also I figured id give you an explanation on why I thought you were rude since you were confused. I understand you were self hating in the moment but things that came off as rude and like you resent people were things like your tags when you said "so they should know by now that I cant fucking control it and thats how I talk" (which I totally understand this my husband was a jerk when we met too. The issue socially is probably youre too literal. Its not an easy fix but it is fixable from experience but saying things like "I can't control it" is very limiting towards yourself.) The reason this is rude is bc its rude to you obvi but also in your mind it seems like you kind of subconsciously expect people to just tolerate these things when they are not normal to "normal people" (you can educate me on the correct term btw cuz I honestly hate saying normal ppl I just can't think of what the correct term is called at the moment, im not hating)

You also made assumptions that people immediately get annoyed with you or think you're annoying and there was something you said abt people not feeling the same as you abt certain things you like. 1. Making assumptions abt how people feel abt you is always iffy cuz you just came up with that answer yourself you didn't ask them. It kinda shows how you view people or what you think they think which is most likely not the case. 2. For the not liking similar things, im not sure if these people don't have similar interests with you at all or what but a lot of times in life its not gonna be common to find someone with the same amount of interest in something as you do. Not saying its impossible tho I just wouldn't put that pressure on people. Them being fake however is a different thing but I wouldn't know if they were being fake with you or not. There's a lot of gaps with this because we don't know each other but im not trying to be mean or hateful and im not saying all this like its definite, you could take it or leave it. But I hope there's no hard feelings i just 1. Mainly wasnt okay with how you were talking to yourself but 2. I also did think you were being a bit rude to just people in general cuz ive been there myself. Obviously were different people and im not saying our situations are similar at all but how I took it was that while you hate these things abt yourself, you were also blaming people for things that are (whether we agree or not) in your control. But I could be totally wrong and thats okay.

I hope this didn't come off as rude tho cuz I dont intend for it to be but if it was im sorry. Its not often but sometimes I see things I have the full intention of just being helpful but I end up being the opposite. I do genuinely hope that these issues don't continue to bother you up mentally tho. (Also sorry that these have all been lengthy).

Please enlighten me on how that’s controlable. If you were talking nicely to other people, just trying to engage in conversation and be a good friend, and people constantly said that to you, what would you do? If you’re already consciously trying to sound nice. What else is there to do?

And I was comfortable with myself. My parents stopped saying I have an attitude when I was just talking a long time ago, none of my long term friends have ever made it seem like something that was a huge problem, even my ex understood that I literally just sound like that. But now I’m constantly reevaluating every interaction, trying to figure out if I actually sounded rude or if I just thought I did, or if maybe they reacted a certain way because my tone didn’t match what I was trying to say. And I’m fucking tired. I don’t know what else I should do when I’m already intentionally trying to not sound rude other than just not fucking talk at all lmao which I just realized that I’ve lowkey started doing.

And I am too literal… that’s why I don’t pick up on things like I mentioned in my original post. There’s nothing I can do to train myself to not be literal so I’m not exactly sure how I would fix that. The term is neurotypical and I’m not saying they should tolerate it but when I quite literally apologize and correct my tone immediately after saying something that could be seen as rude, I personally think it’s a dick move to continue to be mean about it rather than just say “thanks for the apology. Good to know.” And I appreciate when people tell me that something I said sounded off because then we can fix the miscommunication and also I don’t want anyone to think I don’t like them because of that one interaction. But after having this conversation (“wtf. You don’t have to be so mean about it.” “I’m sorry, I wasn’t trying to be mean. I meant it like this__.”) so many times, I don’t understand why they would continue to respond like that. Some people have started saying stuff along the lines of “lmao girl that did not sound how you wanted it to” and I apologize again every time.

As for the making assumptions part, clearly you don’t know what it’s like to just be able to tell that someone doesn’t like you lol. I’ve delt with that my whole life (as have most neurodivergent people), I’m rarely wrong about that stuff for myself personally. And I understand that people have different interests… that’s not what I was saying. What I was saying was I don’t like how I’ll get excited about something and start talking about it cause I get riled up and then I realize that I’m talking a lot and that they don’t care. I’m not good at stopping that before it starts and the only reason I put that in the original post is because I literally did it earlier that day lmao.

It did come off as rude and it actually really hurt my feelings. In the future, maybe ask if someone wants help rather than giving unsolicited advice about a situation you barely know anything about. Never in my original post did I ask for advice, I was literally just venting after having a really rough day. And while I appreciate that it was your intention to help, you should just be more thoughtful moving forward.

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freemindedspirit · 9 months

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I am not seeking any validation. I was wrongly portrayed by someone here. So I just wanted to make my stand clear. That's all. What would I gain by being acknowledged as his tf/fs. Nothing.. Nada.

I think it is a bit harsh to judge a person whom you haven't even met in real life. If being honest felt like I was trying to be a wanna be I don't know what to say.

Earlier I said I was feeling all angsty and heartbeat rising up. I took some time off. I needed some solitude to reevaluate my thoughts. Why would I hate a person who has no idea of my existence? The best thing to do is to detach. I felt better after that.

Everyone is reading only the parts they want to read. It is always the case. He is not even my type. I would rather have chosen Namjoon or yoongi who are actually my type if I wanted to "fantasise" as being a BTS fs . We don't even know if they will ever marry at all. So why JK? I am not someone to fall for all that grandiose.

I don't watch his lives nor his videos nor his interviews. Out of all the lives he has done I have seen maybe one ? Still you say I am obsessed with him. Tell me how?

Aww he is so good looking he sings so good he is good at everything, he is the heartthrob of millions of girls. Let me make him my fs. So that I get some leverage. U think this is the case for me?

Why would I want him as my fs. Is it money? I would rather use mine. I would only want things which I can afford. So pls. Is it the status he holds in society? Again no it is not it. Is it the looks, nope. I am sorry. Also pls don't ever fall for looks guys. It is not everything.

Do I spend hours looking at his photos or videos? again nope. Still there is some undeniable pull. I can't explain. Pls don't start picking me on it. I beg you.

I can't say if I have a connection to him unless I meet him right? I repeat I did not talk like yeah I am his tf what about it. I just wanted to write there (on YouTube) as a warning to other girls who might be having similar experiences to be wary of what they are experiencing and to be mindful and now I am a wanna be??

I don't care if the whole world is against me. If I am truthful to myself it is enough. To people still nitpicking on me I have nothing to say. Pls stop trying to portray someone as this and this when you don't actually know them in person. It is easier to point a finger.

On an ending note I will write a poem here

Can I love you?

Not for what you are;

Not for what you were;

Not for what you are going to be;

Can I love you

For just being you?

Oh! Let us rest for some time,

Letting go of all this chase,

On my mind all day;

Can't free myself from you,

You are the drug that keeps me high;

Baby you are my fantasy,

I am too drunk on your love.

It is a lame poem but I wanted to end this post on a good note. Bye!!

Why do you feel such a need to justify yourself anon ? If you wanted to talk privately with me i can answer not anonymous asks privately and my DMs are open.

The reason why people on the blog currently act about you as if you were a wannabe is because according to all the information you have given them anon, you are one. YOU are the one burying yourself deeper and deeper in your justifications. It would have been enough to just read my PSA silently. If you felt targeted that is between you and your conscience. If you are the person I think you are, i told you specifically what behaviors you had and why they would put you in danger. You chose to act dodgy again, not my problem. You chose to come here multiple times, to justify yourself for no reason, to expect emotional labor from strangers.

Im gonna repeat myself again, but i dont give a shit about what you think or dont think yourself as.I dont give a shit wether you are more attracted to jungkook or yoongi or namjoon. I DONT GIVE A SINGLE FUCK ABOUT YOUR YOUTUBE HISTORY EITHER.

What i care about is your actions. And what you did, anon, is repeatedly come into my asks box bc you felt targeted and wanted to justify yourseld repeatedly for things no one accused you of but your conscience. And if you are the person i think you are, your actions are trying to create "hints" inviting people to think you are jks fs, or at least a bts fs. Repeatedly. I warned you of the risk to be harassed or bullied, of falling into spiritual psychosis or obsession. All the cards are in your hands now.

I will not take this matter publicly anymore. You either come talk privately in my dms or I block you, but I will not play this public,guilty telephone game anymore.

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mapsareforbraindeads · 2 months

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Do you think Light would have

Do you think Light would of…

killed his own family, if he won against Near?

After reading the manga, I thought about a scene. Aizawa was with Near one the phone, after confirming that Light and Takada write notes to each-other. Near of course tells him to stop and that Light would maybe even kill him, if he found out about it, because Light dosent see him as a friend, he just sees Aizawa as "a annoying fly" around him. Later Aizawa sits behind Light and thinks: "Light is kira.. but what is with his family? Is he really planning on turning them towards Kira? But how Kira killed their father and husband.. or is Light planning to.. o-oh my god.." Obviously he is thinking about Light killing his mother and sister. Lets go over it.

Things that speak for it: Light said, that he would kill anyone who knows from the notebook, except Mikami because his eyes are useful. This includes Misa. But why should he kill his family and more importantly how is he planning to get away with it? Well his family knows that Light works together with L and the taskfroce (they dont know the real L is dead) to catch Kira. If everyone of them dies, with Light being the only one alive, it would look more then suspicious. Now his mother would probably not suspect her own son of being Kira, but Light probably wouldnt take any chances. He would try to get rid of everything that could stop him, to create his new, perfect world. But how is he going to do it? Well first write that his sister dies from something natrual, like a car crash. Then a few weeks later, he writes that his mother kills herself. His sister was unstable to that time, so it makes sense that she would carelessly run towards a car, who knows maybe she even killed herself. Then because the mother lost her husband and daughter, she kills herself, unable to deal with the pain. Its a tragic but realistic story. Then once everyone is dead, make a puplic massage, that Kira has finally killed L and will know rule the world. The only people knowing that Light was L or even has contact with him are: His family, the taskforce, Mello and the SPK. Light killed all of them, therefor he can simply say that L is dead, defeated by Kira. We also know that Light is cold, at specailly in the second half. He was ready to kill his own father 13 days after he wrote a name in the notebook, the reason why he didnt kill his sister was not because "he loved" her, but because he cant blame her death on Kira if she dies and he was ready to kill everyone he worked with for over 6 years at the end. Also lets not forget how crazy he was in his finally minutes of life.

Things that speak against it: Like I said, its not likely that his mother would accuse Light of being Kira. Then Light could make up some kind of story of how everyone on the taskforce died and he survived. Then he says either that L is dead too or he says that he decided to leave L, because it got too dangerous for him. Once done, he can still say the world that L is dead and that Kira is law, depending on what he told his family, he just needs to wait a few weeks maybe. That way Light wouldnt have to kill his family, however his family still knows that he worked with L and they probably even know that Light was suspected at one point. Of course aslong as they keep quiet about it, nothing should happen, but is Lights love towards his family bigger then his desire to become god? Obha said, that Light actually was sad when his father died, when Light realized that he maybe needed to kill his sister, he looked depressed into the mirror and got frustrated, in the first half Light was worried about killing his family however this probably changed over the years.

Those are all the things I can think of. So what are your thoughts, do you think Light would of done it? Personally I think yes.

anon. are we talking about the same character? have you read the manga? be honest with me.

light modeled his new world after what he learned from his father and wanted it to be filled with people as kind as his sister and mother. he would NOT kill them as some sick power play.

#vari answers

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moonjxsung · 5 months

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hi star my little moonlit angel 😔💖💖

aa im having like the most stressful week and idk where to talk abt it so i hope you dont mind me dumping for a sec :((

exams are killing me rn and idk if its finals week or my final week cs holy shit i am dying 😭😭

ive been pulling all nighters trying to get all my projects and group studies done and my exams are DEF not helping in my case and idk if ive even been eating properly there's probably a spoiled banana from last week in my bag somewhere atp 🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️ (im going mentally insane)

i havent even properly been on tumblr in a while and my social media is blowing up w notifs and dms from friends and ive been too busy to check it either tbh

honestly im hoping itll all turn out well by next week cs is my winter break 🤧

on another note i wanted to dump on my exes when all your anons were doing it but i was too scared to but now i genuinely need to tell u abt this because umm

my fwb is like a super nice guy and ive been friends w him for a while but i recently found out hes rlly good friends with one of my exes ⁉️

basically i asked (my ex) out once and he said yes and i thought we were chill but a few friends ended up asking him if we were dating like two days later without asking me for confirmation first and he said no.. (??)

i assumed he js didnt want like a too public relationship with everyone knowing so to clarify i asked him what was up and he said he ended up having second thoughts on me because his friends called me a red flag and he doesnt like the fact that i have guy friends and im close with them.... (💀💀)

so then i said oh okay..? 😭 and was over it but almost a month later he asked me out and atp he just gave me the icks so i made an excuse saying that i wanna focus on academics and not do anything relationship wise and he said he would wait 😭😭 (he in fact did not pick up the hint!)

then a little over month later he asked me out AGAIN and i said no i dont think i like you anymore sorry and he said oh that's fine and i thought we were chill??

a week later my messages BLEW UP one day and my guy friends were all snitching on him telling me that he's gong around slutshaming me and talking shit abt me for no reason and he said i was desperate and asked him out 3 times when he said no and he was never interested in me in the first place.. and then proceeded to sexualize my body and say weird ass shit abt it to everyone and they believed that i was a desperate whore or smth 😭

this happened a year ago but i was walking down the halls around a month ago and i saw him with his friends so i just rushed past

and his friends were like "oh isnt that the bitch who liked you?" and i heard him say "oh yeah she liked me like a year ago" and then proceeded to sexualize me while i was right fucking there but i dont even want any more drama w him so i dont bother saying anything back or leaking messages or wtv i js hope karma gets back at him 😭

and now idk if i should tell my fwb abt this?? or maybe it doesnt really concern me but it bothers me that hes hanging out with a guy like that and im conflicted on what to do

its not like i have the right to tell him who to be friends with either so 🤷‍♀️

what should i dooo

-《as always, your occasionally appearing but always stalking ☘ annonie》

(p.s. do you have any spotify song reccomendations 🥺🥺)

much lovee

Pooooookie you can always vent here ily ily :(

I’m so sorry to hear you’re stressed from exams :(( I’m rooting for you okay !! Please make sure to eat whenever you can (even if it’s something small!) and stay hydrated :( what’s the use of doing good on finals if your body gives out on you :(

No I feel u on the social media thing I get SO stressed when I have DMs or texts or whatever I just flat out don’t check them. I think I have 200 unread texts rn (it’s been around 1000 at some point) and I know im such a shitty friend but I just cannot respond to them 😭😭 I gotta put me first you guys

WINTER BREAK NEXT WEEK THOOO hang in there baby it’ll get better soon 🥺🫶🫶🫶🫶

OH MY GOD???? Pookie that’s fucking disgusting I’m so sorry you’re dealing with men like that rn???? I had a veryyyy similar situation with a guy who my friend tried to set me up with at a party who kinda liked for a little bit and then when I said I was comfortable being in a relationship he started slutshaming me to everyone under the fucking SUN and apparently he had a discord group where I was just CONSTANTLY the topic of conversation and when I heard about it I cried so hard ☹️ in my case I also had people who were friends with him and I voiced to them that it made me severely uncomfortable. Like the people in my life should know about the people who wronged me (especially if I’m sleeping with them??) and it just made me feel safer. It’s obviously up to you but I would probably tell him just so that he knows that’s someone you’re weary about and you don’t feel safe around ☹️ your safety and your wellbeing is the most important thing pookie ☹️ keep me posted if you need anything at all okay I love you lots and I’m sorry you’re going through this ☹️🫶

Song recs song recs yes here are some I’ve been listening to on repeat all week (there’s only like one kpop song in there but it’s my fav kpop song of all time so TRUST it was gonna make it to the list) I’ve been listening to Glass Animals, TV Girl and M83 on repeat for the entire year I think 😭😭

I love you endlessly okay keep you chin up better days are coming for us !! 🫶🫶🫶🫶 soon it’ll be winter break and you can just sit back and drink hot chocolate and tell me all about it and say you lived through it. Hang in there my love

#☘️ anon #ask

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olderthannetfic · 1 year

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re: Goncharov and unreality.

Right so as someone for who similar topics effect me greatly, I want to explain why people are tagging it for some of the other anons.

I want to make this clear- you dont have to tag for anything you dont want to. Its within your right to tag only what you want to tag, even is someone asks you to tag it. Its your blog. TBF original-posting things in community tags its common courtesy to tag certain common warnings, and people might think you're an ass if you dont, but you dont HAVE to tag unreality or spiders or whatever when its fully your own space.

Now, I have seen a lot of people specifically ask for Goncharov to be tagged for a great many reasons. Its not JUST people ~infantilizing the crazies~. Real people are upset by it like any other thing.

Heres the list of reasons:

Psychosis trigger for things that arent real but are being treated like they are. Its a personal reality vs apparent shared reality mismatch and it can cause someone to think they are having a psychotic episode when so may people seem to be treating it as real, or trigger one outright.

Disassociation trigger for things you remember vs things you dont. Its a 'oh no did I forget something important' thing and a bit of a reality mismatch that can cause people to spiral. Unreality is something that both some dissociative and some psychotic people appreciate being tagged because of this. Im heavy dissociative but I dont need it personally- though I know people who do want unreality tagged for this.

Gaslighting ptsd trigger. This is my problem with similar posts like 'smoothsharking'. It feels like you are being gaslit if you ask someone 'hey serious question is this Goncharov thing real' and they stick to the bit and insist it is or if you say 'hey this isnt real?' not getting the joke and they insist it is at you and mock you for it. If you are very sensitive it can feel like every post is gaslighting you, even if its not the intention to do so. I know we all love making gaslighting jokes on this website, but its a real serious thing actually and people do have triggers for it they appreciate getting tagged.

Autistic and dont get jokes sometimes. If you dont already know its a funny lie people like telling and you correct them and get mocked for it, it fucking sucks actually! Letting people know its Just Jokes helps avoid this. Ive checked the notes for unreality/joke explanations many times for this reason. And people do that 'joyless asshole who hates fun and has to correct you being wrong' screenshot at you when you didnt even know they were doing a joke and just wanted to help and its mean as all hell and similar jokes can upset you thereafter because you remember getting mocked for days about it.

They just find it Fucking Annoying and are asking to tag it because of that. Their dash is just filled with shit they dont care about. Its courteous to tag the fandoms of things you post, as least do that.

Not everyone who dissociate or is autistic or has gaslighting related ptsd is going to need it tagged, but some do, and thats why.

Still up to you to tag, but its not completely without reason for someone to decide to tag it. Some of us crazies DO appreciate it.

Explaining a joke kills it. That's the main reason a lot of people are never going to do so, but also, somebody else always will.

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nyaifyz · 1 year

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"also feel free to provide me more ideas as I am running away from my writers block"

Your word is my command /pos

Some of my ideas didn't make it so I'll double them here if you don't mind, sorry if some of them can be uncomfortable for you, but at least I should try.

Jessica relates suggestions: (Totally not worshipping her AU version)

- What if drones closely related to Noah are going to find out about how Jessica actually treats him

- Same as above, but with stalking and Lizzy. Can't wait to see interaction between Doll and Jessica, maybe arguing about Lizzy or even fighting.. Omg I want to see Jessica with cool weapon now, help

- Showing interaction between Veronica and Jessica? Maybe like bullying Noah together /j..unless?

- We need some R stuff. I do actually think that Jessica and Veronica will get along with R if R is willing to stop with murdering or at least for some reason get in conversation with those two

Other

- T is so cute. Give me T doodles or I will come for your kneecaps. /j

- When I was writing I accidentally thought about every character with different types or weapons starting from guns, knives and ending with basic metal pipes

- Tessa, please?? If Tessa hasn't got a rainbow sticker somewhere in your AU I'm going to give it to her personally. I'm not joking. >;]

- Uzi meeting disassembly drones, maybe even accidentally finding out about Lizzy's and Doll's interaction. Why not?

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Woah that's a lot of text, isn't it? If some of the stuff happened already I'll be greatful if you will tell me because I have a feeling like I missed something. I will give ya more suggestions If you're out of the ideas again. Stuff above related to the pink swap AU btw.

Thanks for reading,

"Silly Anon" - [☣︎]

shakes around you and your list (also dont worry it's pretty hard to make me uncomfortable unless you use 18+ topics)

btw i do plan to reply to your older ask of suggestions but i plan to make drawings for it!!

⚠️Warning for those who are reading the actual au story and not wanting spoilers to future things! But I will still keep some things vague as I like making surprises >:3

Uzi will find out about Jessica's cruel behavior! I honestly can't wait to write it out when it happens

Jessica and R would definitely get along, but who knows if they'll meet :3c

Veronica and Jessica will get to interact a lot! Mainly when Noah or Uzi is present

Also there will be lots of stalking and discovery to come, each drone seems to have a secret they won't share 🤔🤫

Also Jessica will earn weapon rights >:D shes gonna be a badazz

Tessa coming soon >:3 she will still have her sticker! she honestly wont look different, but im hoping ep 4 comes soon so I know how to properly write about her!

Uzi will get to meet Doll, sooner or later, and neither Uzi & lizzy will be happy about it

hopefully that answers all :D

T doodles coming soon but I feel like redesigning him again CUZ HE'S SO HARD TO DRAW SOMEHOW Noah too i cant get his hair right

Also speaking of T, he will get a lot of focus in the au's ep 3 :3

I plan to release a chapter every week, but still posting random doodles and notes

the chapter numbers wont line up with the episode count, but will follow a similar timeline of events!

#hi silly anon #pink swap md au #murder drones #i love writing its so fun when people interact with it #yippee !!

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desudog · 7 months

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for people who dont know.... mainly people coming here from a dif site,

using GIFs from the gif panel that adds the little credit link strip... shows up in the gifmakers notifications (ran into this a lot when i used to make gifs as a minor and had NSFW blogs using them for... some reason.) it directly tells the person what post their gif is used in. just be aware.

replying VIA someone else's reblog of a post notifies them that you are replying there. good tool when for example, theyre reblogging a post asking a question because both the poster and reblogger is confused. if youre gonna get in arguments though... do it on your own RB, spare the notifs of your poor mutual.

you can answer asks privately by the drop down menu where "save to drafts" etc is. this only works if the asker is off anon, but answers the ask back into their own inbox.

blocking someone deletes every ask they sent you. screenshot an ask if you want to keep it, you could lose proof of harassment. (ive been burned by it before)

posting a ton of tags that are not related to the posts contents is considered spam, and you CAN get banned for it.

reblogs cant be searched by the general search with tags... you dont need to tag reblogs of things with regular post tags. tagging # furry # sfw fur # artists on tumblr # sparklefur # support artsist etc on a reblog... doesnt do anything, unless youre using those tags to organize on your own blog. tags are really only useful for personal organization and talking, when it comes to reblogs.

spamming every post you make with something hardly related is really, really annoying to most people. theres no reason to tag a post that just says something like "i like bluey" with # freedom of fiction # proshipping # radqueer # trans artists or something. its just gonna make people block you, and once again, you can be reported for it. yes, you may be a trans person whos an artist who likes bluey, but the post doesnt really meantion that. best to simply tag it as the show, if you really, really think thats a post people would actively want to find.

tumblr clout is fake, huge follower counts dont mean anything here basically. it may look good from the outside but sucks bad to anyone whos ever had those numbers. trust me on this one. theres a reason i remake every time i hit around 70-200 followers.

while some peoples blogs may be aimed at helping others, discourse or discussion, the default is just a blog. meaning, a lot of peoples posts are just person things, and theyre not required by any means to be an educator or respond to arguing. in fact, most people will get kinda pissed if you set up shop to argue on their random 2 note posts.

dont screenshot other peoples posts and then repost them. idk why people do this so much. just reblog it. you can just reblog it. if you think its funny, helpful, just reblog them.

you cant send asks from sideblogs, but you can send anons and sign off the sideblogs @ . its pretty normal. in general, signing off anons is an old tradition on here. a little too afraid to say something super directly? sign off with an emoji or something! you can be someones secret admirer!

you can hide your blog from search results in your settings if you want.

url hoarding can and oftentimes does get you ban. many people get away with it, many people dont. make it clear if you have a url you wanna keep that youre using it or the blog is a WIP.

OPs of a post see every tag if the post isnt deleted. we do. be funny, talk about your ocs, do whatever. just dont be mean.

similarly, dont get mad when you act up on someone elses post and they get mad at you. we see the tags saying "holy fuck this person is stupid". yes we will probably respond to them. you look crazy for getting mad at someone for replying to you coming into their house and calling them dumb.

asks can be "eaten" and disappear for multiple reasons. sometimes its glitches, sometimes its having non-text contents, etc. if you dont have your ask answered and get a little antsy about it you can always ask the blogger if they received it, sometimes they just simply never come through

dms on tumblr SUCK. theyre BAD. asks are a good alternative if you cant stand them and dont have a seperate platform like discord

sending people gore on anon or dms on tumblr is laughable because you probably arent their mutual if youre doing that, and images sent from tumblrs you dont follow get blurred out. thanks for the red and orange gradiant i know what that is and you look stupid. (you shouldnt do it anyways, but if you do, i want you to know you especially look like an idiot doing it on tumblr)

its easy to get ban on tumblr when youre being harassed, even if youve had a perfect track record. getting your blog back can be confusing and frustrating but making alt accounts will only work against you. i made a guide on getting your blog back here. (the post is intended for transid people who got terminated via report spams so ignore the begining post intro, the steps are the same.)

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eldragon-x · 1 year

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I know you said you want to tone down toh posting, but i just wanted to elabarate on the previous Darius ask, it's not negativity, but character musings based on what was implied, so i hope it's ok?

Like, imagine you are Darius, you've been building up your walls and being alone for a long, long, time, possibly decades. And maybe you even used to be a friendly kid, who loved taking up a 'leader' of the friend group role, so initially your new role is foreign for you, but now it is in the past, and you couldnt tell where your personality ends and where your mask begins.

But then you befriend this other Coven Head who is seemingly the opposite of you, but you grow close, and maybe you dont even notice it at first and dont realize that you started to actively care (i know many want Darius and Eberwolf to be longtime friends, but i think Eber being relatively recent fits better with the ER interactions?). Then your old school friend comes back into your life, and you start to care about the new Golden Guard too, and maybe there is a possibility of reconnecting with your other friends, and there are even others, who are not close to you, like Raine's students or Hunter's friends, but are involved in your circle, and your world starts to open up.

Then the DoU happens, and you are forced to come to terms with what your friends mean to you just as the world ends. And then the Collector's reign starts. And, eventually you are free, but turns out both the kid you started to care about and one of your best friends you've just started reconnecting with, were possessed by the same man who ruined your life and your mentor's life, and you were powerless and probably never got any closure with that man (because who knows how Belos will go down, but i doubt Darius would be involved). So how you deal with that?

And Collectors game would absolutely be Darius's worst nightmare because not just losing control and independence, but having the Coven Heads as his mindless puppets who exist for his will was 100% what Belos had wanted too (ok, a bit negativity, but the show writers really didnt think about all the implications with the Collector). If we speculate a little deeper than kids cartoon would, it wouldnt surprise if Darius would have tried to close off again, because that's the only way he knows how to deal with trauma, but hopefully with other adults talking him out of it eventually?

To end on a lighter note, i kinda also imagine silly post-finale where Darius is overwelmed with his new found family and social circle. Like, he gets sick and wants a day off, but people keep checking on him and trying to help, so he is annoyed because he can't rest because of them, but deep inside he is like those crying cats reaction images.

Oooh anon I'm eating this up. The horror of Darius finding out about possessed Hunter and Raine is so real. Once again having Belos harm his loved ones horribly while he himself was unable to do anything about it when things were just getting better again after all this time. Tho at this point I'd just want him to get his happy ending after all that's happened already.

This is how Darius stans can still win for him getting significance in the finale (/j)

Also I absolutely do not mind this. The main reason I want to talk less about toh is just that thinking about s3 makes me more upset at the writing than I should or want to be but I absolutely appreciate a thinkpiece like this, especially about Darius, haha.

#owl house #darius tag #toh spoilers

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vaguely-yandere · 2 years

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omg!! chami chami!! thanks for always taking the time to respond and write out such long, meaningful responses!! u really do spoil me sm!! :D

that being said OMG pls dont take what i said about being friends too seriosuly!! i mean, ofc i wanna be friends w you but in my mind i meant like. just sending asks every so often and talking w u kinda like how we are rn!! i dont need you to remember my interests or anything!! anything i wanna discuss will be put in an ask, like i have been so far!! the great thing about asks is that YOU as the author get to choose when you respond to me!! the only reason i brought up how you might recognize my username is only bc i feel a little embarrassed liking everything and then sending messages on anon, it feels counterintuitive bc i feel like youll just know its me anyways. but please!! dont feel pressured into keeping my likes and dislikes into account bc i dont expect you to :3 were friends as in: i send in my silly little asks and you respond when u want and if u want!! <333

also, luckily im actually really good at setting boundaries!! one of my friends said that the only reason some of the people back in highschool didjt like me was because they thought they could step all over me without me complaining. im really friendly but i let people when i have a problem, which surprisingly, a lot of people cant comprehend?? the ‘mature adults’ were nowhere to be seen LOL ig it was back in highschool but still.

on another note, i honestly love taking up space (when its appropriate!) but i really dont want to overwhelm you!! i do have a tendency to talk a lot and freely express what i think (which is like. 4892992 things all at once as you may have noticed) this ties back into the whole ‘you choose when to respond’ thing bc i can wait as long as i need to to hear from you <33 i love hearing about ur yan OC’s(?) so far!! also dw, everything we discuss is purely fictional and for our silly little imaginations!! fantasy purposes only!! i just wanna make that clear for your comfort :D also idk if i made it clear enough but i am NOT in hs anymore, im a uni student and over 18 i just wanted to make that extra clear so you dont think im a minor!!

ONE LAST THING (i promise i’ll shorten these asks in the future omg): i could be wrong but im kinda getting the feeling you run a little on the mean side when it comes to yanderes(?) which is funny bc im a little on the opposite!! like im imagining us in a room w one of ur yans and theyre like all kneeling at ur feet and stuff while they shake and cry while you degrade them and step on them versus me maybe patting their head and holding them close afterwards to soothe them…the whiplash…<33 i mean, i have a little bit of a mean streak in me too, but i would feel too guilty to be TOO mean to ur yans whereas i feel like you wouldn’t care about that kinda thing and just go all out HAHA i could be wrong lmk!!! but it’s cool to know ur love language is acts of service!! i think that was my second highest, with my top being words of affirmation!! could u tell LOL

- sunny!! <3

aaa sunny darling!! youre spoiling ME with conversation!! honestly, answering asks is significantly easier for me than regular conversation because my monologues are much more socially acceptable and it also just tend to take pressure off of both parties! so dont feel pressured to send in a buncha asks! i just respond so often and so quickly because i too have many many thoughts and many words in my head and typing them out is very helpful! like a journal! and thank you for clarifying you arent a minor and its so nice knowing other people who tend to be disliked because theyre very sure in who they are! i used to struggle with setting boundaries which is very odd because of my personality and now, because i look very idk doormat-y, ppl commonly think they can walk all over me (another reason i like submissive yanderes/characters! they take me seriously from the start without turning me into a mother figure and dont have a weird complex that prevents them from seeing me as a fully functioning adult)

i also love talking a lot and taking up space when appropriate! ironic because i have agoraphobia dkajhfad but its also nice meeting ppl who are very much like me :33! and use yanderes and darker writing as a release from reality or just a nice fantasy instead of using my ideas as examples which has happened before because im pretty talented at writing horror or disturbing or niche things! twas not fun realizing the fanbase you gathered didnt understand the reason why you were writing the things you were writing!

also, dont shorten your asks!!!!! they took away the word limit on them for a REASON!!!! abuse your lack of a word limit to the fullest extent!!!

i do kinda run on the mean side when im being dominant, it kinda makes me feel a bit bad because i have issues even being fake mean but i just love humiliating my yanderes! seeing them get all red, teary eyed, its just so cute (i say that a lot lol)! besides, its so fun knocking them down a few pegs (sometimes with pegging for comedic sake) via some spanking, a slap, and a healthy dose of degrading! with a healthy amount of consent checks as well and soft stuff to balance it out <3 but i think it would be so funny seeing, say, the sensitive yandere having two darlings (the poor thing can barely handle one!!) where one is fairly mean and very degrading, teasing them for their issues controlling themselves, making fun of how red their face is, overstimulating them a bit and then getting passed to darling two who gently cleans them up and kisses away their tears and coos praises to them! their head would be spinning!

which i guess is also the allure of predatory darling! an aggressive side and a gentle side! perfect for everyone! <3

#sunny darling #darling #asks

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garlic-the-gnome · 1 year

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I posted 10,379 times in 2022

That's 8,270 more posts than 2021!

762 posts created (7%)

9,617 posts reblogged (93%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@a-walking-fandom-reference

@emuwarum

@garlicdalek

@infinitetrainss

@sunnibits

I tagged 5,952 of my posts in 2022

Only 43% of my posts had no tags

#its spooky time - 633 posts

#mlp - 605 posts

#autism - 577 posts

#furby - 449 posts

#mlp g4 - 374 posts

#plush - 369 posts

#fraggle rock - 326 posts

#furblr - 318 posts

#frog - 277 posts

#prehistoric creatures - 273 posts

Longest Tag: 139 characters

#i found this in a youtube comment on a video on how vaccines dont cause autism and the anti-vaxxers in the comments were saying some really

My Top Posts in 2022:

I think that one of the reasons allistics say everybody is a little autistic is because of the words we use to describe our experiences.

When I tell people I don't like eye contact because it feels bad they dismiss it and still try to make eye contact with me. When I say that I don't understand social queues they interpret it as a little bit socially awkward and expect me to read between the lines. No matter how I describe how I feel it's always going to be interpreted as a little uncomfortable because they'll always assume I experience things the same way they do. Because I don't have the language to explain how much pain I'm in and how much discomfort things bring.

This is just my experience as one autistic so I am in no means speaking for all autistics when I say this

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Furby art in the wild

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Easy tips for new tumblr users

Change your icon, banner and blog title (its really easy and other users won't think you're a bot and block you)

Customise your blog! Go to edit appearance and switch on custom theme. There are tonnes of pre-made themes that you can install as well as manner bloggers who make them. Just search html theme.

Switch off best things first (it's in settings( this will keep your dash in chronological order (which means you don't see the same stuff over and over)

Be as cringe as you want. Cover your entire dashboard with your favourite character is you want.

Spam liking and rebloging isn't really a thing. There are few users who do block if you reblog to many of their posts but honestly they're not really worth your time.

Turns off likes and following, it clears up your blog and no one really cares about these

REBLOG THINGS. If you a cool piece of art of a post that makes you chuckles click the little arrows and reblog it. If you have short something to say add it in the tags instead unless you want to tag another user or build upon their post.

Use the tags. Put comments and thoughts in them. Use them to organise your blog. They are really easy to use (plus there are fun in the tags games)

Sending anon hate is pointless. If you don't like the person just block them and move on.

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See the full post

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My #1 post of 2022

I think tumblr should sell pikachu man merch

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Get your Tumblr 2022 Year in Review →

#tumblr2022 #year in review #my 2022 tumblr year in review #your tumblr year in review #of course my top post was pikaman🤦

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e-the-village-cryptid · 2 years

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heyo eon i need some advice on smth bc i dont know if i have any ground in this or if im just being a spoilt brat. to preface this im a high schooler and i dont have access to my own debit/credit card/electronic money and rely on asking my parents to order stuff online for me (i usually pay for at least half of it esp if its something expensive) and bc of this my parents and i make deals a lot like i'll do x amount of chores for them to place an online order, chores are kinda like currency (though i dont get an allowence cause they pay for a lot of stuff for me) and i dont mind this its a fair trade especially if im not paying fully for the thing im buying. when i do mind is when they alter the deals midway through like if we agree they'll order somthing for me if i watch my sibling for a few hours and that deal is set like a contract but then suddenly they'll turn around and say no u have to watch your sibling and do the dishes for the week and vaccum the living room. i hate it when they do this it rlly upsets me because i feel like i dont have any control over anything and theylre messing with things that are already set like arent there rules to deals it makes me anxious and panicky. it also might be an autistic thing idk,

thx eon if u get this!!

hey anon! first off, you are not being a spoiled brat, I got a bit pissed off on your behalf just reading this. altering the deal midway through is lying, plain and simple. if someone says "I'll do x if you do y", then you do y and they don't do x, they lied to you and that's not ok. someone who does this routinely is using that lie to manipulate you into agreeing to something that they think you might not have agreed to otherwise. if you feel like you could bring this up with your parents, I would definitely recommend doing so! you might want to include:

possibly starting with that you appreciate that they help you pay for things (it sounds like this is true, making someone feel appreciated never hurts, and it might make them more likely to listen to what you have to say instead of dismissing you)

explain what's upsetting you and why

ask for what you'd prefer they do (for example, to just tell you the whole list at the beginning instead of changing it halfway through). you could maybe emphasize that you aren't trying to get out of chores, you just want consistency and honesty

for example: "I really appreciate that you help me pay for things in exchange for chores, but it makes me really upset when the deal changes halfway through because [all of the reasons you just said]. if you want me to watch my sibling, do the dishes, and vacuum in exchange for helping me pay for the thing, please just tell me that from the beginning instead of adding it later! I'm happy to do it, but I really need to know from the beginning so I can plan for it and feel like the deal is honest. in the future, could you please think of all the chores you want me to do when we first make the deal, and then not change it once we agree?" (obviously you'll have your own way of saying this, this is just an example. also, sending a text or writing a note can be a good way of making sure you say everything you wanted to if you're like me and tend to forget everything you planned to say as soon as you're faced with confrontation)

I don’t know your parents and I don't know how receptive they would be to confrontation, but I hope they would hear you out! you could also start writing down the deal when it's made as proof of what they said in case they later try to pretend that wasn't the deal you made. you are so 100% not in the wrong for wanting your parents to just be honest with you. good luck!

#ask tag

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pan-to-the-head · 27 days

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Thank you so much for asking about the use of 'narcissism' on that aita post. I've had the same question for like two years now but am too afraid to ask, and most discussion of it I've seen ended like how that person talked to you--ending by blaming you somehow and saying you were taking their words in bad faith, when really the term narcissist is older than the diagnosis and, as you pointed out, really isn't different than describing someone as antisocial or paranoid. I think it is different than calling someone autistic or cancerous bc those are medical issues USED as insults, not insults that were then used to DESCRIBE patients (which is the real issue, imo, people are putting the cart before the horse here). Anyways sorry for the long ask, I'm autistic myself and have been wondering forever about this and have never been brave enough to ask outright.

thank for your words, anon! I’m really glad you appreciated what I had to say. I wish I could see the replies from That Person you speak of, but alas, That Person has blocked me. I can only see my own replies. here they are:

I hid their username cause they might not wanna talk to me. yknow, cause they blocked me. totally valid btw. I was being incredibly irritating. apologies.

link to the original post: https://www.tumblr.com/am-i-the-asshole-official/746300326107381760/aita-for-getting-upset-over-my-partners

I may not be able to see That Person’s replies, but there were some other relevant takes on the matter:

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I ran out of colors Mar 29

Pretty much esh, i get being upset but calling him a narcissist is a big no-go. Both of you have a right to be upset here, i hope you can come to a compromise by communicating and not using insults.

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