Now that its morning, all of that initial anger simmered into something a bit more sad lmao Im keeping the other post up bc i REALLY do still mean what i said, but like, i wanted to maybe word it a bit better?

Content creators are not asking for advice. As a general rule of thumb, if your addition to a post (be it a work of art or a snippet or fanfic) is telling said content creator what you DONT like about their work, then just. Dont say anything. I dont know how else to word it lol I learned this shit in elementary school; if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all. Mind ur business and keep it movin

Like. This is going to sound SO mean; but content creators dont care about you, and by you, i specifically mean the kind of person who thinks theyre being helpful by giving ‘feedback’. Adding on to a post with ur own ideas and piggybacking off the initial idea of a post? Okay! Good ! Adding tags on a post that adds your own ideas alongside OPs ideas? Good! Have fun! But adding your own commentary to bash OPs work (and ideas) and uplift your own ideas is just an asshole move. It really is. Like i had No idea who that person was; never interacted w them in my life. It literally feels like someone came up to me in public w a physical copy of my art, and was like “hello! I like this idea alot! And i like ur iteration of this idea, even if its a bit amateurish! 😊 So while im here, lets review some major points that i think need to be fixed!” Like.... get away from me lmfao....id smash ur fucking jaw in if i could...

I dunno. I was afraid that me making that post in the middle of the night would be interpreted as me fishing for compliments or something. Or somehow be taken as me being a brat for seeing something i didnt like on my posts. But I truly see what that person wrote on my post, my ROUGH SKETCH; my ROUGH CONCEPT that i drew AT WORK in like TWO HOURS, with a single google image search of futabas outfit bc the internet was being fucky at work, as like, the most disrespectful thing u could do to a content creator. I need to emphasize that they specifically wrote “i have to unfortunately critique this, so if ur adverse to that, or think it may affect you in a bad way, maybe dont read past this?😊” Their intent was simply critiquing my work, im not exaggerating at all. And if you have to write that as a disclaimer, because u KNOW what that does to a person, ur an ass. And youre not welcome in any corner of the fandom lmao

i was watching strong bad emails today and while watching the ‘email thunder’ episode i saw homestar’s email address and decided itd be a fun url to have (that is, djmankiewicz)

i went to see if it was taken and yeah it is, and its being hoarded, but the blog links to another blog called pinkfathers

bc i kinda like homestar and i dont really know a lot of other people that do i kinda wanted to check the person’s blog out to see what it was like, but the url pinkfathers doesnt belong to any blog on here. there IS a blog called pinkfather, but its not clear whether that blog is supposed to belong to the person who’s hoarding djmankiewicz

pinkfather only has two posts, and both of them (like the header) are in chinese (i dont know if its mandarin or cantonese though). i dont know chinese so disclaimer ive read these posts through google translate, but the most recent post is just pinkfather asking op if they could share their vpn with pinkfather

the second post is Super Long. it talks about how you can extend how long your sex seshes last and improve your general physicality/technique during sex by meditating, consuming ‘aphrodisiac substances’ (foods thatre supposed to sexually stimulate you, apparently weed is one of them), and performing certain exercises thatre supposed to get energy flowing around and through the genital areas and improve your endurance

theres a portion that goes over some readers talking about their (dick) heads being too sensitive and pursuing surgery to remove certain nerves to remedy this, but i cant really tell if op is for or against these kinds of operations (the part “ Wouldn't it be better than surgery? “ makes me think that maybe theyre against)

op (not pinkfather, who only reblogged the post), who im assuming posts stuff like this regularly, refers to their readers as ‘wolf friends’, so this is like, a thing. theres not much else to go over besides the actual exercises and more of the specifics on the aphrodisiac foods which i didnt think were super interesting. also the guy thinks edging is boring so he loses points for that

again i translated the post through google translate so beware but i have a google doc of the whole post translated here

thanks for reading

i was gonna put this under a read more but im fired up and apparently ready for the discourse even though im not going to be the second i actually post it lmao. and as a disclaimer cuz of my last opinionated post: i know this probably sounds angry. thats cuz im kinda angry. people get like that sometimes and make posts that sound angry to vent. and then people hop onto the post saying i shouldnt be angry. im not trying to insult any one person, im not trying to hurt anyone, its only anger for the situation slipping through. try to read and not think im angry at you, i just want you to be angry with me.

anyway lets go.

i have unfollowed a lot of aphobes. ive broken 3+ year long mutuals cuz they posted like, 2 aphobic things. im clearly not here to see aphobes on my dash and im not very tolerant of aphobic posts lmao. but ive also unfollowed a lot of people- aces included- who arent aphobes and could never be, because of aphobic things theyve posted.

by that i mean they reblogged and laughed at posts about ace people going too far in things (like including themselves on a gay or trans post when it probably wasnt appropriate and getting roasted by other commenters, things like that.) posts where they point out and bring all attention to an ace person who messed up, who took something too far, said something a little inappropriate to the situation, maybe something a little insensitive to other sexualities struggles, things that certainly arent great but are easily fixed through gentle guidance. posts that laugh at and mock these people. that belittle them and frame them in an ever growing picture of a “”“classic ‘wanna be oppressed’ ace kid.””” ive unfollowed people who arent and could never be aphobic because while they didnt post that they hate ace people or think they arent lgbt, they really like perpetuating the ideas of the people who do?

when you reblog, laugh at, and mock an ace person who has made a mistake, and the joke is funny because they are ace, you are purposefully adding negativity onto the ace label. the more these posts go around, reblogged by people who think “well its not aphobic! its just this one person who happened to be ace!!!” the more you shit on other peoples views of asexuality, and the easier it becomes for them to justify being aphobic. do you understand? you love ace people, love to support the idea that theyre lgbt sure, but then you turn around and help the people who hate them, exclude them, threaten them, want them gone, by laughing with them, by sharing in their mirth at the expense of what you assume to be just one ace person, but what actually becomes the entire community. and thats not even touching on the fact that with your excuses of not intending to affect the whole community you still think its ok to make fun of someone who made an honest mistake like that instead of educating them on what they did and why they shouldnt have. anyway.

this kind of shit ruins our fight. stomps on everything the ace community is striving for, works for. and it also ruins innocence of ignorance. something that to someone who hasnt experienced a bunch of aphobia would see as just a little mistake, an accidental overview, easily fixed, is actually purposefully aphboic. was made by someone actively trying to exclude ace people but effectively hid it under most peoples ignorance of the problem.

an example is this post:

honestly? this could be excused as just ignorance. someone wanted to make a cute little chart cuz it honestly looks like it effectively simplifies things and includes everyone cuz it doesnt use actual labels! only when you think harder do you realize it excludes ace people (and intersex people?) a quick woops from op and a little bubble added to the side, easy fix! honest mistake right? no harm intended?

but when youre constantly seeing exclustions posts, constantly experiencing this shitty fight for recognition, constantly exposed to the underhanded tactics people will use to hate without getting in trouble, you see it and recognize immediately that it was intended to exclude ace people. it was literally made only to say that ace people arent lgbt. made only to be a “fuck you.”

this happens with anything and everything. suddenly benefit of the doubt doesnt exist anymore, mistakes cant be made anymore, and people who reblog “innocent” posts that mock ace people cant be trusted anymore. because innocent posts mocking ace people dont exist. they are created and enforced and supported by aphobes and exclusionists. ace people and allies who reblog those kinds of posts under the guise of being able to admit their flaws, or because “the people in those posts deserve to be mocked, theyre not part of the ace community I’M in, i’m one of the sane ones, this person is just crazy/stupid” is kinda of laughably the same as girls who only hang with guys cuz theyre “not like other girls, im a cool sane girl, unlike those bitches.” they only serve to further segregate women and pit them against each other which is exactly what sexists want. what keeps them in power. literally the same thing applies to the ace situation. you are not different from the ace on that post, that is your ally, your cousin, your sibling in this community. if you think they messed up and youre better than them somehow then your role should be to show that you know better, that youre a role model they should emulate and copy, that what you do is right. you should NOT cross over to where aphobes and exclusionists stand and laugh with them.

lastly, this isn’t meant to be like, a callout to the specific people ive unfollowed for these reasons, more like a wake up call to the people who honestly, innocently, didnt know. please understand what im trying to say here and stop putting that garbage on my dash. its not “””woke,””” its not keeping it real, its not admitting your faults, it is and has only ever been helping aphobes separate the community. it only ever helps to hurt people. please see and understand that youre hurting people.