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alex51324 · 8 months

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A sensitive topic, but useful information

If you have a uterus, etc., and are dysphoric enough about it that you don't go to the gyno, here's a thing I learned this week that may come in handy one day, if you start having pain or other symptoms from that department:

There's a way you can at least get started on having all those organs checked out, without taking your pants off.

It's called a transabdominal pelvic ultrasound--you lay down, fully clothed, and just pull up your shirt as far as your ribcage, and undo your fly and push your trousers/underwear down to your hipbones. (And if you still feel too exposed, you can get a drape for the parts of your abdomen they aren't working on at any given moment.)

The technician goes over you with the little wand-thing (like you see on TV when pregnant people are getting a scan of the fetus); it takes a while, but it doesn't feel like much of anything.

Note: It's common, if you possess the relevant anatomy, for them to do what's called a transvaginal pelvic ultrasound along with the transabdominal one--that does indeed involve taking your pants off (and worse). It gives a better view of the ovaries, apparently, and it can be more convenient for them to go ahead and do that at the same appointment. But both my doctor and the technician who did the test were completely understanding and familiar with the concept that someone might not be up for that. All I had to do was hint to my doctor that I wasn't comfortable with the internal, and she said that was fine, we'd just do the transabdominal scan, and if that didn't provide enough information we'd talk about options based on whatever the findings were.

(The person at the central scheduling hotline, on the other hand, was kind of confused and kept trying to schedule me for the other thing, but honestly, I got the impression she was either very new to the job or just not the sharpest crayon in the box, bless her heart. Once I got in the room with the technician, she immediately grasped the situation and everything was fine.)

So it was all very easy and nontraumatic, and I probably should have had it done ages ago*. If you possess those organs, and are having pain or other symptoms in them that you've been hesitating to bring up** to a doctor because you're not comfortable having an internal exam, there are options available--hopefully your doctor will suggest it right off the bat, like mine did, but if not you can ask for it by name: transabdominal pelvic ultrasound.

(*I've got ovarian cysts, which is common and usually not a big deal, but if I'm reading the report correctly, mine are really quite surprisingly large. I haven't actually talked to the doctor about the results yet; with the holiday weekend it'll probably be Tuesday before I hear back.)

(**I didn't bring up the subject; the doctor felt something when she was palpating my abdomen during a routine physical, because of how fucking huge this cyst is. I should have brought it up.)

#health #healthcare for your uterus #and uterine accessories #gender dysphoria #if you know someone who had a giant ovarian cyst and didn't die let me know #if they did die don't tell me #giant > 10 cm #it's probably fine but I should stop googling now

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intersex-questions · 7 months

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A beautician is following me for laser hair removal (I am 16 years old and I started about a year ago). My beautician’s boss once checked my hair situation, and she was surprised I still had so many. So you told me I might have PCOS. Then I got scared because I didn’t know anything about it, and I talked to my mom about it. She told me that in fact, especially before, I was "a monkey", although, while I felt uncomfortable with my hair, I never realized I had so much out of the ordinary. We’ll go deeper to see if the beautician was right, but in the meantime, I wanted to talk to someone about it, see if you know anything about PCOS, like how it affects menstruation or anything else.

Having a notable amount of body hair that's above the "norm" is called hirsutism, which is a symptom of hyperandrogenism, and both of those are symptoms of PCOS.

PCOS stands for polycystic ovary syndrome. Despite the name, you do not have to actually have ovarian cysts to have it, although it's likely.

Three main signs of PCOS are:

Hyperandrogenism (which can manifest things such as "excess" body hair, deeper voice, facial hair, clitoromegaly, acne, hair loss in certain areas such as the head--although, everyone's body processes androgens ("male" sex hormones) differently, so not everyone will present with as strong signs of androgenization, even if they have a high level of androgens in their body)

Irregular periods. This can mean a variety of things. Periods can be far longer than other's, such as over a week. They might happen less often in a year, happening in a time frame over than ~28 days for each. Some people might have much lighter periods than most people or even shorter periods, only a few days. Some people might have large blood clots or extreme pain. Endometriosis can occur with PCOS, which often causes extremely painful periods. Pain is not necessary for irregular periods, though. This can also affect your ovulation cycle as well as your fertility.

Polycystic ovaries. Ovaries can become enlarged or inflamed and have multiple fluid filled sacs that often cause pain (although they might not).

Hyperandrogenism, hirsutism, and PCOS often go hand in hand. It can be hard to tell if someone has hyperandrogenism or PCOS, in some cases, especially since hyperandrogenism is a symptom of PCOS and cysts aren't necessary to be diagnosed with it. Some people might have hyperandrogenism for no "real" reason, whereas for others it is believed their hyperandrogenism and PCOS have a medical link. There are definitely cases where these variations in bodies aren't inherently indistinguishable from the other. A medical diagnosis is often useful because it allows for treatment if the patient desires it.

So, to be clear, based on what you describe, it's incredibly likely you have hirsutism, in which cause you may have hyperandrogenism (which, in turn, is a symptom of PCOS).

It's completely okay to be scared. Unknown things are scary, as is learning new things about our body. PCOS may sound like a scary syndrome, but it is incredibly common. Many women and people live with it. Many intersex people view it as an inherently intersex variation, as do they with hyperandrogenism and hirsutism.

While it's important to note that there are gatekeepers who do not, and these people are frowned upon by the vast majority of the intersex community and are often perisex (non-intersex) people.

Some other effects hyperandrogenism/PCOS might have include:

Oily skin

Predisposition to being fat

Smaller breasts

Insulin resistance

Increased libido

Increased muscle mass

Visible Adam's apple

More ambiguous genitalia (ties in with clitoromegaly)

If you have any other questions, feel free to send them! You are not alone. I wish you much luck on your intersex journey. And this is just some unwarranted advice, but do your best to be confident in yourself and your body. Don't let people try to influence you to do things to it or change it, especially with permanent procedures, unless it's something you've truly examined that you want, and not because others have pressured you, told you it's necessary when it isn't, or because you've been overall socially pressured to.

And I relate to that monkey comment, lol. My mom has always called me her little monkey because I've always been super hairy (although in my case, I've always taken great pride in being called that). It's part of why I chose a Pokémon based on a monkey for my new icon!

#asks #Anonymous #pcos #hirsutism #hyperandrogenism #questions #menstruation

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shimenchus · 1 year

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guess whose extreme stomach pain turned out to be a large ovarian cyst that had to be surgically removed ✌️

#i've been gone for a while because i was on bed rest i missed you radblr 🥺

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scotianostra · 4 months

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Scottish physician Ian Donald was born on December 27th 1910.

There are differing versions of Ian Donald’s birthplace, one gives it a Cornwall, another vaguely states Scotland. The last time I posted about the man Wiki was non committal and just gave his date of birth, it now says Cornwall .

Anyway his ancestry is beyond doubt, he was born to John Donald and Helen née Barrow Wilson in 1910. His father was a general practitioner who came from a Paisley family who were immersed in the medical profession.

No matter where he was born Ian Donald’s education was firmly Scottishhe attended Warriston School in Moffat and Fettes College in Edinburgh, following this the family move to South Africa where he graduated BA from the Diocesan College in Cape Town. He then studied medicine and was awarded MB BS at London University in 1937. During 1942-1946 he served as a medical officer in the RAFVR; was mentioned in dispatches and awarded the MBE for rescuing airmen from a burning aircraft. He is considered a Scot though, so we’ll claim him.

So apart from being a brave guy what else has he done? Well during his wartime service he became interested in radar and and sonar technology and with this in mind he worked with T G Brown of the the scientific instrument makers Kelvin & Hughes to create the first diagnostic ultrasound machine, and in 1958, with Brown and John MacVicar, he published his findings in The Lancet. Donald’s idea of using ultrasound to diagnose humans was ridiculed. However, after a large ovarian cyst was diagnosed in a female patient, practitioners took the technology seriously.

He was involved in the planning and design of the Queen Mother’s Hospital in Glasgow, which opened in 1964 and was Regis Professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at Glasgow University, from 1954 to 1976.

In honour of Professor Ian Donald, Professor Asim Kurjak founded the Ian Donald Inter-University School of Medical Ultrasound in Dubrovnik, Croatia in 1981. It is one of the world’s largest school of medical ultrasound and each year many celebrated students come through their advanced courses in medical ultrasonography.

And in recognition of his pioneering work in Ultrasound, an Ian Donald Gold Medal was awarded each year by the International Society of Ultrasound in Obstetrics and Gynaecology to the person whose pioneering work is considered to have the most profound influence in the development of Obstetrical and Gynecological ultrasonography.

The pic shows Donald with one of the earliest machines used in obstetrics, the Diasonograph circa 1960.

Read a wee bit more on the man here https://www.ob-ultrasound.net/iandonaldbio.html

#scotland #scottish #anglo Scottish #physician #doctor #inventor

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batmanisagatewaydrug · 2 months

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Hey Sex Witch! I have a question about ovarian cysts. I had the extremely unpleasant experience of having a cyst burst during sex a few months ago, which landed me in the ER and almost cost me an ovary (according to the Obgyn if it hadn’t stopped bleeding when it did they’d have had to surgically remove the whole thing).

I know hormonal BC is usually used to control cysts and in my case I’m already on it so I don’t get them often, but I guess my question is if you know of any ways of making sure this doesn’t happen again?? All my research says cysts are largely asymptomatic until/unless something goes wrong and in my case it literally just felt like a little bit of bruising from rough sex at first. Any suggestions?? I enjoy penetrative sex but would really, really prefer not to experience that ever again and now I’m nervous.

hi anon,

aside from trying to manage your ovulation with birth control, there's not a lot that you can do to prevent an ovarian cyst. cysts generally occur when something goes wrong with an egg or another part of the ovulation process, which isn't exactly easy to alter or control.

knowing the warning signs of developing cysts - including unusual pelvic pressure, difficulty urinating or defecating, and the aforementioned painful sex - can be helpful for seeking medical intervention before you get to the point of a cyst rupturing, but unfortunately there's really no way of guaranteeing you won't have any more ovarian cysts short of drastic action along the lines of an oophorectomy or full hysterectomy.

#sex edventures 2024

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anoether-life · 25 days

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14.04.1935

It is a bit ironic that one of the first posts to be published on this blog is about Emmy's death, which was today 89 years ago (and similarly the last post will be on her birthday). This will probably also be the longest post since in addition to general information about her death I will also add parts of memorial speeches and letters from her colleagues. But let us start with details about her death first.

After the initial recovery from Emmy's uterine surgery on April 10 went rather well for the first few days, on April 14 her condition suddenly worsened. One of the doctors, Dr. James L. Lichards, described it to Marion Edwards Park (the president of Bryn Mawr College) in a letter from April 24 as follows:

At operation the pelvic tumor was found to be a large ovarian cyst the size of a large cantaloupe. [...] During the early morning of her fourth post-operative day she developed a circulatory collapse from which she seemed to rally under treatment. At noon on that day she suddenly lapsed from consciousness to complete coma with loss of reflexes and a rise of temperature from 102 degrees to 108 degrees. Dr. David Riesman, who saw her in consultation, was of the opinion that, as a part of Dr. Noether’s general circulatory collapse, a blood vessel had ruptured in the region of the vital centers in her head which had caused her sudden relapse at a time when she seemed to be rallying. From that point, Dr. Noether rapidly failed in spite of every effort to save her.

According to Dr. Brooke M. Anspach, another one of Emmy's doctors, it was in fact very likely that Emmy would have died in the near future, if not from complications with this surgery. In her letter to Marion Park from April 15 she states it as follows:

If it is any comfort I may tell you that we have every reason to believe that the outcome was impossible to avoid. Dr. Noether evidently had some unrecognizable disability which would have made itself suddenly manifest without any more exciting cause than her usual routine of work. Unfortunately we see every once in awhile one of our friends apparently in good health suddenly stricken; it would have been the same with her some time. Without doubt the operative procedure hastened it but of course the operation was necessary and if the tumor had not been removed it alone would have been sufficient to have cause her death.

Emmy's death came as a shock to everyone, especially since Bryn Mawr, the Rockefeller Foundation, and Princeton were in deep talks to transform Emmy's temporary appointment at Bryn Mawr into a permanent position. Marion Park held a smaller funeral service at her home with some of Emmy's friends and colleagues on April 17 and there was a larger memorial service in Goodhart Hall, Bryn Mawr College, on April 26, 1935.

There are two memorial accounts I would like to highlight here, the first of which is from a letter by Albert Einstein to the New York Times, which was printed in the Times on May 3, 1935:

In the judgment of the most competent living mathematicians, Fräulein Noether was the most significant creative mathematical genius thus far produced since the higher education of women began. [...] Her unselfish, significant work over a period of many years was rewarded by new rulers of Germany with a dismissal, which cost her the means of maintaining her simple life and the opportunity to carry on her mathematical studies.

The second one is from an obituary printed in the Bryn Mawr Alumnae Bulletin from May 1935:

Professor Brauer, in speaking recently of Miss Noether’s powerful influence professionally and personally among the young scholars who surrounded her in Göttingen, said that they were called the Noether family, and that when she had to leave Göttingen, she dreamed of building again somewhere what was destroyed then. We realize now with pride and thankfulness that we saw the beginning of a new ‘Noether family’ here. To Miss Noether her work was as inevitable and natural as breathing. A background for living taken for granted; but that work was only the core of her relation to students. She lived with them and for them in a perfectly unselfconscious way. She looked on the world with direct friendliness and unfeigned interest, and she wanted them to do the same. Mathematical meetings at the University of Pennsylvania, at Princeton, at New York, began to watch for the little group, slowly growing, which always brought something of the freshness and buoyance of its leader.

After Emmy's body was cremated, her ashes were placed under the walkway around the cloisters of M. Carey Thomas Library at Bryn Mawr College.

#emmy noether

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aalt-ctrl-del · 2 years

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it is very concerning how that the general public forgets that the argument on "abortion" and "reproductive rights" isn't isolated to the topic of "baby in the womb doing stuff".

The whole encompassing topic of body autonomy doesn't start or end at "womb" or "fetus". Those are the buzzwords that republicans love to throw around to simplify the morbid truth of this weird control train. It's what republicans prop up like a cardboard placeholder for the submerged iceberg of everything that they want to control on the topic of body and reproduction autonomy.

And this goes for men too. I know my boys like to pretend that they republicans have no interest in the peepee gun. But the republicans also think condoms and male birth control are the devils work, because dem bois are still killing babies. So when they get done with the ladies, they'll be looking at us all.

Which ties to my next point, aside from birth control measures being removed because it 'kills babies'. The whole topic is a mess because republicans idea of saving babies is for women to get married ASAP and start having babies. Messy. Topic. Bat. Shit. Insanity.

What is more batshit insane than gutting production of birth control and contraceptives, is the general focus on anything to do with the uterus or the ovarian things. Because this is the massive, whole encompassing issue here. In red states, it is difficult if not impossible to get sterilization surgery, regardless the reason. Women and people with uteruses struggle to get healthcare in red states, when their biology connected to the uterus fucks up. Even if the procedure is something that will benefit their quality of life, such as the case of Menorrhagia, Endocrine, Ovarian cysts, and various other illnesses that incapacitate or cause general disruption in health in those with a uterus. Some chemical birth controls help with managing these disorders, but sometimes that isn't enough. Some people go for a hysterectomy, but that all depends. But all of this medical hippa and body autonomy is infringed upon by republicans and red states, under the guise of "Saving babies".

These republicans put the quality and safety of a damn organ, above the person mental and physical health. It's bizarre. It's sick. People with uteruses lose full jurisdiction to their body, because by religious and state ordinance, the body is not their own property. Not fully. The uteruses may not be full of oil, but the republicans sure as hell want to stake a claim in it.

The topic is not a clear cut of black and white, regardless how simple the republican smooth brain schemes tries to posture it. It's dehumanizing and frankly, dystopian. Topics of health and wellness should be governed by no more than two people - the doctor, and the person seeking medical assistance for their body. Governors, Supreme Court, House Representatives - none of those people in those districts have a place in body autonomy regarding a singular organ. They HR, SC, Congress, whoever - they can have discussions of healthcare and affordability and the insurance coverage (which is a fuking nightmare). But when it comes to procedures that people seek to amend personal health issues, they cannot be governed by anyone not privvy to that information.

But that's just a reminder to anyone who thinks "abortion has nothing to do with me because I cannot get preggos". You miss the point it wasn't about babies or pregnancy or protecting/saving anyone. It was about controlling body health and emotional welfare.

You go to the doctors one day because you have heavy bleeding, and you get the results back from tests letting you know "there's a large tumor on your fallopian tube and it needs to be removed." It's not a simple case of scheduling the procedure, even if you have the assets to get this done and insurance that can cover it. Because there's suddenly the possibility you're actually involved in a nefarious plan to kill a baby, and everything about this procedure must be approved by your very red state, just to be sure you're not a heathen. Insurance might not even have jurisdiction to cover it, since this is happening in a red state.

But that's the gist of reproduction rights and body autonomy. It's never been about babies or saving unborn children.

#roe v wade #roe versus wade #reproductive rights #body autonomy #republicans #red states #uterus #fallopian tube #ectopic pregnancy #Menorrhagia #Endocrine #Ovarian cysts #ovarian #cyst

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kamorth · 16 days

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What a Fucking Fortnight

TW: rape? Spousal abuse, suicidal ideation

On Tuesday the 9th I had surgery to remove my fallopian tubes and some large ovarian cysts. They also cauterized almost the entire outside of my uterus to treat endometriosis and gave me a slow release hormone IUD. Surgery went really well. I think. My surgeon turned into a very happy gnome while he was hiving me the details so I think that means good stuff.

On Wednesday, my husband picked a fight because I have been ordered not to have sex for 6 weeks. He said a lot of things that were intended to hurt me as much as possible. Like he always does when he doesn't get his way or the answer he wanted. He exploded at me and asked for a divorce. I said okay. I am sticking with my answer.

On Thursday and Friday he had sex with me.

On Monday he moved out. He crashed on a neighbour's couch.

On Monday night, after he asked the neighbour to go and do grocery shopping for him, he was given a 2 week time limit on the couch.

On Tuesday he told me he was doing really well and was feeling positive about proving himself to me. I had finally had a day I could remember properly since the surgery. It was also the first day since surgery that I hadn't been drugged up to the gills with post-surgery prescription painkillers. He had been taking my pain meds for sudden daily headaches until he moved out.

On Wednesday he begged me to let him come home. He had been pushing buttons and I was very upset, but through the tears I managed to tell him no, I can't let you do that. The third time i said I can't, his face snapped to deep rage and all my buttons stopped working.

On Thursday I found out that he had gone back to the neighbour's place and "tried to kill himself" and the neighbour had to call 911. That is literally all the information I get.

On Friday there is silence. I bought myself a white rose and hung it to dry.

On Saturday i get phonecalls asking if i could bring his laptop (at the neighbour's place) up for him "if I'm planning to visit". I took it up... AFTER I spent the day hitting 420 celebrations with another neighbour. And after the neighbour who had the compurer was awake. He works nights and my husband's bullshit had really messed him up. I find out he is being fast tracked into housing and on suicide watch. His "suicide attempt" was testing a kitchen knife on the back of his arm in full view of his host, saying loudly "yep, that'll work", and then going into the bathroom and locking the door. He has done this multiple times before, last time it took me 15 minutes to get the door and he still managed to not even break skin. When I leave, I tell him I need some time. He says "me too".

I have given this man 13 uears of my life and he treated me like shit the whole time. He doesn't get another second of it. I took myself on a date tonight and watched the moon rise over the Rockies and the sea.

I think this was a good thing actually

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idigitizellp21 · 22 days

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What Are Ovarian Cysts Signal? Understanding Their Implications

Ovarian cysts are a common occurrence among women, often presenting without any noticeable symptoms. While most cysts are benign and resolve on their own, some may signal underlying health issues that require attention. Understanding the signals and implications of ovarian cysts is crucial for timely diagnosis and appropriate management.

Before diving into their signals and implications, it’s essential to comprehend what ovarian cysts are. Ovarian cysts are fluid-filled sacs that develop on the ovaries, the almond-sized organs on either sides of the uterus. These cysts can form during the menstrual cycle and typically dissolve on their own without causing any symptoms. However, in some cases, they may grow larger or cause complications.

If you are facing any of these you may want to get tested for Ovarian Cyst:

1. Pain or Discomfort: One of the primary signals of ovarian cysts is pelvic pain or discomfort. This pain may vary in intensity and can occur on one side or both sides of the pelvis. It may be dull and persistent or sharp and intermittent.

2. Irregular Menstrual Cycles: Ovarian cysts can disrupt the normal menstrual cycle, leading to irregular periods. Women may experience heavier or lighter bleeding than usual, or their periods may become irregular or unpredictable.

3. Bloating or Abdominal Swelling: Some women with ovarian cysts may experience bloating or a sensation of fullness in the abdomen. This bloating can be persistent and may worsen with physical activity or at certain times during the menstrual cycle.

4. Difficulty Emptying the Bladder or Bowels: Large ovarian cysts can exert pressure on nearby organs, such as the bladder and bowel, leading to difficulty emptying them. This may result in increased frequency of urination, constipation, or difficulty passing stools.

5. Pain During Intercourse: Ovarian cysts can cause pain or discomfort during sexual intercourse, particularly if they are large or if there is inflammation or irritation of the surrounding tissues.

6. Nausea or Vomiting: In some cases, ovarian cysts may cause nausea or vomiting, especially if they become twisted or ruptured, leading to complications such as ovarian torsion or internal bleeding.

Implications of Ovarian Cysts:

1. Ovarian Torsion: When an ovarian cyst causes the ovary to twist, it can cut off its blood supply, resulting in a condition called ovarian torsion. This is a medical emergency that requires prompt surgical intervention to prevent damage to the ovary.

2. Infertility: While most ovarian cysts do not affect fertility, certain types, such as endometriomas or cysts associated with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), may interfere with ovulation and reduce fertility. In some cases, surgical removal of the cysts may be necessary to improve fertility.

3. Malignancy Risk: Although rare, some ovarian cysts may be cancerous. Certain characteristics, such as rapid growth, solid components, or abnormal features on imaging tests, may raise suspicion for ovarian cancer. Women with these findings may require further evaluation, including biopsy, to rule out malignancy.

Seeking Medical Evaluation:

Given the potential implications of ovarian cysts, women need to seek medical evaluation if they experience persistent or concerning symptoms. A healthcare provider can perform a pelvic examination and order imaging tests, such as ultrasound or MRI, to assess the size, location, and characteristics of the cysts.

Depending on the findings, further evaluation or treatment may be necessary. Small, asymptomatic cysts may require monitoring, while larger or symptomatic cysts may warrant treatment, such as hormonal therapy or surgical removal.

While ovarian cysts are frequently benign and may resolve without intervention, they can occasionally indicate underlying health concerns or result in complications. Recognizing the signs and implications of ovarian cysts is essential for prompt diagnosis and proper care. Seeking medical evaluation and guidance, and consulting with your gynecologist, can help ensure optimal health and well-being for women.

#Ovarian Cyst #Ovarian #Health #Womens Health #Menstrual Cycle

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she-karev · 25 days

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The Name

Age Rating: 12+

Chapters: One of One

Fandom: Grey’s Anatomy

AN: Hey guys here’s another chapter that takes place immediately after the Birth chapters let me know what you think and I will take One Shot Requests if you have any concerning Andrew DeLuca and Amber Karev or Jolex.

Summary: Amber and Andrew try to decide what to name their baby with Alex and Jo weighing their suggestions. Later Amber talks to Carina.

Words: 2573

Jo Karev walks down the hall pushing Luna Karev in her stroller eager to meet her niece. She would’ve come by sooner, but she was busy assisting Dr. Bailey with a large ovarian cyst on a teenage girl who fainted during sex ed. Now it’s almost midnight and all she wants to do is to enjoy peaceful family time she never had growing up. She sanitizes her hands before entering Amber’s room to find her sitting up in bed opening a box of cookies with DeLuca sitting next to her watching Alex who is sitting in a chair holding the baby sticking his tongue out at her like the fun uncle he already is.

Jo smiles at the sight and speaks in a low voice to not alarm the baby, “Hi someone wants to meet her cousin.” She walks closer until she’s next to Alex who grins at her and introduces the cousins.

“Hey little moon this is your cousin TBD DeLuca.” Jo narrows her eyes at him posing an unspoken question, “Yeah, your auntie Amber and uncle Andrew are still deciding on a name so for now she’s TBD. Look TBD this is your cousin Luna.” Luna looks at the baby inquisitively with a blank face.

Jo gets closer to the baby and sees that instead of a pastel hat they normally give for the babies, she’s now wearing a black one causing her to chuckle, “I see she’s inherited her mom’s sense of style.”

Amber grins, “Yeah what can I say she’s a badass already.”

Jo is still gazing at awe of the baby, “Oh my god she is so beautiful you guys. Dark hair or blonde?”

“Dark I guess his genes beat me on that.”

“But she’s got her mom’s blue eyes. So basically, she’s got all of our best physical features in one package.” Andrew points out causing Alex to chuckle.

“Oh, dude you are so screwed.”

Andrew chuckles in agreement, “I’m already looking into getting a gun locker and automatics to fill it so I can scare the boys away when they come over to pick her up.” Amber chuckles at that, “Yeah laugh now but trust me I know now that your brothers were overprotective for a reason. And they’re probably the reason you didn’t have a teen pregnancy or STD.”

“Or I have sound judgement that came from watching my hormone addled brothers bring in a girl week after week forcing me into the role of a sane person who didn’t think with her genitals.”

“It sounds like when I was growing up with my sister.” Andrew quips, “Except they didn’t date your school friends or exes.”

“And let’s be thankful for that and hope she has better judgement than her aunt and uncle when she reaches teen hood.”

Jo carefully takes the baby from Alex and holds her with a grin, “Hopefully by then you guys will pick a name for her.”

Amber groans at that and explains, “We wanted to wait to meet her but now that we met her, we’re stumped. I mean I test simple names like Emma or Amy but she doesn’t feel like an Emma or Amy. There should be an app for this kind of thing.”

Alex kneels down to Luna in the stroller handing her a toy, “Well hey I might have a suggestion if you’re interested.”

“Please so we don’t look like bad parents and leave the hospital with nothing on the certificate.”

“Well, you know Alex is a pretty good name.” Amber raises an eyebrow at that, “It’s gender neutral in case she doesn’t identify as female, it’s cool and it’s after her favorite uncle.”

Andrew grins shaking his head amused, “You really dug deep for that one, didn’t you?”

“It is just a suggestion.”

Amber looks at the baby for a moment before shaking her head, “No she’s not an Alex, what about you Jo?”

Jo coos at the baby before looking at the couple, “Why don’t you do it the Gilmore Girl’s way? Name her Amber after yourself, guys do it all the time.”

Amber shakes her head immediately, “People kept saying to me Amber is a designated stripper name and I’m not gonna subject my kid to the same torture. So, if you all are thinking Angel, Brittany or Bambi toss it out. What about you Luna? Do you have any ideas?” Luna teethes on the toy absentminded not paying attention causing them to chuckle, “I didn’t think so.”

“Well, how about a character from one of our favorite movies?” Andrew suggests, “I liked Terminator growing up, how about Sarah DeLuca?”

Jo looks at the baby and tries it out, “Sarah DeLuca…no.”

Andrew looks at Amber who’s busy eating her graham crackers, “You love Legally Blonde how does Elle sound?”

“No.”

“Reese?”

“Ugh! No!” Andrew looks at her confused by her disgust and she clarifies, “Reese’s cups.”

“Reese’s pieces.” Jo adds.

“Reese’s puffs that girl will be picked on in the schoolyard.” Alex states.

“It’s just an idea that’s all.” Andrew looks at the baby in Jo’s arms, “We really should name her before we leave though.”

Jo chuckles and speaks to her niece in a baby voice, “Don’t worry TBD if your parents are still clueless by the end of the day Aunt Jo will sneak in and put her own name on the certificate.” Jo grins and puts the baby in Andrew’s arm causing him to grin at his daughter. Amber looks at the baby inquisitively before shaking her head.

“No she’s not a Jo.” Amber adjusts the black hat on her small downy head.

Andrew grins and nods, “No you’re not a Jo.” He cradles the baby who gets fussy and starts to cry.

“Oh no I think she’s hungry, come here baby.” Andrew hands the baby to Amber that immediately stops her crying as Amber holds her against her chest. Amber pulls her gown down one shoulder so she can nurse the baby shocking Alex.

Alex quickly stands up and looks away, “Whoa! Okay I um I should go come on Luna bear let’s leave your aunt to her um business.”

Amber chuckles at her brother’s reaction as the baby’s head covers her pregnancy swollen breast from his and Jo’s sight, “What are you 13? You’re a doctor and this is the natural order of things don’t shame me for giving my baby her nutrients.”

Alex coughs and looks down so he can avoid looking at her feeding the baby directly, “I don’t shame mothers for breastfeeding I just don’t feel like looking at my sister with her chest out even if there’s a baby attached to it.”

“He’s got a point babe.” Andrew says to Amber too distracted feeding the baby.

Amber rolls her eyes at the men, “Oh come on dude you used to give me baths.”

He still looks down, “Yeah when you were two.” He turns to Jo who’s stifling her laughter at the conversation, “Jo, are you good to stay so I can take Luna home?”

Jo grins at him trying to avoid eye contact with Amber, “Yes, I’ll carpool with Link and he can drop me off later. You two go and get some sleep I’ll see you in the morning.”

“Great thanks. Congratulations again tell the hopefully will be named soon baby uncle Alex sends his love.” He takes the stroller and exits the room with Luna in toll. Jo and Amber look at each other in amusement as TBD enjoys her breakfast straight from the breast with Andrew eating a graham cracker out of the box.

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I woke up after I fell asleep to find the sun rising from the window. Andrew left to put the finishing touches on the nursery and I take advantage of a good night’s sleep predicting it’ll be the last one I get for a while now. I hear a baby gurgle and a female with an Italian accent singing low. I sit up and find Carina DeLuca sitting in a chair holding my daughter marveling at her new niece and singing something in Italian. She looks up and smiles at me.

“Buongiorno.” I grin at her as I rub my eyes, “I wanted to see my new niece before I left, where’s Andrea?”

“He’s putting the final touches in the nursery. We got a diaper table a week ago when we thought we had a few weeks before we had something to put on top of it. Now he’s assembling it and I am praying it doesn’t fall apart and we’re forced to change her in either the kitchen or bathroom counter.” Carina sings to the baby again, “That sounds nice.”

“I used to sing it to Andrea when he was little. I’m sorry I wasn’t here earlier I was busy at the station helping with inventory for the clinic and then…”

I see her smile dying down a bit as she looks at my daughter with longing eyes, “And what? Is everything okay?”

“No, I’m fine it’s just that I took a pregnancy test today.”

My eyes widen at that revelation and I tread carefully, “And it was…?”

“Negative.”

I tsk at that, “I’m sorry I know how much you and Maya want a baby but don’t worry there’s always next time. And until then you guys can be the cool, badass aunts who will watch her when Andrew and I need some alone time.”

Carina sighs in despair rocking the baby gently, “At the rate my marriage is going I’m not sure bringing an innocent baby into it is what I want anymore.” I look at her confused and she elaborates further, “Maya has mental health issues.”

“Ah.” I nod knowing full well what she is going through right now.

“And I have lived most of my life living with people with mental health issues and I am good at it. But being in a relationship with someone with mental health issues is something else it’s…no I am not bringing my marital problems on what should be a happy day.” Carina sniffles and looks down at the baby smiling, “I’ve had a bad day but now it’s a good day because even though I don’t have a baby and my wife isn’t here I have a niece I am going to love and spoil for the rest of her life. Isn’t that right bambina?” Carina coos at the sleeping baby.

I sit up further and look her in the eyes so I can help her with her dilemma, “You know it’s okay to be sad about your wife and happy about your niece at the same time. It’s wishful thinking for us to feel one thing our entire lives.”

“Please don’t let me bother you with my problems. It’s not something you should concern yourself with along with new motherhood.”

“I grew up with a schizophrenic mom, a brother who inherited the illness and a husband who lashed out at me when he inherited his father’s illness. I am literally the only person in this world who has insight into your specific problem.” Carina purses her lips at our similarities, “Look you and Maya whatever you’re going through you’ll get through it. I know how frustrating it is to deal with your partner’s problems while they ignore it and take it out on you. The mood swings, the verbal abuse, the questioning where your relationship stands, I have been through it with your brother. It was hell and there was a point where I hated him for doing to me what my mom and brother did to me. I’ve been where you are and the road ahead is not easy, it’s messy and ugly and you’ll feel like your going crazy along with Maya.”

Carina tears up at that and wipes a stray tear while holding my baby, “Is this you trying to make me feel better? Because it’s not working.”

“A messy road like that forced me and Andrew to fight for our relationship and it took a while and I had to tackle a lot of my issues my family put on me. But we came out on the other side stronger than ever. We wouldn’t have done that if the love we shared wasn’t worth it and if we didn’t do that then that little girl wouldn’t be here right now.” Carina grins with tears glistening in her eyes as she looks down at the beautiful baby girl, “Don’t give up, if the love you and Maya have is stronger than your problems then you two can survive this.”

Carina grins grateful to me, “When did you become an optimist?”

“It’s probably the hormones left over.” Carina laughs at that rocking the baby gently.

“Ah bambina you’re not even a day old and your already so popular.” I grin at the baby thinking how much luckier she was than me and thankful I’m giving a good and loving life to her, “I just wish mine and your papa’s mama was here to see you. Your nonna Lucia would have loved you so much and you’d be the most spoiled granddaughter in the world. I’m just grateful to have you in my life now and I’ll be your favorite zia and I’m not gonna tell your aunt Jo.” I chuckle at that and we sit there looking at the baby marveling at the new life. And it was at that moment I knew what to name her.

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Andrew enters Amber’s patient room in his casual gray thermal shirt and jeans since it’s his day off. He finds Amber finishing breastfeeding the baby putting her hospital gown back over her shoulder and the baby looks satiated.

“Hey how are my girls doing?” He grins at them as he sits down next to Amber.

“We’re good she’s already nursing like a pro. Do you want to go to daddy? Let’s go to daddy.” Amber smiles as she carefully hands the baby to Andrew who smiles as he holds her causing the baby to make baby noises and looking up at Andrew with her blue-green eyes that she got from Amber which makes Andrew’s heart swell even more.

“Hi TBD.” Andrew happily greets her, “Oh god we gotta pick out a name otherwise she’s gonna hate us like we hated our parents.”

Amber grins, “I have a name actually, I wanted to run it by you and see what you think.”

“Okay lay it on me let’s see if it’s the one.”

“…Lucia.”

Andrew freezes as soon as he heard it and looks at Amber surprised, “That’s my mother’s name.”

Amber grins at him and explains, “When Carina came by, she kept saying how she wished your mother was here to see her and that’s when I knew what her name was.”

Andrew chuckles softly as a bittersweet ache squeezes his chest. He looks down at the sleeping baby and kisses the top of her small head, “It sounds perfect, Lucia DeLuca.”

Amber nods, “Yeah but maybe we should call her Lucy, doesn’t she look like a Lucy?”

Andrew grins, “She does she very much does.” He continues rocking the baby and turns to Amber with love in his eyes, “I love you; I love both of you thank you for giving me this.”

Amber smiles lovingly, “We love you too.” They then kiss and enjoy this blissful moment with their daughter, Lucy DeLuca.

#greys anatomy #greysanatomyedit #greysedit #season 19 #amber karev #andrew deluca #alex karev #jo wilson #carina deluca #elizabeth gillies #liz gillies #giacomo gianniotti #headcanon #mine

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In terms of sex, could someone identify as female and intersex? I’m AFAB and wasn’t born with ambiguous genitalia. I got diagnosed with PCOS a couple months ago at age 21, but I’ve had symptoms since puberty. Doctors love to gaslight for years lol. I’ve always had much more body hair and facial hair than most women, hormonal acne, very irregular and painful periods, I don’t ovulate most of the time, and I have ovarian cysts. I think I have an intersex experience but I also grew up being told I was female and that’s usually what I write on medical forms. I think my clitoris is a bit big, but other than that, my vulva and vagina look normal. Is it possible to be intersex and female?

Of course! Intersex is not a gender (although for some people, it may be how they define their gender), nor is it one specific sex. Intersex is simply a spectrum of sex that an individual can be on. Some people think intersex is like a "third" sex, that their is male, female, and intersex. But that's a misconception! Intersex has a wide range of variations, and every single person's experience with being intersex is going to be different. Someone might have a completely "normal " looking vulva and/or vagina and still be intersex. Someone might have a completely "normal" looking penis and still be intersex.

The way I and many others define intersex is somewhere along these lines: An umbrella term to describe individuals who have sex characteristics naturally found in their body that do not fit the societal standard of a traditional standard of a male or female body. These sex characteristics can include but aren't limited to: abnormal puberty, fertility, genitalia, and/hormonal levels.

I have an ask that goes into depth about what "counts" as intersex here.

But basically, sex characteristics doesn't just mean your sex (like your vulva). It can refer to secondary sex characteristics like: body hair, muscle mass/fat distribution, voice pitch, facial hair, and more.

If I was ignoring the fact that you had PCOS, I would immediately say that what you describe sounds like being intersex to me. You show signs of hyperandrogenism ("excess" androgens/masculinizing sex hormones), hirsutism ("excess" body hair beyond what's considered the "standard"), hormonal acne, clitoromegaly (large clitoris) as well as irregular periods.

If I'm accounting for the fact you have PCOS, you just are intersex. The vast majority of intersex people consider PCOS an inherently intersex condition, or, at the least, a condition that can be inherently intersex with symptoms like the ones you describe. The main people saying that PCOS isn't intersex are doctors and perisex people, because counting PCOS as inherently intersex would make the percentage of the population that's intersex go up SIGNIFICANTLY. I believe PCOS is inherently intersex, so I am biased when answering this. But even if one doesn't, most intersex people agree that PCOS can be intersex when symptoms like hyperandrogenism are present. The only people I have ever seen say that intersex requires ambiguous genitalia are perisex people. The intersex community, considering they are intersex, know and understand that being intersex isn't limited to primary sex characteristics.

To go back to your question, yes, you can identify as both female and intersex! You can identify your sex as female and your sex as intersex. You can identify your gender as female and your sex/gender as intersex. Some intersex people who are like you might consider their sex intersex, but others might not! It's an individual choice. People who identify as intersex women, including intersex cis women, absolutely exist and are a large amount of the intersex population.

If you feel the intersex label and community is right for you, you are welcome here. I would consider you inherently intersex because of your PCOS and the symptoms of your PCOS. I hope this helps some!

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