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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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Jikook Dynamics vs Other BTS Ships' Dynamics
PREFACE
In a fandom filled with wannabe thugs and edgy shippers obsessed with outing their idols by randomly and whimsically labeling every ship they like as real, perhaps out of negligence and a spirit of competitiveness making it hard to discern which ship, if ever there was one that was, is real; a discourse of this nature is very much needed.
I'm not trying to start a war. I'm simply inviting you to take a critical look at these ships to decide for yourself which one of them is most likely to be real- hypothetically speaking.
In my last post, I stated that there is only one Alternative ship in BTS and that is Jikook. This post is an attempt to shed light on my thought process and explain why I think Jikook is real.
Jikook vs Taekook sounds grim, but I'm going to start off with those two ships simply because they are the two largest ships in BTS at the moment.
Now I am not going to throw around any of the cliches and say stuff like: Jikook are together all the time so they are real. Tae touched Jk's shoulder so- real.
Jikook plays footsies and give each other boners- real. Tae rubbed JK's thigh- sexual tension- real. Tae treats JK as a brother- incest- not real. Jimin says JK is his dongsaeng- can't be real.
Or even ridiculous stuff like, one ship is Fanservice while the other is not- that is basic rookie delulu mentality. On my blog we try not to be basic.
For me, for any of these ships to be real, they must mimic real life romantic relationships, taking into consideration the sociocultural backgrounds the members within the ship are coming from.
They must have all if not most of the requirements for a real life romantic relationship- regardless of whether that is healthy or toxic.
Let's face it, real life relationships aren't exactly perfect. There's codepency, and a degree of toxicity in almost every relationship as much as there are healthy relationship dynamics out there.
A perfectly healthy relationship is an aspiration not the norm. Thus I won't dismiss a ship simply because the interactions between the members may appear toxic. Know what I mean?
It is my understanding that most people who enter into romantic relationships do so because they have needs they want to satisfy. This need could be emotional, physical, sexual or even spiritual in nature.
In a perfect relationship, all your needs will be met by your partner whereas a toxic relationship would have an imbalance of these needs skewed in favor of one party to the detriment of the other.
Thus, when it comes to these ships, it's important that we look at the needs of the individual members to see whether those needs are being met by the person they are being shipped with.
Not only do they have to meet each other's needs, they have to actively takes steps towards the fulfillment of those said needs.
In order to ascertain their needs, we ought to take into consideration these things: their personalities and how that affects their dynamics within the ship, their individual ideals and aspirations, their ideologies about love and what their individual love language is or could be.
I will be discussing each member's love language and ideals: how they recieve love and how they give love- under respective headings and since JK is a common denominator in both ships, I will be juxtaposing each member with him for comparisons sakes.
TAEHYUNG:
Tae doesn't open up much about his feelings and aspirations in life as much as or as often as or even as blatantly as JK or Jimin have done so over the years, in my opinion.
To understand his love language we would have to understand the love language that his primary care givers have given him- very Freudian of me I know.
Tae have talked about how his father is his role model and how he aspires to be like him- taking care of his family and listening to the needs of his children. So we can assume his ideal self is to be a man like his father- a provider, a listener, and a protector.
Which means to express his love for someone he would provide for them, protect them, and listen to them.
He expresses this sentiment in Stigma when he says he cried because he couldn't protect someone he clearly loved. So protecting his love one is high up on his priorities.
Also, it seems his grandmother (a warm and affectionate woman- may she rest in peace) have influenced him a lot with the kindness and tenderness with which she catered for him in his early days.
She is a symbol of what Tae would want emotionally from a partner in order to be fulfilled in a relationship. From this we can assume Tae values affection, nurturing and kindness as these are things he interprets as loving gestures.
Another thing the members have said about Tae is that he likes to ask before he does anything. And that he is quite elaborate and pays attention to details.
Now I won't construe this to mean he likes to ask for permission before he embarks on any endeavor simply because I don't see him as that docile. Rather, I construe this to mean he is a gentleman, that he likes to understand things before he does them.
What this means is that, the person he would want to be in a loving intimate relationship with must be one that he truly and fully understands.
Tae thus has an innate need to be heard and understood. Which comes from his father who listened and paid attention to his needs and his grandmother who was such a nurturer.
To love him you must be kind and affectionate, gentle, understanding, comforting, a good listener and a natural nurturer.
Now, there's only one person in BTS that I know and have seen who meets this criteria for Tae and it is not JK.
Between JK and Jimin, Jimin is the better nurturer. To be fair JK is not one very good at openly sharing his thoughts and his heart and so people might argue he just doesn't show his nurturing side with Tae- if you think like this I'm silently judging you.
Half of the interactions between VMin are off camera and we've seen how Jk expresses himself his feelings with others in other ships. Let's call a spade a spade: Jk does not speak Tae's love language.
Besides Jimin, Suga is the next to meeting Tae's requirement. I mean, Tae has described his ideal girl as someone with a cold exterior but a warm heart- that sounds like the girl version of Yoongi to me. Lol
Tae has described JM in his epistles and songs as a very kind and caring friend who listens to his needs. A person he finds easiest to talk to and often share his pain and sorrow with. It's no secret that VMin are emotionally attached to each other.
Taekook is a beautiful duo but they just don't speak each other's love language to be classified as an Alt Ship or a real couple.
To the best of my knowledge, when it comes to Tae, no member in BTS speaks Tae's love language. Not even Jimin. But Jimin comes close to it.
I see Tae's love language in the kinds of things he expresses joy in or discontent with. Tae loves physical affection, he loves touching and he loves to be touched. He loves being cuddled, being playful and carefree.
However, this side of him has been described as weird, alien-ish by all the members including Jimin. Jimin has referred to this side of him as innocent and naive.
Jimin really understands Tae but even they themselves admitted in Friends that they don't fully understand certain aspects of eachother. And the fact all BTS don't understand this aspect of Tae's personality implies Tae may not be able to connect emotionally and deeply with any of them including JK.
A person romantically invested in him would not only make effort to understand who he is but would have to love and accept him for who he is and reassure and affirm his feelings.
Even with Jimin, how many times have we seen Tae complain about missing Jimin, or wanting to spend quality time alone with him, trying to seperate Jk from Jimin or acting jealous when Jimin isn't fully present with him?
Jimin loves Tae but he too does not speak to Tae's love language.
Tae is a giver. He has a lot of love to give and for him to have a fulfilling relationship he needs a reciever. Someone will to receive the love he offers and reciprocate it.
It seems to me that the kind of man Tae wants to be doesn't align with the kind of man he is currently is and so he keeps working towards that goal.
For him to become that ideal man, he needs a partner who encourages, nurtures him and supports him to be that man.
For instance, in his love letter to Jimin, Tae explained how Jimin gives to him and how he keeps taking and taking from Jimin and doesn't give back - something it seemed he felt bad for doing.
He wants to be a better man and live up to the reputation of his father. To be the provider and protector and nurturer his loved ones needs.
For Taekook to be real, JK would have to be fulfilling this role in Tae's life; cameras or no cameras.
You can hide a relationship but you can never hide intimacy and so I don't buy all these theories about them hiding their relationship or BigHit hiding them.
If there was intimacy in there we wound all have seen it. All I see is their skinship and friendship- a trait you'll find in any ship.
JUNGKOOK:
Sigh. This man. Where should I begin from?
I see a lot of similarities between Tae and JK- personality wise. They've said it themselves, they are like two peas in a pod.
They share similar needs as well in their love language. But that isn't necessarily a good thing. When it comes to love languages it's opposites that attract.
One must be willing to give while the other takes and vice versa. So Tae must be willing to give to JK what Jk needs in an intimate relationship. And what does JK need? His independence. Self assertiveness for starters.
If you know JK, you'd know the one thing he hates is to be babied.
Suga have said JK knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. He is not wrong. Jk is one of the most assertive members of BTS. But he wasn't always this assertive.
Jin and RM both said JK's exterior was just for show. That he was a bit of a pushover in the early days, and wouldnt assert himself much. He would just accept anything but would quickly put up a barrier if it was something he didn't want.
Now I found this quite interesting, because JK in the early days to me seemed very assertive. I saw it in the way he would insist on doing his own laundry, or even 'push' JM away when he tried to initiate skinship or whatever the fuck JM was trying to do with JK back then- Sweet Lord, I never want to revisit that timeline. EVER.
Jk seemed to be very independent even at that early age. And so I felt the members description of him was a bit conflicting. Some said he was shy and a pushover, others said he was a rebel and a blunt person.
Then it occurred to be that, perhaps JK was just suppressing his assertive and dominant side during this time in order to fit into the Maknae persona carved out for him within the group.
To be the youngest, he had to be the quiet shy boy who was submissive to his hyungs. Cultural wise, being the youngest in the group came with a preemptive subordination. And so he had to constantly suppress and repress certain aspects of his personality and live up to the image of the perfect Maknae- the Golden Maknae.
JK had said he was given a lot of room to be himself growing up with his family with little to no control and was only corrected when he was wrong.
However being in a group dynamics, suddenly that self autonomy he had been exposed to at an early age was taken away. He had to subject himself to 6 boys older than him, several managers and a company that was legally required to keep him in check.
That shy, quiet introvert, as much as it bore close resemblance to his true self was a persona.
Both him and Jimin's persona in their early days were nothing but facades, masqueraded identities they had both woven for themselves in order to fit into this bigger picture of idol life.
I call this personal their idol selves.
Jimin had hinted several times how JK was different off camera but that was the same thing the other members were saying about Jimin- that he was the most different off camera.
Over the years both Jimin and JK have learned to drop their Idol personas as both of them are constantly peeling back the covers and unlearning their old identities in order to come into their own, actualized and authentic true self.
Jimin went through this phase faster than JK and I feel Jk is slowly, gradually getting there especially this 2019/2020. You can see this in the way he has been exploring and experimenting with his style lately- he out here dressing like a lesbian from Wisconsin. Lol. Bless him.
Dude is asserting himself- or quite possibly having an identity crisis but chilllleeeee! Let's not talk about that!
What I'm saying is, self assertiveness and autonomy is a huge emotional need of JK's in a relationship. In my opinion of course.
Remember his rain fight with Jimin? Sounds to me he felt his self autonomy was being threatened by Jimin's persistent nature- a reoccurring theme in their dynamics pre 2016.
Jk is very independent. It seems also that he wants to be seen as a manly man- RM's words not mine. He seems to want to be treated as and seen as an adult within the group dynamics.
So the question I ask is, which of these two members- Tae and JM treats JK as a manly man, as his own man and most importantly allows him to be a 'man' over them?
It is not Tae.
JK's need to be seen as a man can be attributed to a myriad of things but for the sake of y'all's sanity I'll limit it to him wanting to be the best version of himself- his ideal self.
Interestingly, his ideal self looks more like Jimin's ideal man and not Tae's.
The way I see him, it feels as if he is and has molded himself to be more of Jimin's ideal man. He wants to be seen as a viable qualified equal partner to Jimin.
He wants to be Jimin's partner, his equal not his subordinate. Not his dongsaeng.
Whether you see it or not, hierarchy plays a huge role in Korean culture and Jk is at the bottom of that hierarchy within the group yet for some reason he insists on seeing and treating Jimin as his equal in rank.
Very often, Jimin describes JK as an immature child, his younger brother. Yet most often he is also the only person out of all the seven to treat Jk like an adult- his equal.
Suga said in the early days that he was fascinated by the fact that JK insists on treating JM as his age mate and not his hyung. Jimin noticed that about JK too early on but I feel he didn't fully comprehend what was going on with JK at the time.
And what was happening was, JK wanted to be his true self with Jimin. His primary care givers through whom he received loved never made him feel like a subordinate. His mother who was older than his father never made him feel like she was the eldest.
Thus if he was seeing Jimin as an intimate friend there was no way he was going to see him as anything but his equal.
As much as Jimin waved the hyung card over JK, JK just didn't treat and still doesn't treat Jimin as his hyung. He can't. Why? Because that would require him to be subordinate to Jimin- the very opposite of his equal partnership love language.
Jk is assertive but more so very assertive with JM and over Jimin. And Jimin allows him to because guess what? Jimin figured it out.
Jimin understands that it's not just JK's personality to be assertive it is also a need requirement of his love language. So when he is allowing Jk to treat him as an equal within their dynamics, he understands he is speaking Jk's love language.
Hell, they both speak each other's love language. But Jimin didn't always understand JK in this way. He had to learn the hard way.
Jimin is a natural nurturer out of all the seven. And yet in their early days he suppressed this part of him and wanted to be seen as something he was not.
He wanted to be the quintessential manly man man- protective, provider, pursuer, leader and basically everything JK doesn't want from a love partner. Lol
This is why I see Taekook as anything but real. There is an imbalance of power within their dynamics. I do not see Taekook as an equal partnership. If they were we'd know. The members would have mentioned it.
As it stands the only person JK treats as an equal is Park Jimin.
What Jk connected to the most, perhaps because he was away from home and needed that comfort that only family could give him was Jimin's nurturing side I think- I said nurturing and not feminine. They are not the same.
In a 2014 interview, JK said he saw Jimin as a hyung most when he comforted him when he cries or when he misses his family. He's said Jimin loves his more than his own brother.
It's just the way he kept associating Jimin with family even as far back as 2013 that just does it for me.
In this same interview- 2014, where Jikook talked about their relationship and Jk was a bit salty about JM not waking him up the morning of that interview. JM had said he and Jk did everything together and even woke eachother up. Upon which Jk was quick to interject and point out his disappointment with JM for not waking him up that morning.
Jimin seemed surprised that Jk was hurt by that. He didn't understand that him caring for Jk in that way was something Jk interpreted as love and affection.
I am yet to see a moment between Taekook that JK has interpreted as his understanding of love and affection even platonic wise.
Jk has a very soft side to him. That is the side his love dwells. It is not in the glances prolonged by subpar editing, or the fist bumps, petting, or skinship that both shippers of these ships drool over.
So yea, Jk wants to be a provider, a protector, a gentleman- to be treated as an equal and not a dongsaeng. Did you see his face when Jimin pet his hair while calling him a child in this year's Festa? That cringe, my God! Lol
And guess which member out of BTS treats him as the youngest Maknae and not an equal? All of BTS- except Jimin.
- Tae squishing JK's cheeks, teasing him, scolding him etc is all cute and fun but those are not acts JK interprets as love. Those are just Tae's love language. That is how Tae chooses to show his love to not just JK but everyone including Yeontan.
And again, all these people respond to him differently- even Yeontan. That dog don't respect Tae for shit. Bless them.
But yea, some of the members enforce their hyung status with Tae, some don't but with JK because JK is much younger, he would always act as the dongsaeng to Tae and the rest except Jimin.
Now you may choose to interpret all these acts of skinship between these pairs as overtly romantic which is fine but the question you have to ask yourself is whether these supposedly romantic acts are acts JK or Tae interpret as romantic acts based on their understanding of love and romance. I argue it's not.
Why? Because again, in that same interview I mentioned earlier, when Jimin described their relationship as love and friendship JK felt awkward about it which made Jimin clarify that he meant love in a platonic sense of the word.
It seems not only does JK associate Jimin with family but also he associates Jimin with nonplatonic feelings. I mean, Jimin was that man's whole sexual awakening. If you know, you know.
It seems to me that Jimin is everything JK wants in a partner from his looks to his talents and his social status. He see's in Jimin his ideal man and so tries to mold himself to also be that ideal man for JM.
Now, some shippers claim Taekook have had some sexual tensions between them over the years... alright then!
To be fair, I have seen those moments. I just don't see any epic sexual awakening beyond the advanced editing in there. And to be fair, Jikookers do this too hence I disregard all such moments-
Nobody is allowed to manipulate my perception of their reality except me. Lmho.
My point is, JK doesn't see skinship as an expression of romantic affection, he doesn't view lack of boundaries as an indication of love interest. And frankly neither does Jimin or Tae. It is why I look at Jikookers with curious suspicion when they claim early days Jimin was in love with JK.
The way I see their dynamics, JK fell first- but that's not what this post is about.
To Jk love is about dependability and reliability-you gotta be there for him too. Jk likes having a clutch, something familiar to fall back onto. You could tell by the time they had that interview in 2014 he had already imprinted on Jimin.
He was expecting Jimin to wake him up because he felt he could rely on him to do that consistently without fail. Expectations had already begun forming between them but you could it was one sided.
Jimin had no idea JK had these expectations of him. And for JK to have such expectations it meant trust had also been built and he felt Jimin was a safe space to park his heart.
I don't see that in Taekook dynamics. Please show it to me- for academic purposes.
Jk values efforts too. He appreciates when people put in efforts with him. And which member within the group does he admire most because of the efforts he puts into things? Jimin.
Jimin tries for him. He tries to be there for JK. He tries to reassure him, affirm him, validate him; even in moments that they are being supposedly separated JM still tries. It is why JK does the same and more for him.
So when y'all tell me Taekook got separated and aren't putting in the effort at least for each other, I wonder if y'all even understand these people you are shipping together.
Jk views love as nurturing, supportive in my opinion. He values exclusivity-which comes from his territorial and possessive nature, companionionship- he wants to go everywhere with you and be near you all the time, affirmation- openly claiming him, and letting others know you are not ashamed to be with him and that you are proud to be his-
This I feel is a reflection of his parents relationship: seeing his mother not being ashamed that he is with someone much younger than she is.
Age difference comes with stigma at times, especially in a group that views hierarchy as important and where the youngests are viewed as inherently subordinate.
Jk wants to be praised, appreciated for the efforts he puts into things. That is seen in his competitive nature. Winning comes with rewards- appreciation of ones efforts.
And out of all the 6 boys, who often praises him at will? Jimin.
He enjoys being a priority? Who doesn't?
Out of the two ships, the person I see often doing all of these where JK is concerned is Jimin: JK is strong, JK will protect me- that is him speaking JK's love language.
He allows JK to be his 'hyung' which is just his way of allowing JK to be the man he wants to be- which is a provider and a protector.
I can go on and on but it's already been two days!
I will skip Jimin's love language and make a seperate post about it.
CONCLUSION
Jk's ideal self is to be a protector and a provider and so often he expresses his love for others by providing for them and protecting them.
It is why I feel he 'rejected' Jimin so much during their early days. I am using rejected for lack of a better word. Jimin wanted to be the provider, the protector, the one pursuing a connection with JK and you just could tell that just wasn't what JK wanted from him. Jk wanted to be that for Jimin.
For Jimin to be the provider and protector JK had to be the nurturer which he of course struggled with because to be a nurturer you'd have to have a sophisticated understanding of human emotions, be brave to enough to be vulnerable or put yourself out there and just plain care.
Who does that sound like to you? To me that's Jimin.
In order to for Jikook to work, JM had to relinquish his hyung status to JK. Something Jimin was more than happy to do. He has said that his masculine side has an equal amount of femininity to it and they cancel each other out.
Jimin can protect and provide for himself but he relinquishes that control to JK and defers to him.
Jk is not hard to figure out. He is a hopeless romantic. You just have to pay attention and listen to his nonverbal clues. Something Jimin has learned to do and perfected over the years. Dude can recite JK like the ten commandments.
You don't do that unless you are trying to speak your love interest's love language. And each time Jimin says Jk is strong he will protect me he is speaking JKs love language.
How many times have we seen JM pass snacks to JK to open for him? In Soop, he passed the Ramen spice to JK to cut open for him. That shit makes JK happy which is why he does it. Jimin makes JK feel and be the man he wants to be. Nobody in BTS does that for him. Nobody.
Jk speaks Jimin's love language too. His entire existence he's tried to mold himself to be Jimin's ideal man. He observes all of Jimin's relationships with the others and you can see he has picked aspects of their personalities that he thinks Jimin connects with:
RM's English speaking capabilities because RMs intelligence is something JM really admires. JM likes his men to look a certain type of way and JK tries to look that same way too. Tae's emotional vulnerability, Jin's ability to listen, Hobi's playfulness, Suga's passion for music- He realy is trying to get the ring. Lmho
There's a lot I want to say on love languages. A lot!
Jikook speak eachother's love language through and through. They are the only pair in BTS that does this! All the other ships are cute and they have beautiful heart swooning moments but when it comes to speaking each other's love languages it's crickets and that includes Taekook.
Interestingly, people within the fandom dismiss Jikook's love language as fanservice. What y'all call fanservice is one of Jimin's love language!
Jimin is a guy who receives flowers from his father on his birthday's wherever he is in the world. He is quite the sentimental guy and a hopeful romantic.
He enjoys the PDA, holding hands in public, wearing couple outfits, celebrating valantines, taking strolls on beaches, checking all answers with his man. Flirting on social media, being the first to wish his man a happy birthday at 0.0 oclock, matching tattoos- you didn't hear this from me though. Lol
Jk doesn't do these kinds of things but he does them anyway because it makes Jimin happy. That is how he speaks JM's love language. Openly showing JM affection makes JM very happy because that is one of JM's love languages!
They are constantly around each other because quality time is their shared love language, being territorial, being attentive to eachother's needs, publicly claiming eachother, acceptance, allowing each other to be the best of themselves- all these are Jikook's shared love language.
Jimin prioritizes Jk, gives him his undivided attention, makes JK the center of his world, claims him, lifts him up because that is JK"s love language camera or no camera. That is how they build their intimacy.
Is Jikook real?? Are you paying attention?
Listen, there is nothing wrong with conventional shipping- enjoying the bond and relationship between the men in these ships platonic wise or even assuming there is a romantic relationship between them. As long as you know the difference between what's real and what's just a fantasy in this regard.
You don't have to force certain serious labels with serious repercussions onto your ship or assume a ship is something that it is not before you can enjoy them. That is such a weird mind set to have.
Jikook and Taekook are both ships and neither of them need to be real to be enjoyable. Not every ship is or has to be an alternative ship. You can enjoy your ship either way.
So when I hear all these conspiracy theories about how Taekook doesn't enjoy showing off their bond, or how BigHit is cutting moments and hiding ships I become exasperated.
Taekook don't speak each other's love language because they aren't romantically interested in each other.
Taekook had a Vlive. Jk was super stressed out during that live( he said so later on weverse himself after the live) because it was his first quasi solo live in a long time and Tae couldn't even tell JK was tensed.
You think if it were Jimin he wouldn't have picked up on it? New Jersey VLive? Hello?
It is little moments like these that makes you wonder.... Tae does a better Job at picking on Jimin's cues more so than he does JK. Remember when he spotted Jikook flirting behind him while he was filming and his face dropped? Remember when Jimin was listening to JK sing and he asked if Jimin was nervous?
So he can tell when Jimin is nervous but he can't tell when his own 'boyfriend' is tensed up? Chilllleeeeee!
In the new Jersey Vlive Jimin picked up on Jk's tensed mood real fast and rubbed JK's chest to release his tension- an act JK does to himself when he is tensed. This comes from knowing and understanding your partner's needs.
Now I am not calling Tae a bad friend. What I am saying is he speaks a different language totally different from JK's or even Jimin's.
Taekook don't need eachother. They each need a Jimin- as far as Love language is concerned. In my opinion.
Another difference is that, even though JK wants to provide and protect he doesn't have a burning need to make decisions in a relationship.
I see often people get confused about their power dynamics because of this. Jk likes to defer the decision making to Jimin.
It is part of JMs nurturing nature to be the the decisive one . So often he is making the decisions for them in their relationship.
Tae is very decisive too but I don't see him relinquishing that control to JK or JK deferring to him.
Until I see Tae and any other member speaking Jimin or Jk's love language- Jikook is real.
Signed,
GOLDY
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jikookepiphany · 6 years
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a jikook analysis of run ep 34
honestly, i didn’t really pay attention to anything in particular in this episode. however after watching the episode for the millionth time, i noticed something. ((( ahhh this is my first analysis so don’t bash me too hard )))
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this is after jin correctly guessed “save me” from the small sound given. obviously in joy, jimin hugs him. at first i just thought it was a v cute jinmin moment (which it was), but i noticed something else.
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i spot jeonlous in the back doing the very memorable mouth thing. after seeing jinmin hug, he whips his head away only to do the mouth thing.
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here’s just an upclose shot of jungkook. 🤗
i don’t know if anyone else noticed this, but i thought this was a cute moment. maybe i’m over analyzing but 🤷🏻‍♀️
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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JIKOOK vs OTHER BTS SHIPS INVOLVING JIKOOK
This conversation is long over due. I know. I have been contemplating on how best to express my sensitiments about these BTS ships in general and how Jikook stands out from them to me without also participating in the outing culture so bare with me.
I started this blog to share my thoughts, my observations and theories about Jikook- not Jikook the ship, Jikook the alternative ship. I'll explain shortly.
You see, I am a shipper shipper. A professional shipper if you will. I ship anything and anyone with a pulse. Hell, I ship Lucifer and his brother Jesus; lord bless me but it's all I could think about as an eight year old in Sabbath School.
But as I grew up, fiction wasn't enough anymore. That's when I started getting into alternative shipping- shipping real life people who are in a real life romantic relationship like the Carters, Harry and Megan, Zayn and Hadid, Rihanna and Drake or any other two pairs that present as a power couple or has the potential to become one. Selena Gomez, I got my eyes on you.
The stakes were much higher in those kinds of ships and I love a challenge. It is why I got into Jikook. They are a power couple- in the making. Gay Icons extraordinaire- In my opinion.
They have so much potential as a couple and as a unit and it is evident in the way BigHit brands them and includes their brand in corporate campaigns and in their in-house marketing strategies as I have explained in previous posts.
Prior to Jikook, I was into Yoonmin, Vmin, Minimoni and basically any ship involving Jimin. I still am. That man is ship compatible with anyone. If you are a shipper shipper you'll know what I mean.
But then somewhere along the way, I noticed Jikook were a bit- different. They lend themselves to be more than a ship and presented a symptom of alternative ship to me. Lord, how they tickled my alternative shipper senses!
Don't get me wrong. Jikook is a ship like any other ship first and foremost. But they are a ship and then some- An alternative ship.
As a ship, they don't invalidate any other ship in BTS including Taekook, Jinkook and all other BTS ships involving them. But as an alternative ship, they render any other ship involving Jimin and JK invalid.
Shipping is just celebrating and enjoying the bond and relationship between two or more people platonic wise or wanting, desiring two people to be in a romantic relationship. This type of shipping presupposes that the ship in question isn't in fact real to begin with but you just hope that they are.
Alternative shipping is different however. Not better, different. It's not just about the fantasy. It is about acknowledging that two people are together romantically and supporting them or rooting for them.
In alternative shipping you are limited in the way you fantasize about your one true pair- because they are real people and you don't have the freedom and range that conventional shipping provides which is no inhibitions.
You don't get to project on to your OTP. At best, you get to live vicariously through them and that is as far as fantasy goes. You don't have much control over their narrative. All you get to do is enjoy their moments, support their relationship, and pray to the good ole shipping gods that they don't break up. I'm dead serious about the praying part.
In conventional shipping you sort of hope that your OTP end up together. In Alternative shipping they are already together and you sort of hope they don't break up. Does it make sense?
Break ups thus are a huge component part of alternative shipping. Alternative shippers constantly keep an eye out for breakup rumors and conflicts. Because why not? Your ship ends as soon as there is a break up. It's a life or death situation, I kid you not.
If you are lucky and your OTP gets back together you thank your stars and you thank them good- I am still very salty about Drake and Rihanna. Very, very salty. *pouting in ships.
It's therefore frustrating to see people within the fandom confuse these two types of shipping. It's fascinating to see the typical conventional 'vanilla' shipper with their pitch fork hurling slurs at alternative shippers whenever they talk about possible conflicts and breakup rumors involving their OTP.
That's just bigotry and gatekeeping at it's finest but let's not talk about that today. Let's talk about Taekook and Jinkook and all the other ships involving JK and Jimin because I receive a lot of Asks about those other ships whenever they have a moment and frankly it's beginning to stress my edges out- I'm growing bald here guys. Lol
For some reason people seem to think those other ship moments invalidates Jikook? Huh??
Listen, Jikook is real whether Jin kisses Jk on the cheek, bum, shoulder, lip or anywhere else. Jikook is real whether Tae hugs Jk, goes on a dinner date, rides with JK or shares a room with him. These other ships do not invalidate Jikook. At all!
And just because Jikook are in a relationship with eachother does not mean they cannot be affectionate with the other members in and outside their band- that's a very Jungkook-esque way of thinking if you think like that and a very Jimin x the rest of BTS-esque way of thinking if you think otherwise!
It's no secret that JK and Jimin hold different views or values with regards to boundaries in relationships or what couples are allowed and not allowed to do with others outside their relationship.
And it makes sense. These are two men coming from the same culture but different households, with different influences and beliefs about a lot of things including love.
The way I see it, from all the Jimlous and Jeonlous moments over the years, Jikook may have the same idea and approach when it comes to boundary enforcement but they hold different views on what behavior constitutes a breach of said boundaries.
Not to mention, they enforce boundaries in different ways.
Boundaries or the lack of it, has always been at the heart of Jikook issues- the fights and conflicts, the breakups etc. From my perspective anyway.
And I find that usually people who have concerns about Jikook's interactions with other members are projecting their own values and ideologies about boundaries in relationships onto these boys.
Now I'm not saying it is wrong to filter their relationship through your own personal experiences and relationship lens. What I'm saying is, it is their relationship and their rules and perhaps we should learn to listen to how they choose to interact with eachother and how they are choosing to define and explain love or boundaries in this case. Isn't that what support is all about?
I've seen some people dismiss Jikook as real simply because Jimin is less territorial over Jk and doesn't hulk out whenever he sees JK interact in a way they describe as disconcerting with Tae, Jin or any of the members.
Jikook are not living out a script. They are real people in a real relationship and if my observations about them is right, they are each other's romantic awakening. They don't have much dating experience outside eachother- in my opinion.
So when people say things like 'if Jikook is real, Jimin wouldn't allow JK to do x with Tae or Jin' or 'I wouldn't allow my significant other to do x with y so Jikook must not be real then' it baffles me. It really does.
While I understand where these sentiments are coming from, I also find it all so very bizarre. Because their behavior in regards to such instances could be influenced by a myriad of things:
Their experience in dating, believes about love and dating, differences in methodologies, their culture, their backgrounds- their behaviors are influenced by a plethora of things. They are in fact complex beings after all.
You see JM is territorial, almost as territorial as JK if not more. And when he feels there's been a cross of boundaries he would react strongly to it. STRONGLY. He is very assertive in that way.
Now, I am not Korean and I cannot say much about their skinship culture. But I can say this, BTS in general lack both physical and emotional boundaries with eachother in my opinion. And this affects the dynamics between Jikook with regards to the enforcement of boundaries in general.
I don't make much of jealousy moments when such moments occur amongst BTS members because they are human and secondly their human nature is amplified by the lack of walls between the.
And it is there in almost every BTS ship. But even jealousy moments in Jikook seem different. I don't call it Jealousy, I call it an acknowledgement of a lack of boundary.
That's how most Jimlous moments look like to me anyway. He seems to express disappointment and displeasure whenever he acknowledges the lack of boundaries between some of the members but especially where JK is concerned.
It is why often I look to Jimin to decide whether JK's 'skinship' with others crosses the line. I don't impose my own understanding of boundaries onto them at all for the mere fact that we come from different cultures.
Now JK on the other hand. Deep sigh. Bless him lord. I don't trust his views on boundaries. Not in the slightest least. Dude is both territorial and possessive and usually i find he confuses the two.
I mean there is nothing wrong with being territorial. Being territorial is also about setting boundaries, asserting those boundaries and demanding that those boundaries be respected by others.
And whereas there is nothing wrong with being territorial, I cannot say the same about being possessive. BTS have said it and JK has admitted it- JK is very possessive. Well he was but lately I noticed he's been working hard on that part of him. Good for him. We stan a healthy relationship.
What is his is his and what is other's his his. Remember when he said that? Jk is the best of BTS and the worst of them. He has inherited their best traits and I'm afraid their worst traits also. In my opinion.
If BTS lacks boundaries with eachother, Jk is worse. We've all seen him try to eat food from RM's mouth. Kid is super duper gross but we love him. Bless him. Lol
Interestingly, JM didn't react strongly to that moment when it happened. I mean JK all but kissed RM in that Bon Voyage moment. Yet somehow Jimim found JK massaging Jin's neck as an issue and reacted strongly to that? What gives?
From my observation, when it comes to enforcing boundaries by Jikook, the person they are enforcing their boundaries against is as relevant as the action being perpetrated and it is all laced with subtexts and contexts that usually we are missing.
What I mean is, JM usually reacts relatively strongly to Jinkook, HopeKook, Taekook more so than Namkook or Yoonkook. And you notice perhaps it's because the dynamics between RM and Kook, Suga and Kook is a tad different than between Jin, Hobi, Tae and Jk.
I mean, Taekook! The evil power twin of BTS! Lol. I know people like to place them in Ravenclaw but lord, I will shove those duo evil incarnate in Slytherin right along with their master Jimin if you give me the sorting hat! Lmho.
Taekook is a beautiful and interesting pair and when they activate their powers band PD gulps nervously. Say ay if you know what I'm talking about! Love them!
But yes, Jin, Hobi and Tae are very playful by nature, and can be very childish at times and this plays into their interactions with Jk. So very often, JM overlooks these interactions between them and JK.
Yet very often too, I feel JM feels those three can be a bit reckless in their interactions with JK and can easily cross the line with him and so JM tends to act weary of their interactions with JK most times as well.
What I mean is, Jin, Hobi and Tae can easily cross JM's boundaries with regards to JK because they are the most carefree and playful members with JK and so Jimin ends up enforcing boundaries with them very often. But he doesn't seem to do that with RM and Suga vs Kook.
The reverse is true for JK.
RM, Suga and Hobi are very care free and playful with JM as compared to say Jin and JM.
The closer two people are, the more playful they are with eachother, the higher the lack of boundaries is between them.
Intimacy and closeness with another human requires, to varying degrees, a certain amount of lowering of walls and with those, boundaries. And when you have a group that's built their brand on their bond and take pride in their intimacy- the lack of emotional and physical boundaries between them-
Like Tae stripping Jk naked to the D in the bathroom or even the emotional connection between Tae and Jimin- that shit is not normal VMin. I enjoy y'all but it's not normal. Lol.
-then it's understandable why setting up boundaries for their relationship and enforcing those boundaries within such an environment would be a bit difficult for Jikook and especially JK who has his possessive and territorial nature to contend with as well.
I mean BTS have said what makes them stand out from other idol groups is their closeness to eachother and they are not wrong. The level of intimacy, the lack of emotional and physical boundaries between all of them, is crazy out of this world!
It's a bit presumptuous to expect Jikook to suddenly have boundaries in certain areas of their lives where boundaries never existed to begin with and to enforce those boundaries against members with whom they individually never had boundaries with.
I feel part of why the other members of BTS seemly have 'issues' with JK and the tensions between Jk and them in regards to Jimin is due to this. And this is especially true for Tae and JK in my opinion.
There's been a lot of tensions between Tae and JK in the past couple of years- 2019 GDA moments for example, Dynamite MV reaction VLive moment for there other.
Tae is one member who has consistently and constantly pushed back against Jk's monopolization of Jimin. And I know I joke about him being on his VMin agenda most times but dude takes that shit seriously. Lol
He's done so actively and passive aggressively through out the years: like when he talked about JK not allowing Jimin to come film a VLive with him, or when he dragged JK way so he could ride with Jimin.
RM does this too post 2018. He used to submit to JK's authority over JM but after 2018 he's been pushing back hard against JK. It's crazy because RM and Tae are two of the members most emotionally dependent on JM. Yet those are the two less territorial over JM. And makes you wonder what gives JK the right to be as territorial over JM or JM over JK. Lord, I said no outing in this post!
RM and Tae lack emotional boundaries with JM and it shows in the way they push back whenever JK tries to enforce boundaries with them. But for some reason, JK doesn't react as strongly to Tae and JM but he flinches when RM as much as breathes near JM.
Now, this could just be because he is closer to Tae than RM but I just think it's because he feels threatened by RM as a viable love interest of JM. But don't take my word for it. I'm delusional.
The boundaries Jikook enforce are not only physical boundaries, they try to enforce emotional boundaries as well.
What that means is that, while we may be looking at a physical interaction involving them and calling for either of them to enforce a boundary there, they might have already enforced an emotional boundary there and so wouldnt be as much bothered by the act- the missing subtext and context aforementioned.
Where we may be worrying about a physical boundary, Jikook may be more concerned about enforcing an emotional boundary somewhere else.
We are not them. We don't see what they see nor do we understand fully what goes on when the cameras go off. The content we see is just a fraction of the interactions that goes on between them.
If Jikook are not sweating it, why should we? Jikook's existence does not estop Jinkook from having skinship nor does it prevent Taekook from being affectionate with each other. And neither of these interactions invalidate Jikook.
JK has been working on his possessiveness issues and lately, since August 2019, he has been trying to not get worked up as much over certain interactions between JM and the other members- I said he has been trying (and failing miserably) He's cute.
Trust me when I say, if he or Jimin feel a boundary is being crossed they will enforce it pronto. They are both very assertive and very not blind.
Needless to say, it is very dangerous to want to interpret every interaction between these men in the light of shipping. The message that sends is that it is not normal for two men to be affectionate and vulnerable with eachother outside a romantic context which in itself is perpetuating a variant of the toxic masculinity couture.
If Jikook is real, any other ship involving JK and JM besides Jikook is equally not real. That is a given. And Jikook and all other ships involving Jikook are mutually exclusive.
Thus, I refrain from assuming Jk and JM are romantically entangled with any other member or even interpret their other ship's interactions to reflect such a conclusion. I just don't see it. Where? Where is it?
There's only one alternative ship in BTS that I see and that is Jikook. The others are mere conventional ships in my opinion.
I don't see JK or JM as the kind to mess with their group's dynamics in that way either. I don't see them as selfish or that reckless. And it's not because I have such profound faith in them as human beings... It's just- JK throws tantrums over the minutest things JM does to let bigger things such as JM cheating on him with another member slide.
I mean, shit, we wouldn't hear the end of it for years and BTS official Twitter will be filled with lots of Adele and Taylor swift song recommendations! Lol
BTS would have to hide all the frying pans in the world! I mean why do you think New Jersey VLive happened? Dude petty as fuck.
No but seriously, I think such a situation would have much more greater repercussions on the group's dynamics as all substantive relationships in BTS has already been formed and there is a moral code at play here: Bros before- I got nothing. Lol
Personally, I don't trust anyone who thinks Taekook is real or that there are any other gay couple besides Jikook in BTS as far as alternative shipping goes.
If Taekook or Jinkook is real I honestly don't see it. Don't get me wrong, Taekook has a lot of potential to be a great power couple- if only they were a couple and JK wasn't a rogue agent in that ship.
JK is a shipper's nightmare for real. Ship him with anyone besides Jimin at your own peril. I wouldn't bet my money on him outside Jikook- god's honest truth.
Anywho, this is just my thoughts on this whole matter. Let me know what y'all think. Namaste.
Signed,
GOLDY
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JIKOOK BE CONCEPT- EXTENDED ANALYSIS
ANON: Hey Goldy, so I want to ask, what makes you look at one moment and decide the tension in there is nothing but then in another moment you claim Jikook are having issues? I ask because of the conclusions you drew on the photoshoot video when you said they were fighting but in two other instances where we can all clearly see that the mood between Jikook is tense like Jimin's mood in the Be Concept Clip and the other interview you have said it's nothing. I don't mean this in a disrespectful way, I just want to understand your thought process if you can walk me through it. It's ok if you don't respond. I love your posts regardless. Keep it up.
Thanks for your question.
I think I try my best as much as possible to share my thought process on why I reach certain conclusions and in instances where I do not have much time to delve deeper into a conversation I state an NB indicating I would be talking further about that particular topic later on?
I think the first thing I can point out to you right off the bat in regards to your question is that we may most likely be having different understandings of tension as pertains to shipping simply because we ship Jikook in different ways.
Again, I do not mean to say my perspective is superior or that someone else's is inferior. I'm just saying we may be having different views on the topic based on the differences in our shipping styles.
To me tension is not just a sense or feeling or mood. It is one of the metrics I employ in assessing whether or not a ship is real- stay with me.
In my experience, while people may be good at hiding a relationship, they can never hide the intimacy of the relationship or the stress of keeping that relationship a secret. Secrets are stressful to keep and they leave stress trails in their wake. It's as simple as that. If any ship is real in BTS you will see its stress marks.
It's not easy standing there, watching your man's nipples being played with, or having another man grope your intimate partner for entertainment purposes while you stand there smiling for the cameras- you can smile, but it's going to be fake.
It's not easy hearing how your man sneaks into another man's shower to watch him bathe and compliment the size of his dick.
It's not easy hearing how you can't stand next to your man in a line up while another person takes that position even if it's just for work.
It's not easy pretending not to love your man, while watching everyone else love on him. It's not easy being told what you can do and not do with your partner much less by your own peers.
It's not easy hiding your love and affection for the person you love, holding yourself back from kissing them, or hugging them or doing any of the intimate stuff you are so used to doing with them- not when you have to be around them all the time.
It's not easy having cameras shoved in your face during your alone, private time with your man, when you are watching them on giant screens and they are right there next to you but you can't hold them- please listen to JK's demo Delcacomania which he released on his birthday last year and you will understand why he cried when JM flew from Paris to see him on his birthday. I cried too.
My point is, it's really not easy keeping a relationship a secret within the same work space as your partner. It's not as easy as other shippers make it seem. That shit is stressful and stress begets tensions and tensions begets conflicts- especially if there are other people attached to the parties in the relationship.
A secret gets heavy before it gets easy but you can never erase the stress that comes with hiding that secret especially not in a group as diverse in personalities as BTS. There are bound to be clashes, there are bound to be slip ups- moments where the fourth wall is breached and many others.
Stress is usually one of the first indicators of people keeping anything a secret. I've been called toxic for this, but I pay a lot of attention to conflicts and tensions within the group dynamics regardless of the degree of that tension because that conflict to me is a sign of stress.
I can tell you for a fact, any ship that is kumbaya in BTS is not real. Any ship whose existence doesn't stress out the group dynamics is a ship made in Disney heading for Never-land. Conflict and tension is a sign of stress and stress is a sign of keeping secrets.
That's not to say every single tension within the group, between Jikook or any other ship is as a result of them keeping that ship a secret. I think we can rule out all forms of contrived tensions at this point- you know which ones I'm talking about. Ain't no damn person up in there tryna steal nobody's man in BTS. The fuck?! Lmho.
Then there are those tensions that are as a result of mood swings, bad hair days, a call being delayed, a missed period- what? some of them have girlfriends, cough cough. Yea, Don't mind me.
Tension could be caused by anything really and so I think it's not enough to point out tensions but you have to try and ascertain the cause and effect of that tension to see if that tension is as a result of the stress that comes with keeping Jikook a secret or whether it is rather causing stress or going to cause a stress in their relationship dynamics-
C'mon, now y'all know if Jimin should thirst over another man that that is going cause a lot of stress not just for JK but the group as well because Jikook's mood affects them too.
Jimlous and Jeonlous are also signs of the stress that comes with keeping Jikook's relationship a secret. Let's be honest, if they were out all of those wouldn't be happening. People wouldn't cross their boundaries as much as they do.
From my perspective, both of Jikook are constantly reacting, poorly might I add, to their relationship being a secret. It seems to me they both hate what they have to do to keep eachother a secret within the group.
Jimin keeps JK a secret by acting as if he is available and JK keeps Jimin a secret by acting as if he doesn't want him- cold, nonchalant, and the way I see them I think it drives them both crazy. Lol.
Jimin doesn't want to come out but he doesn't want to be kept a secret either. He just wants to be in that glass closet whereas JK seems to want to be out or completely hidden- he is not about that middle ground life, I feel. But that doesn't mean he doesn't make compromises especially where Jm is concerned.
Jimin is very conscious and highly judgmental of himself and I think he projects a bit of that into their relationship dynamics. As such he is constantly worrying about feedback, about how their relationship is affecting the group's dynamics.
You see this in the way he runs to JK upon the least complaints by any member about JK. Like when Jin complained about JK not choosing his bag over JM's, or when RM complained about JK buying a birthday present for only JM and not the others.
Or when RM complained about JK showing a song he had written to JM first before showing it to him in a VLive- now they didn't mention who they were talking about exactly but I knew from the moment JM started reciting Jikook's go to response for whenever they are called out for constantly being together, the whole 'we just so happened to be together in that moment,' that they were talking about JK. I don't know, I could be wrong.
JM is constantly trying to mitigate Jungkook's tendencies for exclusivity in their relationship especially where it conflicts with the groups interest even though that exclusivity and preferential treatment feeds directly into his love language.
It's that kumbaya in him I keep talking about. He would sacrifice their happiness for the groups. In my opinion.
But JK aint about that life. His entire philosophy is to pursue personal happiness first. So often, you would see him weaponizing their relationship secret against JM- trying to out him and shit. which in turn, ends up causing their relationship a ton of stress.
The best illustration I can give for this is when JK posted Ending Scene in early parts of 2019 and people started speculating Jikook had broken up because it was a break up song. JM immediately responded to that post with two posts, one about the Calico cat or something and the other pointing out how that song was just a cover. Jimin hates it when JK does something to create the impression that they are not together especially when they are together.
But at the same time, he would take a step back from their relationship, ask for space to try and nurture his other relationships with friends and family when he feels JK coming on too strong on him- like Jimin what do you actually want! You drive me nuts!
What I'm trying to say is that when you point out that JM looks tensed, you should be able to explain why you think he looks tensed.
And if you think his tension goes to the root of their relationship, then you should be able to predict the consequences of that tension too. Lol.
For me, I filter their tensions through their established patterns of behavior, their personalities and the actions that arise from their personalities- listen, the Maknae line can be very melancholic for no reason sometimes. Not sure what goes on but boy can they brood!
You have to consider all these things.
Tensions are obvious, obviously. Or maybe not. Most of them are quite easy to spot. Some not so much. They do go undetected if you are not hyper focused on them in certain moments when they happen or aren't aware of the context or subtext behind such moments.
Perspective is everything. We all don't have the same perspective. But no one holds the truth when it comes to Jikook. We can only speculate in a way that holds meaning to us.
Take for example Jimin and Jin's call during Jimin's VLive in March this year. There are a fraction of shippers who do not believe that that call was intercepted by JK at all simply because they do not see the subtext of that moment. Why would JK do that and not just reveal his identity, they ask. A valid point.
Then there are those who see JK interrupting that call as plausible because they believe they can differentiate between JK and Jin's call voice. Equally valid point.
Then there's me, who think yes that was JK's voice but goes further to try and anwer the questions raised by the first group as that, JK was pushing the boundaries both with JM and Bighit for barring him from doing a live with JM.
As such, I believe that call was an act of rebellion on his part to be allowed to Jikook with his man on the VApp. All that protest would then lead to a pivotal moment of him and JM having their VLive but under heavy surveillance. Lol.
Actions have consequences whether good or bad. Whether positive or negative. It's the cause and effect principle. Every effect has a predictable cause and every action has a specific and predictable effect.
If a moment of tension is created between them that is substantial, it is going to produce a subsequent substantial reaction. Law of Newton- I can't make this shit up. Lmho.
Another moment of this nature for me would be the VMin's unit interview filmed in February/March and released in June during Festa.
Now, if you were following the tensions between V and JK around that period, the context and subtext of that Interview would be easily apparent to you- V was just shading JK left right left. Bless him.
All that random flirting with Jimin- JM lost his Mochi cheeks, his pinky has grown were just code for JM is a grown ass man now so stop being possessive over him.
I have said Jikook have been asserting themselves against eachother this year following the lows of late 2019 and especially around that time period.
For Jimin, that self assertion takes the form of checking JK's over possessiveness over him as that is a huge cause of tensions within the group throughout the years and something that I feel really bothered JM in the later half of 2019 and early half of 2020.
Why does it bother him when he used to be the one enabling that shit in JK? The members, keep up. Lol but not just the members. Remember I said earlier how, Jikook had come under heavy scrutiny with May 2019 to June this year. JM I feel wanted to keep things really on the low but JK- sigh.
Believe it or not, JK dumb whipped ass exposes Jikook more than JM does in their relationship. In the very least his possessiveness and chest puffing when anyone breathes near JM is one of the biggest tells.
We all know Tae is one of the members that have openly pointed out his displeasure with JK keeping JM to himself, cutting him off from his friends and all. Now we all know also that Jimin's pinky is a huge deal to JK. The moment he saw VMin comparing pinkies that's when he began screwing with us for real! Lmho.
JK made a big deal about JM's pinky and also seemed to have a thing for JM's Mochi cheeks too, calling him his Mochi and shit right in front of Tae's salad. Listen, TAE KNOWS. He knows!
So I found it interesting, how those parts of JM were specifically the things that V felt had changed about Jimin- I mean go back and look at Tae's facial expressions and smirk when he started talking about that. Lmho.
Then Jimin clapped back with that whole pinky line from their song Friends, pointing out how contradictory Tae was being. Lol.
To me that has always been one aspect of Tae and JK's ship dynamics that I enjoy so much. Tae is constantly teasing and shading JK and it's so subtle yet passive aggressive sometimes. you might miss it if you don't understand the context of him saying certain things in certain moments.
He don't spare JM sometimes either. Chileee. You never know with this man. Lol.
I mean did y'all catch his jab at JK during Festa when JK brought up the rain fight and he said, yea but that was a long time ago though- give it a rest. When I tell you, this man knew JK was trying to one up him over the whole dumpling fight thingy he had with JM. Lmho.
Then in that dynamite MV reaction VLive when JK and JM tried to eye fuck through the viewfinder? Let's not look into the camera he says so eloquently then side eyes JK- I LOVE THIS MAN!!! Please stay on their necks for me. They play too much! Lmho.
JK's possessiveness over JM is one of the causes of tension within the group I feel and JK have said his hyungs try to teach him not to be so possessive. Tae, RM and Suga to me are those hyungs who keep him in check the most, most times.
All that being said, just because there is tension present between them in a given moment doesn't necessarily mean it's as a result of a conflict between them as I have explained in past posts.
The inverse of this is similarly true. Truth is we can never know these things for sure. We can only speculate.
And personally, as I keep pointing out I have my own metrics for assessing these kinds of things. I get it wrong sometimes and when I do, I simply adjust my metrics and keep it pushing.
It's my own customized metrics, the lens through which I filter their interactions and make sense of their moments and It works for me. Isn't that what having an opinion is about?
I find, some of their interactions or moments follow an established pattern of behavior from their past moments and so it's much easier to call those.
For instance, you don't need a six foot page analysis to identify Jimlous or Jeonlous when you see it. You don't need a crystal ball to tell you when JK nibbles on Jimin's ear that Jimin is nervous. They did that in 2018, they did that in 2019, they've done that in 2020- to me that's become a pattern and when I see JK anywhere near Jimin's ear depending on the setting I will conclude JM is nervous and JK is trying to comfort him.
All that would be left for me to determine then is why Jimin is nervous at all in that moment and if I find he has no reason to be nervous in that instant my next assumption then would be that Jeon Jungkook is horny. I'm not kidding. Jk scares me. Lol.
Don't mind me.
He could be horny or he could be touchy, or he could be just expressing his affections through skinship. All of that is valid so I would employ an elimination approach?
I would rule out Jikook sexual foreplay in instances like that based on whether or not JK's gesture was a mission given to him by the staff based on Jimin's reaction to that gesture- He seemed pretty disappointed when he learned that JK bopping his nose was just a mission.
At times too I test out theories.
Yes, Jimin is an extrovert but does he freeze out JK when he is being an extrovert? He doesn't. We have seen him grabbing the Jeon titties in behind the scenes photoshoot, we have seen JK shove his butt in JM's dick face, we have seen 50 shades of JK grab JM's neck and dip his hand down his neck into his chest region to warm himself up. We have seen Jikook at behind the scenes photo shoots countless times. They gravitate towards eachother.
So if he is being his extrovert self with every body but JK, and JK is orbiting him but not interacting with him as they have done in the past then honestly I don't need my crystal ball to assume something is up between them. Why? Because Jikook's interactions behind the scenes aren't susceptible to false conditionings as compared to the intentional, exaggerated versions of their interactions on camera which sometimes can be laced with fanservice.
Jikook is not fanservice. Most of their behind cameras are moments of them breaching the forth wall. Like JM walking into JK's room without noticing there were cameras in the room. Their mood in there was not a performance and wasn't intended for the cameras and yet they were still close. Them taking a picture at the back of the track was equally that- unintended for the cameras.
What I'm saying is, we have seen Jikook when they are working on camera and when they are not working on camera and that mood in that behind the scenes photoshoot video doesn't fit either description of Jikook in those settings to me regardless of whether I know them personally or not.
What that moment fits into for me is a pattern of behavior that has been consistent with Jikook over the years. And I know people box JM into this whole extrovert personality but as I've said I don't believe anyone is completely extroverted or introverted.
JM to me has a certain degree of introvertedness in him and I've talked about this. He seems to have a bit of an avoidant personality too where he recoils into himself or shut people out in certain moments like how he says he drinks alone and becomes much quieter when he feels stressed out.
He doesn't open up as much about his problems it seems, he bottles it all up untill it eats him up- I'm glad he says when gets like that JK notices his mood and often comes around to do something that makes him laugh. Jimin does same for JK when he is feeling anxious- Please, Jikook is real ok?
So stop telling lies. Lol.
I think this avoidant personality becomes more prominent in moments when he fights or argues with people.
In Manila it was that moment where he noticed JK staring at him and so be moved his seat back to avoid JK's gaze. In VMin dumpling fight, it was him going out to drink with Suga after the fight- classic avoidant behavior. In Yoonmin it was him asking Suga not to touch him when Suga put his hand on his back even though Suga was sat right next to him.
In 2017- was it the behind scenes photoshoot for the billiard pool games? We saw JM literally running away from JK. Lol. He literally side-eyed the fuck out of JK, yeeted himself away from JK the moment he finished posing for the cameras. In that OT7 footage where V was playing with JK's hair, again, he yeeted himself out of there real quick at the end of filming- dude literally said deuces bitches. Lol.
And in the Jin birthday VLive 2019, he pulled away instinctively when JK's knee touched his. In all these instances, JM was keeping up the facade. Smiling and interacting like his normal slytherin/ honorary hufflepuff self but his instinctual reactions is what gave him away. In my opinion.
To me that is a pattern of behavior on JM's part. When he is angry or mad st someone- he avoids them. And it's harder if he has to be within the same space with such person.... I'll circle back to this.
All the times since 2015 when he's been 'mad' at JK he's done just that- Akekeking with everyone else, amplifying his extrovertedness, latching on to his 'clutches' within the group, all the while keeping JK at bay while stealing glances at him to see his reaction at the same time.
And when he notices how that's affecting JK- he literally smirks in satisfaction. Meet evil chim everyone- And I say this with love, he is vindictive as fuck. I mean this is the same person who didnt hesitate to kill Army in a game just for disobeying him- allegedly. Same person who said he would whoop his bandmates except of course for JK and force them to bow at his feet if he was ruler. Did y'all see Tae turning to check JM's reaction when JK made fun of his singing in run? Did you see his passive aggressive reaction to JK after that clowning?
Listen, we all should be scared of Park Jimin. He is sweet and all but fuck with him... I dare you. PJMs are gonna revoke my PJM membership are they not? Oh God! Lol
JK is similar to JM in this regard. He avoids when he is angry or edgy. Try touching him in that state and he is pulling away. He did it with Tae in the Dynamite MV behind scenes where Tae tried to touch him and he pulled away and the whole not wanting to hold hands with Tae at the KBS interview thingy- it actually broke my heart watching that bit. JK. Sigh. Will post and delete the Taekook video I am talking about as soon as I post this- out of respect for their shippers.
JK does the same to JM too sometimes when JM irritates him. Manila and also around On promo when they had that Alex Almanto whatever unit shoot- they were all having fun, there's a cut and suddenly he is pulling away when JM holds him, does the lip thingy, and glares at JM. He turns away to look at Hobi, which I just think he was trying to hide his expression from the camera lol- JM almost burst out into laughter and I nearly peed myself watching that bit- JK can be very petty sometimes. Lmho
He did the same in this controversial photoshoot. He was mad at both JM and Namjoon which explains the part he was dragging his feet when he was walking away from JM. It wasn't because he was waiting for Jimin. He was avoiding Namjoon who was walking ahead of him. In my opinion. And the part he stood with Jin and RM- JM did something hilarious JK giggled a little but turned immediately to Namjoon and when he noticed RM laughing too he stopped laughing. Then he did that thing were he put the fear of God in RM when RM stood close to JM. JK was so angry he forgot his manners when he bumped into Jin in that moment and again, like always. He looked away to avoid the scenery.
Now I don't know what had gone on there but I'm still trying to reconstruct that moment to figure it out. All I know is something went on involving those three and may be Tae too as I have pointed out in previous posts.
JM was mad at JK, JK was mildly mad at JM but heavily mad at RM.
All these things I've mentioned are patterns of behavior that have repeated over the years from my delusional point of view of Jikook's interactions and of their interactions as against the group dynamics.
Circling back to the Be concept clip and JM's mood in there, I gotta ask. Do you think Jimin's mood was as a result of the stress of keeping their relationship a secret in that moment?
It wasn't to me. Even after looking away from JK he went back to looking at JK again. When their eyes met he smiled a little. Whatever was going on with him had nothing to do with JK or their relationship. If it did, he would have been much more hostile than that and frankly JK wouldn't be sat there cheesing the way he was doing in that instance. His butt would have been on fire.
JM seemed- serene and peaceful to me. I actually enjoy him most in his moments of quiet like these.
RM's reaction to that Jikook moment however is an indication of stress to me. He seemed excited, probably wanted to play with his Jiminie but when he noticed JM had looked away his instincts was to check JK's reaction. Not anybody else, JK.
When he noticed JK was smiling at JM he dropped his hands and seemed a bit deflated. That deflation right there is one of the signs of the stress I'm talking about.
RM isn't just the leader he is their friend. Like V his bond with JM suffers from time to time due to our elephant in the room. I am often fascinated by RM and JM's friendship dynamics and would definitely love to have conversation about their dynamics.
I hope this answers your question?
Please keep supporting Jikook. Jikool is real.
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 3 years
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JIKOOK IS WILD'N BEHIND SUGA- AGAIN
It's official, Jikook don lost their minds- or they is madly in love- whatever y'all kids call it these days. Chilee, can't even tell the difference any more at this point. Sigh. When I tell you Jikook is real. Please Jikook is real.
Remember the thing they used to do behind suga in interviews when they were teens? Holding hands behind Suga and what not? They. Are. Still. Doing. It. Again. In. 2020. y'all
I can't with their asses.
I've said this before, I don't do these kinds of analysis- video analysis I mean. I literally can't do it. Lol. If I could I would. Y'all don't know how many days it's taken me to work this simple video edit. And even that I still had to solicit the help of my bestie- I'm starting to think she's more delusional than I am at this point. Lol. Bless her.
Anywho, we went through all that trouble falling on the video editing skills we don't have- well I don't have, I think she did great; not because of Jikook sneaky ass holding hands behind unsuspecting Suga in the the dynamite MV shooting sketch video- which Suga, It's been seven years and you still don't know what goes on between Jikook behind your back?? Jikook are smooth criminals but I'm starting to think Suga in on this. Smirk.
Suga is an accomplice y'all. Enabling these shenanigans as if he don't know. He knows!
Since my last post on VMinKookJoon's tensions, where I talked briefly about the subtle tensions that I've been noticing between Tae and JK throughout this year, it's come to my attention that Tuktukkers are running around the internet claiming the tension between V and Kook, in one of the clips I pointed out, had been because JK had been mad and Jealous over Jin wrapping his hands around Tae...
I respect their hustle. I really do. Plus, I don't like to meddle in other people's delusions- it brings me no joy whatsoever.
But...
Jk wasn't jealous over Tae shit- In my humble opinion. Was he mad at Tae? Yes. Did Tae notice JK was mad at him and hence drew a sad face? Yes he did. The video evidence is there. All of that happened.
If you've not seen the moment I am talking about please check my previous post to see what I'm talking about. I said I was going to delete it- well I lied. Lol.
The tension between Kook and Tae in that Dynamite Shoot Sketch wasn't because JK was jealous that Tae and Jin were flirting and playing around behind him, it was because Tae had almost accidentally exposed Jikook flirting behind Suga- Something, I assume JK thought V had done on purpose. Hear me out.
Tae was sad because, he genuinely didn't intend to pull on JK's shoulder the way he did causing JK to toggle slightly away from Suga- I wish I could show you this in a video analysis. This is frustrating! But I suck at tech stuff. Ugh!!!
What had happened was:
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At the start of that scene, Jimin it seemed wanted to be close to JK- by close I mean he wanted to touch up on JK, feel up on him, kiss up on him, love up on him, hold him, slow dance with him, make love to him- Uno, horny grown up couple stuff. Lol.
Don't mind me.
I don't know what was going through his head in that moment but clearly he was craving some form of physical connection from JK hence why he initiated that contact.
You could see the progression of them drawing closer and closer to eachother, trapping Suga in between them.
Listen, JM is scary when he is high on adrenaline! That's when he starts rubbing JK's thighs and foot and- sweet lord he is wild. Chileeee!
He placed his hand in his pockets and pushed his body against Suga's but once he does that he takes his hand out and tugs on JK's arm or something- smooth criminal this one.
JK noticed what JM was up to so he did the same thing- pushed his body against Suga and held JM's hand. Then there was a cut.
It's hard to spot except for that the two had ended up after the cut sandwiching Suga in between them. Had it not been for Tae that moment would have gone undetected.
Whatever they were doing behind Suga, it seemed Tae had clocked on. He turned his gaze in their direction briefly and looked away suspiciously- Tae... How that man is great at acting but sucks at hiding his feelings beats me. Lmho.
This is the same person y'all swear is hiding a relationship in BTS? He mustn't be feeling emotions for this person then. Chileee.
Dude glanced at JM and exchanged what I could only assume was a disapproving stare at JM in the process. I bet he wanted to scream, 'let's not hold hands behind our hyungs' in that moment. Lol.
I think JK noticed Tae glancing at whatever they were doing with their hands behind Suga but kept his cool- so Jikook, y'all did all of that with a straight face? Damn they slick!
Unfortunately, Jin pushed Tae- I don't know if that was by accident because Jin was just playing around with Tae. However, because Tae had his hand wrapped around JK, he had ended up dragging JK along with him- That's when the Taekook saga began. Lol.
I believe JK had assumed Tae had done that bit on purpose because as I've said it is part of Taekook's dynamics - Tae is constantly teasing and shading JK and even sometimes passive aggressively exposing Jikook's antics as seen in the dynamite MV reaction VLive.
Remember in their earlier dynamics, that moment when JK wanted JM to stand next to him but Tae was in the middle so he kept poking at Tae's ribs to move? And JM too was low key pulling on Tae's shirt to move at the same time but Tae deadass wouldn't move?
I'M DEAD🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tae is that friend! Chileee. I just love him to bits!
I think Jk found it ironic that Tae should place his hand over his shoulders when a few seconds ago he had attempted to separate him from his man which is why he had that look on his face when he glanced at Tae's hand on his shoulder.
Frankly that thing is something that I feel irks JK a lot. Not just when Tae does it, but when RM or Hobi or Suga or anyone else does it.
That's what most of these Jeonlous moments are about really, especially in recent times.
For example, him elbowing RM to get his hands off Jimin in their recent Home performance wasn't because he was jealous. It's more so he was annoyed. If you paid attention to the 'fan service' bit Jikook did in the bedroom scene it's clear they had been given a talking to- to keep things PG, just as RM had indicated in JK's bdae VLive when he said they had all agreed before filming not to do and say certain things.
I could see then why it would irritate JK if anyone else would freely do skinship with JM but then censor him if he tried to do it with Jimin too- know what I mean?
Most of these 'jeonlous' moments are just JK basically saying, let's all be held to the same standards- if I can't do this with Jimin, atatatatatat, neither can y'all.
Gotta keep the same energy.
This is what I mean by stress. You can hide a relationship but you can't hide the stress that comes with keeping that relationship a secret. These kinds of tensions are bound to arise as a result of keeping Jikook a secret.
I mean there is a reason Jikook try so hard not to look like a secret. There is a reason they play off some of their interactions as 'fanservice'. They do that to take the edge off because keeping secrets is hard.
And so when you look at that moment, and you see how freely TaeJin were 'flirting' and having fun openly, but JK and JM had to sneak behind Suga's back to have a moment; and to have Tae pull on JK like that- I get why JK would be triggered. But honestly Tae didn't do it on purpose. Not this time around. Lol
Chileee, JK! You scare me! Lmho. He out here scaring people for no reason! Had Tae looking like he about to call Jimin to arrange a heart to heart meeting with Kook again. Chileeee.
It broke my heart watching that bit because Tae honestly didn't do that bit on purpose. I can vouch for him, JK. It is why Tae had that look on his face. He hadn't intended that bit.
This does not mean however that each time or all the times that Jk has pulled away from Tae when Tae has tried to hold his hands or do certain things with him like in all the times I've mentioned or during the recent On:e concert, that it's because he felt V was trying to sabotage his moments. That's a silly thought.
I can pull out a list of all the times there's been tensions between those two especially this year and I can tell you only a hand full of those moments have anything to do with JK's relationship with JM.
Some are about him trying to enforce his personal boundaries which he does with all the members as well, among other things.
Taekook have their own issues going on which has nothing to do with JM. Whatever falling out they had had in the past, Tae has been really trying to rebuild their connection- they both have been putting in the effort and I hope they can fix things and go back to the way that they were before because I kinda miss the old them. Sigh.
Anywho, when JM noticed what had happened- that Tae had pulled on JK's shoulder , I think he too thought Tae had done that bit on purpose. He dropped his hand from Hobi's shoulder and composed himself. I think he tried to take his hands down but JK wouldn't let go of his hand. Lol.
So when the music started playing and they were all dancing, JK and JM were the only once dancing with Just one hand each and you could see JM's shoulder inches away from Suga- Yoonminers I see you. I love y'all but JM wasn't holding Suga's waist. Don't get any ideas. Lol.
When they started moving away at the end of the video, that's when you can clearly see JM's hand drop down from behind Suga.
Listen, Jikook are smooth criminals but they ain't slick. They tried it. All that body pressed up against Suga, chilee I thought they were going to crash that man.
Jikook have been pretty sneaky this comeback. For good reason I guess. Jk throwing the boy with love sign at JM after JM kicked him during the second day concert, and this moment right here amongst others so far are my favorite.
I love it here.
Please go watch the original footage for yourself and draw your own conclusions.
My conclusion is, 'Jikook gay, Jikook married' Jikook is real, keep supporting them.
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 3 years
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hi goldy!! ❤️❤️ do you think during some break up periods jikook tried to be with other people?
This question...
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Lol. I mean... if you count Jimin's Paris girls and JK's tattoo girl as other people lol. I don't.
Unless you mean other people within BTS? In which case, don't mind if I silently judge you. Lol.
I don't like speculating on persons outside of BTS because it's their private life and they didn't sign up for this. Plus it can be very invasive and my conscience just won't let me...
But I don't think Jimin moves on that easily or quickly from a breakup to be honest. He values human relationships and connections with other people and has a very high emotional intelligence quotient to resort to 'using' others to fix his emotional problems.
He cares about others' feelings and how his actions impact them emotionally- I mean did you see him turn to Kook to ask if Kook was ok with him saying he liked him on camera during one of their logs in the early days?
He is awfully self aware in the way that he conducts himself around people. It's why I smirk when people say he 'harasses' JK often and that JK doesn't like him being all over him. Believe me, Jimin doesn't do anything JK whipped ass don't enjoy. And when he seem like he is pushing JK's boundaries a tad bit much or smothering JK, it's usually him teasing JK and JK knows it. They both have a way of using things that make eachother uncomfortable to tease eachother and I don't think they both mind- I think people need to stop acting like Jikook abuse eachother when they tease eachother.
They abuse eachother alright- in bedroom huh! Lol. Sorry. Couldn't help it. Lmho.
The best example I can give you of this is these two recent Run episodes. If you pay attention to the sequence of events and the progression of Jikook's interactions, you would notice how JM was trying a little bit harder to interact with JK in the beginning of the episode and JK kept pulling away to enforce his boundaries?
But when JM noticed JK wasn't open to recieve and reciprocate those advances he was making he sort of backed away immediately. As such, towards the end of episode 116 and throughout 117 you could see JM respecting those boundaries JK was putting up with him. As such, he would reserve himself and would move past JK and offer his hug to the other members instead- out of respect for Kook, not spite. Mind you.
I think he is more likely to try and fix his relationship with Kook than to rebound with other people or try to be with other people knowing full well he still has feelings for Kook. Listen, Jimin is not letting go of his feelings for Kook anytime soon. He is too deep in it. I mean this is the person who's said when he falls in love he wants it to be forever. He is not letting JK go anytime soon.
This is the person who keeps reiterating how he wants to be with BTS as a group forever. He values connections and is sentimental about them. He is sentimental about JK and he values his connection with JK.
Besides, JM has friends and emotionally fulfilling relationships outside of his relationship with Kook that he consciously waters and nurtures. So often when he goes through a Kook withdrawal there are people there to offer him that emotional support. In my opinion. Lol.
I can't say same for Kook. He is naturally emotionally closed off and it takes time for him to let people in but once he does he tends to keep those connections forever too. I think. I mean, he is an introvert and people like that prefer keeping a close knit circle of friends made of one or two people they are intimately or closely attached to rather than maintaining a wider circle of friends.
You don't need me to tell you that Jimin is his circle within the circle. Lol.
It seems also that he doesn't consciously go out of his way to nurture connections with people outside of his close circles the way JM does. Especially if you hear the members talk about how he takes an entire year to return text messages, how he doesn't even see the importance of going out of his way to wish his bandmates a happy birthday on social when everyone else is doing it, how he doesn't bother to gift others presents on their birthday except for the one person within the group he is emotionally attached to.
How he's had a falling out with Tae over the years but didn't even bother to make a conscious effort to fix things with him leaving Tae with no choice but to passive aggressively shade him for it throughout the years- complaining about getting used to JK ignoring him behind cameras and what not.
Jk is very selective about who and which relationship he goes out of his way to nurture and give his energy to unlike JM. I think it's partly due to the differences in their personality as an introvert and extrovert but also due to the differences in their upbringing and the environment they each grew up in but let's not get into that today. Lol.
Very often when JK is going through a JM withdrawal it hits him the hardest I think. Unlike JM, I don't think he has other emotional support systems in place to fall on? 2018 was it? Remember when he was going through a hard time in that period and he shut out the members but would jump on Social to interact with Army? Why do that if there were people in his life to offer that level of emotional support and fulfillment for him?
Tae is like that too. Remember how he said to JK during their Soop conversation that he was posting much more frequently on Weverse because he wasn't feeling loved and wanted reassurance? Why do that if he had that level of emotional support in his life?
He brought that up because on some level he knew JK could relate among other things. In my opinion.
I mean did you hear Blue and Grey? Yet people swear up and down he is in a relationship with a boy in BTS- must be a very emotionally unfulfilling relationship that doesn't meet his need for reassurance and validation in a romantic relationship. Smirk.
I think JK starts seeking out other connections and tries to nurture them so they provide the emotional connection he needs in periods when he is going through a such hard times without Jimin-but the moment he gets good with JM he's gonna forget those connections ever existed lol.
I think that's what had happened with Tae in On era and the tattoo girl as well... Were they dating? I know they weren't. I know JK wasn't having sex with her simply because she would have screwed him over far worse than she did in the aftermath of the scandal. Lmho.
I mean home girl tried on the whole gender ambiguity look for a hot minute there when she was hanging out with JK but ditched that look real fast the moment she realized JK was never gonna pick her- these pick me gals I swear!
She went from expressing herself as overtly tomboyish to a much rather toned down stereotypically feminine gal in a flash in the aftermath of the scandal? Chileee I'm gonna get in trouble. Lol.
The hair cut, the baggy clothes, the boyish appearance- probably knew JK was attracted to genderly ambiguous people. Cough, cough Jimin and so tried to appear more genderly ambiguous within that period to fit in as a one of the guys? Know what I mean? It's just my opinion and I feel bad for voicing it out loud this way.
She could have been experimenting with her looks and identity and all that jazz- she has every right to present herself whatever way she wants honestly and gender is not defined by the clothes you wear and frankly it's none of my business. Chilee.
It's just crazy to me how she kept saying she didn't want to cause trouble with Army blah blah blah which is why she had chosen to stay quiet about the scandal when it first started but then later she changed her tone and started liking posts and comments that said she and JK were a thing. Smirk.
I mean for someone who had said she didn't want to harm the reputation of JK in the beginning of the scandal and didn't want trouble with Army and so had chosen to stay out of the issue, she sure suddenly had started fanning the flames of the scandal later on and her shop would eventually post a statement about the scandal- on JM's birthday. Coincidence? I think the fuck not.
If you ask me, I think her and the shop knew exactly what they were doing with that one. They both wanted to hurt JK if you ask me. They are Koreans and they know just how much scandals hurt the business and reputations of idols. So for them to keep at it even when that scandal had died down...
And I know some people believe someone from her shop had leaked the photos etc- this is where I insert my BigHit conspiracy theory- BigHit don dunnit! Lol. That scandal came at a time too convenient for a company scared people were going to find out two of its talents were dating. Y'all know my theory on that so I'll just rest it.
This is the same campany that calls paparazzi on its talents and arranges for tabliods to meet and take photos of the boys and write articles about them as and when it so pleases them. I'm not just talking about Dispatch- if you know you know.
I think they have their own people following these boys around just to keep an eye on them to avoid heavy scandals. They definitely knew what JK and JM were up to during their vacation and when they realised there was a much bigger scandal on the way they conducted this tattoo girl and Paris girls scandal to mitigate that.
Listen, BigHit has been through a much severe scandal with their earlier band before BTS. That scandal literally crippled the company- allegedly, had it not been for BTS and so when I tell you they do not joke with scandals involving their artists. You bet your ass they have their eyes on the boys. All the time. They ain't about to let another major scandal cripple their empire.
I mean, even in the recent BE conference they held, they had to film the Q&A session offline- probably didn't want a repeat of the media embarrassing BTS like they did with the plagiarism scandal. Jk's cheeky smirk. Lmho.
Would explain why both the shop and the girl in question also felt used by the company and JK later on. The shop was expecting compensation from BigHit for using them in that way it seemed- read their statement you'll understand what I mean. And the girl perhaps also thought she was gonna get to be with JK as consolation price- yea, no. Sorry dear. JK don'troll like that.
It is why later they tried taking vengeance on both JK and the company with those moves they made. In my opinion. Lol.
From a legal perspective, BigHit had every right to sue the shop for breach of privacy on behalf of JK because the shop owed that duty to JK being their client. They had a duty to protect the privacy of their clients and so it's funny how the shop turned around claiming BigHit was the one that owed them compensation or whatever. Chileee. Messy, messy, messy.
I really don't want to get deep into that whole conversation and so kindly read between the lines... got it? Good. Lol.
Anywho, JK has a tendency to latch on to people when he is in an emotionally vulnerable state. In the group it is often Tae or Jin, Suga or Hobi in my opinion.
Honestly I prefer he does that than shut everyone out.
This tendencies of his is why I keep saying he has the most boundaries in BTS- emotional boundaries I mean. Jimin is a nurturer and to nurture people you have to be willing to be emotionally open, attached and vulnerable with others. Whereas JK is not a nurturer like that so naturally he is much emotionally closed off.
He simply latches on to people when he is going through a tough time or shuts himself up completely for self preservation. In my opinion.
What I am trying to say is, i don't think either of them have both been with other people during times they weren't together because usually they don't stay broken up for that long- long enough for either one of them to form any meaningful attachments outside of eachother.
I can't say same for sex though- shit only takes a few minutes. But judging from the way they behave when either one of them does skinship with even members they consider family, I don't think either one of them have had sex outside of eachother. That would devastate them and lead to much dire repercussions such as each of them developing trust issues and severe insecurities- they are insecure about eachother as it is and they haven't been seeing other people. Chilee.
If JK as much as have sex with another person even if they are broken up Jimin would literally die. I'd laugh but I don't think it's funny.
As for JK... sigh. Let's just say he is going to raise hell on us all if Jimin should do that. Forget the Corona Virus, forget the apocalypse- JK would bring the world to an untimely end. Deadass.
I hope this helps?
Keep supporting Jikook. Jikook is real.
Signed,
GOLDY.
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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RE JIMIN'S LOVE LANGUAGE
This is in response to questions I've received in my message box following my recent post on Jimin's love language. Ignore this if you've read my main post on this same topic- Or maybe not.
Also, I'm sorry about the Asks. I accidentally turned it off- AGAIN. Thanks for drawing my attention to it. I purple y'all.
What I meant by my last post was that, for us to understandJimin or even the rest of the members' love language, it is important we make a distinction between what is uniquely Jimin/the individual members' love language and what is their culture's or even the established and accepted practices within their group.
And on that, I said skinship is a cultural practice but also one of the group's adopted love languages. It is their way of achieving intimacy and bonding with eachother and as such they do not associate romantic connotations with it.
Thus, when they touch eachother in any way, provocative as it may seem to us, to them there is nothing romantic about it at all. So when Taekook, Jikook, Yoonmin or any of these pairs touch eachother, it is not with romantic intentions.
Why then does Jimlous and Jeonlous exist? For a myriad of reasons other than that skinship is romantic! Lol
I've explained previously, that JK and Jimin's discomfort with each other's skinship with the others often has to do with the lack of boundaries that is inherent in skinship rather than that they are actually jealous or see skinship as romantic. This is often true for Jimin.
With JK, his possessive nature very often amplifies his discomfort with the lack of boundaries but also because, out of the seven, he is the only one that had had a problem accepting and participating in the skinship culture within the group- well, him and Suga. It's taking them some getting used to.
But that wasn't because he was viewing skinship as romantic but rather because he was uncomfortable with affections and the overt expressions of it as is required of skinship.
That's not to say they do not or have not implied romantic intentions with their touches- there is nothing platonic about boners. Lol.
And any skinship that results in a visible sexual tension or arousal can no longer be deemed skinship- it's foreplay.
Jikook does skinship all the time like everyone else in the band, but often too some of those skinship crosses the platonic threshold into sexual foreplay- they ain't slick.
You just have to see the look on Tae's face when he noticed, through the view finder, Jimin caressing JK's thumb to comprehend that not all their touches are mere skinship.
That's one of the differences between Jikook and the other ships; Jikook presents a mutual sexual attraction towards eachother beyond the pubescent hormonal teen frenzy that marked their early formative days- god, those boys were so horny they could hump a tree to death. Bless them.
Mind you, I disregard any sexual innuendos that was present in Jikook's dynamics as well as any other ship's dynamics, if ever there was one, during that hormonal teen period of their lives. It was all something but nothing at the same time. They were all just being horny and gross teenage boys- Hashtag, war of hormones for real for real. Lol
All that that timeline taught me was, Jikook are freaky af and certainly don't see each other as brothers. CERTAINLY.
That being said, for a better understanding of Jimin's love language, a distinction must be made between love language and sexual interest. It will make sense in a bit.
Because Jimin's father is an affectionate person and this is the love language he has taught to Jimin, Jimin interprets any affectionate and kind act as a loving gesture. It is how he gives love, it is how he receives love.
He values kindness and compassion, selflessness, vulnerability, transparency, fairness etc.
Thus to show his love for you he will be kind to you, vulnerable with you, transparent with you, supportive of you and nurturing of you.
We see him being like this with all the members, even the staff and dancers too at times but more so with Tae and JK.
The question then is, how does Jimin receive love? What actions does he interpret as love? Easy, sexual attraction. Hear me out.
You see, because Jimin is a natural nurturer and he sees nurturing as a universal love language that everyone speaks or ought to speak, he requires his romantic love interest to distinguish between their platonic love interest and their romantic love interest.
To fulfill him emotionally, you would have to make him feel special, treat him differently from your friends, and let him know that you want him and only him.
Sexual interest is one way of distinguishing between platonic interests and romantic interests, and it flows from this that he not only requires grand gestures, or special treatment but that you flirt with him as well.
Hence his emphasis on flirting. He likes to flirt. He enjoys it. He's mastered it. He's a fucking pro at it- give him his medal.
Just to be clear, even though flirting is part of his love language, he has also adopted flirting as part of his idol persona and often when he is flirting overtly he is only doing it for the 'fan service.'
But that doesn't mean all of that is fan service. Sometimes it's blatant foreplay as I've explained above and if you can't tell the difference between his foreplay and fanservice- chileee, I can't help you.
I'm still traumatized by that Bon V 4 moment. Sweet Jesus, save me if they should keep this energy up!
It's important, at this point, to note that because Jimin is a nurturer, every decent human being can easily be compatible with him. I have said several times over my blog that Jimin is ship compatible with anyone and everyone- I ain't mad at that.
What it comes down to then is whom he prefers and whom he is choosing to make him happy and to fulfill him. I explained that choice and being able to be in charge of decision making and to make his own decisions is very important to Jimin because on his background.
And when it comes to love, it's no secret who Jimin wants. He wants JK and that's on Periodttt.
I explained that in the early days during Rookie King, he felt he needed to get emotionally closer to JK when he had an opportunity to talk and heal as a group- his personal was important to him.
In that JinJikook VLive when Jin was eating a lollipop in a provocative way he asked him to stop immediately but couldn't, for the love of god, tear his eyes off JK when JK ate his lollipop in a- I can't. Jikook!
Unless he is in his fan service mood or is being his slytherin slash whore of babylon self- bless him, often he would reject any attempt by anyone to flirt with him except JK.
And I keep reiterating this, flirting isn't JK's thing. It's Jimin's thing. The last time JK tried to this flirty- he cried. Lmho
Take that interview where the host moved closer to Jimin in a flirty way for example. Jimin leaned back away from him. In the popular words of Jimin- don't do that.
Then in this airport scene right here, where Suga and Tae tried to protect JM from getting mobbed (if video is missing check bottom of this post. I hate tumblr)
You could see Jimin moving towards JK. Now some may argue he was trying to protect the JK who seemed oblivious to what was going on but I beg to differ.
I just think Jimin was moving towards JK because that's his safe haven. That's the person he feels the most safe with. 'Jk will protect' 'JK is strong.' He felt threatened and his instincts was to fin that person whom he feels would and should protect him- and that person usually isn't very far away.
And no, I'm not being biased. It's just I can't in good conscience theorize and make wild assumptions about Jimin's emotional needs the way I would the other's because unlike the others, Jimin keeps showing us what he wants. Y'all are just not listening.
It is why I said, JK on paper seemed like the last person to meet Jimin's emotional needs. He didn't strike me as the ambitious type or the daring type the way Yoongi presented himself in early days. It is why I shipped Yoonmin or even Vmin.
And even in those ships, I didn't believe they were real. Suga was too emotional closed off and wouldn't
And as I explained, having been denied his ambitions, it's not a stretch to assume, Jimin desires an ambitious partner. One who loves the stage, loves their career.
But I feel, most people including myself underestimated Jungkook. As much as JK may not appear as ambitious career wise, he is one of the most passionate members of group.
His decision to join BTS was driven purely by passion, his decision to start GCF, get a tattoo and every other endeavor he's embarked has been driven purely by his passion. And passion is a variant of ambition.
Jimin pursues his ambitious and JK pursues his passions- they are the same in the same way. And I see why Jimin will tell JK they are one and the same. They are more alike than we think they are.
So yes, Jimin needs an ambitious partner but a passionate partner equally suffices.
What equally suffices is a supportive partner. One willing to sacrifice their ambitions or needs when it comes to it, to accommodate Jimin's needs. Jimin is very competitive in nature and hates to lose, we've been told.
And nobody lets Jimin win the way JK does. Nobody. It's funny, because VMin's dumpling fight took days/weeks to resolve. And Jikook's raining dat fight took a few hours.
What hit me about that tale as told by Jikook was JK going to Jimin to resolve their fight- another instance he let Jimin win. Tae loves Jimin but I don't see him sacrificing his ego and pride the way JK would for Jimin. I don't see any member doing that for Jimin quite frankly.
It is one way I see JK nurturing Jimin. Jk can be hard headed but there is a softness and a tenderness to him that's speaks to Jimin's love language.
I can go on and on about this topic, you know? Lol
Signed,
GOLDY
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JIKOOK AND THEIR SHENANIGANS-pt1
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Disclaimer:
This is my opinion and perspective of Jikook. I do not intend nor imply malice by my choice of words or by my interpretations of BTS' contents. Nor do I intend to be disrespectful of any member herein mentioned.
Do not take my words out of context in furtherance of your own agenda. You are the author of your own intentions and interpretations. If you do hold yourself accountable first.
PREFACE
I am done with with Jikook. Lol
I swear to God by the time they officially come out as a couple, if they ever do, I'm going to be left with severe PTSD.
Pray for me.
A lot has happened with Jikook these past few weeks. A devastating lot. Everything was going great and smooth and boom- we were hit with yet another anomaly in their dynamics. It was usual given us most of the things that had happened were entirely new to their dynamics yet not at all surprising in the grand scheme of things simply because unpredictability is Jikook's schtik and as I've come to terms with, part of their dynamics- you'll get used to it if you are new. Welcome to the club. Lol
I have shared snippets of my thoughts here and there on this whole development as and when it unfolded and said I wasn't going to deliver a comprehensive commentary until later so here it is- grab a glass of wine or coffee. It's gonna be long. Bless.
WHY I WAS HOLDING BACK
Contrary to what some people say and assume about me, I don't pull my opinions on Jikook from my ass- a dollar to the jar. Lol. I don't base my perspective on Jikook's relationship and dynamics on puff and nada. Where is the fun in that? I may be delusional about somethings but... Anywho.
I have said time and again how when it comes to Jikook moments there's always context and subtexts we are missing- it's a challenge trying to fill in the gaps. Probably part of the reason I'm obsessed with their dynamics. Lol.
Most of the theories I share with you on here are based on my observations of Jikooks interactions over a period of time. My objective has always been to try and understand the motivations (context) behind their moments and interactions, some of which I find fit a pattern while others- I never want to tackle or even think about without several pain killers and depressants until years later when a piece of content is released to provide better insights into their dynamics.
Jimin's birthday is one such moment for me. While I understood and even predicted JM's use of 5/8 in May this year was going to be a substitute for May 13 because I felt Jikook were not in a good place, were under heavy scrutiny in SK within that time period- starting with that March 30th VLive which I believe had led to a ban on Jikook using the platform on their own(especially Jimin- JK was already under ban but we will get into it later) given as BTS's content had changed drastically with heavy VLive supervision and the pg 13 contents they were made to make post that JM's VLive; then there was rumors of Dispatch's alleged conflict with BigHit, BigHit's IPO, Jungkook's Itaewon scandal- which of course were all confirmed later on that month, I felt the prospect wasn't looking good for Jikook to Jikook as wildly and as openly as they did.
Now you all know about my wild assumption about JM taking space out of their relationship due to JK coming on strong around that time so I'll spare the details.
Contrastingly, post BigHit's IPO, post Soop since Stay Gold era I felt things were looking great for Jikook. They were back to Jikooking. I felt they weren't being monitored as much by their bandmates and had a new found freedom within BigHit to do their own things as it appeared BigHit had begun 'managing' and presenting them as a brand- which I have written dissertations upon dissertations on so I won't get into.
JK and JM had started their online flirty banter thingy, even Dispatch seemed good with Bighit posting BTS official photos etc. Jimin too posted for JK on his birthday, JK came out on social media to gear up for JM's birthday and then puff- ashes. We hit a wall.
Now I know some people are speculating there was too much attention on Jikook within this time frame which is why JK didn't post- uhhmm, I don't buy it that view. There's always attention on Jikook. It's usually the negative attention like around March-June that holds them back from Jikooking. In opinion. I wouldn't call the attention they are or were getting within that time period negative.
Then there were some who speculated JK wasn't going to post because he hadn't posted for any of the members since Jin's birthday last year which again I didn't buy into. Jk is fearless and doesn't shy aware from making bold expressions of his love for Jimin. Him posting for Jimin would have been a bold move but nothing exactly new.
We've seen his GCFs. Enough said.
Personally, I felt he had showed up on social media a few days to JM's birthday to promote his music but to also prepare the grounds for when he posts on Jimin's birthday.
I genuinely felt he was gonna 'out' Jimin with that post and have people raising all kinds of brows like they did with GCF Tokyo, Saipan and Helsinki. Lol
Why did I think he was going to do this?
DECEMBER 4TH 2019
Jin's birthday. Now I have given y'all the back ground to this timeline and so I will just hit the highlights- Rosebowl, New Jersey VLive, JK getting drunk on his Jun VLive which I felt led to a ban on him from making solo live on VApp since 2019 to date- his recent Solo live was on YouTube mind you.
Prior to this I felt he and JM had earned a ban from making a VLive together until their 2020 VLive which was heavily monitored as I have speculated in past posts- again this is just my opinion.
JK, I felt, was being 'reckless' within this period. He was making bold moves and pushing the boundaries of his relationship with Jimin and even teasing the gates of the glass closet they are in. It certainly didn't help that the You too movement in S.K and the whole Idol sex abuse scandals in Kpop was on going as I've mentioned before-which had led to August's issues. Again you know my theory on the whole tattoo girl scandal so skipping.
October we had the whole cancel Jikook hashtag trending after Jikook's performance of I still want you and the whole you are me, I am you schtick.
In all of this I felt Jikook were fine.
November is when I noticed Jikook having 'issues' in their relationship (rolling my eyes at Silver) lol. Now again I won't go into all of that but you can check the real time contents/ behind scenes content on BTS around the time period and draw your own conclusions on that.
Then came the December ups and downs, JM flinching and dropping his face when JK went to sit by him in Jin's VLive- JK's awkwardness around Jimim. Now I know some people interpret this Live as that they were fighting? I won't call it fight fight perse. Lol. Issues, perhaps?Just seemed to me JM wanted to keep a low profile because again they were under heavy public scrutiny around the time which was what I feel was causing RM to keep an eye on them throughout that period- by keeping an eye on them I mean he was invoking the spirit of Jesus between them Pentecostal style. Bless him.
But seems JK wasn't having none of that, clearly. Lmho. There were already alot of restrictions on him since June in the way he used social media(Vapp) he and JM were not allowed to VLive together, he couldn't solo Vlive no more and now he couldn't even sit right with his man- I approve of the frying pans Jk. I APPROVE. Lol.
All this is my opinion of course.
But I think that is what he meant when he kept saying it's been a while he did a solo live and didn't even know how to do one anymore in his recent YouTube live- Jk can be passive aggressive in that way but we will get into that YouTube live in a bit. Hang in there.
So with all this going on I felt I understood him when he missed Jin's birthday on Twitter. Felt like a silent protest to me. But then again I thought perhaps it was just an impulsive act on his part.
Then he missed Tae's Birthday too and I thought hold on- this man is up to something. He was gonna a statement with that in retaliation to all the ban and sanctions and interferences with his personal life.
I was just following this whole drama with anxious glee towards a big reveal and then- cricket's ass ass deadass. Chilee. This man is cruel! Lol. I'm gonna need therapy to process this one on god! Lol JK!
My Right brain said perhaps, others had been right after all and he hadn't done all of that missed birthdays on purpose at all but had only acted impulsively in the heat of the moment given everything that had been going on with the group in around Jin's birthday- Mama 2019, we all know what had happened.
I felt perhaps, the moment he missed Jin's then he had to miss everyone's because if he wished any other person a happy birthday people were going to ask questions. People were going to assume he hated whoever he didn't wish a happy birthday.
But then my left brain- the crazy delulu side, also thought otherwise. I had a funny feeling that JK really intended to post only for Jimin on his birthday since he had been gearing up for it and that the only reason he wouldn't go through with it was if JM had asked him not to.
Why would JM do that? Because he enjoys the glass closet- he loves to flex his bond with JK, tease their relationship, claim his man, he wants people to know JK is his man because he is happy with him and proud of the man that he is but that doesn't mean he is ready to come out as LGBTQ plus. In my opinion.
JK I feel was done hiding the moment he posted GCF in Saipan- he gets right with us. Bless him.
JK often weaponizes their 'secret' against Jimin and hold's it over his head sometimes- so often when Jimin is on his Kumbaya agenda with the group taking their sides on things relating to their relationship JK switches on him and tries to expose Jimin- if you're just gonna help them burn us, I'm just gonna blow the whole operation out in the open and we are all going down. Chilee!
God, I felt Jk was going to expose Jikook for real! 🤣 Don't mess with JK and his Jimin- even Jimin himself gets burns sometimes.
Remember when JK threatened to expose a picture of himself with a hickey if JM didn't stay and do a VLive with him? Remember that? JK scares me for real when he is on his Jikook agenda! Lol
I felt he knew exactly what he was doing just as he knew exactly what he was doing with Saipan and editing of Helsinki. He just reiterated it in his recent live- which we will get into soon. He pointed out how he had gone to ask the members to describe the feelings they wanted to express through the MV he directed.
He admitted yet again in that live how he expresses his feelings, HIS FEELINGS, through his art and music- for all those who keep saying you can't tell JK loves JM just because he doesn't do the things JM does. Lmho.
And so I was heavily confused by these two conflicting theories in my brain. Which is why I kept saying I didn't want to jump into conclusions, that I was going to need more content yadda yadda yadda.
Which brings me to my resolution for JM's birthday saga.
POST JIMIN'S BIRTHDAY
Jimin enjoys been treated special. It's part of his love language. Jk has always treated him like he is special to him. And I know people claim it's just a birthday post- sure. But I understand also that Jimin doesn't Joke with his birthday. His father doesn't Joke with his birthday and clearly neither does JK- given as even before they all started the exchanging of gifts culture that he was giving presents to JM and JM alone within the group.
Besides, he's said he reads the members birthday messages to him on social media and have gone ahead to read some of them on his birthday Vlives in the past. So I can't say JK not posting was nothing.
My resolution was simple. I was going to examine their interactions post Jimin's birthday to see if their dynamics had flipped to see if JK not posting for JM's birthday had in anyway affected their relationship.
If JM's birthday meant something to him. Jk was going to make it up to him- openly. Deadass but in my opinion. Lol.
That's one aspect of Jikook's dynamics you can always count on- hopefully. Lol.
They have a way of reassuring eachother of their love and affection. And I don't know what happened to put the fear of God in both of them but lord are they both scared of pissing the other off! Jesus! Not sure if it's the whippery but damn- they are both crazy for that.
For instance, take JinMin's VLive right before the New Jersey Vlive. JM posted immediately after their live had ended to say he is sorry and loves JK on Twitter. And y'all saw him when JK panned to him on the bed? I've never seen a man so terrified of another man in my entire shipping life- Manila must have put the fear of JK in him, which THANK GOD! lol. Jimin plays too much. Lmho.
Never knew a hyung needed permission from a dongsaeng to leave a room until that day. Chileee! Jin had pulled a prank on JK too but I didn't see him wetting his pants and blowing kithes to JK- come at me with Jinkook is real, see what happens. Lol
Then GCF in Tokyo! I know to some it seemed like a random act of confession on JK's part but boy did he have motivation! He don stressed JM out to the ends of the world with those weird ass rumors (again not gonna mention it because it's very controversial 'saesangs' nature) if you know good for you but chilee you didn't hear it here. Lol
Then there was that whole photoshoot and JM looking like he wanted to kill JK lol right around August 2017. Which I have discussed in one of my blog posts. I think it's in a lot of jeonlous. I'll link it later- if I find it.
Then the almighty 2019 Tattoo Girl scandal, I'm not talking about the August scandal. I'm talking about the one on JM's birthday last year which launched the severe 'I am sorry' hashtags in JK's post on JM's birthday. In my opinion definitely.
The Tattoo girl's shop had wanted until Jimin's birthday, almost a month after the incident, to release a statement which blew up the incident again and almost overshadowed JM's birthday.
Chilee, the delulu in me felt that was intentional. They just wanted to hurt JK by ruining his man's birthday for him- never let him forget. Lol. These evil masterminds. Chilee!
In my opinion. Please.
My point is, JM and JK do make out in efforts to fix their relationship. And usually, I find whoever is in the wrong takes the most initiatives- not to say all the GCFs was because of a fight. Personally I take Saipan and Helsinki more seriously than Tokyo. Just saying.
And of course we all saw JM fly all the way from Paris on JK's birthday- talk of grand gestures and extending Olive branches. Chilee, I'm single!
I was going to wait till I could see who was reassuring who after JM's birthday to see who was in the 'wrong' know what I mean? Like who is putting in more effort to let us know they are a thing?
After their March/May shenanigans that was JK with the thirst traps and shit on Weverse, which brought JM around and he started opening up taking initiatives of his own like in the Dynamite MV reaction VLive.
Afterwards it all seemed pretty mutual to me and they were vibing. Jikook was a Vibe. Sigh.
THE PHOTOSHOOT SAGA
Now I know some people assert they don't see the 'tensions' in that behind the scenes photoshoot but we would have to agree to disagree on that because I saw that as tension between Jikook as I explained in my last post.
Jk walked right past and around Jimin without a word- chileee. JM was 'extroverted' with everyone but Jk- chilee chileee. This is weird as fuck. Lmho.
Prior to this shoot I had my eyes on Tae, RM Jk due to the Twitter war that I felt was going on between them in the days leading up to the concert. If they had anything to do with JK not posting on JM's birthday it was gonna leave trails.
Jk loves everyone but fuck with his relationship with his man and you're- poor Namjoon. Lol.
I refrained from discussing the photoshoot video or conceptualizing a theory around it because for the love of me I couldn't tell who was mad at who in that footage.
They all seemed equally mad to me. Jk had his usual don't fuck with my man mood on with that glare he gave RM causing RM to back away from JM and that attitude he gave Jin right after- which I have already speculated on in my last post.
The stare down contest between him and JM was equally nerve wracking and reminded me of that interview stare down contest between Jikook around Manila.
And I know I mentioned the 'elite' squad backing up Jimin in that moment. Chilee, I was too tired to explain that term because I had been writing for a whole day nonstop but that is the term I give to RM, Hobi, Jin as the hyungs/ elders who enable JM's shenanigans most often in the group.
JK usually pans them down when he and JM are going at it.
I feel Tae, JK, Suga are the ones that stay on JM's neck and calls his bull the most out of all the boys- Y'all don't wanna know what I call them. Lol. Perhaps, I should call them Silver? Chilee, girl don stayed my neck, put the fear of Moses in me! Lol
It felt as if, whatever the problem was, they both had an interest at stake in that moment in my opinion and they were battling it out. Besides, 5 days had gone by and for the love of me I had no idea why that mood was still persisting especially if it had anything to do with Jimin's birthday.
But I understand JM had been away with his family after the concert and had spent his birthday with his family so perhaps they couldn't resolve things within that time period. And JK it seemed had also thrown himself into work from what he said on his YouTube Live, filming and directing and shit- good for him. JM's wedding suit won't buy itself. Lol
So now the Jikook Solo lives.
JIKOOK SOLO LIVES
Now y'all know I was waiting for this one. I told y'all I was waiting to see how BTS interacted with the VApp post Soop. Y'all know my conspiracy theory on this- the whole Jikook were banned from using it, JK was banned after his last VLive in June last year and how JM was banned in March this year after JK intercepted Jin's call and asked him on a date and said the whole I love you kithes thingy- they are trouble.
Then I talked about how JK had been trying to rebel in retaliation, the whole team up with Tae to expose BigHit on Weverse after their live.
I don't think much has changed in that regard. He still didn't do his Live on the VApp and through out his YouTube live he kept hinting at how BigHit had sabotaged his passion- he claimed he had lost his passion for GCF( at least that's how I took it) and that GCF felt more like work than something he did out of passion.
He threw jabs here and there at BigHit complaining about how he didn't even know how to do them Live logs anymore because it had been a while he did them- the lies Jeon Jungkook ne spilling! You was on a live with RM not too long ago what do you mean it's been long! *smirk.
Jimin did the same thing too but in a more subtle way I feel. He kept saying how he didn't know his way around the app, how the staff had set it up for him and JK said the same thing-but more aggressively. Lol.
It seems JK was just going to turn on the Live, keep it business and yeet himself out of there- just like people want him to do(to be professional and not expose his relationship- chileee, JK is that too much to ask? Sigh.
JK is really passive aggressive like the Silver Squad- see what I did there? Lol. Tae and Suga have taught him well. It's that control thingy, I feel. He hates it. He hates when he is controlled by anyone- except Jimin apparently.
He really enjoys and wants the freedom to do what he wants- rather dead than cool. Chilee! It's how he was raised I believe. He is a very independent free spirited individual, I keep saying.
All that, "it's awkward' 'it's been awhile I did this' yea he ain't slick. *smirk.
Another interesting thing I noticed is how both him and JM tried to keep the other's name out of their mouths- well Jimin tried. Dude couldn't help himself bless him.
I just think they have been cautioned to keep a really low profile on the app especially in regards to how they use the app, what they share on the app- no eye fucking, no weird tensions staring into eachother's souls, no I love you's in the background and certainly NO BONERS!
All in all, my impression of those two Lives was that- Jimin had baited BigHit when he posted that 'see you soon on VApp.' In my opinion.
I think he did that to force BigHit's hands. Jk did the same with his 'I can't do live logs on my own now' statement.
Jimin had put BigHit in a tight corner when he read that 'I miss Jungkook' comment. And the way he kept it pushing afterwards- the next day BigHit was like, y'all this is Simba. Hair slicked back and all. Take him. Lol.
I keep saying the one thing BigHit is scared of is a scandal. They really don't want people asking certain questions that's going to make them look bad especially towards their artists- in my opinion. BigHit please it's my opinion. Let the records show. Lol.
And as I keep saying, BTS and even Jikook have a way of weaponizing their social media Influence against BigHit- that nearly 9 million viewers Jimin read out on his VLive certainly gave BigHit a push to call out JK. Lol.
Personally, I was curious as I said earlier as to how that VLive was going to be live. Whether it was going to be monitored heavily like their lives were after the March 30th incident.
I was curious to see if he would appear on YouTube or VApp. As it stands, it seems whatever ban was placed on JM from having Solo Lives on the App has been lifted
And it seems he was fighting for his man too in the most kumbaya way possible- Jimin! Lolololol. He is hilarious. Bless him
I just hope JK doesn't call in on JM's future VLives again to ask him on a date- again cos damn that would chaotic. Lol.
It's crazy to me how people still look at JK and ask if he loves JM at all- damn if he isn't carrying their relationship on his back!
It seems for now he still isn't allowed a solo VLive on the App and from the Way he kept saying he couldn't do a log alone it seems he is pushing to have that freedom to have a VLive with JM again- I don't know. I might be delulu. Lol
As to whether JK was the wrong party for not posting on JM's birthday I still don't know. Would have to observe their interactions a bit more.
So far from their lives the only one who was making efforts to feed us was Jimin with the whole 10/13 Mickey Mouse thingy which we all know is reference to Jikook.
If my hypothesis is right, JM would be coming out here with heart eyes, clinging to JK, making all the efforts while JK has the mood he had during the On era again- acting like he not whipped but he whipped- bless him.
Sigh.
All that being said, this is just my opinion. I'm just sharing my thoughts and observations. I am not calling anyone to action. I am not instructing anyone on what to do with my opinion, to hate on BigHit, or any of the members mentioned in here.
If you are not an adult, and can't reason like an adult do not sit at the adult table. Immaturity is not a bar to freedom of expression.
CONCLUSION
When it comes to Jikook, I always feel JK has put in so much effort into his relationship with Jimin to squander all that effort over something as silly as a birthday post.
Jikook have both worked through a lot, come a long way in their love journey to let petty issues undo all the efforts they've both put into eachother.
If JM's birthday is an issue for JM, JK would have made it right by now. All it takes it one simple post to fix it. And he has taken much bolder steps in the past to chicken out now.
And if Jimin is the one holding JK then- dude better prepare another Paris trip to placate his man because JK about to pout him to death. Lol.
As I said I have a feeling things are good between them now. I just want to see more of their interactions.
Keep supporting Jikook.
Signed,
GOLDY
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JIKOOK: IS JIMIN LYING ABOUT JK'S BIRTHDAY NIGHT?
There's been talks within the shipping community about certain inconsistencies surrounding Jimin's narration and account of his whereabouts on the dawn of JK's birthday.
To some, this topic is moot and irrelevant because they want to take Jimin's word at face value and believe he was in fact with JK on the dawn of his birthday as he said just because JM said so while ignoring all the valid questionable inconsistencies that others like myself find a bit jarring.
I must admit people who want to believe they were together without question and those who don't believe they were together are both pursuing an agenda: they both want to ascertain a narrative that sits perfectly well with their own shipping euphoria and as such would interpret these facts to appease their wants and desires.
I am neither of those. I don't want Jikook to be real, I don't need Jikook to be real, JIKOOK IS JUST REAL and I support them. Jikook is not just a ship, in my opinion, it's a relationship. An actual romantic relationship.
I believe they are real not because of a theory I read somewhere, an analysis I watched or because they hugged or didn't hug.
My belief in them comes from my own observations and intuitions about them. Thus, I find it necessary to not only open myself to enjoy the heart swoon worthy moments they give us but also to look into any moment, rumor, gossip or anything that may indicate a possibility that my assumptions about them is wrong. No one is making me think they are real or not real except them.
It is why, my first instinct was to question that entire VLive on JK's birthday. It had my senses going haywire. Things were just not adding up to me:
V asking Jimin to come over (why would he if he knew JM was with JK that dawn)
Jk asking if JM and V cried together and the expression on his face( surprised to me. But that's open to interpretation?
What confused me the most is, I 'know' Jimin. This may sound a bit obnoxious but bare with me. We all know how JM rolls. He wouldn't hesitate to let us know if he was with JK. I mean, as soon as JK said he cried when he *heard* the news, JM jumped in with 'I'm the one that told him' and he seemed pretty proud about that.
JM loves to flaunt and flex his bond with JK so it was a bit interesting to me that he wasn't forthcoming with the details, like what JK did, how he cried etc. Now I noticed he was cut off twice whenever he tried to talk about JK which I assumed could be why he couldn't divulge as much details of their nights as is quintessential of him.
I also found it interesting that JK didn't tell us where he heard the news. Jimin did tell us where he heard the news from. I found it interesting that RM said his friends called him. Friends as in plural, yet proceeded to say Jimin called him. Jimin is his friend not his friends.
Then Jimin saying he spoke to V after hearing the news also raised my brows. Don't get me wrong, I've always believed JM is more open and emotionally dependent on Tae than any of the members besides Jk and so him going to Tae while sobbing wasn't surprising.
What was surprising was, you would think JK was the first person he would go to with news like this. Unless, JK was with him when he found out the news which is what I thought until JK said he found out about the BB chart late because he had been sleeping.
I don't think if he was sleeping with JM, in the same apartment that is, that JM wouldn't yell and wake him up and tell him. Like who would do that?
So that VLive left me with two questions:
A. Why Jk found out about their BB late
B. Why JM was cut off
[My Analysis. Might be controversial. Proceed with caution]
With these questions at the back of my mind, I started connecting dots (at least to me) as I watched today's interview with the press.
In that VLive, as much as people want to argue their reaction was raw and perhaps less 'censored,' I disagree. I noticed JM was a bit less hyper than usual, true. He seemed pushed to the back, figuratively, and this could be seen in moments when he was seemly cut off from speaking- that is not Park loud Jimin. He doesn't get cut off. He does the cutting off.
He just wasn't in his element in that VLive. Dare I say, he was holding himself back a lot from acting over excited which I would have loved to see. He was suppressing his instincts and trying to stay calm. Was he emotional and vulnerable and perhaps tired? May be. Regardless, there were moments of outburst where his true self broke through, like the footsie, yelling 'it was me' acting giddy and excited here and there etc.
Then Suga said something that caught my attention. He said to Tae they had discussed before the VLive that no one was supposed to say anything outrageous. Suddenly, everything made sense to me. If they had discussed that then they could have also discussed Jikook not saying anything to give themselves away.
They wanted the focus on the Live to be on their BB chart congratulatory speech. I mean it was all in the title of that VLive: 1st in Billboard, Army Gather Around. I have said in past posts that Jikook is under heavy supervision especially this half of the year. I mentioned in my last post that I wouldn't be surprised if JM wouldn't give us a repeat of last years for this exact reason.
I believe they were asked not to give details about the two of them especially since it would be easier for people to connect the dots that way: Jikook together on the dawn of JK's birthday again- they might as well have a wedding there and then.
And the thing about JM, he is a terrible liar. Take my word for it. Lol. When he is forced not to tell things as it is, we end up with inconsistencies as we've had- to me anyway.
I strongly believe this to be so because during today's Press Conference he began with a 'lie' but gave it up real quick because he just couldn't keep pretending anymore.
When he was asked about how he had found out the news and what his reaction was he began by saying, I heard, I was shocked at first... his narration was from the first person singular point of view. Then he looks to RM to ask what time the news broke:
That was when I knew something was wrong. Jimin was up around 12am because he had wished JK a happy birthday on Twitter. Now he says he was up until 7am when he fell asleep from exhaustion.
RM too had said JM was the one that called him to tell him the news because he was sleeping at the time. After which he checked and posted it in their group chat. JM said he called V too.
So why would JM ask RM when the news broke? Dude was asleep. Unless, he was forgetting the PR story he was meant to spin. Which is evident from the way he quickly switched from using 'I' to 'we'. We were together, we called our friends, we were looking at our phones etc.
I am no body language expert, but from the way his head hung down it seemed he had thrown in the proverbial towel and had decided to recall events from memories as is.
From JK's reaction he seemed very pleased with that decision JM had made. Unlike the look on his face when JM and Tae were going on about crying together and he just kept staring at JM intensely- something he does quite often. And JM was unable to meet his gaze which says a lot. I'll leave it there.
I am not insinuating the VMin account was fabricated. Not at all. As I've explained earlier, those two are very emotionally dependent on eachother and JM have said once Tae is the one he talks to when he is going through it. What I'm saying is, JK seemed surprised from the way he asked 'you cried together?' and let's ignore the little tongue in cheek moment people may or may not have noticed when Tae was going on and on about Jimin being vulnerable with him.
That moment reminded me of the time JK got 'Jeonlous' when he heard JM and Jin had been 'bonding' by playing together without his knowledge. He is constantly with JM so he gets surprised and a bit 'jealous' when he learns JM had a moment with anyone.
If something happens with Jimin in his absence, he wouldn't be as much surprised by it. Sure it would be surprising but- know what I mean?
Like just the mere fact that he acts surprised whenever he learns of something new involving Jimin or a moment Jimin has had with another member- like the others don't get worked up as he does. That should tell you JK has an expectation when it comes to Jimin: he expects to know everything about Jimin- his likes, dislikes, hobbies, where he's at, where he's been, who he's been with- almost as if he feels he is entitled to that kind of informational access to Jimin.
What I'm saying is, perhaps he didn't expect VMin's moment because Jimin was with him or was supposed to be with him at the time it happened and so he was surprised how all that could have happened without him knowing. I bet him and Jimin had a long chat about that moment after the VLive. Lol.
Anywho, moving on, I believe JM's version of the story as told in the press conference simply because that was the real, uninhibited Park Jimin. He has always referred to himself as a unit with JK 'we' and has always been open about his interest in JK. He always talks about JK. He always does. Someone I know once told me, you can hide a relationship but you can't hide intimacy and that's how I know Jikook is real.
I don't think JM lied in the VLive, I just think he tried to omit certain details which resulted in a choppy narration.
I believe when RM said his friends called him he meant JK and Jimin but because he didn't want to draw attention to Jikook as pre discussed by the members which is why he only mentioned Jimin's name and not JM and JK.
RM said his friends called him, JM said 'we- he and JK' called Namjoon and told NamJoon they were able to accomplish all that because of him. A fact that was mentioned during the Live but had conveniently left out JK. Jimin also said they called their friends which by that I think he meant Suga, Tae and co.
Jk found out about the news at the same time as Jimin. I think he said he found out late because he wasn't awake at the time JM woke him up to share the news.
I don't think JM called the others and cried before telling JK because JM said they called their friends- which I assume they did together via loud speaker which is why RM knew JK lost his voice from crying.
And you could tell from the way JM and JK looked at eachother when JM said the first thing that came to mind was his fans that JK had something to add to that. He wouldn't if he hadn't shared that moment with JM first hand.
They both knew the feeling and most importantly they both felt liberated talking about that moment openly- when I tell you Jikook don't like hiding their relationship or even lying about it!
It's hard to hide a relationship and now that they are being made to hide it it's going to be much harder on them since they've never had to hide and have always benefited from that glass ceiling. But that ceiling is closing.
This is just my thoughts. Feel free to share yours with me.
Keep supporting Jikook.
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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BIGHIT vs BTS SHIPS The Difference Between Jikook and Taekook
I think I have explained the commercial value of ships when it comes to content marketing in one of my previous posts. But allow me to use this opportunity to address it in depth.
Bighit did not invent shipping. Shipping predates Kpop and plays a vital role in spiking interest, relevancy and longevity of that interest in a piece of marketed content. It sustains Audience Retention rates and improves engagement rates significantly. It is a powerful marketing tool when used right but I'm not going to get into all that in this post.
Fact is BigHit does benefit from shipping culture because it is one way they keep the audience engaged with BTS content even when they aren't putting out new content for the market to consume. BTS ships serve the same purpose as all the Run, Soop, Bon voyage and myriads of sub content they put out. You may not watch Run every day, but if you are a shipper you will like a ship post at least once a day.
Shipping is organic and costs nothing unlike most other marketing strategies available to the marketer. TV programs such as Harry Potter (Dont lie. I know you shipped Hermoine and Harry. I did too. *tears) Star wars, Friends, Supernatural, Vampire Diaries, Shadow Hunter to name a few have all benefited from shipping culture significantly.
Can BigHit do without ships? Absolutely. They would be a fool to though. Shipping is just one of the many resource options available to a marketer. It bridges the gap in between formal contents and keep interest in a brand going.
I smirk when some people dismiss shipping, look down on shippers or make ignorant and ill informed comments about shipping culture in general. Audience retention and engagement is king in today's economy and BigHit taps into this resource very well.
All BTS ships are thus relevant and valid. All of them. Unfortunately, this is a numbers games. Numbers play a key role in the commercial value of a ship. And it is a fact universally acknowledged that Taekook and Jikook are ships with the most number of fans and as such provides higher engagement rates within a marketing context.
Taekook is the biggest ship not just in BTS but in Kpop. It is followed closely by Jikook. Does that mean all the ships are nothing but shallow interactions engineered to keep us tethered to BTS for as and when they are ready to sell a product to us? NO.
I don't see BigHit actively curating these ships and masterminding them.
What I mean is, I don't think BigHit is asking the members to interact or even forcing them to interact- except in recent moments but that is another topic for another day.
BTS interact with eachother from their own free will. Of course no two interactions are going to be the same as no two relationships are the same. We cannot compare Taegi to Jikook or Taekook to Jikook or even to VMin because the friendship between Jimin and V is not the same as between V and Jin etc.
No one is forcing Jungkook to interact with Jimin. No one is forcing Tae not to interact with JK. It's absurd to think in such a way.
They all interact with eachother and provide that content for BigHit's use. All BigHit does is decide when to show us that content as and if they want to show it to us at all. They are a business and all these ships are just marketing resources and so they will show us a ship's content in a way that advances their business marketing strategy.
However, if two people within a ship barely interact or do not interact at all with eachother then there wouldn't be any content on them for BigHit to promote or use in their marketing campaigns to begin with.
What I'm saying is, if Taekook sells- as in if there are a lot of people interested in seeing their content(which there are) and those two individuals actually have moments together on or off camera, then in their estimation BigHit will market that content to us. If Jikook sells they will sell it to us; as long as none of these ships are damaging to the reputation and business of BigHit.
[CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC BELOW- Proceed with caution.]
A ships value to BigHit, in my opinion, is contingent on its commercial value as discussed above but if that ship causes BigHit to lose money rather than gain, if a ship negatively affects the business or reputation of BigHit then that ship is as good as dead. They will kick that ship off the spotlight real fast.
Taekook and Jikook have both had moments like this where they are temporarily taken off the spotlight or even asked to tone things down. We've all seen it don't argue with me.
Not everything BigHit does is about these ships. BigHit is a brand in of its own. They have several other brands under their brand and they can't afford to ruin their brand image or any of their artists.
They will not hesitate to shut down a ship if it is doing more harm than good. They did it to Taekook when that ship was in it's hay days. As soon as they started recieving a ton of negative press that is when they started getting 'seperated' -on stage anyway. I don't think they were seperated or asked not to interact off camera. Clearly they do. They are friends after all.
BigHit does the same thing to Jikook whenever they start recieving negative attention. But we see them interacting backstage nevertheless and usually this happens at the same event they get 'separated at.'
It's nothing personal, just business.
[Controversial content ahead. Proceed with caution]
At this point, I know you would be asking why Taekook seemed to have dimmed as a ship where BigHit is concerned but Jikook recieve the same negative press and yet they still market Jikook and shine more light on it....
A Taekooker friend whom I had this discussion with pointed out to me that it seems whenever Jikook receives a ton of negative press BigHit claps back with more Jikook content and in an aggressive way yet has it being Taekook we wouldn't get any content outside official content for a whole year.
To be fair, BigHit treats all ships equally in my opinion. Jikook gets penalized for certain moments just as much as Taekook or any ship gets punished. Example, after the New Jersey VLive Jikook were banned(allegedly) from doing a Vlive on their own for a whole year and after the ban was lifted their VLive was monitored the same way Taekook's Vlive was monitored.
Secondly, perhaps they keep pushing Jikook content because that is all they have? Perhaps, they have more Jikook content than Taekook?
Jikook spend so much time around each other and they don't mind their interactions being filmed as content. Not because they are doing fan service but more so because they are lowkey exhibitionists or exhibit exhibitionist tendencies. Lol. More on that later.
When it comes to Taekook; Tae have said once that JK avoids him off camera which I assume by that he meant Jk doesn't interact with him much off camera. Now it could also be that Jk was not on good terms with him during that particular period which is normal because friends fight.
Jk have also said him and Tae's relationship is not for the cameras and I assume by that he meant they are both are not comfortable providing content for Bighit to use as marketing because as I said all these ship interactions are by their own free will. Bighit can't force Taekook to interact and if Taekook hasn't given them permission to air certain moments they just can't.
Or... or....
The reason BigHit pushes back with more Jikook content even after negative press is because Jikook is real. DEADASS.
Hear me out. Calling Taekook out for promoting Homosexuality in S.K will be deemed negative press if Taekook are not gay or in an actual romantic relationship. Calling Jikook out for promoting homosexuality will not be deemed as negative press but an abuse if Jikook are in fact gay and in a gay relationship with eachother.
BigHit is not homophobic. Bang PD is known for his openly support for members of the LGBTQ plus community. If people hate on Jikook because of their moment he will sympathize with them and shove that in your face.
While Taekook negative press will be a nuance, Jikook negative press will be revolution and BigHit will make a statement: a statement that says they stand with LGBTQ plus community PERIOD.
They will do this not for money but for the boys so they feel loved and supported. So Jikook knows they are not in this fight alone especially coming from a highly homophobic society as S.K.
The thing about Jikook is, Jikook is real. That alone gives BigHit a competitive advantage in the Industry. It means Jikook produce more content for BigHit over any other pair and that content is juicy. It's similar to how companies want exclusive access to certain power couples in the industry. If Jikook are real and BigHit have access to them, exclusive access mind you, then that places BigHit above the competition business wise.
Think of Jikook and BigHit as the Kardashians and Entertainment company behind them. Jikook has given BigHit partial access to their private lives extending beyond the access they have over BTS.
If Taekook or any ship give similar access to them we will see more of them. If they give BigHit content we will see more of them. It's as simple as that.
Jikook is a brand and BigHit is their brand manager. This means BigHit gets more content from Jikook and is at liberty to use that content any how they want and milk the shit out of it. In return, BigHit has a duty to protect Jikook and so no. When Jikook gets negative press due to homophobia BigHit is not going to cancel them.
May be chill on them for a while, because that exposure they give Jikook can be traumatizing for Jikook especially if the feedback is negative.
What I'm saying is, where Taekook would be asked to chill and lay low from public scrutiny it will be because BigHit wants to protect their business interest whereas in Jikook's case it would be to protect Jikook themselves. If Taekook are both gay and in a relationship with each other BigHit would do same for them.
I don't think BigHits marketing tactics however affects the status of Jikook, Taekook or any other ship's relationship in any way. Jikook is real whether it is made the center of attention or not. Taekook could be real regardless of whether they are marketed or not. Just because a certain ship is put under the spotlight doesn't mean that ship is 'real' neither does that negate the genuine friendship that exists between members of other ships.
It is weird to me when people associate BigHits business tactics to the validity of their ship. There is no correlation. BigHit is a business, BTS are their artists that make them money- all BTS not just two members from a ship. BTS is one of the most powerful brands in the world right now.
BigHit will explore and exploit all the relationships within the group, platonic or otherwise, if that will help them sell more albums or even Icecream.
Jikook gives BigHit a competitive advantage more so than any other ship in BTS not just because they are the second largest ship in South Korea but because Jikook are shaping out to be a power couple and Icons for the LGBTQ community. There is a reason why companies rush to support Pride month parades. I'll leave it there.
So no, I don't see it as BigHit highlighting the ship of the era as you put it or alternating between Jikook and Taekook as and when. BigHit has a business to run, shipping plays a vital role in its business marketing strategy but not everything is about these ships.
The members have a role to play in creating content for these ships and Bighit won't hesitate to market it if the content is quality entertainment, consensual and plays to their overall marketing scheme.
This means if Jikook ship content are boring they will choose to show a much entertaining ship content over them. Nothing personal.
I just think they treat Jikook differently because as much as they want to pander to our delusional shipping interests, they owe Jikook a duty to protect them from homophobic people. When you hate on any ship in BTS, BigHit assumes you are nuts but when you hate on Jikook BigHit will immediately assume you are both nuts and homophobic.
Promoting Jikook is business but it is also validation and acceptance and support. Bighit has a proclivity for sensitizing us to Jikook and normalizing their relationship.
If Taekook are also in a gay relationship they will be treated the same and I will support them the same. But to me, I believe Jikook are real and therefore Taekook and Jikook are mutually exclusive. Both cannot be real at the same time.
Ship whatever you want but support Jikook and stan all seven.
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 3 years
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Memories 2019 was jikook fest. I think memories 2020(if we even get one due to covid) will be very tk focused, because they’ve been spending a lot of time together since September, growing close again after their friendship started to grow distance. Idk, I just feel like Jungkook is focusing a lot on Tae recently compared to Jimin, this isn’t me over reacting, there’s so much tk content than usual. Run 116 for example, anyone with eyes can see jikook was off. LGO comeback vlive. Grammys reaction
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I get these kinds of questions a lot, and often when I do, I find I usually do not know how to go about answering it...
These concerns you raise are shipper problems lol and honestly I'm not that kind of shipper? Lmho. I'm more into alt shipping which means I place more value on the quality of Jikook's interactions, as little as those moments may be, than who BigHit decides on as their star ship for a season.
And often when I get into another ship, it's mostly because I am interested in how that ship affects the dynamics of Jikook.
I am curious to know what BigHit does with memories 2020 as well. Mostly because I believe they dumped all their Jikook 'intimate' moments on us in memories 2019 to try and neutralize the alleged brewing scandal revolving around Jikook since Rosebowl and the me too movement that hit the Kpop industry which set of this whole chain reaction with the impromptu vacation and the subsequent Jikook -involved with girls scandal' -allegedly. Bighit don't sue me please. Lol.
But ever since those moments happened, I had a feeling BigHit was moving to normalize Jikook's intimacy to throw sniffers off Jikook's metaphorical queer butts while simultaneously putting a leash around their necks in order to control and prevent any future such occurrence where Jikook's secret could be outed resulting in a potential scandal.
It is why I said I felt BigHit had been moving to mangae Jikook, presenting them as more of a brand than a ship within BTS.
I don't think they would want to go out of their way to specifically highlight Tae kook in memories 2020 simply because they are not trying to cover up any Tae Kook secrets or to normalize Tae kook's intimacy- because Tae kook isn't real. If we see more of Taekook or any other ship in memories it would be because they gave BigHit moments- memorable moments, which is what Memories is about no?
The objective of memories is to showcase moments that BigHit feels is iconic, memorable, beautiful and a reflection of the bond between BTS. That's what memories is.
And the fact they kept highlighting Jikook in Rosebowl should tell you the kinds of moments they consider iconic- JK nibbling Jimin"s ear believe it or not is super Iconic.
I keep saying BigHit bangs on the intimacy of the boys. Which means very often they are where the intimacy is. If Jikook is giving them beautiful iconic moments they can cash they will serve us Jikook. If Taekook, VMin, Sope, or Namjin does that too they will serve us them- it's business nothing personal really.
So it's not a question of whether they are showcasing Taekook over Jikook or Jikook over any other ship.
BigHit values the quality of the interactions between these boys which is why they invest so much in it and go through so much trouble to produce content like Soop or Rookie king which focuses on healing and repairing the boys' bond from time to time.
I mean have you seen Tiny Tan or BT21? Have you seen the level of animated love and connection they generate between these fictional versions of the boys? That's the level of love and closeness they want from the boys in real time for their own marketing agenda.
Jikook is often their go to because their intimacy and bond is not contrived or convoluted or riddled with high tensions and Jikook themselves are more than happy to perform and display their bond and give us iconic moments for the cameras. But where Jikook for whatever reason cannot give them those moments they would look to other pairs for it. I think I have talked extensively about BigHit and BTS ships already. Kindly check that out for a better understanding of my point of view on this topic.
And you are right about Tae and Kook spending a lot of time together this year- but how does that affect the quality of Jikook's relationship? I think I would be more interested in discussing that than worrying about a DVD slated for a near future where I might not even be alive to witness lol- chilee this Corona Virus has me moving scared lately. Pray for me, my moma and my cat. Lol
Listen, Jikook is real in spite of all of these things you mention honestly. Jungkook and Jimin are having bomb sex and doing the gay whether BigHit highlights another ship over them or not, whether come December JK wishes Jin or Tae a happy birthday, whether JK kisses another member's calf or sits on Tae's laps and bounce up and down, and whether Jimin throws himself at RM or not.
I really do not have a problem with the way they both choose to interact with the other members within the group. I just observe those interactions and allow it to inform me on their individual personalities, their state of mind, their emotional maturity levels, whether or not they are growing as individuals, whether or not they are both expressing themselves the way they want to within their dynamic etc. It's their love journey not my fantasy. I support them, I don't ship them.
And I gotta ask, what is it to you if BigHit highlights Taekook in the next DVD? Would that hurt you? Taekook are a part of BTS too and talents within the agency that BigHit have a moral and legal obligation to promote and market just as they promote and market Jikook you know?
It's their shippers isn't it? Fucking psychopaths! Lol. I feel you. I'm not a fan of shippers in general. I think you have to try and move past their annoying, braggadocious, anti Jimin, anti JK, anti Tae, toxic shopping tendencies shopping men for their biases, stealing other ships dynamics and superimposing the faces of their bias onto Jimin or JK' moments- Tae and JK deserve better supporters. Hashtag free Taekook. Lol.
I think you should try to understand Tae kook's dynamics for what it is because believe me Tae Kook give better insight into Jikook in the Vminkook's dynamics.
As for the Run episode, I think I have already put up an analysis of it in a recent post? Chilee. I am waiting for the behind the scenes of episode 117 because I think I spotted a bit of Jeonlous there when Suga and JM were wilin there for a second.
These two episodes were shot sometime during the On era when Jikook were not together together as I've been saying since the onset of my blogs. These episodes are not proof that something is wrong with Jikook now. They just show that something was wrong with Jikook then...
Whatever happened with them in the On era, they moved past it and got back together- like they always do. They always do. They are whipped on God I swear! Lmho. I want to talk about them in this era- yea yea I know I already put up a blog on that but it focused on their MV and roles in the music video and I want to talk about their relationship dynamics 😥
Somebody ask me about that!😭
And it's funny you say with episode 116, 'everyone with eyes could see there was something off between them...' my question is why didn't y'all see that in February when it happened??
You don't need loud moments like these to finally notice when the ship you support is having issues honestly. Chileee. You is 10 months late I think. They moved on, we moved on. This is a new Jikook era baby and Jikook are back with their shenanigans. Lol
This dismissiveness, bigotry, skepticism, treating a ship as a fantasy and not as individuals and the human that they are is how Taekookers and every ship in BTS think their ship is real lol. They will ignore and dismiss all the questionable moments that happen between Tae and Kook and run with the few seconds of skinship they see Taekook do- it doesn't work like that you know? But I guess these are shipper problems and I can't relate.
Oh and when you say there is so much Taekook content than usual..... I want to talk more about this too👀
I want to talk about VMinkook's dynamics next- in a separate blog perhaps? But y'all keep asking me about Minimoni and Yoonmin😒
Should I?
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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TIMES JIKOOK FAILED AT FAN SERVICE- Jikook is Real Y'all
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Disclaimer:
Everything expressed in here is my opinion. It is not intended to be malicious or disrespectful to any of the parties mentioned in here expressly or implied.
Jikook suck at fanservice. That's a fact. I know it, y'all know it, RM KNOWS IT! It is why he never let's hia guard down around Jikook.
Jikook is real regardless of how much sometimes they want to play off their moments and make it seem like all those suspicious moments they've been having are nothing more than our delusional minds playing tricks on us.
Today, I want to keep it light, fun and less angsty. Enough of all the heavy stuff. I know some of y'all secretly hate me for it. Lol.
So here are my top Jikook fanservice fails. Moments jikook for all intent and purposes tried to show off, or curate a moment just to please fans but failed miserably at it.
No. 01
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This right here was a huge fail for me. And I'm not talking about JK melting at Jimin's touch. No. JK doesn't take too well to Jimin's touches in general. we been known. He wasn't running away from Jimin all those years because Jimin has a blackbelt in Taekwondo and can kick his ass- no pun intended. Whenever Jungkook is around Jimin he feels weak, exposed, vulnerable and- whatever this feeling is:
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Jimin was feeling extra that day. He wanted JK's attention. He knew people were watch him. He wanted to do something crazy so the fans would go wild. He had everything under control. The problem with that was Jimin had underestimated the depths of Jungkook's whippedness and had overestimated his own defence mechanism where Jungkook is concerned.
They are both whipped as fuck for eachother and I don't know what Jimin was thinking but it was a bad decision to neck JK in that moment as he himself reacted strongly to JK's reaction to him. For a moment he was confused, disoriented and just plain blanked out.
Jk affects him as much as he affects him and I think he figured that out in that moment. His feelings for JK is as strong as JK's feelings for him. He walked to the end of the table where there were no seats and stood there trying to compose himself and get his head together without giving himself away but he ended up doing just that.
One thing about Jimin, he is constantly underestimating his own feelings of attraction to JK and most often I see he ends up shocking himself. He pursues Jk and puts him on the spot without realizing what that is doing to him also.
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This moment right here onJK's graduation! Absolute humongous huge fail!
Jimin was in his Alpha male dom feels that night. He came in with the 'I'm your hyung/sugar daddy' attitude talking about buying JK whatever JK wanted on his graduation and basically just putting Jk on the spot. You know, flex his effect on Jungkook and tease his bond with him for our consumption.
But the moment JK turns the table around on him, and steps into his badboy baby dom energy Jimin just- just look at him go y'all.
Tae clocked on fast. And personally, I think whoever was behind the camera gave him a signal to join their conversation before Jimin reenacted Jk's infamous melt like butter scene above. Fucking whipped whip, talking about 'OH JEONGGUGIE!' SMH. I present to you my bias y'all. He whipped.
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Do I need to say anything about this moment?
This 2019 New Jersey VLive moment is a classic fan service fail for Jikook. Totally not professional like for a 'self acclaimed professional ship.' It was embarrassing to watch those do- whatever that was that they were doing. It was the Vlive moment that launched a thousand BigHit staff monitoring Jikook VLives. Bless them.
It's obvious they both had not planned on exposing themselves together on camera as it was their first VLive together since Rosebowl. Perhaps, Jk thought: 'oh it's nothing, we've done this a dozen times and we should be good. Plus, I'm not the shy kid anymore. I gat this.'
Well apparently, he didn't 'gat this!'
He like Jimin overestimated his abilities to resist Jimin's presence around him and also he quite frankly underestimated the power of the Park Ji-chest. Because the moment he laid eyes on the Ji-chest, it was game over.
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I love this moment because Jimin didn't know they were pranking Army. His reaction to JK here was genuine and smacked of whippery: The giggle, the embarrassment he felt afterwards was real. It's a big fail because he shouldn't have fell for it.
I mean, people do say they are a fanservice ship don't they? And with all the time they spend together on and off camera you'd think they would be an advanced tier ship by now. *smirk.
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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JK IS EXPOSING JIKOOK.... AGAIN!
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This is not an analysis. Or may be a mini one. Just wanted to point out JK dumb ass exposing himself and his inability to stay away from Jimin even though he and his mans were in a middle of a 'fight.'
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There was a chair right there, JK! An empty chair in a very spacious space next to the rack behind Namjoon and it was equally close to Jimin and the exit if that's where he really wanted to be!
But no. He needed to be super close. Super, super, close, didn't he? Leave no space for Jesus close. Crawl into Jimin"s soul close!
Does this remind you of any particular moment? A certain April/March 2020 YouTube Live uploaded in May 2020 where JK wanted to crawl into Jimin's soul?
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This moment???
Sigh. Ding, ding, ding! Yes. Jk gets super clingy whenever he and Jimin get into a squabble- that is if Jimin is the one mad at him. *insert skull head*
If Jk is the angry one- well, Jimin also gets clingy! Lol. Color them whipped.
And yes, I been told y'all 2019 August up until July 2020 has been that time of the year for Jikook. *Sigh.
It's been a rollercoaster ride for- us. We are equally attached to them as they are to each other and so we can sense when things are off and I know some people think they hold hands and sing Kumbaya on a daily basis- it's called denial sweetie.
Anywho, notice how Jikook were 'seen' less in this episode or how their interactions were zero to none? How JK was almost nowhere to be found in those clips, how they each entered the rest room 'separately?'
There's a reason BigHit dont release their moments in real time and I've already told y"all BigHit loves to show off Jikook moments so they kinda hit the breaks when a moment has less Jikook in it. Fand are quick to raise a brow when they notice the slightest change in Jikook interactions or lack of it thereof.
It thus makes sense to me then that they will release this episode only after Memories 2019 was released. People are too high on that Jikook infested DVD that they won't make a fuss about Jikook not Jikooking in an episode that aired in the past. *Straight face: They ain't slick.
As for JK, it's just the need to reestablish an emotional connection with his partner after a fight to make him feel safe and secure about his emotional connection with his man.
Any physical proximity, touchiness, affection etc goes a long way of reassuring him that everything is alright, that his relationship is safe. It's part of his love language. Jimin's too. But they both lowkey exhibit anxious attachment styles among others which is another blog for another day.
I gotta go cry somewhere because Jikook is just so cute!
Needless to say, this is for entertainment purposes and everything said in here is just my opinion. It's not intended to be malicious or disrespectful in any way to anyone mentioned in here. Don't be weird about it.
Signed,
Goldy
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Hi Goldy! I’m new to your blog and I’ve found your analysis very interesting. I was wondering if you would be interested in explaining more deeply this timeline you’ve mentioned about jikook’s relationship. As in: when did they break up?, when did they get back together?, when did they start dating, etc. I understand if it’s too much work, but it would be really cool! Also, good luck in your studies! From one law student to another :)
I think we should form a club or something, all the Attorneys and lawyers in the making, Architects, Doctors, Nurses, Politicians, Mums, Grandmums- I love it here!!!!!!!!!
Oh and here you go...
I'm not good at video editing, zero skills there but I tried something! It wasn't exactly what I wanted it to be but chilee I tried. JK. Lol.
It's JK stealing a glance at JM when he went to stand by him to sing for me- these two! Smh.
Jk is not a very good actor honestly. He spent the entire episode closed off to JM but he was literally pining lol.
And he certainly wasn't reacting well to Jimin flirting with the staff or camera crew or whoever he was throwing those finger hearts at- some would argue he was making finger hearts at Army... sure why not- whatever rocks your boat. Lol
But I've seen him do this shit one too many times during Runs and MV shoots behind scenes with staff to think otherwise. Besides, the conversation they were having in that moment revolved around the Staff and the mission the staff was going to give them so...
This moment reminded me of Run episode 82 or something where they wore the mask?
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Someone off camera had asked Jimin for a photo or something, he checked to see if Jk was watching him and then he posed and put up a V sign for that person- fucking slytherin. Lmho.
Of course JK noticed what he was up to- because he is always watching JM. Lol. He zoomed over there immediately to lay his claim on his man. It also seemed a few moments afterwards that he had given JM a scolding or demanded for an explanation for his behavior or something- I mean whatever they were doing in the background there whispering to eachother.
It felt like the energy he had when Hobi put his hand around JM in that interview and he snapped his neck towards them to scold JM.
These little moments are moments I just know Jikook is real. They are real. They are. These are moments of Jikook piercing the forth wall to me, legit. Friends don't check friends and hold them to these kinds of standards and exclusivity in their behavior.
And this is what I mean when I say Jikook exercise right of authority over eachother. Yet in this recent episode of Run JK couldnt exercise that right and Jimin didn't even accord JK that privilege-because friends don't have that right nor can they exercise that right.
And you could tell it was taking a toll on JK throughout the episode. I wish I could do a better Job of showing his facial expressions in certain moments where he cracked and exposed himself like when he sensed what Jimin was going to do in the moment right before and immediately after JM had done that heart sign thingy. It was devastating to watch but I screen recorded this and edited it with my phone so the quality isn't exactly great on the zooms. Sorry.
My girlfriend too isn't available right now to fix it up or make a full video analysis for me- will try and get her to do that later hopefully. [ all these zoom, and freeze frame- this is how we turn into TKK_lives for real! Lmho]
As for JM, as I said in my previous analysis, this was his mood the entire On Era when he was trying to get JK back, he was trying to get JK to be jealous and shit and look at the way he checked JK's reaction after throwing that heart sign- yea I'm not giving him the benefit of the doubt. Nope!
Usually, he sneaks around or check to see if he's boyfriend isn't watching him before he does his shenanigans with others outside BTS and that has been pretty consistent of their dynamics throughout the years. And when he notices JK is mad or hurt afterwards he usually tries to reassure him.
He did that this year too during the Stay Gold promo period when he and JK were harmonizing and he looked at someone behind the camera and did that smugly flirty thingy he does and JK was sat next to him looking like he was about to throw his mic at the back of his head. Lol. I love these two!
He threw his arms all over JK immediately to snuggle and appease him. People said he seemed defiant in that moment- like he was defying orders or something. I agree but I think there was more to that moment than JM defying BigHit's orders not to do the skinship thingy with JK. In my opinion.
I wish I could show y'all JM's moments of pining and trying to connect with JK and his exasperation when he felt that wasn't working in this episode but the skills- its lacking. Chilee.
Listen, Jikook is real ok. By real I mean they go through stuff you see in any real romantic partnership. At least from my pov.
It breaks my heart that y'all are pressing mad charges against JK... sigh. Y'alls too quick to throw him under the bus when he upset the balance of your shipping fantasies lol. That's what you get for shipping Jikook. These are real people with real human emotions not fantasies. Don't ship them support them!
Tae is JK's friend too you know? And what are friends if they cannot be there for eachother when they are going through a hard time... sigh.
On era was tough for both of them and I'm glad they got through all of that. I mean if y'all were paying attention to them this episode wouldn't have been shocking, you know? Sigh.
To answer your question my honorable colleague, I think I have exhausted the topic? Lol. I have a comprehensive analysis of that timeline in one of by blog posts but for the love of me I can't remember which. Lol.
I will try and dig it up and forward it to you? I am still working on a masterlist and learning this platform so bare with me please. I purple you.
This has been my point of view. Let me know yours??
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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RE JIKOOK TENSIONS
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My last post wasn't intended as a comprehensive analysis of the leaked footage circulating on social media- neither is this. I will share my analysis later. Promise.
However, I think y'all know where my head is at with regards to what I think is going on in that footage and I have to stick with that for now. Until further notice.
I have read all of y'all's thoughts and opinions on the footage, and I have to agree with most of you about not jumping into conclusions-but for a totally different reason of course.
Apart from a suspicious comment that spent an eternity critiquing my use of similes and metaphors in my last post- which I found really bizarre, I think everyone else's opinion on this matter is valid.
I mean, we all don't know shit now do we? Lol. We are presented with the same set of facts upon which we are tasked to interpret based on our understanding of Jikook's dynamics. Right?
When I theorize and speculate on Jikook, often it is based on how I see them mostly. And when I read your thoughts and messages I assume they are based on your own understanding of Jikook and Jikook's dynamics which I respect.
So explain to me again why y'all think JK is zoned out, stressed out of his wits due to his introvertedness but somehow the person he is supposed to be dating isn't attentive to him?
What am I missing?
Isn't this the same narrative other shippers spin about their ship? Claiming two people are in love but dismissing when they don't provide evidence of that love they feel so much for eachother?
I don't expect anyone to buy my weird ass theories about Jikook but God, the scenario y'all's describing sounds nothing like the Jikook we all know and love. In my humble opinion.
You think JK would be stood there having an episode, looking like Edward Scissorhands if he was head of the Volturi and Jimin wouldn't be all up on him to ease his stress anyway he could in an instant? Y'alls tripping.
Now, I am not disagreeing with y'all- but I'm judging you harshly. Lol.
C'mon now, this is Jimin. This is the man who runs across stages to wipe JK's tears away. The same man, that y'all swear by heaven and earth is in love with JK- or was that a lie too? Chileeeee.
Y'all got me all kinds of fucked up. Lol.
Jimin is super attentive to JK. He knows him better than anyone in the group- better than us. He cares and caters to him. He straps on his imaginary tootoo and plays head cheer for Jk when he is down and worn out- I will fight anyone who says otherwise.
He is JK's clutch. His catalyst. When JK is feeling any kind of way he finds his way to Jimin. Remember AAA 2018, when he was so nervous and anxious he kept rubbing Jimin's arms back and forth to calm himself down?
Mama 2019, on stage where he embraced JM in the most beautiful way we ever seen because he was happy nervous?
How many times have we seen JK grabbing Jimin and pulling him to himself when he is nervous?
Jimin is always the first one to pick up on these cues you are talking about. He is always the first person to know about these moments when JK has them. And tries his best to make JK feel at ease- y'all are breaking my heart.
Seriously, does this sound like Jikook to you?
Isn't that one of Jikook' tells? Do you see anyone besides JM in the group doing these things for JK without fail? Isn't that one of Jikook's distinctifiers? What is going on here!
You think JK would go through all that and JM would be congregating with the extroverts akekeking his butt off in a distant corner not noticing, not caring? Does that sound like Jimin to you?
I get your intentions here I do. Jikook is perfect from heaven, they don't fight- even though they themselves have admitted to squashing one for Jesus multiple times, but God forbid any one should assume and speculate that they have couple fights from time to time and suddenly we are the reason Jikook Antis exist. This is ridiculous.
When it comes to Jikook, if it looks, sounds, talks like a duck- it usually is a duck.
We've seen how JM is when JK is feeling a bit grumpy and isolated from the group. Jimin would ask everyone to shush it and give JK the floor- everyone, JK says I'm sexy let's hear him explain why.
He would bring JK into the conversation, crack Jokes and name drop him randomly Just to make JK feel part of the conversation.
In the new Jersey VLive where JK was tensed up didn't Jimin notice immediately and started rubbing his chest back and forth because that's what JK does to calm himself down when he is nervous?
Have we not seen Jikook at photoshoots? Did y'all not see winter package 2019?
Are y'all telling me JK was going through all that and JM couldn't pick up on his mood? Just tell me you don't believe Jikook is real and go. I'd rather you say that than make JM out to be this emotionally deaf to JK's needs.
Jikook is complex but they are not complicated.
They speak each other's love language. Jimim cares about JK a lot. More so than he cares about anybody else in the group.
He is equally a shy person but he puts that aside to love JK shamelessly. It's clear that whatever had transpired, Jimin just wasn't in the space to be that person JK needed in that moment and the others equally couldn't get it up for him because none of them know how to get through to him the way Jimin does.
I agree JK was probably going through his own shit. I agree it's highly possible that he had zoned out. But where does that sit in Jikook's dynamics?
Signed,
GOLDY
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nightswithkookmin · 4 years
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IS JIKOOK REAL?
In light of everything that's happened over the course of the month: Taekook in the Soop, the missing birthday post on Jimin's birthday and the following silence that's ensued in its aftermath- we are all still waiting for Jimin's birthday VLive; every Jikook fan past and present, deep and shallow, I feel, is left wondering whether Jikook was ever as real as bigfoot and the Easter bunny, a figment of our imagination. Is Jikook real, we all wonder.
Now, I can't answer the later with Vim and Vigor without opening myself up to all kinds of law suits under the sun- I don't care much for the skepticism and ridicule that usually follows. Nor can I in good conscience come out here and outrightly out these two that I feel are in fact a couple and dating. That would be very hypocritical of me.
The best I can do in this instance is to stream my consciousness and share with you why I believe them to be a couple? Let the records show, I am full on delusional. *smiling.
I think when it comes to Jikook the universal consensus within the fandom is that they have a really special bond. We can all agree on that much. Their bond is unique and just plain beautiful; the days of disclarity and obscurity over whether they even like each other long gone.
Thus I refrain from indulging in any conversation that calls to question the intentions of either party towards the other when either act in a certain way that most find displeasing. Such as, questions about why JK didn't promote Promise or Friends, why he didn't wish JM a happy birthday. Is Jk envious of Jimin or vice versa, etc.
Such questions as simple and as innocuous as they may seem are always hard for me to answer. JK promoted Promise, had the funniest reaction video to it. He promoted Lie, every chance he got with teasing Jimin's dance moves in Lie, literally had a gun to Jimin to perform Lie in run and that hand on his heart said it all. Is that not promotion enough?
We heard serendipity, you are me, I am you and the many tireless times JK has talked about it- he won't shut up about it. What more does he need to do to show he loves and supports Jimin's career?
I find when people ask these kinds of questions that they are operating on the mentality that JK doesn't love Jimin *enough* or worse that Jikook ought to love each other in a certain kind of way, their own arbitrary ways and to their own satisfaction.
I keep reiterating that this is their love and their relationship. Ours is just to observe how they are choosing to express that love for eachother and uWu while we are at it. Lol
That's not to say that we shouldn't have certain expectations of them if we believe them to be a couple. Expectations are important and necessary to sustaining our belief in them as a couple. But that expectation should be reasonable and should be determined by the patterns of behavior we see in them towards eachother, towards the group and with consideration to their values, culture and beliefs- stay with me.
If our expectations of them is that they are not loving eachother enough or in a way that satisfies and appeases our spirits then that's no longer expectations. That's projecting.
Thus, I'm often discombobulated by the questions i recieve on the quality of love they express towards each other because quality is relative and highly subjective.
Jikook only have so much room to express their love and affection for eachother since they are not out yet and so we may not fully be privy to the extent of the love they express for each other much less to ascertain its quality.
The space they inhabit is a working space and when the cameras turn on it is work and business...
That being said, what they are not doing within this constricted space they have is equally as important as what they are doing within this space. Whereas questions of the quality of their love is irrelevant, to me as an Alt shipper at least, I find questions of the degree of love between them highly important.
Jikook's special bond is indisputable. The conflict then has always been about labels, whether or not that bond they share is purely platonic, romantic or something in between- the degree of love between them.
And I see there are different schools of thought on this matter. There are those who operate on the assumption that Jikook are just special friends and reserve the possibility that they could be something more to them.
Then there are those who believe they are real or could be real but reserve the possibility that they could also not be real.
These are the conventional shippers. They play it safe. Good for them. But then there are the full on delulu folks such as myself who are risk takers and go all in or nothing- alternative shipping.
To me Jikook is real or I am not shipping them in the way that I ship them at all. Lol. Chileee, I prefer Yoonmin, Minimoni, Jihope, Vmin, Jinminkook, Vminkook as conventional ships for fun and what not. Jikook has always been that alternative ship for me.
And as an alternative ship, what Jikook do for eachother is equally as important to me as what they do not do for eachother. If Jikook are real then I think it's imperative that we have reasonable expectations of them in the way that they behave with eachother, enough to distinctify them as a couple within the group.
Couples are expected to behave in a certain way marked and defined by the couples themselves but that also set them apart nonetheless. Some people choose to be in an open relationship, may be friends with benefit etc but will still exude certain patterns of behavior definitive in itself that it distinguishes them from mere friends.
If Jikook are a couple they will define their relationship in a way that sets a standard for them such that this standard sets them apart from the rest of the group. And I think I have mentioned some of those standards as intimacy, speaking eachothers love language, exclusivity and the right to claim amongst others.
Yes JK loves JM and vice versa but are they loving eachother as friends or lovers? What are the patterns of behavior they put up or not put up to distinctify themselves as a couple within the group if they are one?
Yes Taekook are friends, but are they putting up distinctive characteristics that set them apart from Jikook? The answer is a resounding no- atatattatatatat, no buts. I'll bitch slap you. Lol
Tae cuddles Jimin and shares a bed with him but that is ok because they are besties soulmates. Vmin cute. Tae cuddles JK and suddenly the fandom is in uproar? Chilee, what's y'all on?
This is why I shy away from conventional shippers- well, some. The tendency they have to dismiss certain certain moments when they happen or import standards into Jikook's dynamics based on their own understanding of intimacy and romance without taking into consideration what Jikooks understanding of romance and intimacy is baffles me.
These are the people who would scream why is Jimin blowing kisses at Suga here, why is Jk cuddling Tae there without considering whether skinship with others is a deal breaker for Jikook. JK does skinship with Jin, Tae and suddenly they are questioning whether Jikook is real- I really can't relate.
If skinship is not a deal breaker for Jikook then such reactions to moments like these are nothing but censorship of JK and Jimin's behaviors and goes to question the quality of their love which as I said is irrelevant to the determining of the realness of Jikook.
If you think these skinship they do with others are disrespectful towards eachother then indirectly you are saying Jikook's relationship is toxic- but toxic relationships are still relationships and so that doesn't invalidate Jikook's relationship or disprove it.
If you expect JM to behave in a certain way because you think he is in a relationship with JK or vice versa that is no longer reasonable expectations of them but blatant censorship.
Put censorship aside, the question of the quality of their relationship aside, our own personal idiosyncrasies aside and hopes- what do you see?
REASONABLE EXPECTATIONS
I mentioned above how it's imperative to have reasonable expectations of Jikook if you believe them to be a real couple because without these expectations Jikook is no different from any other ship in BTS.
I talked about what constitutes reasonable expectations though and attempted to outline what doesn't count as reasonable expectations but allow me to shed more light on it for the sake of dissolving any ambiguity around the term.
Unreasonable expectations are those expectations we have that result in us questioning the validity of Jikooks relationship without cause. They often result in us assuming something is wrong between Jikook because we feel there is something we ought to see in their interactions because we are used to seeing them in Jikook dynamics.
Unreasonable expectations is drilled in us by false conditionings. Some of these false conditionings are external to Jikook, such as our exposure to analysis videos or edited videos. They often condition us to think Jikook are in BTS to screw eachother seven ways through the roof all year round. We tend to forget quickly that when the cameras turn on it's all work for them.
The worst part is, we get used to the slowed down gazes, the two seconds lingering stares and touches that go on for minutes in these edited videos and so whenever we are exposed to actual content from BigHit in real time we feel JK didn't stare too long, JM didn't laugh at JK's Jokes therefore something is wrong.
Some false conditionings are induced in us by Jikook themselves.
Take for instance, Jimlous and Jeonlous. Are these something to be considered reasonable expectations for us to have of Jikook because we see them do this all the time? Absolutely not.
While jealousy is an integral part of the Korean dating culture- allegedly, it is subject to the mental state, personal values and growth of Jikook.
As they mature, they may outgrow certain behaviors not limited to Jimlous/Jeonlous. It is thus unreasonable to expect these of Jikook all the time.
Coupled with long exposures to edited videos, we soon become conditioned to expect Jk or Jimin to react strongly to when the other seemingly crosses boundaries with others- aka skinship.
If you expect JK to pout each time Jimin smiles at another member and they don't, it simply means you are stuck in the past and aren't growing with them on their love journey. It doesn't mean something is wrong with Jikook or that Jikook is not real.
That doesn't mean Jeonlous is not important. It is a distinctifier. In my opinion.
Jikook are able to enforce boundaries with each other because they have the right to. I keep saying they are the only pair in BTS that has and exercise this right of claim over eachother. Jimlous/ Jeonlous is how we know they feel a boundary has been crossed and depending on the situation or environment they would often exercise that right of claim.
I have said, the only times I feel they don't and can't exercise this right of claim is if they are not a couple and just friends- when they are broken up. I saw this because even in official settings they seem to have this right of claim even if they are not exercising it.
What I'm trying to say is certain behaviors and patterns of behavior in Jikook are distinctifiers in that they set them apart from the other pairs and those distinctifiers can be reasonably expected of Jikook and so if we don't see those in them- over a period of time mind you, then questions and brows ought to be raised as high up as possible. If Jikook is not real then frankly I want to know. I'm not about to believe in bigfoot.
What I'm saying basically is, whereas Jeonlous and Jimlous are not a distinctifier perse as such shouldn't be reasonably expected of them, right of claim is a distinctifier and should be reasonably expected.
Skinship is not a distinctifier- if I have to repeat this one more time I swear to god imma wield JK's pan on y'all. Lol but deadass.
Now, is JK wishing JM a happy birthday openly on social media reasonable expectation? Come now, Y'all don know I had a complete meltdown over this on my TL. Of course I'm gone bring it up. Lol
Jikook wishing eachother a happy birthday on social media is reasonable expectations to have if it is a distinctifier or something that sets Jikook apart from the rest of the members. Is it? The answer is a flat ass no.
I mentioned that one of the reasons I believe Jikook is real is because I feel out of all the pairs in BTS they are the ones that speak eachother's love language.
Jimin loves to be made to feel special. Jk makes Jimin feel special. I mean he did gift JM a present without doing same for the others so it's safe to assume he gives Jimin special treatment on his birthdays- as should he. Mr Park set the standards high for his man.
Y'all know I was on my personal agenda with this whole JM birthday thingy. I was hoping Jk was going to post but only for Jimin and make a statement with it- a girl can dream.
The fact that he didn't post doesn't mean he didn't make JM feel special on his birthday. Had JM and BTS not talked openly about JK buying JM a present when he didn't do that for the others, frankly we wouldn't have known he ever did that for JM.
It sort of leaves you wondering what goes on behind the cameras. I mean if memories 2019 is anything to go by, Jikook is closer than we think.
Jikook show us a lot but there are a lot more we don't see.
In their early dynamics he used to do alot for JM that he seemed uncomfortable showing openly. We only knew of those moments through Jimin who seemed giddy and excited about them and would often overshare those information.
Personally, I feel whatever they did for Jimin on his Birthday is going to show up in a Bangtan Bomb or something in the future.
Due to BTS' inability to hold physical concerts due to the virus, I feel BigHit are on an agenda to increase demand and patronage for BTS content online by creating scarcity and making BTS less available and accessible- demand and supply, economics 101. They ain't slick. Bless them.
Social media is an outlet for Jikook. In my opinion. It is one of the means through which they express themselves individually and as a couple. But it's my understanding that Jikook use these outlets in different ways.
While JK uses it as an outlet to express his feelings because of his introvertedness, Jimin uses it as a means to connect with his fans and build their platform.
What I mean is, if JK is feeling happy he is going to come on here and tweet, cup of milk let's rock and roll. When Jimin doesn't pick up his calls, he's gonna come here and tweet it's hard to love. And when JinMin leave him out of a VLive he's gone drag his man's ass to film an impromptu live with him- bless him.
Jimin I find doesn't show up on social media on impulse as JK does- we all know what happens when he does. Thats when the multiple tweets and misspelled names roll in.
Jimin's presence online is often curated, in my opinion. He will often make time to talk and share his thoughts and feelings with Army to connect with them. It's the quality time love language bit in him.
Together, they use social media as an outlet to tease their relationship as a means to relieve the stress that comes with hiding their relationship. Their relationship. They do this through the flirty banter thingy they do on line- posting after eachother, responding to each other's messages etc.
An example is the recent Weverse thingy JK did which I posted about. And more recently, the D5/D4 posts they shared on Twitter where JK posted a picture of his mic on stage, an Army Logo and a purple heart. Which together read, JK purple's Army.
Jimin responded with a complimentary post of himself performing in a black and white photo with the hashtag Jimin, I miss Army. Now you don't need me to tell you what that means and if you think it's a coincidence- sorry to you.
When JK does these things, he is often connecting with Jimin, reaching out. Not every post he sends is about Jimin or intended for Jimin. I find usually the ones that are about Jimin, Jimin responds to them through his own posts or that they will have something in them that indirectly points to Jimin.
Like the 123 song recommendations or even recently the pinky ring, sky and cup of milk photo he posted after his birthday VLive.
A lot of people kept saying perhaps the chrome heart ring he wore on his pinky was a gift from Jimin. It could be. But I think the pinky was reference to the pinky ring Joke he shared on stage when he took Jimin's ring and put it on his pinky.
The blue sky reference, well... you know. But I was more concerned about the blurred out yet visible tags on the buildings in the background- this is weird for me to say out loud but I felt the message of that post was we are not hiding. Don't mind me.
Jimin loves to flaunt their bond and flex it on social media. He gets giddy and excited when Jk shows his affections, interest and attraction to him.
I have said JK and JM have two different personalities and while often Jimin is loud, open and overwhelmingly affectionate, JK is equally intense with his affections but at his choosing. They both have intense feelings and passions for eachother but they express it in different ways due to their different personalities.
Jikook are together but they are on their own unique personal journeys of growth as well. And as much as they start certain traditions, they also end certain traditions. This is especially true for JK.
He is the one who started their 123 coded flirty banter and he is the same person who ended that tradition with the ending scene post he shared on Twitter.
Because JK likes to retract and conceal aspects of himself, often I value and pay more attention to the things he does share than the things he don't.
And because Jimin is very loud and forward with his expressions, I value and lay attention to the things he does not share more so than the things he shares.
Often I hear people say Jimin acts the same with everyone, he is so openly affectionate so certainly his love for JK doesn't go beyond platonic feelings nor can it be exclusive to JK.
That's just the thing with JM's persona. It is so loud it blurs the line between his true self and his idol self.
The boy in love with Jungkook is a facade. That is the role Jimin took on at debut. If you don't know this you've been played. If you dislike JK's brand of love, his way of expressing his love for Jimin because of this persona Jimin has you owe Jk an apology.
That one person who loves Jungkook unconditionally in BTS is just a performance. All BTS were given roles, a marketing role to sell the bromance and sell the fans. Most of them have since out grown those persona's and those kinds of performances- especially JK.
JM still holds on to his persona compared to the others in my opinion: that hypersexualized, aigyo cute persona, a bit brazen, confident, shameless etc. He projects a lot of himself into this persona but I feel often he injects bits of this persona into his real identity as a way to break himself out his limitations as Park Jimin-That never mind tattoo is there for a reason.
And so when he is being loud and daring and a tease that's not when I find his love for JK. His love resides in the calmness of his storms. In his moments of quiet when he isn't screaming and disappearing while he laughs; when he is staring at JK, taking in his visage as if he is the most beautiful thing on earth- that's when you see all the love he has for him in his face. He never does this with any of the members.
When JK is injured and he switches off his loud persona, that's when you see the real park Jimin.
I don't know which is worse, people who believe this sick persona of his is real or the people who see this persona for what it is but fail to look deeper than that.
Then there are those who believe they are dating but then dismiss certain questionable things when they happen in their dynamics. Isn't that why some people believe Taekook is real? in spite of Jikook? How can you believe a ship to be real when the existence of another ship calls into question the entire ship and not just aspects of it? It beats me.
Are they any ship in BTS that calls Jikook into question? I'll leave you to answer this.
If your answer is wrong, I'm blocking you.
Signed,
GOLDY
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