ok what if instead of lesbian vampires being all skinny feminine ladies we started to get lesbian vampires who were like overweight punks with a deathwish or a gang of middle aged bikers or nonbinary lesbians running a circus or predatory yoga moms leading a wellness cult like that one episode of wwdits like please I'm BEGGING for something interesting

helloooooo!! can i request some headcanons for the demon brothers with a MC that is Non Binary but is afab and insecure about being afab and doesnt feel like they are Non Binary. platonic or romantic either one is fine. thank you. also Jaehee is a Queen period.

I haven’t had Mystic Messenger installed on my phone for like a year and this blog is mostly, if not exclusively Obey Me rn, but I refuse to change my url because it remains true. Jaehee is the best and deserves the world <3

Also don’t mind me casually throwing in some Devildom/Celestial Realm gender headcanons as an intro~

Warnings: Mentions of gender dysphoria, internalized transphobia, insecurity gang rise up. I’ll try and keep it more general since this is meant to be a comfort/fluff piece.

The Brothers With an Insecure (AFAB) Nonbinary MC

As a whole, the Devildom doesn’t really do traditional gender. The variety in demons’ and fallen angels’ appearances makes for such a diversity of body types that markers of femininity and masculinity are easier to disregard. It’s commonplace to provide one’s pronouns along with their name when meeting someone new, and any changes in a demon’s presentation are noted with little more fanfare than a new haircut.

Even angels don’t really get preoccupied with gender: in fact, as MC discovered one day while talking with Luke and Simeon, most barely grasp the concept of what a gender is. Simeon had mentioned that this occasionally resulted in him forgetting the genders of his characters, resulting in TSL being extremely popular among transgender and nonbinary fandom communities.

But MC is not from the Devildom, nor are they from the Celestial Realm. They’re from the human world, with its reductive views on bodies, presentation, and identity. A year in the Devildom can’t erase a lifetime of cissexism.

Some days, it wears on them more than others.

Lucifer

Lucifer is always aware when MC’s self image starts wavering

As someone who has fought tooth and nail to remain true to himself, he understands the struggle of facing resistance to this

But the idea of it coming from within is somewhat foreign to him

Nonetheless, he’ll do anything within his power to make MC feel better

Will calmly, but firmly assert that MC is the only one who can determine their identity

It’s not about how they were born or raised, but who they know themself to be deep down

If it’s their gender dysphoria making them feel invalid, he’ll try and minimize it however he can

Need a different RAD uniform? No problem. Worried about being perceived a certain way? Anyone who stares at MC for too long or even dares to make a comment about their presentation is getting the Lucifer Death Glare.

Physical/body dysphoria? The Devildom has tons of temporary and permanent solutions for that, they can try whatever they’d like

It is vital for the success of the exchange program that all the students feel comfortable and well-accommodated

Also MC is very dear to him and he hates to see them suffering

Mammon

As soon as he notices MC is upset, he is READY TO FITE

Who’s been messing with them?!

What? They don’t feel like they’re really nonbinary? Are they questioning again, or—

Oh. Oh…

Well that’s stupid! What do you mean you don’t “look nonbinary”?! What’s there to look like? Humans are so weird about this stuff, look: you want to know what someone’s deal is, you ask! And their answer? That’s it! End of story, there ya go!

It’s not so simple in the human world, MC tries to explain

Mammon huffs and mumbles something about how it should be, but he can see this avenue isn’t making MC feel better

It seems whatever junk ideas the human world has about gender really gets into people’s heads…

Well, whenever Mammon wants to take his mind off of something, he opts for something exciting! Hitting the casino, making new plans that’ll definitely work this time, maybe even try and pull a prank on one of his brothers…?

But if MC just wants to cuddle and watch some mindless TV or play video games he doesn’t mind doing that either…

Leviathan

Levi knows, without fault, every single TSL characters’ pronouns and identities, if and how they change through the series, and between different media adaptations

He can (and will) list all the nonbinary characters like a gender Pokemon Rap, with special attention on those who match MC’s presentation and/or AGAB

(Not that AGAB is essential or even always available information, but dysphoria is not a rational creature, and Levi is very familiar with irrational emotions)

Would MC say that any of these characters aren’t really nonbinary because of how they look or how they started out? Then why are they any different?

But if something about their appearance is really bothering them, he might have a solution

Cosplay

Well, sort of

Crossplayers use all sorts of techniques to masculinize or feminize their appearance when necessary, and Levi’s pretty familiar with most of them

So if MC wants to try some out to see if it makes them feel more comfortable, he wouldn’t mind showing them! You know… if they’re… interested…

Also double-checks to make sure it’s okay that he calls them his “Henry” and assures them that it’s about the character’s role and personality, and not some sort of gender-based comparison

Unless... they like the comparison? andwouldliketocosplayasHenrytohisLordofShadows??

Satan

Who said this to you, MC.

Names. Now.

Boy gets frothing mad when MC explains it’s a societal and cultural problem, not an individual one, that fuels their insecurity.

If they don’t want to hear an hour long rant about the rich history of human gender expression and identity, they need to cut him off fast

If he could maim the concept of transphobia, he would

But alas, this is not a problem that can be solved (entirely) with violence

So he has to find other ways to show his support

Ask him about any notable trans, nonbinary, or otherwise gender nonconforming figures from human or demon history. He’ll happily tell MC all about them.

But, at the end of the day? In his opinion, there’s one person that shines above the rest

Someone who braved the longest odds, who persisted against the fiercest enemies and even turned them into their closest friends

Who saw others at their worst and sought to bring out the best in them…

*stage whispers* He’s talking about you

If there’s anyone who’s going to believe in the right to self determination and the irrelevance of your origins to your present identity, it’s Satan

And if anyone ever does try to tell MC that their doubts about themself are true?

Just give him their name and don’t ask questions

Asmodeus

So they’re worried about being too feminine? Is there such a thing?

If that’s the case, they can be “too feminine” together

Asmo’s gender nonconformity has earned him praise all throughout his life, so the idea of being ashamed of such a thing is alien to him

But he does know what it’s like to have an audience who expects a specific image from you

And the fear of disappointing them

But gender isn’t a performance

Well, it is, sometimes, poor choice of words: but it’s a performance for you

Asmo presents the way he does because it’s what makes him happy, same with the rest of the brothers

MC shouldn’t be any different

If they’re looking for a more masculine wardrobe or just want a change of pace, he’ll happily help them find clothes that make them feel more comfortable, but his main concern is that they know they’re free to wear what they’d like, act how they’d like, and it doesn’t change who they are

Whatever image they want to make of themself, he can get them there, but only if it’s because they want it, not because it’s what they think they’re supposed to be like, okay?

Beelzebub

When MC first confesses to Beel that they feel like they’re not really nonbinary because of their body, he kinda looks around and gestures as if to say “really? Down here?”

Has MC ever noticed that RAD doesn’t have gendered sports teams?

Yeah, if they separated people by something as irrelevant as gender or Diavolo forbid, sex, people would get seriously injured or worse

There are so many ways to be a man or a woman or a nonbinary person, and they’re not always what you’d expect

Some of Beel’s best teammates and scariest opponents look and act nothing like you’d expect them to

If they’re feeling disconnected from their body, Beel is totally down to work out with them, keep them grounded in all the good their body does for them and that they can do for it

And yes, also the good food their body lets them experience

He also definitely reaches out and gives their hand a lil squeeze if he ever notices them feeling down while they’re out together

He cares for them a lot and just wants them to be happy at the end of the day

Belphegor

Oh yeah, that’s one of the stupidest things about the human world

Belphie remembers being mistaken for a woman a lot when he used to visit the human world, and how confused he was when people got into such a tizzy over his gender

Why waste all that energy on something that doesn’t matter? If you must know, just ask the person and be done with it

It doesn’t matter what they look like

MC is MC

If they say they’re nonbinary, that’s good enough for him

If they don’t want to be touched, especially in certain places tiddy pillow naps, he might get pouty, but he’s all bark and no bite, he’ll respect their wishes

His approach to making MC feel better is more geared towards normalizing their identity

If he accepts it as a fact, then maybe they’ll catch on that people will respect them if they know what’s good for them?

Also, if they hear him mumbling about correct pronouns and punching transphobes in his sleep… No they didn’t. He’s not dreaming about them, he swears...

NZ and Artie hcs pretty please! Something 🥺 thank youuuu

Sorry this took me so long to answer!

I should start with something 'overall' first. I've enjoyed seeing different fandom interpretations of New Zealand throughout the years- as a shy golden boy, to rambunctious fellow play fighter, to mud weary tomboy, to a poised daughter, or all at once. For me, potentially due to how Zea has been canonically drawn, New Zealand is non-binary. What they've got going on under there ain't my business and they certainly don't care. I’ve therefore given them the name ‘Alex’- for the feminine or masculine version, who’s to say.

They very much live by the feeling 'I am New Zealand', and whatever that entails. Nothing more, nothing less.

Childhood/ Teenagerhood:

England had really settled into the swing of things at this point. He was used to children, used to parenting in general- the ups and downs of it - and used to keeping his children at more of a distance emotionally than he had with Canada and America. So, by the time Zea came about there was a smoother transition into family life than there had been for poor old OZ. Australia, who had a few brief years of England as a more affectionate, happy, and relaxed parent, was abruptly cut from contact for a few years and then reintroduced to someone stricter and far more distant and which has left their relationship a bit strained at times.

Zea knew nothing else. From the get go, England set a standard of behaviour and maintained it. On the one hand this was good: Zea never struggled around England, either in being comfortable in his presence or with the 'new' rules that were in place, and also never suffered from any sort of consequence that came from having a parental figure suddenly do a 180 on you.

On the other hand, they did grow up slightly lacking in the affection department. They knew England loved them, but as soon as they became a little older there were less hugs, less kisses, less of playing silly games and more study, learning, and filling their days with their own company. They were used to this and it didn’t bother them at the time, but compared to their older brothers, or younger ones (seeing him with Sealand does spark some bitterness), they certainly missed out, and have inherited England’s current (in)ability to interact physically with loved ones- they’re not overly touchy-feely and express love through acts of service or gift giving.

Mainly though, Zea's childhood was good and quite stable. They were home schooled, but England also used to like sending them off for playdates with noble families with children to get them more acquainted to people their physical age, or would take Zea with him into town to work with their politicians or their tradesmen. Zea thus spent a lot of their time waiting, either sitting on the floor of England's study, or somewhere around him outside, watching and listening to him work and talk shop with people.

Nations are robust things, sturdy and, surrounded by their people, not really in too much danger. I think England was rather lax in this regard with his children (someone who had a childhood of wandering around villages, foraging for food, and being personally thrust into war from a young age will hardly find a town centre in the 1800s dangerous) and used to leave New Zealand with some local children for entertainment if he needed to go and do things that required a bit more time than a quick chat.

Because of this, a humdrum of business is something New Zealand finds to be a soothing white noise, something they can filter out or tune into easily, and they appreciate this unorthodox education. They’re also very happy with their own company and can entertain, and soothe, themselves independently.

Not to go on too much of a tangent (because I do do that, in these posts), I just want to quickly touch upon Zea and Oz’s relationship because I think that helped cover up for what they were lacking in terms of openness and easy affection from England- Zea because they never really had it, and Oz because he was missing it. Due to how close they are geographically, and potentially because England on some level felt guilty for his inability to fully let himself go and open up to them, New Zealand and Australia spent quite a lot of time with each other in either of their lands from England moving them about with him when he visited one or the other. Both were also sometimes taken back home with him to the UK and a lot of Zea’s exposure to a more ‘traditional’ Kirkland upbringing comes from their time with their bother- playfights, arguments, mischief, and an open easiness with each other’s raw and unfiltered company.

Back on topic and to summarise, New Zealand's childhood relationship with England was a good one. As I mentioned in my Canada headcanon post about a similar topic, England is very, very good with small children and Zea was no different. But as they got older this decreased rapidly, something that they considered perfectly acceptable at the time but now is something they sometimes look back on with a small amount of hurt and confusion.

Teenagerhood they were very used to being on their own and, funnily, when you think about what England was trying to do, very independent. Not independent like America, with his fights for recognition as an independent entity removed from England, but independent personally. A childhood of watching England work and playing often by themselves meant that Zea as a teenager was studious, quiet, and happy to be left alone or taken out for company (similar to Wales in personality, I reckon. Need their alone time and will take themselves away if this is not given).

Arguments with England were rare- Zea’s not one for butting heads but would much rather learn the ins and outs of everything and then put forth and argument for change. England may be a hothead and stubborn, but he’s not closed minded. It’s how you approach him that matters and Zea caught onto this early. Whereas Australia would shout or refuse to do that he was asked if he didn’t want to, or would put up some form of fight, New Zealand would instead do the task, do it well, and then request time with England to formally present him with all of the reasons their proposal was far better.

England being told he is wrong will likely not listen if he believes himself to be right (even if he has doubts, someone telling him that his way is bad will make him stubbornly cling to it just to prove them wrong and himself justified for doing it in the first place- clawing and scraping for even an inch of a victory). But England being told that someone has thought of a different way, and asking for his opinion on it, is far more likely to inspire change. He feels valued and goes into the discussion with an open mind that most often went in New Zealand’s favour.

Because of this, they do have a reputation of having England wound around their little finger from a young age. But really, they were just smart enough to figure England out and use it to their advantage. They were also smart enough not to overplay this hand, and so their teenagerhood was peaceful and calm.

Adulthood:

As adults, the two are on very good terms. England prefers adult children to teenaged ones, especially calm, well-mannered ones, and this relationship improved after Zea got their independence. Rather like a burst of relief from England’s end, I feel- he’d spent so long paranoid about his colonies leaving him that this clouded his enjoyment of them. With them finally independent, that worry is redundant and he can enjoy them for the people they are. And Arthur likes Alex, he really does. He finds them mature, funny, and intelligent. The two have similar hobbies and interests and England often spends time with them travelling about to beaches or passing book recommendations back and forth.

Being nations heavily shaped and surrounded by the sea, this is something that is a huge passion for the both of them and they often go sailing together on the ocean, either on smaller boats by the shore or for larger trips out to sea. Arthur willingly took all of his children out to sea, but Alex was the only one who really took to it and shares a similar hunger for it as he does. They’re probably the least openly affectionate pair of all of the Arthur- child relationships, but that doesn’t mean he loves Alex any less and, most of the time, Alex knows this and is content with the way things are. As mentioned in my Canada post though, England is trying to improve himself in this area in the modern day and he’s trying really hard with Zea, (though this is sometimes awkward for the both of them.)

The Gospel According to the East

https://jaredmithrandirolorin.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-gospel-according-to-east.html

In the mid 90s Shoujo Magical Girl Warrior Anime Wedding Peach in almost every episode the title character in her proto Team Rocket Motto style speech expressing her disapproval of the monster of the week's actions declares "I will NOT forgive you".  However by the end of this episode that is proven wrong, she is actually very forgiving, even the main big bad is redeemed in the end.  And in at least one episode this alleged refusal to forgive is contradicted within seconds of proclaiming it. The God of The Bible never expresses a refusal to forgive nearly that unambiguous, but I do think it's a good analogy for how to look at the many passages of The Bible that makes people think of Yahuah as some angry God of vengeance.  The passages that make critics of my soterology think Jesus clearly isn't going to save everyone even though several key passages of Scripture clearly say He will.  Yes when He's angry He sounds like no one has ever been angrier at anyone then He is at His children.  But as Psalm 30 and 103 say His anger only lasts for a moment. This is no where near the only time Anime speaks to my view of The Gospel and God's True Nature.  It shows up elsewhere in the Magical Girl genre like Daybreak Illusion which I talked about in early June, it's in Nausicaa of The Valley of The Wind and SSSS.Gridman and in a post I made about Higurashi. Soterology isn't the only area where I feel Western Christianity has been corrupted by 15 centuries of mixing with Platonic Philosophy and Roman legalism.  But to critics of what I believe, me unapologetically saying I see the True Biblical Gospel more in the fiction of Japanese Pagans then American Evangleicalism seemingly proves their point. But I also have posts dedicated to proving Universal Salvation isn't Pagan, at least it's not compatible with true Ancient Paganism, (I won't speculate on how Universalist modern Wiccans, Druid, Odnists and Kemites are).  True Ancient Paganism was if anything the opposite, no one is saved, there is no hope of escape from Hades/Sheol. And actual traditional Shinto mythology is no different, (remember even in Japan Anime is a niche interest).  Izanami and Izanagi are eternally separated with her forever trapped in Yomi.  Otaku Media and also some Shoujo media seem to be the product of a deliberate rebellion against that pessimistic theology even when seemingly working within it. David Bently Hart in his recent interview with Peter Hiett talks about how a lot of classical Greek plays like Antigone are about a character offering themselves as a willing sacrifice for the good of the community.  He sees the Passion narrative as being like that at first, but the Gospel is the subversion, God rejects the Sacrifice by Resurrecting the Victim.  And that too reminds me of what separates a lot of my favorite Anime from most Western Supehero media. "Where there is death there will always be Death" is a quote from Men In Black 3.  Everyone knew someone had to die in Avengers Endgame, that they couldn't just undo the Snap without any Sacrifice, I love the film even though I was hoping they'd subvert that and was disappointed when I knew they wouldn't. But in Anime this is rejected often.  In Magical Girl Anime like Prisma Illya where she is constantly told she can't save both and constantly says NO to that.  As well as in Digibro's Otaku Hero's Journey premise where saying they will fix the world without anyone needing to die is a vital element.  In Stein;Gate the show seemed to be based on saying they can't save both Mayuri and Kurisu and so the character often jokingly called Cristina willingly sacrifices herself, and if it were a normal American show it'd have ended with episode 22, but it didn't. I'm not saying Western Media never does that, but it's less common and far more likely to be criticized.  Just imagine what a review of The Lion The Witch and the Wardrobe would be like from a critic who didn't know it was a Christian allegory? Aslan's Resurrection would have been labeled a cowardly cop out. So the question is, why?  If it's not natural for Paganism to be like this, yet these writers are non Christians often explicitly drawing on Shintoism in these stories.  And according to mainstream history Japan's first and still primary contact with Christianity was via Tridentine Catholicsm.  Why does this one particular subculture keep unintentionally echoing the Gospel? It could be the same way certain Greek Pagan writings were selectively useful to Paul in places like Acts 17 (Peter Hiett's Acts 17 sermon is pretty good).  Or maybe it has something to do with the controversial theory that "Nestorian" Christians came to Japan in the 5th-9th Centuries? The history of the Nestorian schism is more complicated then most Calcedonians and Miaphysites want to make it sound.  It ultimately had little to do with Nesotriaus and it was mainly made unfixable by Jusitnian's obsession with condemning Theodore of Mopsuesta, who taught Universal Salvation just as unambiguously as Gregory of Nysaa, but did so from a hyper Literalist rather then Origenist view of Scripture.  Isaac of Nineveh and the Book of the Bee show that this branch of Christianity was where Universal Salvation thrived during the Dark Ages of the Churches West of the Euphrates. There is no controversy that the Nestorian Church had a strong presence in China during the 7th and 8th Centuries because of the Xi'an Stele.  It is also well known that during the Asuka, Nara and early Heian periods Japan had a lot of contact and cultural exchange with China, for example this is when Buddhism came to Japan.  And Christians have a commission to bring the Gospel to the Ends of the Earth, Nippon was as far as they knew the Eastern End. I don't want to say anything to definitive on any of the specifics of this theory.  It often gets wrapped up in Lost Tribes theories which I'm far more hesitant to endorse.  But I notice that these theories do involve claiming certain figures traditionally viewed as Buddhist to have been actually Nestorians.  The Xi'an Stele used Buddhist imagery like the Lotus Flower, showing these Chinese Nestorians were just as okay with drawing on the local secular philosophies as the Greek Churches were (I do not think all Christian use of Greek Philosophy is bad, I just really distrust Plato and Augustine).  Both religions had a monastic tradition and both claimed to offer "Enlightenment" in some sense.  So I could see reactionary Shinto traditionalists distrustful of any foreign Chinese influence not bothering to distinguish between them. So is it possible these tendencies of Anime I like are echos of the Gospel of Theodore of Mopsuesta?  I would need a lot more links in the chain to make that argument solid, but it's an idea rolling around in my head. The Good Gods of Otaku Media are often Goddesses.  That could just be a reflection of Amaterasu as the usual chief Kami in Shintoism.  But I have also argued on my blogs for there being a Feminine side to the God of Abraham.

Personal deep thoughts that make me ponder people sometimes and makes me cry silently alone.

So, something’s been on my mind the last couple of weeks that I’ve tried keeping to myself, that I’ve only told a few of my friends privately in my personal life...it still feels so weird and puzzling to me...warning, you might breakdown crying as I had over time, grab tissues, or want to hug me tight nonstop after you read this...it’s that intense of feels, so don’t say I didn’t warn you.

So, I have this friend in fandom, cosplay, the arts, etc. who I will not personally name, let’s call her “J”. J has lately gone through many phases of changes that just seems to shock everyone in our life who have known her for quite some time...one minute she’s emo scene kid, next minute goth, emo, goth kawaii, emo again to suddenly lolita goth. Then she goes from rejoicing of saying she’s at some point bisexual, to making us all assume she’s a lesbian but then suddenly tells us she’s bisexual to suddenly without warning or my LGBT Gay-dar going off becoming this negative moodly beyond rage claiming, “I’m trans, but not like normal cist or mixed Trans men or women, I don’t want any physical or visual change of going from female to male. I only feel mentally/emotionally a man not no longer a Woman. You all better get used to accepting me suddenly as Trans Identifying as Male, no longer calling me by my born female name, start calling me by my brand new male name or else I won’t be happy. I will not be disrespected because I am now a male, so get used to it, don’t screw up trying to get used to going from female pronouns to male pronouns.” You can imagine that’s been...quite the roller coaster of having to deal with suddenly, going through this major “change’’. The messed up part...She now “He” never once told me one of “his” closest friends ever about this sudden change of no longer Identifying as Bisexual/Lesbian to suddenly this, especially when he knew my boyfriend and I are all pro-LGBT everything, I myself having trans friends fully going through all the phases of changing their gender/etc. So this was a surprise...especially when this friend of mine is/was my best friend...who only during my time visiting me this summer for short of a week only dressed in very highly feminine gothic clothes, full on normal female make up, not transgender clothes, or drag makeup, or even gender neutral clothing like my normal trans friends did. Prior to this, to visiting, he J had made this whole big thing of telling me, “To please privately inform your mother and family that I’m no longer going by my prior used female name and I’m now a male with a male name and educate them about LGBT Trans Rights, etc. and make sure no one messes up calling me the wrong gendered pronouns or names or else I’ll not be tolerated to be disrespected as a mixed race black/asian transgendered man.” Again, quite the angry aggressive response he gave me when I was like, “I’ll do that, mind you my family is traditional hispanic-mexican-native american but they aren’t homophobic or transphobic as you automatically assume. They’ve only known you as your past female name so, it will take them time to adjust to suddenly calling you a new name etc. Especially since you barely had told me about this all of the sudden change barely in the last year dropping this bombshell on your own Mother, Myself and my boyfriend when we’ve been bff’s for years man...you haven’t even come out male to all your real life family/relatives and friends.”   So after all that lecturing me, like I was an idiot bisexual woman, what happened...”He” refused to go by He or his male name, instead told me to not say anything to anyone, and went willingly, so willingly by his former female gender, female pronouns of a name...it made me feel frustrated, upset, confused as well as my boyfriend by this act he/she was playing with us and my family and his family who are all accepting of all races, religions, LBGT too.

  I hate to say or admit it, but I started questioning if J was confused by this sudden change of sexual or gender identities mixed up, because she went from being straight, to lesbian, to bisexual, to lesbian, to bisexual then a mixture of lesbian/bisexual to suddenly out of the blue now saying she’s a transgendered male but refuses to go through any of them if not “normal” steps a transgendered female to male or male to female person does. She still demands to be called female pronouns/names but at the same time demands to be identified as male pronounces/names? And dresses/acts fully female heterosexual woman wise? It’s really confusing for us, even to my other Trans friends when I privately sought out their advice on the matter. They told me either J is confused by identities with what transgender she wants to be, or she’s faking her gender identity trying to fit into the LGBT lifestyle or her/his circle of friends who are trans male to want to belong. I’m honestly not sure since J’s continuing to be so confusing in her contradictions, moments of episodes, identities that she/he probably isn’t sure either. I really don’t know but telling me a bff bisexual you’re this then that, then this again, hollering rage wise “I want to be known as a man!” but then claim, “I want to be identified as a woman” is very beyond confusing and messed up to act like this towards your own ally in LGBT.

But this stuff, beyond J’s episodes of emotional yelling outbursts, incidents that happened when J was visiting me for a short week, couldn’t compare to something J shared with me that just threw me into an emotional loop as He or she kept insisting suddenly “she” threw on me surprise wise...concerning J’s feeling concerning kids/babies...

When you're told something so shocking by someone in your life not long ago, how they really feel about children/babies in general to the point where their literal cold honesty without remorse shocks you to the core. They say really hate children/kids that much negatively.  I honestly don't know how to feel about this, really I don't. I know sometimes some people can't stand to say certain/specific things about children/babies or don't like certain types of kids. But to literally dislike/hate children that much to where they can't stand to be around any sort of child, kid, baby, infant, toddler or much less a pregnant woman or woman who just had a baby/ have a baby in public. Without really giving me an actual reason to really 'why' they feel this way of hate/dislike to babies/kids disturbs/troubles me. Is that normal for an individual to feel that way, or have any sort of legit phobia, or raw honest hatred for children? To the point where they'd refused to be near loved ones who are pregnant or want to see them even if they ever had a baby/child on purpose to avoid them? 

I don't know honestly how to feel about this after someone in my life told me how "they truly felt'' along with adding, "Our world's too overpopulated enough. Anyone who has a child intentionally or not is fucking selfish. To have a child in this world is selfish. I hate kids." It just makes me question a lot more things, makes me feel sad hearing this, makes me want to pity someone being that so hateful/being willing to negatively hate babies/children that much. I question whether the day I become a Mother hopefully one day in a few years if... The day I become a Mother one day to a child, I can't help but question if whether or not I would want that person in my life around me when I'm pregnant, after I have my child, if I'd allow/or want that individual around my child if they hate/dislike kids that much intolerance. The screwed up fact is that J knows that I and my guy love kids, we would like to be parents in a few years once we move in, get things in order in our lives to provide for one, have our own place, etc. That we would be happy whether having a child naturally or adopting one either way. What really upset/hurt me is this little factor, J claims she/he hates kids to the point where *points above quote J said feelings of kids* That he/she doesn’t want any of his/her own her/his self. But J had the nerve to tell me, “Well even if you get pregnant by planning to have a kid with your partner, let me make it clear not to friend include me in anything. I’m not even comfortable being at a baby shower celebration or the hospital if you give birth, or even adopt etc. I feel you want a kid with your health issues of Lupus is selfish. But maybe you’d make an alright Mom...but I hope at least you’re responsible enough to once you have a kid to raise that child, not as the sex it’s born but either gender neutral or non-gender sex assigned pronouns of she/he. I believe kids shouldn’t be classes at the gender their assigned, and parents need to educate themselves of gender-neutral ways or Trans ways to let that child be “it” not he/she or a girl or boy how people handle their kids from birth forcing the sex-gender on them in pinks or blues or toys. I hope you do that so your kid isn’t screwed up in this girl/boy society, raise it genderless or trans.” It really bothered me...a woman/trans male who hates kids/doesn’t want kids telling me how to raise my future one-day fetus/infant/baby/child. If my child was a boy or girl I wouldn’t care, would still love it. I’d dress it in either colors, rainbows or hell either gender mixed clothes because it’s just clothes! If my child when they're older, more mentally developed to understand everything, told me they feel they are possibly transgendered. Then okay, let’s see a specialist doctor or therapist who helps parents and kids educate about Transgender and LGBT positively to make sure you really feel this is what you are and no one is trying to force it on you. If my kid wants to be straight or LGBT or Identify as whatever they want, I will love them still regardless. As for others like J demanding to “educate me” on how I should raise my child when they hate kids themselves or don’t want any...that’s hypocritical b.s. and beyond hurtful insulting to me

Since then, I haven’t really talked to her/him...I’m still confused, hurt that he/she feels this way with so much hatred...hell, even told me if I were to have a kid pregnant wise/raised a kiddo of my own that they couldn’t see me due to hating kids in general that much, so she/he purposely avoid me, not want to visit/see me or my family because of a hate that much and beliefs? Seriously?!

Bollywood rebel Kajol: aEUR~ IA never held a damn what anyone to say something about me. IA stillA donaEUR( tm) taEUR( tm)

The Indian film star has been criticized by her unconventional appears, her unexpected busines alternatives and for demanding better roles. She discusses her 22 -year on-screen woo with Shah Rukh Khan and why she refuses to give advice to young actors

Kajols isnt a quiet presence. She talks rapidly, titters loudly, and is uncharacteristically goofy for Bollywood royalty, shedding her mitts about so much better in a meagre London hotel suite that her jewellery wings across the room. The actor, 41, embarked her occupation 23 years ago and views the record for winning better actress( six experiences, tied with her late aunt Nutan) at the Indian Filmfare awards. She has long been considered one of the countrys most unconventional stellars for allegedly not conforming to the industrys narrow allure ideals, for twice taking long break-dances at the top of her job, and for castigating heads for not shedding her in parts written for male leads. She is back to acting, after a five-year hiatus( looking after my boys, being a wife, baby, human ), with Dilwale. The movie commemorates a much-hyped reunion with Shah Rukh Khan the couple have represented their most successful cinemas together over the past two decades and are consistently voted Indian cinemas excellent on-screen pair. Their biggest strike, 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge( DDLJ ), has gone on to be the longest-screened movie in Indian cinema record, still showing in Mumbai theatres today.

Whats it like to be back after such a long shatter? Well, I do stop having breaks as everyone knows. Im quite the violate being. But very great enjoyable. Weve been filming in a marathon, six months non stop, and after that long with a gang you want to touch one another and never investigate those people again. But its worth it. I dont get that same enjoyment doing anything else.

Did you ever worry that taking those flouts and walking away from your huge success as a bankable female lead-in was a career play? Im picky; Ive done very little toil compared to my peers. But I cant work on three cinemas a year. Ive never appeared cozy doing that. Not at the beginning of my career and definitely not after I got married.[ Kajol is married to actor Ajay Devgan. They have a 12 -year-old daughter and a five-year-old son .] I necessary that time out, to look at my boys, go to sleep with them and wake up with them, have breakfast with them. I desire my girls, but I like them , extremely I involve their fellowship to retain me grounded and in every which way.

Kajol with Shah Rukh Khan in their biggest ten-strike, Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: British Film Institute/ PR

Your daughter is almost a girl now. What have you learned from her and what does she learn from you? There is huge pres for her, as she puts it, with what education of girls are doing and is able to do at that age but they have a natural bia to lie also. Ive realised that. Their mothers are letting them do all this, and youre not letting me do this yeah, thats a good one. Regrettably for her, Im in touch with those the women and I know their daughters are attracting the same ruse. But somewhere down the line, you have to give them some leeway. They are in a different world I cannot compare what my childhood was like with hers. We were road dumber at their age. We thought we were very smart, but we were very stupid. Fortunately for me, my daughter has always been a strong individual, with very strong likes and disfavours, and she used vocal about them.

The press often say the same of you. [ Laughs ] I know. Damn. And I have to live with myself!

Bollywood has changed dramatically since you first started, dont you think? It has become big. Even small things like vanity vans[ trailers ], we didnt have that 15 years ago. The machinery has taken on a whole new grade. Unexpectedly you have people with specialisms, suddenly everyones more professional and its capable of being make different kinds of cinemas. There is an array of scripts that arent just ideas in people chiefs any more. And its not just about the youngest and best available. Thank God that stage is over.

Do you miss not filling that territory anymore? No, you grow up. After a place, you get sick of running around the trees. Theres simply so much better thoughtlessness you can manage in your busines you have to be at that theatre and in that frame of mind to do it. I often get: Oh my God, why didnt you take that percentage? The character was so good, but if I cant appear a persona, if I cant visualise that, then Im not the right party for it. Its difficult to explain to someone when Im saying no to their script.

For a long time, the industry and its press named you an unconventional leading lady for having a duskier hue, for not plucking your eyebrows, for having shabby whisker, for not being size zero. Did it ever bother you? [ Laughs ] I never generated a damn about what anyone said about me. I still dont. Size zero is in, but I dont understand it. I might be into the fitness activity now, but I never paid attention to it back then. The commentators pounce on me a little less now than they would anyone else, Ive deserved that. Plus, I cant afford to give in to that pres. It would drive me absurd and I would need to be lock the door. Im already mad and possibly require fastening up anyway!

Kajol in 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: PR

Your biggest reaches Baazigar , DDLJ, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai , Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham , My Name is Khan have checked you partnered up with Shah Rukh Khan . Audiences cant get enough of you together. Why? Weve known each other for 22 years, we build films together every few years its simple-minded. His power hasnt changed. Its even more evident, hes very passionate about it. He has clear ideas of how things should be, but you get better at foreseeing another persons moves and thoughts. I can nearly predict how a scene with him is going to go and he can do the same for me. We automatically know that about one another. He has learnt me a lot in life.

Hollywoods female actors have consistently campaigned for there has become still more roles for women over 40 , and more diversity on screen . How does Bollywoods record compare? Thank God for the gatherings: the opinions and flavors have changed and it has allowed the industry to move in a new direction. Movies will ever reflect what the audience wants and, as long as they want to see all kinds of movies, all kinds of films will be made. I have no complaints.

Do you get asked for advice by younger female actors? Even if I do, I never dedicate it. Advice is a little too free and easy around the world everyone has to develop their own route. What I did when I was 18 years old is so different to what someone now might do.

Do you contemplate yourself a feminist? I do debate myself a feminist, but I am contrary so I can also be considered the opposite. I believe in the equality of men and women, but I dont object to courtesy. I believe in it; equal opportunities should not aim girls should be ashamed to be feminine. I dont believe men are made to rule “the worlds” in the same method I dont believe dames should be doormats. But the stigma of not wanting to do happens like a boy or being made to feel stupid in traditional gender characters is dumb.

Dilwale is released after cinemas worldwide on 18 December

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Bollywood rebel Kajol: aEUR~ IA never held a damn what anyone to say something about me. IA stillA donaEUR( tm) taEUR( tm)

The Indian film star has been criticized by her unconventional appears, her unexpected busines alternatives and for demanding better roles. She discusses her 22 -year on-screen woo with Shah Rukh Khan and why she refuses to give advice to young actors

Kajols isnt a quiet presence. She talks rapidly, titters loudly, and is uncharacteristically goofy for Bollywood royalty, shedding her mitts about so much better in a meagre London hotel suite that her jewellery wings across the room. The actor, 41, embarked her occupation 23 years ago and views the record for winning better actress( six experiences, tied with her late aunt Nutan) at the Indian Filmfare awards. She has long been considered one of the countrys most unconventional stellars for allegedly not conforming to the industrys narrow allure ideals, for twice taking long break-dances at the top of her job, and for castigating heads for not shedding her in parts written for male leads. She is back to acting, after a five-year hiatus( looking after my boys, being a wife, baby, human ), with Dilwale. The movie commemorates a much-hyped reunion with Shah Rukh Khan the couple have represented their most successful cinemas together over the past two decades and are consistently voted Indian cinemas excellent on-screen pair. Their biggest strike, 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge( DDLJ ), has gone on to be the longest-screened movie in Indian cinema record, still showing in Mumbai theatres today.

Whats it like to be back after such a long shatter? Well, I do stop having breaks as everyone knows. Im quite the violate being. But very great enjoyable. Weve been filming in a marathon, six months non stop, and after that long with a gang you want to touch one another and never investigate those people again. But its worth it. I dont get that same enjoyment doing anything else.

Did you ever worry that taking those flouts and walking away from your huge success as a bankable female lead-in was a career play? Im picky; Ive done very little toil compared to my peers. But I cant work on three cinemas a year. Ive never appeared cozy doing that. Not at the beginning of my career and definitely not after I got married.[ Kajol is married to actor Ajay Devgan. They have a 12 -year-old daughter and a five-year-old son .] I necessary that time out, to look at my boys, go to sleep with them and wake up with them, have breakfast with them. I desire my girls, but I like them , extremely I involve their fellowship to retain me grounded and in every which way.

Kajol with Shah Rukh Khan in their biggest ten-strike, Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: British Film Institute/ PR

Your daughter is almost a girl now. What have you learned from her and what does she learn from you? There is huge pres for her, as she puts it, with what education of girls are doing and is able to do at that age but they have a natural bia to lie also. Ive realised that. Their mothers are letting them do all this, and youre not letting me do this yeah, thats a good one. Regrettably for her, Im in touch with those the women and I know their daughters are attracting the same ruse. But somewhere down the line, you have to give them some leeway. They are in a different world I cannot compare what my childhood was like with hers. We were road dumber at their age. We thought we were very smart, but we were very stupid. Fortunately for me, my daughter has always been a strong individual, with very strong likes and disfavours, and she used vocal about them.

The press often say the same of you. [ Laughs ] I know. Damn. And I have to live with myself!

Bollywood has changed dramatically since you first started, dont you think? It has become big. Even small things like vanity vans[ trailers ], we didnt have that 15 years ago. The machinery has taken on a whole new grade. Unexpectedly you have people with specialisms, suddenly everyones more professional and its capable of being make different kinds of cinemas. There is an array of scripts that arent just ideas in people chiefs any more. And its not just about the youngest and best available. Thank God that stage is over.

Do you miss not filling that territory anymore? No, you grow up. After a place, you get sick of running around the trees. Theres simply so much better thoughtlessness you can manage in your busines you have to be at that theatre and in that frame of mind to do it. I often get: Oh my God, why didnt you take that percentage? The character was so good, but if I cant appear a persona, if I cant visualise that, then Im not the right party for it. Its difficult to explain to someone when Im saying no to their script.

For a long time, the industry and its press named you an unconventional leading lady for having a duskier hue, for not plucking your eyebrows, for having shabby whisker, for not being size zero. Did it ever bother you? [ Laughs ] I never generated a damn about what anyone said about me. I still dont. Size zero is in, but I dont understand it. I might be into the fitness activity now, but I never paid attention to it back then. The commentators pounce on me a little less now than they would anyone else, Ive deserved that. Plus, I cant afford to give in to that pres. It would drive me absurd and I would need to be lock the door. Im already mad and possibly require fastening up anyway!

Kajol in 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: PR

Your biggest reaches Baazigar , DDLJ, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai , Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham , My Name is Khan have checked you partnered up with Shah Rukh Khan . Audiences cant get enough of you together. Why? Weve known each other for 22 years, we build films together every few years its simple-minded. His power hasnt changed. Its even more evident, hes very passionate about it. He has clear ideas of how things should be, but you get better at foreseeing another persons moves and thoughts. I can nearly predict how a scene with him is going to go and he can do the same for me. We automatically know that about one another. He has learnt me a lot in life.

Hollywoods female actors have consistently campaigned for there has become still more roles for women over 40 , and more diversity on screen . How does Bollywoods record compare? Thank God for the gatherings: the opinions and flavors have changed and it has allowed the industry to move in a new direction. Movies will ever reflect what the audience wants and, as long as they want to see all kinds of movies, all kinds of films will be made. I have no complaints.

Do you get asked for advice by younger female actors? Even if I do, I never dedicate it. Advice is a little too free and easy around the world everyone has to develop their own route. What I did when I was 18 years old is so different to what someone now might do.

Do you contemplate yourself a feminist? I do debate myself a feminist, but I am contrary so I can also be considered the opposite. I believe in the equality of men and women, but I dont object to courtesy. I believe in it; equal opportunities should not aim girls should be ashamed to be feminine. I dont believe men are made to rule “the worlds” in the same method I dont believe dames should be doormats. But the stigma of not wanting to do happens like a boy or being made to feel stupid in traditional gender characters is dumb.

Dilwale is released after cinemas worldwide on 18 December

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Bollywood rebel Kajol: aEUR~ IA never held a damn what anyone to say something about me. IA stillA donaEUR( tm) taEUR( tm)

The Indian film star has been criticized by her unconventional appears, her unexpected busines alternatives and for demanding better roles. She discusses her 22 -year on-screen woo with Shah Rukh Khan and why she refuses to give advice to young actors

Kajols isnt a quiet presence. She talks rapidly, titters loudly, and is uncharacteristically goofy for Bollywood royalty, shedding her mitts about so much better in a meagre London hotel suite that her jewellery wings across the room. The actor, 41, embarked her occupation 23 years ago and views the record for winning better actress( six experiences, tied with her late aunt Nutan) at the Indian Filmfare awards. She has long been considered one of the countrys most unconventional stellars for allegedly not conforming to the industrys narrow allure ideals, for twice taking long break-dances at the top of her job, and for castigating heads for not shedding her in parts written for male leads. She is back to acting, after a five-year hiatus( looking after my boys, being a wife, baby, human ), with Dilwale. The movie commemorates a much-hyped reunion with Shah Rukh Khan the couple have represented their most successful cinemas together over the past two decades and are consistently voted Indian cinemas excellent on-screen pair. Their biggest strike, 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge( DDLJ ), has gone on to be the longest-screened movie in Indian cinema record, still showing in Mumbai theatres today.

Whats it like to be back after such a long shatter? Well, I do stop having breaks as everyone knows. Im quite the violate being. But very great enjoyable. Weve been filming in a marathon, six months non stop, and after that long with a gang you want to touch one another and never investigate those people again. But its worth it. I dont get that same enjoyment doing anything else.

Did you ever worry that taking those flouts and walking away from your huge success as a bankable female lead-in was a career play? Im picky; Ive done very little toil compared to my peers. But I cant work on three cinemas a year. Ive never appeared cozy doing that. Not at the beginning of my career and definitely not after I got married.[ Kajol is married to actor Ajay Devgan. They have a 12 -year-old daughter and a five-year-old son .] I necessary that time out, to look at my boys, go to sleep with them and wake up with them, have breakfast with them. I desire my girls, but I like them , extremely I involve their fellowship to retain me grounded and in every which way.

Kajol with Shah Rukh Khan in their biggest ten-strike, Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: British Film Institute/ PR

Your daughter is almost a girl now. What have you learned from her and what does she learn from you? There is huge pres for her, as she puts it, with what education of girls are doing and is able to do at that age but they have a natural bia to lie also. Ive realised that. Their mothers are letting them do all this, and youre not letting me do this yeah, thats a good one. Regrettably for her, Im in touch with those the women and I know their daughters are attracting the same ruse. But somewhere down the line, you have to give them some leeway. They are in a different world I cannot compare what my childhood was like with hers. We were road dumber at their age. We thought we were very smart, but we were very stupid. Fortunately for me, my daughter has always been a strong individual, with very strong likes and disfavours, and she used vocal about them.

The press often say the same of you. [ Laughs ] I know. Damn. And I have to live with myself!

Bollywood has changed dramatically since you first started, dont you think? It has become big. Even small things like vanity vans[ trailers ], we didnt have that 15 years ago. The machinery has taken on a whole new grade. Unexpectedly you have people with specialisms, suddenly everyones more professional and its capable of being make different kinds of cinemas. There is an array of scripts that arent just ideas in people chiefs any more. And its not just about the youngest and best available. Thank God that stage is over.

Do you miss not filling that territory anymore? No, you grow up. After a place, you get sick of running around the trees. Theres simply so much better thoughtlessness you can manage in your busines you have to be at that theatre and in that frame of mind to do it. I often get: Oh my God, why didnt you take that percentage? The character was so good, but if I cant appear a persona, if I cant visualise that, then Im not the right party for it. Its difficult to explain to someone when Im saying no to their script.

For a long time, the industry and its press named you an unconventional leading lady for having a duskier hue, for not plucking your eyebrows, for having shabby whisker, for not being size zero. Did it ever bother you? [ Laughs ] I never generated a damn about what anyone said about me. I still dont. Size zero is in, but I dont understand it. I might be into the fitness activity now, but I never paid attention to it back then. The commentators pounce on me a little less now than they would anyone else, Ive deserved that. Plus, I cant afford to give in to that pres. It would drive me absurd and I would need to be lock the door. Im already mad and possibly require fastening up anyway!

Kajol in 1995 s Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge. Image: PR

Your biggest reaches Baazigar , DDLJ, Kuch Kuch Hota Hai , Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham , My Name is Khan have checked you partnered up with Shah Rukh Khan . Audiences cant get enough of you together. Why? Weve known each other for 22 years, we build films together every few years its simple-minded. His power hasnt changed. Its even more evident, hes very passionate about it. He has clear ideas of how things should be, but you get better at foreseeing another persons moves and thoughts. I can nearly predict how a scene with him is going to go and he can do the same for me. We automatically know that about one another. He has learnt me a lot in life.

Hollywoods female actors have consistently campaigned for there has become still more roles for women over 40 , and more diversity on screen . How does Bollywoods record compare? Thank God for the gatherings: the opinions and flavors have changed and it has allowed the industry to move in a new direction. Movies will ever reflect what the audience wants and, as long as they want to see all kinds of movies, all kinds of films will be made. I have no complaints.

Do you get asked for advice by younger female actors? Even if I do, I never dedicate it. Advice is a little too free and easy around the world everyone has to develop their own route. What I did when I was 18 years old is so different to what someone now might do.

Do you contemplate yourself a feminist? I do debate myself a feminist, but I am contrary so I can also be considered the opposite. I believe in the equality of men and women, but I dont object to courtesy. I believe in it; equal opportunities should not aim girls should be ashamed to be feminine. I dont believe men are made to rule “the worlds” in the same method I dont believe dames should be doormats. But the stigma of not wanting to do happens like a boy or being made to feel stupid in traditional gender characters is dumb.

Dilwale is released after cinemas worldwide on 18 December

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