I think what bugs me the most about what happened today other than the fact that I was the one getting vagued is the fact that the conversation got warped into one that is about morality and not simply theorizing on The Ravens and how The Nest works

my original post essentially said two things:

The Ravens are victims and to erase that because they don't fit the model of the perfect victim and some have even become abusers erases all nuance from that portion of Jean and Kevin's lives and the surrounding discussion

Cults are weird. I grew up in one. And it is very easy to manipulated by one and to feel trapped and to also be completely in the dark about what is happening in a cult even when you're in the heart of it

I did not say anyone had to forgive the Ravens (they're fictional characters. fake people. that wasn't even on my mind) or that any of them are by any means good people. i also didn't say that they were all oblivious or that there weren't some of them that were abusive. I also never made this a conversation about morality and whether or not the Ravens are good or bad people for staying in a cult.

For some reason that got warped into what we are currently discussing and involved some highly insensitive language surrounding cult victims including things being said like it's not crazy to expect people to walk away from things like scholarships, financial security, or career security if it means being complacent in abuse and that it's "just basic morals".

And I'm sorry for getting personal on this but as a cult survivor I think that's one of the most upsetting and insensitive things I have heard come from these conversations today.

It doesn't matter what x thing is whether it's money or food or housing or a career. In a cult they use whatever it is you need and make you dependent on them for it. Also with the Ravens in particular keep in mind it wasn't simply being complacent in abuse. They were being abused.

If you have been in a similar situation, if you are grappling with the guilt of leaving a cult or anything like a cult, know that you are not a moral failure for having stayed for as long as you did. You are not moral failure for staying for whatever reason you did. It is not just basic morals when it comes to living in a cult. Morality becomes warped and the concept of what is immoral and moral is something completely different and that is intentional.

It doesn't matter whether you think the Ravens were aware of Riko's abuse or not. Having differing opinions on that is completely okay. What you don't get to do is turn it into a conversation about morality where you then get to insult cult survivors like we're evil people for not walking away at the first red flag because we needed something. Because we were in survival mode and we weren't able to focus on other people.

We still don't have all the details on how the Ravens function or the type of abuse players even outside of the perfect court face other than it was extreme. It's fun to theorize. And it's okay if people disagree. But if you can't be mindful about where your opinion switches from theory to some huge declaration of moral high ground then you've lost the fucking plot.

I would love to talk more about the Ravens and my theories on them. I would love to talk more about how cults work and why I think it's possible they were completely unaware of Riko's abuse. There's a lot of nuance in those conversations and I would love to take the time to treat them with the care they deserve. I'm also still incredibly upset by a lot of the things said today and I can acknowledge that this is a topic that is very personal to me. So this is me opening up that can of worms (again) and I'm more than happy to have those conversations and answer questions but please be patient with me because if it isn't already obvious this is a topic that is incredibly sensitive to me

Young adults kaysanova?

tell me steven wouldn't pout with those stupid puppy eyes when you leave in the morning for work.

tell me he wouldn't sulk in bed for hours, painfully missing your sleepy cuddles and soft breaths.

TELL ME he wouldn't take your pillow and shove it under his hips as he ruts pathetically against it, whimpering your name.

tell me he wouldn't make a mess of himself just so you can clean it up when you get home.

actually, tell me he would.

pls.

Omar Rudberg's boba eyes were a paid actor in seasons 2 and 3 of Young Royals.

epunk caramelldansen

lucas who loves rules. he likes to know what's expected, tries his hardest to follow that trajectory - who's foiled by what he really wants which is nerdy and not up to society's standards, foiled by the way he looks which puts him at an automatic disadvantage. but even within his marginalization, he likes knowing what the rules are.

he reiterates, he reminds the others. "friends don't lie" is important to him not just bc he values honesty but bc it's a clear guideline. an expectation he can fulfill. if you want to stick to the rules, basketball is the best way in high school - so he tries it. a man is defined by hard labor and showing off, so he tries it.

lucas likes knowing what's safest. in the end, he has an unsafe existence by virtue of who he is, but he tries so goddamn hard to claw his way to safety anyway.

it's so gd humid

my hair is unrecognizable :3

I'm pretty sure all those tools people recognize as ai are actually machine learning because isn't ai supposed to be predictive rather than generative

Y'all watching Tiktok after finishing a murder documentary on Hulu did not help at all 😭💔

Literally my whole fyp is just anime angst and 95% of it involves death. . . idk what I did, but the cruelty of my fyp rn is giving me trauma I wasn't actually involved in </3

Today was the longest day of the month, it feels like

imagine not being scared at the ridiculously fast rise of anti intellectualism in the united states and the implications that has for the rest of the world......could not be me........might say something about you if you’re not scared, though......

since u noticed it too that jimin is just as comfortable with taemin as with bts, do you feel like he has a different vibe with taemin? i could tell he was comfortable but it feels like their friendship dynamic is different from any other one jimin has with any of his other members. maybe it’s because taemin is such a sunbaenim as well…?

i think maybe this has to do with the fact that it's so Rare for us to witness jimin's friendships outside of bts? jimin and taemin's friendship definitely blindsided me, because, even though we've seen them together and we've seen how cute they can be together, that was ages ago and we haven't heard anything about it for years. i had no idea they were so close and so comfortable with each other. to me, it feels different than jimin x tannies because jimin x tannies feels like family, with all the messiness a family brings, the jokes, the familiarity, the intimacy, the permission to just speak your mind and even be a bit bold with your hyungs at times. with taemin, it feels like a long-lasting friendship, in which they're very comfortable with each other, very sweet and loving, but still with some societal boundaries (especially considering how much of a Polite Poster Boy™️ jimin is)

Just had a h*nkconnie tell me they see Hank and Connor as father and son in the game but they ship them in reverse AU because if it was reverse then Connor would be Hank and they can't see Connor being Hank's dad. I just-

OTL

How the hell did zines accept me when my art used to be shit years ago, and now i can’t seem to get accepted? Man. I just wanna draw mahito or horror mahito for a fun project and i’m being locked out lmao. Now that I’m really confident in my work no one wants it, even though I make bangers  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  It’s been forever since I’ve been in one i’ve cared about and I’m just not right for the ones I like apparently. Fuck this I’m so sick of literally nothing happening. There’s still a whole month to go before we start deso e7 production; I feel so empty constantly creating for myself with no one to give back, no one to work alongside

When Clarke woke up in Lexa’s arms in the city of light, she went straight for the kiss no talking or questions asked just went right for them lips. I have no doubt in my mind that she did that as well with god lexa after that hug. Pretty sure she did more i agree with you

Clarke spent years boning Niylah with pictures of Lexa next to her bed just to get off, and Lexa spent a couple hundred years up in heaven creating the most advanced strap technology known to humanity just for that moment, and they expect me to believe those two didn't

I don't believe it. I don't believe it. They just cut the footage for time

hiii protip if ur going thru 0pen 3nrollment whether thru the govt or ur job pls dont wait til last minute xoxo ty