Over the years, I've gotten a lot of cis people messaging me about how they should go about dating or courting somebody who's trans, and I always felt like my responses would almost... disappoint them because there isn't this magic secret to dating us.

Cis people, if you want to date us, just date us. We're human beings, we're not wild animals to tame! I promise you can have a healthy relationship with a trans person without needing to feel like the world will end if you mess up.

Trans people who date cis people often want to feel secure in your acceptance of them. You don't have to talk about our transness for hours on end to prove that you accept your loved one. You don't have to put on a display and cabaret about how Much You Accept Us. Just be a person around us, and let us be people, too!

I almost want to disappoint cis people by reminding them of this. Some of the best relationships I've had with cis people have been ones where my transness is acknowledged, sure, but it's acknowledged in the same way that my left-handedness is. It's not a joke to them, it isn't something to be horrified about, but it's also something that they don't objectify me for.

Huge fan of Furina being the worst fucking wingman for Neuvillette btw.

She gets the faintest whiff that Neuvillette is having emotions and she's all over it.

She's not subtle about anything. Most of the "facts" she knows about romance are via cheesy novels that she's read over the years. The same novels that she gives to Neuvillette and is ADAMANT that these will help him understand human emotion. They don't, but he appreciates the effort.

She's tried multiple times to schedule bullshit meetings between you and Neuvillette just so he can see you and try to talk with you (you and Neuvillette already meet almost every day because he finds himself stealing time to talk with you and learn more about you). There's like, five notes from "Neuvillette" on your desk that are so clearly written by Furina. The number of times she's tried to spy on you and Neuvillette to see if he's taking her advice is overcome by the fact that she's so obviously staring at the two of you the whole time like 👁👁

Busts into his office at any given free moment he has, ignores his exhausted sigh at knowing what's coming, and practically shouts, "Have you kissed them yet?!"

Hydro Archon who? Archon of "getting the Chief Justice to stop hiding in his office and acknowledge that he's in love" 💅🏾 (she is very bad at it but you can't just tell her that -)

Just something about the middle of the fucking night that has me perseverating about how I could explain to my former boss that she shouldn't have allowed me to be bullied relentlessly at work and done nothing and then also penalised me for things I never did and gave me "feedback" in performance reviews that was just insulting my social skills and calling me annoying and a show off, lol.

Most people really don't seem to understand that friendship is a two-way street.

They expect you to wait on them hand and foot as they rant about and constantly pour on you either their issues or their passions and when you finally have something you'd like to talk about you get a "Man that sucks :/" or a "Cool" in return.

Find somebody who doesn't do that. Then you'll have your best friend.

i just wanted to say that your writing, no matter what it is you happen to be writing about, is beautiful. you manage to make vivid worlds without overloading on descriptors, and everything flows so nicely that it's such a fun and easy read every time. your writing js just so engaging, i can tell that this is a skill you've worked very hard to hone. thank you so much for sharing your talents with us.

*^* This is so nice of you to say!!! I am a product of much trial and error and I'm learning every day, but hearing this makes me just !!!!! in my heart.

I'm truly grateful that you've enjoyed my writing, and I thank you for humoring me in my silly little aus and thoughts <3

For those that get their period; does orgasming help?

Maybe it's cus of my pcos but I feel like the periods I m*sterbate through are easier than the ones where I don't (pls feel free to add your two cents!)

I am genuinely obsessed with my friend and I don't know how to cope with it. I spend all day thinking about them at school, drawing them in the corners of my books, namelessly talking about him to my other friends, when I think about going home I just think about talking to them.

Then of course when I get home we'll exchange a few messages and he'll leave to talk to their other friends, so then I'm upset he doesn't want to spend every possible moment with me. But instead of just doing something else, I put on some music and just wait for him to get back, because I don't have any hobbies or anyone who'll want to talk to me or really any actual life outside of my friends.

I've realized they spend a lot of time on amino, so I've made an amino account to watch them talk to other people with. I know its wrong and weird but I feel empty without him and what they don't know can't hurt them, right? I'm a fantastic friend otherwise, always there for them and interested in what he has to say. They're really nice to me but never gives that back in return, though I can't bring myself to be mad at him most of the time.

I sleep at 2am to say goodbye when they go to school, and wake up at 7am to greet him when they get back. I make them gifts and tell him I love him. I'd tear up my entire life for them (not like there's much to tear up anyway) I feel like my only worth is being useful to them

This is half vent and half cry for help please does anyone know what I can do. Anyway anyway byeeee have a good day

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Hi, ive just started writing fanfic for the first time, do you have any tips?

honestly, just writing what makes you happy because who gives a fuck what other people think! if YOU like it, that's all that matters.

also don't be afraid to experiment with sentence structure, etc! rules are made to be broken and i am a staunch believer that breaking grammar rules (intentionally...not just having bad grammar lol) adds so much character to your writing and really gives you your own voice and style. I do it all the time! i love me a good intentional run-on sentence, some comma splices (i am a slut for comma splices i cannot lie to you), some fragments, starting sentences with a conjunction. etc etc etc.

also if you're having trouble getting a feel for your Style or whatever, it's okay to take inspiration from the style of some authors you enjoy (that obviously does NOT mean to copy their work, but look at their sentence structure, at how they piece their puzzle together; my new current sentence structure experiment is based on the way one of my friends wrote a fic, and i'm loving it.)

oh i know people preach active over passive voice, but i am telling you now that passive voice can be used and it adds to your writing sometimes! ESPECIALLY if you're trying to set a more serious, sort of prose-like tone....passive voice my beloved. some of the craziest lines i've written are passive.

use adjectives but dont OVER use them--and if you are overusing them, make sure it's intentional. (intentionality is literally the main thing; if you do something intentionally, it's probably going to come across like that, and your readers are going to understand it the way you wanted them to)

similar to the passive vs. active debate...showing vs. telling. it's a bit tricky to find a good balance sometimes, but you'll learn. but also, it's not as black and white as a lot of people make it seem. "showing" the way i see most people use it is just excessive use of adjectives and verbs, while telling is simply stating something (which i don't necessarily agree with)

Im going to use an example from the fic i'm writing right now:

And so he goes to them, like a ship to a beacon of light, a sailor to a siren. He goes because he cannot possibly stay away for a moment longer, cannot bear to not have them in his arms. He lies beside her and she relaxes into him, and it is too much, this love. Too much for one man to feel, too much for him to hold back. It thrums through his veins, begging to be released.

I would argue that most, if not all of that paragraph is me telling, not showing. "he goes to them" "he goes because" "he lies" "it is too much" etc etc. i use metaphors and whatnot, but i'm telling nonetheless. (there's another good point, actually: most of this is me telling, but it's also active voice, so they balance each other)

anyway enough of my babbling about grammar lol. just have fun and write whatever makes you happy--and don't feel like it has to be perfect, or like you're obligated to churn out content, because you're not. one of my favorite fics of mine EVER has been rotting in google docs hell since christmas 2022; what matters is that EYE love her and am with her in spirit, not that she's done and produced and perfect.

getting asks makes me so happy, thank you guys for trusting my input and for taking the time to send asks!! 🥺💖

i have a feeling i'm going to be online quite often this week, so if anyone has any questions about astrology, spiritual stuff, healing, anything, i'm always here!! happy to answer asks about certain placements (ie: gemini moon traits, mutable dominance traits, etc), compatibility (taurus x scorpio sun compatibility), astrology topics (what do the planets mean, what are the houses, etc), take requests for posts (ie: what does saturn in the signs mean), etc!!! <3

JUST DID SOMETHING THAT USED TO BE A BIG TRIGGER FOR ME WITHOUT GETTING TRIGGERED AT ALL!!!!!!! RECOVERY WORKS!!!!!!!!!

My toxic trait is that I don't care that much about non-mammalian furries. Like the characters not the people. Yeah they're cool but I'm not gonna vibe with them too much usually. Except for moths and sea slugs specifically. Sorry

i need to start going to therapy to learn how to talk to people about things and the develop better support systems for myself bc i only talk to like 2.7 ppl bc idk how to talk to anyone and this is ridiculous

i forgot to say this but i made an appointment with another therapist, hopefully one that'll hold me down like I'm a rabid animal and tell me I'm valid

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happy pride month 🌈💕 tadashi's tags await below!

🛵 #‘⠀i'm not giving up on you ( ic ) #‘⠀i am satisfied with my care ( ooc ) #‘⠀caress the outline of my body ( headcanon ) #‘⠀sweet atlas ( self ) 🌸 paired with #tadashi art, #tadashi gifs, and #tadashi notes #‘⠀this constant compromise between thinking and breathing ( musings ) #‘⠀we were free to be everything we dreamed ( behavior ) #‘⠀i know your image of me is what i hope to be ( prompts ) #‘⠀i'll give you all i have‚ and all i have to give ( answers ) #‘⠀you don’t understand this yet but people need you ( anon ) #‘⠀i try to picture me without you but i can't ( promo ) #‘⠀unforgettable in every way and forever more ( self promo ) #‘⠀it’s so hard to not be hard on yourself ( dash games ) #‘⠀feel your stress melting away ( aesthetics ) #‘⠀come in my bed‚ come back to heaven ( desires ) #‘⠀you fill me with so much joy‚ you give whatever it is i need ( saved ) #‘⠀i don’t have to dream. reality is beautiful in you ( open ) #‘⠀i’m bad behavior, but i do it in the best way ( verse: prelude ) #‘⠀dance alone to the beat of your heart ( recordings ) #‘⠀i want the sound that makes my heart rush ( music )  #‘⠀-- ( wishlist )  #‘⠀brotherly advice ( psa )

🌉 #‘⠀champion on‚ ares ( hiro hamada )  #‘⠀guide me‚ athena ( aunt cass )  #‘⠀touch me‚ midas ( free ) #‘⠀brighten me‚ apollo ( honey lemon )  #‘⠀move me‚ hermes ( go go )  #‘⠀charm me‚ aphrodite ( wasabi )  #‘⠀healthcare companion ( baymax ) ✅ #‘⠀hairy baby ( mochi ) ✅

idk if anyone still following me is even active anymore or will see this, but apologies for how inactive i’ve been. i was planning to start posting more when the dteam meetup happened, but in early september my dad passed away. it was really sudden and unexpected, he was still pretty young. and even now i’m still dealing with everything that comes with the loss of a loved one. so since then i have been on a deliberate hiatus, and quite honestly i’m not sure when i’ll be ready to come back, it may be months yet. i just figured i should probably say something in case anyone was wondering where i disappeared to.

that being said, i am also aware of what’s happened recently, namely the allegations against dream, and that there’s been a bit of a mass exodus in fandom. as for where i stand, i will continue to consume and enjoy dteam and dnf content until something both concrete (aka irrefutable) and actually illegal surfaces. until then my opinion on the more questionable alleged interactions that took place will remain critical in the absence of sufficient proof or information.

👫- twcfaces? bc i like that our interactions revolve around two bagels.

Send a 👫 and I’ll write four headcanons I have about our muse’s relationship

When it's late at night and Harvey needs somewhere quiet (or a bite to eat), Pauli's Diner is the place to go. Not only is there food, coffee and a private booth whenever he wants it, he can also find impartial advice from the waitress who served him two bagels during his first visit. A box of dessert and the honest truth that Harvey had simply lost track of time recently went over well in smoothing any tensions back home with Gilda, making Harvey a repeat customer during those trials that run long into the night.

Khare didn't actually learn he was the Harvey Dent, Gotham's most celebrated Defense Attorney until his third or forth visit, always treating him just like she would any other customer. Other prestigious lawyers in his position might have been offended by such behaviour but having somebody treat him so... normally is as amusing as it is a relief.

I like to think it was Harvey that helped Khare realize she was being grossly taken advantage of by the landlord she was renting from? Not only is it highly illegal to spike rent so suddenly without advance warning, there's a dozen other rules and regulations he overhears being broken such as failure to uphold maintenance, unsanitary living conditions and many more, causing his lawyer senses to come to life.

When Harvey was disfigured by Vincent Maroni, Khare was genuinely upset to hear the news and sent flowers to his ward. They were a little sad and limp since it was all she could afford and as a result, she never signed the get well soon card that accompanied them. The only indication it came from her was because it was food-themed saying "You're one tough cookie!" Harvey never said a word to anyone but he had a hunch as to who sent them.