ok so imagine this. @hollewdz made a wonderful post about my adventures with superman where clark gets into kryptonite and it shrinks him. i have been rotating that post in my brain for the past 6 hours. me and my friend (@beepbopitsgt) have since been brainstorming!!! there are many types of canon kryptonite; pink, green, gold, black, the works. well i wanted to make a kryptonite that would amplify superman/kryptonians so much they would physically grow when in contact with it. i call it purple kryptonite because dr ivo's parasite suit (in the show) was purple and he grew when in contact with energy and it was. purple. thats crazy anyway here's clark in the middle of being in contact with the purple kryptonite and lois trying to calm him down

edit: sorry i know the arm is weird i was tired 😓😓i will fix when i get home from school i

edit 2: not fixing it ia m going to take a nap enjoy the wonky

this is probably like way too personal a question, but what sort of manipulative behaviours did you previously do that you stopped? im also bpd but when my friends threw me away they told me absolutely 0 of what i did so ive been like. afraid to do anything social situations terrify me now in case i might accidentally manipulate someone. since i dont know what i did ive been trying to learn by example from others (if this is too weird or personal please feel free to delete lol)

ok first i'm borderline with narcissistic traits so I don't have this issue (worrying about being manipulative) but it's not uncommon to have as a fear with bpd and the thing is manipulation in bpd is a defensive reaction - you aren't necessarily wanting to harm the person, but feel if you don't engage in certain manipulative behaviors, they will hurt or abandon you. this is different than someone manipulating with the intent of putting themselves 'above' the other and exploiting their insecurities for self benefit. so i'd say what to recognize is manipulation in bpd is erratic and extreme, not calculated, and also tied to fears associated with bpd like fear of abandonment. create some hypothetical situations in your head involving people close to you leaving or hurting you in some way and imagine how you'd honestly respond. the reason the hypothetical has to involve real harm and abandonment is because the manipulation is in response to what you perceive as oncoming harm or abandonment regardless of reality. one thing I used to do is start hurting myself in some way if I thought a person was going to leave me. I would do this to the point where the person would have to physically stop me, and now feel better knowing they're engaging with me at all again. also many times i've threatened to kill myself or another person in arguments. if i'm in an argument the anger level is never "normal". i'll usually eventually completely break down and start crying. now whenever I find myself about to become argumentative, I back off. other manipulative behaviors I have breach out of the bpd category so not really worth mentioning because they'd only be done by someone who knows what they're doing is manipulative and has decided it's the most self beneficial option (before anyone gets mad, some of these behaviors I also learned to recognize and prevent, funnily enough usually by putting MYSELF down).

Okay I'm trying to be chill about the fact my computers busted and I can't edit sooo here's my favorite horror films I watched in 2023!! So far, at least, I'll update if I find some more great ones in the next month. These are in no particular order.

Talk To Me (2023) LOVED IT. I was genuinely really really stressed while watching it. Honestly give me a character I like and put them through the ringer and I will be invested. I REALLY wanted Riley to make it. I know some people don't like the end but I did. It's a very existential and depressing ending but I thought it was fitting.

Sissy (2022) This is a super super underrated movie. Barely any discussion of it all online. I thought it was incredible; it perfectly nailed what it feels like to be in a social situation you know you don't belong in. I felt called out several times. Cecilia is a really fascinating character too, and I loved the social media aspect.

Creep 2 (2017) I couldn't believe how into this movie I was. It's basically just two really weird characters manipulating each other (with one being way way way more successful than the other) and it's so wild to watch. I liked the first Creep but the relationship here was so fascinating. I almost feel like this movie would have been better as a standalone bc we as the audience know that Aaron is a serial killer. It would be fascinating to be like Sara and not know for sure. Either way though, I loved it, I hope they make a third one.

Terrifier 2 (2022) Dude I LOVED this movie!! Controversial opinion maybe but I thought it was fantastic. Sienna is such an amazing character, Art the Clown was on his A game. I weirdly resonated with the family stuff (i got emotional at points) The special effects were great. I know it has a reputation. And it has earned that reputation. I have found no one I can comfortably show this movie to that I trust isn't going to be horribly traumatized. Which sucks bc when I saw this in theaters I got like. Sexually harassed. And I dont want it to happen when I see the third one. I wish I had a buddy I could take. But regardless every time I watch it I have a blast, and I really wanna make a video discussing this series soon bc I have so many thoughts!!

Halloween (1978) Yeah everyone was right this movie is awesome. I'm totally going to add it to my halloween watchlist every year.

Candyman (1993) Yeah again it's really really good, everyone was right lol. Really dragging my feet on the remake bc honestly this movie is basically perfect.

Cube (1997) I always thought I'd like Cube. And I did. It's really weird and psychological and cool. I watched it like 11 months ago so I don't feel like I have a lot to say right now, but I just remember how much I was invested while watching it and how much I gushed about it after I finished.

Deadstream (2022) Honestly this was most fun I had with a movie all year. I was dying laughing the entire time. I've watched it three times and I sent the opening scene to everyone I know. It's just a very funny and very spot on parody of YouTubers and I love it

Fresh (2022) I don't love the abrupt ending but the rest is basically perfect. The levels of performance during the dinner scene OH MY GOD. And it's a really fun and disturbing exploration of how terrible dating is and I appreciate that a lot.

Hereditary (2015) This movie hurt the entire time and I loved it. Toni Collette's performance is the best I have ever seen, I am actually furious she wasn't nominated. Her screams man, they are haunting. Also really realistic dream dialogue I pegged right away it was a dream bc that's exactly how people talk in my dreams. This is a movie with a lot of layers and something about it resonated with me, especially after the terrible terrible year I had.

Midsommar (2019) I vibed with this one hardcore. I think its just weirdly cathartic to see someone in a bad social situation get accepted while the person who put them in that situation gets rejected. Again because of the terrible year I had. But also its bad that that happens! Like its creepy how easy it is to be taken in by a cult. I also didn't feel the length at all I was very very invested the whole time. My friend Emily absolutely hates this movie though lol

Trick R Treat (2007): I didn't find it scary at all. But I vibed with it. It just FELT like Halloween, and some of the stories really really worked for me. Particularly the werewolf one and the one with the zombie kids.

VHS (2012): This is entirely because of the Amateur Night and 10/31/98 segments. I love those segments to death, I've watched them over and over. I still haven't watched Siren (the full length Amateur Night adaption) but I am so psyched they kept the same actress. She was an absolute star I'm planning on watching it entirely for her.

It Follows (2014) I know I can't keep saying I vibed with these movies but I did. I love the dreamlike quality, the ambiguity, the idea behind the monster is actually one of the most terrifying things I can imagine. Even if you get rid of it there's a chance it'll come back to you so you're never safe. Certain sequences were really really cool. Also one of the best jumpscares of all time in this. Like I don't even like jumpscares, they never get me, but this one did! Also I adore the opening sequence and how it's complete nonsense until you rewatch it and realize what's happening.

Infinity Pool (2023) I went in completely 100% blind. It was a wild ride that's for sure. I said "oh fuck me" full volume at one point if that tells you anything. Honestly I have nothing to say about the plot but the feelings this movie evoked in me were intense. Really good movie for someone who secretly hates themselves and is scared that everyone around them does too, I guess, because it captures that feeling perfectly.

Hey do u have any advice abt doing shots when ur afraid of needles? Ive been wanting to start T for a while now but one of the big mental hurdles ive got is that im terrified of needles and idk if I'd be able to do it on my own... it's bad enough that I procrastinate on making the drs appts I need to... most of my problem is i dont wanna SEE the needle go in, the idea of shots doesnt bug me unless I see it break the skin

I don’t specifically have a fear of needles, but I have lots of suggestions for you! Hopefully this can help anyone else who is curious, too. THIS WILL BE LONG BECAUSE I LIKE TO BE VERY DESCRIPTIVE, and honestly I wish I had a resource like this before I started taking T.

When you get your testosterone for the first shot they will definitely show and instruct you how to do it on your own. You should ask any questions or suggestions from your doctor first, cus they might have some valuable tips.

FIRST: if i have a day where I’m feeling particularly anxious, i ask someone I trust. I just answered an ask where I discuss this; i usually ask my stepdad or my friend. If you know someone else that takes T you can ask them too. You should do this only when your anxiety around it is particularly bad because you dont want to mentally associate taking shots with a lot of anxiety! You want it to be a neutral or positive routine experience- as easy as brushing your teeth!

Just know that the worst part is just getting it through your skin, and then its golden. If you’re using the proper size needle, it shouldnt hurt more than just a tiny pinch. That’s something I HAVE to tell myself every time i put the tip to my skin. Many people say to go fast and get it over with, but I’m much more comfortable taking it slow. Some places will hurt more than others so if you press and it hurts and scares you, shift the needle to a different area and try again. Sometimes i feel a pinch no matter what, and sometimes it slips right through! Ask your doctor about different shot-taking techniques, such as pinching your skin on the injection site to help it hurt less. My doctor recommends that I don’t do that because I have such little body mass, but your doctor may allow you to.

Now here are some things I like to do sometimes when taking my shot, before and during:

I chew gum. I get fidgety when i get a little nervous, so chewing gum while doing it helps me stay super steady when I need to.

Take a deep breath and stretch beforehand. Relax your body!

Watch/listen to something mildly entertaining. It takes the weight off the situation if I watch something that is interesting, fun or otherwise calming. Safiya Nygaard or Bernadette Banner on youtube is often my go-to shot taking channels. I start the video and line up my shot, look away as I press it in and feel the pinch, and I’ll check it a couple times as I push through and inject. DONT watch something that is too funny though because I almost poked my stomach once laughing my ass off LMAO.

Visualize how much happier and comfortable you will feel knowing the changes it will do to you. My girlfriend was really helpful in pumping me up for my shot, and would talk to me through it. Having a partner or a friend talk to you and encourage you, telling you how handsome or androgynous and happier you’ll feel taking it can help a lot. Sometimes I forced myself through it because I want broader shoulders and a sharper jawline, damn it!!!

Reward yourself. It’s nice to give yourself something small or do something special for yourself that you reserve ONLY for when you take your shots! Maybe a piece of your favorite candy, or you can treat yourself to something else. A little pinch is worth it for a mango Hi Chew, imo.

So how this would all probably go is gonna probably sound a little...boring? Idk. If it were to happen it'll probably be alot more dramatic and cute in the show than just typing it out. And this is realistic, if it did happen it could (and probably would, typical TV cliche things and all that) go exactly like this.

So what would probably happen is we don't see Peez get hurt, just maybe a few things blow up (perhaps caused either by Hope's messed up magic or some weird af monster) or just something happens wrecking the place and hurting quite a few people.

Everyone ducks and hides to try and avoid getting hurt. Then when it's over everyone starts coming out from their hiding spots and everything. (Just pretty much the usual in these situations.)

We then see Josie come out from hiding looking around and then she spots Penelope lying on the floor, we can't tell if she's alive cos she's on her side and has her back to the camera.

Josie runs over to Peez and rolls her onto her back then starts checking for a pulse or to see if she's breathing.

When she can't find anything she starts crying, so when Josie starts getting upset Lizzie comes over. She tries to hug Josie but Josie just pushes Lizzie away.

Josie starts looking around trying to think of anything that could help while Lizzie just watches unable to think of anything she can do to help.

Then Josie has an idea, she doesn't say anything but it's clear by the look on her face.

So she puts her hand on the floor and starts siphoning magic from the school, after a few seconds she then puts her other hand on Penelopes chest and starts whispering some spell we've never heard before.

The lights would probably start flickering and everything to make it seem alot more dramatic. Although actually that would probably be realistic, siphoning from the school would mess with the electrics an all that if theres alot of it in there.

1 of 2 things could happen and it doesn't really matter which, both could be good:-

1 - Josie stops the spell because it doesn't appear to be working and just as she gives up Peez comes back to life.

2 - Josie is in the middle of the spell and Lizzie looks like she's about to step in and stop it because Josie's nose is beginning to bleed (like with Bonnie when she tried to much magic) but then Peez comes to life.

Penelope sits up and looks around trying to comprehend what just happened, and by this point Josie is crying alot. Just now with happiness.

Before Peez can say anything Josie hugs her and nearly knocks her back down. So she keeps one hand on the floor to keep her balance and uses the other to hug Josie.

Peez notices Lizzie watching looking beyond shocked and mouths "What happened?". Lizzie, still stunned answers with, "You died..."

Just after Lizzie finishes saying that Josie backs away a little but rests her forehead against Penelope's and says something like "I thought I lost you."

Peez rests her hand against Josie's cheek and wipes away a few of her tears while trying to lighten the mood a little by saying "You really think I'd let death get the better of me?" in typical Penelope Park confidence.

Josie just smiles a little not really knowing what to say, she's just glad Peez is okay.

(And now we get into the still highly possible if this did happen, but a little less likely and more just what I'd want to see)

Peez doesn't say anything else, just gently kisses Josie's nose then changes position slightly so she can hug Josie properly.

Then it'll probably change to someone else. Maybe we'll still see Posie in the background depending on who it changes to.

Later we see Josie in Ric's office getting yelled at while Penelope stands back and is leaning against the door or something (probably still looking damn good despite just being brought back from the dead). Or possibly being checked over by Emma for anything dodgey.

Turns out Josie used some kind of dark magic she read about (that way this also gives us an point for us to start seeing some dark Josie) in books Ric had hidden away, but she got curious so found them and looked through them. That whole scene probably wont be anything much, just Josie getting yelled. And they don't find anything obviously wrong with Penelope, but most major spells have some sort of consequence.

After that (like last scene of the episode where we see these 3) Posie are asleep in Josie's bed. Or at least Josie is asleep, she's got her on Penelope's chest and Peez has both arms wrapped tightly round Josie.

Lizzie then comes in and pauses when she sees the 2 of them. Penelope opens her eyes and when she sees Lizzie standing there she carefully sits up but keeps her arms wrapped around Josie.

Lizzie - *kinda mean* (she obviously still wont like Peez much) "You know she was terrified she'd lost you earlier, I don't think I've ever seen her more scared."

Penelope - *stays quiet, expecting some sarcastic comment*

Lizzie - "I don't like you, but it's clear Josie still does. But I swear if you hurt her again, you will regret it."

Penelope - "I have no intention of hurting her, I never have..."

Lizzie - "Why do I feel like there's more to add to that sentence?"

Penelope - "She told me you read the note. Why?"

Lizzie - *trying to play innocent but major sarcasm* "I didn't know what it was when I picked it up, oops."

Penelope - *brushing hair out of Josie's face* "Well if you read the note then I'm sure you know what else I wanted to add to that sentence."

Then we get a shot of Lizzie looking shocked and Peez with a small smile on her face and boom scene ends.

Then in another episode we find out there was a part of the spell Josie didn't know. The part that mentions whoever is brought back to life will have their life linked to the person that brought them back. What physical pain one feels, the other feels. If one dies so does the other. And we dont find that out from Ric looking through the books, im thinking more along the lines of Josie gets a paper cut while her and Peez are studying together and Penelope feels it too. Like the thing between Katherine and Elena when Katherine wanted the moon stone. (I am getting that correct right? Honestly after 8 seasons of TVD everythings kinda blended and I don't remember what was when, I just remember bits and pieces.)

hi there! i dont tend to trust sdcc interviews but i figure i'd ask this so i could get your opinion! a big thing they were talking about was the aftermath of michael on dean.. if they do this right it could be SO good and SO interesting for his character.. so i was gonna ask what you think this means for his character? after he is done being possessed by michael?

Hi! I haven’t heard the spoilers, and to be honest my enthusiasm about the show is pretty much in free fall - under a cut and sort of bitter, okay?

So, the obvious parallels that come to mind are Dean coming back from Hell and Dean being freed from the Mark, and I think the time and energy the show spent of those aftermaths is very telling of what the narrative priorities are. 

If you look at the post-Hell period - was intense. I haven’t rewatched that season in a while, but I seem to remember they spent a lot of time on how broken and not himself Dean was? And the whole thing, of course, was revealed to be even more tragic than what fans expected when Dean decided to tell Sam about how he’d chosen to torture others. Ouch. That was some truly powerful stuff, especially because in the pre-Hell period Dean had mostly pretended to be carefree - scarfing down burgers for breakfast, having threesomes, and generally trying to convince himself (and others) that since he never had much of a lifespan anyway, this death made complete sense. All of that, of course, was masterfully contrasted with how Dean actually died - he never got the hero death I’m sure many were expecting, the beautiful and sexy death main characters and pretty people are mostly gifted (or burdened) with. Instead, it was terrifying, base, humiliating affair - Dean was literally torn apart by dogs as his baby brother watched (not to mention he regretted his righteous decision as soon as he landed in Hell, and found himself calling for Sam like a frightened child instead of suffering his fate in manly silence). Jesus Sycamore Christ. That was beyond sobering, as was the whole post-Hell period - and especially how Dean wasn’t, in the end, all that happy to be alive again. Again: ouch.

What happened in S11 was rather different. On the whole, I enjoyed that season a lot, but while there were some tense and emotional moments for Dean (like his conversation with God), I found it very odd - and somewhat disappointing - that nobody ever mentioned the Mark again. After all, it was implied (or stated outright? I honestly don’t remember) that the Mark didn’t exactly change Dean; its power was preying on people, and taking their worst instincts to horrifying extremes. For instance, Dean kept hunting, but where he would normally give people a second chance, or find a solution that didn’t involve a full-out massacre, MoC!Dean never cared about that at all. However necessary it was for Dean to choose this burden (and even that is debatable), it led very directly to the death of a bunch of innocent people - Charlie, of course, but also the NoHomo hunter, knockoff Draco Malfoy and Rowena’s godchild (you’d think she’d mention him again at some point, or that Sam and Cas would bring him up in a kind of ‘Hey, remember when we slaughtered an innocent teen on the off chance his beating and bloodied heart could cure Dean? Good times’, but nope). To make matters worse, those four deaths happened in the space of a couple of days? And I get that Dean had other things on his mind soon after he was cured, but I still found it bizarre that they never came up at all. I mean - sure, there were subtextual clues and all that - when are there not, amirite - but to me, it was too weak. Honestly, it looked like Dean (and Sam, and Cas) just didn’t give a damn about the trail of destruction they’d left behind. Because this is what’s never acknowledged in S11: that those deaths were on them. Whoever got killed when Dean had the Mark: on them. And, more directly and unequivocally, all those people Amara killed: on them. That’s some powerful stuff, and yet it’s never explored at all, because it’s not what the current showrunner is interested in.

All this to say: in theory, post-Michael!Dean should be huge. The fact Dean took the decision so quickly was already a narrative blunder, considering how he’d been in exactly the same situation (and worse) in earlier seasons but had decided to say no to Michael. I mean - Dean’s free will and how it clashes with his need to help others - that’s the core of the character, and yet it took one line of dialogue to erase it into nothingness. Now, heading into S14 it looks pretty likely that Dean will rid himself of Michael very early - we’re talking two or three episodes, max, and apparently that’s our fault or something (don’t even get me started), which means this Very Meaningful and Earth-Shattering thing is already losing importance in favour of - I don’t know.

(More KFC demons? Lucifer’s cousin Throckmorton? Bobby and Mary’s budding romance and how that is finally the thing that turns Mary into a Tupperware wife and removes her from the boys’ lives in a believable way? I guess we’ll see.)

Will it have an effect on Dean? Obviously I can’t say for sure, but I doubt it. 

Like, for one, Michael has no beef with Dean, and vice versa. These two characters are not connected in any emotional way. To Michael, Dean is just a random and contemptible human; to Dean, Michael is just another over-ambitious freak in need of a good beheading. As for archangel possession - that’s tricky. Some guys are left empty shells; Sam wasn’t, and Cas wasn’t (and Dean is another main character, so he can’t be hurt too badly). Sam suffered a lot, but that’s because Lucifer hated him and had a personal vendetta against him. As a comparison, when Lucifer possessed Cas, he basically gave Cas a nice TV and never bothered him again, and I think that’s a more accurate description of the connection between AU!Michael and Dean. Neither of them cares enough for this thing to escalate. So whatever happens between them (Michael dies; Michael is kicked back to the AU!world; Michael finds another suitable vessel; Michael is forced into an unsuitable vessel), I don’t think there’ll be a lot of focus on how that changes Dean.

On the plus side, there are solid narrative reasons for that lack of focus to make sense. For instance, Dean’s never been the emotionally stunted troll fanon keeps pretending he is, but over the last two seasons he’s really made an effort to make his feelings crystal clear, and he’s been berated and ignored every single time. So if I were him, I don’t think I’d be very eager to confide in Sam ‘What about MY feelings?’ Winchester, Mary ‘Ew, I don’t want to be your mom’ Winchester or Cas ‘You humans make everything so needlessly complicated’ Winchester (he’s a brother now, right? even if for some reason we’re seeing him less than Jack). No, Dean is likely to keep his feelings private - despite the fact this experience should, logically, be a turning point for him. We know Dean has big issues when it comes to giving up control, and possession is - inevitably - also a metaphor for rape, which is - canonically? - a part of Dean’s past (look at Alastair’s unnecessary queering, for God’s sake). So a post!Michael Dean - he could have less confidence in himself, especially if his decision ends up doing more harm than good for some reason, or he could develop PTSD and decide to retire because he’s got nothing left to give (narratively sound, but not a place the show can afford to go to) or he could become nihilistic and even more determined to get his blaze of glory ending, and sooner rather than later (after all, we know he gets suicidal when he feels he needs to atone, so).

From a RL perspective, I don’t know how much of that we’ll see. Considering how little they used post-MoC!Dean, I think maybe we can expect some new crisis which will keep the focus off Dean’s feelings and opinions. On the other hand, S13 was basically a ‘best of’ of the Kripke era, so it’s possible that S14 will revisit the post-Hell!Dean theme in some way. I don’t know. Lately, the show seems determined to prove our heroes are Good People Who’ve Done Nothing Wrong Ever, so from that perspective Dean saying yes to Michael should turned out to be a Big Mistake, because Dean saying no to Michael is basically half of what saved the world the first time around. Then again, I’m not seeing a lot of coherence on that front (I’m on team ‘Why was the AU!world even about Mary’, sorry about that), so, really - everything is anyone’s guess. At this point, the one thing we can predict about Supernatural is that if you’re interested in the characters’ inner lives and in them actually evolving in some healthy way, you’re better off with fanfiction.

I apologize. I know that was depressing and bitter. Here is a baby owl.

☆ ☛ ❣ ✉ for any oc of your choice! I'd love to hear more about them tbh

ahhhh thank you, storm!! im gonna talk abt an old Pathfinder oc, Trig, since i’ve been thinking about her a lot lately :’) she’s one of my babies, so i hope you like her!!

☆ : Would they ever wish upon a falling star? If so, what would they wish?

gosh its so silly, but!!! trig would probably wish for something for whatever community she’s currently a part of? like pre-campaign, she’d wish for something that would benefit her old travelling companions, or her birth town. during the campaign it’d be for her current party, and post-campaign it’d be hands down something for ha’iel, her life partner who is a bird. and her wish would be for something very practical, like gear or resources or money!

and thats entirely because of her culture. once young gnomes hit young adulthood, they have to start pursuing New Experiences TM, or they start bleaching and... fade away, because they’re the descendants of fae whose biology never quite adapted to the mortal realm. without enough new stimulus in their lives, they die! its part of the reason she’s always seemed to strange and childish to her non-gnome companions! so trig finds it... very very strange that people would wish for like, true love or magical powers or the like. those are experiences meant to be journeyed, not earned. better to wish for mundane things that help support the life you already have!

the exception to that is definitely ha’iel. after some Shit Has Gone Down in her life and trig has really settled in for the long-haul with ha’iel, she would absolutely wish for something really personal for him. and i want to say it would be something very sweet and touching and nostalgic, but honestly the chances are good trig would just wish for a baby harness for ha’iel so she can throw fireballs at people from the air.

☛ : What is their typical response to being given orders?

HATES IT. HATES IT HATES IT HATES IT. depending on the person and situation, trig might follow the orders, like if her or a loved ones’ life is in peril. or like if someone is threatening her collection of terrifying taxidermy animals. but trig is chaotic neutral and doesn’t appreciate being pushed around in the slightest. if her life or possessions aren’t in Immediate Danger and the orders don’t align with her instincts, she’s more likely to go directly against them than she is to follow. sometimes!!! just to spite people!!!

and like, even if trig does follow orders? it’s probably part of a lead up to something she thinks is fucking hilarious. your probably gonna get pranked HARD and it might involve fire. probably involves fire. there’s definitely fire related to the pranking somehow.

❣: Describe a way that will earn affection (whether platonic or romantic) from them.

platonic affection is very easy to earn from trig! to the point where pretty much anything will get you it-- but especially, and specifically, sharing of your cultures, hobbies, goals, etc. etc. learning about new people is the easiest way to experience new stimuli, and catering to that drive of hers or offering it without prompting is the fastest way to be her new Best Friend!! 

on the other hand, trig’s romantic affection is damn near impossible to earn. because of their constant drive for new stimuli, gnomes... don’t believe in monogamy, and believe in long lasting relationships even less. there are exceptions, of course! but trig isn’t one, not in the beginning at least. she never approaches a relationship expecting (or wanting) it to last more than a week or two, at most, and doesn’t... doesn’t always communicate that effectively. or at all. the fae blood runs thicker in her veins than most, and sometimes trig has trouble understanding that very few other races and people operate like gnomes do. she’s indirectly hurt a lot of people because of it.

so i guess, at that point, a good way to earn her romantic affection would just be to give her space! dont place too many restrictions or expectations on her, especially ones that could be even vaguely misconstrued as orders lmao. 

✉ : Do they tend to rely on words or actions more?

actions will always, always, ALWAYS mean more to trig than words. words are just talking-- actions mean something is being done, not just thought about. @a-silent-protagonist (who is ha’iel’s player) replied to one of these the other day and said one of ha’iel’s gestures of affection would be sweeping his partner under his wing. that means SO MUCH MORE to trig than any “i love you” ever would, because its a physical, tangible expression of his affection. especially since he’s not very trusting or easy to get close to, so allowing her under his wing and close to his body is very exposing and makes him vulnerable to her.

and the same holds true for trig! she’d much rather demonstrate her thoughts or emotions than talk about them. she'd rather kiss a potential partner out of the blue than spend days flirting and courting, charge into a conflict hands blazing than wait for the Perfect Opportunity or talk strategy. trig will put herself in harms way for the people she likes, and let her actions put those she doesnt like in danger.

i just remembered this and i feel like its the PERFECT example: somewhere in the campaign world, there is an island with a tribe of goblins. despite a bitter rivalry between goblins and gnomes, trig is the god of this tribe. not because she was super clever or super charismatic or anything, but because trig got real fucking tired of the part arguing with the tribe’s chieftain so she set him on fire. because???? shut up thats why???? fire fixes all of life’s problems OKAY