omfg the logistics of s.t.a.r.s. makes me sick. like there is absolutely no need for them to work for 24 hours 7 days a week for what they are. in my mind it would be that alpha have the day shift and bravo have the night one but even then like. it makes no sense. because they would be 12 hour shifts... every day... that's. no.

The familiarity is not very comforting (Patreon)

What a whimsical looking young man I wonder if he has received any job offers recently

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hey quick message to adults, if you're condescending when trying to teach teenagers about shit, then they aren't gonna listen to you no matter how important the shit you're saying is.

There is never an excuse to not use someone’s preferred name and pronouns. Unless they’re closeted around some people and ask you not to, there is literally no good reason to not just refer to them how they want to be. No one is being protected when you intentionally misgender a trans person, or when you insist on using a deadname— even if you “don’t agree” with the existence of trans people, or think that gender identity shouldn’t be treated the way it is in whatever way. You’re not standing up for yourself and you’re not standing up for others— you’re just being an asshole.

If your friend’s legal name was Katherine, and she told you “please don’t call me Katherine, I have negative associations with that name, call me Kathy instead,” then would you still insist on calling her Katherine because you don’t think it makes sense to use another name, even though you know it causes her significant emotional distress?

Intentionally deadnaming and misgendering someone because “it doesn’t make sense” or “you don’t agree” makes you just as much of an asshole as that. Changing the language you use to refer to someone hurts no one and helps them immensely. Intentionally misgendering someone just makes you look like an asshole and, quite frankly, stupid as well.

If you want to have an actual debate about the ethics of trans healthcare or whatever, the least you can do is actually respect your opponents. Fundamentally, respect for one another is key to proper debating. But no, you don’t want a debate, you just want to beat people down.

Pros of the day: currently eating a fudge bar, got some writing done, and I finally talked to my parents about a thing

Cons of the day: my bed is now a bunk bed and it’s making me unreasonably upset

sometimes i feel so bitter about how the usamerican trans community has essentially written off florida as unsaveable. like trans floridians really are just a model for what happens if The Bad Guys Win and theres no concern for the trans people living here. we dont get aid or support outside of ourselves. idk its just really disheartening

venting? idk lmao

me in queer circles: i hate the statement "everyone's a little bit bi". would you say that to a gay or lesbian person? probably not, that would be considered homophobic, but it's directed towards straight people in an act that delegitimises bisexual identity. how would you fit asexuality into that equation? to act as though bisexuality is the only allo identity is unrealistic and erases the biphobia we can experience-

me in christian circles: so you don't think you're even a little gay? like you've never thought about it? not once?

Does anyone (especially any of my followers/moots) know @awphooey2u / @pinkpearlapple?

thinking about changing my alias to puffin :/ idk I just think they're neat. new ADHD special interest I guess lmao and I guess I don't need to change my alias, but I get uncomfortable every once in awhile because I do go by selkie everywhere.

Sometimes the family you find is not the family you expected.

I've had several groups of friends throughout my life who have tried to be very close and cohesive and long-lasting. I had a group in high school who said we would go to each other's weddings, and now I don't even know their partners' names (if I know of them at all). I had a few groups in college that, while lovely, we all knew would be pulled apart by time and distance as soon as we graduated. So we talked about living in a van together as a delusional dream, knowing full well we couldn't even organize to meet up over the summer. A few more friends where we were just too similar, so if we were really all each other had, we would feed the frequency all the way into complete burnout.

All of these groups made sense from the outside. They were people like me, with very similar interests, within an age range of a few years, fitting at least two of the same demographics between any two people. We saw each other on a daily basis.

Now, in my young adulthood, the age where I most dreaded how hard it would be to make friends, I've stumbled into the kind of community I was actually wanting the whole time. And from an external perspective, it makes less sense. Queer and straight, religious and not (and different religions!), well-off and struggling financially, autistic, adhd, ptsd, somehow neurotypical, liberal and conservative. It's also, notably, the first group I've been part of with a relatively even gender ratio (including nonbinary and GNC). There's even an age range greater than 5 years.

And for the first time in my life, something is a safe space, not because it's been announced to be, but because everyone is treated as an individual with individual needs, which can be met before anyone worries about labeling or diagnosing them. I'm surrounded by people who work to understand each other as people, not as archetypes. I never even realized there was a difference before now.

I don't need to mask. I don't need permission to unmask. Love is given freely, not begged for, not hoarded, and certainly not earned.

I didn't fully believe it was possible. I certainly didn't believe I could stumble into it blind and find myself so welcomed.

I have been wearing my altered jeans at work for like two months without a single word from management - and, in point of fact, with numerous compliments from customers, coworkers, and supervisors - but apparently I’m not allowed to anymore? because I guess yesterday someone from corporate saw them and told my manager they weren’t acceptable for work? my trousers have to be a single solid colour (specifically black or dark blue). I need outta this place so bad lmao

hm.

// world news for ts

NO LISTEN BC I WAS THINKING THATS KIRI!!!

also the bit when the guy DRAGS her away giggling and shushing her while she makes muffled laughs THIS KILLS ME LMAO bc it’s does NAWT look good for him!!! To them it probably looks like he’s abducting her or something LOL but it always gave me mr riot™️ vibes 😌

I miss Kiri so badly so you don’t even know how hard I’m kissing you for sending this… SO TRUE!!!

And he’s so big and strong that it’s easy for him, too!!! Doesn’t even realize that a little spank and grab looks like MANHANDLING to others, even if he’s only pretending to be a bad guy and you’re giggling in his arms.

When the neighbors start creeping away every time he comes out to water the plants… this is why LOL. He waves and all they can think about is the fact that those big ass bear paws were all over your… derrière.