If you treat trans men* like we always have access not only to being seen and treated as men, but also treated like cis men, and thus, do not need to be included in any discussion whatsoever because we apparently already "have it all", you're frankly not going to treat trans men* well. So often, people assume that as a political group, trans men* have it better when, frankly, cishet patriarchy wants us just as dead as any other trans person. Treating trans men* who bring this up like we're "asking too much" and are just whining about problems you don't think matter as much is cruelty, and is, in fact, transphobic.