Nine of Eight
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Finally executed on a concept I had at the beginning of the year :D Our party’s lizardfolk cleric, Sikkuhl, is normally the one doing the resurrecting, but he was slain during the BBEG boss fight - so he had to be brought back by an NPC, who just barely cleared the DC of 8 with a roll of 9, represented by the vertical stars in the image. And Sikkuhl sacrificed his left eye during our adventures, so it’s all ~connected LOL I love doing these lithograph print-style drawings so I should really do more
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is it just me or have qprs become the nonbinary of relationship types: they originally described a much-needed in-between/outside-of type of experience, but now people have forced them into a strict box that sort of defeats the purpose of the descriptor in the first place
like, there are tons of posts out there bemoaning the creation of a gender trinary / reinventing the binary when it comes to how people treat nonbinary gender — and I'm not nonbinary, so i probably wouldn't be able to describe all the nuances with that as accurately as if i were, but it does feel very similar to how people often discuss qprs —
to me it seems that people have gotten in their heads the concept of a new kind of relationship, in addition to platonic, romantic and/or sexual. but instead of taking it as "some people find this to be useful to describe their relationship dynamic. some do not. all of these people may have very similar or very different relationships; what's important is how the people inside the relationship think of it, rather than how it looks to outsiders," people have added it to the list of relationships and treat it the same way they do the others, in an amatonormative way.
(and note — I've gotten that description of a qpr from reading aromantic stuff online. so it's not like an all-consuming type issue, I'm not parading myself as the sole voice of reason or anything, i just think the view I've seen expressed and paraphrased above should be a lot more common and accessible. bc in my experience it hasnt been, enough)
like, as an example of what I'm talking about: i often see an aro person expressing their difficulties with feeling alone/lonely because they can't or don't want to do romance, and that they wish friendships were taken more seriously — and then the person they're complaining to says something along the lines of "yeah, it really sucks that people prioritize romance so much. but also, have you thought about a qpr?" as if it's some sort of catch-all solution, or romance substitute for lonely aros.
and i know I'm by far not the first person to say this, but people seem to have just reshuffled the relationship hierarchy rather than throwing it out entirely. romance is still on the top, but since you probably don't do that if you're aro, you can have the next best thing, which is a qpr. and then after that is friendship (see: definitions of qprs which imply that friends can't get married, live together, have sex, etc). when really ofc the goal should be relationship anarchy, with none of those relationships being inherently more intimate or serious than any of the others
and i think that is people's goal; it's in human nature, i think, to like things to be in little orderly boxes, with nothing too complicated not to fit within a label and everything completely describable with a few pithy words. I'm guilty of that too, obviously (autistic brain like categorizing), but i think it's detrimental to our ability to actually make any progress dismantling the whole amatonormativity thing, if we just set up a new system that's slightly nicer to all the aros who want and can find a qpr.
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hi 🥺🥺 it's my birthday !!
if you'd like to help give a lil queer guy some more distractions from the hell world / have the opportunity to do so, please check out my stinky steam wishlist and my equally stinky xbox wishlist* 💕
* this wishlist doesn't automatically remove things when brought, so i'll try to post about / remove stuff as needed!
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I'm convinced England cricket fans must not watch any other sport bc fuck me, watching them lose but at least try to attack is a lot more fun than watching, say, Southgate's England pass it round the back for 90 minutes and scrape a 1-0 win over teams they should be easily beating
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