i guess we gotta have this talk AGAIN

the selfship community is using and appropriating aave to an astounding amount and as a black selfshipper, it makes the community feel unsafe for us to be around. here is a list of the words/phrases you should not be using and let your mutuals know they should also not be using because they are aave

simp

pookie

rizz

down bad

slay

finna

also yall barely interact w black selfshippers in general, get on that.

[NONBLACK PEOPLE DO NOT SPEAK AT ALL ON THIS POST. YALL ALWAYS GOT SOMETHING TO SAY KEEP IT TO YOURSELF IT ISNT YOUR TURN TO TALK.]

tbh. imagine the silly stubborn arguments you and your f/os get into. things like arguing about pineapple on pizza, the true shade of a color of a certain item, if you put the toilet paper roll on one way or another, arguments that get heated and loud but are all in good fun. maybe playfully roughhousing too. people not being able to tell if the argument is real for not but you guys are having the time of your life

[pro/com/darks.hip dni. nobody loves u]

is the community ever going to address the huge chasm in amount of interactions and attention between white (especially white female) selfshippers and selfshippers of color or......

bc like yes sure you arent obligated to interact with anyone but its kinda 😬 that the people the majority of you DO decide to interact tend to be the white ones.... like literally just look in the most popular selfship art posts of the last year. the majority of the art i see all features an f/o and some light-skinned, usually straight or wavy-haired person. when are we going to stop fucking around!!

SHOUTOUT TO SELFSHIPPERS WHO DONT HAVE HAIR YOU CAN RUN YOUR HANDS THROUGH!

🍪 selfshippers with [very] curly hair, your f/o always asks permission to touch it first, and when they do they love playing with your curls or helping you detangle your hair!

🍰 selfshippers with braids or dreadlocks, your f/o loves seeing the intricate styles you can do and loves twirling your braids/dreads in their fingers, quietly admiring them!

🍮 selfshippers with super short hair like buzzcuts, your f/o loves to feel it texture and sometimes when theyre tired theyll lean against you and rest their cheek on it because they think it feels so nice and comforting!

🍩 selfshippers with no hair, your f/o never even wants to consider you looking any differently unless you wanted to look so, theyre enamored by your looks and adore cupping your face in their hands so they can admire you even closer!

selfshippers of all hairtypes and styles, your f/o is taken aback by how you look every time, they can never seem to get enough of marveling over how stunning you are!

{pro/comship dni. begone scum.}

real shit im gonna start confiscating yalls brown and black f/os if i keep seeing you draw them with washed out skin tones or grayish skin.

literally. there. are plenty. of resources. online.

there is absolutely ZERO REASON i should be seeing skintones like this shit in yalls art. zero.

these are all screenshots taken from real selfship art. the left side is how the artist drew the character's skin. the right side is how the character actually looks. like. come on.

as much as we love to pretend that this community isn't racist or is getting better in that sense, art like this gets posted every day and nobody says anything. nobody sees their friend post whitewashed art and reaches out to them and says 'hey maybe you should make the skin a little dakrer'. nobody brings any attention to it. it ISNT HARD guys. just use your eyes. colorpick if you need to but be careful.

just. do anything. stop just letting this shit happen

BLACK SELF SHIPPERS OF ALL GENDERS (ESPECIALLY THOSE OF US W DARKER SKIN) YOUR F/O LOVES YOU AND YOUR BLACKNESS

no they would not prefer if you were lighter

no they would not prefer if your lips and nose were smaller

no they would not prefer if they could run their hands through your hair or your hair was straighter

no they would not prefer if your eyes were lighter

no they dont care if they cant visibly see your blush

if anyone made any comments mocking you or your culture or your looks your f/o would make DAMN SURE they regret it

and most importantly, your f/o wants you to be proud of your culture and heritage

{PRO/COMS.HIP DNI NOBODY LOVES YOU}

{nonblacks can reblog but i better not see any "im [race/not black] but" or other forms of derailment. if you want to say something, then just say something uplifting and kind about us black selfshippers.}

anyways bipoc selfshippers I LOVE YOU southwest asian selfshipppers I LOVE YOU southeast asian selfshippers I LOVE YOU south american selfshippers I LOVE YOU african selfshippers I LOVE YOU selfshippers who always feel their country and culture are overlooked I LOVE YOU

selfshippers whos hair isnt straight or wavy and cant be combed through i LOVE YOU selfshippers whos skin doesnt go red and cheeks dont flush visibly I LOVE YOU selfshippers whos eyes arent bright or gemlike or light I LOVE YOU selfshippers whos skin isnt light as snow or even remotely close I LOVE YOU selfshippers whos english isnt perfect or their first language I LOVE YOU

all you selfshippers who dont fit the eurocentric norm, i love you from the depths of my heart. especially those of us with darker skin who are made to feel lesser because of it. know that even if your content doesnt get as much reach as those with more eurocentric features and ships, it always makes the day of someone like me to see someone like us in the community

pro/coms.hip dni you arent welcome in this community and i dont love you in the slightest

psst. hey you. selfshipper. come closer

imagine your f/o actually asking permission to touch your hair and stopping anyone who tries to without asking. imagine them confronting people who make comments on how your hair is 'nappy' or 'wild.' them helping you moisturize your hair and deep condition it on wash day. them helping you pick out the parts of your hair that you can't reach or coming to you with cool hairstyles or extensions that they found online.

this applies to any f/o btw. familial, romantic, platonic, any at all. they all love you and want you to feel empowered and gorgeous in your body and with your hair.

[this post is not for pro/comsh.ippers. go away and get your own posts]

btw if you have a f/o or s/i who is famous at all imagine what the internet thinks about you guys' relationships

🌟 if your relationship is secret, do people make theory posts trying to prove theres actually something going on between you two?

💎 do people make fancams and edits of you and your f/o together? is there a lot of fanart?

✨ are there ship wars about who you or your f/o would end up with? or are you the sweetheart couple everyone roots for?

i just love thinking about it LOL the potential for gags and jokes is so good

SELFSHIPPERS WITH TYPE 4 HAIR!

✨ your f/o adores your hair and thinks its absolutely stunning. they always want to touch it but never do so without your permission

🧴 on wash day, theyll help you with cleaning your hair, gently scratching and massaging your scalp

🧺 and after your hair is all clean, theyll be sure to help you style it however you prefer, and they adore whichever style you prefer

🪮 if you brush out your hair, they ask if they can do it for you, making sure to go from ends to roots and reminding you all the while how much they love you

🎵 if you do a twistout or braid your hair in any way, they help you with it, maybe humming your favorite song under their breath while they focus on making it look as good as they can

🎀 if you wear a hair scarf or durag, they help you tie it tight but not too tight, turning you around to admire your look when theyre done

whether they do all of this perfectly or fumble a bit or pretend that its a hassle because theyre afraid to show they care all depends on what kind of person your f/o is, but i promise you they would always put in the effort to help you with your hair no matter how many steps there are or how long it may take or how inexperienced they may be. { this post was made with shippers of color in mind. white shippers you can reblog but DO IT SILENTLY. }

[ pro/coms.hip dni. ]

btw proshippers in the selfship community this one goes out to you!

💗 nobody loves you, least of all your f/os! they want nothing to do with you <3

🩵 you enable pedophilia and abuse, you should be disgusted in hiding behind "fiction versus reality"

💫 nobody wants you in this community and you dont bring anything to the table, its pathetic that you have to rely on stealing posts from us "antis" to have anything to pass around!

💌 stick to your community and we'll stick to ours! throwing a tantrum won't make us tolerate you any more than we already do, which is not at all <3

edit: footnote for anyone who might not read the whole post, i am NOT proship or proship neutral, pls dont block on impulse 😭

tired of red blush being the standard [especially cause my dark skin doesnt go red] so get a load of this

imagine your f/o doing the sweetest most romantic thing. whatever it is doesn't matter, its a special moment between just you and your love. afterwards, your f/o gently holds your face with a smile and comments on how cute it is that your cheeks are all warm, cheekily mentioning that you can't hide your flusteredness from them

or conversely, imagine you just did the most heartwarming thing for your f/o. whatever it was, it made their heart race and their stomach fill with butterflies, even if they don't want to let it show. and as you continue to give them your own special form of affection, you can practically feel the heat radiating from their face, silently feeling proud of just how flustered you can make them

edit: proship/comship dni. your f/o grabs you by the face and slams you into the ground, then calls the cops and watches as youre carted away for being a pedo enabler

edit 2: this post is for darkskin shippers of color first and people who ship with darkskin characters of color second. if ur lightskin and only ship w other lightskin/nonhuman characters dont tag this w ur ship &lt;3

no bc yall white people in the community have this fucking annoying mindset of the idea that its a person of colors RESPONSIBILITY to point out when you do dumb and racist shit and really? its not. more often than not we feel too uncomfortable or unsafe around you or the community as a whole to even feel okay speaking out about it, and half of the time when we DO speak out about shit like this you start harassment and smear campaigns against us. it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to educate yourself and watch your step. if you do some weirdo shit and lose your poc friends because of it that is nobody elses fault but your own. not your poc friend for not telling you. we do not exist to teach you and hold your hand and to put our own feelings aside to help YOU on your 'how to not be racist or antiblack' journey.

YOU should be ACTIVELY SEARCHING FOR RESOURCES on this shit, not expecting to be allowed to make as many blunders as you need and always be forgiven. because every day i see yall on some freak shit but i cant say shit about it because when i address yalls widescale shit i get white tears and harrassment in return.

like. we are not your antiracist encyclopedias. put in some of your own fucking work and stop harassing us out of the community

tbh shoutout to people whos f/os have low empathy, to the people whos f/o relationships dont fit any of the imagines because your f/o isnt lovey dovey or doesn't have empathy, the f/os who dont understand how you feel but try to make things better anyways, the f/o relationships driven by mutual benefit rather than mutual love, the f/os who lash out or who split, the f/os dont dont have a soft side. shoutout to them tbh

[pro/coms.hip + neutral dni. your f/o thinks you are deplorable and disgusting and likes me better <3]

btw imagine ur f/o singing in one of those private karaoke rooms w you. theyre singing this loud and powerful song, belting it at the top of their lungs, whether theyre good at singing or not theyre giving it their all. maybe they get so into the music that they forget youre even there, losing themself entirely in the performance.

ok now imagine them all sweaty and breathless from singing and dancing around, the way their throat moves as their eyes are shut and head tilted upward, belting out that long note. think about how disheveled they are by the end of the performance, out of breath with their hair and shirt all unkempt. thats all

[ pro/coms.hip dni. choke ]

[ also this is a sfw post pls dont get nasty in the notes ]

HAPPY WINTER, SELFSHIPPERS!

❄️ your smile makes your f/o feel warm in even the coldest temperatures and there's nobody else they'd rather end their year with

⛄ they just want to sit outside with you and enjoy the weather and your company for as long as possible. and when the tip of your nose starts to get cold from the temperature they'll lean in close and nuzzle it away

🍪 your f/o would propose you both learning to bake some lovely holiday treat recipes they found online or at the library, making a bit of a kitchen mess in your enthusiasm together, but loving it nonetheless

☕ you and your f/o could sit by the fireplace and cuddle under blankets, maybe wearing matching pajamas too. and no matter your skin tone, your f/o loves the way the fire casts its light upon your face

[pro/coms.hip this is not for you. i hope you go out and freeze hoe]