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glitterock · 2 years

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bro i cried so hard earlier re-coming out to my parents and now i have a SPLITTING headache and i hate it here

#every time me being some kind of gay is MENTIONED it’s some huge deal that ends in crying and it’s so exhausting #like my dad is great and he knew even before me that i was a lesbian so it was no shock to him #but my mom just doesn’t understand #she literally doesn’t belive me she’s like ‘i have my theories about why you push away men’#and ‘it’s ok to not have things figured out and not be sure’ like girl im sure #whatever im going to the gay club tn and that will cure me

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marbleheavy · 1 year

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hmm question for all socialized as a teenage girl, did y’all hate your moms?

#it’s just such a prevalent choice in media that it’s normalized into society but it doesn’t feel normal #it feels very white nuclear family #like obv w/ puberty there are strained relationships with everyone close to you #but i don’t think that should be classified as “hating your mom”#i didn’t hate my mom and would never feel comfortable saying that bc i know people that genuinely do hate their moms and for good reason so #i wouldn’t ever say that about my mom trying even when she failed #idk many thoughts and i’m not being clear and also very open to changing thoughts and understandings i just want other experiences #cw mommy issues #mommy issues #cw mothers #is that a cw #idk just wanna be careful #marble woes

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toxictranny · 1 month

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hey sisters, i know u (my fans) were wondering what i’m gonna wear to my ex stepdad’s wedding because i’m best man and there’s gonna be 200 ppl there who haven’t seen me since i was single digits so it’s a rly big event BUT i’ve got no clue what the fit will be because the dress code he gave me: wear whatever you want. GDNKE.???ATFJJF...!!! ARE YOU OH-FUCKING-KAY???? WHATZVER I WANT ??????THEY WONT EVEN GIVE ME A COLOUR SCHEME WHAT THE FLCUKC ALso no i can’t wear a wedding dress it was the first thing i thought of but i asked my mom and she said that would b mean :/

#his estranged brother’s gonna be part of the wedding party so i’m ?! not sure how this will go.#they’re estranged because his brother has some sort of religious belief that lead to him hating me/my mom for having a kid with another guy #stepdad met me when i was nearly 3 and his brother met me+my mom 4 years after that #the brother’s thing was that my mom/me are devilish or whatever #he also said shit about us stealinh my stepdad’s money but my mom was the breadwinner #tbh i don’t really understand this stance but it’s very common. he just Doesn’t Like Me. we’re not #biologically related and that’s literally the only reason #he thinks it’s disrespectful for a woman to divorce her husband first of all but second to let another man raise her kid #yawn. gross asf. BJT LIKE HOW DO THEY FEEL ABOUT ME BEING LIKE THIS?!#everyone knew i had a Condition ™️ but i didn’t uh #do anything? lol #i was seen and treated as A Little Weird. not like a third gender #we could all tell i was going with the sex and pronouns assigned to me simply because that’s what i had #so i THINK i’m gonna be valid but rly truly if someone tries to explain why there are only two genders to me i’m going toLOSE ITTTTTT #ooh i can wear a wedding dress to the rehearsal dinner lol #my stepmom got me a neon green suit jacket .? so #maybe that’ll come out #toxictranny

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mars-ipan · 5 months

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GODDD.

#marzivents #to preface. i am SLIGHTLY buzzed. as in i have had a single mimosa almost an hour ago #today there has been a… weird??? energy with the family??#my mom and dad are on two different frequencies today but like they’re managing so whatever #my brother and i have been normal i suppose #but we’ve been all together for a little bit to celebrate the new uear and such #clock hits 12. we celebrate. everybody has One mimosa. not a lot at all #that buzz hits me and i’m hanging out. i’m feeling good!#my brother says something or other and we start the motions of one of our go-to sibling disagreements you know the type #and my mother cuts me off says like ‘let’s all relax’ or whatever. i didn’t feel that angry but like?? sure? fine whatever #we stop and i move on. once again not a huge deal to me #then my dad does smth or other. my mom’s been razzing him all day so i decide alright i will also razz him. a little lighthearted teasing #it is NOTHING different from what i normally do. just slightly more frequent #and my dad goes ‘i can’t have an opinion on anything huh?’ and i- committed to the bit- go ‘no <3’ with a smile on my face #like i am simply wanting to fuck around!! the way you do with friends! that is all i am doing!#i get in some other thing with my brother for like .2 seconds before my mom tells us to ‘stop fighting’ again. alright cool #this sort of thing continues. and the air in the room becomes super tense for some goddamn reason???#eventually my dad heads to the garage and my brother follows. while they’re gone my mom tells me i need to cool it and i’m being aggressive #i???? huh???? what???#i was gonna turn to HER and crack a joke like ‘how do you get them to understand that loud doesn’t mean angry?’#because that’s an issue SHE has all the damn time! i was gonna turn to her and bond! but she says that before i can even start to #so my attempt to ease the remaining tension in the room is dead on arrival. in fact the room is even TENSER #maybe it was the champagne or smth but it just fucking got to me. i shut up and turn away and start trying to collect myself #i’m realizing two things. 1- my emotions are less in my control right now and i cannot collect myself here. 2- I Need To Fucking Scream #so i silently pack up and head to my room. my mom knows better and asks no questions #as i was typing this post my brother walks in. i shoo him out without words but he tries to ask questions so i just repeat until he gets it #i feel fucking insane. what the fuck did i DO???? i literally was just fucking razzing. i do that all the time #and sure. i was louder. and yeah it was probably slightly more razzing than i normally would. but i DO NOT FUCKING GET how those two things #would cause as MUCH of a reaction as they did!!! like. i . hello???#the rest is in the replies bc i am out of tags but i am not out of feelings

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dandelion-de-deus · 6 days

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what does your mom do

Mostly clean the house and run bulldozers for fun (she’s the stay-at-home parent) but she has a degree in nutrition and food science which means I have a very maladjusted concept of what is common knowledge about food

#she loves to go on about lipids #people think it’s really cool that my mom’s a nutritionist but it doesn’t mean my diet is any healthier it just means I have #a clinging paranoia of cross-contamination every time I cook with raw meat #and every time I eat bacon I think of the way it’s a carcinogen #the latter of which (I am growing to understand) is not fully common knowledge

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the-casbah-way · 1 year

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i wish every parent who posts videos of their autistic child’s meltdowns a very die

#Autism Moms are my least favourite group of humans on this earth #no one should have their meltdowns posted online for views especially not a child ESPECIALLY not by their own parent #you are all scum and you should die #posting ur kid online in general is not normal or a good idea #and ppl who have entire accounts for their autistic child are fucking weird as hell #i don’t care if it’s all wholesome videos or whatever ur child isn’t an educational tool #that is a child who doesn’t understand and can’t consent to what ur doing leave them alone and let them be a child #they didn’t ask to be subjected to millions of strangers opinions and comments and attention #they don’t need to be treated like a cute dog or a challenge that their poor heroic brave parent has to put up with every day #just fucking leave kids alone omg

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seaglassdinosaur · 5 months

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The way Percy talks about himself in the show though, having ADHD and dyslexia, saying he knows that something is wrong with his brain, it’s heartbreaking.

Because stepping aside from the magic and monsters, this is a kid who’s internalized the ableist messages and bullying that’s been directed at him. He believes that having ADHD and dyslexia means that something is broken in his head. Not that his experience is natural, another one of the many different ways that people go through the world, but that his difficulties mean his brain is broken, and by extension, he is innately wrong.

It’s this out loud recognition of the struggling quiet part of someone with a learning disability, who can’t figure out what is going on with themself. They don’t know why they are the way they are, they don’t know how to manage it, and they certainly haven’t accepted it as a part of them, trying to fit into the expectations of a neurotypical society. All they know is that according to everyone else, they’re ‘wrong’. So they must just be ‘wrong’.

#everyone thank sally jackson because she comes in w an alternate understanding #a change in Percy’s narrative which has been shaped by the ableist society #she tells him ‘there’s nothing wrong with you you are great the way you are you are exactly the way you’re meant to be’#‘even if it doesn’t make sense to you you are the way you’re meant to be.’#and she gets him somewhere where there are tons of people just like Percy. changing the narrative and outlook his has #at camp percy is able to step away from the NT society and how they view his ADHD/dyslexia #as a fault and error #and he’s able to see ‘oh this actually is just a normal variation of the human experience’#anyway I just want to continue to shout out sally jackson as a great mom for never being upset w Percy for his struggles #but always supporting him through them #comforting him as he needed and being a great parent #Sally ily #pjo #pjo tv show #pjo tv series #pjo tv adaptation #my post #(I also say all this as someone w adhd #who now loves the way I am. but also. still gets frustrated when I can’t work the way I want to #Percy internalizing the message that something is wrong. that he’s dumb or bad. it hurts Me.#and I want nothing but the best for him.)

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itspileofgoodthings · 9 months

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me to Nina yesterday: explaining how due to a headache and exhaustion I wasted away the end of my afternoon just watching Ryan Gosling interviews

Nina, instantly sympathetic: and I completely understand that, a valid thing to do

#the thing about Nina is that most of the time she not only hates my coping mechanisms she also plain doesn’t understand them #one of the many tensions of our relationship #but she was just 100% like yeah. I fully get it #and it made me feel so much better #my relationship with Nina the work of a lifetime because the moments of mutual understanding are so rare #but so powerful when they happen. and it takes years to discover that sudden gold #(my mom is often so troubled by our relationship. she’s just like (whisper voice): do you guys even like each other)#because we’re just SO sparks fly (antagonistic version) in many of our interactions #and it’s just like. YEAH. We’re just going to have an intense altercation and clashing of opinions viewpoints values and perspectives #at least every other day. LOL #but we will navigate it!#no one on the planet I smooth things over with as fast as Nina. it is lightning-speed reconciliation #because we both move on so quickly in the same way. in that the mood will just lift #we got in a fight the other day. Nina left and stormed out. 10 minutes later I get a text going #‘I’m sorry Maria. I should not have said that about your mother’#which made me laugh because we weren’t fighting about our mom. She just likes to quote Jacqueline from ever after sometimes out of context #and my mom was on the couch watching me like ‘you’re reconciled???? It’s over?????????’#because my mom a) is so different from both of us in the speed she processes in and b) has no sisters #0 sisters. 4 daughters. and she still isn’t used to it lol. because my mom’s strength and weakness is that she never gets used to anything!#ALSO Nina told me the other day that I’m the one that taught her to apologize because I would just make her do it when we were kids #not to me but to other people! I would just sit there and explain how verbal acknowledgement of wrongdoing would make things better #and she was always like ‘ughhh I hate it so much. FINE’ because she always does want to make things better #anyway this SHOOK ME TO MY CORE. Because I never thought Nina actually internalized any of the things I’ve said to her ever lol #and she was like ‘yeah you gave me that good habit’#(I love apologizing. Love to put it into words and I have an intense need to do it immediately and thoroughly)#(tbh it’s only with time that I’ve come to see that other people do not work that way. and need more time. and are not just —#instantly comfortable putting everything into words especially the hard things)#(because it’s not like I’m always driven by more charity and compunction. I just ducking HATE unresolved things not put into words)#(so it helps me feel better. and sometimes you just gotta learn to not say it right away if it’s only going to make things worse #(or learn to say it in different way without words. that actually communicates the sorrow. And that can sometimes look like giving space!)

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mimbotomy · 7 months

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I'm sorry to hear that planning has been stressful, but best wishes this Saturday!!! I'm so excited for you and your wedding and your marriage and wish you every happiness 💕.

Thank you! I am very excited too! Mostly because I get to marry the love of my life 🩷🩷🩷 but also because there are only four days left and judging from my track record this last month that means I will probably have to deal with🤞🏼only🤞🏼four more things going wrong! 🎉 And then I’ll be married to my favorite person and the stress will probably be gone! ✨

(Please send good vibes my way it’s been a very weird hectic month 😂)